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Miss_ShaSha
01-13-2022, 12:00 PM
Has anyone got their direct deposit yet?

kamiliam
01-13-2022, 12:22 PM
Has anyone got their direct deposit yet?


I got mine.

LeilaB
01-13-2022, 12:29 PM
Any idea what happens when you report yourself?


Once my cat jumped on the bed when I was in a pvt, and was seen for a a few seconds. I e-mailed the european rep Catalina, told her about what happened, then she thanked for my report, and said there wouldn't be any issues, I wouldn't get banned as I reported the case. :)

SuperPookie
01-13-2022, 12:30 PM
I know ya all don’t like a lot of negative posts. But I will just say this about streamate!

I keep trying on this site and after today, I am done trying!

The site is totally dead for me! I sit in a dead room all the time.

There is no traffic. It’s a total turn off and I’m over it.

Changed my hair, decor , outfit and it made zero difference.

Goodbye streamate.

Some sites just don't work for some people so maybe SM is like that for you. It doesn't make you a negative person to not want to work somewhere that never makes you money even when it is running moderately smoothly which it seldom is anymore lol. You can move on to bigger & better things.

whirlerz
01-13-2022, 01:12 PM
I'm sorry, LL.

I get it.. So much so what Cutie said, also it right after holidays, a shitty time of year right now anyway.

I just tried Chaturbate, I put in my 2nd try for my ID approval

izshadow
01-13-2022, 01:12 PM
I hate myself. I do camming because I have issues that prevent me from doing other jobs. Now I have nothing. I went from making $2000 a week to nothing. Major depression now. I am asking to be banned for life. I was so positive when I logged on.. 4 hours of nada I’m so depressed I can’t think straight

I've been sitting with zero customers and zero potentials. I dont understand split camming or I would but usually on slow days, it is good to try another site for the day. Have a few eggs, even if one makes you the most money, the others can help on the bad days or weeks.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
01-13-2022, 01:18 PM
I hate myself. I do camming because I have issues that prevent me from doing other jobs. Now I have nothing. I went from making $2000 a week to nothing. Major depression now. I am asking to be banned for life. I was so positive when I logged on.. 4 hours of nada I’m so depressed I can’t think straight

Who do you want to ban you? Now I can't help too much with your depression because that's a very touchy area. I'm not a clinical expert nor will I pretend to be. But I can offer you assistance if you'd like someone to give you an honest critique on your camroom and chat style. Although I suspect this won't be the perfect solution I'd still offer that sort of support if you like. In addition please take a look at these threads for adult resources:

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?227165-Mental-Health-Services-For-Sexworkers

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?225921-Resources-For-Struggling-Cammodels

LeilaB
01-13-2022, 01:18 PM
Ladies, is anyone experiencing the tip glitch again? When gold tips doesn't show up in the feed, there's no vibration nor sound effect. Frustrating glitch!

Genoveve
01-13-2022, 01:26 PM
I know ya all don’t like a lot of negative posts. But I will just say this about streamate!

Goodbye streamate.

You made like 6 more posts after this echoing this one. /:O

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 01:26 PM
I hate myself. I do camming because I have issues that prevent me from doing other jobs. Now I have nothing. I went from making $2000 a week to nothing. Major depression now. I am asking to be banned for life. I was so positive when I logged on.. 4 hours of nada I’m so depressed I can’t think straight

What changed to get from 2k a week to 0? How long ago was it that you were on 2k a week? There must be something going on to be a relatively successful model to straight up zero. Idk where you are from but there was a location based algorithm switch up last year that could have changed something. How many favourites do you have? Have you messaged support or liz to see if there is anything wrong that they can pinpoint? I am sure there must be something wrong somewhere for your earning to drop so drastically. Didnit taper off gradually or are you coming back after a long break? Sorry for all the questions but we have a lot of experience between us all here maybe more troubleshooting is needed x

looklovely
01-13-2022, 02:07 PM
Who do you want to ban you? Now I can't help too much with your depression because that's a very touchy area. I'm not a clinical expert nor will I pretend to be. But I can offer you assistance if you'd like someone to give you an honest critique on your camroom and chat style. Although I suspect this won't be the perfect solution I'd still offer that sort of support if you like. In addition please take a look at these threads for adult resources:

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?227165-Mental-Health-Services-For-Sexworkers

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?225921-Resources-For-Struggling-Cammodels

I will take you up on that offer in regards to my gold shows.

