View Full Version : Anyone repulsed by older men hitting on them?
OJenni!
08-21-2011, 11:07 AM
Ok there are some older men I would date in a hot second! Canadian girls-ever watch CBC news? There is a hot blonde guy that anchors that must be in his mid 30's-early 40s.... I would be on that man in an instant if he ever tried to pick me up.
But since we are talking about unpolished, overweight, gross men... then yeah I have had tons of them try and get with me. It irritates me to no avail. I am a curvy, polished, 25 year old Asian woman.
Natalllia
08-21-2011, 11:32 AM
It seems like there are a lot of wildly varying definitions of "older men".
Personally, I've usually dated men 5-10 years older than me (my current SO is 9 years older), but I get turned off by the idea of dating a man my dad's age.
I think most of us are in agreement that if a man is the same age as our parents, he can be considered an "older man" relative to us.
But guys in their 30s? As "older men"?/:O
Kellydancer
08-21-2011, 11:43 AM
I think it varies by age. To most of you a 40 year old man is old and to me it's someone in his mid 50's or so.
Aurora_Sunset
08-21-2011, 11:53 AM
But guys in their 30s? As "older men"?/:O
I didn't mean to say I consider them "older men" by a standard definition - they're just older in relation to me right now. I feel like if a decade or more separates me and someone, sure we can talk and even be friends, but I doubt we have enough in common or are at similar enough points in life to get along romantically. I don't have any rushed plans to get serious or start a family, but I feel that any guy in this late 30's, approaching 40 who isn't at least thinking along those lines, probably never will, and is kinda immature. But if they do want those things, I'm not ready for them.
Most of these guys have almost-teenage kids, and possibly are divorced. I'm a 22 year old recent college grad, and think I look even younger. When a 35 year old hits on me, I feel like he's the kind of guy who goes for "barely legal" meat. And, not only does it come off weird in that sense, but they always manage to make some comment about my age and how young I am compared to them. They'll bring up something that happened when I was 5 years old, and when I don't know what they're talking about, they do that whole "Oh man! You are so young! You're such a baby!" thing, but still proceed to hit on me.... that just really annoys and skeeves me out. If I'm such a baby, why are you trying to get into my pants?
I didn't mean to imply that 30 was "old" - but it becomes a different dynamic, in terms of being hit on, when you're "just a baby" lol
Kellydancer
08-21-2011, 12:03 PM
I think though the ages of the men vary on the area. For instance in big cities there tend to be older single men. I've been seeing a lot of never married, childless men on dating sites and many state they are ready to marry. However, many of these guys are looking for much younger, instead of women my age. I mean they should be looking for someone my age not a young woman. I suspect though these guys really aren't ready to marry they still want to have fun. When I dated men 10-15 years older most of them were starting to look into getting married but were getting their kicks first or stupidly assumed they could marry a much younger girl(me)even though most marriages are people within a few years.
she sells sanctuary
08-22-2011, 04:21 AM
ugh. i hate how they claim to be looking for a younger woman because they want marriage and a family. i doubt it's true in most cases. they're just looking to waste some pretty young thing's youth on their dick, and throw her out when she's "used up" less than 5 years after meeting her, because she wants to settle down. then they complain women their own age "have baggage". creeps.
i've always been grossed out by older guys trying to date me or fuck me. i've always liked younger guys, but i'm willing to date a couple years older. i'm 26. i got hit on by older guys (mid-20s at most) when i was in hs, and i was oblivious to it because they weren't even a blip on my radar.
it makes me insecure when older guys hit on me, because it makes me feel like i must look old or something. doesn't help that a lot of younger guys think i'm older than i am. on my 26th birthday, i had someone compliment me by telling me i didn't look a day over 35. um thanks. however, older guys have never guessed i was older than i am, and often guessed younger. so i think it's some weird generational thing, where younger guys expect girls to look like cartoon images of youth, while older guys are more realistic about what young looks like.
