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Violet_Z
04-17-2015, 10:29 AM
I see girls selling things like videos and pictures as extra things on streamate all the time. How do they do it if you can't give any info of off site things?
NM! Found it! I love this site!
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?171101-Help-on-how-to-send-ur-videos-on-streamate&highlight=selling+pics+streamate
Nocturnelle
04-17-2015, 11:49 AM
Why does SM say my audio isn't available when customers can clearly hear me? Wtf?
IvyAdams
04-17-2015, 01:22 PM
Why does SM say my audio isn't available when customers can clearly hear me? Wtf?
This was happening to me, and I realized that when I streamed through the encoder I didn't have the audio button checked. Once I checked it, then it said "yes" on audio :)
kitte
04-17-2015, 02:48 PM
it feels so creepy to greet guys into the room, and they ask me irrelevant ass questions "what did you do today" "whats on tv/music" "whats in ur background".They'll sit there for several minutes and not speak, but come up with something random like that. Like dude do you wanna play on not? LOL
JessRyan
04-17-2015, 06:51 PM
it feels so creepy to greet guys into the room, and they ask me irrelevant ass questions "what did you do today" "whats on tv/music" "whats in ur background".They'll sit there for several minutes and not speak, but come up with something random like that. Like dude do you wanna play on not? LOL
Well, my experience with men (I"m well over 40 and worked over 7 years as a stripper) Some men feel a need to connect and feel a little chemistry with a girl/woman. When I was a stripper I learned this, they come in for companionship as well as a sexual thrill. When stripping, I had to make an effort to sit with these guys, talk, have a beer and bullshit. They came in the relax, admire pretty girls and spend a little money. If you come across as only wanting $$$ and not interested (unless they want a bitch) they can sense it, they KNOW. I think what helps is to not be so hard on them some days. Have fun, make jokes, show YOUR everyday casual side without expectations. You may be surprised. They are human too.
Kitcatt
04-17-2015, 11:05 PM
Well, my experience with men (I"m well over 40 and worked over 7 years as a stripper) Some men feel a need to connect and feel a little chemistry with a girl/woman. When I was a stripper I learned this, they come in for companionship as well as a sexual thrill. When stripping, I had to make an effort to sit with these guys, talk, have a beer and bullshit. They came in the relax, admire pretty girls and spend a little money. If you come across as only wanting $$$ and not interested (unless they want a bitch) they can sense it, they KNOW. I think what helps is to not be so hard on them some days. Have fun, make jokes, show YOUR everyday casual side without expectations. You may be surprised. They are human too.
Yeah, agreed. My loyal cam guys are the ones who think of me as more than just a virtual fuck and want to know me in some way.
QueenBitch
04-17-2015, 11:49 PM
Well, my experience with men (I"m well over 40 and worked over 7 years as a stripper) Some men feel a need to connect and feel a little chemistry with a girl/woman. When I was a stripper I learned this, they come in for companionship as well as a sexual thrill. When stripping, I had to make an effort to sit with these guys, talk, have a beer and bullshit. They came in the relax, admire pretty girls and spend a little money. If you come across as only wanting $$$ and not interested (unless they want a bitch) they can sense it, they KNOW. I think what helps is to not be so hard on them some days. Have fun, make jokes, show YOUR everyday casual side without expectations. You may be surprised. They are human too.
this! the first couple of months I cammed I was more distant and quiet. Now I'm constantly talking and making jokes and you have no idea how many guys take me private because they think i'm funny and sweet. you really need to engage your audience. guys who take you private for these reasons WILL come back if you put on a good show and they will spend. I mean my hourly has doubled since my new approach. go figure...
being distant can work for some people, so you can try it, but if you notice you're not really making much you should change your hustle because you're gonna get stuck in this and not making money will frustrate you. it's a vicious cycle. it's really hard to be nice and chatty when you really just want to strangle these guys.
IvyAdams
04-18-2015, 09:20 AM
Well, my experience with men (I"m well over 40 and worked over 7 years as a stripper) Some men feel a need to connect and feel a little chemistry with a girl/woman. When I was a stripper I learned this, they come in for companionship as well as a sexual thrill. When stripping, I had to make an effort to sit with these guys, talk, have a beer and bullshit. They came in the relax, admire pretty girls and spend a little money. If you come across as only wanting $$$ and not interested (unless they want a bitch) they can sense it, they KNOW. I think what helps is to not be so hard on them some days. Have fun, make jokes, show YOUR everyday casual side without expectations. You may be surprised. They are human too.
YES. I agree with this so much. You can't expect guys to come into your room and automatically want to spend their hard earned money on you without them knowing that it's going to be what they want. You're in sales, and so you have to sell yourself. Most the time you have to do this through talking to them and making them realize why you are the best choice out of all the other girls they could go see.
