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BabyLove1981
02-29-2012, 11:41 PM
We'll have to agree to disagree on the rule and exception thing.
If more than half the models agree that camming is not fun, that doesn't mean that new models should expect it not to be fun. I've been camming for two years and I have a blast on cam. Whenever I think of a new game to play, I can't wait to get on and play it with my guys. I believe if there is even one model that enjoys it, it shouldn't be "expected" for it not to be fun. Agin, we'll have to just disagree on that.
If I would have read this thread before I started camming, I would have went in it with a sour attitude. When you go into something with a bad attitude, usually the outcome is bad. I went into camming EXPECTING it to be fun, expecting great guys in my room, expecting to make money, and all of that is true for me now.
" As in " it it very possible it will happen to you too"-If you would have said that, I would agree with you. It is POSSIBLE, but shouldn't be EXPECTED.
"Its coming..... sooner or later."-That's an assumption that is not always correct.

True...I certainly went in (no forums for advice before hand, just joined this one) with as much energy as one could have! Had a blast, made mistakes and slowly learned. By MYSELF. I based my opinion on MY opinion which happened to be exactly as CourtneyRaine put it. My Husband And I BOTH rolled into camming like a freaking ray of sunshine lol And the good def out weighs the bad for us. Other wise we wouldn't cam at all! =) I think that if you test the waters and it isn't your thing move to something else. If you can stick with it, still have fun and take a few days off after the assholes get to you, then do it. IMO they will, eventually they will. Even if it's for 5 min. Thats why I am SOOOOOOOOO glad I found SW. Newbies and Vets alike can get REAL life experiences that you may not can talk to anyone else about. We don't feel so alone. (My Husband and I) .....yes, I tell him all the advise I get from here and he loves it too.. =) Were still new to camming and we are soaking in every bit of advice we can get. Good, the bad and the ugly. Either way, it lets us know, we are not the first or last to feel some of the stuff we have went through. =)

SKiarra
03-01-2012, 07:16 AM
Exact same thing happened to me...


You will become fed-up with men.
You will become jaded.

This job will carry into your personal life,

Example? Ever try camming for a year then try to date again? It's Hell.

The guys I've tried dating, I've tried to talk too - the dumb texts messages asking me for a dirty picture/sex. My entire mood turns sour. The poor innocent guy I've been seeing who's sending me a text message wanting some 'ass, babe' is dangerously close to getting his head chewed off.

I immediately get defensive. Turned off. Annoyed, like 'No! You cannot see my ass." And my entire thought process goes from that to, "That fucker - I should be getting paid for this." What. The. Fuck. :O

The sad part is that I NEVER used to be like this before camming. I was always flirty, sluttyish back and now I'm a complete cunt when someone flirts with me. Funny thing though, is if it's verbal I don't turn into the hulk - only if it's via text...email/text message. Like camming.

Still though... :-\ Maybe I just wigged out worse than most girls but it's definitely affected me.

shywebcamgirl
03-01-2012, 07:54 AM
There's not much to be confused about.

"There is not much to be confused about?" Um, yeah, that is one hell of a broad sweeping generation you've just personally made there. So even through we all come from different perspectives and cultural upbringing that we can perfectly understand each other at all times without any clarification to each other on our personal viewpoints. Not to mention pretty insulting on some levels. If you look back at my posts to you, you'll notice I wasn't arguing the semantics of the word 'generalization'. What I was arguing was that I thought it was obvious to a newbie viewing the thread that with all the different view points in the thread that each girl was speaking from their own personal experience.

Don't worry about having to further explain your viewpoint, for my benefit. I am done trying to understand it since you believe there isn't much to be confused about.

shywebcamgirl
03-01-2012, 08:04 AM
People talk negatively about funeral directors? I have never heard of that. I am trying to figure out what possibly people could find wrong with funeral directors? Hmmmmmm?

I never said specifically said they were talked about negatively. When I said they weren't talked about positively, I meant that it isn't a job that is usually idolized. You almost never hear little children say, "I am going to grow up to be a lawyer, doctor, astronaut or a funeral director!" If a little child expressed that they wanted to be a funeral director when they grew up there would be a few raised eyebrows about why that child was so 'obsessed with death.'

