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MissAdriana
07-01-2020, 09:30 AM
You totally should! Camming is a luxury, you should base your rates on your personal financial goals and not give discounts just because of the current state of the economy.
Good idea. Especially "since the economy is only going to go down when the second wave comes by fall." Lower them now and we'll just be lowering them again later.
Esixxx
07-01-2020, 10:05 AM
Is the bitrate jumpy for everyone else pls?! Here it goes to 2.5 then lower to 1.7 then higher to 2.3 and lower again and so on, its not a stable number even the Stream Quality says Excellent. The RTT is jumpy too.
I hope it's SM and not my internet... ty xx
I just logged on and mine seems to be fluctuating as well. I reset my modem everyday before I log onto stream, check for updates, clear out my browser history etc. I think it is the site.
I had major issues last week during the contest
CurvyAriel
07-01-2020, 11:01 AM
Every time I try to use SMCONNECT on Chrome, my webcam lights up as it's in use but the screen remains black on the smconnect. I've tried a lot of things, uninstalling drivers, uninstalling chrome, trying firefox, etc. I sent Streamate support an email detailing everything I did in detail and I get this reply :
If you would like to use SMConnect you would choose web encoder option.
You will need to go to the "Settings" tab
In the Stream Settings, you will see an "Encoder" drop down.
Make sure you select "Web Encoder".
Then scroll down and select "Refresh".
You should then be able to stream.
um seriously?? Obviously smh now I have no idea what to do. Has anyone had this happen or any ideas what to do? Obviously im not gonna get any help from Streamate
Esixxx
07-01-2020, 11:45 AM
Every time I try to use SMCONNECT on Chrome, my webcam lights up as it's in use but the screen remains black on the smconnect. I've tried a lot of things, uninstalling drivers, uninstalling chrome, trying firefox, etc. I sent Streamate support an email detailing everything I did in detail and I get this reply :
If you would like to use SMConnect you would choose web encoder option.
You will need to go to the "Settings" tab
In the Stream Settings, you will see an "Encoder" drop down.
Make sure you select "Web Encoder".
Then scroll down and select "Refresh".
You should then be able to stream.
um seriously?? Obviously smh now I have no idea what to do. Has anyone had this happen or any ideas what to do? Obviously im not gonna get any help from Streamate
Do you happen to have multiple cams (i.e. a built-in webcam) ? What type of cam do you use to stream?
^^^ So you are using the web encoder like they say or not?!
laurielegs
07-01-2020, 12:09 PM
Every time I try to use SMCONNECT on Chrome, my webcam lights up as it's in use but the screen remains black on the smconnect. I've tried a lot of things, uninstalling drivers, uninstalling chrome, trying firefox, etc. I sent Streamate support an email detailing everything I did in detail and I get this reply :
If you would like to use SMConnect you would choose web encoder option.
You will need to go to the "Settings" tab
In the Stream Settings, you will see an "Encoder" drop down.
Make sure you select "Web Encoder".
Then scroll down and select "Refresh".
You should then be able to stream.
um seriously?? Obviously smh now I have no idea what to do. Has anyone had this happen or any ideas what to do? Obviously im not gonna get any help from Streamate
They gave you incomplete instructions.
Click Settings and you should have this selected:
Under Encoder: Web encoder
Under Microphone: Select your best microphone if you have more than one, otherwise be sure your computer mic is selected.
Under Camera: Select your webcam (if you don't do this it will choose the default one and likely will show as a black screen if you have an external cam).
The camera selection is probably your issue. Be sure the proper camera (or the proper webcam splitter driver in my case) is selected.
CurvyAriel
07-01-2020, 12:21 PM
They gave you incomplete instructions.
Click Settings and you should have this selected:
Under Encoder: Web encoder
Under Microphone: Select your best microphone if you have more than one, otherwise be sure your computer mic is selected.
Under Camera: Select your webcam (if you don't do this it will choose the default one and likely will show as a black screen if you have an external cam).
The camera selection is probably your issue. Be sure the proper camera (or the proper webcam splitter driver in my case) is selected.
All of its selected for the right camera/mic the camera lights turn on, just no video on the Smconnect, just remains black. Frustrating.
CurvyAriel
07-01-2020, 12:22 PM
^^^ So you are using the web encoder like they say or not?!
yes, when I just the external encoder That works fine. Its only Smconnect that does not show my video.
