View Full Version : escort ?'s: BBBJs, money, my period
LaurenAus
12-20-2011, 05:43 PM
^ I think because guys are paying specifically to not be asked. Also HPV something that men can give but not be tested for is another one. Anal sex is one way to pass it due to the hpv bumps that can grow within the anal cavity. During anal sex these bumps are being worn down and then bleeding which accounts for many new cases being discovered.
What guy will really say he's paying for sex because he has herpes and Aids and doesn't want to give it to someone he's dating. Plus most men don't even test themselves. Women are tested more frequently due to the annual pap smear. Obviously an escort would probably be tested on a more consistent basic especially if she was doing unprotected acts.
ahh makes sense..but kind of scary ):
BlkSharpie
12-20-2011, 08:54 PM
Its one of those risks, even when someone does full cover, there are still risks... But I do think that being higher rate escort vs $40 low rate drug addicted streetwalker makes a difference too. The average guy who is married/in a highpower/high profile job cant afford to take risks, and are not as likely to be a risk themselves.
BBBJ does carry risks, but not nearly as many as BBFS...no one, escort or client alike, in their right mind would do this... And getting tested regularly is very important as well, not just the once a year testing like the average person in an presumably monogamous relationship.
Btw...Greek is anal.
xeden
12-21-2011, 11:14 AM
how come more escorts dont demand std tests? that would take care of those worries (except herpes usually require more invasive blood tests)
I think it is required to some extent in some countries, like Australia. The escorts perform mini-exams themselves on each guy looking for signs of std's. Of course this isn't so thorough, but it's safer than nothing. It's also, however, the least sexy act I can imagine doing while being paid to be sexy, like "do you like my lingerie and heels? oh, and can I shine this medical light on your crotch for a quick minute before we get started?"
Personally I'm glad I don't have to do that, but as others have said on here, it's all about maintaining personal comfort level, standards, and boundaries. to each her own...
CFMNH44
12-23-2011, 08:13 AM
... The escorts perform mini-exams themselves on each guy looking for signs of std's. Of course this isn't so thorough, but it's safer than nothing. It's also, however, the least sexy act I can imagine doing while being paid to be sexy, like "do you like my lingerie and heels? oh, and can I shine this medical light on your crotch for a quick minute before we get started?"...
Make the exam fun. No guy is going to mind a hot woman fondling their junk. On my first visit to a legal brothel, the lady I picked asked her friend to help her with the inspection. Not sure if it was protocol for a new girl or just part of her hustle? Much like leading a guy by the dick to an ATM, it puts you in a position of power. Interestingly enough her friend was my second choice, that I almost picked. ... Many years ago, but I still remember fondly.
naomigrey
01-04-2012, 12:33 AM
I'm currently working as an escort in the 280-300$ range and performing bbbj is beyond my realm of comfort completely. I've actually found that many of my clients appreciate how safety conscious I am.
William Folds
01-09-2012, 02:33 PM
I had no idea people offered bareback anything in the sex industry. Scary... Be careful to everyone!
dixievista
01-26-2012, 12:10 AM
My new thing - tea tree oil!! I put some on a qtip and swab it on my throat each night before bed, and I soak my sea pearl sponges (http://www.jadeandpearl.com/catalog/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=9&products_id=18) in a couple drops mixed with water and stuff it up there - Everything feels fresh all the time now and I don't even get a sore throat from DT anymore! all this to say - tea tree oil kills infections so it will nip gonorrhea right in the bud
cherryblossomsinspring
01-26-2012, 06:47 AM
Actually in some countries people use lemon or lime juice which supposedly kills the Aids Virus. The unfortunate issue with this is that it also tears down the lining of the vagina which allows cuts to be easier to obtain with minimal friction thus allowing for infection to enter these areas with ease anyways. Also the natural bacterium in the body are no longer live to kill of said invaders. I know it's a vicious cycle.
BlkSharpie
01-26-2012, 06:58 AM
Im a big believer in tea tree oil as well! I also soak my sea sponges in it, and I also have a travel sized mouthwash bottle that I fill with water and put a couple drops of tea tree in it to swish with after a date. I dont brush my teeth right after (or right before) a date because it causes small cuts in the gums and lets anything in.
Miss_McKenna
01-26-2012, 01:08 PM
Where would you buy tea tree oil? A health food place?
Ryla88
01-26-2012, 05:30 PM
K... I'm going to share some of what I've gathered in 3 years about collecting your money, your period and GFE. Hopefully it'll help.
Money- I would usually excuse myself and go to the bathroom but first I would ask if he would like to use it. It makes him feel comfortable knowing that no one is in there(weird, I know, but you'll get that a lot). If he has a problem with me going then, it's a red flag. He either shorted me/ paid with counterfeit. Or he can be extremely nervous but a little more talking should sooth his nerves.
Period- Don't use a sponge. They get stuck and can get messy. Go to CVS and buy Insteads. They look sort of like a diaphragm (rubber ring, plastic middle). You slide it all the way up and the cup will catch the flow. They are specifically made as an alternative to tampons and come in a box of about 30 plus.