I have never personally had anyone raise an eyebrow to me when a child said they wanted to be a doctor and wonder why they were so obsessed with medicine. LOL

playboymegan
03-01-2012, 10:02 AM
generation

? lol alright

CourtneyRaine
03-01-2012, 02:52 PM
(Totally off topic: I get what you're trying to say about funeral directors, and the analogy one could draw about people who work in the sex industry. When my great-gradfather died I watched my entire family treat the funeral director like he was some creepy leper who carried the aura of death everywhere he went, and didn't want to be anywhere near him unless necessary because death is so taboo, so there must be something "wrong" with anyone who'd actually want to work in that field. Similarly, like it or not, sex work is still considered taboo to many people [even though they are usually secretly fascinated with and/or aroused by it], and I've had people try to judge me and set up stereotypes about me in their own heads because I choose to work in the sex industry, so there must be something "wrong" with me.)

Back on topic: I think what Fridays said previously about this thread primarily pertaining to people who cam full time and/or for a living and/or regularly and consistently long term is Spot On. Of Course no two people are going to have identical experiences, but when you cam day in and day out for any appreciable length of time you will Most Likely experience some of the issues that were mentioned previously. Look, camming is the only thing that pays my bills right now so I am not trying to disparage it in any way. Yet, one can't deny that Many of us here have experienced the exact same feelings, the good ones AND the bad ones. I love camming, but newbies, don't be surprised if you encounter any or all of what was said in this thread. Don't let it scare you away from camming, just make sure you go into it with eyes wide open.

Fridays
03-01-2012, 10:44 PM
after a few hours of working online.. my face looks like it was hit by a truck
it gets distorted...... like... weird... I guess its just being tired from staring at the monitor for so long....

PippySweet
03-02-2012, 03:27 PM
If a little child expressed that they wanted to be a funeral director when they grew up there would be a few raised eyebrows about why that child was so 'obsessed with death.'

Ha, I was that child. My Mum told me, when I said I wanted to be a pathologist, that it had very good hours and good pay and I wouldn't have to deal with difficult customers.

On the topic, though, the above posts saying that this probably only applies to people who cam as a main job sounds about right. Once you have pressure to do something and you need the income it provides to survive, it's going to seem like more of a chore than something you do to earn extra cash or for fun.

HaydenBlue
09-18-2012, 11:47 AM
Bumping for our new wave of traffic :) lol

Incantatious
09-18-2012, 12:53 PM
after a few hours of working online.. my face looks like it was hit by a truck
it gets distorted...... like... weird... I guess its just being tired from staring at the monitor for so long....

I know exactly what you mean. My cheeks feel weird after I've been on cam a while I think because I've been smiling / pouting / sexy face so much.

Lushess
09-18-2012, 05:39 PM
Thanks for bumping! No0b here. Haven't started camming yet, but despite the tone of some of the posts, I am really grateful for this thread and this forum in general. I can honestly say I am more excited than ever to get started ( hopefully next week )! So thanks to everyone for sharing their experiences - I am looking forward to being able to share mine in the future too!

justanothercamgirl
09-19-2012, 06:01 AM
? lol alright

Off topic, but it always amuses me when some people have no other good points to argue back with how they seem to default instead to attacking and making fun of the mispelling of a word.

volatileghost
09-21-2012, 12:38 AM
JAC, good point. I'm in a weird cam girl boat -- I did it for money only when I really needed it or was bored a little over 2 years ago now, and was able to pay some serious bills off at the time, I worked ImLive. Now I've gotten an HD quality cam (I wanted it mostly for photos & just chat with my friends/family) and I'm currently receiving state funds due to a lay off from my 9-5 student loan bill collecting job (HORRENDOUS!) and Ive been meaning to go back and cam, just having gotten my ducks in a row yet (made a SM account, found out about Daily Pay, now waiting for SM to cancel so I can set it up). I'm also about to open a couples account with daily pay, but what I think of this post in general is.... It's completely accurate, and that's coming from a girl who didn't do it everyday. When I did it, I didnt have the option to talk to my customers with my voice, I had to type, and I made "okay" money to my standards, but now that I've found this forum (I found ImLive all on my own back then and did it all alone, too), I am EXCITED to start making decent money. Despite the negative posts, which I know to be true, from doing it before (show tits, bb!!! UGHHH), I think we all should just be grateful to be desired and paid to be desirable... There are so many people in the world that don't have half of what we have, let alone the ability to live comfortably and go shopping for new clothes or shoes or lingerie, or go out to dinner, or WHATEVER.

