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Noelle_Noir
10-14-2013, 04:07 PM
I was unaware you could tell someone's race by their posting. I'm actually a halfsie. I look persian anyway. h0ttie is too I believe?
Aside from that, positivity works because it causes you to have positive body language. People just body language more than words. And before you even speak. So unless you are a wonderful actress, not being positive usually hurts you when you are working. What customer wants to spend on someone who is clearly not enjoying herself? Even as a domme, its still important.
I agree about the positivity and not making whatever you are doing seem like a obligated thing.I try too have fun and have whoever is in my room I want them too have fun too.
I did not mean too offend anyone with the giff,I just thought the bouncing dedede feel in the giff is funny.I woke up in a silly mood and was kinda shocked how this thread went kinda weird for a bit.I was trying too be funny...Sorry.
LAChloe
10-14-2013, 05:17 PM
She's white, and her parents are dot comanaires.
Is everything a race issue with you?
Snowy0Star
10-14-2013, 06:02 PM
please dont start again... i regret bumping this thread because of what it turned into glam posted it in another thread and i thought it was great advice and wanted to share with the rest of the forum but fuck guys ....
kortneykay
10-14-2013, 06:04 PM
Is everything a race issue with you?
Of course not sweetie. I don't have a race issue at all. I'm just realistic. What other prince do you know in the UK married a woman women of color except I think...one? I'll wait lol.
kortneykay
10-14-2013, 06:06 PM
^ I was thinking the same thing ....
Edited to add: Sorry that your positive thread turned into a huge disaster, h0ttie. I think those who aren't interested in your tips/advice shouldn't reply and keep their rude comments to themselves. Some people just like to be victims ... Apparently, the only reason I do well on cam is because I'm half white and not a BBW *eyeroll*
I do well. I'm a BBW. I just know that there are SLOW days no matter what you or anyone else thinks because I listen to the girls who are having a hard time. Just because I don't agree with everything everyone else does doesn't mean I'm negative or "rude" it's called an OPINION for a reason. You don't have to agree with it which is the whole point, however, don't try and bring down everyone else's who's opinion differs from yours. At the end of the day, not everything that works for YOU will work for EVERYONE. I'm okay with that, and I think you should be too. People only treat you the way you let them. Your feelings can only be affected if you LET them. It's funny that the main girls in this thread who are screaming "positive" at the ones making snide comments like "EYEROLLLLLLL", etc.
kortneykay
10-14-2013, 06:10 PM
^ that's great. I'm glad you do well ... No need to get defensive.
Oh, like you you mean? Do I look worried/bothered? No ma'am, you're entertaining me actually you're just not getting paid for it. :)
kortneykay
10-14-2013, 06:14 PM
LOL okay then. I'm glad you're entertained.
Thanks :) It helps me stay positive.
GlamourRouge
10-14-2013, 07:19 PM
Oh god really? I wish people would actually research before making claims. Or know what they are talking about. That is in general, a pattern I see on SW. Not at anyone in particular.
There isn't a lot of black royalty because slavery ended not even 100 years ago. HOWEVER, there were and are Queens with black ancestry, and other ethnic ancestries. Queen Charlotte from the 1700s had black ancestry. I saw her face in a picture and was curious.
If you want to know of more RECENT ones, there is Princess Angela who is black and married a white Prince, Prince Maximillian of Germany.
Second, the black population in England historically has been VERY small. I just looked it up, its 3.5%. So odds are, even if he wanted to, odds are he wouldn't meet many black women where he is from.
Third, there are OTHER royal families out there besides that one. There's ones in Spain, and all over Europe. For some reason, the US is obsessed with that ONE family, but there are royal families all over. Queen Sofia of Spain gets a moderate amount of press, though not much in the US? The British royal family probably gets a lot of press because Princess Diana died young and tragically, and people tend to fetishize that like they do with Marilyn Monroe, who is by far (IMO) not the best old hollywood starlet.
Fourth, is it really wrong for marrying someone the same race as you? I don't think its right to flame someone for their choice in mates. For their type. Its not really something you can help. Like me, I mostly date black guys.
kortneykay
10-14-2013, 07:55 PM
Oh god really? I wish people would actually research before making claims. Or know what they are talking about. That is in general, a pattern I see on SW. Not at anyone in particular.
There isn't a lot of black royalty because slavery ended not even 100 years ago. HOWEVER, there were and are Queens with black ancestry, and other ethnic ancestries. Queen Charlotte from the 1700s had black ancestry. I saw her face in a picture and was curious.