CurvyAriel
07-01-2020, 12:24 PM
Do you happen to have multiple cams (i.e. a built-in webcam) ? What type of cam do you use to stream?
logitech c920 Was thinking of just going to buy a new webcam to see if that works, but there all sold out because of Covid :-\
Esixxx
07-01-2020, 12:55 PM
logitech c920 Was thinking of just going to buy a new webcam to see if that works, but there all sold out because of Covid :-\
The only thing I can think that could possibly help (maybe) do you have the drivers updated for the c920?
CurvyAriel
07-01-2020, 01:00 PM
The only thing I can think that could possibly help (maybe) do you have the drivers updated for the c920?
yup, I uninstalled & reinstalled last night
Esixxx
07-01-2020, 01:59 PM
yup, I uninstalled & reinstalled last night
Potentially stupid question- under the google chrome settings have you given permission to the site to access your webcam and mic?
It will look like a camera icon in the upper right corner of the adress bar. will show what camera and mic and the permission to use it.
53241
CurvyAriel
07-01-2020, 02:14 PM
Potentially stupid question- under the google chrome settings have you given permission to the site to access your webcam and mic?
It will look like a camera icon in the upper right corner of the adress bar. will show what camera and mic and the permission to use it.
53241
yup all given permission to c920 cam... guess ill just use OBS external coder for now
AcidYellow
07-01-2020, 05:25 PM
Man, today is glitchy af¡¡ for me¡ With the old broadcaster I was getting TONS of people, now using SMconnect, traffic going to shit. Im freaking out... Idk anymore.... with the old one was getting barely any glitch... now is horrible... whatever...
bigbum
07-02-2020, 01:00 AM
i dont want to get banned for ageplay .. but i get a lot of request.
im 30 years old for fucks sake. but here i am.. sucking my thumb.. i know this has been discussed many times here in the thread.. i searched..
but my question is will i get banned for using my "cute innocent baby voice" ? or saying "mommy isnt here"
i already use step daddy and stepbrother.
but is acting really young role plays even though i am very much 30 ... against the rules?
it doesnt really seem to specify with the rules section.. seems like a gray area..
this is my only income so i am so worried/confused
any insight?
princess_casual
07-02-2020, 02:08 AM
i dont want to get banned for ageplay .. but i get a lot of request.
im 30 years old for fucks sake. but here i am.. sucking my thumb.. i know this has been discussed many times here in the thread.. i searched..
but my question is will i get banned for using my "cute innocent baby voice" ? or saying "mommy isnt here"
i already use step daddy and stepbrother.
but is acting really young role plays even though i am very much 30 ... against the rules?
it doesnt really seem to specify with the rules section.. seems like a gray area..
this is my only income so i am so worried/confused
any insight?
Role-playing as under 18 (either you or the member) is against site rules.
moneybags
07-02-2020, 02:41 AM
i dont want to get banned for ageplay .. but i get a lot of request.
im 30 years old for fucks sake. but here i am.. sucking my thumb.. i know this has been discussed many times here in the thread.. i searched..
but my question is will i get banned for using my "cute innocent baby voice" ? or saying "mommy isnt here"
i already use step daddy and stepbrother.
but is acting really young role plays even though i am very much 30 ... against the rules?
it doesnt really seem to specify with the rules section.. seems like a gray area..
this is my only income so i am so worried/confused
any insight?
I feel that. I make decent money and the customers are respectful. I don’t want to screw that up. You could ask Liz?
I’ve had guys ask me to be there mom (Incest). I’ll do step-mom, but I won’t do anything that could get me banned. It’s not worth losing my only source of income during a pandemic. I’m nice about it, but I tell guys it’s against SM policy. I don’t think it’s worth it. There’s lots of customers why risk losing your platform for a few dollars.
My rule is when in doubt, don’t.
MissAdriana
07-02-2020, 07:45 AM
yup all given permission to c920 cam... guess ill just use OBS external coder for now
When you right click on your stream / black screen are you in picture in picture ??
53242
Whenever I hover on models on page 1 literally like 50% of their streams are pixelated all to fuck
laurielegs
07-02-2020, 05:14 PM
Got my direct deposit early!
I was expecting to have to wait till Monday because my bank is closed tomorrow, appreciate this SO much!!
bigbum
07-02-2020, 09:39 PM
Got my direct deposit early!
