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bigbum
05-01-2022, 06:46 PM
Amazing hun , you must be very chuffed! Just goes to show hard work and the right attitude always pays off! Xx

last year i didnt even get in the top 1000 ever.
then i finally started ranking and picking up a few small bonuses.
then i started climbing little by little.

often on the first night ive been in the top 10. and then something comes up.
i was finally ready this time to rank high but my flow was way to heavy.
i will be pushing forward and continue to be inspired by florida sundoll and goldfish and others on here.
ill be ready for the next one.

if you put your mind to it and adapt your hustle, i believe you can do anything with the resources that SM provides with good traffic.
if you want better traffic i advise focusing on your hustle and improving your hourly wage to rank higher on the site.
so during contests you dont fall to the 2nd or 3rd page (which always happened to me)
i am constantly changing my hustle, constantly moving, constantly talking. i dont rest for 1 minute online. i dont keep my phone on, no surfing the web, i dont even change the music, i allow myself a few sips of water and thats it i focus 100% on my sales. i dont take no for an answer from traffic that enters my room.
i can easily sweat off 1.5 pounds during a 3 hour shift just from moving and working my body.

i see both sides of what you ladies are saying.
its possible . it can be done.
so many months of it saying "sorry you arent in the top 1500"

bigbum
05-01-2022, 06:46 PM
Have you seen how many girls are doing sleep shows!? I counted 14 on a first page the other day lol I thought it’s total BS as u drop $/hour but if they are doing it that means it’s working ?
I personally would never ever be able to do it I can’t even relax my posture during camming or face leave alone place myself on a bed with bunch of eyes watching lol
i would worry it would mess with my placement.

ravenskyy
05-01-2022, 06:54 PM
You stated an opinion so I stated an opinion that’s what forum
for isn’t it? You said it’s not worth and not fair to do contest I disagreed and explain why. If you don’t agree it’s ok . You don’t have to put 63 hours to place in contest there are many others including on forum who enjoy contest week too and placed in contests

Obviously one of the reason “middle earning models” doing worse because lots of top models are on many hours so that’s why you said “you suffer”. Well tough it’s life . All of us just want to come and bank right away with lower competition but that’s not the case so it is what it is. There is a choice not to stream during contest week if it’s that bad and spread these hours over other weeks. SM think of their revenue as they should as we all would do if we ran our business

My point was that I didn't ask for your opinion or your input on my thoughts or experiences, so I don't know why you keep trying to argue my opinions. This is the second time you have done this with one of my posts. Did you not learn the first time? We aren't going to see eye to eye, so why bother someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Lol

Your entire point has literally been telling me that maybe I don't work hard enough and constantly shoving in my face how other girls like the contests and are doing well. Lmfao, good for them! I never asked about that! lol and my point is that I find the added stress and extra hurdles that the contests create, to be frustrating and not worth it.

You literally keep trying to shove your opinion down my throat and I'm telling you to instead, take it and shove it up your ass. I rarely get like this with people, I usually choose my words a little more wisely, but I am seriously tired of people these days. If someone tells you to leave them alone, just do it! It's not that hard! I don't care if this forum is public, you quoted me and directed your responses to me. Therefore, you were talking to me. And I've made it clear that I don't want to talk to you. You can state your opinion and not talk to me. Trust me, I do it all the time.

I will respect the fact that you like these contests, so kindly do the same for me and respect the fact that I don't!

Thanks!

MelanieJ
05-01-2022, 07:01 PM
I was just complaining about the SM issues and ended up getting a paypig from back in October. $569 in a session. GOD DAMN I'm glad I got online today!!!! I was THIS CLOSE to just calling it a day :eek::eek::eek::dance:

gbjenna
05-01-2022, 07:04 PM
I have been working on a niche/fetish website nearly every night for the past year before I joined SM. When the new model novelty wore off, obviously, my privates slowed somewhat, although I have regulars now. I reached out to the website owner and asked him if traffic had slowed there. He said "no" but suggested that I may want to stream less frequently to “make them miss me” because the mentality of the users is “oh, she is always online and will always be there so let me try this other girl tonight, instead.”

Last week, I devoted all my time to SM ( I do not split-cam) and logged back into my other niche site last night for a few hours. I had tons of guys ask where I had been, they missed me, blah blah blah, and actually had more privates and made more money in one night than I had over there in a long time last night.

