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kaiarose
09-01-2011, 12:09 PM
^ Thank you ashiepants :)
This thread is in fact, extremely negative. The post above me is the only real positive thing I've seen.
Camming Connection needs alot more POSITIVE threads. I have never seen such a huge group of naysayers on SW in all of my 5 years on here.

MissEgo
09-01-2011, 12:57 PM
It definitely isn't ALL bad. If it were, we all would have quit by now.
The freedom ALONE that this job gives us obviously outweighs the negative points that most newbies don't realize exist.

GlamourRouge
09-01-2011, 01:26 PM
Estimate & picture how much time you will think you need to put into this job. Got it? Now times that by 10 because you forgot marketing, advertising, updates, building traffic, editing, etc. And even if you included that, it takes A LOT longer than you ever anticipated. Trust me on that one.

If you cam "full time" its literally like a 60+ hour/week job, not 40.

Fridays
09-01-2011, 01:54 PM
"think of the best, but prepare for the worst"
this is camming as a job.

the thread was not supposed to be negative but more of an eye opener...

MissEgo
09-01-2011, 01:55 PM
If you are a perfectionist... well, let's just say you will be spending A LOT of your time doing the "behind the scenes" jobs.

(I'm a perfectionist and I'm constantly redoing things or redesigning things... but I love it, so it's not bad at all.)

Avamonet
09-01-2011, 02:58 PM
That's true but you could work 40 hours a day at someone else's job and still not feel appreciated or valued. I spent 8 years in corporate america and i'm telling you, it's not the ideal place either. Yeah I know, cam sites take a huge amount of our money but so do big corporations and you have no say there at all. At least if someone treats me like a jerk on cam, I can walk away and not deal with it. I dealt with so much shit at my old job that when I encounter someone saying "you're fat or ugly" (which happens very infrequently) it's nothing. Anytime you're a sole proprietorship, or an independent contractor, you're gonna have to work harder but the trade-off is you have freedom. You may not be your own boss in every sense, but for the most part, you are. There is no way in hell I could ever go back to my old job after tasting this freedom. You will begin to have negative feelings towards any job you work after a long time. That's just human nature. But it doesn't make it worse just because you've been doing it longer. Hell I bet there are days Beyonce hates her job but I can guarantee she wouldn't trade it for anything. I've tasted both sides and I'll take this any day.



Estimate & picture how much time you will think you need to put into this job. Got it? Now times that by 10 because you forgot marketing, advertising, updates, building traffic, editing, etc. And even if you included that, it takes A LOT longer than you ever anticipated. Trust me on that one.

If you cam "full time" its literally like a 60+ hour/week job, not 40.

ShellyConnors
09-01-2011, 04:18 PM
Meh yes this thread is largely negative but it's all the truth! I think many of us would have totally quit this job a long time ago if the negatives were all that bad, but to suggest the downsides of this job shouldn't have one little nifty place here all in one spot, to me, is kind of absurd and pointless. I mean why not? Nobody here is lying! Haha...

ReginaGeorge
09-03-2011, 09:29 PM
You will have pride in financial independence...
You will have safety in being an adult worker in the comforts of your own home...
You will explore more about yourself sexually and learn new things
You will wake up, work, and say holy shit i made 200 dollars and it's not even noon yet
You will be in control of your own schedule
You will be in charge of your own brand and however you want to market yourself
You will realize that the potential is unlimited, but determined by how hard you work

I was reading all this negativity and then I read this, thank you.
Life is ONLY what you make it. And if you think you're miserable, you will be. Guaranteed.

MissEgo
09-04-2011, 12:09 AM
I think most of us who have been camming a while saw this thread as a way to tell newbies about the side of camming you don't realize exists when you start.

tinydancer23
09-04-2011, 07:04 AM
^yes this. i really don't understand what is so wrong with that. it doesn't mean camming is all bad or that we despise it or that we'd never recommend it to anyone or that there aren't things we like about it or that we don't have good camming days. but no, honestly, it's not all happiness and roses all the time. (oops, shh, don't tell anyone.)

MissEgo
09-04-2011, 08:08 AM
The way I see it, if girls are interested enough in camming to find this forum, they already know the pluses of this industry: the possibility of largish amounts of money in a short amount of time, an extremely flexible personalized schedule, the comfort of working from home (or wherever), etc.