Earthakitten
04-18-2015, 10:28 AM
should i delete and remake? I've been away from streamate for a few months and now that I've ended my hiatus I have the slowest traffic and I feel like I'm getting peanuts, its so frustrating. Should I try to remake and get the benefits of new girl status again? I feel like I didn't get a chance to take advantage of it when I had it
hyori
04-18-2015, 05:51 PM
If you really want to practice your hustling skills go on the token sites for awhile and try to keep your room entertained for 6 hours plus. SM will feel boring when you come back.
lailianasahara
04-18-2015, 11:47 PM
I don't know what is going on with Streamate for me lately but its getting silly as hell. I am on the first page but I keep getting poppers (Pop into freechat for 5 seconds then leave) or creepers (Come in and stay but say nothing)! I have been on Streamate since December and I thought things were going to pick up past $18 an hour. Kinda wanna faceroll my keyboard right now out of frustration.
AlyssaJane
04-19-2015, 04:23 AM
Soooo roleplay? I would love some tips from roleplay experts. My current strategy when they ask if I do roleplay is to ask what their fantasy is. If I think I can do it, I let them know. If it's out of my realm of expertise I let them know that as well. I don't like the idea of them spending $$$ if I don't think I can deliver. I know I am good with cuckold fetishes. I get a lot of requests of revenge on their ex shows or talking smack about their gf during a show. I can do that. But some roleplay I am less confident in - dominant roleplay, or today a guy wanted me to come up with a fantasy that I was his wifes bff and tricking him into doing me instead. I couldn't think of a good way to do it, and I told him so. He was appreciative and told me he'd keep me in mind for other fantasies. What do you do for good roleplay on the fly? Some has been way out of my comfort zone but I've loved it. The guy who wants me to snort and tell him why a bbc is better than him. (smh all the way). Surprisingly fun. Some nights I'm not in the mood to snort but he always checks in to see if I am up for it. If I amm we go to town. All kinds of roleplay feedback and how to hone this skill would be greatly appreciated.
KarinaGiselle
04-19-2015, 08:51 AM
I have a question: Streamate's cutoff times are Saturdays, so whatever you make above the minimum will be paid to you. If I use Payoneer, how long does it take for those funds to be available in my Payoneer's account?
Smurfette
04-19-2015, 08:54 AM
the following friday
Marina Starr
04-19-2015, 01:41 PM
Is SM being glitchy for anyone today? The in and out is getting ridiculous! SMH.
audritwo
04-19-2015, 01:54 PM
Is SM being glitchy for anyone today? The in and out is getting ridiculous! SMH.
Obviously they didn't have someone screaming at them as children when they run in and out of the house. Letting all the damn AC out.
JessRyan
04-19-2015, 01:57 PM
Soooo roleplay? I would love some tips from roleplay experts. My current strategy when they ask if I do roleplay is to ask what their fantasy is. If I think I can do it, I let them know. If it's out of my realm of expertise I let them know that as well. I don't like the idea of them spending $$$ if I don't think I can deliver. I know I am good with cuckold fetishes. I get a lot of requests of revenge on their ex shows or talking smack about their gf during a show. I can do that. But some roleplay I am less confident in - dominant roleplay, or today a guy wanted me to come up with a fantasy that I was his wifes bff and tricking him into doing me instead. I couldn't think of a good way to do it, and I told him so. He was appreciative and told me he'd keep me in mind for other fantasies. What do you do for good roleplay on the fly? Some has been way out of my comfort zone but I've loved it. The guy who wants me to snort and tell him why a bbc is better than him. (smh all the way). Surprisingly fun. Some nights I'm not in the mood to snort but he always checks in to see if I am up for it. If I amm we go to town. All kinds of roleplay feedback and how to hone this skill would be greatly appreciated.
Times like this I wish there was a "Roleplay 101" class for camgirls in which each fetish is mapped out. I'm a work in progress too. I google it all the time to get ideas. What should I say during cuckold? I know the gist of it, but playing it out? SPH is another one. Does EVERY guy who asks me if his penis is too small want that? I had one guy for a 15 min block I thought really wanted that so I lied and told him he was small. The last few minutes we both figured it out, he did want me to be honest. His dick was fine in my opinion. We actually had a laugh about that after the block was over. So Alyssa, what do you do for cuckold? We need a Roleplay thread on the forum for just this topic.
Marina Starr
04-19-2015, 02:08 PM
I want to cry. I just can't deal with this bullshit today!
http://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t94/tsmelania/monique-precious_zpse868eb17.gif (http://s158.photobucket.com/user/tsmelania/media/monique-precious_zpse868eb17.gif.html)
Obviously they didn't have someone screaming at them as children when they run in and out of the house. Letting all the damn AC out.
IvyAdams
04-19-2015, 02:11 PM
I want to cry. I just can't deal with this bullshit today!
http://i158.photobucket.com/albums/t94/tsmelania/monique-precious_zpse868eb17.gif (http://s158.photobucket.com/user/tsmelania/media/monique-precious_zpse868eb17.gif.html)
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PhatGirlDynomite!!!