So, my question is what do you seasoned ladies think of this approach on SM? Do you think streaming less frequently can help and make our camming experience less tiresome and more efficient? Perhaps, this is the strategy of the top models who come out during contest time? I don’t know, I’m still learning how all this works but dont want to shoot myself in the foot. Thoughts?

I do personally think there can be such thing as being too available or predictable. Being less predictable or available could mean anything depending on the person. Changing your look or room slightly, switching up your hours a tad or maybe taking Saturday off, when you’re normally always available every Saturday without fail.. anything.
I don’t think it’s something that should be overthought though. I think the most important thing is to get online, build your customer base and try to be conscious of what you’re doing so you can figure out what works best and tweak things as you go. If things start to feel a bit stale or slow, could something be tweaked or are you doing something different that’s not serving you?

Luckygoldfish
05-02-2022, 12:26 AM
telling you to instead, take it and shove it up your ass.

Thanks![/QUOTE]
Well that’s just rude :)
I would quote whoever I want whenever I want without your permission .
Thank you very much :)
I am not surprise you are not doing well with that kind of negative attitude and constant complaining.

ggminx
05-02-2022, 12:41 AM
Have you seen how many girls are doing sleep shows!? I counted 14 on a first page the other day lol I thought it’s total BS as u drop $/hour but if they are doing it that means it’s working ?
I personally would never ever be able to do it I can’t even relax my posture during camming or face leave alone place myself on a bed with bunch of eyes watching lol

omg...i couldn't imagine doing a sleep show unless it was requested in paid chat. i'm one of those perfect sexy posture beeeeches when sitting in free chat

Percy
05-02-2022, 01:04 AM
I do personally think there can be such thing as being too available or predictable. Being less predictable or available could mean anything depending on the person. Changing your look or room slightly, switching up your hours a tad or maybe taking Saturday off, when you’re normally always available every Saturday without fail.. anything.
I don’t think it’s something that should be overthought though. I think the most important thing is to get online, build your customer base and try to be conscious of what you’re doing so you can figure out what works best and tweak things as you go. If things start to feel a bit stale or slow, could something be tweaked or are you doing something different that’s not serving you?

Second this.

I typically kept a cam schedule and a PSO schedule and I do take random days off and switch up pics and greetings. It helps. I never let them know exactly when I am online. I always say I try to be on certain hours but, it varies based on other factors. :) Some days ill work a day and not a night and a night and not a day. Really helps gwt new people to talk to you.

Angela888
05-02-2022, 01:31 AM
omg...i couldn't imagine doing a sleep show unless it was requested in paid chat. i'm one of those perfect sexy posture beeeeches when sitting in free chat

I couldn’t do sleep shows, it’s just too personal for me. That’s my time… no perves allowed

Angela888
05-02-2022, 01:33 AM
Love this! So high vibe… xx


QUOTE=bigbum;3283127]last year i didnt even get in the top 1000 ever.
then i finally started ranking and picking up a few small bonuses.
then i started climbing little by little.

often on the first night ive been in the top 10. and then something comes up.
i was finally ready this time to rank high but my flow was way to heavy.
i will be pushing forward and continue to be inspired by florida sundoll and goldfish and others on here.
ill be ready for the next one.

if you put your mind to it and adapt your hustle, i believe you can do anything with the resources that SM provides with good traffic.
if you want better traffic i advise focusing on your hustle and improving your hourly wage to rank higher on the site.
so during contests you dont fall to the 2nd or 3rd page (which always happened to me)
i am constantly changing my hustle, constantly moving, constantly talking. i dont rest for 1 minute online. i dont keep my phone on, no surfing the web, i dont even change the music, i allow myself a few sips of water and thats it i focus 100% on my sales. i dont take no for an answer from traffic that enters my room.
i can easily sweat off 1.5 pounds during a 3 hour shift just from moving and working my body.

i see both sides of what you ladies are saying.
its possible . it can be done.
so many months of it saying "sorry you arent in the top 1500"[/QUOTE]

bigbum
05-02-2022, 01:53 AM
I couldn’t do sleep shows, it’s just too personal for me. That’s my time… no perves allowed

haha yeah! also i would get annoyed with all the free loaders i couldnt ban who would be stroking to me sleeping for free. that would make me so mad. lol

ggminx
05-02-2022, 02:46 AM
this is really inspiring!