Marina Starr
01-13-2022, 02:12 PM
Incest was never allowed. If anyone had always done them and haven't gotten in trouble, considered yourself lucky. With the new rules in place, you will get banned.

I will post what Liz said, again!

https://i.ibb.co/v1xtK00/sm.png (https://ibb.co/LSzG2VV)

Marina Starr
01-13-2022, 02:19 PM
In regard to and about negative posts, a lot of us have been very nice in giving advice even though we didn't have to take the time to help.
We are still very gracious even though the same posts were and still being repeated over and over. At this point, I wonder if the help that is wanted or attention...

I find this very sad!

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
01-13-2022, 02:28 PM
I will take you up on that offer in regards to my gold shows.

Slide into my DM's bb! ☺️

anonamiss
01-13-2022, 02:31 PM
i did not know mainly because on all of my clip store sites they are allowed and they let me post those roleplay videos without any issue so i know i should have read the new rules better but since i have been camming for years on SM and i never had any issues i thought i was doing the right thing by mentioning 18 and up only. and it sucks because i truly was not aware and i can't even get a second chance at reinstatement when i just did not know things had changed since i started camming.

i'm sorry for being blunt but i kind of doubt SM is going to give you a second chance for this. every time you log in you have to select those four boxes of general rules/agreements before you stream, and one of them is "i understand that violating the Code of Conduct is cause for account suspension and/or closure." agreeing to this is like signing a contract and implies you are aware of the rules and also keep up with the updates they send out to your inbox (and they have sent out multiple reminder messages about the rules). so to say you were truly not aware yet have been camming on SM for years basically tells them you've been ignoring all of their communication with models. here is the FAQ they sent in november: https://streamatehelp.com/streaming-rules-faq/

they emphasize that incest, rape, and underage roleplay would now be considered a "no tolerance" violation (likely due to new pressure/compliance from credit card companies), meaning if you get caught, your account will be closed after one strike. it has happened to multiple models already and has been discussed here on the forum.

i'm also fairly certain incest has always been against the rules because it is illegal, and illegal acts (or "depictions" thereof) are not allowed on the code of conduct. there's also been a lot of discussion here on this forum showing responses from tech support regarding incest, and the consensus always seems to be "step family is okay, otherwise no." you may have flown under the radar doing incest RP for years, but i would advise not mentioning that to Liz or another SM rep if you're begging to get your account back.

Genoveve
01-13-2022, 02:42 PM
I feel if I get banned from the cam site then it will prevent me from further trying to keep trying. Thats what I mean.

If you need to be banned from continuing to try then you obviously want to keep trying. So why are you on here posting repeatedly that you're quitting? Either decide that you're going to keep trying or give up and drop it.


Does anyone care!

I don't care to see your repetitive off-topic posts clogging up this thread.

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 02:45 PM
Oh shoot I havent been on in a while so I didnt know this was an ongoing thing, I just tried to get a better idea of the situation. Mainly because it is one thing to have a hard time on sm as a beginner, not gaining traction etc or having the site suddenly stop allowing you to list from a certain country and affecting your traffic that way. But it is another thing entirely to got from 2k a week to 0. Where did the regulars go? Not many people can clear 2k a week without some returning customers.

anonamiss
01-13-2022, 02:45 PM
I feel if I get banned from the cam site then it will prevent me from further trying to keep trying. Thats what I mean.

so do a gold show offering underage sister roleplay in the description. i guarantee you'll get banned quick if that's what you really want.

