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OmarJones
08-26-2011, 03:07 PM
would u ever date a dancer?

My issue is u at the end of the day have no idea what she is doing in the club. I have fucked plenty of strippers with boyfriends they go back to their men after taking my load in their mouths. Even if she quits still don't mean she don't got a sugar daddy she sees when she tells u she going to her friends house. Just seems like a relationship plagued with trust issues.

safado
08-26-2011, 04:19 PM
would u ever date a dancer?

My issue is u at the end of the day have no idea what she is doing in the club. I have fucked plenty of strippers with boyfriends they go back to their men after taking my load in their mouths. Even if she quits still don't mean she don't got a sugar daddy she sees when she tells u she going to her friends house. Just seems like a relationship plagued with trust issues.

I am curious, do you give up fucking strippers while you are in a relationship?

BouncerDude
09-01-2011, 01:44 PM
Yes I would. Are you polyamorous enough to handle a relationship with a stripper? Does the definition in your head of "dating" require exclusivity? Are you so possessive that your partners choices are not her own?

Sigh

Your post shows clearly you are not prepared for a relationship with a stripper.

johnjdick
09-01-2011, 03:36 PM
Sure. I've dated strippers in the past, and I have no problem doing it in the future. If she has sex with other people while I'm dating her, that's her business. Who says relationships have to be monogamous? Just because I'm dating someone doesn't mean that I own them. It just means that I enjoy spending time with them and they enjoy spending time with me. Likewise, I don't want to date someone who is constantly looking over my shoulder and throwing jealous tantrums concerning my every move. Enjoy each other's company. Leave the drama for others.

KeithDoxen
09-01-2011, 08:18 PM
Sure I would. But everyone's definition of "date" is something different.

To some people, dating means FWB. To others, it means polyamory. To others, it means monogamy, kids, and white picket fences in the future. Can I picture myself with a stripper in all of these types of relationships? Sure. But depending on the level of commitment we're talking about, the factors that would play into my decision would change.

If we're talking about an open relationship, then a dancer who is hot and fun is someone I'd enjoy hooking up with. If we're talking about dating that will lead to monogamy, marriage, etc, then I'd want someone who has other traits as well besides just being hot. Drug and disease free, STD free, someone who I connect with on an emotional and psychological level, someone who's smart, feisty, clever, etc.

As far as trust goes, that's gonna be an issue in any relationship. If you're going to date a stripper and it's going to be monogamous, you have to trust her not to give extras just as she has to trust you not to go get extras from some other girl at the club down the street. Trust goes both ways.

I think dating a stripper would be fun, not just for the glamour or bragging rights, but also because strippers are well in tune with their sexuality, and would probably provide a man with a fuller sexual relationship than a lot of girls who have never gotten in touch with their bodies the way strippers have.

Truth be told though, I've met dozens of strippers throughout my years going to SC's and I can only think of a couple that I would have truly dated in the "let's get serious" sort of way. One was a stripper in Baltimore who was around 30 years old (back in 2002, that is), blonde, nice boobs, generally all around hot, and who shared my sense of humor and who seemed to banter with me in a way that most women won't or can't. Another was a stripper I met in Charlotte, NC, who just exudes sexuality in a way that few do, and who is charming and charismatic. Also blonde. Maybe gentlemen do prefer blondes. Ah well.

yoda57us
09-01-2011, 08:56 PM
I have, I do and I will continue to do so. For the record, I do know what they are doing inside the club-at least, I know what the ones I have dated do. Since I've dated escorts as well I guess I don't have a problem with lack of monogamy, at least not at this point in my life. I do expect honesty from anyone that I get involved with. What I'm not interested in is a gal with a drug or drinking problem.

Athenathefabulous
09-01-2011, 09:17 PM
I am curious, do you give up fucking strippers while you are in a relationship?

i am also curious. i want the answer to this.


would u ever date a dancer?

My issue is u at the end of the day have no idea what she is doing in the club. I have fucked plenty of strippers with boyfriends they go back to their men after taking my load in their mouths. Even if she quits still don't mean she don't got a sugar daddy she sees when she tells u she going to her friends house. Just seems like a relationship plagued with trust issues.

this isnt a dancer problem, this is you being a mistrustfal insecure bastard problem.

jimboe7373
09-01-2011, 09:46 PM
I've dated strippers before and it's no problem until/unless I get emotionally attached. At that point it becomes uncomfortable having them be the object of lust for other guys and being sexual with other men. When I get close to them and start thinking of them as "my girl" but they are still to a degree "everybody's girl", is when it can get to be a problem.

BrianIll
09-01-2011, 10:46 PM
Though I never have, I'd like to think I could. However, I would have to know her well enough to feel I could trust her (and she could trust me) to stay within the rules of her particular club. Without trust, there can be no real relationship.

pinups4
12-28-2011, 09:22 PM
I would date, marry, grow old and love a dancer. have, do, and will. My #1 "one that got away" was/is a dancer, ...

Coastie Joe
12-29-2011, 10:54 AM
Yea I date them now..................For about 3 minutes at a time. 6 min on 2-for Tuesdays

Coastie Joe
12-29-2011, 10:56 AM
Would love to take one to my sisters wedding.

kaiarose
12-29-2011, 11:10 AM
Would love to take one to my sisters wedding.