and i mostly blame all of it on porn, especially how clueless and blunt guys are. they watch porn, where a dude expresses the mildest interest in getting laid and next thing you know they're banging. there's no normal relationship progression going on. not even a normal date. or flirting with someone in a way that's actually effective. just a few dirty comments back and forth and bam! going at it! so these dudes thing it's ok to act like that, and if you don't like it, you're clearly a stuck up prude, because it's totally standard in their minds for a woman to be an enthusiastic plaything for anyone who wants to use her.
i can blame the age thing on porn too. how much of it is older guys with young girls? and what are the ages of women who play milfs and cougars? when i was younger, "milf" referred to the hot mom of one of my friends, someone who would've usually been at least 35. now in porn "milf" just means that you don't look like a "barely legal". usually mid-20s and not even mothers. and cougars don't seem to be over 30, even though the term is supposed to refer to women who are much older than that.
kthnx
08-22-2011, 05:37 AM
Ugh. I. Hate. Time waster guys (of any age). IMO a guy pretending to be interested in settling down, just to get some kicks before ditching her for a younger more naive girl some time down the road, is waaaay more irritating then the "time waster" customers in a stripclub and that is really sayin something.
xGigi
08-22-2011, 05:48 AM
on criminal minds, that dude with dark hair said men that prey on younger women are chronic underachievers.
makes sense to me. when I was 18 I dated a guy who was 26 and really only went for girls my age. mooched off mommy and daddy for everything. his parents deposited money in his bank account to pay his rent and credit card bills. all he had to do was tell them what he needed at the end of the month and BOOM it was in his bank account. after we broke up he was turning 27 and started dating a 17 year old ewwww.
miss.adventure
08-22-2011, 05:53 AM
One of my most loyal clients is 48 and larger and always whines " I've got NO emails coming in on my online dating website". I'll bet you anythings the age range he put is like 25-35 . Lol. Gah. Then he comes in and cries about not meeting women. Whatever.
I just quoted you in another section and then I jumped over here...and you're cracking me up again, lol! In a matter of minutes haha!
Well I'm in my 40's and older guys gross me out! Omg I can't believe some of these guys are MY age...Ewww! Once I turned 35 though, I've had an extreme amount of younger guys hitting on me, there was a point were I couldn't find someone OVER 25 to date! I'm not interested in dating anyone atm, but it does get better girls...the older you become, the younger the men interested in you get. Wait and see! :D
Kellydancer
08-22-2011, 11:52 AM
I'm finding a lot of younger men who want to date me. The funny thing is it's not because of the cougar thing, but because I look their age. I mean I still get asked what I am studying in college! A few years ago I was still getting asked if I was in high school.
ugh. i hate how they claim to be looking for a younger woman because they want marriage and a family. i doubt it's true in most cases. they're just looking to waste some pretty young thing's youth on their dick, and throw her out when she's "used up" less than 5 years after meeting her, because she wants to settle down. then they complain women their own age "have baggage". creeps.
It really is an excuse, you are right. Even if by chance a man wants a family he can still have biological kids with a woman in her 40's in most cases. I'm still fertile, I haven't gone through periomenopause yet and most women in their early 40's haven't. The risks aren't even as much as previously thought either but still men use this excuse. I've had guys my age tell me I am too old for them. There are younger women who can't have kids either. I've been rejected for the baggage excuse too and I ask 'what baggage'? Sure, I have baggage but so does everyone else. My baggage is pretty light and not like those who have kids and a exspouse. Hell, I speak to most of my exboyfriends so not a lot of creepy exes either except one. One guy said he rejects women his age because "they are fat" or "they have kids". Considering neither pertains to me (and I reject men based on that myself)this is a stupid excuse to use on me.
The guys I dated who were much older were not interested in having a family with me or anyone. In fact one guy had a vasectomy after causing 3 abortions and another was not interested in it either. They were more into controlling women.
OJenni!
08-22-2011, 01:37 PM
OMG I just put a profile on a dating site 3 days ago and the amount of 40-50 year old men that have in their profile looking for female between 18-30 is astounding. And they seem to be contacting me. I am 25 and some of these old fat balding dudes are trying to pick me up.