Camming is what you make it, so despite the negatives, when you feel down (coming from a re-newbied-cam-girl), remember that this is a luxury for the men, and ALSO for us (but by no means EASY!), but that we're lucky to be able to fuck ourselves into a job! I'd say we're awfully lucky to be able to make money from what god gave to us -- how is that any different from Christina Aguilera making money off of her voice? AND her body... Let's be fair! The more positive of an outlook you maintain, the more positive experiences you will have.

Again, camming is what you make it, but this IS a great thread, filled with lots of negative things you're going to deal with. It's also a good thread to prepare you with what's to come and how to possibly off-set the negatives from becoming SERIOUS issues for you! Be prepared, read up on ways to stay positive and confident, find ways to better your camming life ... and better your ENTIRE life!

Shycamgirl
12-21-2012, 09:02 PM
This is a very eye opening post since I'm a newbie. I did not think of UTI's and other physical implications. But, as for everything else that was said I already deal with at my retail job. I make less then minimum wage, I get called names (I work for a relative, not to mention the customers). I would love to work from home, set my own schedule, and even if I actually made a little more then minimum wage I would be happy. I'm sure everyone get's burned out no matter what career you are in. I know I'm burned out from what I'm doing now. I give you all credit for your hard work and what you have to put up with on a daily basis. But, trust me it's not just cam girls who have to deal with being treated a certain way.



That's true but you could work 40 hours a day at someone else's job and still not feel appreciated or valued. I spent 8 years in corporate america and i'm telling you, it's not the ideal place either. Yeah I know, cam sites take a huge amount of our money but so do big corporations and you have no say there at all. At least if someone treats me like a jerk on cam, I can walk away and not deal with it. I dealt with so much shit at my old job that when I encounter someone saying "you're fat or ugly" (which happens very infrequently) it's nothing. Anytime you're a sole proprietorship, or an independent contractor, you're gonna have to work harder but the trade-off is you have freedom. You may not be your own boss in every sense, but for the most part, you are. There is no way in hell I could ever go back to my old job after tasting this freedom. You will begin to have negative feelings towards any job you work after a long time. That's just human nature. But it doesn't make it worse just because you've been doing it longer. Hell I bet there are days Beyonce hates her job but I can guarantee she wouldn't trade it for anything. I've tasted both sides and I'll take this any day.

Sunnylexie
12-22-2012, 12:10 PM
No matter how often you have been using makeup before, you'll become expert with it.
You'll probably become allergic to all sorts of stuff women do and wear to get more seductive - to the extent where you don't do it unless it's for camming.
You'll have to invent a damn lot of new ways to keep yourself fresh, playful and at least a bit horny.

Incantatious
12-22-2012, 12:21 PM
Not only will you garner an immense and complex knowledge of the various facets of your own attractiveness, but your understanding of your own body will develop to the point where you end up feeling that your inner vaginal lips are about as explicit as the lips on your face, or perhaps your elbow...

After being a camgirl for over a year now, I know pretty much every little fold of my vagina from doing thousands of close-ups, and I think nothing of it at all, because I'm so, so used to how I look. Part of me sometimes even thinks "It's so weird I'm getting paid to show this.. I'd never get paid to do show close-ups of the inside of my mouth, or close-ups of my knee or something...."

And then you stop yourself and realize that yes - to some men, yes you would...

justanothercamgirl
12-24-2012, 08:02 AM
If you do clips than EVERY part of your life will pretty much been for sale. This becomes frusterating as fuck because it makes it very hard to take any downtime when you need to stop whatever the hell you are doing so you can set up a camera and you may grow to resent it.

