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anouk.oui
09-09-2011, 08:21 AM
^ I know I work way less than you anouk but I actually love going to work because I can switch totally off. Versus being at home thinking "I should be prepping for that lab" or "I should be studying" or "when I going to start that essay?". Im excited I have tomorrow afternoon off and already decided Im not doing any uni work in the afternoon - just working :) Cant wait to switch off the brain. :D

And not to put down your mom... but she can't really comment. Im lucky my mom and dad both hated school so they are mystified by the fact Ive already finished one degree and 5.5 years of uni. They brag at every moment they get and even though they are massively in debt they offer me money every time I complain (never take it though - cause ya they are poor lol). They don't know I dance but they know I work at night.

yeah since i only do end of the week shifts now i look forward to them more so i can party. its hard coz the sewing workshop is on the same day and its really exhausting so i always end up leaving work early.

yeah i notice the people who usually say i whinge a lot havent done a degree [e.g. mum, SO etc] so all they know is everyone goes to uni and manages and why the fuck am i struggling and whinging so much. i think girls who go to uni and dance understand this the most just how exhausing it could all be both mentally and physically. also i never been academic in my life so the fact that i in uni is a miracle in itself.

i hear ya i hate accepting money from mum too. i had to for some materials and i was all like im so sorry ill pay you back n shes like pfff youre my daughter whatevs.

ahh sleep time. x

misskittylaminx
09-09-2011, 11:01 AM
It was so hard getting out of bed this morning...it's an hr commute for one 50 min class, during which I don't really learn much, but attendance is mandatory. This is probably the easiest class but itll be the one thatll kill me because of the time. Maybe when I have my car it'll be easier.



Wow that must be hard! How are you dancing without a car?

anouk.oui
09-09-2011, 06:14 PM
^ hen i took night classes it took me 1.5 hr each way for a 2 hr class when we didnt do anything and sat morning one and theres no express buses on sat morning. i kinda only went in enough to get qualified

Jessie_tinydancer
09-09-2011, 07:09 PM
So had random mental breakdown at work last no for no reason and left with no money. Embarrassing and awkward. Whoever thinks student life is easy is a fucking tool.

anouk.oui
09-11-2011, 05:51 PM
:(
aww are you feeling better babe?
i find alcohol helps.


finally went to a cool even on my night off and watched some bellydancers and firetwirlers. i fet amazing, lets see how long i can keep this up

Lilian
09-11-2011, 06:44 PM
So had random mental breakdown at work last no for no reason and left with no money. Embarrassing and awkward. Whoever thinks student life is easy is a fucking tool.

No kidding. I got harassed by a waitress the other night for hiding out in the dressing room. Like, I realize you need warm bodies on the floor, but I am TIRED. AND STRESSED. AND HEADACHE FILLED.

/empathy hug

Jessie_tinydancer
09-11-2011, 11:14 PM
:(
aww are you feeling better babe?
i find alcohol helps.


finally went to a cool even on my night off and watched some bellydancers and firetwirlers. i fet amazing, lets see how long i can keep this up

I actually think alcohol was the problem in this situation. Id been drinking all day and was mentally drained. I feel better now though.

Odette
09-11-2011, 11:45 PM
I kind of had a mini breakdown tonight trying to sew a jacket...GODAMN fuckin princess seams jesushchrist. I'm way too overwhelmed by how much work I have already and it's only the first weekend of term. And my room is a disaster because I was in school all week while stores were open and I only bought new shelves yesterday. Putting them up tomorow and cleaning my room so I dont have to sew on the kitchen table! And I haven't even gotten a chance to work yet because my liscense is expired and Ive been in school every day while they're open since I got back to town. Going to do that tomorow too and hopefully squeeze a shift in on wednesday night! My boyfriend said I have to calm down and take everything one step at a time...but when you see that huge pile of incoming crap in front of you it's so hard to not freak out :(

anouk.oui
09-12-2011, 03:51 AM
^ glad to hear im not the only neurotic fash school stress head. somehow i feel better to suffer in numbers. sewing is so fuckin draining and takes forever bahhh

UwishUknewhy
09-12-2011, 11:09 AM
This is finally my senior year!!! WHOOP WHOOP!!! I am soooo happy I finally made it to this point considering the obstacles I encountered along the way. This semester I am taking 15 hrs and they are all pretty much awesome except for french. I have to get a minor for my degree and french destroys my world :( . I keep looking forward to that year long break I plan on taking after I graduate that will be filled with working and traveling!!

