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anouk.oui
09-25-2011, 06:06 AM
"good things will come to those who wait"

....yeh. rather than going after an opportunity ill just sit here with my coffee and let it come back to me

Smurfette
09-25-2011, 06:57 AM
I haven't read this whole thread so this may have been covered already, but "forgive but never forget" is pretty stupid IMO.

It's pretty much saying, "Sure I forgive you. Except not really because I'm still holding a grudge."

Defeats the purpose of "forgiveness" if you ask me.

OutofCuriosity
09-25-2011, 07:05 AM
"Kill them kindness"

This is the worst tactic to use with bullies, abusers and mean people. They prey on your niceness and use it to their advantage. With some people, you just can't be too nice. The "too nice" people are their easy targets to walk all over on. There is no guarantee that being nice means someone will be nice to you back.

TigerToes
09-25-2011, 02:14 PM
another one i know loads of people will disagree is "you only get one mother" or "one day you'll be best friends with your mum" long story short the few memories of my mother i have were of her being a very abusive, nasty,extremely violent,manipulative bully, who walked out when i was very young, she contacted me and my sister about 2 years ago and was very nice at first (suspicions were aroused), it turned out she wanted money, as soon as it became clear we weren't going to hand over wads of cash the mask slipped as she wrote nasty messages all over my sisters facebook! today my aunt came round (who i also havn't seen for almost ten years!) and said she thought my mum should be allowed to come and stay at my house during her stay in england(she lives abroad) and she's arriving next week I said "no way" only to be told "come on she's your mother, you only get one mother", so rude, just because someone has given birth doesn't mean their children should pander to their every need no matter how nasty they are or how little they contribute to their upbringing. end rant

sweetsam
09-25-2011, 03:47 PM
^^^^I agree with that. Just like there are a lot of sperm donors, and a lot of women who make babies, who don't have any ability, or concern to raise their own kids.

rareaspasia
09-25-2011, 05:00 PM
I got this one a lot over the weekend after my car accident. "Be grateful, it could have been worse." What? How is that supposed to cheer me up or make me feel better in any way? Of course it could have been worse, of course I'm glad I'm OK, but it still fucking sucks donkey dick. My neck hurts and I have no car, STFU.

"Every day that you wake up is a good day!" Well, yeah, being dead is bad, so... um... OK. Whatever.

"Tomorrow's another day!" I get the sentiment of this but the wording bugs me and I dislike the idea that you should just throw in the towel on today instead of doing something active to improve your situation.

Basically I get irritated by people telling me to cheer up when things aren't great, or that we have to be happy all the time. Like people aren't allowed to be grumpy when bad things happen. Humans aren't robots and I prefer it when they express a full range of emotions. Obviously this doesn't apply when I'm at work; I leave my negative stuff at the door.

TigerToes
09-26-2011, 04:35 AM
^^^^I agree with that. Just like there are a lot of sperm donors, and a lot of women who make babies, who don't have any ability, or concern to raise their own kids.

Thanks, most people don't though, when i was getting married i went on this website for brides to help me organise my day and make sure i had everything covered, there were alot of threads by women saying they didn't know whether to invite their dads because theyhadn't seen them for years/they hadn't contributed anything to their upbringing/weren't nice and they all had replies telling them their dads didn't deserve them, when women asked for advice about inviting their mums they got the standard "she's your mum, you only get one mum, you should be ashamed, you'll regret this one day!" such double standards!

TigerToes
09-26-2011, 04:41 AM
another one i absolutaly hate is "crying won't make it better" yeah i already know crying won't magicaly fix things, i'm crying because i'm sad thank you very much now please leave me alone!

OutofCuriosity
09-26-2011, 06:00 PM
another one i know loads of people will disagree is "you only get one mother" or "one day you'll be best friends with your mum" long story short the few memories of my mother i have were of her being a very abusive, nasty,extremely violent,manipulative bully, who walked out when i was very young, she contacted me and my sister about 2 years ago and was very nice at first (suspicions were aroused), it turned out she wanted money, as soon as it became clear we weren't going to hand over wads of cash the mask slipped as she wrote nasty messages all over my sisters facebook! today my aunt came round (who i also havn't seen for almost ten years!) and said she thought my mum should be allowed to come and stay at my house during her stay in england(she lives abroad) and she's arriving next week I said "no way" only to be told "come on she's your mother, you only get one mother", so rude, just because someone has given birth doesn't mean their children should pander to their every need no matter how nasty they are or how little they contribute to their upbringing. end rant


Agreed. Only those with an abusive mother will understand this.

The Six
09-26-2011, 07:00 PM
"good things will come to those who wait"

....yeh. rather than going after an opportunity ill just sit here with my coffee and let it come back to me

It's not telling you to just sit around and do nothing. The phrase is preaching patience. I don't see what's wrong with that. Yeah, you want to go after an opportunity, but you have to WAIT in order to get it.

A lot of these pieces of advice are being stretched beyond their intentions. They're not meant to be taken universally.

kdogg247
09-26-2011, 08:34 PM
hard work is its own reward

stripperMBA
09-26-2011, 09:26 PM
God will provide
And as a christian I hate this saying cuz I feel like it gives people an excuse to be a lazy ass and not put in the work they need to do. be it at work or in their personal life.
I have a couple friends in Canada who get 1,700 a month from government. every night they have devotion in their home with their 4 kids. but this same couple will not feed their kids properly, will not manage their money well, and do not take esl classes that they need to take. Because what they mean when they say "God will provide." is that they will continue to look for a handout.>:(

kermit210
09-27-2011, 07:43 PM
The single most infuriating thing you can say to someone royally pissed off at the fuckery in this world: "Let it go"