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xxxGothBarbie
01-20-2019, 11:52 PM
I bid max around $3 each time I log on to take calls & generally I make back double sometimes triple my bid amount spent just starting out.
Betty Baphomet
01-26-2019, 08:43 AM
Hey guys, so i just started out on TTM and i wanted to ask, how do you guys keep track of your records? Such as how many hours you worked, how many calls you had, etc. (gosh i hope i made sense) I just created a google spreadsheet to keep track of this information. I can give a screenshot for you guys to get a look see. My main concern was if there was any easier method to keep track of this rather then looking at the transaction history?
Sweet_Sadie
02-04-2019, 04:39 PM
I got caught double-fisting...on the phones, that is!
I had my landline set up for one service, and I had the cell set up for the other service. I'd NEVER tried this before, but I thought to myself, today is gonna be slow on both. I can handle it, right?
WRONG! The worst happened. I was on the landline with a caller, when I get the notification on my cell phone for the other service (NF). Oh no!!! So at one point, I'm trying to talk to both guys, losing my place in the story with the first guy, trying to put him on mute while taking care of the other guy, who seemed to be worried about getting caught.
DOHHH!!!! Have you ever tried to double fist it on the phones, and you got caught? Yes, I know I could have turned myself off on one service while on the other, but I FORGOT TO DO IT!
queenelayliah
02-04-2019, 07:00 PM
I got caught double-fisting...on the phones, that is!
I had my landline set up for one service, and I had the cell set up for the other service. I'd NEVER tried this before, but I thought to myself, today is gonna be slow on both. I can handle it, right?
WRONG! The worst happened. I was on the landline with a caller, when I get the notification on my cell phone for the other service (NF). Oh no!!! So at one point, I'm trying to talk to both guys, losing my place in the story with the first guy, trying to put him on mute while taking care of the other guy, who seemed to be worried about getting caught.
DOHHH!!!! Have you ever tried to double fist it on the phones, and you got caught? Yes, I know I could have turned myself off on one service while on the other, but I FORGOT TO DO IT!
I have!!! But i never got caught. It only happened to me twice and i was logged onto 3 services at the time. With just one cell phone lol. Atleast you had two phones. So i was on a call was a super drunk guy on ttm and then nf called and i just switched over and started talking to him and i would go back and forth like that and none was the wiser. The second time this happened the guy was drunk also.
I felt so amazing after i finished the calls. Lol.
Sweet_Sadie
02-04-2019, 08:44 PM
I have!!! But i never got caught. It only happened to me twice and i was logged onto 3 services at the time. With just one cell phone lol. Atleast you had two phones. So i was on a call was a super drunk guy on ttm and then nf called and i just switched over and started talking to him and i would go back and forth like that and none was the wiser. The second time this happened the guy was drunk also.
I felt so amazing after i finished the calls. Lol.
Ha! That's a funny story.
Betty Baphomet
02-09-2019, 07:33 AM
Hey, so since i recently lost my job at TTM, are there any good alternatives that i can sign up for? Ive been a little bit iffy about nitefirt because of their prohibited content policy (not allowing taboo) and i feel like that would cut off a lot of my audience. Ive also hit up USlove but i havent heard much from them lately.
Betty Baphomet
02-09-2019, 01:34 PM
Hey, so since i recently lost my job at TTM, are there any good alternatives that i can sign up for? Ive been a little bit iffy about nitefirt because of their prohibited content policy (not allowing taboo) and i feel like that would cut off a lot of my audience. Ive also hit up USlove but i havent heard much from them lately.
Welp, it's official, i've been laid off from TTM. Sucks since i was just getting the hang of it. Oh well. Anyway, anyone have any suggestions for alternatives? I prefer a dispatcher company rather then trolling. Don't have much of an online following anyway.
whirlerz
02-09-2019, 01:55 PM
Welp, it's official, i've been laid off from TTM. Sucks since i was just getting the hang of it. Oh well. Anyway, anyone have any suggestions for alternatives? I prefer a dispatcher company rather then trolling. Don't have much of an online following anyway.
Betty, did you try searching here hon?
I know we have had quite a few phone threads, some may be old tho.
How about nite flirt, there's a thread in camm conn maybe some other phone threads too.
Betty Baphomet
02-09-2019, 02:10 PM
Betty, did you try searching here hon?
I know we have had quite a few phone threads, some may be old tho.
How about nite flirt, there's a thread in camm conn maybe some other phone threads too.