School can be a struggle but is completely worth it! I am very proud of my fellow educated dancers!! Best way to stop stereotypes is do exactly the opposite of what is expected!

J.D.
09-12-2011, 11:13 AM
This is finally my senior year!!! WHOOP WHOOP!!! I am soooo happy I finally made it to this point considering the obstacles I encountered along the way. This semester I am taking 15 hrs and they are all pretty much awesome except for french. I have to get a minor for my degree and french destroys my world :( . I keep looking forward to that year long break I plan on taking after I graduate that will be filled with working and traveling!!

School can be a struggle but is completely worth it! I am very proud of my fellow educated dancers!! Best way to stop stereotypes is do exactly the opposite of what is expected!

Congratulations!!! I still have a long way to go..... What is your degree? What will you do for a living?

UwishUknewhy
09-13-2011, 07:29 PM
Congratulations!!! I still have a long way to go..... What is your degree? What will you do for a living?

Thank you so much!

I am studying international peace and development and minoring in french. I plan on taking a year off to travel after and will either go to grad school after to study one of my interests or I will go to acupuncture school!

You will get there soon enough! Keep your mind focused and enjoy the adventure! Educating yourself is empowering yourself!

Jessie_tinydancer
09-15-2011, 02:14 PM
Awww BOM I feel your pain. Just try and do a little but of class work everyday. Even if it's only an hour at least you will feel a little better. Weird we are all breaking down at the same time.. We are all at different points of our courses and semesters. It's like period alignment at work.. Mental breakdown week on SW. Lol

UwishUknewhy
09-15-2011, 02:49 PM
Hugs!

I had a breakdown yesterday.....

It will get better!

seashell
09-17-2011, 09:28 AM
Love this thread!! ;D

I went back to college full time this semester and I haven't been able to work as much as I used to. It's starting to show... I don't know what I did wrong last night, but I kept getting rejected, guy after guy. I would just walk up to them, ask to sit down, and they would turn me down right then. That almost never happens to me. I don't know if I was just tired from school (I had two exams that day) and sending off the wrong signals, or what.

I want to save up for boobs, but it's damn hard to find time to work. : \ Plus I'm trying to keep up my GPA... So frustrating.

anouk.oui
09-22-2011, 04:52 AM
suffering from exhaustion [linked to lupus] and the flu.
the exhaustion has been persistent all year pretty much.
i just cant bring myself physically and mentally to do certain things.
someone plz help
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=161544

Meow86
09-22-2011, 06:45 AM
I started uni this year and almost had a breakdown with the workload alone in the first semester, I know what to expect now (second semester), I'm less stressed and I'm working my ass off to get the best grades possible so I can make it into Honours in 4th year. I'm just wondering how on earth I will be able to dance AND study. I guess if you ladies are doing it, then I can do it too :) You guys are great motivators! :D

anouk.oui
09-23-2011, 05:12 PM
^ i been wondering the same thing.
it aint easy. maybe im a whinging pussy, maybe others are more hardxcore and we all got different work loads.
may have to cut down on work again...

lokikola
09-23-2011, 05:14 PM
Oh dude last night got stupid slow. It usually does at some point between 12 and 3. So I brought in my lit book and my note pad and got three journals done while at work. When I went back downstairs there was a huge crowd there to welcome me. Fuck yeah!

anouk.oui
09-23-2011, 05:16 PM
time management win!

kleptomaniac
09-24-2011, 05:54 PM
I like this thread! I've been dancing and in full time school for about two years and it certainly is hard sometimes, but then I think about how much more I would have to work if I wasn't a dancer and it all seems better. Three days a week seems really intense though. I work 1-2 days and I am exhausted all the time.

tuesdaymarie
09-27-2011, 09:19 PM
I'm doing 17 hours, had a stressful weekend, very little sleep + sickness, then had to walk 2 miles in 98 degree humid as hell weather to get to class...

I ended up stopping class to tell some girl in there what a worthless bitch I think she is because she was mocking this girl who is either just socially fucked or has some form of Aspergers during a discussion. And a guy I have history with was there to witness it. I rarely get exceptionally angry, but the shit this girl was doing sent my blood pressure through the roof. Kind of feel bad for my instructor... The two other girls involved are pretty ghetto, so I think he thought he was about to have to rip apart a cat fight.