We do have a tendency to be overly dramatic and negative here though, for sure. Not everyone here had considered every possible aspect of this job before launching into it; most of us have seen a few girls come to this realization extremely suddenly (and it never ends well for them), and we just want to make sure that new girls are aware of the downsides to this career, as well as the upsides.

SweetPinkCupcake
09-30-2011, 10:35 AM
That's true but you could work 40 hours a day at someone else's job and still not feel appreciated or valued. I spent 8 years in corporate america and i'm telling you, it's not the ideal place either. Yeah I know, cam sites take a huge amount of our money but so do big corporations and you have no say there at all. At least if someone treats me like a jerk on cam, I can walk away and not deal with it. I dealt with so much shit at my old job that when I encounter someone saying "you're fat or ugly" (which happens very infrequently) it's nothing. Anytime you're a sole proprietorship, or an independent contractor, you're gonna have to work harder but the trade-off is you have freedom. You may not be your own boss in every sense, but for the most part, you are. There is no way in hell I could ever go back to my old job after tasting this freedom. You will begin to have negative feelings towards any job you work after a long time. That's just human nature. But it doesn't make it worse just because you've been doing it longer. Hell I bet there are days Beyonce hates her job but I can guarantee she wouldn't trade it for anything. I've tasted both sides and I'll take this any day.

True that sister!

TXCamgirl
09-30-2011, 04:49 PM
You will start to despise men in general.
Seeing things like beastality becomes fairly normal and after a while it won't shock you anymore.
You will hear sick ass shit like incest fantasies and after a while, it is normal too.
You will lose all faith in the decentness of man kind.
You will learn that you can't really trust anybody, online or offline, because they will all stab you in the back one day.
You can't brag about how much money you make and how great you are doing because 90% of America thinks we are nasty gross people for doing sex work.
There is no retirement or 401ks so you better save your ass off.
You get taxed crazy amounts by the IRS which seems completely unfair since other people make the same amount and get money back every year.

Fridays
09-30-2011, 05:32 PM
You can't brag about how much money you make and how great you are doing because 90% of America thinks we are nasty gross people for doing sex work.


There is no retirement or 401ks so you better save your ass off.
.

these 2 are so so true!

MistyRose
09-30-2011, 07:07 PM
Seeing things like beastality becomes fairly normal and after a while it won't shock you anymore.
You will hear sick ass shit like incest fantasies and after a while, it is normal too.
You will lose all faith in the decentness of man kind.
You will learn that you can't really trust anybody, online or offline, because they will all stab you in the back one day.


I respectfully disagree with these points, if we're talking about them being a general occurence, not a personal one.


Seeing things like beastality becomes fairly normal and after a while it won't shock you anymore.

Camming makes you watch bestiality? I have never been propositioned bestiality roleplay, let alone the real thing (knock on wood) and if I have, I would have declined. One time I was doing cam to cam with someone, chatting, and he got his dog on cam. I was clothed, so was he. I banned him because he didn't ask me first. He sent an apologetic and shocked e-mail. I apologized for making presumptions...but didn't unblock him. There was one girl who posted on the forum of seeing bestiality because the guy turned his cam on him doing it. It's fucked up. Horrible. But it's not commonplace. Don't allow it and it will NEVER become remotely normal. Ever.


You will hear sick ass shit like incest fantasies and after a while, it is normal too.

You will not hear incest fantasies unless you allow them. I have a disclaimer on my profile and if I still get asked to do it, I decline. If someone would try to tell me their incest fantasy without my agreement first, I would warn them and/or ban them. There are girls who don't have problems doing this roleplay and that's just fine, but if you don't WANT to, you do not HAVE to. If you don't allow it, it will never become normal to you.


You will lose all faith in the decentness of man kind.

Perhaps. I haven't yet. Yes, a lot of guys are assholes. But there's also regular guys who, for whatever reason, find camming as convenient fun and are polite, respectful and nice. I also don't think of them as complete mankind, after all, they're just a small sample of it.


You will learn that you can't really trust anybody, online or offline, because they will all stab you in the back one day.

Camming is my job. I don't put my trust in my customers. It's a transaction. We exchange money for company. I enjoy it less with some, more with some, but it's always business: they pay, I perform. Maybe it helps that I am always cautious in interhuman relations, but that is how I see it. My trust is reserved for my friends and family...and none given, there's no trust I could have lost just because I work in webcam industry.