I was expecting to have to wait till Monday because my bank is closed tomorrow, appreciate this SO much!!
yesss got my direct deposit 1 day early as well! yayy maybe due to the july 4th holiday
bigbum
07-02-2020, 09:47 PM
I feel that. I make decent money and the customers are respectful. I don’t want to screw that up. You could ask Liz?
I’ve had guys ask me to be there mom (Incest). I’ll do step-mom, but I won’t do anything that could get me banned. It’s not worth losing my only source of income during a pandemic. I’m nice about it, but I tell guys it’s against SM policy. I don’t think it’s worth it. There’s lots of customers why risk losing your platform for a few dollars.
My rule is when in doubt, don’t.
yeah at this point all of my my reg clients are AP.. for whatever reason. maybe how i look or something.
i am honestly scared to ask liz, what if it just draws more attention to my account and they just ban me for asking.
SM is my only income and its depended upon AP a lot of it. i am naturally DOM by nature but clients hate me that way.
what i decided to do today was make a "rules note" that shows when they enter exclusive
clearly states upon entering the chat---
"no ages numbers" will be said during age play, and its "step daddy only."
hopefully that will help.
clients wanted me to get props like diapers or a bottle ect. but umm thats going to far for my comfort. thats def a step more than just cute little baby talk.
if liz is reading this can you kindly elaborate regarding "baby talk" during AP without saying age if thats ok? or specify more?
gbjenna
07-03-2020, 12:29 AM
yeah at this point all of my my reg clients are AP.. for whatever reason. maybe how i look or something.
i am honestly scared to ask liz, what if it just draws more attention to my account and they just ban me for asking.
SM is my only income and its depended upon AP a lot of it. i am naturally DOM by nature but clients hate me that way.
Is there something in your bio that explicitly states or suggests you engage in taboos? I used to say I offered taboos and got absolutely loads of step sis roleplays for ages. I’ve taken that out though and completely rewritten my entire bio and not only do I get a completely different type of customers now, I can recall maybe two taboo requests since then. Whereas a lot of my shows and requests made up that before.
Maybe there’s something in your profile that suggests you’re swaying to the submissive side too, which is possibly why the guys you’re getting don’t like that you’re a dominant personality. I had a similar thing which was why I changed my entire bio as mentioned above.
I did ask support if we could offer step family roleplays and I was told no. I don’t think it’s strictly enforced because people seem to do it anyway and have it in their bios that they do it too but I’ve steered away from it to save myself the worry.
If the act would be illegal in real life, ie incest, being underage, blackmail etc then it’s a firm no from me.
euro_princess
07-03-2020, 06:16 AM
Question regarding the cammodels payout link. I referred someone years ago through my cammodels link and they spent quite a bit of $$ and they came in with a new member-name recently. I saw I wasnt getting the cammodels extra $$$. I wrote in and they said that this member let his account go inactive and signed up at a later date therefore I wasnt entitled to the extra cammodels $$ . Is there any way to make sure that if we refer someone with our cammodels link we will forever get the extra cammodels money from those shows and not just the regular %? I read before that if their account goes inactive or if they make a new account with a new credit card we dont get the cammodels bonus money. Seems like there should be a way to ensure we always get that full cammodels link extra? Thanks
That’s right. Cammodels % works only per account, not client. So if he changes his account, then yes, you won’t have that extra money. I’ve had that happen before, years ago. Client disappeared and came back with a new account, no extra $.
And no, unfortunately, there is no way to know who signs up from your link, unless he spends something.
Susperia
07-03-2020, 11:42 AM
Is anybody getting a streaming connection issue when they try to start streaming...its spinning forever and ever
SoloDesire
07-03-2020, 11:51 AM
Is anybody getting a streaming connection issue when they try to start streaming...its spinning forever and ever
Same here! It won't let me connect at all.
DahliaSimone
07-03-2020, 12:16 PM
I cant connect to SM at all....been trying all morning, it just sits there with the wheel turning trying to connect but no dice. ugh.
DahliaSimone
07-03-2020, 12:16 PM
Glad its not just me lol
kamiliam
07-04-2020, 02:13 AM
Heads up. Tonight I had half a dozen regulars who always do exclusive with me take me straight away to prvt. They all believed they were in exclusive. After I explained that we were not they tried again and we went exclusive. These are all guys who have never tried to cheat me out of money in years of “knowing” them. They all know the deal. This happened a couple of other times earlier this week as well.