If you want to know of more RECENT ones, there is Princess Angela who is black and married a white Prince, Prince Maximillian of Germany.
Second, the black population in England historically has been VERY small. I just looked it up, its 3.5%. So odds are, even if he wanted to, odds are he wouldn't meet many black women where he is from.
Third, there are OTHER royal families out there besides that one. There's ones in Spain, and all over Europe. For some reason, the US is obsessed with that ONE family, but there are royal families all over. Queen Sofia of Spain gets a moderate amount of press, though not much in the US? The British royal family probably gets a lot of press because Princess Diana died young and tragically, and people tend to fetishize that like they do with Marilyn Monroe, who is by far (IMO) not the best old hollywood starlet.
Fourth, is it really wrong for marrying someone the same race as you? I don't think its right to flame someone for their choice in mates. For their type. Its not really something you can help. Like me, I mostly date black guys.
Wait, hold on. You're telling someone to do their research when you don't even know what you're talking about. Here's a history lesson for you. Actually, slavery was abolished in England and Scotland in 1833 which makes that 180 years, not less than 100. Slavery didn't stop in America until 1868 which makes that 145 years ago, again, not less than 100 years. If you are going to argue a point, please know what you are talking about.
There are LOTS of blacks in England. England itself is a small country but there are still blacks there. It isn't the point of him "meeting" a black suitor, it's most likely based on the fact that as the prince of England, marrying someone black would be a scandal. Notice how I didn't say "black" I said a woman of color but you ran with it anyway.
Also, what does black royalty have anything to do with Slavery? Africa has PLENTY of black royalty, it's a continent. There and Kings and Queens who are black and Kate herself wasn't royalty at all. My husband is actually a direct link to the Queen herself but he's still a commoner and they wouldn't know him from Adam if he walked up to the palace itself. You must think I'm daft. I'm quite well traveled and history is my favorite subject I KNOW there are more than one royal family. Duh. Right now I'm studying up on the many that are in the Middle East.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with marrying inside or outside of your race, I was simply giving my opinion, and probably a fact of why he married Kate. We all know that it would be a great shock/scandal if Kate was black. After all, it did take our country hundreds of years to elect a non white president. I think you're the one that needs to know what they are talking about before "making claims" please study people's history before first. You just embarrassed yourself bb.
One last thing. Please stop being passive aggressive and take your own advice. You obviously pointed this at me, so the whole "general pattern, not anyone in particular" is a load of bulls*it and I'm not buying it. Also, DO YOUR RESEARCH. If you knew what you were talking about you'd realize that slavery has been abolished for well over 100 years. Thanks!
SweetNoelle
10-14-2013, 08:05 PM
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Sincerely directed at no one. Just... Thread.
GlamourRouge
10-14-2013, 08:13 PM
Wait, hold on. You're telling someone to do their research when you don't even know what you're talking about. Here's a history lesson for you. Actually, slavery was abolished in England and Scotland in 1833 which makes that 180 years, not less than 100. Slavery didn't stop in America until 1868 which makes that 145 years ago, again, not less than 100 years. If you are going to argue a point, please know what you are talking about.
There are LOTS of blacks in England. England itself is a small country but there are still blacks there. It isn't the point of him "meeting" a black suitor, it's most likely based on the fact that as the prince of England, marrying someone black would be a scandal. Notice how I didn't say "black" I said a woman of color but you ran with it anyway.
Also, what does black royalty have anything to do with Slavery? Africa has PLENTY of black royalty, it's a continent. There and Kings and Queens who are black and Kate herself wasn't royalty at all. My husband is actually a direct link to the Queen herself but he's still a commoner and they wouldn't know him from Adam if he walked up to the palace itself. You must think I'm daft. I'm quite well traveled and history is my favorite subject I KNOW there are more than one royal family. Duh. Right now I'm studying up on the many that are in the Middle East.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with marrying inside or outside of your race, I was simply giving my opinion, and probably a fact of why he married Kate. We all know that it would be a great shock/scandal if Kate was black. After all, it did take our country hundreds of years to elect a non white president. I think you're the one that needs to know what they are talking about before "making claims" please study people's history before first. You just embarrassed yourself bb.
One last thing. Please stop being passive aggressive and take your own advice. You obviously pointed this at me, so the whole "general pattern, not anyone in particular" is a load of bulls*it and I'm not buying it. Also, DO YOUR RESEARCH. If you knew what you were talking about you'd realize that slavery has been abolished for well over 100 years. Thanks!
Wow such a harsh tone lol.