I did look around a bit but quite a few people here use abbreviations instead of typing out full names so i have no idea what they're talking about :dunce: Ive looked around on adult staffing and sexy jobs but cant really find one that fits me. Because im so young i need to balance both work and my general life, so im looking for a job that can allow flexible hours. That and ones that allow cellphones, cant afford a land line ATM. Ive seen Arousr, Midnitesecrets, PaidByTheMinute and EroticExchange and they all seem decent. The latter of the two however seem a little suspicious so i'll be researching about them more. Niteflirt is more of a last resort sort of thing since like i mentioned, im looking for a dispatcher. It would be cool if there were a master list of active and reputable phone sex operator companies so people can refer to them instead of combing through the forums.
Betty Baphomet
02-09-2019, 03:21 PM
I did look around a bit but quite a few people here use abbreviations instead of typing out full names so i have no idea what they're talking about :dunce: Ive looked around on adult staffing and sexy jobs but cant really find one that fits me. Because im so young i need to balance both work and my general life, so im looking for a job that can allow flexible hours. That and ones that allow cellphones, cant afford a land line ATM. Ive seen Arousr, Midnitesecrets, PaidByTheMinute and EroticExchange and they all seem decent. The latter of the two however seem a little suspicious so i'll be researching about them more. Niteflirt is more of a last resort sort of thing since like i mentioned, im looking for a dispatcher. It would be cool if there were a master list of active and reputable phone sex operator companies so people can refer to them instead of combing through the forums.
Never mind actually! TTM emailed me saying that them laying me off was an error. I have my job back! Still i want to make that master list so newbies can refer to it. I feel like having an up to date list can make the search much easier for people who dont know where to look. Could anyone else get behind that idea?
whirlerz
02-09-2019, 04:31 PM
Glad you got the job back!
Jendependent
02-10-2019, 12:35 PM
Never mind actually! TTM emailed me saying that them laying me off was an error. I have my job back! Still i want to make that master list so newbies can refer to it. I feel like having an up to date list can make the search much easier for people who dont know where to look. Could anyone else get behind that idea?
When you say you lost your job at TTM are you referring to talktome dot com? You're not employed by them. I don't understand how you would have 'lost a job' or been 'laid off' there. Is there another TTM I don't know about?
Betty Baphomet
02-11-2019, 12:43 PM
When you say you lost your job at TTM are you referring to talktome dot com? You're not employed by them. I don't understand how you would have 'lost a job' or been 'laid off' there. Is there another TTM I don't know about?
When saying that i meant my job as a talker, not an actual employee on their team.
Jendependent
02-11-2019, 12:52 PM
When saying that i meant my job as a talker, not an actual employee on their team.
That's what I'm saying. They can't lay you off. Unless you broke a major rule (of which they have very few) and they suspended you. We're not employees so they can't lay us off.
Betty Baphomet
02-11-2019, 02:53 PM
That's what I'm saying. They can't lay you off. Unless you broke a major rule (of which they have very few) and they suspended you. We're not employees so they can't lay us off.
Dunno why you're correcting me on my language even though the point im trying to get across is clear but alright go off i guess.
Nikki_Fox
02-18-2019, 08:39 AM
Dunno why you're correcting me on my language even though the point im trying to get across is clear but alright go off i guess.
I was curious regarding this also - I dont think the other person was trying to "correct" your language. TTM is just a "platform " to advertise our talker services they are not our employer we are independent contractors
PSOcodemonkey
02-18-2019, 10:33 AM
...they are not our employer we are independent contractors
Well, while it might be debatable whether or not we are actually contractors (they issue a 1099-MISC which is usually used for contractors, not a 1099-K used for payment services ), TTM does not view us as contractors or employees.
https://www.talktome.com/news/am-i-an-employee-of-talktome-com/
"TalkToMe acts only as an interface to facilitate communications initiated between Talkers and Callers. As a Talker, you are not an employee, agent, or contractor of TalkToMe, and you shall not represent that you are any of the foregoing. You are solely responsible for all equipment necessary to access and use the site and Talker Services, and for reporting and payment of all taxes associated with fees transferred to you by TalkToMe."
Nikki_Fox
02-18-2019, 11:24 AM
I suppose my point was more to the fact that we are not employees to be laid off - and since they are using a contractor 1099 to report our earnings............ Interesting that they went to great lengths to say what we are not but never said what we are?? But I did not dig into the TOS/Contract to find the answer - I guess we are Facilitators ;D
I saw a post in the TTM thread from the OP - the OP was deactivated for not answering calls not laid off per se
Betty Baphomet
02-18-2019, 11:35 AM
I suppose my point was more to the fact that we are not employees to be laid off - and since they are using a contractor 1099 to report our earnings............ Interesting that they went to great lengths to say what we are not but never said what we are?? But I did not dig into the TOS/Contract to find the answer - I guess we are Facilitators ;D
I saw a post in the TTM thread from the OP - the OP was deactivated for not answering calls not laid off per se
After coming back to this i saw i had sort of an attitude with that dude, so imma say sorry. But were facilitators? Thats an interesting way to put it.