Needless to say, I whipped out my syllables and counted how many more times that class meets this semester. Sixteen left!

UwishUknewhy
09-27-2011, 09:31 PM
I just finished two essays and have a french exam Thursday :(

I'm about to go to the bar to grab a drink with my wonderful boyfriend to celebrate his birthday!!

tuesdaymarie
09-27-2011, 09:43 PM
...you don't live in Houston, do you?

anouk.oui
09-28-2011, 06:57 AM
how many of you here take iron supplements. apparently i should

tuesdaymarie
09-28-2011, 07:26 AM
I just started taking vitamins, so I just got a multivitamin with iron in it. I dip into anemia a lot and it's exhausting. I also started taking B12 and it has helped quite a bit. I'm a vegetarian and really lazy about watching my diet when school starts usually, so vitamins and protein shakes keep me alive. I'm thinking of getting some glucosamine too, since my joints make some pretty awful noises already...

UwishUknewhy
09-28-2011, 12:09 PM
...you don't live in Houston, do you?

I'm not sure if this was to me but no I don't.

tuesdaymarie
09-28-2011, 05:57 PM
Haha, I think that was study/NyQuil induced paranoia. There's a blonde girl in my French class who mentioned she travels to Dallas every two or so weeks who has me wondering, and we have an exam tomorrow too.

I have class 8-5:30 tomorrow, then I'm going to try to find a new club...

anouk.oui
09-29-2011, 04:35 AM
im vegetarian too, tuesday!
great ideas, thanks maybe i should take more supplements.
i take vitamin c, womens multi, iron [not as often as i should] and fish oil.
doesnt the protein make you bulk up? how do you stop that from happening apart from working out heaps...

i drink a lot of freshly squeezed juices with my salad i feel so good and freshh

tuesdaymarie
09-30-2011, 08:22 AM
I don't really work out at all--bad, I know. I use whey protein and haven't had an issue with it, but I get very little protein otherwise, so that may be why. My health nut friend said I should get almost 50 grams of protein a day and if I don't drink shakes, I probably only get 20-25 tops through food like Kashi GoLean original, eggs, dairy, and some peanut butter with my fruit. I'm too lazy to make the shakes every day though (damn blender always needing to be washed), so that may also contribute to why I don't have a gaining issue. Malnutrition, ftw!

elijah
10-13-2011, 09:31 PM
I got a 30/60 in University Physics :(
im really mad about this guy who got the same grade as me lol just bc i dont like him lol just if i gotten a 32 i would have been happy haha

anyways yeah so my professor apparently curves final grades by 25%
he said Santa will come visit with 5-10% add to final grade

average grade was 30/60 so im ok with my grade

my friend told me ppl got 6 and 8's , i didnt pick up my test till a day later and was thinking i was one of those

blah!!! anyone wanna tutor me??? lol

seashell
10-14-2011, 03:12 PM
I'm a vegetarian, too! I never take vitamins though, which is probably nooot good... But I do eat a lot of salads and protein shakes. There's this really yummy chocolate one that I mix with vanilla soymilk... mmm!

Today I found out that I got a C on my Biology test... I was positive that I got at least a B, so this really sucks. I'm freaking out about my grades this semester... might have to retake some of these classes. gah.

lokikola
10-15-2011, 05:33 PM
I shouldn't have even taken classes this semester......... should have just focused on working. Fuck.

tuesdaymarie
10-16-2011, 02:40 PM
Hang in there :/

I turned in some of my worst writing to date last night. I'm really fucking embarrassed to have to workshop it this week. And I need to save 6 grand to finish my degree this summer, despite having scholarships.

I think the booze and I need to see other people till I get my shit back together. I hardly even drink when I'm not in school, but it's about that time of the semester, I guess.