04-19-2015, 02:51 PM
Yes Hunny about to make me lose my damn mind. Saw a good $75 show go down the drain. TMI alert, but once I flushed a diamond ring down the toilet. I dropped to my knees and was elbow deep in that mofo. And still couldn't get to it. I just sat there helpless. That is exactly how I felt today watching show after show get interrupted. And big spenders getting kicked from the damn room. Helpless. And I was wearing my best attitude today. SM got me fucked up. I was so heated....apparently I still am? HAHA
Is SM being glitchy for anyone today? The in and out is getting ridiculous! SMH.
AlyssaJane
04-19-2015, 02:56 PM
Times like this I wish there was a "Roleplay 101" class for camgirls in which each fetish is mapped out. I'm a work in progress too. I google it all the time to get ideas. What should I say during cuckold? I know the gist of it, but playing it out? SPH is another one. Does EVERY guy who asks me if his penis is too small want that? I had one guy for a 15 min block I thought really wanted that so I lied and told him he was small. The last few minutes we both figured it out, he did want me to be honest. His dick was fine in my opinion. We actually had a laugh about that after the block was over. So Alyssa, what do you do for cuckold? We need a Roleplay thread on the forum for just this topic.
Ohhhh look what I just discovered in my bookmarks. http://curvywinona.blogspot.no/2014/08/camming-bookmarks.html?zx=c2fbbb4dba0aa1ed under fetish tips looks like a ton of resources. It would be nice to have it all in one place in a sticky. For cuckold fantasies they love to hear about how good//better another man is, how they (my cuckold) isn't good enough to be inside me, if they are lucky they can have the sloppy seconds, how I'll expect them to lick another mans cum out of me. Cuckold fantasies are sometimes tied to raceplay but not always, and in my experience all I have to refer to is how much I love a bbc. There's a vid I think might help give some insight on the whole fantasy. I've dated several cucks in real life otherwise I'd have no idea what I'm doing with them in the room. Anyways check out the vid and let me know how it goes JessRyan. http://xhamster.com/movies/476207/becoming_a_cuckold_compilation.html
AlyssaJane
04-19-2015, 03:05 PM
Also with cucks they get off on hearing the details about other men. It's a form of dominant roleplay I suppose. They want to hear the details of what you did/are doing with another man, even be present and watch, and be shamed a bit. They love a dominant woman who does what she wants with whomever she wants, and reminds them of their place as second best. Hope that helps.
scarlettbelle
04-19-2015, 03:13 PM
Soooo roleplay? I would love some tips from roleplay experts. My current strategy when they ask if I do roleplay is to ask what their fantasy is. If I think I can do it, I let them know. If it's out of my realm of expertise I let them know that as well. I don't like the idea of them spending $$$ if I don't think I can deliver. I know I am good with cuckold fetishes. I get a lot of requests of revenge on their ex shows or talking smack about their gf during a show. I can do that. But some roleplay I am less confident in - dominant roleplay, or today a guy wanted me to come up with a fantasy that I was his wifes bff and tricking him into doing me instead. I couldn't think of a good way to do it, and I told him so. He was appreciative and told me he'd keep me in mind for other fantasies. What do you do for good roleplay on the fly? Some has been way out of my comfort zone but I've loved it. The guy who wants me to snort and tell him why a bbc is better than him. (smh all the way). Surprisingly fun. Some nights I'm not in the mood to snort but he always checks in to see if I am up for it. If I amm we go to town. All kinds of roleplay feedback and how to hone this skill would be greatly appreciated.
I do a LOT of roleplay shows. I used to feel awkward about doing certain ones, but I learned as I went. I never turn down a roleplay show unless the guy wants something that's against the site rules. Don't worry about wasting their money - they're paying as they go so they can always leave or give you better directions if they don't like what you're doing. You may be surprised by how laid back a lot of the roleplay guys are. As long as you put in some effort and follow their cues you'll be fine! I know some guys won't give you *anything* to go on, but that's on them.
Roleplaying is just improv. If you feel like you want to work on your skills off cam, maybe take some improv classes or look up videos online. In my experience though, the best way to learn is experience. The more shows you do, the better you'll get. There are tons of guys who are in to similar things, so you can always use lines and ideas from customer A on customer B.
Times like this I wish there was a "Roleplay 101" class for camgirls in which each fetish is mapped out. I'm a work in progress too. I google it all the time to get ideas. What should I say during cuckold? I know the gist of it, but playing it out? SPH is another one. Does EVERY guy who asks me if his penis is too small want that? I had one guy for a 15 min block I thought really wanted that so I lied and told him he was small. The last few minutes we both figured it out, he did want me to be honest. His dick was fine in my opinion. We actually had a laugh about that after the block was over. So Alyssa, what do you do for cuckold? We need a Roleplay thread on the forum for just this topic.