different perspectives and opinions are important so we do not end up in an echo chamber/vacuum

the first few years i was on SM, id try to work as many hours as possible during the contests and then would flake out on my normal schedule bc i was absolutely shattered. it would be really disappointing if all i got was the bottom prize or knocked off the prize list altogether.

the last 2 years, i changed my approach to only work my normal schedule, contest or not. sometimes i place, sometimes placing really well (for me, that's around 150-200), or sometimes not at all. it depends on the type of contest. i do not ever mention the contest in my room and pretend like it's a normal day/week.

we are always going to find things we do not like about our jobs, dream job or not. how we approach the parts we do not like matters a lot. for example, teachers give grades to their students whether they believe in grading or not. they give grades to be successful at their job of being a teacher.

i remember this one italian dude i met while living in a particular country about 10 years ago. he owned a pizza shop in the middle of all these other pizza shops. and he was always boasting "my pizza is the best pizza." he could give 2 effs if other pizza shops were having sales or promos, he had the best pizza. i was a regular at his place bc i loved his pizza. i asked him if he was worried about the other pizza shops considering there were so many in such close proximity. he was like, i could care less about those pizza shops. if i cared, i would fail. my pizza is the best pizza! so now i use that phrase to pump me up

we have things we dislike in our job as cammodels, free chat, contests, it might be the same or different for everyone. we have things we LOVE in our jobs, freedom, working from home, etc.

self-confidence in owning our behaviors, attitudes, and reactions is a huge help, whether it's in this forum, in free chat, or dealing with a boundary pushing spender in paid chat. we all love to vent and need to as well. sometimes our well-meaning words can come across as invalidating feelings when someone was trying to do just the opposite because we did not word it properly. when we aren't doing or feeling our best, we can react in ways we normally wouldn't.

i'm a non-nude domme. i know people come to SM looking for vanilla stuff and some people come for domme stuff. i work on my approach and adjust my reactions so i can flip the script confidently rather than get defensive. i've realized getting defensive will dry that wallet up and move it on out of my room. for example, i now encourage someone to keep begging me in paid chat IF they enjoy rejection and denial, when i used to get defensive and clam up saying i'm a non-nude domme. some people self-professed into vanilla only will become regulars after telling me they are attracted to my confidence.

ETA: one of my approaches to engage with those communicating with me in free chat is to pretend their wallet has a lock and there's a magic combination to make it explode wide open. some combinations are easier than others :)

i used to say hello to everyone entering my room. now i only engage with those that type to me first and hone my bullseye on them

most are there to spend...the minority trolls. there are negatives that happen in our work and lives. turning the negative into a positive by reframing without ruminating is the aim of the game. self care is super important too


last year i didnt even get in the top 1000 ever.
then i finally started ranking and picking up a few small bonuses.
then i started climbing little by little.

often on the first night ive been in the top 10. and then something comes up.
i was finally ready this time to rank high but my flow was way to heavy.
i will be pushing forward and continue to be inspired by florida sundoll and goldfish and others on here.
ill be ready for the next one.

if you put your mind to it and adapt your hustle, i believe you can do anything with the resources that SM provides with good traffic.
if you want better traffic i advise focusing on your hustle and improving your hourly wage to rank higher on the site.
so during contests you dont fall to the 2nd or 3rd page (which always happened to me)
i am constantly changing my hustle, constantly moving, constantly talking. i dont rest for 1 minute online. i dont keep my phone on, no surfing the web, i dont even change the music, i allow myself a few sips of water and thats it i focus 100% on my sales. i dont take no for an answer from traffic that enters my room.
i can easily sweat off 1.5 pounds during a 3 hour shift just from moving and working my body.

i see both sides of what you ladies are saying.
its possible . it can be done.
so many months of it saying "sorry you arent in the top 1500"

liquidsilk
05-02-2022, 02:58 AM
New room topic: my pizza is best pizza.

Angela888
05-02-2022, 03:24 AM
Hey,
Top models rarely say who they are on forums, most prob because of this type of stuff. You do come across as a bit bitter hun and your choice of language is not cool. Lucky has her perspective which is worthy and relevant and you have yours, again just as worthy. I think every cam site has contests because they want models online and make more money. Camming is not easy and you have to put a lot into it to make great money, just like any job and yes contest weeks can be hard going for many models but that’s the nature of business.
When I’m not doing as well, I always look at my set up and think what can I change, adapt things a bit, tweak things. I feel your pain at contests but you can make it work for you.
Sending everyone a big positive hug.