Genoveve
01-13-2022, 02:46 PM
Oh shoot I havent been on in a while so I didnt know this was an ongoing thing, I just tried to get a better idea of the situation. Mainly because it is one thing to have a hard time on sm as a beginner, not gaining traction etc or having the site suddenly stop allowing you to list from a certain country and affecting your traffic that way. But it is another thing entirely to got from 2k a week to 0. Where did the regulars go? Not many people can clear 2k a week without some returning customers.

Agreed. Definitely confusing, to say the least.

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 02:47 PM
There is literally a button on everyone's dashboard to ban yourself. Just click the sesta fosta report button and your account is killed.

On 2nd thought dont do that, it says not to due to dissatisfaction so that's not appropriate

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 03:06 PM
What is your rating on sm? Are you using geoblocking? Also do you have a fresh customer account where you can check your placement for new logged in members? Are you showing up on white labels? Sign up to one and look for your profile. Its very hard to believe that people spending 6k+ a week just....decided to stop without something drastic happening.

Teddy_Bear
01-13-2022, 03:09 PM
Getting away from the negativity and I've been guilty of it myself this month...

Has anyone else noticed that the RRT has changed to 'Quality Limitations' and the number now says 'none or 'bandwidth' so far I've seen when it's green or red? It's great and my earnings increased after this change tonight. Maybe they are fixing some glitches!

SuperPookie
01-13-2022, 03:11 PM
@ LuckyLaura
Just close your account. Once it is closed it is closed & if something changes that makes you think things will be different than you can reapply. There is no need to burn your bridges.
Perhaps rather than think of things which can get you banned of which there are many maybe try to log off SM for a bit and spend that time applying to other sites. I need my income from SM but there is no way I would survive on it alone so diversify.

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 03:15 PM
Idk but yesterday daytime was pretty dire for me (earning less than half my hourly average) but went back on in the evening and SOMETHING had switched. Dont know what but it was very cash money of them so thanks to whatever dev flicked some switches or whatever. Finished up the day over the hourly average. I know this isn't the stfo thread, but sometimes getting tf back on will turn your day around.

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 03:18 PM
Nah the smartest way to get banned would be to set up an account with a higher % like adultwork 65% or onlyfans 80%, and then spend as long as you can telling visitors to your room to go there for half price shows. If you are gonna burn bridges at least bring some money to the other side with you...

laurielegs
01-13-2022, 03:21 PM
Hi Laurie, which one you bought? i am still faking with a vibrator but i want defo buy it lovesense 2 or 3?
ty!

I got the Lush3. So far it's staying connected very well with SM and stripchat at the same time, responding to tips. I use the mobile app with the chrome extension.

MissAdriana
01-13-2022, 03:28 PM
56450

So apparently there are NEW rules to the activity feed and no nudity below waist is allowed EVEN IN THE PAID SECTION

laurielegs
01-13-2022, 03:34 PM
I don't have a customer account any more (for some reason they keep closing ones I try to open) so I can't check for myself. Can a customer view your tip toy levels on Streamate so they can see what amount of gold they have to tip to make it vibrate stronger/longer?

or do we have to point that out ourselves?

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 03:37 PM
We have to point it out

Also I havent been able to edit my levels for as long as I can remember

MissAdriana
01-13-2022, 03:42 PM
Has anyone else noticed that the RRT has changed to 'Quality Limitations' and the number now says 'none or 'bandwidth' so far I've seen when it's green or red? It's great and my earnings increased after this change tonight. Maybe they are fixing some glitches!