Maybe they changed the order of the options? I couldn’t get a concrete answer as to why. Mostly confusion
ggminx
07-04-2020, 03:38 AM
been having the same issue. been asking my regs that retry a couple times and make it into excl to tell me how they did it and they arent quite sure. wonder if support would be of any help
Heads up. Tonight I had half a dozen regulars who always do exclusive with me take me straight away to prvt. They all believed they were in exclusive. After I explained that we were not they tried again and we went exclusive. These are all guys who have never tried to cheat me out of money in years of “knowing” them. They all know the deal. This happened a couple of other times earlier this week as well.
Maybe they changed the order of the options? I couldn’t get a concrete answer as to why. Mostly confusion
DeepThoughts
07-04-2020, 06:28 AM
yeah at this point all of my my reg clients are AP.. for whatever reason. maybe how i look or something.
i am honestly scared to ask liz, what if it just draws more attention to my account and they just ban me for asking.
SM is my only income and its depended upon AP a lot of it. i am naturally DOM by nature but clients hate me that way.
what i decided to do today was make a "rules note" that shows when they enter exclusive
clearly states upon entering the chat---
"no ages numbers" will be said during age play, and its "step daddy only."
hopefully that will help.
clients wanted me to get props like diapers or a bottle ect. but umm thats going to far for my comfort. thats def a step more than just cute little baby talk.
if liz is reading this can you kindly elaborate regarding "baby talk" during AP without saying age if thats ok? or specify more?
I dont think you will hear from Liz. They keep this very vague on purpose. My question is are you really comfortable with this sort of camming?? Like just reading your post makes me want to hurt somebody. You are catering to pedophiles girl!!! You can change your demographic. This is really bottom of the barrel scum whos money you are taking. I warn you, if this is at all not okay with you then in the long run you will damage your soul. Stop now before you crash and burn.
MissAdriana
07-04-2020, 08:05 AM
i am honestly scared to ask liz, what if it just draws more attention to my account and they just ban me for asking.
SM is my only income and its depended upon AP a lot of it. i am naturally DOM by nature but clients hate me that way.
I used to do it on certain sites where it wasn't explicitly stated in the rules as not allowed form of roleplay, and I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. I thought 'they are coming to me so they don't hurt kids'. But I've since changed my stance. I don't want to normalize a thing I don't agree with. I don't want to encourage sexualization of children. I don't think you do either but by doing AP that's exactly what you are doing.
You are risking your account by doing AP. These people know they are fucked up to come to you to ask for AP. They are willing to bend rules and try to work around rules to get you to do their fetish. What else do you think they would do? Commit fraud with their accounts and then your $ is gone when your account is banned for dealing with them. You will lose $ in the short run but its better than losing your income totally in the long run when 1 of your clients fucks you over with chargebacks or you get banned from having so much fraudulent users coming to you
princess_casual
07-04-2020, 09:38 AM
yeah at this point all of my my reg clients are AP.. for whatever reason. maybe how i look or something.
i am honestly scared to ask liz, what if it just draws more attention to my account and they just ban me for asking.
SM is my only income and its depended upon AP a lot of it. i am naturally DOM by nature but clients hate me that way.
what i decided to do today was make a "rules note" that shows when they enter exclusive
clearly states upon entering the chat---
"no ages numbers" will be said during age play, and its "step daddy only."
hopefully that will help.
clients wanted me to get props like diapers or a bottle ect. but umm thats going to far for my comfort. thats def a step more than just cute little baby talk.
if liz is reading this can you kindly elaborate regarding "baby talk" during AP without saying age if thats ok? or specify more?
"For whatever reason."
Not to be rude, but there is clearly something you are doing to attract those kinds of members. There is always a reason why someone attracts a certain type of fetish crowd.
There are some girls who look underage (babyface, petite, flat chest) and who will naturally attract those types but you can choose to play it up or not. I've seen so many girls with big teddy bears, wearing pink little outfits and pigtails... I got a lot of guys wanting "teen" stuff because I've got basically no boobs and used to rock a more "natural" look but I shut it down and started dressing a bit more sophisticated and wearing more makeup so I never get that anymore.