I could have sworn that there was a roleplay thread somewhere, but I cant find it! Maybe a dedicated thread for tips/advice would be a good idea.
Cuckolding shows are usually pretty straight forward - they want you to describe what you would do to them, how it would happen, what the other guy would look like, etc etc. You can talk to them like they're actually there with you and your imaginary bull, or you can frame it as "If you were here with me right now, I would... blah blah blah." Some of them also want to hear stories about how you've cuckolded other guys in the past (if you haven't done this in real life before, it's a good idea to have a few fictional stories to use as needed).
The "be honest about my dick" guys used to drive me absolutely insane because it was so hard to figure out wtf they wanted. I've found that most of the time they want you to just talk talk talk about every aspect of their dick. Compare it to other dicks you've had. Compliment some things, criticize others. Ask him how long/thick it is, ask him what other women say about it...there's lots of stuff you can talk about to keep him interested. The ones who want actual SPH are *usually* pretty obvious about it, but there are definitely exceptions.
Marina Starr
04-19-2015, 03:29 PM
I had to log the fuck off and do my hair. Tomorrow is another day :)
Yes Hunny about to make me lose my damn mind. Saw a good $75 show go down the drain. TMI alert, but once I flushed a diamond ring down the toilet. I dropped to my knees and was elbow deep in that mofo. And still couldn't get to it. I just sat there helpless. That is exactly how I felt today watching show after show get interrupted. And big spenders getting kicked from the damn room. Helpless. And I was wearing my best attitude today. SM got me fucked up. I was so heated....apparently I still am? HAHA
ZafinaX
04-19-2015, 03:33 PM
Soooo roleplay? I would love some tips from roleplay experts. My current strategy when they ask if I do roleplay is to ask what their fantasy is. If I think I can do it, I let them know. If it's out of my realm of expertise I let them know that as well. I don't like the idea of them spending $$$ if I don't think I can deliver. I know I am good with cuckold fetishes. I get a lot of requests of revenge on their ex shows or talking smack about their gf during a show. I can do that. But some roleplay I am less confident in - dominant roleplay, or today a guy wanted me to come up with a fantasy that I was his wifes bff and tricking him into doing me instead. I couldn't think of a good way to do it, and I told him so. He was appreciative and told me he'd keep me in mind for other fantasies. What do you do for good roleplay on the fly? Some has been way out of my comfort zone but I've loved it. The guy who wants me to snort and tell him why a bbc is better than him. (smh all the way). Surprisingly fun. Some nights I'm not in the mood to snort but he always checks in to see if I am up for it. If I amm we go to town. All kinds of roleplay feedback and how to hone this skill would be greatly appreciated.
I'm no expert but I do a lot of role play shows as well and agree with scarlettbelle. All it really takes is effort and following directions. Some imagination works too if you happen to have any pop up as you go along. LOL. But guys will tell you what else you need to adjust if necessary.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
04-19-2015, 03:40 PM
I can never walk away from the opportunity to play this clip
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-OoIvgtuzs
I had to log the fuck off and do my hair. Tomorrow is another day :)
AlyssaJane
04-19-2015, 04:59 PM
I do a LOT of roleplay shows. I used to feel awkward about doing certain ones, but I learned as I went. I never turn down a roleplay show unless the guy wants something that's against the site rules. Don't worry about wasting their money - they're paying as they go so they can always leave or give you better directions if they don't like what you're doing. You may be surprised by how laid back a lot of the roleplay guys are. As long as you put in some effort and follow their cues you'll be fine! I know some guys won't give you *anything* to go on, but that's on them.
Roleplaying is just improv. If you feel like you want to work on your skills off cam, maybe take some improv classes or look up videos online. In my experience though, the best way to learn is experience. The more shows you do, the better you'll get. There are tons of guys who are in to similar things, so you can always use lines and ideas from customer A on customer B.
This is really great advise, thank you! I'm going to try just rolling with it. Asking questions about what they want and just give it a try. Thank you for the perspective.
Kitcatt
04-19-2015, 05:00 PM
Okay, I'm stumped at whats going on with my encoder. It starts starts dropping bit rates :254, then 206 then 131, then switches to frame drop. THEN it blinks and starts going up the scale: 420, 450, 534, up to 724 then blinks and starts going down again. My cpu is fine, never goes over maybe 40% and my upload rate is like 3.5, I've cleared all cookies and even tried resetting to the medium cam settings so what the FUCK. I can't get shows looking like a freezing blurry mess.
AliceFun
04-19-2015, 05:19 PM
^^^ I am sorry, this is just happening sometimes, if ur connection is OK then it's on SM's side, it happened to me too several times, it just got fixed on it's own but not right away, u never know how long is going to take.
Kitcatt
04-19-2015, 05:40 PM
^^^ I am sorry, this is just happening sometimes, if ur connection is OK then it's on SM's side, it happened to me too several times, it just got fixed on it's own but not right away, u never know how long is going to take.