Mine still says RTT and ms #

bigbum
01-13-2022, 03:45 PM
i just found out my account was banned for "incest roleplay" for years i have worked their site and i always tell guys that i only do 18 and up fetish when it comes to that topic. so i did a sister roleplay show because i get guys asking me for this all the time. i had no idea it was against the site rules because for years i have had guys ask me for it and i never had any issues because i always make it clear it is 18 and up topics. so i got banned and this is my main source of income it has been for years now. idk what to do. boleyn says they cannot ask for me to get reinstated and that sm has a no tolerance policy when it comes to that but i legitimately did not know it was against the rules if i was talking about 18 and up. is there anything that i can do to get reinstated this is my main income and it has been for years.

did you mention it was STEP sis STEP brother ?
or we’re you just saying brother and sister
did the client not listen to you ?
what was the context of the show ?

Teddy_Bear
01-13-2022, 03:47 PM
Mine still says RTT and ms #

That's weird I've finished my shift tonight now but I'd be interested if it's the same for anyone else and if it changes back tomorrow.

laurielegs
01-13-2022, 04:09 PM
We have to point it out

Also I havent been able to edit my levels for as long as I can remember


The way I was able to edit my levels is that once I'm broadcasting and connected I clicked the blue button icon on the top (beside the spin the wheel icon thing).

"When you’ve successfully connected a toy and your Interactive Vibes button is blue, hover over it to see all active toys. If you click the blue button, you’ll see a more detailed list, and can click on any toy’s name to adjust the advanced settings."

It didn't let me edit until after I was broadcasting.

liquidsilk
01-13-2022, 04:45 PM
Yeah I've tried loads, when streaming too. The button to save just turns grey when I change anything.

Teddy_Bear
01-13-2022, 05:02 PM
5645656455

Just logged on again to make sure I'm not losing my mind and sure enough there is the new settings (rubbish numbers because I was showing a black screen to free chat) I don't stream with that bitrate or resolution haha.

No one else has this?!

VerryBerry
01-13-2022, 05:10 PM
56450

So apparently there are NEW rules to the activity feed and no nudity below waist is allowed EVEN IN THE PAID SECTION

No below waist nudity in private / exclusive chat? Is that what you mean? On Streamate? That has to be a joke. Or am I totally reading that wrong? Below the waist nudity has never been allowed in free chat but more than welcome in paid private and exclusive chat.

kamiliam
01-13-2022, 06:05 PM
No below waist nudity in private / exclusive chat? Is that what you mean? On Streamate? That has to be a joke. Or am I totally reading that wrong? Below the waist nudity has never been allowed in free chat but more than welcome in paid private and exclusive chat.

I think that is just for the activity feed, not shows.

freyasnecklace
01-13-2022, 06:29 PM
I decided to report myself for some sph that might have crossed into race-play territory. I emailed sm for clarifications on race play/ humiliation and they said: Humliation is allowed, but race play is definitely not allowed.

I thought it was ok consensual and exclusive so long as it wasn’t extreme ( like not getting to close to age play with Daddy/Mommy)

Anyway, hoping the email clarification and self reporting will prevent a possible ban since I’ve shown goodwill. A little terrified.

whirlerz
01-13-2022, 06:42 PM
I hope it turns out ok ^

MissTrust
01-13-2022, 06:45 PM
5645656455

Just logged on again to make sure I'm not losing my mind and sure enough there is the new settings (rubbish numbers because I was showing a black screen to free chat) I don't stream with that bitrate or resolution haha.

No one else has this?!

This is how my settings look as well! Just getting back online after a few days off but this is the first I've noticed this change.

roseforarose
01-13-2022, 07:24 PM
Yeah I've tried loads, when streaming too. The button to save just turns grey when I change anything.

Its the same for me too, I can't save any changes I make to the lush levels. Also inputting the changes is glitchy too, when I try to change the amount for the higher levels it messes up the lower ones- so even if I could save the numbers would make no sense!

For now I'm just telling members to tip X amount for the highest buzz, despite my settings not being that amount aha

Halestorm
01-13-2022, 07:52 PM
Does anyone worry when that big spender hasn't visited you in a week or so? Lmao I hate my anxiety

VVV
01-13-2022, 07:54 PM
I decided to report myself for some sph that might have crossed into race-play territory. I emailed sm for clarifications on race play/ humiliation and they said: Humliation is allowed, but race play is definitely not allowed.