I know when slavery was abolished on paper, yes, but it went on much longer than that. Everyone knows that. Slavery may have been ~*abolished*~ at that time, but it was still going on after that. I was mostly referring to America, but I'm sure it was the same case everywhere. Even in the 50's, blacks and whites had to use separate bathrooms. Everything was segregated. Even schools. And the ones for black people were the lowest tier. These days, anyone can get a school loan, everything seems to be mixed-income (thus getting rid of the projects). Sorry but if that isn't a form of slavery, I don't know what else is. Overt, covert. Its still slavery.
You asked what black royalty had to do with slavery... In addition to the above, and maybe a major key point, interracial marriage was still illegal even in the 1950s. And that wasn't just a US thing. Good luck trying to see royalty doing something blatantly illegal. Even Queen Charlotte, she was probably not allowed to mention race, but it was obvious.
I really don't care to respond to you anymore. And no, that wasn't toward you, that was toward false info presented in the thread.
kortneykay
10-14-2013, 08:17 PM
Stay positive ladies!
EphemeronXOXO
10-14-2013, 09:00 PM
please dont start again... i regret bumping this thread because of what it turned into glam posted it in another thread and i thought it was great advice and wanted to share with the rest of the forum but fuck guys ....
Dont Please! U had good intentions! <3 Its not your fault at all whats going on here! <3
JaneBurgess
10-14-2013, 09:03 PM
Everyone has good and bad days. That's just a fact of life and there can be many reasons why you have either. There's really no reason to keep debating it. If you never have a bad day on cam, then good for you. That doesn't mean that other people don't have bad days and not every bad day on cam is the performers fault. Hug it out and move on already.
apryll11
10-14-2013, 09:09 PM
Good luck trying to see royalty doing something blatantly illegal.
When did camming become illegal?
Seeing that payday is tomorrow, I really hope this doesn't affect anything
h0ttie
10-14-2013, 09:12 PM
Everyone has good and bad days. That's just a fact of life and there can be many reasons why you have either. There's really no reason to keep debating it. If you never have a bad day on cam, then good for you. That doesn't mean that other people don't have bad days and not every bad day on cam is the performers fault. Hug it out and move on already.
who said they never had a bad day on cam? because no one is saying that. I said RANDOM bad days on cam do not happen. but apparently I don't know what the hell i'm talking about even thought I have been on the other side and the ones that do not agree with me have never experienced what I experienced now. I don't fault them for that because their experience is valid (because it's the only one they have had), but I do have a problem when they argue (debate? i don't know what word to use) that what I'm saying must only be true for me like I am some kind of special butterfly that doesn't work for my $$$.
h0ttie
10-14-2013, 09:15 PM
When did camming become illegal?
Seeing that payday is tomorrow, I really hope this doesn't affect anything
did you even read the post? does no one read here?? do you guys just pick up some words and reply?? i am really feeling like i'm going insane
GlamourRouge
10-14-2013, 09:20 PM
When did camming become illegal?
Seeing that payday is tomorrow, I really hope this doesn't affect anything
Interracial marriage was illegal until the 1960s, so that is why there weren't many interracial couples before that time.
Also, I love debating, so...
LilyAnderson
10-14-2013, 09:26 PM
Can someone PLEASE explain to me why history is being brought up on a forum originally posted about being successful?
Like, how does that even..
Nevermind. I'll keep quiet.
GlamourRouge
10-14-2013, 09:28 PM
Can someone PLEASE explain to me why history is being brought up on a forum originally posted about being successful?
Like, how does that even..
Nevermind. I'll keep quiet.
Law of attraction
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^^Susie, Do You think that's how Kate got William?
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That and she's not a total pauper. She's white, and her parents are dot comanaires. I see that Harry might just get wifed up too lol.
When you bring race into the mix, people can't stay quiet.
Also, again, I like to debate.
EphemeronXOXO
10-14-2013, 09:31 PM
I have no idea how does history comes here, i mean..oh gee nevermind. Anyway....
The First part of my post is generally about my mindset! I am not talking about camming in general but what helped me and made me able to think in a positive way no matter what!
For years no matter what happened to me I blamed others, situations, happenings, events, whatever. It was easier to me to do that instead of take a lil break and think about the cold hard facts.
I was whiney I was lazy I was depressed I was a self hater I ve had self esteem issues I ve never been loved I ve been humiliated I ve been used, etc etc etc.
One day I woke up and a question just hit me! What was common in all the bad things I ve been through?
ME!
What did I do wrong then? Okay I got my answer. What should I do to avoid these possible events. Stop to blame others before you take a moment and look into yourself.