To me, it's not vague at all. The rule is no roleplaying under 18. If you say stuff like "mommy isn't home" and suck your thumb, it's obvious you are pretending to be a child who wants to fuck her father. If you wanna figure out how to skate by the rules and not get banned, you do you I guess but you know what you are doing if you are here asking what is and isn't allowed. If you wanna suck your thumb and talk about mommy and daddy I suggest you do that on another site or on skype shows if you don't wanna risk getting banned. Just my 2 cents.
kamiliam
07-04-2020, 01:00 PM
One of the best skills you can have in this line of work is to be assertive with your boundaries while providing the best experience you can give the client. If you truly don’t understand why you get all these ap customers it may have to do with your inability to say you aren’t comfortable with something so your customers push more. Also you can’t expect people representing Sm to tell you how to bend the rules. It puts you and other models in jeopardy. It also establishes that you need other people to set the limits and aren’t using your gut instincts on how to deal with these people.
pippapippa
07-04-2020, 01:03 PM
Is anyone getting a bunch of weird customers today? I've had four guys in the last thirty mins take me private without saying anything, trying to turn on their cams, and leaving when they're denied because I don't do cam2cam in private. Also had a dude take me private and had no idea it was pay per minute. Six minutes in, he asked me how long a show lasts.
princess_casual
07-04-2020, 02:19 PM
Is anyone getting a bunch of weird customers today? I've had four guys in the last thirty mins take me private without saying anything, trying to turn on their cams, and leaving when they're denied because I don't do cam2cam in private. Also had a dude take me private and had no idea it was pay per minute. Six minutes in, he asked me how long a show lasts.
I’ve had a few dudes try to do c2c and leave because I make them wait til after my strip tease. It happens occasionally.
There’s been a lot of new members because of lockdown, a lot of them don’t understand how it works. Maybe because it’s the weekend there are a lot more cheap newbie losers hanging around, unlike the dudes who cam during work and are more motivated/efficient.
Genoveve
07-04-2020, 06:48 PM
If you truly don’t understand why you get all these ap customers it may have to do with your inability to say you aren’t comfortable with something so your customers push more.....It also establishes that you need other people to set the limits and aren’t using your gut instincts on how to deal with these people.
Preach. Exploitative creeps purposely look for chicks they can take advantage of, do you really want to be one of those chicks? Plus a lot of what these taboo guys actually get off on is seeing what they can get you to agree to do, seeing how far they can get you to go past your comfort zone for money, and you play right into their hands.
Ladies---when you are dealing with a customer, one of you is going to be in control. Do you want it to be you or do you want it to be them?
bigbum
07-04-2020, 07:49 PM
Preach. Exploitative creeps purposely look for chicks they can take advantage of, do you really want to be one of those chicks? Plus a lot of what these taboo guys actually get off on is seeing what they can get you to agree to do, seeing how far they can get you to go past your comfort zone for money, and you play right into their hands.
Ladies---when you are dealing with a customer, one of you is going to be in control. Do you want it to be you or do you want it to be them?
omg honestly it was much worst before.
before i was letting these cheap clients control my shows. i thought if they buy exclusive that they control everything, literally whatever they wanted. . verbal abuse name calling . hardcore BDSM request ect.
face slapping, ect. now thats what i call not fun.
no tipping , constantly being called a slut, whore ect. i dont do anal and they just push and push until they finally leave . i let them walk all over me.
i just didnt know how to work my shows. i missed the whole point of camming. after time, experience and research i made the changes i needed.
finally i decided enough was enough and there had to be another way.
and was making half as much $. never got tips.
i reviewed the "raise your rates" also some of you ladies inspired me as well. i didnt even know models ask for tips during sm shows.. thats how far behind i was.
for me personally ive found i take full control as the bratty princess.
for me this role fits much better. i get treated with the respect that i want, amazing clients who spoil me with $ and i control my shows, and profit. \
its not unusual for me now to score $50 to 100 in tips from a member during a show ...where as before i never got a single cent. i know thats nothing compared to some of you ladies
but for me its a good start. i never felt i deserved that money. to be honest. i also never thought to simply ASK for tips.
so i made some adjustments, invested in my room decor ect.
thank you so much everyone here for the feedback. its been a learning process but i think i am finally where i want my career to be headed on SM.
i just needed to cut a few AP things polish up some details and adjust to fit the rules and what makes me happy as well as the client.
since a few days ago i made chances-no ages, no baby talk-- playing bratt 18 years old and its going equally well .. and just being myself. my room , my rules
i dont take shit from ANYONE anymore, hence i have over 900 members blocked on my SM account so far (and counting)
thank you for the feedback.
i hope others can learn from my errors thats why i am sharing these details in hopes others can learn as well.