Now....GFE.... Do what makes you comfortable. No, let me rephrase that....Do what is best. Men are extremely.... Really, all he needs to know is that you are hot, you are nice on the phone, and you are available to him at your starting rate. Everything else I think hurts more than it helps. For one, not every man is into extra freaky girls. There might be a millionaire out there who may over look you simply because, he doesn’t want to see the girl who just made out with the hobbyist, who only sees girls who allow dining at the Y, kiss and have weener breath from all the bbbjs all for 200 bucks. And personally, that's not something I would risk just to cater to a crowd of chepos who will see you whether you advertise GFE or not because seeing a new girl every other day is what they do. I'm not saying that it's wrong to do it if you're cool with it but, the name of the game is-Get as much as you can by doing as little as possible. The way I see it is mileage doesn’t come free. You want more, you pay more. And those that are okay with that are the keepers.
BlkSharpie
01-27-2012, 06:51 AM
My only problem with Insteads is that my exbf could feel it, and it made me so self conscious! I used them successfully for wow, almost 10 years? And then while with my ex one night, he was like.."Um..I think theres something in there..." and that look on his face! LoL! It was hard enough with someone I was in a relationship with, but with a client, I would just *DIE!* The sponges do take practice to use, but very worth it. I just had a 3 day/2 night date with a guy, and my luck! My monthly started two days before my trip, and there was no way I could cancel. I was nervous as hell! But I made it through without any problems.
I dont think guys are under any illusions that we arent sexual on dates with other guys. Now, I dont advertise what I do, or even what I dont do...but my reviews are revealing. I have been told by some guys that they disnt really read reviews...just skimmed them to make sure its favorable, and wernt interested in the details. To me, GFE means literally girlfriend experience...and thats something all my reviews reflect, to back up how I advertise myself. Nearly every review comments on my laugh and that Im sweet and interesting to talk with...for many guys, esp those who are looking for more than just a wham bam, knowing that a girl is GFE and has a personality is important...so thats where the term really carries its weight.
Ryla88
01-27-2012, 02:21 PM
My only problem with Insteads is that my exbf could feel it, and it made me so self conscious! I used them successfully for wow, almost 10 years? And then while with my ex one night, he was like.."Um..I think theres something in there..." and that look on his face! LoL! It was hard enough with someone I was in a relationship with, but with a client, I would just *DIE!* The sponges do take practice to use, but very worth it. I just had a 3 day/2 night date with a guy, and my luck! My monthly started two days before my trip, and there was no way I could cancel. I was nervous as hell! But I made it through without any problems.
I dont think guys are under any illusions that we arent sexual on dates with other guys. Now, I dont advertise what I do, or even what I dont do...but my reviews are revealing. I have been told by some guys that they disnt really read reviews...just skimmed them to make sure its favorable, and wernt interested in the details. To me, GFE means literally girlfriend experience...and thats something all my reviews reflect, to back up how I advertise myself. Nearly every review comments on my laugh and that Im sweet and interesting to talk with...for many guys, esp those who are looking for more than just a wham bam, knowing that a girl is GFE and has a personality is important...so thats where the term really carries its weight.
It was the opposite for me. I tried using a spong when I started. It got SO stuck I spent about 2 hrs squating and bending a million and one ways to get it out. I got really scared because I thought I'd have to go to the hospital or something. Then a friend gave me insteads and I thought they were great. But you're right, if you don't put them in right/all the way up you can put it in tilted. But, if you do that you can feel it too so you'll know it's not in right.... you should feel nothing. Usually, I use a little lube just to make sure it goes all the way up.
GFE should literally mean "girl friend experience." But it's been turned to PSE (porn star experience) i.e. dine @ the Y, DFK me, let me give u an uncovered bj and anything else your little heart desires.
When clients would call my ad and asked if I was GFE I would say yes if gfe means the same thing to you as it does to me. Sure, I'd cubble, have long conversations, eat dinner w/ them and hold hands out in public BUT I never kissed, never allowed oral on myself, never allowed my vagina touched, always used protection and all things that happened during the session were on my terms only. And it would be the same with every client be it a $300 client or a $15,000 client.
BlkSharpie
01-27-2012, 11:05 PM
Oh yeah, like I said, Ive been using it a decade with no issues and I never feel it. But my ex is on the larger side, he was able to feel it. I think the majority of the guys Ive seen wouldnt feel a thing lol! But I have had a couple of guys who were on the magnum xl side, and yeah, I guess its just hearing it and seeing the concern on my bfs face to feel something not quite natural, that I dont want to see that from a client.
The sponge has a learning curve too though, when I first tried it, I had the omg it stuck! scare....and I was so sure I was going to be one of those "so, I ended up in the emergency room today" horror stories :D But before I hit full fledged panic mode, I grabbed olive oil, doused my fingers with it and voila! But now I also know it doesnt have to be quite so small, I trim them myself and make them a larger size so that I can pull it out easily..and its totally soft, so theres nothing plastic or hard to feel or knock out of place.
BUT! I know, like i said, that its not for everyone. Just like Im scared of having a guy feel the instead, I can understand if someone is scared of having the sponge get stuck. Oh and yeah..I had a *wonderful* guy tell me what GFE is supposed to mean and what services I should be offering if Im going to call myself GFE...and yup, everything he was describing was PSE...but a lot more harsh than what you described, he was all about the CIM, CIF etc. I dont want that on, near or on me so thats out out out! But we all have our limitations. Never let any guy try to get one over you on you by insisting you should provide something.
Granted, generally GFE is more intimate, and does involve kissing where PSE is more "buck wild" lol and would not. And then there are the ladies who dont label themselves at all... But it doesnt matter how someone advertises herself, the only person who has control over the date and what goes on is the provider.