And this thing helped me!
These days whatever happends to me I always take a moment and think of what have I done wrong. And if my answer is NOTHING, I go on and try to find the reasons why was I or am I unsuccessful.
And after I checked my part and I come out as perfectly clean I go on and analyze my situation!
Camming is a job which can be affected by tons of things!
What kind of profile picture you have, Hows you profile description, What do you offer for members to watch, What kind of equipment do you use: Do you have a great laptop or desktop, Do you have good cam, Do you have sound, Are you a tip based site girl or a Pvt based site girl, Are you log on at the weekend or weekdays, Do you have a time schedule, Are you flexible enough to change schedule in your own advantage, Is there any events that can cause custies to stay away, Is there any site glitch, Is there any holiday soon...
^^^^^^^^^^^^
These are just examples of what outer causes can affect traffic +many many more
Here comes the questions for you!
Are you feeling okay, Do you love yourself, What is your cam persona, What are your prices, Do you dance in free, Do you give out too much in free, Are you in the correct niche, Can you use the advantage of your niche well, What do you offer for custies, Do you sell videos, Do you do skype, Do you do indie, Do you have a great marketing plan, Do you contact regulars, Do you have regulars, Do you have fetish equipments, Do you know fetishes, Do you offer phone......+many more.
Im sorry im tired as hell so I rather not try to count all these, but yes There are many different things that can affect your traffic!
So lets just say I see truth in both parties opinions!
I do think that first and foremost you have to know learn experience what is the best for you. As a BBW for example I wont go to MFC because I know that for a while it will be a waste of time for me plus I ve fought hard to gain my self esteem back I dont need hours of misery and fall back where I was before.
I never go on cam when I am not in the mood. Im not talking about cheery bubbly mood but the hot badass bitch mood that I know I have. f Im in the mood I dont even have to say a word it is just enough to look and make the horny face and I am good to go. but I believe if I am not in the right mindset I could cause more harm than how much money I could earn.
Even with a shitty feed I gained regs. And I am proud that I did it. I know my flaws and I swear to u ladies I wish there was someone beside me who would have told me Orshee damn it you lazy hoe get your ass together we both know you can do it! All you have to do is believe in yourself!
I was alone with my problems, sometimes I didnt even talk to anyone for weeks. And I reached a point when I ve said thats it IM OUT! But thankfully I woke up.
Sometimes even if it hurts we need reality check to be able to push that restart button! I believe that a true friend would tell you the truth! Not the kind you wanna hear but the truth that can help you move forward. I ve had to find it out myself and then and there I swore to myself that if I ever meet anyone who is in need I ll be there and help or try to help because I know how bad was it that noone was there beside me!
I got stronger! And it happened because I ve learnt a lot about who I really am!
Edit: Its 6:33 am here when I wrote these and Im sure its filled with typos Im sorry ladies when I will wake up or get les stired I correct it and add much more! Because Im in this since 2006 Im in love with camming I have a whole different mindset maybe because im from a different continent I dunno. All I know is please help each other Ladies! <3
Snowy0Star
10-14-2013, 09:34 PM
^ love u ephiey thax for getten it back on track
EphemeronXOXO
10-14-2013, 09:37 PM
^ love u ephiey thax for getten it back on track
<3<3<3 i truly try my best <3<3<3<3
We should motivate each other and this was a great thread! Lets forget the arguing okay? Rather talk about tips and tricks on what to do when its slow!
I always believed in that if you have the Question it is always easier to find an answer especially if we work on it together! <3<3<3
So the question should be WHAT IS THE REAL REASON IF ITS SLOW? or something like that and we can brainstorm on finding the fullfilling answer.
JaneBurgess
10-14-2013, 10:20 PM
I wasnt referring to you. The issue at hand was when someone suggested bad days only happen because the of performers. I think it could be from a variety of issues but not always the performers.
who said they never had a bad day on cam? because no one is saying that. I said RANDOM bad days on cam do not happen. but apparently I don't know what the hell i'm talking about even thought I have been on the other side and the ones that do not agree with me have never experienced what I experienced now. I don't fault them for that because their experience is valid (because it's the only one they have had), but I do have a problem when they argue (debate? i don't know what word to use) that what I'm saying must only be true for me like I am some kind of special butterfly that doesn't work for my $$$.
apryll11
10-14-2013, 10:26 PM
did you even read the post? does no one read here?? do you guys just pick up some words and reply?? i am really feeling like i'm going insane
That was dumb question, if I didn't read the post I wouldn't have been able to ask a question based on her comment. Its written format, we are all reading here and therefore things can be read out of context or misunderstood.