Nikki_Fox
02-18-2019, 12:05 PM
IKR:rotfl:
Hope you got the issue resolved with TTM - the system has been glitchy so maybe they will reactivate you - my suggestion is to always report any issue so you have that to fall back on - good luck
Betty Baphomet
02-18-2019, 12:09 PM
IKR:rotfl:
Hope you got the issue resolved with TTM - the system has been glitchy so maybe they will reactivate you - my suggestion is to always report any issue so you have that to fall back on - good luck
They finally did thankfully. However being reactivated is the least of my troubles. They really need to fix all the bugs on their servers and bots, if it keeps going on like this i feel like TTM could loose some of their user base.
Betty Baphomet
02-19-2019, 11:03 AM
I, personally, would like to see a list of phone sex companies, like the updated list of cam co. :)
I think i might just go ahead and do it. Though i'll need help scraping up all the information. If people could PM me info they know about companies in this format:
-Name
-Website
-Contact Info
-Trolling or Dispatch?
-Landline Only?
-Taboo or Vanilla?
-Extra Notes
I could gather some up and make a thread! I could also archive it on google docs if needed.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
02-19-2019, 03:33 PM
I, personally, would like to see a list of phone sex companies, like the updated list of cam co. :)
I think i might just go ahead and do it. Though i'll need help scraping up all the information. If people could PM me info they know about companies in this format:
-Name
-Website
-Contact Info
-Trolling or Dispatch?
-Landline Only?
-Taboo or Vanilla?
-Extra Notes
I could gather some up and make a thread! I could also archive it on google docs if needed.
The reason why people aren't coming forward with all the details is because there aren't that many phone sex companies left. And the ones that are still around where pso's make money aren't going to be shared on a public forum. I no longer work for any of the companies, but I can understand why people don't talk about them. This is where camland and phonesex differ. Camsites are everywhere and abundant. Phone companies are slim pickens. Keep using sexjobs and then do a cross reference with stripperweb. Also Google is a great way to search this site. Type in "Stripperweb + company name". That should give you more results.
Betty Baphomet
02-19-2019, 03:42 PM
The reason why people aren't coming forward with all the details is because there aren't that many phone sex companies left. And the ones that are still around where pso's make money aren't going to be shared on a public forum. I no longer work for any of the companies, but I can understand why people don't talk about them. This is where camland and phonesex differ. Camsites are everywhere and abundant. Phone companies are slim pickens. Keep using sexjobs and then do a cross reference with stripperweb. Also Google is a great way to search this site. Type in "Stripperweb + company name". That should give you more results.
Well damn, and i thought i was doing something. Oh well, it was a nicr thought.
DonaDiabla
02-19-2019, 07:53 PM
I have to agree with this notion as well. Also I would like to add that an master list of phone sex companies would changed over time because a lot of dispatch companies close down, get sold, or just not worth it. That's why I was saying that it would be best that after working dispatch that psos should become more independent. So, I really work only indie phone sex right now with the exception being USLove. That's why I recommended USLove a lot because they have been pretty helpful in my career. However, I really enjoy working mostly platforms and having my own toll-free lines right now. :)
The reason why people aren't coming forward with all the details is because there aren't that many phone sex companies left. And the ones that are still around where pso's make money aren't going to be shared on a public forum. I no longer work for any of the companies, but I can understand why people don't talk about them. This is where camland and phonesex differ. Camsites are everywhere and abundant. Phone companies are slim pickens. Keep using sexjobs and then do a cross reference with stripperweb. Also Google is a great way to search this site. Type in "Stripperweb + company name". That should give you more results.
whirlerz
02-20-2019, 11:17 AM
The reason why people aren't coming forward with all the details is because there aren't that many phone sex companies left. And the ones that are still around where pso's make money aren't going to be shared on a public forum. I no longer work for any of the companies, but I can understand why people don't talk about them. This is where camland and phonesex differ. Camsites are everywhere and abundant. Phone companies are slim pickens. Keep using sexjobs and then do a cross reference with stripperweb. Also Google is a great way to search this site. Type in "Stripperweb + company name". That should give you more results.
Yes, excellent point, you're right.
I shoulda thought it thru better.
