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luscious sadie
08-14-2011, 09:57 PM
yes, I agree with you on that. But you can't force friendship or even "friendliness" - especially in a shark tank. Just wait until you have new girls showing up trying to be your best friend. It's a gradual process and "keep your head down and to yourself" is some seriously good advice in this situation.

I absolutely work with girls in the club. When I am done with a guy I will say "have you met my friend, Angel?" or "if you want to do a duo, there's a girl here I would love to get how with infront of you...". We make each other money and it WORKS. However, I would never hook a new girl up out of nowhere. I have to know about you before I'm going to recommend you (I hooked a new girl up once and it turned out she was dirty and I felt gross about that). And how do I get to know you? From the mutual respect that comes from hard work and understanding the shit that we put up with --- silent solidarity.

respect is always earned but ESPECIALLY in the club. The best way to earn it is to act like you don't give a fuck, get in, do your shit, make your money and get out. People will warm up to you. They will start respecting you for the hard work that you do. Then you will slowly become more and more accepted and then one day you will realise that you're "in". By that time you'll probably have realised that it's way easier to not worry about who likes you though and hopefully you'll have realised that not talking to anyone is way easier than trying to band together.

tempest666
08-14-2011, 11:32 PM
I wish newbs came with electric shock collars that they equip dogs with. Everytime they speak out of line or invade personal space they get zapped. Cockblocking or sitting with your customer: ZAP!!!!

Mmmmmmmmmm how grand life would be and how much better trained they would be.

j9schmetterling
08-14-2011, 11:34 PM
I wasn't advocating forced friendliness or friendship. I do think it's better to keep one's hands, eyes, and words to herself, unless spoken to. However, obviously it makes for a more comfortable situation if the atmosphere is somewhat friendly.

And it's not entirely unheard of, at least I've heard of it.

luscious sadie
08-14-2011, 11:47 PM
my response wasn't entirely to you and I do see where you are coming from. Where I work, there isn't a lot of tension between house girls but there is some between out of town girls. I have worked in dramatic clubs as well as ones where there is peace and agree that peaceful ones are more comfortable to work in.

however, the peaceful clubs always explode into drama because you let your guard down and boom. You get stabbed in the back hardcore. Or in the front. Whichever way, it sucks. Every now and then I notice myself getting friendly and have to remind myself to back off and isolate myself from my coworkers.

j9schmetterling
08-16-2011, 08:31 PM
I hear what you’re saying, for sure. At clubs, people are so seldom held accountable for their identities, that a sometimes they don’t really find it worth it to act like semi-decent human beings. (imo if that makes sense) And because there’s little or no verification for anything (we go to work as different people, customers often come in pretty anonymously), these same people may not see behaving as their best avenue to get what they need/want. That being said, one never can really know whom one is getting to know—dancer, manager, DJ, bartender, customer, anyone at the club.

I’m glad I learned this lesson firsthand and early and nothing got broken too bad. *crosses that off list*