Hate to break it to you but when you bring a stripper to a wedding, chances are she'll be clothed. And dressed to the nines at that ;)

Coastie Joe
12-29-2011, 11:24 AM
10 Things You Should Know Before You Date a Stripper
1. We can drink longer and harder than you can. Please don’t test us.

2. We’ll wear heels anywhere. The grocery store, camping trips, gigging … everywhere.

3. We’re as hairless as a fresh baby bird.

4. We will be late to just about everything because we have these ridiculously high appearance standards for ourselves (… and we’re notorious procrastinators).

5. We’re friends with people you won’t meet in a million fucking years. And yes, they just text us right now, and no, we’re probably not going to ignore them.

6. Our sexual appetites are robust, an attribute due in no small part to a regular exercise regimen done in stilettos and our innate narcissism.*

7. We want you to buy us expensive goodies so we can brag to our stripper friends about it.

8. If you don’t like us dancing, you better be prepared to support our lifestyle. Otherwise, we don’t want to hear your bitching.

9. We’re kind of manipulative, even if we’re not trying to be.

10. Don’t get in without an iron-clad way to get out. Or you’ll lose your house (and/or wife, and/or sanity).

(from diaryofanangrystripper dot com

Coastie Joe
12-29-2011, 11:26 AM
Hate to break it to you but when you bring a stripper to a wedding, chances are she'll be clothed. And dressed to the nines at that ;)


Exactly!!

Let_It_Fly
01-05-2012, 02:00 PM
Sure I would. But everyone's definition of "date" is something different.
This^^^

Laurisa
01-05-2012, 02:10 PM
would u ever date a dancer?

My issue is u at the end of the day have no idea what she is doing in the club. I have fucked plenty of strippers with boyfriends they go back to their men after taking my load in their mouths. Even if she quits still don't mean she don't got a sugar daddy she sees when she tells u she going to her friends house. Just seems like a relationship plagued with trust issues.
You are an idiot.

Ike Turner
03-19-2015, 10:50 AM
Hell no.

slowpoke
03-19-2015, 12:31 PM
Has anyone noticed several old and largely irrelevant topics, including this one, have been resurrected recently?

Tsepmet1
03-19-2015, 01:50 PM
^ I sure as hell have.

Addison Lynne
03-19-2015, 02:33 PM
Has anyone noticed several old and largely irrelevant topics, including this one, have been resurrected recently?

Yeah....and by someone that managed to get banned in less then 4 hours! LOL

rickdugan
09-30-2015, 05:47 PM
I realize this is a "necro" or a dead or zombie thread that was bumped. But it's dead around here, so ....

Yes, but ONLY IF I wasn't married. (or unless she wanted to be my kept woman in a city apartment, but dancers make terrible kept women since they are more independent than that, and it would, frankly, insult her).

My current wife was abused and molested as a child by a family member. It really messed her up. So with that said, realize I AM NOT implying the stripper (false) stereotype here. Not at all. I am just saying I understand that all women are different and need varying amounts of support, understanding, trust, love, all at different times in the relationship. Above all, I need to listen, be patient, know when fix things for her, when not too and just listen and support her. I know when to get close and when to leave her be. And when to make her feel special when no one else does and she feels hurt and alone. The key would be patience, understanding, trust, and an open mind.

And yes, I would not have a problem with her stripping, provided she is being treated well by the customers and mgmt.

Ah. So you feel that your experiences with a wife who was abused as a child make you especially qualified to date a dancer? Or at least to serve as your "kept woman?" Got it. ;)

Idk dude. You could dump all of those Hallmark card theories into almost any situation involving a woman, but if you actually believe it then IMHO you have a weirdly simplistic and romanticized view of the subject. And while you claimed not to be drawing parallels between your abused wife and strippers, you then plunged right on ahead with your notions that their needs were similar.

Truth be told, I don't think that any guy really knows how he would handle it until he is in it. What do you do if customers and management DON'T treat her well, which is all too often the reality? That is just one of the many realities involved and it is a gritty and unromantic one, as are some of the others. I tried it very briefly many years ago and learned that I couldn't do it, as much as I wanted to. Kuddos to the guys who can, but they are a rare commodity for a reason.

slowpoke
09-30-2015, 05:54 PM
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A Flying Dutchman of a topic, doomed to sail the Cyber Seas for Eternity.

Dominic.2
09-30-2015, 06:34 PM
Good points Rick. I wasn't really adding to the conversation. That will teach me to stay away from necro threads.

LOL @ slowpoke!

wall
01-06-2018, 08:16 PM
would u ever date a dancer?

My issue is u at the end of the day have no idea what she is doing in the club...Just seems like a relationship plagued with trust issues.

Yes I would, but not in a serious relationship and try to avoid it. Prefer to keep things strictly business. As for trust issues, not every relationship is going to be a "boy meets girl" picture perfect scenario. I wouldn't date an active dancer if I had issues with what she was doing with other men while working (or whenever).

holyshitshelly
03-01-2018, 11:45 AM
I've dated strippers before and it's no problem until/unless I get emotionally attached. At that point it becomes uncomfortable having them be the object of lust for other guys and being sexual with other men. When I get close to them and start thinking of them as "my girl" but they are still to a degree "everybody's girl", is when it can get to be a problem.

Dude that shit hit me in the feels... This is exactly why me and my last boyfriend broke up. And I met him as a dancer in a club and is soon as he got feelings and started thinking of me as his girl we started having problems. However he still talks to me so it must’ve not been that bad LOL