Yeah this has happened to me before, but this is a BAD time for extra days off since I'll be taking time off at the end of next month. I guess if it does it again tonight I could try streaming without the encoder so at least I'll be online.
princessari
04-19-2015, 07:10 PM
omg I've been online for like an hour and all i've gotten is a bunch of in and outs, sometimes so fast that it doesn't even make sense lol. nobody has even said hi to me so I've just stopped saying hi because I feel stupid saying hi to people who log out right as I say it. *cries* lol
pippapippa
04-19-2015, 10:56 PM
I haven't had an exclusive yet tonight and I didn't have a single one on Saturday night. Instead I'm having lots of long privates. I had two almost thirty minute privates two days in a row, which is almost unheard of for me. Long sessions are nearly always exclusive. It's really odd. Am I just having a weird weekend or has anyone else experienced this?
EDIT: Nevermind. Finally had an exclusive. Guess I'm just having a strange weekend.
Valara
04-19-2015, 11:28 PM
Has anyone else been getting kicked off of streamate over and over, in the middle off shows, gold shows THE WORKS??!? W.T.F.??? PLEASE HELP :(
Snowy0Star
04-20-2015, 06:53 AM
I usually get mine on Mondays but today I got it on Tuesday! have faith sista.. Why oh why do they not offer Direct Deposit!.. has anyone suggested this! ,.. All my other sites mostly are DD
they dont offer it because they have a bank deposit partnership with payoneer. ive noticed that most sites that dont have direct deposit are partnered up with payoneer for bank transfers .this is how mine is set up. on friday the money goes into my payoneer account then it goes right into my green dot card and i get the money on tuesday and the fee is only 1.50 vs 3-5 for having it go right into the card.
Snowy0Star
04-20-2015, 06:58 AM
I had an SM account which I stopped working because of the love/hate relationship I have with this site. It is now deactivated by SM due to inactivity. I want to start a new account with them and actually take advantage of the new girl status. I am guessing that even though my account is inactive, I will still have to email them to ask for it to be completely closed.. am I correct on that? My other question is: once they close the account, can I reuse the same email address to start a new account, or will I have to use a different one? I am trying to minimize however long they take for initial account setup by not screwing up too much in the process. :)
they close ur account after 3 months of not using it and its still there its just frozen . email support and tell them u want it back . they generally dont let u make a new account that easy anymore last i knew
Snowy0Star
04-20-2015, 07:02 AM
I'm disappointed.. I guess I'm gonna have to unblock myself from time to time.
it takes a 24-48 hours for it to kick in when u turn it on or off just FYI
IvyAdams
04-20-2015, 10:54 AM
Welll.. I Have been suspended for one day on Streamate for "No masturbation in Free Chat" .. I wrote support because I am really confused. I do not EVER do this in free chat, and I have never shown below the waist nudity. WTF.
SarahTime
04-20-2015, 10:59 AM
Welll.. I Have been suspended for one day on Streamate for "No masturbation in Free Chat" .. I wrote support because I am really confused. I do not EVER do this in free chat, and I have never shown below the waist nudity. WTF.
Did you do the "masturbate off camera view" thing or maybe "hands in the panties rubbing" thing? I've always assumed those two things qualified as masturbation in free chat... but I see people do it all the time. Thats my best guess.
Sucks tho! Sorry bb!
IvyAdams
04-20-2015, 11:14 AM
Did you do the "masturbate off camera view" thing or maybe "hands in the panties rubbing" thing? I've always assumed those two things qualified as masturbation in free chat... but I see people do it all the time. Thats my best guess.
Sucks tho! Sorry bb!
hmm.. I haven't ever masturbated off cam in free chat. I have occasionally put my hands down my panties in free chat but I have done this through TV gold show countdowns plenty of times without any problem. I never show anything, and I would NEVER do any part of a show for free. It's just frustrating because I really needed to log on and make money today :( OH well. Guess I'll use the day to make content for my site!
Kitcatt
04-20-2015, 11:23 AM
hmm.. I haven't ever masturbated off cam in free chat. I have occasionally put my hands down my panties in free chat but I have done this through TV gold show countdowns plenty of times without any problem. I never show anything, and I would NEVER do any part of a show for free. It's just frustrating because I really needed to log on and make money today :( OH well. Guess I'll use the day to make content for my site!
You should contact sm, I know lots of people who've gotten suspended for something that they didn't do in free chat that had it lifted so they could work. Ask them what you did to get the suspension because you don't ever masturbate or simulate masturbation in free chat and you want to make sure that you know exactly what you did so you don't have this issue again. Argue your case and see what they say!
IvyAdams
04-20-2015, 11:25 AM
You should contact sm, I know lots of people who've gotten suspended for something that they didn't do in free chat that had it lifted so they could work. Ask them what you did to get the suspension because you don't ever masturbate or simulate masturbation in free chat and you want to make sure that you know exactly what you did so you don't have this issue again. Argue your case and see what they say!