My point was that I didn't ask for your opinion or your input on my thoughts or experiences, so I don't know why you keep trying to argue my opinions. This is the second time you have done this with one of my posts. Did you not learn the first time? We aren't going to see eye to eye, so why bother someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Lol

Your entire point has literally been telling me that maybe I don't work hard enough and constantly shoving in my face how other girls like the contests and are doing well. Lmfao, good for them! I never asked about that! lol and my point is that I find the added stress and extra hurdles that the contests create, to be frustrating and not worth it.

You literally keep trying to shove your opinion down my throat and I'm telling you to instead, take it and shove it up your ass. I rarely get like this with people, I usually choose my words a little more wisely, but I am seriously tired of people these days. If someone tells you to leave them alone, just do it! It's not that hard! I don't care if this forum is public, you quoted me and directed your responses to me. Therefore, you were talking to me. And I've made it clear that I don't want to talk to you. You can state your opinion and not talk to me. Trust me, I do it all the time.

I will respect the fact that you like these contests, so kindly do the same for me and respect the fact that I don't!

Thanks!

SapphireXO
05-02-2022, 05:30 AM
Besides the MFC top 1000, SM is the only site I've worked that gives bonuses on a regular basis that isn't for just the top 10. I do enjoy that aspect. I work a lot of different eggs at the same time just so I am not site dependent. Might be for the best but also to my demise. This past month I've worked around 38 hours a week but only 20-25 hours on SM. Gosh.

Maybe I should just simply everything and just go on SM. Ya'll got me thinking!!!

ggminx
05-02-2022, 05:41 AM
New room topic: my pizza is best pizza.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

my partner and i laugh about it all the time and we will randomly say it...or even pump fists on it before i head into a shift...the funniest was especially during the 2016 US presidential campaign, my partner was like, did he meet the italian pizza guy and build his entire campaign off him?!?!?! :rotfl: :rotfl:

ravenskyy
05-02-2022, 07:11 AM
I'm glad that my choice of language was "not cool". That was the point!

Aaaaaanyway, let's all move on lol It's a new week.

naughtybabe1
05-02-2022, 07:46 AM
Ugh..slow morning today. Why do I do this to myself? Come on cam gods...send me a whale..or at least some fucking guppies...

Susperia
05-02-2022, 08:16 AM
Anyone else noticing an influx of old customers from years ago.....I've seen several lately and wondering why they are coming out of the woodwork all of a sudden.

liquidsilk
05-02-2022, 08:23 AM
HQ sent out $50 credit to my customer account yesterday because they miss me. Could have been a mail shot.

I thought it might have been triggered by individual spending patterns but the old customers returning suggests it could be more widespread.

JessRyan
05-02-2022, 08:34 AM
60+ hours a week it’s extraordinary , I don’t do 60 hours every week it’s only once in few months I make time especially for long contest otherwise I hardly stream during normal weeks . 10-15 hours max.(often 0 lol) However I agree with the girl who said the best way is to stream consistently (20-30 hours a week) and I believe SM prioritise these models as well . I believe they promote models which stream consistently and yes more new people would notice you as well.
I have noticed however you get boost of traffic after long absence but that lasts only couple shifts . I had my best traffic when I worked 120+ hours without long gaps (last year) but since then I was struggling to find motivation to stream during non-contest weeks
if regulars get bored you can always find a way to surprise them with new “look” videos , ideas for show, stories ,interactive toys and ect . It really helps

Congratulations on your contest placement.
I may have missed it, but how many hours a week do you usually cam?
I've had privacy issues (as well as family events) that has made it near impossible for me to do live cam shows. (Thank god for my OF in times like these)
But the lack of privacy should be ending next month & I really want to be on SM more.

Angela888
05-02-2022, 08:36 AM
Ugh..slow morning today. Why do I do this to myself? Come on cam gods...send me a whale..or at least some fucking guppies...

I know I was same this morning, I came off worked out, did some cooking etc and going on tonight instead. Good luck everyone xx

naughtybabe1
05-02-2022, 10:22 AM
I know I was same this morning, I came off worked out, did some cooking etc and going on tonight instead. Good luck everyone xx

Ok..the cam gods heard my prayers and I got 2 whales and it got more busy. Made over my low goal so I'm happy. I'll be on for 8 hours tonight so I'm taking a nap. Thank u cam gods!!