Genoveve
07-04-2020, 08:14 PM
My profile is based on me being dominant and I have a bitchy, stuck up look so I don't really attract those abusive types because I don't think I come off as an easy target, but on the rare occasion that I do I like to fuck with them. One time I had some guy ask me if I would do XYZ in exclusive, I can't remember what it was but it was something involving me hurting myself, like I think he wanted me to fuck myself with some specific weird foreign object or something. I knew that he was a creep who just wanted to see me abuse myself for money so naturally I said "Ok." Then he went exclusive, I wasted his time and money by undressing slowly and asking him for more specifics on how he wanted me to do whatever it was and then right when it was time for me to finally do it I just broke the character, looked in the cam and was like "Do you ACTUALLY think I'm going to do that?? HAHAHAHA" and he immediately took off LOL. Never saw him again. Bye bye thnx for the money.
PixiieGirl
07-05-2020, 05:23 AM
I do actually do sub shows with some of the stuff you girls are talking about, slapping pain play name calling etc - but this is all stuff I like in my personal life to, and Ive kinda got good at working out who's genuinely a decent dom who's respectful of consent and boundaries still - and those who just get off on abuse - it definitely takes a skill to differentiate the two & the fact Im into d/s and bdsm in real life helps cause I learnt to do it in person to lol
so even when offering these sorts of shows - you can defo have boundaries and assert yourself with them!
princess_casual
07-05-2020, 06:21 AM
My profile is based on me being dominant and I have a bitchy, stuck up look so I don't really attract those abusive types because I don't think I come off as an easy target, but on the rare occasion that I do I like to fuck with them. One time I had some guy ask me if I would do XYZ in exclusive, I can't remember what it was but it was something involving me hurting myself, like I think he wanted me to fuck myself with some specific weird foreign object or something. I knew that he was a creep who just wanted to see me abuse myself for money so naturally I said "Ok." Then he went exclusive, I wasted his time and money by undressing slowly and asking him for more specifics on how he wanted me to do whatever it was and then right when it was time for me to finally do it I just broke the character, looked in the cam and was like "Do you ACTUALLY think I'm going to do that?? HAHAHAHA" and he immediately took off LOL. Never saw him again. Bye bye thnx for the money.
I 100% support this because FUCK these sickos, but I would be careful with that as SM might consider that "fraudulent" if the customer tries to do a charge-back. I can't imagine someone being so ballsy as to complain after asking you to penetrate yourself with a foreign object, but just something to keep in mind!
princess_casual
07-05-2020, 06:31 AM
omg honestly it was much worst before.
before i was letting these cheap clients control my shows. i thought if they buy exclusive that they control everything, literally whatever they wanted. . verbal abuse name calling . hardcore BDSM request ect.
face slapping, ect. now thats what i call not fun.
no tipping , constantly being called a slut, whore ect. i dont do anal and they just push and push until they finally leave . i let them walk all over me.
i just didnt know how to work my shows. i missed the whole point of camming. after time, experience and research i made the changes i needed.
finally i decided enough was enough and there had to be another way.
and was making half as much $. never got tips.
i reviewed the "raise your rates" also some of you ladies inspired me as well. i didnt even know models ask for tips during sm shows.. thats how far behind i was.
for me personally ive found i take full control as the bratty princess.
for me this role fits much better. i get treated with the respect that i want, amazing clients who spoil me with $ and i control my shows, and profit. \
its not unusual for me now to score $50 to 100 in tips from a member during a show ...where as before i never got a single cent. i know thats nothing compared to some of you ladies
but for me its a good start. i never felt i deserved that money. to be honest. i also never thought to simply ASK for tips.
so i made some adjustments, invested in my room decor ect.
thank you so much everyone here for the feedback. its been a learning process but i think i am finally where i want my career to be headed on SM.
i just needed to cut a few AP things polish up some details and adjust to fit the rules and what makes me happy as well as the client.
since a few days ago i made chances-no ages, no baby talk-- playing bratt 18 years old and its going equally well .. and just being myself. my room , my rules
i dont take shit from ANYONE anymore, hence i have over 900 members blocked on my SM account so far (and counting)
thank you for the feedback.
i hope others can learn from my errors thats why i am sharing these details in hopes others can learn as well.