Kay mentioned her husband being in line for royalty ( a direct link to the queen is where Im drawing the line from) but wouldn't be known at the palace because of his status, when Rouge made her comment about good luck seeing royalty, I misunderstood and thought she was referring to that specific comment. While in American intermarriage was illegal in the UK (and other parts of the world) it was just frowned upon. Since Rouge was referring to American practices and Law and the common person here would not be seeing any royalty however in the UK the common person can which is way I thought this comment was made regarding Kay and her husband. Being that we don't know his job and some people do think what we do is wrong and illegal (and lets face it for the none home owners should your job of filming interactive porn at home be told to the cops and landlords you will face questioning and possible eviction) I mistakenly gave more depth into her comment then was needed.
That is way I picked those words to reply to.
If this is what makes you feel like your going insane, you have a very stress free life, continue to enjoy that blessing.
apryll11
10-14-2013, 10:27 PM
Interracial marriage was illegal until the 1960s, so that is why there weren't many interracial couples before that time.
Also, I love debating, so...
Thanks, I thought you meant something else,lol
h0ttie
10-14-2013, 10:57 PM
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GlamourRouge
10-14-2013, 11:04 PM
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10-14-2013, 11:08 PM
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10-14-2013, 11:20 PM
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justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 06:18 AM
We do have some control over our neural pathways actually. This is how habits and memories are formed, and how behaviour changes over time. Neural pathways are strengthened through repetition (a process of synaptic pruning), and can change altogether through new experiences.
It's hard to stomach that ideas we don't personally like have a basis in fact, but you will find that most any idea that sticks around and is successful in various areas DOES have validity. The very fact that it comes around again and again in various new guises is testament to that.
For an interesting introduction to the field of neuro-biology and neuro-psychology and how they relate to this have a look here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuroplasticity
Well, a lot of new ideas are happening in neuroscience right now that kind of blow the whole idea of having control of our thoughts out of water.....seeing it just might be that we don't have a 'single' brain.
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justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 06:21 AM
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justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 06:26 AM
Oh god really? I wish people would actually research before making claims. Or know what they are talking about.
I know exact how you feel. You have claimed over and over again about my 'negativity' and how I have made posts on SW about it while you completely ignore the fact that I have also posted over and over again in the 'Camming Rocks' thread and how I have a very positive quote right in the siggy below everything I write to you.
You don't have a single fact to back up what you claim about me and yet you continue to parrot it over and over again as if it was fact.
justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 06:36 AM
who said they never had a bad day on cam? because no one is saying that. I said RANDOM bad days on cam do not happen. but apparently I don't know what the hell i'm talking about even thought I have been on the other side and the ones that do not agree with me have never experienced what I experienced now. I don't fault them for that because their experience is valid (because it's the only one they have had), but I do have a problem when they argue (debate? i don't know what word to use) that what I'm saying must only be true for me like I am some kind of special butterfly that doesn't work for my $$$.
I actually think you have lot of good points. But, in my person opinion.....the main problem that this thread seems to keep tripping over is that some people keep stating their opinion as fact.
Edited to add: I just had to make sure that I clarified that I am agreeing with you and what you just said just in case it wasn't clear. I have seemed to be miscommunication a lot in this thread when replying to you and I am truly sorry about that. The reason I thanked you for a fun debate earlier was my way of expressing to you that your points are valuable and do have merit. If I were to just be arguing with you, in my mind that would mean that I didn't think your points have merit.
GlamourRouge
10-15-2013, 06:56 AM
I know exact how you feel. You have claimed over and over again about my 'negativity' and how I have made posts on SW about it while you completely ignore the fact that I have also posted over and over again in the 'Camming Rocks' thread and how I have a very positive quote right in the siggy below everything I write to you.
You don't have a single fact to back up what you claim about me and yet you continue to parrot it over and over again as if it was fact.
Again, I'm not replying to you anymore. And for the fourth time, you can PM me about that kind of stuff. Third, I do not read camming rocks or camming sucks threads because they are pointless for me as neither benefit me in any way as my money is made from regulars, which has nothing to do with how other girls are doing on cam. Fourth, this is just stupid lol. No one caressssss. No one is mentioning or quoting you.
I will not be replying to your posts anymore, so quoting me won't get a reply. But PMing might.
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justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 07:07 AM
You aren't replying to me, but yet you just replied with all your points back to me and you wonder why I am confused? You do realize that is a reply, right? Not to mention attacking me in your 'non-reply' with the highly insulting and generalized statement that no one cares about what I say.