Jessie_tinydancer
10-17-2011, 12:02 AM
Awwww ladies I need a hug... having horrible day. First almost failed an exam I studied so much for. I don't really know what went wrong except maybe the added stress from my relationship at the time I was studying. :( Then I get home to an email from my faculty saying if I don't pay the remaining $1,500 on my tuition immediately I will be kicked out by fri. Unfortunately by then it was too late to call cause their offices were closed. Ive just had to increase my credit card right now to pay it tonight which Im so pissed about. I feel angry and resentful to my partner because he doesnt want me to dance and Ive cut way back... ya now look what happens. My card is already out of control but I seriously had no one else to ask for the money. Ill probably make that much this week but its just so frustrating. As usual being pulled in every direction and can't seem to get anything right. I wish everyone in my life would just fuck off so I can finish this degree properly.. I don't have time for other people. Work and study thats what I need to do. If only it were that easy. :(

Sia
10-17-2011, 12:36 AM
Awwww ladies I need a hug... having horrible day. First almost failed an exam I studied so much for. I don't really know what went wrong except maybe the added stress from my relationship at the time I was studying. :( Then I get home to an email from my faculty saying if I don't pay the remaining $1,500 on my tuition immediately I will be kicked out by fri. Unfortunately by then it was too late to call cause their offices were closed. Ive just had to increase my credit card right now to pay it tonight which Im so pissed about. I feel angry and resentful to my partner because he doesnt want me to dance and Ive cut way back... ya now look what happens. My card is already out of control but I seriously had no one else to ask for the money. Ill probably make that much this week but its just so frustrating. As usual being pulled in every direction and can't seem to get anything right. I wish everyone in my life would just fuck off so I can finish this degree properly.. I don't have time for other people. Work and study thats what I need to do. If only it were that easy. :(

Dude, I can't even imagine doing what you're doing. Well, theoretically I can.....I interviewed at OVC once, and am finishing my Biomed degree now. But, I'm taking the easy way now, only in school part-time, and I honestly know how hard the DVM degree is, and the fact that you're still working while doing it.....blows my mind.

And, as a fellow married dancer/student, I know it's even more difficult when you have relationship matters on your mind.

But you've been successful so far and you can keep doing it. If you ever move back to Ontario, I know who my vet will be. ;)

Jessie_tinydancer
10-17-2011, 12:46 AM
^ don't worry Im barely scrapping past in all aspects of my life. Thats whats so disheartening. Im not doing anything well at the moment. Everything is suffering to accomplish this goal. But I won't give up. Its my dream :) and you never know, Im seriously contemplating practicing back in Canada. Hopefully do at least one of my final year prac rotations there too. And actually live off my parents again hehehe. Take off some stress.

Hahaha I just asked one of my guy friends to send me a pic of his ass to cheer me up and it worked! Just a tip for any of you other stressed out students :D

anouk.oui
10-17-2011, 02:11 AM
^ if he made you cut back on work, he shouldve paid your outstanding fees! i dont compromise with people much and if i do it has to work both ways.
i feel the same
i wanna see friends and family
but sometimes i just wanna ditch going to my bf's house and just dedicate a night to sewing or photoshop or something.
AHHHH

only a few years left for both of us hang in there...

Jessie_tinydancer
10-17-2011, 05:18 AM
^ well our money is shared so doesn't really wrk like that. Even cards are shared. But I was crying tonight so think he's clued in that not dancing while studying is next to impossible. Unless you wanna rack up a giant debt.

anouk.oui
10-17-2011, 05:37 AM
would maybe becoming a dual citizen ease the stress a bit? then youd have less fees and could prob work less too....

yeh fuck dancing and studying. im lucky i only have a short degree compared to you

Jessie_tinydancer
11-16-2011, 09:24 PM
^ Awww *hugs* I feel your pain BOM. I've had 7 exams in the last 12 days... Well tomorrow is the 12th and I have 2. I'm so burnt out I'm physically ill today. Migraine, stomach aches so I've slept most the day but totally underprepared so gonna have force myself to cram most the night in hopes of passing. :(

Maybe you can get some extensions due to special consideration. Mental health is easy enough to get notes for and then perhaps you can catch up. I find going to a library far from my house first thing in the morning and staying at least 8 hrs forces me to do work.

Kisca
11-16-2011, 10:15 PM
I love this thread, thanks ladies for your inputs and advice!

I was in college while I began stripping through-out the middle of the year.. it was difficult so I ended up dropping out. Took a year off and stripped.