Thanks! I wrote to them and am waiting for a response back. We'll see! :)
PeterPan
04-20-2015, 02:29 PM
Cuckold people: I've literally had five cuckolders enter my room and spend/waste/use 10-20 mins of my time during Guest Chat narrating their cuckold stories ("Cuckolding: The Genesis Story" is how I see it -__- ). Even worse, a few would enter my room 1-2 days later and then continue with their "fascinating" stories. So, basically I've gotten sick of these cuckolders after a week of interacting with them because they just wanted to share their experiences where I acted engrossed in the stories for free. (I hinted to them "look, this type of talk is for EXC, not for guest chat" and they would respond along the lines "we'll go EXC I just need to tell you my story first for ").
The last cuckolder I interacted with, 2 days ago, I told him upfront that I wasn't really up to listening to his cuckold story for the reason stated above. The cuckolder was understanding and even said that those other cuckolders were rude for continuously coming back to my room to continue with their stories. Well, he said he wanted to gauge how I am as a person before taking me EXC, so I let him begin his story. I did... after about 5 mins of feigning interest, I told him, again, that I can't continue with this and that he was wasting my time and this was for EXC. I emphasize that I was both polite and professional. He had the audacity to tell me that "it wasn't like I'm wasting your time. No one is taking you prv." Again, I was polite&prof and essentially told him that this was unacceptable and that I felt like I was being taken advantage of and he was like, "Ok sweetie bye."
What should I have done? I was sticking up for myself. Did I do it wrong? What's your experience with cuckolders?
This shouldn't get to me, but I've been feeling burnt out for the past 4 days. I've had a lot of traffic in the guest chat, but only made $25 on 4/17 and 4/18 (I'm in California). I took Sunday 4/19 off because I needed a proper break. My profile was approved Apr 5, but started working Apr 9. My first two days I made $250; The Apr 12 week I made $499, but it was on 4/16 when I began making practically nothing! For 3 days, I barely made anything. I'm online for 7-12 hours a day. My regular customers inform me of my front page ranking when I ask. I fluctuate from the top row to a few rows down. [B]Has anyone experienced this? High traffic, but little customers despite working it right? My camera quality is a little shitty, but that's the only thing I can think of that may be affecting me...
I hate being this person, asking [I]what am I doing wrong? But going from making $80-$100+ per day to $20-$40 per day is a hard blow and I can't wrap my head around it. I'm getting on this evening for a few hours, so hopefully I'll make $$. Hell, I even tried starting gold shows for $30 for a 10 min show... I have yet start a successful gold show. I'm sexy, smart, and fun. I have a neo-classical, french moulin rouge theme with jazz in the background. I've gotten so many (mature) compliments about my set-up and allure. Maybe it's the hours... I've noticed the afternoons are shit. Most people are on in the morning and late evening.
And I have yet to receive my paycheck via mail despite e-mailing Support inquiring about my pay status/check delivery after they took me off the 3 Week Delay. No response.
I have issues and I'm sorry for being this person who is whining. I think once I surpass this noobie stage, I'll be less of a bother.
PeterPan
04-20-2015, 02:33 PM
THIS PERSON RECORDS
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I already emailed Support about this guy who was recording me.
User: highfryballs
He was in my guest chat and stupidly admitted to recording me. I asked him "why are you recording me?" to assess his seriousness/facetiousness, and he said it was for jacking off to later. I assessed he was being serious.
highfryballs << beware of that user if he enters your room!
Kitcatt
04-20-2015, 02:49 PM
[QUOTE=PeterPan;2751340]Cuckold people: I've literally had five cuckolders enter my room and spend/waste/use 10-20 mins of my time during Guest Chat narrating their cuckold stories ("Cuckolding: The Genesis Story" is how I see it -__- ). Even worse, a few would enter my room 1-2 days later and then continue with their "fascinating" stories. So, basically I've gotten sick of these cuckolders after a week of interacting with them because they just wanted to share their experiences where I acted engrossed in the stories for free. (I hinted to them "look, this type of talk is for EXC, not for guest chat" and they would respond along the lines "we'll go EXC I just need to tell you my story first for [insert reason]").
The last cuckolder I interacted with, 2 days ago, I told him upfront that I wasn't really up to listening to his cuckold story for the reason stated above. The cuckolder was understanding and even said that those other cuckolders were rude for continuously coming back to my room to continue with their stories. Well, he said he wanted to gauge how I am as a person before taking me EXC, so I let him begin his story. I did... after about 5 mins of feigning interest, I told him, again, that I can't continue with this and that he was wasting my time and this was for EXC. I emphasize that I was both polite and professional. He had the audacity to tell me that "it wasn't like I'm wasting your time. No one is taking you prv." Again, I was polite&prof and essentially told him that this was unacceptable and that I felt like I was being taken advantage of and he was like, "Ok sweetie bye."