JessRyan
05-02-2022, 11:55 AM
HQ sent out $50 credit to my customer account yesterday because they miss me. Could have been a mail shot.

I thought it might have been triggered by individual spending patterns but the old customers returning suggests it could be more widespread.

I'll check mine. If they sent me $$ I'll start tipping!! ;-)

bigbum
05-02-2022, 07:55 PM
Hey,
Top models rarely say who they are on forums, most prob because of this type of stuff. You do come across as a bit bitter hun and your choice of language is not cool. Lucky has her perspective which is worthy and relevant and you have yours, again just as worthy. I think every cam site has contests because they want models online and make more money. Camming is not easy and you have to put a lot into it to make great money, just like any job and yes contest weeks can be hard going for many models but that’s the nature of business.
When I’m not doing as well, I always look at my set up and think what can I change, adapt things a bit, tweak things. I feel your pain at contests but you can make it work for you.
Sending everyone a big positive hug.

my thoughts exactly. perfect summary.

bigbum
05-02-2022, 07:57 PM
this is really inspiring!

different perspectives and opinions are important so we do not end up in an echo chamber/vacuum

the first few years i was on SM, id try to work as many hours as possible during the contests and then would flake out on my normal schedule bc i was absolutely shattered. it would be really disappointing if all i got was the bottom prize or knocked off the prize list altogether.

the last 2 years, i changed my approach to only work my normal schedule, contest or not. sometimes i place, sometimes placing really well (for me, that's around 150-200), or sometimes not at all. it depends on the type of contest. i do not ever mention the contest in my room and pretend like it's a normal day/week.

we are always going to find things we do not like about our jobs, dream job or not. how we approach the parts we do not like matters a lot. for example, teachers give grades to their students whether they believe in grading or not. they give grades to be successful at their job of being a teacher.

i remember this one italian dude i met while living in a particular country about 10 years ago. he owned a pizza shop in the middle of all these other pizza shops. and he was always boasting "my pizza is the best pizza." he could give 2 effs if other pizza shops were having sales or promos, he had the best pizza. i was a regular at his place bc i loved his pizza. i asked him if he was worried about the other pizza shops considering there were so many in such close proximity. he was like, i could care less about those pizza shops. if i cared, i would fail. my pizza is the best pizza! so now i use that phrase to pump me up

we have things we dislike in our job as cammodels, free chat, contests, it might be the same or different for everyone. we have things we LOVE in our jobs, freedom, working from home, etc.

self-confidence in owning our behaviors, attitudes, and reactions is a huge help, whether it's in this forum, in free chat, or dealing with a boundary pushing spender in paid chat. we all love to vent and need to as well. sometimes our well-meaning words can come across as invalidating feelings when someone was trying to do just the opposite because we did not word it properly. when we aren't doing or feeling our best, we can react in ways we normally wouldn't.

i'm a non-nude domme. i know people come to SM looking for vanilla stuff and some people come for domme stuff. i work on my approach and adjust my reactions so i can flip the script confidently rather than get defensive. i've realized getting defensive will dry that wallet up and move it on out of my room. for example, i now encourage someone to keep begging me in paid chat IF they enjoy rejection and denial, when i used to get defensive and clam up saying i'm a non-nude domme. some people self-professed into vanilla only will become regulars after telling me they are attracted to my confidence.

ETA: one of my approaches to engage with those communicating with me in free chat is to pretend their wallet has a lock and there's a magic combination to make it explode wide open. some combinations are easier than others :)

i used to say hello to everyone entering my room. now i only engage with those that type to me first and hone my bullseye on them

most are there to spend...the minority trolls. there are negatives that happen in our work and lives. turning the negative into a positive by reframing without ruminating is the aim of the game. self care is super important too

i love this approach. this will get you far in life with this attitude. lots of great wisdom here

VVV
05-03-2022, 09:21 AM
just asking. we can send pictures by message to clients that are not in our gallery? like everyday clothes, holidays pictures etc? ty xx

Angela888
05-03-2022, 10:41 AM
Got a lot of quickies today. I thought we made money the moment we went exclusive. I've been in 4 40 second exclusives and I haven't made anything off of them

