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kballar
07-21-2011, 10:13 AM
She hasn't posted in quite awhile... if she is real I hope shes ok....

kittykrane
07-21-2011, 10:58 AM
I left my ex husband while he was at work. He didn't see it coming. LoL. Best move I ever made. Lost over 10,000 bucks that I put in to our house but I got out with my life. That's priceless.

sweetheather
07-21-2011, 12:04 PM
I'd rather run the risk that it's fake then it be real and offer nothing. Obviously if she were to take up my offer, I would go to great lengths to know who she is(through DL or whatever), meet in a public place, all that stuff before giving away such private information as where I live (I'm in a big area) The biggest issue or concern here is that the poster is SAFE. If she's a troll, then at least when a real victim comes here they can see all the support that we offer.

Ebonyqueen
07-23-2011, 08:46 AM
xoxDoll wherever u r jus post to let us know u ok n how things r.u haven't posted in a while.m worried bout u n m sure other girls r too. has anyone heard from her?

newcamchick
07-23-2011, 04:42 PM
sending love xoxDoll, if you read this, remember how unique and wonderful you are as an individual, dont let anyone ever cloud that xxx

Tatiana X
08-17-2011, 09:08 AM
Im so sorry sweety! It is going to be very important that you file a restraining order against him. This way if he ever comes near you, you can call the police and they will arrest him. If you have no where to go usually there are some woman's shelters where you can stay untill you figure out a plan/friend/family member to stay with. U need to get out of there now! If for some reason you can't leave now pack an emergency bag so if he gets crazy you can grab it and leave. Take all your most important items with you, social security card, credit cards, any importand documents, passport. Also, once you leave u should change your phone number and cancle all your credit cards are re-open them.

loveshooks
08-17-2011, 10:20 AM
I'd rather run the risk that it's fake then it be real and offer nothing. Obviously if she were to take up my offer, I would go to great lengths to know who she is(through DL or whatever), meet in a public place, all that stuff before giving away such private information as where I live (I'm in a big area) The biggest issue or concern here is that the poster is SAFE. If she's a troll, then at least when a real victim comes here they can see all the support that we offer.

^^^well said, and I think tinydancer made an important point in noting that 'victim' (I use quotes cuz I hate that word) outreach always involves an element of, if not trust, a suspension of disbelief at the beginning of the process, with the personal safety of the person(s) offering assistance upheld as a vitally important goal as well, of course.
If we look at statistics on the prevalence of domestic abuse, even if the OP were a fake (and I'm not prepared to accuse her or anyone else of that), there are women who post on this forum who are, right now, in a similar situation and haven't as of yet been able to leave. This thread WILL help them, if only in alieviating one of the strongest inhibitors to leaving; the feeling of isolation and desolation cultivated by the abuser as a mechanism of control.
To the OP or anyone else who recognizes themself in reading this thread, you are NOT alone. You've found yourself among an amazing group of women here, many of whom have been where you are right now. Don't be afraid to reach out.
(and to all who've posted offering support and assistance, tangible or otherwise, you sincerely rock, real talk)
Peace:)

whirlerz
08-17-2011, 11:37 AM
I was wondering about her

Tatiana X
08-17-2011, 12:42 PM
I think there is a statistic that it takes the average woman 7 times to attempt to leave her abuser before she actually does. I hope she did not decide to stay b/c the abuse is only going to get worse! If this is happening now than can u imagine what is going to hapen if they go married. If you are out there don't be afraid to contact any of us for support :)