You might want to go back and look at the people who have thanked me in this thread. People do care. Just because people don't agree with you doesn't mean that what they say doesn't have merit. I am not sure if you are aware of this fact but the world doesn't only revolve around you and what you think regardless what false belief the Law of Attraction has taught to you.
Again, I'm not replying to you anymore. And for the fourth time, you can PM me about that kind of stuff. Third, I do not read camming rocks or camming sucks threads because they are pointless for me as neither benefit me in any way as my money is made from regulars, which has nothing to do with how other girls are doing on cam. Fourth, this is just stupid lol. No one caressssss. No one is mentioning or quoting you.
I will not be replying to your posts anymore, so quoting me won't get a reply. But PMing might.
GlamourRouge
10-15-2013, 07:16 AM
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justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 07:16 AM
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justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 07:34 AM
I think the thing that drives me most crazy about the 'Law of Attraction' followers is that if someone was a Catholic and was to say to camgirls that they weren't making any money because 'they don't love Jesus enough' people would truly be offended by that statement.
But when you add in the concept of 'magnetism' then suddenly it isn't anything like religious fanaticism. It is an obvious fact. (Even though there is zero science to back it up.)
The only science that you could really back up the concept of 'Law of Attraction' with would actually be the placebo effect (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Placebo). I am actually very pro-placebo effect. I am pro-anything that makes your life easier and better.
What I am against is the punishing ways that people will use the ideas from 'The Secret' (LOA). Blaming people for something that isn't their fault has a lot of scientific evidence behind it about the psychological harm it can do. One needs to look no farther than to children who have been told that 'they were bad' instead of that 'their behaviour is bad' in order to consequences of this type of thinking in our everyday real life.
If you believe in the 'Law of Attraction' that is awesome, but please do not use it as a measuring stick to judge other people's personal beliefs with.
We all deserve respect.
h0ttie
10-15-2013, 07:38 AM
;D;D;D;D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ruYraeR7Dag
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
10-15-2013, 07:46 AM
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GlamourRouge
10-15-2013, 07:51 AM
;D;D;D;D
Reminds me a lot of this one:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FeFuc-qFKoA
justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 08:16 AM
The concept behind "law of attraction" and all such positive/ vibrational theories, is based IN science.
The science is neurobiology - Neural pathways are strengthened and changed by repetition, both of ingrained behaviours, and new ones. With new experience the brain can actually change altogether. The way you think, based upon and backed up by, experience, affects the way you view the world and how you behave within it.
The fact that you dislike the approach of some who are inspired by the law of attraction (I can see why btw, as the videos and focus on money grates on me hugely), should not make you feel you have the right to downcry the power of positive thinking. By doing so, you are disrespecting me, and those others of us who do not "follow" the Law of Attraction, but who DO agree with the idea that positive thinking effects positive change.
I like to keep my personal life personal and not speak much about it on the public form so I will only say this. I talk regularly with a neuroscience who is at the top of his field and he would not agree with any of your statements about neurobiology in order to prove the law of attraction.
sexysusie
10-15-2013, 08:21 AM
I'm not trying to prove it. If you read my posts on this thread you'll see I'm not a law of attraction advocate. I am however a Psychology graduate. You cannot talk about the "science" behind anything unless you have a good basis in it yourself or have really done your research which it seems you haven't. Not trying to argue with you or disagree that your point about the harm that could come from thinking that everything is under our control - but I am asking that you please don't use your dislike of the law of attraction (as a concept popularised in 1915), as "proof" for your own point of view.
I edited by post btw as your other thread was deleted so I didn't want to repeat myself here.
Aurora_Sunset
10-15-2013, 08:26 AM
Dammit, I responded to your other thread, but I must have tried to post just as it was being integrated into this one. It's still in my posts on my profile, but if I click on it, it just brings me here where... it doesn't exist... Ugh, I really don't feel like re-typing it right now. That's a bummer. I actually was trying to take the conversation in a completely different direction in the other thread. Ah well. Maybe later
justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 08:26 AM
I'm not trying to prove it. If you read my posts on this thread you'll see I'm not a law of attraction advocate. I am however a Psychology graduate. You cannot talk about the "science" behind anything unless you have a good basis in it yourself or have really done your research which it seems you haven't. Not trying to argue with you or disagree that your point about the harm that could come from thinking that everything is under our control - but I am asking that you please don't use your dislike of the law of attraction (as a concept popularised in 1915), as "proof" for your own point of view.