I literally flipped my shit last time I was deathly ill. A fellow camgirl helpfully reminded me the last time I was sick that I should record it, and I was all "Noooonononononononononono! The coughing, the sneezing. It is all mine! Fuck it! I will not sell my misery. I am NOT going to get out of my fucking warm bed and set up a camera so someone else can enjoy themselves. I am going to be selfish, dammit!"

And for just a moment, I longed to go back to the 'good ol days' where I was blissfully ignorant that being sick could ever turn a profit and that for at least for that one day I didn't have to work.

Timor
12-24-2012, 03:09 PM
There will never be a bad hair day, bad makeup day, fat day, or bad face day that can't be fixed with a little creative lighting and some angles.
You will become so in tune with every single part of your body that you will know if something's wrong almost before the body part itself has figured it out.
Your confidence will rollercoast depending on what you have been seeing and hearing online.
The money is not predictable and if you're not prepared for those slow days, you will get hit and you will get hit hard.

apryll11
05-30-2013, 03:41 PM
Your actually more like to be found out by a friend, boyfriend/girlfriend that you told and they went and told the people in your life that y didn't want to know then those people actually finding you. If you tell no one, no one will know and never tell anyone your screen name.

tomasiello
06-12-2014, 07:37 PM
You will be sore
You will be an expert with angles
You will experience paranoia of 'being found out'wow... Scared

tomasiello
06-12-2014, 07:38 PM
True...I certainly went in (no forums for advice before hand, just joined this one) with as much energy as one could have! Had a blast, made mistakes and slowly learned. By MYSELF. I based my opinion on MY opinion which happened to be exactly as CourtneyRaine put it. My Husband And I BOTH rolled into camming like a freaking ray of sunshine lol And the good def out weighs the bad for us. Other wise we wouldn't cam at all! =) I think that if you test the waters and it isn't your thing move to something else. If you can stick with it, still have fun and take a few days off after the assholes get to you, then do it. IMO they will, eventually they will. Even if it's for 5 min. Thats why I am SOOOOOOOOO glad I found SW. Newbies and Vets alike can get REAL life experiences that you may not can talk to anyone else about. We don't feel so alone. (My Husband and I) .....yes, I tell him all the advise I get from here and he loves it too.. =) Were still new to camming and we are soaking in every bit of advice we can get. Good, the bad and the ugly. Either way, it lets us know, we are not the first or last to feel some of the stuff we have went through. =) wow.. Scared...still trying

SaintSlutface
06-12-2014, 07:55 PM
Compliments mean next to nothing anymore.
Nor does "dirty talk".
You get annoyed when people discuss sex/fetishes like such prudes.
You'll either hide your profession and live in fear of "exposure" (not the job to go into in the first place if that's your issue, honestly) or have no problem discussing it with anyone. In detail.
You never want to dress up when you go out anymore.
Your computer is your portal to the world.

Camigirl
06-13-2014, 10:59 AM
Wow depressing thread. I see camming (even when I was a newb) as me being my own boss, having control to shut people up when I want, doing what I want on cam, saying NO and not getting into trouble (real boss shit) and dressing or not.
I see so many pros to camming! I save tons on my gas bill!

anonymous camgirl
06-13-2014, 03:04 PM
that's kinda what happened to me, I was laid off from my job , got a severance package , Landed on unemployment then I was Like AGAIN?? 3 yrs in a row i have to find a new job.. I should literally could NOT go on another fucking interview, so tried camming out.. 12 yrs going...LOL.. I keep wondering when it's going to kill me or will I make it out ALIVE!


hmm well I guess if you plan to ever go back to the corporate world it's a bad idea to make this your only job. I was in it for many years and got so sick of the politics, low pay and backstabbing I would never want to return. My health was suffering badly from the stress. My company went under and it was one of the best things that could have happened to me in the long run because it pushed me into camming full time.

smaddy
06-13-2014, 03:23 PM
Just in case you gals didn't see the other thread - organic coconut oil instead of lube and glass dildos - highly recommended! I can play literally all day when doing a marathon cam session and no soreness whatsoever.