Now I applied to a school further away from me, and know I will get accepted, will be moving there and working at the same time. The program I chose was from Financial to Banking and Wealth management (which is similar just new options) Oh, and its new of this year, so Im very excited to go back - so are my parents. I cannot image just stripping after doing it for a year, It gets me depressed. Im excited, but prepared for the long nights and studying... Good job ladies :)

kikidejavu
11-16-2011, 10:22 PM
im literally buried in books right now. fucking literally. sigh.

lolly1
11-17-2011, 03:53 AM
i can definitely emphasise with everyone on this thread. I'm so so so so tired right now. Last 2 weeks of being a full time student (law) and balancing it with dancing has been exhausting. I think working so hard throughout my degree (in office jobs) has burnt me out somewhat as I don't even want to start working next year.

Exam tomorrow ... I'm practically delirious.

anouk.oui
11-17-2011, 04:06 AM
just finished my sewing stuff. after 40hrs of crying over chiffon and suffering lower back pain...

i would say im officially on holidays but i still have 3000 words to write and a few samples to sew over the weekend. i know this doesnt sound as gruelling as 398452 exams but believe me dont knock it till u try it

MissLucy
11-18-2011, 05:54 AM
I know this doesnt work for everyone's budget, but would you be able to take a week off? It might be enough to recharge your battery and give things time to fall back into place. I hope you find a way to unwind and de-stress before you have any more panic attacks. :(

I just started getting back into the swing of things last night, went to the club now I just need to schedule in the days I want to work. I dont know how you girls manage to balance school and work. I need to somehow balance in 5 days a week gym training into that mix and the thought is, well....a little intimidating.

The only positive feedback I can try and give is:
-sleep when you can, even if you are not particularly tired. It makes up for the many nights you cannot catch up on your sleep like a normal person
-eat well, and stay hydrated(I often forget that water is so important, especially when on the go)
-take the time off you need when you really need it. Im not suggesting that you skip work for 3 weeks, but sometimes as little as a week off might be enough to catch up on school work and allow you to unwind enough to get back on track.
-refuse to give up. When things get rough, find a new game plan but dont allow yourself to stray too far from the path. The more you stray from it the more stressed out you will become.
-make sacrifices. Sometimes the trips to the mall or the hours of video games(or whatever your vice is) may be a good stress relief but if its taking up 4-5 hours daily of your time you may want to reevaluate your time management. Take time for yourself to unwind, but dont allow it to take first place over studying or working on school projects. Finding a balance is key, but dont allow yourself too many distractions because you will just find yourself even further from the prize.
-the most important one imo is remember that it IS possible, and that regardless of how tough the road gets you will eventually graduate. Think about how proud you will feel that against certain odds you still managed to make it out alive.

I really hope that you dont give up, and that you find the balance that works for you. I wish you and everyone else in this situation the best of luck!


Aw this thread has gotten buried in my absence.

School has not been going well for me. I've all but dropped out. My anxiety has gotten worse over the past month and I'm now waking up in sweats in the midst of a panic attacks. I've actually had several panic attacks in the past few weeks. I know if I complete all of my school wok and get caught up my professors will take enough pity on me to at least pass me but there is so much work I get overwhelmed just thinking about it, and then I get so stressed I can't concentrate and I end up watching tv and going to sleep. I've been sleeping more than 12 hours a day. Today I woke up barely an hour before it got dark again and I'm skipping work.

Ughhhhhh I hope everyone else is doing better in school than I am. This fucking blows.

But on the plus side, I am making money. I'm averaging over $400/shift now, and am becoming a solid top earner in the club. Which makes this even worse because now I feel like I'm fulfilling the stripper stereotype and I'll never be able to finish school and get out of this industry. :(

charlie61
11-18-2011, 07:38 AM
I wanted to link this thread to a thread I started awhile ago since the School + Stripping thread gets consistent traffic.

The linked thread is a good resource that has some really great discussion in it about the pros / cons of getting a college degree, staying in school, how to go about stripping while in school, etc.

http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=146535

lolly1
11-22-2011, 04:06 AM
realised in my earlier post that i wrote emphasise instead of empathise ... shows how delirious I am.

all nighter tonight, boo :(

piper88
12-02-2011, 11:05 AM
The fall semester is almost over, thank god. This week is my last week of classes, then the second half of next week and the week after that are exam weeks. It has been rough trying to get in all of my school work and dancing- I've averaged 2-3 hours of sleep a night the past three nights

22lligm
01-23-2012, 02:29 PM
Hey I wanted to start this thread up again cause I just started school again and I'm going to try to do that full time while working my 'vanilla' job plus stripping. Is anyone else on the same boat as me? It would help to know someone else is in a similar situation!