I removed my post, & thank you very much.
slowpoke
02-20-2019, 12:39 PM
Slim Pickens. We haven't heard about him in a while.
https://www.thefamouspeople.com/profiles/images/og-slim-pickens-35048.jpg
Betty Baphomet
02-20-2019, 01:42 PM
So ive been having a bit of a problem. Hopefully someone else here could help me. These past two days, ive been having issues with my sound quality. I use a voip, Text Now to be exact. I know that's sort of a no go when it comes to pso work but my voice quality on text now has been excellent. Until now that is. The *sound* quality is crystal clear, if you could hear me you would be able to perfectly understand me. It's the fact that it keeps cutting in and out is what im having problems with. I sound like a skipping CD! I never had this issue up until now, and my house is tight on money so i cant invest in a landline phone. I cant use my regular cellphone either because it's a minute phone. I checked my internet connection and everything was up to speed. So what could it be? I hope my ISP isnt throttling my connection or anything. I use the DuckDuckGo extension for firefox, could it be the add-on encrypting my data that's causing the sudden drop in quality?
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
02-20-2019, 01:53 PM
Yes, excellent point, you're right.
I shoulda thought it thru better.
I removed my post, & thank you very much.
You're a jewel and a gem, no need to apologise.
Slim Pickens. We haven't heard about him in a while.
https://www.thefamouspeople.com/profiles/images/og-slim-pickens-35048.jpg
Yea I tend to use a few old timey expressions sometimes. Summertime stuck at Grandma's watching Gunsmoke, Bonanza or whatever dafuq has invaded my vocabulary. It's all good tho, she use to let us watch wrestling too.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
02-20-2019, 02:02 PM
So ive been having a bit of a problem. Hopefully someone else here could help me. These past two days, ive been having issues with my sound quality. I use a voip, Text Now to be exact. I know that's sort of a no go when it comes to pso work but my voice quality on text now has been excellent. Until now that is. The *sound* quality is crystal clear, if you could hear me you would be able to perfectly understand me. It's the fact that it keeps cutting in and out is what im having problems with. I sound like a skipping CD! I never had this issue up until now, and my house is tight on money so i cant invest in a landline phone. I cant use my regular cellphone either because it's a minute phone. I checked my internet connection and everything was up to speed. So what could it be? I hope my ISP isnt throttling my connection or anything. I use the DuckDuckGo extension for firefox, could it be the add-on encrypting my data that's causing the sudden drop in quality?
Landlines are the only way to ensure a crisp clear connection that sits above 95% in performance. With VoIP services it's really beyond your control. You can reset your modems. I'm not sure why you're not using a direct call to a cell phone?
PSOcodemonkey
02-20-2019, 02:50 PM
Landlines are the only way to ensure a crisp clear connection that sits above 95% in performance. With VoIP services it's really beyond your control. You can reset your modems. I'm not sure why you're not using a direct call to a cell phone?
Quality voip services (with use of a sip compatible phone or ATA) are often better than traditional copper service (assuming you have decent internet service). The reason is phone companies are letting their traditional copper networks basically rot.
https://motherboard.vice.com/en_us/article/wj3v5n/american-phone-companies-are-literally-letting-their-networks-fall-apart
PSOcodemonkey
02-20-2019, 02:53 PM
So ive been having a bit of a problem. Hopefully someone else here could help me. These past two days, ive been having issues with my sound quality. I use a voip, Text Now to be exact. I know that's sort of a no go when it comes to pso work but my voice quality on text now has been excellent. Until now that is. The *sound* quality is crystal clear, if you could hear me you would be able to perfectly understand me. It's the fact that it keeps cutting in and out is what im having problems with. I sound like a skipping CD! I never had this issue up until now, and my house is tight on money so i cant invest in a landline phone. I cant use my regular cellphone either because it's a minute phone. I checked my internet connection and everything was up to speed. So what could it be? I hope my ISP isnt throttling my connection or anything. I use the DuckDuckGo extension for firefox, could it be the add-on encrypting my data that's causing the sudden drop in quality?
If you are using VOIP for work, you really want to use a phone that accepts SIP connections or an unlocked ATA device (analog telephone adapter) such as an Obi, just one of many brands. Also make sure that the phone or ATA, is connected to your internet through your router, not through your computer. If your router has the option, make sure that a certain % of your connection is reserved for your phone or ATA. That way, no matter how much stuff your computer is doing, it will make sure your phone is still going strong. Do not use a soft phone or browser based phone for work. ATA devices are cheap, and allow you subscribe to quality VOIP services that use Tier 1 carriers. SIP compatible phones are now cheaper than they were, esp if you buy used on eBay.
Super cheap and free VOIP services often use the "cheapest route" which will give you service that can sometimes have issues. Do your research on quality services. A really good board to check out for VOIP services, devices, etc is https://www.dslreports.com/forum/voip There are great services that are low cost, but not free and offer great overall quality.