(don't use a glass dildo for oral tho - you could break a tooth, use a soft one for that ;)

Sorry that I am a crazy person about this. But I have come across a few people who have been using refined coconut oil for lubricant. DO NOT USE REFINED COCONUT OIL. It doesn't have any of the beneficial properties of virgin coconut oil and will mess up the PH levels of your vag = infections. Make sure that you are using UNREFINED coconut oil. It should say somewhere on the bottle. I buy nutiva brand and dr. bronners virgin coconunt oil.

Extra virgin and virgin are the exact same thing. There is no "extra virgin" when it comes to coconut oil.
It doesn't have to be organic because pesticide residues rarely show up in coconut oil. But I have found that the brands that are the best are organic anyway so it doesn't matter.
Don't buy costco brand either. I did a couple of tests on the coconut oil and they are doing something weird to it, possibly not processing it right or something because it starts to smell bad really fast. Coconut oil should last for years.

anonymous camgirl
06-13-2014, 04:50 PM
I have the Spectrum Brand.. and I also have that cheap louana's kind which is probably that refined kind you are talking about.


Sorry that I am a crazy person about this. But I have come across a few people who have been using refined coconut oil for lubricant. DO NOT USE REFINED COCONUT OIL. It doesn't have any of the beneficial properties of virgin coconut oil and will mess up the PH levels of your vag = infections. Make sure that you are using UNREFINED coconut oil. It should say somewhere on the bottle. I buy nutiva brand and dr. bronners virgin coconunt oil.

Extra virgin and virgin are the exact same thing. There is no "extra virgin" when it comes to coconut oil.
It doesn't have to be organic because pesticide residues rarely show up in coconut oil. But I have found that the brands that are the best are organic anyway so it doesn't matter.
Don't buy costco brand either. I did a couple of tests on the coconut oil and they are doing something weird to it, possibly not processing it right or something because it starts to smell bad really fast. Coconut oil should last for years.

smaddy
06-13-2014, 08:17 PM
Spectrum has a refined and an unrefined version. The refined one will have a little thingy on the bottom that says its good for "high heat" it's in red. Whereas the virgin I think has a yellow one. But if its refined it will say so on the bottle, and if its unrefined it will say so too.
I have the Spectrum Brand.. and I also have that cheap louana's kind which is probably that refined kind you are talking about.

MrsXolotl
08-04-2014, 03:43 AM
Something I learned at college is now matter how excelent is a guide, always will be the one who asks the information that he/she already have (in college was about tests, here is for the camming deal). So I give up, no matter how cute and beautiful is my profile, few users will see it :(

JackAlexander
08-04-2014, 06:24 AM
Wow depressing thread. I see camming (even when I was a newb) as me being my own boss, having control to shut people up when I want, doing what I want on cam, saying NO and not getting into trouble (real boss shit) and dressing or not.
I see so many pros to camming! I save tons on my gas bill!

I miss camming f/t. I got a p/t job to ward off my isolation issues from camming f/t (if you call 25 hrs a week f/t). My vanilla job somehow turned into a f/t job. I like the steady paycheck, but it doesn't pay the bills and I still have 10-15 hours a week. I hate having to log off in the am because I have to get to work or having to log off in the pm because I have to go to bed because I have to go to work or getting off too late to work the afternoon. Especially if I am doing awesome I do not want to log off. I miss being able to go study when I want for however long I want - I MISS MY FREEDOM lol - camming is HARD but Freedom is not free :-)

I miss going to the gym in the middle of the day without anyone there. I live on a beach now and want to lay in the sun and play - not go to a desk job. geesh! I think I need a new vanilla job.... hmmm I will look into this. I tell people I do freelance bookkeeping using MYOB (Australian version of Quickbooks) to explain my odd hours (it is 1pm in Australia when it is 10pm here or if it is 9 am but it is 11 pm in Australia I say I am doing preparations for a client meeting to review their books). This also explains my lighting set up as I need to Skype with people in other countries and I want to look professional. People just look at me blankly and stop asking questions or only question I get is "uhm, how in the world do you find work doing that?" I just reply, oh freelance websites ;-) end of convo.... people ask me why I have another (vanilla) job and I say my bookkeeping job is boring and isolating. I tried to say I did bookkeeping in US but then lots of people wanted me to do their books or ask me questions; I said I was too full with other clients.