Yeah this is always a weird one. I have lots (and lots and lots) of cucks, it's my main rp and generally if they start feeding me a story in free chat I listen until I get the general gist and say "oh, so you like *rephrase concept*, we can absolutely do that in an exclusive chat". I think paraphrasing their storyline down to 1 sentence before they get the chance to jerk off all over my free chat room tends to confuse them and then they have no reason to hang around telling me more details. Sometimes its hard because they are just trying to get a feel for what your like, that's just something you have to gauge.
Truthfully I like knowing a little detail about the fantasy before we go anyway. I want to know if he's actually a cuck or a hawtwifer, totally different fantasy. Telling some guy that he's a worthless pile of shit who just wants to fantasize about a chick being with another guys is always kind of an oopsie! situation.
I'm sure I've driven off plenty of guys who may have been great customers by telling them that they can talk to me in free chat but if they want to start giving details about their fantasy, they have to go to paid, but oh well.
Bella28
04-20-2015, 03:02 PM
Thanks! I wrote to them and am waiting for a response back. We'll see! :)
I have noticed that a few times during tech issues on sm that my private show was actually being shown in free chat due to my encoder lagging and I emailed them immediately. This is the only thing I can think of happened to you.
PeterPan
04-20-2015, 03:24 PM
For cuckold fantasies they love to hear about how good//better another man is, how they (my cuckold) isn't good enough to be inside me, if they are lucky they can have the sloppy seconds, how I'll expect them to lick another mans cum out of me.[/url]
That's been my experience with my first few cuckolders. They loved that I was degrading towards them and that I shamed them, etc. Another one just wanted to tell me their story and ask questions, while being dominant without the degredation. The last one I had wanted me to be interested and that was it.
I fucking hate those people. Why? Because 10-20 mins they leave without taking me exc, or much less a tip for taking up my time in guest chat. I haven't had a good exp with them so far. :/
scarlettbelle
04-20-2015, 03:33 PM
Cuckold people: I've literally had five cuckolders enter my room and spend/waste/use 10-20 mins of my time during Guest Chat narrating their cuckold stories ("Cuckolding: The Genesis Story" is how I see it -__- ). Even worse, a few would enter my room 1-2 days later and then continue with their "fascinating" stories. So, basically I've gotten sick of these cuckolders after a week of interacting with them because they just wanted to share their experiences where I acted engrossed in the stories for free. (I hinted to them "look, this type of talk is for EXC, not for guest chat" and they would respond along the lines "we'll go EXC I just need to tell you my story first for ").
The last cuckolder I interacted with, 2 days ago, I told him upfront that I wasn't really up to listening to his cuckold story for the reason stated above. The cuckolder was understanding and even said that those other cuckolders were rude for continuously coming back to my room to continue with their stories. Well, he said he wanted to gauge how I am as a person before taking me EXC, so I let him begin his story. I did... after about 5 mins of feigning interest, I told him, again, that I can't continue with this and that he was wasting my time and this was for EXC. I emphasize that I was both polite and professional. He had the audacity to tell me that "it wasn't like I'm wasting your time. No one is taking you prv." Again, I was polite&prof and essentially told him that this was unacceptable and that I felt like I was being taken advantage of and he was like, "Ok sweetie bye."
What should I have done? I was sticking up for myself. Did I do it wrong? What's your experience with cuckolders?
This shouldn't get to me, but I've been feeling burnt out for the past 4 days. I've had a lot of traffic in the guest chat, but only made $25 on 4/17 and 4/18 (I'm in California). I took Sunday 4/19 off because I needed a proper break. My profile was approved Apr 5, but started working Apr 9. My first two days I made $250; The Apr 12 week I made $499, but it was on 4/16 when I began making practically nothing! For 3 days, I barely made anything. I'm online for 7-12 hours a day. My regular customers inform me of my front page ranking when I ask. I fluctuate from the top row to a few rows down. [B]Has anyone experienced this? High traffic, but little customers despite working it right? My camera quality is a little shitty, but that's the only thing I can think of that may be affecting me...
I hate being this person, asking [I]what am I doing wrong? But going from making $80-$100+ per day to $20-$40 per day is a hard blow and I can't wrap my head around it. I'm getting on this evening for a few hours, so hopefully I'll make $$. Hell, I even tried starting gold shows for $30 for a 10 min show... I have yet start a successful gold show. I'm sexy, smart, and fun. I have a neo-classical, french moulin rouge theme with jazz in the background. I've gotten so many (mature) compliments about my set-up and allure. Maybe it's the hours... I've noticed the afternoons are shit. Most people are on in the morning and late evening.
And I have yet to receive my paycheck via mail despite e-mailing Support inquiring about my pay status/check delivery after they took me off the 3 Week Delay. No response.
I have issues and I'm sorry for being this person who is whining. I think once I surpass this noobie stage, I'll be less of a bother.