The "skipping" you are experiencing has more to do with your computer than with your internet (most likely) if you are using a soft phone or browser based phone on your computer. Make sure you do not have any programs doing automatic updating, or virus scans, or backups, checking email, or IM service etc while using a soft phone if you are having the skipping issue. If using a soft phone with skipping issues, make sure your computer is basically doing nothing other than than the soft phone. If you are using a VPN, your soft phone connection is going through that as well most likely, which can also cause the "skipping".
slowpoke
02-20-2019, 03:20 PM
You're a jewel and a gem, no need to apologise.
Yea I tend to use a few old timey expressions sometimes. Summertime stuck at Grandma's watching Gunsmoke, Bonanza or whatever dafuq has invaded my vocabulary. It's all good tho, she use to let us watch wrestling too.
I also tend to use what might be called by others old time expressions. (I tend to think of them as standard English: for example I never "reach out" i make a phone call or send an e mail) I always said "Slim Pickings"
Betty Baphomet
02-20-2019, 04:18 PM
If you are using VOIP for work, you really want to use a phone that accepts SIP connections or an unlocked ATA device (analog telephone adapter) such as an Obi, just one of many brands. Also make sure that the phone or ATA, is connected to your internet through your router, not through your computer. If your router has the option, make sure that a certain % of your connection is reserved for your phone or ATA. That way, no matter how much stuff your computer is doing, it will make sure your phone is still going strong. Do not use a soft phone or browser based phone for work. ATA devices are cheap, and allow you subscribe to quality VOIP services that use Tier 1 carriers. SIP compatible phones are now cheaper than they were, esp if you buy used on eBay.
Super cheap and free VOIP services often use the "cheapest route" which will give you service that can sometimes have issues. Do your research on quality services. A really good board to check out for VOIP services, devices, etc is https://www.dslreports.com/forum/voip There are great services that are low cost, but not free and offer great overall quality.
Thank you for the advice. I'll be looking into this once i scrape up some spending money. If i cant trouble shoot the route cause of this, then i'll be taking a hiatus from this kind of work and come back to it when i have higher quality equipment like a landline or something.
Betty Baphomet
02-20-2019, 04:23 PM
Landlines are the only way to ensure a crisp clear connection that sits above 95% in performance. With VoIP services it's really beyond your control. You can reset your modems. I'm not sure why you're not using a direct call to a cell phone?
Like i explained before i cant afford a land line because my household is tight on money, and my regular cell phone is a minute phone. I feel like it's my encryptor that's the culprit for this sudden drop. Would only explain why my voice cuts in and out and not generally sound like im speaking through a potato.
Betty Baphomet
02-20-2019, 04:31 PM
Alright problem solved, turns out it was a firefox extension that was causing the problem. Ive read that VPNs and simmilar services can cause the internet connection to take a slight dip in quality because of the fact that it's busy encrypting data. So i turned off the extension and everything is back to normal. No more issues!
xxxGothBarbie
02-20-2019, 09:48 PM
I have to agree with this notion as well. Also I would like to add that an master list of phone sex companies would changed over time because a lot of dispatch companies close down, get sold, or just not worth it. That's why I was saying that it would be best that after working dispatch that psos should become more independent. So, I really work only indie phone sex right now with the exception being USLove. That's why I recommended USLove a lot because they have been pretty helpful in my career. However, I really enjoy working mostly platforms and having my own toll-free lines right now. :)
Dona, where would one be able to obtain their own toll free numbers for indie pso?
DonaDiabla
02-20-2019, 11:31 PM
Great question, xxxGothBarbie! I would say that if you want an regular toll free number than Tollfreeforwarding is one of the best. However, you want an vanity number than NumberBarn or GrassHopper works wonders. Twillo works better if you want international callers and set up numbers in places such as Western Europe. I hope this helps! :)
Dona, where would one be to obtain their own toll free numbers for indie pso?
PSOcodemonkey
02-21-2019, 05:22 AM
...it would be best that after working dispatch that psos should become more independent.
Agree. I worked a dispatch type company many years ago. Later decided that PSO work was something I wanted to make a long term gig in tandem with my tech work. For PSO work, I now work exclusively on platforms and my own indie TFNs. For anyone not looking at PSO work long term, dispatch is definitely the way to go. But for anyone who is thinking of PSO work as a long term thing, going indie (or platform + indie) is something to seriously consider.