I don't mean to dispute your personal experiences, so please don't take this the wrong way. I simply wanted to offer a different perspective for anyone who is just getting into the industry and reading this.

TXCamgirl
09-30-2011, 07:26 PM
I respectfully disagree with these points, if we're talking about them being a general occurence, not a personal one.



Camming makes you watch bestiality? I have never been propositioned bestiality roleplay, let alone the real thing (knock on wood) and if I have, I would have declined. One time I was doing cam to cam with someone, chatting, and he got his dog on cam. I was clothed, so was he. I banned him because he didn't ask me first. He sent an apologetic and shocked e-mail. I apologized for making presumptions...but didn't unblock him. There was one girl who posted on the forum of seeing bestiality because the guy turned his cam on him doing it. It's fucked up. Horrible. But it's not commonplace. Don't allow it and it will NEVER become remotely normal. Ever.



You will not hear incest fantasies unless you allow them. I have a disclaimer on my profile and if I still get asked to do it, I decline. If someone would try to tell me their incest fantasy without my agreement first, I would warn them and/or ban them. There are girls who don't have problems doing this roleplay and that's just fine, but if you don't WANT to, you do not HAVE to. If you don't allow it, it will never become normal to you.



Perhaps. I haven't yet. Yes, a lot of guys are assholes. But there's also regular guys who, for whatever reason, find camming as convenient fun and are polite, respectful and nice. I also don't think of them as complete mankind, after all, they're just a small sample of it.



Camming is my job. I don't put my trust in my customers. It's a transaction. We exchange money for company. I enjoy it less with some, more with some, but it's always business: they pay, I perform. Maybe it helps that I am always cautious in interhuman relations, but that is how I see it. My trust is reserved for my friends and family...and none given, there's no trust I could have lost just because I work in webcam industry.

I don't mean to dispute your personal experiences, so please don't take this the wrong way. I simply wanted to offer a different perspective for anyone who is just getting into the industry and reading this.


Hell no I don't do any roleplays at all especially beastality or incest. What I meant was that I have had guys turn on their cams so so many times only to have a porn of a dog licking a chick's pussy or some other nasty shit that it doesn't even phase me anymore. The first couple of times I got upset and it shook me but now I just close the session out and go on about my day like nothing out of the ordinary happened. That's what happens when you are over exposed to something.

The incest thing, I would never roleplay this either but I have been asked the question or had guys start talking about it during a call so many times that it is another thing that doesn't phase me. I don't participate in it but it doesn't shake me up and make me feel sick either, like it once did when I was brand new. You can't do much when some nasty bastard blurts out that he is watching you with his 10 year old daughter.... until after the fact that is and you still heard the nasty shit before you had a chance to ban/kick/hang up/whatever.

And as far as the trust thing, that's mainly for other women who you may or may not befriend online. A lot of girls think they can be friends with other cammers online and usually you cannot, you will always get hurt some how. Like the girls on MGF that post pictures of their children in the girl's blogs? Would you really feel safe posting your kids in a porn forum with a bunch of back stabbing bitches? That's what I mean :)

I am sure not everybody is like this but I am going on being in this industry for 8 years, I have seen and heard it all and I have seen first hand how gross and fucked up this world is so I may be a little jaded in my views... that's just the way it is for me.

MistyRose
09-30-2011, 07:37 PM
^^ Thank you for clarifying that. :) And ew at that sick fuckers who think bestiality is fun or sexy. Makes me sick. I'm sorry you had to encounter them.

ManyRoses
09-30-2011, 08:19 PM
Thank for the post girls!!! And although a lot of these are pretty negative, I actually don't think of this as a negative post..I think the original intent WAS to bring a little balance to the debate of to cam or not to cam for newbies or girls considering it. A lot of women may look at this site, and at us talking about making anywhere from $30 - $500 in an hour (and although $30 may be average or small potatoes to us, to someone making $8...thats a helluva difference!) and jump right in without considering the issues...

Here are a couple negatives (AND positives) of mine...

- You will feel isolated. Other than forums like this, you are working ON YOUR OWN. Alone. Every day. No one to chat to about how your day went, no one to exchange stories or commiserate with. No matter how loving and open-minded your partner/friends are, it is not the same as talking to someone else in the same job.
- You will find it hard to make friends some times. If you move, where do most new friends come from? Thats right, work. And you work ALONE. And a lot of people will judge you when they find out what you do.
- You will lose all perspective on money. This is true for stripping too. When you make a lot fo money, easily, it stops meaning so much, and it is very easy to get careless with it, and end up in five years wondering - where the hell did that go?
- You will lose perspective with your body. When people are judging your body day in and out, and it is a tool for work, it is easy to become disconnected from your body, and lose sight of how you really look.