Now age is not everything but if you are going to be 40 years old and picking up a woman my age at least be hot and have your life together! Meaning be fit, no baby mamma drama (if you have kids don't even bother me...I am not interested), own a car, have a good job and life you can talk about.
Kellydancer
08-22-2011, 01:43 PM
OMG I just put a profile on a dating site 3 days ago and the amount of 40-50 year old men that have in their profile looking for female between 18-30 is astounding. And they seem to be contacting me. I am 25 and some of these old fat balding dudes are trying to pick me up.
Now age is not everything but if you are going to be 40 years old and picking up a woman my age at least be hot and have your life together! Meaning be fit, no baby mamma drama (if you have kids don't even bother me...I am not interested), own a car, have a good job and life you can talk about.
This is why I am having a hard time finding a guy doing online. The guys my age wanting much younger are far more than guys wanting women my age.
I've been called a bitch because I have standards, such as no kids and not obese. However, since I have no kids and am not obese I feel I have every right to request this. The men who are requesting much younger have no business wanting much younger because they bring nothing to the table. I could see if they had a great job and hot with no kids, but most of these guys don't fit that.
I am being hit on by guys 55+ or so and it sickens me. Why would I want an old man?
OJenni!
08-22-2011, 01:52 PM
makes sense to me. when I was 18 I dated a guy who was 26 and really only went for girls my age. mooched off mommy and daddy for everything. his parents deposited money in his bank account to pay his rent and credit card bills. all he had to do was tell them what he needed at the end of the month and BOOM it was in his bank account. after we broke up he was turning 27 and started dating a 17 year old ewwww.
I had a roommate 2 year ago that was like that. Except he was 34 and I never dated him. We WERE friends.
All the girls he dated (except for the one he ended up moving in with us) were 18-22. His job? He was a "seasonal worker" ie a ski instructor in the winter, a life guard in the summer and a lawn/golf person in the spring/fall. Those are typical jobs for say a 20 year old, but for a 34 year old? Time to grow the fuck up!!!!
He wasn't exactly lazy, after all he was physically fit and worked every day. But he was too addicted to the party lifestyle. He did a lot of drugs, drank and constantly was chasing after young girls. Oh and what's really nice is that he would tell them all he was allergic to condoms!
Then he started bringing this 32 year old fat chic home with him and eventually moved her in with us (without asking me first!). She was a liar and apparently told him she was 24 at first. She was a drug addict who attended the methadone clinic. I told him to run not walk from that relationship.
The chic was going into my room and stealing my stuff. We had a fight and since she was not legally on the lease to the apartment she was forced to leave by the police. He sided with her and ended up abandoning his responsibility to the lease by picking up and leaving overnight to move out west! Yup he called me from BC two days later promising to send his end of the rent money. He never did.
The chic was still here in Ontario and apparently chased him out west because she was pregnant with his child! She stole her dad's CC to buy plane tickets.
Don't know what happened to them after that, but there are several people back here in Ontario that don't ever want to see these people again. Yup apparently she (his GF) even stole from some people at a house party.
The two of them deserve each other.
camille27
08-22-2011, 02:39 PM
i did this today at the grocery store when i was holding a french baguette and this old man asked me if i could eat the whole thing...
I remember one guy got so mad that I ignored him that he started yelling at me saying " LISTEN TO MEEEEEEEEEE!!! " I ended up turning around and scanning the room as if he wasn't in it. With a dull emotionless gaze. .
Optimist
08-22-2011, 04:02 PM
Thread cleaned. Carry on, folks!
roast
08-24-2011, 02:30 AM
lol - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zj_4vl_H-SI
Kellydancer
08-24-2011, 12:00 PM
That's great Roast. To be honest though that guy doesn't look too bad for his age.
Optimist
08-24-2011, 01:34 PM
OMG HILARIOUS! I love that clip, roast.