Houston_Sugar
02-21-2019, 10:18 AM
I’m new to being a PSO and I am glad I found this area of work and generally it’s perfect for my current situation. However, I just find it to be so draining. I quit dancing... i found it to be draining as well and didn’t like it... the difference is I didn’t always have to be “on” for an extended period of time. I’d go to the club, get into character, work the night and be off until I had to work again. I’m usually logged onto the phone for extended periods of time until I get a call.. so I feel like I always have to be on, and at times it’s mentally draining. I also haven’t mastered how to multitask while being on the phone. I’ve read about girls being able to clean and cook dinner while having phone sex and I can’t even imagine that at this point.
Anyone have tips or pointers on how to not feel so drained by this? Maybe longer breaks? Designated work days? What works for you?
PSOcodemonkey
02-22-2019, 09:33 AM
I’m new to being a PSO and I am glad I found this area of work and generally it’s perfect for my current situation. However, I just find it to be so draining. I quit dancing... i found it to be draining as well and didn’t like it... the difference is I didn’t always have to be “on” for an extended period of time. I’d go to the club, get into character, work the night and be off until I had to work again. I’m usually logged onto the phone for extended periods of time until I get a call.. so I feel like I always have to be on, and at times it’s mentally draining. I also haven’t mastered how to multitask while being on the phone. I’ve read about girls being able to clean and cook dinner while having phone sex and I can’t even imagine that at this point.
Anyone have tips or pointers on how to not feel so drained by this? Maybe longer breaks? Designated work days? What works for you?
There is no "one way", it depends so much on you and your family situation, your personality etc.
Some choices I made that have helped me personally:
1. I price most of my characters on platforms and my own indie lines high enough that I do not get constant non stop calls. Gives me plenty of down time in between calls to get other things done. Cooking, house cleaning, tech work, etc all gets done in between calls. I don't worry if I don't get calls for hours, because I am getting things done in the meantime, and because my higher rates make up for less calls. I also have enough customers that talk for a long time, thus making the total number of calls less important. This only works because I am available on phones many hours a week. Not a good way to do things if one is only available part of a day for calls.
2. Even though I make sure I am available for calls many hours a week, I do make sure I take some big blocks of time off as well. One day a week, I always make sure I take about 12 hours straight off and use that time to go out with friends, date, have fun, explore my city.
3. I make sure I take some blocks of time off each day. I take 3-4 hours blocks off each week day to allow myself time to do grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, gym, help care for my aging parents with health issues, general required running around dictated by life.
4. I take 30 minute blocks off to walk the dog. Amazing what a dog walk does to refresh my mind.
5. I cook everything at home. I only eat out when with friends/date. Cooking relaxes me, and I can do it most of the time even when available for phone. I do not do any active cooking while actually on the phone, other than taking something off a burner, etc. I always look forward to making my next meal, and having fun with it. I always have lots of tasty baked goods around as well as good-for-me foods. Not having to go out to get a meal, allows me more time to be available for PSO work. Plus saves tons of money. Mainly though just that fact that cooking relaxes makes it worth it.
6. On platforms and my own lines, I block any customer who "drains" me so much that I don't want to log back in. I am not talking about long calls. I mean customers that get me to the point where I don't want to log in because they might call. They are not worth it, cause me stress, and even if they make me money, they are loosing me money as well, because I might not log in as much. I just go ahead and block them, then don't think about them again.
7. I don't work dispatch. While dispatch definitely has good points, and I did work dispatch many years ago, the fact that one cannot block customers made me decide long term it was not for me. Helps me stay positive about PSO work, as I can block. I am not knocking dispatch companies in general. There are good ones and bad ones. I just needed the ability to block in order to mentally stay in PSO work. It would be different if I was doing PSO work as a temporary gig, or only available part time hours. But I am in it for the long term, and can't afford to get mentally drained by it. Especially since I am available for PSO many hours a week.
8. I don't do anything else while on the phone. While I do tons of things while available for calls, when I am calls, I give the customer my 100% focus. They expect that, and allows me to have a super high retention rate of customers. The higher the retention rate, the more easy it is for me to block trouble customers without worrying about losing too much money.
9. I do not utilize texting or chat features of platforms unless I am literally in front of my desktop. Not worth it for me personally as it gives me the feeling that I am "always on", even when not on a call. My regulars all know I don't even check email unless in front of my desktop. If there is something they really really want to tell me, they can do a call. Or they can wait for me to be in front of my desktop. Even though I also work in tech, I kind of feel the smart phone has created a feeling in many that they can never relax. I never use my smart phone for PSO work, or even personal. Only for tech work where it is kind of required, especially if developing for it. Amazing the piece of mind that comes from not being tied to constant bombardment of text/chat/im messages. I don't do any GFE characters though. If one does GFE type characters, guys kind of do expect you to be available by text, email more often.