Note - any and all of these may not happen!! A lot will depend on how prepared and grounded you are. Now...some positives..aside from the obvious money/flexibility

- If you are an incredibly sexual person (like me) you may find that it balances you out a little! That you stop always turning conversations to sex, or making sexy jokes in company that may not enjoy it. Working in the adult industry has given me SUCH an outlet!!
- Your little kinks and fetishes (even your BIG kinks and fetishes...lol) will become completely, utterly and totally normal to you. Any residual guilt or uneasiness you may have about admitting that, I don't know, tube cheese turns you on will flutter off into the night, as you realise how many fetishes there are out there.
- You will learn how to talk to anyone. By the time you are "pro" you will be able to talk to a brick wall, and make it like you! But you may think that you should be getting paid for it...

Just my 2c...

Lusty Laken
09-30-2011, 08:46 PM
I agree with ManyRoses. I don't think of it as a bad thread.

I cammed for a long time alone not knowing about this site. When the bad days came along, or bad things happened, I beat myself up over it. I always wondered why other models looked like they never had a bad day, yet I seemed to never have a balance on things. Something that seems so small now seemed like the worst back then. To be honest, reading that other models have bad days too and that I'm not alone and that it is okay to fall out of my chair on cam (etc), was the biggest help to my camming career.

The list could go on, but although threads like this come off as being negative, they can be extremely helpful and reassuring.

h0ttie
11-07-2011, 10:00 AM
bumping this since there are a lot of newbies around these past few days :)

TheBrownFox
11-07-2011, 10:15 AM
Sorry, just so much negativity up in here! Yes some of these things can affect camgirls but only if you let it. No job is perfect, all have their stresses and negative sides...but camming REALLY is one of the greatest jobs out there IMO. Getting to work at home, have freedom to make your own schedule, take days off when you want, have hundreds/thousands of admiring fans who work hard to make YOUR day brighter....the positives FAR outweigh the negatives. Camming is what you make of it. :)



Hey, it's my girl Ash from Canaduh!!! :wave:


I didn't quote the entire thing (wanted to save space), but your entire post hit the nail on the head! 8)

Fridays
11-07-2011, 12:06 PM
bumping this since there are a lot of newbies around these past few days :)
lol :D

CinnimonKiss
11-07-2011, 01:25 PM
You will have pride in financial independence...
You will have safety in being an adult worker in the comforts of your own home...
You will explore more about yourself sexually and learn new things
You will wake up, work, and say holy shit i made 200 dollars and it's not even noon yet
You will be in control of your own schedule
You will be in charge of your own brand and however you want to market yourself
You will realize that the potential is unlimited, but determined by how hard you work


Perfectly said, All the posts before this one was posted makes camming sound like the worst shit to get into. But hey its a JOB OK?! lol and your the BOSS, fuck what haters say, ur makin good money...thats all that matters to me. Im an actor at "work", ...i know me, the real me, camming doesnt affect ME ;D and i dont know why some girls complain so much....go work at mcdonalds then...?

sweetheather
11-07-2011, 04:26 PM
The point is that lots of girls get into camming thinking it's glamorous, and it's not, it's just a reality check, not meant to be negative.
Wouldn't you like to know what kind of shit to expect before it smacks you in the face while you're on cam?

CinnimonKiss
11-07-2011, 05:03 PM
hahaa i do agree with u, its true its not all glamorous. Like last night, sum guy said to me "Let me be ur foot slave, then he said humiliate me in public" lol and i was like uhhhhhhh, i was stumped on WHAT TO SAY?! hahah it was ridiculous, some guys are soo weird its gross! I HATE when i get those ones, where they want me to make fun of them..totally not my cup of teaaaaa

Fridays
11-07-2011, 05:40 PM
hahaa i do agree with u, its true its not all glamorous. Like last night, sum guy said to me "Let me be ur foot slave, then he said humiliate me in public" lol and i was like uhhhhhhh, i was stumped on WHAT TO SAY?! hahah it was ridiculous, some guys are soo weird its gross! I HATE when i get those ones, where they want me to make fun of them..totally not my cup of teaaaaa


foot slaves are weird? LOOOL

u aint seen nothing yet..
God have mercy on u LOL:D

SweetPinkCupcake
11-07-2011, 07:38 PM
I'm going to be negative now because I need to rant and I am pissed off.