Kellydancer
08-24-2011, 01:55 PM
I will say though that looking at it now I think I know why I dated much older men. No I don't have a father fixation (I have a dad)but rather that is was sort of a fetish. You know how people try things because they are curious? I think that was part of it. I know part of it was because I didn't want to marry them and one of the guys asked me. In hindsight we'd be divorced now. This was in my early/mid 20's and the guys were mid 30's or so. Now I would not date a man who was 55 or so. In fact I am seriously looking at younger men because there are many more of what I am looking for and many are in shape (finding a lot of fat men my age).
JayATee
08-27-2011, 09:32 PM
I am repulsed (I mean actual cringing) when they get overly sexual with me, or make it overly obvious they're checking me out (complete with comments). I find it disgusting. I have had to learn to hide it and laugh it off obviously, but inside I'm screaming. I'm not talking about guys in their 40's btw. I mean 60's and up.
Kellydancer
08-27-2011, 10:22 PM
I hate the sexual comments of older men. Seems so many of them can't keep their thoughts to themselves. I always want to say I'm sorry his wife got fat/ugly/old/whatever but please don't leer at me. Yuck.
OliveJardin
09-14-2011, 10:45 AM
Older (and i mean the "dirty old men") men always seem to sit next to me on the bus/train etc and while I find it frustrating and annoying (the last thing I want to do outside of work is talk to lonely old gents!) it always kind of amuses me that they do it-these guys have no shame when it comes to borderline harassing younger women!
Kellydancer
09-14-2011, 11:01 AM
Ok, I put my profile on a Catholic site. I figured perhaps that since I seem to strike out on the secular sites I'll try this. I'm getting a few responses, but once again am getting men 50+ wanting to meet me. When I tell them they are too old for me, they tell me they want younger because they want kids and women their age are likely in or near menopause. I get that, but really if you wanted kids that much, why in the hell didn't you try when you were younger? I am 40 but am hoping to have a baby by 45 so I am trying NOW, I am not going to wait until I am close to menopause. Honestly, if you don't have kids by 55 or so I really think it's too late either sex.
smeca
09-14-2011, 02:45 PM
Men in their 30s are fine... they've got the older more experienced thing going on and can still have the looks. (HUGE crush on a lecturer in my department who was possibly in his 30s, wish I could've engineered a fling but all I managed was a blushing, drunken chat at the department dinner :P) Above that I wouldn't enjoy the attention unless they were damn charming and handsome... But I probably wouldn't want to kiss them or anything. Maybe if it was someone famous and gorgeous. Though I think i'd enjoy the attention from a charming, handsome 30-40 something more than one of my peers, anyone else?
Also, just learned sean connery is 81??! How, he looks amazing?!
tuesdaymarie
09-15-2011, 07:43 PM
I've been getting the old creepers since I grew half a cup in the early teens. I actually get hit on far more by old (and I mean OLD) guys than those my age.
I know a girl my age (just turned 21) who is dating a 57-year-old guy. Her friend was dating his friend. The friend turned out to be a sex predator and no one has seen the girl in a month and a half. And the first girl is still with the 57-year-old. Wtf.
mediocrity
09-21-2011, 01:09 PM
After years of frustration, I have finally found a deterrent technique that works. Matter of fact, I used to use it on customers.
Make them ridiculously uncomfortable. I was walking to get a sandwich on my lunch break, and this dirty old fuck was all "Hey honey, come here" etc etc. So I walked over and said to him "What made you think that calling me "honey" was appropriate?" in a dead pan voice looking straight at him, revealing no emotion. I also did this at the front door the other day. I finished answering this guy's question, and he was like "By the way, you're very beautiful- you should be onstage." and winked at me. I just told him "Sir, that's totally irrelevant and I don't appreciate your advances." He almost visibly squirmed.
I'm done BS'ing with people. Totally over it. I even started telling homeless people no or "leave me alone" in lieu of "sorry! I don't have any cash!". I know it sounds harsh but I am just over people trying to intimidate me... And the old gross dudes are using compliments as a power play.
carmen_b
09-21-2011, 02:46 PM
I just move away if they are the slightest bit bothersome. Just get up and move. No worries.