I edited by post btw as your other thread was deleted so I didn't want to repeat myself here.
I understand your point. It is why I had originally titled my post "The Secret" out of respect for the people who believe in an offshoot of the Law of Attraction and did not use the phrase in my original post about the Law of Attraction.
justanothercamgirl
10-15-2013, 08:31 AM
I'm not trying to prove it. If you read my posts on this thread you'll see I'm not a law of attraction advocate. I am however a Psychology graduate.[b] You cannot talk about the "science" behind anything unless you have a good basis in it yourself or have really done your research which it seems you haven't.
I currently talk to and communicate with people currently in the field of neuroscience. Are you trying to tell me that just because you have a education in psychology this means that your knowledge is on par with someone in neuroscience? I don't mean this to come off as insulting. I am trying to understand this.
EphemeronXOXO
10-15-2013, 09:31 AM
WARNING! IT WILL BE LOOONNGGG! <3
Okay, so I will try again to track back this thread to its original purpuse, but before that I would like to share my opinion. Lets make things clear this is my opinion and I dont judge people based on their beliefs.
I actually watched the Smile or Die Video. The animation was so cool in it. The lady who talks in the video is called Barbara Ehrenreich. She describes hersel as "a myth buster by trade"! At this point the whole purpose of the video just completely fell apart for me. She is a 72 year old feminist and political activist. Who came from a blue collar worker family. This lady survived a lot and I respect her what she has done over the years.
But.
This is the 21st century! I respect my elderly because I know how much I can learn from them. But for me they way she talked it made me feel like she disappointed in basically everything. I cant accept advices from someone with that kind of mindset. She said some very interesting things . And If I were just a year younger I would have totally agreed on what she said because I was there. In depression, i ve been used and abused, and I wasnt even sure if I can survive the next day or not. Basically I ve lost my will to live. I believed that I dont deserve to be happy. That I am a bad evil person , who is incapable to live by her own. That Im a bad peson, no wonder why I cant keep any friends. I was filled with anger and hatred. even for a while I lost the shine from my eyes too. The last one maybe is a bit cliché but that scared me the most. I looked back at the old pictures of me from the age of 6. Seeing how my eyes got sadder and sadder year by year freaked me out.
When I was 14 my father left me and my mom for another woman. Thats pretty common I know. My mom treated me like a partner instead of her child, and that my friends fucked me up really bad. Not just I started to hate MEN in general, but I had to become an adult at the age of 14. My mom gave me everything I wanted, toys, clothes, whatever i liked. But she never gave me the things I wanted the most. Her Love and respect! The minute I started to have my own opinion on things she started to treat me like if I was her enemy. A year after my graduation when I told her I wanna find my own way, what I really wanna do in life what I really wanna become things got worse. She binded me financially. Whenever I had a new job she did everything to make sure I wont be there for so long. She knew that the only way to make me stay with her was if she makes it impossible for me to hae my own income. And she did it.
WHen I started to date she literally asked me this question: If I dont like the guy will you leave him if I ask you to do it?
WHat kind of person does that? When I started camming in 2006 it was the worst! She saw that how much I love what I was doing and well she also saw that how much more I can earn. Than she can. From that moment she started to pison my mind. In 2008 my father filed for divorce and kicked me and her out of the family house I grew up in. And the endgame has started. 2 years later she got retired. And as i look back the real HEr just died that day she came home for that last time from work.
Every single day I asked her Mom are you okay, dont you need a doctor do you wanna talk about things? Yu ve been working for 43 years you need to talk it out. She didnt wanna say a word she didnt wanna see anyone of the old colleagues. In Juine 2011 she got stroke. She became a mean pisoneus person. I ve been told that I shouldnt care about the things she says because thats not her thats the illness. When I found out the reason that caused her stroke - she tricked the pills as usual because she knows everything better than the doctors - she smiled she held my hands and told me. " No dear you caused my stroke remember how much we argued in the last few weeks?"
Then and there a part of me died. I couldnt look at her my strong powerful mother who she used to be in my eyes. When i took her home, i had to become a nurse 24/7 she couldnt even go to the toilet without help. I ve cried every single day. While I was cleaning and cooking and helped her with basic things she threw curses at me. She often said im the most evil person on earth, I should have never been born, For the sake of my unborn children I rather not think of haveing children I wouldnt be able to raise them anyway....
One day I went to work for a nightshift at the studio. When I got home she was on the floor she fell. I called the ambulance they helped to to put her in bed, and they told me there is no reason to take her to hospital.