I thought it was ok consensual and exclusive so long as it wasn’t extreme ( like not getting to close to age play with Daddy/Mommy)

Anyway, hoping the email clarification and self reporting will prevent a possible ban since I’ve shown goodwill. A little terrified.

What was the main concern? sph humiliation to white cocks vs BBC etc...this was your concern? Try to avoid that but yes got BBC lover tag whatever. Saying that I prefer black instead of white Isn't a race play= ban?? Right?? I don t n*** and racism terms. Xx
I blocked few for rape/incest kind of..lately and ppl offer money for meeting....I blabla i block straight away them. One ask the roleplay "being abused by a group of guys."..I blocked and report not sure if I did right but to me was a rape roleplay.

VVV
01-13-2022, 07:57 PM
Does anyone worry when that big spender hasn't visited you in a week or so? Lmao I hate my anxiety

Another big spender will be there soon for you if the other one isn't there anymore! Xx

izshadow
01-13-2022, 08:07 PM
56450

So apparently there are NEW rules to the activity feed and no nudity below waist is allowed EVEN IN THE PAID SECTION

What?! What do you mean even in the paid section?

freyasnecklace
01-13-2022, 08:22 PM
What was the main concern? sph humiliation to white cocks vs BBC etc...this was your concern? Try to avoid that but yes got BBC lover tag whatever. Saying that I prefer black instead of white Isn't a race play= ban?? Right?? I don t n*** and racism terms. Xx
I blocked few for rape/incest kind of..lately and ppl offer money for meeting....I blabla i block straight away them. One ask the roleplay "being abused by a group of guys."..I blocked and report not sure if I did right but to me was a rape roleplay.

Yes, and a ton of Asian dudes wanting similar. “BBC is better than Asian dick” etc. I had a few c2c guys when I opened my account (black dudes) wanting me to worship and say no hard r N-word cock. I said no, re-read the policy, and then determined it meant like… maliciously being racist in free or private (12. Harassment is the only place it mentions this). I took a few shows, but saw some here questioning using queer/f—got in sissy rp. So, I emailed them and they said “no race play.”

I didn’t want to get nailed from the n cock loving shows out of the blue. So, I self reported, discussed my mistake, said I had emailed to clarify, understand the rules, etc etc

Kind of a bummer because it’s like… complimentary to their dick and they like it. Where as faggot and humiliation is totally fine. Just a large chunk of money because these guys want to hear the sleeziest naughtiest thing. “I want you to wreck me with that big black cock” is probably fine? But, it doesn’t do it for most of those guys. I have a lot of complaints because essentially most sph is some sort of racial degradation even if it is light. Then there is the unavoidable and constant race fetish of non-white models. And of course the obvious ddlg models.

In light of all that and the fact that they have a different code of conduct linked under the “stream” button that says absolutely nothing about it— hopefully, my disclosure will be accepted with a slap rather than a ban.

kamiliam
01-13-2022, 08:53 PM
I do a lot of bbc and cuck shows, and use the “boring” dirty talk exclusively. Works out just fine, I guess the only thing I am worried about is sph. My understanding is that I can still talk shit about white guys, right? Obviously no slurs but if I can reference a BWC I should be able to say the reverse. I and many others don’t believe you can be racist against white people, they are the majority and do not face systematic oppression.

roseforarose
01-13-2022, 08:59 PM
I have a lot of complaints because essentially most sph is some sort of racial degradation even if it is light. Then there is the unavoidable and constant race fetish of non-white models.

I'm not sure what way you do sph but it's 100% possible to do it with out any hint of raceplay. SPH/femdom isn't my main thing but I never do any sort of raceplay with sph (not even 'positive' raceplay). There are a thousand ways to make fun of a tiny dick without it being routed in racism, you can definitely find a way to do so if you need to. You might need to just adapt how you approach the topic.