Older (and i mean the "dirty old men") men always seem to sit next to me on the bus/train etc and while I find it frustrating and annoying (the last thing I want to do outside of work is talk to lonely old gents!) it always kind of amuses me that they do it-these guys have no shame when it comes to borderline harassing younger women!
Kellydancer
09-24-2011, 02:51 PM
Yuck, yet ANOTHER old man hit on me. I was at an event and this flabby, guy who was 55 was interested in me. Repulsive guy and when I rejected him he said he thinks he's better than 55 year old women. Yeah buddy you are far better than older women. I told him I hope him and his hand have a wonderful life together.
It's disgusting to be hit on by guys almost or old enough to be my father. No guys, most women do not want older men, especially if you are repulsive.
femmefatale88
10-01-2011, 02:54 AM
I have met only two and a half older guys and whom I was attracted to. Now I'm talkin 40s maybe early 50s. I say half because this one older guy was tall and good looking with a great bone structure, however his dick wasn't super hard therefore I didn't find him 100% attractive. But I bet he was super hot in his 20s and 30s. .
In general - I am just not physically attracted to older guys, and when they are hitting on me or trying to date me, I can't seem to wonder why in the world do they think they have a shot?
When I was in hs I had to take public transportation a lot (no car), I got hit on by a lot of older guys all the time - 20s and 30s. I really didn't know how to handle it and felt kind of scared. Now that I think back on it I find it really gross and I think that a lot of guys like to subconsciously think in their minds that the girl they are hitting on is older than she really is, it's like wishful thinking. Cuz I got a customer who always tries to pretend I'm older than my age because it makes it seem "less wrong". Well at least he is honest about it.
Kalypso
10-01-2011, 04:11 PM
Honestly? Only if they're broke. }:D
missjzone
10-06-2011, 12:00 PM
um yeah older guys 50 plus not for me.. but guys under 25 arent for me either.. i like the mid 30's.
Kellydancer
10-06-2011, 12:06 PM
um yeah older guys 50 plus not for me.. but guys under 25 arent for me either.. i like the mid 30's.
I'm 40 but looking at mid 30's-early 40's. Guys over 50 are definitely too old even for me. Guys under 25 are hot but too young for me.
Kellydancer
10-06-2011, 08:51 PM
I'm a grave-robber. I dig old men.
So I've always liked attractive men up to their late 40's hitting on me.
...but my mom is SUPER repulsed by older men leering at me.
Unattractive men, though... GTFO you nasty old fucks! What makes you think you can even SPEAK to me?!
I'm wondering if part of the reason many of us hate older men hitting on us is because so many are ugly. I had a professor who looked like Sean Connery and many younger students thought he was hot. If he looked like Shrek I bet it would not be the same. He never hit on students, using an example. Most of the older guys who hit on me look more like Shrek than Sean Connery. I am repulsed by ugly and fat men of any age, but especially older men. I deleted one of my dating profiles because of the old, fat and ugly men who contacted me. Yeah like I'd even give them a chance.
SybilVain
10-07-2011, 06:19 PM
Older fucks pretty much stopped saying dirty stuff to me, but I remember it was hell when I was 14/15. I guess back then they were surprised when I hit them, now they just assume I WILL hit them. Remember beating an old geezer with an umbrella in a public square when I was 14 - ah, good times! Before you pity him, he was groping my very underage ass. I hope girls have it easier now, cause at the time, no one stepped in when that sort of stuff happened. Sucked.
CherryPepper
10-07-2011, 06:40 PM
I get the opposite. We're talking random 11, 12-16 year olds tellling me they love me and asking me out!? I so could be their mom....talk about embarrassing!
roast
10-17-2011, 04:56 PM
I get the opposite. We're talking random 11, 12-16 year olds tellling me they love me and asking me out!? I so could be their mom....talk about embarrassing!
rofl sorry
In the pharmacy I overheard "nice ass, great ass" in that androgynous tenor that 13-15 year old boys tend to have. I ignored it. It squeaked again and I turned and saw 3 boys giggling with each other and running away. I smirked at first because wtf, kids today. Then they followed me to another aisle "love dat ass" squeak, followed by giggling and running off.