You don't need to listen to their stories AT ALL in free chat. As soon as I see someone writing a novel about their fetish in free chat I say "Sounds like fun! We can do that in Exclusive!" If they keep going I ignore them completely.
They need to tell you a BRIEF rundown of what they would like to do, then explain the rest in Exclusive. DO NOT TOLERATE BAD BEHAVIOR. Nip it in the bud as soon as it happens or they will walk all over you. They know what they're doing! Guys like that prey on new models because they know you'll be nice and they can push your boundaries. It happened to me all the time when I was new, but I learned very quickly that I HAD to put my foot down immediately with those guys. I promise you, those same guys who walk all over new models are politely buying shows from models like me who don't tolerate their BS.
Keep sticking up for yourself, just do it sooner and don't be afraid to be a little bitchy (or a lot :D). And don't beat yourself up - there's a huge learning curve. You'll figure it out as you go. As far as the inconsistent traffic/earnings goes...that's just how this job is. There are always going to be glitches, or football games, or whatever. Just keep trying to learn and improve every day. And don't be afraid to branch out to other sites, or start making clips, or doing PSO work. More eggs in more baskets = more stability.
PeterPan
04-20-2015, 03:36 PM
Yeah this is always a weird one. I have lots (and lots and lots) of cucks, it's my main rp and generally if they start feeding me a story in free chat I listen until I get the general gist and say "oh, so you like *rephrase concept*, we can absolutely do that in an exclusive chat". I think paraphrasing their storyline down to 1 sentence before they get the chance to jerk off all over my free chat room tends to confuse them and then they have no reason to hang around telling me more details. Sometimes its hard because they are just trying to get a feel for what your like, that's just something you have to gauge.
Truthfully I like knowing a little detail about the fantasy before we go anyway. I want to know if he's actually a cuck or a hawtwifer, totally different fantasy. Telling some guy that he's a worthless pile of shit who just wants to fantasize about a chick being with another guys is always kind of an oopsie! situation.
I'm sure I've driven off plenty of guys who may have been great customers by telling them that they can talk to me in free chat but if they want to start giving details about their fantasy, they have to go to paid, but oh well.
omg Kitcatt, I've seen your profile on Streamate. You're so gosh darn cute/attractive. I think I'm fangirling over you a bit. Haha.
Right, I've done exactly that. Let them tell their tale and after a while, I would paraphrase what they've told me and say something like, "I can do that and so much more in EXC." They would either ignore me or falsely promise to make to EXC soon. I make sure to act interested and enraptured by their story cause $$$ is always wonderful. ha.
But, a couple of days later, I realized that the ones who just kept going on and on really were taking advantage of me.
I think I'll be able to handle these fellows with better ease at this point just from your reply alone! Thanks so much! ThankyouThankyouThankyou.
#LearningProcess :p
PeterPan
04-20-2015, 03:44 PM
You don't need to listen to their stories AT ALL in free chat. As soon as I see someone writing a novel about their fetish in free chat I say "Sounds like fun! We can do that in Exclusive!" If they keep going I ignore them completely.
They need to tell you a BRIEF rundown of what they would like to do, then explain the rest in Exclusive. DO NOT TOLERATE BAD BEHAVIOR. Nip it in the bud as soon as it happens or they will walk all over you. They know what they're doing! Guys like that prey on new models because they know you'll be nice and they can push your boundaries. It happened to me all the time when I was new, but I learned very quickly that I HAD to put my foot down immediately with those guys. I promise you, those same guys who walk all over new models are politely buying shows from models like me who don't tolerate their BS.
Keep sticking up for yourself, just do it sooner and don't be afraid to be a little bitchy (or a lot :D). And don't beat yourself up - there's a huge learning curve. You'll figure it out as you go. As far as the inconsistent traffic/earnings goes...that's just how this job is. There are always going to be glitches, or football games, or whatever. Just keep trying to learn and improve every day. And don't be afraid to branch out to other sites, or start making clips, or doing PSO work. More eggs in more baskets = more stability.
Thank you so much, scarlettbelle!!
So, brevity and BS tolerance, then. Lol.
And, yeah, I'm going to test the different hours. Instead of staying on for 7-10 hours from noon-past midnight... I'll def test different parts of the day.
I have to constantly remind myself: "New, but not naive. Still learning, it's too early for disappointment." Haha.
Thank you very much!
IvyAdams
04-20-2015, 04:02 PM
I have noticed that a few times during tech issues on sm that my private show was actually being shown in free chat due to my encoder lagging and I emailed them immediately. This is the only thing I can think of happened to you.
That is what I was wondering, too!! That's the only thing that I can think of... or some other model who reported for something that wasn't necessarily true. I get a lot of models in my room that try and clear out my room etc.
Streamate hasn't responded .. I feel like by the time that they do the suspension will be over regardless, so I'm going to thank whoever the reason behind this is because it gave me more time to produce content for my site and depend on SM a little less :)