People assume that just because you work at home they can VISIT UR APARTMENT WHENEVER THE EFF THEY WANT. and call you all the time. And if you don't have a garage that really sucks on your part because then people KNOW you are home. And you have to come up with some pretty fucking fabricated lies so nobody comes to your fucking house when you are WORKING YOUR JOB that IS real, thank you very much.

Fridays
11-07-2011, 08:07 PM
its days like today that make me wanna puke when I think of camming lol
Every fucking idiot under the sun is in my room!
thats right...

In real life u can turn around and walk away...
or.. get a restraining order..
here U have to smile and SUCK IT UP!!!

U wanna cam? then suck it up, BITCH! ( me talking to myself lol)

HaydenBlue
11-07-2011, 08:12 PM
...last night, sum guy said to me "Let me be ur foot slave, then he said humiliate me in public" lol and i was like uhhhhhhh, i was stumped on WHAT TO SAY?! hahah it was ridiculous, some guys are soo weird its gross! I HATE when i get those ones, where they want me to make fun of them..totally not my cup of teaaaaa

Teehee. I've seen/heard so much that the foot boys are my new "vanilla." I love me some foot boys though, they're so sweet. And those small penis humiliation guys are sweet too. Some of my favorite fetishes.

Sit back and prepare yourself for much, much more if you think that is "soo weird, it's gross."

Like, the guys who beg for castration.
Or want you to tell them to hit themselves in the balls.
Guys who want CBT (cock ball torture) and stick needles in their dicks while they're cam2cam'ing with you.
Diaper fetishes.
Incest fetish. (You will be called "Mommy" 99% of the time. Don't fight it.)
Scat, piss and watching them eat it.
Guys who beg to be pegged.
Guys who fuck themselves with 11 inch dildos until they pull out and gape riiiight into the camera for you to see. :D

Even if you aren't strictly fetish, or catering to fetish the fetish guys WILL find you. You aren't safe. BWHAHAHA. }:D



But in all seriousness, if you find the foot boys freaky...you're in for a wake up call.

Don't scream when a guy who's fucked his butt to the point of prolaspe and sticks it into the cam for you to admire his handywork. Just put a sticky-note over his cam2cam square and smile, nod and repeat, "Mmm, that's hot bb." And you'll do just fine, lol. ;)

SybilVain
11-07-2011, 08:23 PM
Be prepared to come up with 10 ways to say "NO" politely. This will be you in the first month of camming.
On the second month, you will know 20 ways of being sarcastic about it.
Third month, you'll just blurt out 5 rude as hell canned replies to the insistent little fuckers.
Fourth month, you don't care. Ban, go on, next.

sweetheather
11-07-2011, 08:23 PM
^ I swear I have 1000 sticky notes, they're like my holy grail of camming

Fridays
11-07-2011, 08:35 PM
Guys who fuck themselves with 11 inch dildos until they pull out and gape riiiight into the camera for you to see. :D

Just copy - pasted this in my chat room... and I asked them how they feel about this statement :D.

LAChloe
11-07-2011, 08:35 PM
hahaa i do agree with u, its true its not all glamorous. Like last night, sum guy said to me "Let me be ur foot slave, then he said humiliate me in public" lol and i was like uhhhhhhh, i was stumped on WHAT TO SAY?! hahah it was ridiculous, some guys are soo weird its gross! I HATE when i get those ones, where they want me to make fun of them..totally not my cup of teaaaaa

send them my way-pllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaasssssseeeee!

i would take a foot slave any day of the week and love every single second of it over 99% of all the other sick fucks!

Latin
11-07-2011, 08:41 PM
Your vag will hurt at times.

(I've worked a lot of hours in the past few days in hopes of getting better placement on my new DP account---I'm sore.)
your ass as well...many men love anal esp me!