Which I realized if I dont address Ill be pissed off and theyll think it is OK, so I try to scan for them but see nothing. I leave and they're smoking outside (wtf again?). I stop and glare at them and before I could say anything they scattered like cockroaches.
Next time Ill get them. And their little dog too.
MistyRose
10-17-2011, 05:10 PM
rofl sorry
In the pharmacy I overheard "nice ass, great ass" in that androgynous tenor that 13-15 year old boys tend to have. I ignored it. It squeaked again and I turned and saw 3 boys giggling with each other and running away. I smirked at first because wtf, kids today. Then they followed me to another aisle "love dat ass" squeak, followed by giggling and running off.
Which I realized if I dont address Ill be pissed off and theyll think it is OK, so I try to scan for them but see nothing. I leave and they're smoking outside (wtf again?). I stop and glare at them and before I could say anything they scattered like cockroaches.
Next time Ill get them. And their little dog too.
I once was sneak-slapped on the ass in the street by a kid that didn't look over 10, who proceeded to run off like the wind when I turned around, shocked. I ended up laughing because, c'mon, that's...hilarious.
I was also once snubbed by a groom's elderly father on my cousin's wedding. He was nearing 70. (I was barely over 20 then).
BEAT THAT.
:D
TigerToes
10-18-2011, 07:42 AM
ha ha, i remember ages ago i worked(dancing) with a girl in her 30s, iwas around 18 at the time, she was an optician in the day, happily married and trying for a baby, she came into work one day absolutaly disgusted, a man in his 60s had asked her out on a date at her day job(entirely inappropriate considering the setting), she had replied something along the lines of "er no thank you"(very sternly and pissed off) he had then asked something along the lines off "why not, lots of women like more mature men, there's nothing wrong with it", she just told him "Yeah but I don't think my husband would like it and neither would I". she was so mortified that someone could think it was ok to ask her out on a date in her day job, in such a setting, she said she could kind of understand it inside the club but was insulted this granddad was so cheeky.
Kellydancer
10-18-2011, 11:18 AM
That is disgusting. That's what I mean so many guys think that all women like men old enough to be their father and most don't. Yes many like older guys but more like 10 years older, not 20+. I blame the media for this because I often see tv shows where an older man is married to a younger woman (usually hot)and this doesn't happen that often in real life, just like obese men rarely get hot skinny wives.
TigerToes
10-18-2011, 02:18 PM
^^^
you do have to wonder what this creep was thinking and whether he hits on his dentist or gp too, i think alot of older men think they are charming, when i first started dancing alot of older men would try to touch or get me to do things i didn't want too(which is strictly off limits in uk clubs), sometimes they would walk out when i refused and got angry it took me hours of wondering what they were thinking before it actualy struck me they think they are charming, suave and they think women younger than them will find them interesting and appreciate an experienced gentleman to an immature man, i think they also think younger women will be easier to keep under control with their supposed "knowlege and experince"! yuk! i think they think they understand women which is why alot of these guys used to walk out when i refused their advances because they thought they would be able to manipulate the young 18 year old easily and they couldn't because i don't like being around men old enough to be my granddad!
Kellydancer
10-18-2011, 02:37 PM
Some older men do think they are so terrific and have severe delusions. I think many men in general think they are more than what they are but many older men believe younger women want them. The amount of 55+ men who approach me online and offline is astounding. Especially online. I'll often have hundreds of responses from 55+ men. The amount of men my age looking for much younger online is far more than guys my age looking to date women my age. They claim it's because women their age have kids but I know several women my age who are childless and still open to kids.
The control one is true and I often think men looking for younger women do so to control them. I dated two guys 10+ years older and both of them tried to control me. Now I wouldn't date a much older guy.
Please...get over your-self's!
/:O
LOL!
Older dudes usually have MONEY ! And that's why i dance...!
I don't dance for some broke arse 20 something...i like guys with Muula!
LOL!
Most of the patrons at my club are in their 40's and 50's and they think nothing of dropping a few hundred bucks.