10. Passive income. I make sure that at least some of my characters have lots of audio available for purchase. I do affiliate marking for various adult companies (including PSO). Nothing relaxes me more than when for some reason I have to cut my hours some week due to issues with helping to care for my parents, and see money earned from those passive income efforts. Such as one day when I was literally on the phone for 6 hours straight dealing with their insurance company.
Again, what works for me might not work for others. Each person is an individual, as is their family situation. What is important is that anyone thinking of PSO work as a long term gig, really sit down make a list like the one above and put down things that they think will help them. What is important to you? What specifically drains you? That type of thing. Some will discover that PSO work is not really for them, at a least not at this point in their lives. That was me for awhile. I took a long long break from PSO work at one point, until I decided what things would make it work for me and my life. Others will find that PSO work will work long term for them if they make sure they take measures like the ones I listed (but for their situation).
Houston_Sugar
02-25-2019, 08:57 PM
There is no "one way", it depends so much on you and your family situation, your personality etc.
Some choices I made that have helped me personally:
1. I price most of my characters on platforms and my own indie lines high enough that I do not get constant non stop calls. Gives me plenty of down time in between calls to get other things done. Cooking, house cleaning, tech work, etc all gets done in between calls. I don't worry if I don't get calls for hours, because I am getting things done in the meantime, and because my higher rates make up for less calls. I also have enough customers that talk for a long time, thus making the total number of calls less important. This only works because I am available on phones many hours a week. Not a good way to do things if one is only available part of a day for calls.
2. Even though I make sure I am available for calls many hours a week, I do make sure I take some big blocks of time off as well. One day a week, I always make sure I take about 12 hours straight off and use that time to go out with friends, date, have fun, explore my city.
3. I make sure I take some blocks of time off each day. I take 3-4 hours blocks off each week day to allow myself time to do grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, gym, help care for my aging parents with health issues, general required running around dictated by life.
4. I take 30 minute blocks off to walk the dog. Amazing what a dog walk does to refresh my mind.
5. I cook everything at home. I only eat out when with friends/date. Cooking relaxes me, and I can do it most of the time even when available for phone. I do not do any active cooking while actually on the phone, other than taking something off a burner, etc. I always look forward to making my next meal, and having fun with it. I always have lots of tasty baked goods around as well as good-for-me foods. Not having to go out to get a meal, allows me more time to be available for PSO work. Plus saves tons of money. Mainly though just that fact that cooking relaxes makes it worth it.
6. On platforms and my own lines, I block any customer who "drains" me so much that I don't want to log back in. I am not talking about long calls. I mean customers that get me to the point where I don't want to log in because they might call. They are not worth it, cause me stress, and even if they make me money, they are loosing me money as well, because I might not log in as much. I just go ahead and block them, then don't think about them again.
7. I don't work dispatch. While dispatch definitely has good points, and I did work dispatch many years ago, the fact that one cannot block customers made me decide long term it was not for me. Helps me stay positive about PSO work, as I can block. I am not knocking dispatch companies in general. There are good ones and bad ones. I just needed the ability to block in order to mentally stay in PSO work. It would be different if I was doing PSO work as a temporary gig, or only available part time hours. But I am in it for the long term, and can't afford to get mentally drained by it. Especially since I am available for PSO many hours a week.
8. I don't do anything else while on the phone. While I do tons of things while available for calls, when I am calls, I give the customer my 100% focus. They expect that, and allows me to have a super high retention rate of customers. The higher the retention rate, the more easy it is for me to block trouble customers without worrying about losing too much money.
9. I do not utilize texting or chat features of platforms unless I am literally in front of my desktop. Not worth it for me personally as it gives me the feeling that I am "always on", even when not on a call. My regulars all know I don't even check email unless in front of my desktop. If there is something they really really want to tell me, they can do a call. Or they can wait for me to be in front of my desktop. Even though I also work in tech, I kind of feel the smart phone has created a feeling in many that they can never relax. I never use my smart phone for PSO work, or even personal. Only for tech work where it is kind of required, especially if developing for it. Amazing the piece of mind that comes from not being tied to constant bombardment of text/chat/im messages. I don't do any GFE characters though. If one does GFE type characters, guys kind of do expect you to be available by text, email more often.
10. Passive income. I make sure that at least some of my characters have lots of audio available for purchase. I do affiliate marking for various adult companies (including PSO). Nothing relaxes me more than when for some reason I have to cut my hours some week due to issues with helping to care for my parents, and see money earned from those passive income efforts. Such as one day when I was literally on the phone for 6 hours straight dealing with their insurance company.