Camming set me free, it felt good to spend a lot of time with my dog and be available whenever someone needed me. It was nice to run errands without asking permission to take off of work. I was able to move anywhere I wanted without skipping a beat or worrying about where I was going to work. It made me realize I am gorgeous to the point where there are men who worship me. I love camming because when I get bitchy at my vanilla job I make people cry and then I get in trouble... lol if I was on cam I would be getting money thrown at me for being domme.

It is not all roses this camming gig, but it is freedom. Freedom to be who you want and do what you want.

cat1989
06-20-2017, 07:42 PM
Oh. My. God.
So so glad I found this thread. Although I've read only the first page because I have to log on soon (yes, at least here I don't have to find excuses why I don't have enough time to do something). It's a bit depressing, I've seen only one positive post on page one I think. But I am SO GLAD I found this and know I'm not alone. All this what you girls said on there is exactly what I'm thinking at the moment, after only 3 months of camming.
I didn't expect it to be super easy, like from the first day you log on there are alway hundreds of dollars coming in even if you're just sitting there doing nothing. But it is so much harder and so much more exhausting because I got SO obsessed with it. I see the "potential" it has if you work hard. But you are always so alone. "Jail house", as one of you said. This. Well, actually after kind of every sentence I've just read I thought, THIS! THIS! and THIS!
I thought it is freedom, but it's kind of not. Because it is everywhere, all the time. And people who are not into it don't understand. Most people I know, know about it, I'm pretty open, they are interested but they don't understand. But even if they know, there is still so much lying. What do say to random people who met at your friends houses or wherever etc etc, I could repeat what all of you said already but you know what I'm talking about.
It was just good to read it and to see I'm not the only one who feels like that. Especially about guys, dating and them asking for sexy photos or whatever. I was always up for it, sending little naughty clips and stuff. And now all I want to do is block them. lol.

Jemma
06-21-2017, 01:06 AM
Is camming much different or worse than stripping? I'm about to try camming after 4 years dancing, am I prepared for the inevitable bullshit? I'm not expecting the same money as dancing, and I was self-employed working from home for 5 years before stripping so am pretty well versed in ISOLATION. Any tips for anything I need to focus on dealing with???

CallistoMorgan
08-09-2017, 01:53 PM
This is such a great thread! I'm bumping alll this awesomeness!

MeiMatthews
08-10-2017, 07:10 AM
This has been a very enlightening thread. As a newbie who has spent all 6.5 years of my time in the workforce in some sort of customer service position, I expected some of it.

Dealing with people for a long time will be hard. That's why my personal plan has a heavy focus on selling a variety of clips, videos, pictures, and a premium Snapchat that I can do solo, or with my boyfriend. This working as passive income can help off-set if I need to take an extra day off of camming to recover from being around people so much (and as an introvert, I know this will happen).

I know that some days will be worse than others financially. I know that I will be insulted, but the ban button is right there for that exact reason.

But I look at my two vanilla jobs now, and I can feel the stress weighing down on me from the most asinine things. One of my vanilla jobs is at a call center. I can get in trouble if my call takes too long, but I can also get in trouble for it being too short. I can get in trouble if I'm not friendly with the customer, but I can get in trouble if I'm too friendly (meaning, I can't ask them how their day is going or anything "personal"). If I respond 1 second past the allotted time, I can get in trouble. There's literally no winning in a job like that. There's nowhere to advance, and I certainly wouldn't want to, and the pay is garbage.

Compared to that, camming has so much freedom. You may be stuck at home while you're camming, but at least you're not stuck in an office building anymore. And if things are slow, you have the option to leave for a while, go get some lunch or something, and log back on. The only person stopping you is you. If you're not motivated, then it won't work out well. That applies to any job where you're your own boss.

I'm excited to start camming. Any job has its downsides, but camming has just the right upsides that it seems that it will be a perfect fit for me. :)