In some other clubs i've worked (no cover and no drink min), young dudes would come in a gawk at the dancers and order Tap Water. Once in awhile they would tip. These are the ones the bouncers would have to remove (sigh).
Also, Young dudes tend to cause the most trouble...especially in clubs. Their testosterone level is way too high and gets them in a lot of trouble.
Nope...send the older guys with money to me. I love um!:)
sananeko
10-18-2011, 07:44 PM
Please...get over your-self's!
/:O
LOL!
Older dudes usually have MONEY ! And that's why i dance...!
I don't dance for some broke arse 20 something...i like guys with Muula!
LOL!
Most of the patrons at my club are in their 40's and 50's and they think nothing of dropping a few hundred bucks.
In some other clubs i've worked (no cover and no drink min), young dudes would come in a gawk at the dancers and order Tap Water. Once in awhile they would tip. These are the ones the bouncers would have to remove (sigh).
Also, Young dudes tend to cause the most trouble...especially in clubs. Their testosterone level is way too high and gets them in a lot of trouble.
Nope...send the older guys with money to me. I love um!:)
I thought we were talking about outside the club.. where they give no money and most of the time will complain about having to spend too much on a two dollar soda.
Kellydancer
10-18-2011, 08:16 PM
I'm talking outside the clubs. In the clubs (and even at parties)my best customers were always older men. However, dating wise nope I want a man my age.
lifetravelergirl
10-19-2011, 12:51 AM
^^^
it actualy struck me they think they are charming, suave and they think women younger than them will find them interesting and appreciate an experienced gentleman to an immature man, i think they also think younger women will be easier to keep under control with their supposed "knowlege and experince"!
I doubt the typical thought process is really that complicated. I think it goes more along the lines of, "I have money and money is power and I have been around long enough that I am no longer self-conscious or embarrassed and I am just going to do what I want.
Kellydancer
10-19-2011, 11:07 AM
The sad thing is though many of these older men who have hit on me aren't wealthy. Some have little money. If they are rich they can usually get a hot younger girlfriend (because many women would overlook a lot for a rich guy), but average guys really can't. Yet these average money guys think that younger women think they are hot.
princessjas
10-19-2011, 11:29 AM
I get a lot of hot looking older men! A few fat, grossos, but far more fat young ones.. My current guy (my age) a lot of you might not like because he lets his hair go natural....a super sexy salt and pepper. his body would send most females into a coma tho! lol I likes me some older men! They are hot, responsible and more interesting! WIN!
Kellydancer
10-19-2011, 11:38 AM
See, guys like that (who stay in shape)sound sexy. Most of the older men who approach me are fat and plain out gross.
I get creeped out by it, but then to be fair I do get creeped out by most men.
However since I look younger then my age the 1s that really give me the creeps are those that think I'm in my early 20s that I look at and think they are 60, but find out they are 45 which is only 11yrs older then me in years. Still they look much older then my father & there they are thinking they are hitting on some1 1/2 their age when physically they look like shyt 4 their age.
They probably don't flirt with women their age cuz they are after young & hot, but they are wrinkled old trolls aging way faster then they should be cuz they don't take care of themselves for anything. Yet they think they have a chance w/ me. Sorry they never did cuz I'm into chicks, but even then I generally date younger only becuz I like dating those that look close to the age I look.
I don't feel there is any shame in getting older, but when you look double your age & you are going for some1 you think is 1/2 well unless you have hefs money there just is no way to over look how tales of the crimp creepy that is.
CurvySweet
10-29-2011, 11:49 AM
I told him your twice my age old enough to be my dad. He didn't seem bothered when i said this about 10 times when we were talking. He kept asking me out seemed like a guy who wouldn't take no for an answer when he realised i wouldn't interested he said yea you are a too young for me!
I've even changed to another GYM cos some old guy old enough to know better than to try it on with me and think i would be interested. At 75 y/o with a sick wife i thought he was the sick one.
Funny when I was younger in my teens i loved older men but now its like no way. Much prefer someone my age or even a few years older or younger maybe.