It was a monday, she died 2 days after. Even the way she died, made me believe that I was the reason she died. It was my fault, I didnt do anything to help her or save her.
I was devastated. I wanted to die. 2 month later I lost my beloved doggy Mookie to pancreas cancer. She had an amazing life she was 15 years old. another 2 months later The person who I trusted the most, who was there when my Mom died, and made me believe that we will be friends for ever ripped me off for 5000 dollars.
Tragedies come in 3s. She hit the last nail into my coffin. I couldnt even cry anymore. I became an empty socket who can breathe eat piss shit and sleep and thats all. there were days and long weeks when I didnt even talk to anybody at all. Slowly i started to get crazy. I ve completely lost the will to live. I prayed every night and hope d that i wont wake up the next day. BUt I did. No matter what happened the sun went up as usual the tzime went by as usual, the birds sang as usual.
Then I ve found you ladies. On SW. I started to read. 24/7. You r the living proof for me that what I previously thought of camming and how it supposed to be that I was damn right. And this event started to gave me back hope. I did babysteps every single day. Every single day I did something for myself. Slowly I started to make plans. I started to think of the future. One day I looked in the mirror and I saw the shine again in my eyes. But I had complications. Due to doctor fees I basically had o pay out all my spare money so by the time I felt like im ready to start a new life, I woke up one day with literally 100 dollars in my pocket. I was freaked out! I remembered what my mom said that without her Im gonna starb to death because im lazy and im weak. And I was like NO FREAKIN WAY! I CAN DO THIS! I DO THIS!
Ladies i have never felt anything like this before. It happened last wednesday. And tomorrow I will get my new laptop. And a brand new chance to prove that damnit all you motherfucker leeches damn u all who never believed in me! SEE? I didnt do anything I was just simply me and because the kind of person I am someone believed in me and gave me what I need to improve!
And yes I DID IT! I changed the way I think I left depresion and negativity all behind me! And I got my reward for it!
Why did I wrote this all down? Because I ve been trough what Barbara was talking about in the video! I ve had to possible roads to go on.
1: feel sorry for myself and let others control me - be homeless starve do death and eventually commit suicide
2: wake the fuck up stop feeling sorry for myself stop freaking sob on things that happends in the past and actually do something for myself.
Obviously It was fuckin hard but I chose the second option!
A week later I got what I wanted!
Yes i perfectly respect others opinions. But Law of attraction worked for me so yes I know how it works from the first hand.
And if it helped to me to someone who lived her personal hell why wouldnt I try to help others to get out of depression, posession or whatever to make their lives a lil bit better????????
I know what you meant and yes in the heat of debate both partes were sometimes harsh and wanted protect their own beliefs. But never forget about in the heat of the moment taht people read your words. Let them decide which side they choose and let them decide which method works for them the best.
BTW back to the video. barbara said right things, but you know what I missed? The actual solution.
Law of attraction is not about omg you have to do this and this and this omg if you dont do this and this and this you r an idiot! NO!
Its a philosophy about what can you do with your life if you successfully change your mindset!
Rosemary Rabbit
10-15-2013, 10:04 AM
I'm so confused, but this coffee is amazing. So is this awesome coffee cup! No one may like my cup but me, but I'll be damned if this cup doesn't hold my coffee just the way I like. It's hard not to talk about my coffee cup when it's done such wonderful things for me, but some people have complained about the rim being too thin for them, how it spills when they sip, or the cup being too tall, or the mouth wide enough. I dunno, I just figure that because I'm using it and love it so much I might say a few things about it, but I certainly won't be demanding people drink from it either! I don't know their needs, their life, why they prefer a handle that only fits two fingers vs. your whole fist, but...really? I just want to drink some fucking coffee. I think that's the goal anyway.
JaneBurgess
10-15-2013, 01:41 PM
I personally find you to be highly positive. I think they confuse being honest and talking openly about subjects as being negative and it isn't. The point of this forum is to share thoughts and idea's and no one should feel attacked on here period. If you don't agree with someone then just disagree and move on. I will never get the constant arguing or trying to force people to do what you suggest. What works for you may not work for them.
I also think posting personal shit on here was and is out of line. This isn't high school and adults should know better. You handeled it really well.
I know exact how you feel. You have claimed over and over again about my 'negativity' and how I have made posts on SW about it while you completely ignore the fact that I have also posted over and over again in the 'Camming Rocks' thread and how I have a very positive quote right in the siggy below everything I write to you.
You don't have a single fact to back up what you claim about me and yet you continue to parrot it over and over again as if it was fact.