Latin
11-07-2011, 08:44 PM
You will be asked for DP, Anal, ATM DOUBLE DIPPING with a cherry on top and will you poooo for me or pee and please be my mommy....Ready? Start your engines because old men like me come across as sexy young men when Im really sucking on a screwdriver pretending its a minor! Welcum to the cam world

Latin
11-07-2011, 08:55 PM
Im sexy and you know it watch me jack attack!
This should be put in all models contracts this thread is 100 true. Dear Dear Dear it takes so many personalities to be a cam girl but for now Im just some old tatted man...kinda digging this.
YOU WILL MAKE UP TO 5k a week ...LIE NUMBER ONE!

HaydenBlue
11-07-2011, 09:20 PM
Just copy - pasted this in my chat room... and I asked them how they feel about this statement :D.

Welllll, what did they say? :D

Fridays
11-07-2011, 09:49 PM
Welllll, what did they say? :D

I wish they said something... anything,, tell me to go fuck myself ... anything at all..
but as I said... all idiots today..
I told them.,. PLEASE, everyone with IQ under 5, please exit my room!
I might as well talk to a brick wall..::)

Busygirl
11-07-2011, 09:54 PM
............

SweetPinkCupcake
11-07-2011, 10:06 PM
Im sexy and you know it watch me jack attack!
This should be put in all models contracts this thread is 100 true. Dear Dear Dear it takes so many personalities to be a cam girl but for now Im just some old tatted man...kinda digging this.
YOU WILL MAKE UP TO 5k a week ...LIE NUMBER ONE!

Haha. .I love your posts. Always make me laugh :P

Latin
11-08-2011, 03:37 AM
Haha. .I love your posts. Always make me laugh :P
LOL Ty Im very honest. I love the foot fetish guys! I love a foot worshiping man and stockings heels! My favoooooooooooorite!
I love how they make it seem like your going to make big money with little work. NOPE EHUH WROOOOOOONG only if a Model loves it and sticks to what she does. I hate those ads of X amount of dollars. It is what is put into it. AND A CLEAN ROOM!

Latin
11-08-2011, 03:43 AM
I do love the fact I can work anytime (well I do have a life) and I am independent. Being self motivated is the hardest part.
The drive to be a cam girl , exhibitionist, personality of many is already in you.

cherryfay
11-08-2011, 08:28 AM
Gotta love the same guys that come in every night and ask the same damn thing.

" Can you fuck your asshole with dildo? "
It's like bitch I told you last night, I don't do anal.. It didn't change.

Latin
11-08-2011, 12:03 PM
What does it take to get more stars..Ive been here forever. :)

Fridays
11-08-2011, 12:12 PM
What does it take to get more stars..Ive been here forever. :)
write more posts....

Latin
11-08-2011, 06:21 PM
write more posts....
lol Out here? NOPE..Im in the safety of camgirls :) I will keep my 3 measly stars :) There are too many people that sign up ust to look at what we do out here or use it as a dating forum. If one more person tells me I'm cute and where am I from I will be giving out my x boyfriends phone number and address

Fridays
11-08-2011, 06:44 PM
@Latin
Youre cute! Where are you from?:):D

Latin
11-08-2011, 06:51 PM
@Latin
Youre cute! Where are you from?:):D
his phone number is XXX-XXX-XXXX lmao

CamWhore
11-08-2011, 07:27 PM
The point is that lots of girls get into camming thinking it's glamorous, and it's not, it's just a reality check, not meant to be negative.
Wouldn't you like to know what kind of shit to expect before it smacks you in the face while you're on cam?


exactly, people only want to hear about how much money they can make, while doing little shit for it. sorry that is not gonna happen.

These same people turn around and cry about their bad days and ask for advice for how to do it better.....::)

camming is not that damn fun, lets be real. Its great money.... but if there was no money.... these girls would not show up.

What I get tired of is the fake happiness... Like there was never a bad day or a struggle. Some of these girls need to snap back into reality... :stop:

ClaudiaReina
11-09-2011, 12:43 AM
Great thread! People tend to think that sexwork is really just glamour and as someone said, a licence to print money, well, it's not really. Everyone knows the upsides (freedom, etc.). I did read this thread back when I was lurking and I thought "yeah, right, I have experience in sex industry, I know it's not like this...", but now that I was online a few times, I begin to think that there's some truth to all this:D It's very different and you can read all the threads on SW, you still won't know how it is to be out there and deal with people all day. And I don't mean it's bad, I mean it's different and there are many strange/rude/sociopaths/trolls out there who will try to make you feel inadequate and destroy your self confidence. I'm still trying to get the hang of it/:O