Yes I noticed this too very annoying please god let it not be like private’s 60 secs free is a nightmare , from a business perspective I can see why they do it but I’ve never had one come back and take me private from free loading for 60 secs

Angela888
05-03-2022, 10:41 AM
just asking. we can send pictures by message to clients that are not in our gallery? like everyday clothes, holidays pictures etc? ty xx

Yes I think u can, I have but not for ages x

kamiliam
05-03-2022, 10:57 AM
Private and exclusive have the same rules re: when they are charged

fetishqueen
05-03-2022, 11:11 AM
And I seriously wish they would do away with the free time in private once a show has started. I've seen guys come in and out and back in again and it's awkward to block them and spoils it for the paying guy or guys. Given the reasons they offer the free time, I see no reason for it to still be allowed when they join a show in progress.

emkato
05-03-2022, 11:15 AM
Yes I noticed this too very annoying please god let it not be like private’s 60secs free is a nightmare , from a business perspective I can see why they do it but I’ve never had one come back and take me private from free loading for 60secs

its a feature that is abused to no end. nothing good comes from it other than freeloaders being rewarded for, well, freeloading. There's nothing about it that benefits us models in any way. The names that used to appear in and out of my private shows were usernames id NEVER see any other time. they hop from private to private, prob spend all day doing it.

Thankfully it doesn't happen to me anymore since I started charging more for privates than exclusives. They see the price and nope tf out of there. granted the 60 second rule applies for both privates and exclusives, but its abused tenfold in privates because its usually(not always) the cheaper option and we cannot deny the show.

Genoveve
05-03-2022, 11:27 AM
I've seen guys come in and out and back in again and it's awkward to block them and spoils it for the paying guy or guys.

I don’t care if it spoils it for the paying guys. Private is cheaper because it’s communal, I feel like if they don’t want me to have to stop or get interrupted by me policing my room then they need to pony up the money for 1-on-1. They’re paying less to not have my undivided attention basically. Also when I’m in pvt I refuse to do anything that would require me to be less than like 3 feet away from my laptop and I flat-out tell them that it’s because in pvt I need to be able to constantly monitor and police my room.

Erika_Xstacy
05-03-2022, 11:28 AM
^^^ i thought they had 60 secs ;)

ravenskyy
05-03-2022, 12:10 PM
Is anyone else having issues with their camera constantly disconnecting? I can't tell if it's SM, my laptop or this logitech brio camera.

whirlerz
05-03-2022, 01:15 PM
Is anyone else having issues with their camera constantly disconnecting? I can't tell if it's SM, my laptop or this logitech brio camera.

This morning, mycam screen went black, had to restart system, but I pulled my laptop closer, I may have brushed the port where the cam plugged in, that always fucks it up..

Last couple of days, customers complain of connection issues..

looklovely
05-03-2022, 01:16 PM
If anyone wants to exchange tags, please DM your link and the 5 tags you'd like.

Dreamqueen
05-03-2022, 01:51 PM
HQ sent out $50 credit to my customer account yesterday because they miss me. Could have been a mail shot.

I thought it might have been triggered by individual spending patterns but the old customers returning suggests it could be more widespread.

Thank you for posting this.
My customers did indeed mention it yesterday.

Most of them spent on me.
Others who I haven't seen in a while said they're still looking around.
Lol ok.

JustMilfnAround
05-03-2022, 01:51 PM
its a feature that is abused to no end. nothing good comes from it other than freeloaders being rewarded for, well, freeloading. There's nothing about it that benefits us models in any way. The names that used to appear in and out of my private shows were usernames id NEVER see any other time. they hop from private to private, prob spend all day doing it.

Thankfully it doesn't happen to me anymore since I started charging more for privates than exclusives. They see the price and nope tf out of there. granted the 60 second rule applies for both privates and exclusives, but its abused tenfold in privates because its usually(not always) the cheaper option and we cannot deny the show.

"Nope tf out" Haha!

My private rate is pretty high for this exact reason. I hustle the fuck out of them to keep them in there and that way if I can get them over the 60 second mark I get paid and so does the site and their dumb asses hopefully learn a lesson.

I NEVER have repeats from the same guys if they get charged LMFAO!