Again, what works for me might not work for others. Each person is an individual, as is their family situation. What is important is that anyone thinking of PSO work as a long term gig, really sit down make a list like the one above and put down things that they think will help them. What is important to you? What specifically drains you? That type of thing. Some will discover that PSO work is not really for them, at a least not at this point in their lives. That was me for awhile. I took a long long break from PSO work at one point, until I decided what things would make it work for me and my life. Others will find that PSO work will work long term for them if they make sure they take measures like the ones I listed (but for their situation).
Great tips and advice! Thank you. I took a break over the weekend and came back feeling much better. I'll incorporate some of the things you listed because I think they'll work for me, and work on finding more of a balance.
Kody_
02-26-2019, 03:30 PM
Does anyone have any experience with having a phone line purely for chatting/conversation and nothing sexual? I'm not into the whole phone sex thing but wanted to give it a go putting up a listing for lonely guys who would actually enjoy normal conversation. I feel like there's not harm in trying but I'm nervous that I'm just not going to get any calls at all or that the calls I do get are going to rate me badly because I'm not doing actual phone sex. Flirtation is fine, I just suckkkkk at dirty talk.
DonaDiabla
02-26-2019, 09:07 PM
Yes, you can create an so called "friendship" line where guys call you and talk about normal stuff. Usually, you charge just as much as you would charge for an phone sex line. Also, phone sex is just not about dirty talk....just to let you know :) Many guys call for different things and a lot of those things are not sexual. It depends on your clientele and so forth.
Does anyone have any experience with having a phone line purely for chatting/conversation and nothing sexual? I'm not into the whole phone sex thing but wanted to give it a go putting up a listing for lonely guys who would actually enjoy normal conversation. I feel like there's not harm in trying but I'm nervous that I'm just not going to get any calls at all or that the calls I do get are going to rate me badly because I'm not doing actual phone sex. Flirtation is fine, I just suckkkkk at dirty talk.
Betty Baphomet
04-10-2019, 08:04 PM
Hey guys, so after taking a hiatus from sex work i decided to jump back in. I was looking into actually buckling in and buying a phone for work instead of using a VOIP like ive been doing. Again, cant use my regular cellphone because it's a minute phone and i'll quickly eat up my data for the month if i use it for SW, which wouldnt be fun. I've looked into call center telephones and im wondering, which model would you guys recommend? Ive been looking into buying an APGtek call center phone, which yall can see here (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B012VLDZSO/?coliid=I2NA6NHFSDSROG&colid=BK7MP8RKF4N6&psc=0&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it). Thanks in advance!
xxxGothBarbie
04-10-2019, 11:11 PM
Hey guys, so after taking a hiatus from sex work i decided to jump back in. I was looking into actually buckling in and buying a phone for work instead of using a VOIP like ive been doing. Again, cant use my regular cellphone because it's a minute phone and i'll quickly eat up my data for the month if i use it for SW, which wouldnt be fun. I've looked into call center telephones and im wondering, which model would you guys recommend? Ive been looking into buying an APGtek call center phone, which yall can see here (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B012VLDZSO/?coliid=I2NA6NHFSDSROG&colid=BK7MP8RKF4N6&psc=0&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it). Thanks in advance!
Just go get a cheap cricket phone & pay the minimum min plan per month and just use that for sex work. Im thinking about doing that myself.
Betty Baphomet
04-10-2019, 11:30 PM
Just go get a cheap cricket phone & pay the minimum min plan per month and just use that for sex work. Im thinking about doing that myself.
True but they do say landline is best. Besides, why not just get a landline service bundled with my internet and pay for that, with unlimited talk time rather then pay for minutes?
Inara The Muse
04-11-2019, 03:25 PM
I want to do sexting but I am not popular enough for SexPanther and Our Little Secret is always down. I was thinking of joining Niteflirt just for the chat feature. Does that sound plausable if I don't take calls?
xxxGothBarbie
04-11-2019, 05:22 PM
True but they do say landline is best. Besides, why not just get a landline service bundled with my internet and pay for that, with unlimited talk time rather then pay for minutes?
Bc Im literally a nomad. I don't have a stable place to keep a landline. Love to just keep moving around.
Staci
04-11-2019, 05:58 PM
Does anyone have any experience with having a phone line purely for chatting/conversation and nothing sexual? I'm not into the whole phone sex thing but wanted to give it a go putting up a listing for lonely guys who would actually enjoy normal conversation. I feel like there's not harm in trying but I'm nervous that I'm just not going to get any calls at all or that the calls I do get are going to rate me badly because I'm not doing actual phone sex. Flirtation is fine, I just suckkkkk at dirty talk.
TalkToMe.com has a category for 'Just Friends (Advice)', but I don't know how much traffic it attracts.