This hurts my heart to read this.... Camming should be empowering. You are ALWAYS in control. Even if you are playing the submissive- you are giving the ILLUSION that they are in control, but anyone who is familiar with BDSM knows that it is about respect and consent. I rarely sub on cam because most guys who are looking for "subs" are just looking for doormat girls with no boundaries. Real Dom/Sub play is really about mutual pleasure- "making" the sub do things that she/he/they actually enjoy. Any guy who asks about sub play but refuses to get into specifics about what he is looking for or expects of you or asking about your turn ons and boundaries- don't do it.
I'm happy to hear you are in a better place and learning. Never be afraid to say no. Even if you are in a show and it goes too far for your comfort, shut it down! No amount of money is worth losing your dignity. The great thing is you can change your persona, your boundaries and consequently the kinds of members you bring in. The real money is in the respectful guys. This applies to your life off-cam too, btw. When you have confidence, you attract better people. And the more you learn how to stand up for yourself the more natural it will come to you.
MissAdriana
07-05-2020, 08:49 AM
There is always a reason why someone attracts a certain type of fetish crowd.
Do you know what would attract clients with a smoking fetish? I get daily questions if I smoke but no idea what's bringing them to my room. I don't smoke or vape and have no smoky looking / fog machine photos or anything
princess_casual
07-05-2020, 10:09 AM
Do you know what would attract clients with a smoking fetish? I get daily questions if I smoke but no idea what's bringing them to my room. I don't smoke or vape and have no smoky looking / fog machine photos or anything
Maybe you have luscious lips? Something in your tags? Have a sort of "bad girl" look? I have no idea... I'm not familiar with the fetish.
roseforarose
07-05-2020, 11:02 AM
Is there any sort of earning threshold we have to have met before asking to be able to raise our prices? I've not made much on SM yet but *really* want to be able to charge more than 5.99..
ggminx
07-05-2020, 01:38 PM
I can't remember exactly, but I think after streaming a certain amount of hours, the new prices popped up to the max level automatically
Is there any sort of earning threshold we have to have met before asking to be able to raise our prices? I've not made much on SM yet but *really* want to be able to charge more than 5.99..
My cam room is dead during these contests and all i get is new names that just enter and leave right away, no regulars, no nothing, i think these names popping in and out are actually bots. Cant be that nobody likes me or wants something from me!!
I want at least a free request, a hi, even an insult at this point. 2.5 hrs online and 30 cent made out of a dollar tip, this is insane.
bigbum
07-05-2020, 07:27 PM
This hurts my heart to read this.... Camming should be empowering. You are ALWAYS in control. Even if you are playing the submissive- you are giving the ILLUSION that they are in control, but anyone who is familiar with BDSM knows that it is about respect and consent. I rarely sub on cam because most guys who are looking for "subs" are just looking for doormat girls with no boundaries. Real Dom/Sub play is really about mutual pleasure- "making" the sub do things that she/he/they actually enjoy. Any guy who asks about sub play but refuses to get into specifics about what he is looking for or expects of you or asking about your turn ons and boundaries- don't do it.
I'm happy to hear you are in a better place and learning. Never be afraid to say no. Even if you are in a show and it goes too far for your comfort, shut it down! No amount of money is worth losing your dignity. The great thing is you can change your persona, your boundaries and consequently the kinds of members you bring in. The real money is in the respectful guys. This applies to your life off-cam too, btw. When you have confidence, you attract better people. And the more you learn how to stand up for yourself the more natural it will come to you.
literally everything you are saying is totally trude. since 1 month ago
i raised my rates, i push for tips, and i reinvest into my cam setup regularly. my income has doubled. and i feel great!
i really enjoy SM.
thank you for your kind words. i was really struggling to put food on the table after i was working in architecture and and i was never paid my sales commissions (more than $40,000 was stolen from me). when you are at that place where you have been cheated.feeling powerless.. it fucks with your mind and self-esteem.
just seeing you ladies doing well really motivated me. And your attitudes.