I do see both sides of allowing or banning raceplay from the site, (everyone is contesting adults so...meh. But also, dealing with the culture of a site with a LOT of racist men can be horrible if you're not the one who comes out on top in that power dynamic). But honestly there are lots of ways to hustle w/o raceplay, I see why the site doesn't allow it as it can easily be seen as discrimination and hate speech from an outside perspective.

I think the definition can be a bit grey but I assume SM is taking anything negative to do with race as raceplay. Things like worshipping/fetishization probably aren't counted, although to me it's still raceplay.

(I've tried to make this as impartial as possible, so I hope it doesn't come across as rude, that's not my intent!)

MissTrust
01-13-2022, 09:50 PM
Has anyone been having issues with c2c? It will not connect automatically even after multiple attempts, I have to manually accept. Also, I had a guy using his phone and his cam was HUGE on my end...I couldn't adjust it and it was bigger than I keep my own cam preview. It's always been the same size for every member...I hope this isn't a new update they are working on.


Also having a glitch where I have been accepting exclusive session requests and nothing happens, multiple times with the same member. I just stayed in free chat. After 3 attempts they took me private (so I thought since no popup this time) but they were charged as an exclusive?! So either a glitch or a delay. So excited for this contest coming up with all these glitches happening already....not.

freyasnecklace
01-13-2022, 10:14 PM
I'm not sure what way you do sph but it's 100% possible to do it with out any hint of raceplay. SPH/femdom isn't my main thing but I never do any sort of raceplay with sph (not even 'positive' raceplay). There are a thousand ways to make fun of a tiny dick without it being routed in racism, you can definitely find a way to do so if you need to. You might need to just adapt how you approach the topic.

I do see both sides of allowing or banning raceplay from the site, (everyone is contesting adults so...meh. But also, dealing with the culture of a site with a LOT of racist men can be horrible if you're not the one who comes out on top in that power dynamic). But honestly there are lots of ways to hustle w/o raceplay, I see why the site doesn't allow it as it can easily be seen as discrimination and hate speech from an outside perspective.

I think the definition can be a bit grey but I assume SM is taking anything negative to do with race as raceplay. Things like worshipping/fetishization probably aren't counted, although to me it's still raceplay.

(I've tried to make this as impartial as possible, so I hope it doesn't come across as rude, that's not my intent!)

I mean, I do feel “called out.” But, I’ve been in RT, lifestyle, and online fetish for over 15 years.

This is why I hate admitting to sensitive topics because of backlash, but do want to share and be honest. The response of “Well, I never do that or get that type of show.” Not that what anyone is saying isn’t valid or is “high-horse.” It is just what I’m saying is truly my experience.

For over a decade the custies I get usually talk about BBC being better than their tiny white/Asian weenie at some point. Which, I usually respond to with something about being a size queen or loving thick cocks. But, I also do say BBC is better. I dislike vanilla-ish humiliation. I want to remove the worthless thing between their legs. I don’t have to engage in comparison, but … in my experience it definitely is a huge demand.

I’m not saying slurs are the same as tiny (race) cock compared to BBC. I’m saying that SM’s code of conduct is different in two places. It’s a bit odd to say “no race-play but humiliation is fine.” Yes, they likely mean slurs— but do say race play.

I certainly can and will engage in less heated humiliation strictly because of rules. My gripe isn’t with not doing it or following rules so much as the fact that I can say all sorts of hateful things but that particular rule also says not to say hateful mean or obscene things.

I like clear boundaries. This is my wheel house. I crush balls in the hot summers of Texas at Festivals —in latex— for fun. So, I get SM and payment processors and why things can be vague.

My fetish cheerios have just been pissed in. I get it, though. I am not touching on race or mommy/daddy with camming any longer. Or like, owning cock /cum.

I just had a video rejected for “non-consent” because it was about making their cock/cum mine. To me, that is femdom, seduction, breeding fantasy. I guess they see it as cnc. I might have to dial back every damn fetish. Is owning cock CNC?! Arrrgggg