I hate private so much that having my rate ridiculous keeps them from doing it and the ONLY reason I hate privates is because of those guys, otherwise it can be quite lucrative but I'm not giving those douche canoes pussy for free ;)

fetishqueen
05-03-2022, 02:15 PM
Erika I thought it was 45 seconds? :D

fetishqueen
05-03-2022, 02:35 PM
I worked something out on SM today that might help others. You know when you get an annoying delay between a tip or Gold Menu purchase, and that amount showing on your earnings? Meaning you can't send a vid to that person and have to wait (and undoubtedly forget like I do)? I may have found a way to do it.

If you scroll to the bottom of the left hand side of the Dashboard, under Engagement and down to Videos, you can open that up and use the Give videos to box and Users by Date. Sometimes, not always but sometimes, the tip that was delayed in Earnings on the SmConnect page shows there and you can send the video.

This might be common knowledge but I was getting fed up when it happened, always when they tipped for videos or bought them from the gold menu, I thought others might have the same issue. Like I said sometimes it still doesn't show under the Videos bit but often it does and it saves me explaining to them they have to wait.

JustMilfnAround
05-03-2022, 04:25 PM
Erika I thought it was 45 seconds? :D

**NVM - I'm an idiot LOL**

KittenGirl
05-03-2022, 06:24 PM
I don’t care if it spoils it for the paying guys. Private is cheaper because it’s communal, I feel like if they don’t want me to have to stop or get interrupted by me policing my room then they need to pony up the money for 1-on-1. They’re paying less to not have my undivided attention basically. Also when I’m in pvt I refuse to do anything that would require me to be less than like 3 feet away from my laptop and I flat-out tell them that it’s because in pvt I need to be able to constantly monitor and police my room.

That's some Hella good advice. I had 3 people keep popping in before I could ban them fuckers but I was way back on my bed

Erika_Xstacy
05-03-2022, 09:11 PM
^^^^ SM protects cam models against chargebacks from customers by using the X amount of time not being charged
The first minute we can see if the customer is having tech issues, can hear and see us etc before billing starts taking place.

bigbum
05-03-2022, 10:37 PM
was it hella slow for anyone else this evening?
this was one of my worst days ever on sm, even more so than a contest week or holiday. humm

Vlodina
05-03-2022, 11:52 PM
was it hella slow for anyone else this evening?
this was one of my worst days ever on sm, even more so than a contest week or holiday. humm

I didn't have long to work last night but managed to get thro 1 hour and 15 minutes without making a single cent. Eek.

Dreamqueen
05-04-2022, 01:58 AM
was it hella slow for anyone else this evening?
this was one of my worst days ever on sm, even more so than a contest week or holiday. humm


I didn't have long to work last night but managed to get thro 1 hour and 15 minutes without making a single cent. Eek.

Yes, it was abysmal for me too.
The traffic just wasn't there. Not sure what that's about.
Luckily I did have one repeat customer, but even with him it was like pulling teeth to get him to commit to a show.
I would be panicking if I hadn't already made my low goal for the week.

liquidsilk
05-04-2022, 02:17 AM
My private rate is high, exclusive higher still.

Even so if the guy goes private, I'm going to be watching for anyone who joins. As soon as they are in, click their user notes page. Next one, same thing and so on until the private is over. Then straight away back in free, if you are strict, or at the end of the shift if you are more laid back, open your history and open every single one of those member pages in a different tab. Hold ctrl and click. Its fast as fuk and hugely satisfying.

Then scan through each one for a payment that day. No payment? Make a note or block. Up to you how many chances you give.

Customer already has a behaviour note but again no payment? Make another note. Strike 2 (or block). Dates are saved automatically which is fun because I know some of you like to call these users out with receipts when they come back to free chat 2 years later.

I usually type their username with the note too. Some will try the oh no that wasnt me line if you ask them. Just say yeah it was before you changed your name from x to y. What made you pick a new name?


1 second over the chargeable time? My condolences bro. Try harder next time. Noted anyway. I don't block them because they either dont try again or return with the same expensive mistake. Oops.

Just keep a mouse near and tap on every visitor. If anything it is something to keep me entertained on those long long privates.

MissAdriana
05-04-2022, 12:08 PM
No may day contest for may 1, Maybe a double 24 hour 'ready for summer' on the way near the end of the month?

SapphireXO
05-04-2022, 12:25 PM
Yesterday afternoon was completely dead after 1:45pm CST. Today is like one show an hour. 3 hours 20 mins online - only 36 mins in paid.