also my husband (treats me like a queen) i have him help with my shows, he blocks people for me ...and if a private gets even a little rude he boots them.
he is my little button presser lol. he texts me during shows reminds me to push for tips ect to help me out.
he also encourages me, lifts me up and just overall gives me the confidence to succeed and feel good everyday.
thanks to me sticking with camming and knowing my worth (which oddly in real life is not an issue its only on cam during that rough patch)
that i have grown as a person , as well my savings account.
i am now able to meet my visa requirements to move back to france and pursue my dreams of camming and living my best life.
all thanks to my hand work, and sm. and also liz at Sm for that matter .. and you ladies ofcourse.
i guess i just over stress about my account because it sounds too good to be true.
but i am happy i saw posts on here about roleplays and the limits with those because i had no idea.
happy i learned that now, rather than when it was too late.
princess_casual
07-06-2020, 03:23 AM
literally everything you are saying is totally trude. since 1 month ago
i raised my rates, i push for tips, and i reinvest into my cam setup regularly. my income has doubled. and i feel great!
i really enjoy SM.
thank you for your kind words. i was really struggling to put food on the table after i was working in architecture and and i was never paid my sales commissions (more than $40,000 was stolen from me). when you are at that place where you have been cheated.feeling powerless.. it fucks with your mind and self-esteem.
just seeing you ladies doing well really motivated me. And your attitudes.
also my husband (treats me like a queen) i have him help with my shows, he blocks people for me ...and if a private gets even a little rude he boots them.
he is my little button presser lol. he texts me during shows reminds me to push for tips ect to help me out.
he also encourages me, lifts me up and just overall gives me the confidence to succeed and feel good everyday.
thanks to me sticking with camming and knowing my worth (which oddly in real life is not an issue its only on cam during that rough patch)
that i have grown as a person , as well my savings account.
i am now able to meet my visa requirements to move back to france and pursue my dreams of camming and living my best life.
all thanks to my hand work, and sm. and also liz at Sm for that matter .. and you ladies ofcourse.
i guess i just over stress about my account because it sounds too good to be true.
but i am happy i saw posts on here about roleplays and the limits with those because i had no idea.
happy i learned that now, rather than when it was too late.
Ohh hey, fellow cam girl living in France! Congrats on the visa requirements :)
Money trouble really messes with one mentally and can make you feel like you are losing control, each missed pvt feels like a blow because bills are looming overhead. I get that 100%. And it's' a vicious cycle with camming because they can really smell desperation on girls. Even when I'm worried about paying rent I always try to think, "it's gonna work out" and maintain that level of confidence and positivity. Trust your gut with what feels right (with the exception where what feels right goes against site rules, lol). You said your husband treats you like a queen? GOOD! Channel that powerful sexy feeling you get when you are with him when you are on cam. The money will follow.
bigbum
07-06-2020, 11:42 PM
Ohh hey, fellow cam girl living in France! Congrats on the visa requirements :)
Money trouble really messes with one mentally and can make you feel like you are losing control, each missed pvt feels like a blow because bills are looming overhead. I get that 100%. And it's' a vicious cycle with camming because they can really smell desperation on girls. Even when I'm worried about paying rent I always try to think, "it's gonna work out" and maintain that level of confidence and positivity. Trust your gut with what feels right (with the exception where what feels right goes against site rules, lol). You said your husband treats you like a queen? GOOD! Channel that powerful sexy feeling you get when you are with him when you are on cam. The money will follow.
aww thanks for your kind words! where i am now with my camming is night and day compared when when i started during that rough patch. we live and learn right? haha
yes i am so excited to be checking off the french long stay visa financial requirements 1 by 1. i cant wait to get back 'Home" i lived there for 4 years.
have you been living in france long?
i have been working sooo hard.. so blessed that things are going well. ive saved up almost 10k so far.. woo hoo. small but considering 6 months ago i had ZERO and had to start my life all over savings wise.
once covid is over.. ill be ready to rock and roll back to france.
so excited for my long term cam career with SM and the opportunity to live wherever i want.
izshadow
07-07-2020, 12:14 AM
Pissing me off that people are coming in to private thinking we are in EX.... and its not newbies playing the system. Its real clients of mine that are being truthful. I lost a couple shows cause they couldnt get in to EX and I wouldnt C2C or get fully naked unless we were in EX.....