View Full Version : So its really ok to approach strippers?
Omegaphallic
05-15-2012, 03:49 PM
No. Actually it would be better if you didn't ask if it's OK to grope her or go for it without asking at all. Option three, the one where you let her take the lead and see where things go is what dancers generally prefer. In my experience a dancer will find ways of letting you know what the limits are and what the menu is. I have no desire to let her take the lead, I don't force anything on her, but I know what I want and what I don't want. I enjoy playing with titties, the girls I enjoy can make thier own choices on wheather or not they're okay with me playing with thier tits. I don't want to waste my time or hers with lapdances I don't enjoy. And thier are plenty that are okay with it having thier tits played with, it doesn't make them hookers, thier still strippers. I prefer contact dancers over non contact dancers. And I have no plans to change that, I want what I want, not what other people tell me I should want. If we have compatible comfort zones then why fuck around and play games meekly when I get can get to the point. Oh and the fingering is an example, I've never asked a dancer to finger her, just dirty talk, spanking, and boobie play. I'm very happy with the dancers I like, we have fun. Most are great to talk to as well. I probably try an escort someday when I'm ready, but I'm not, what I enjoy are contact dancers. I'm honest and I can accept a no. I'm okay with my actions. I'd also like to point out thier are contact dancers on this board.
yoda57us
05-15-2012, 04:56 PM
Dude, every dancer I know dances or has danced in full contact clubs. None of them are hookers...well, OK, actually one of them is also an escort but she doesn't see guys from the club or promote herself as an escort at work.
Anyway...Somehow I manage to have a great time with them without having to actually ask a dancer if I can play with their boobs. To be honest I tend to stay away from the girls who start off by telling me the "rules". I dunno, maybe I'm just psychic or maybe I'm just not as wrapped-up in groping titties as you are. I don't mind investing $20 to see if I'm going to want to spend more. Either way, you are welcome to do whatever works for you...
lopaw
05-15-2012, 07:58 PM
I find a bit of both approaches can be a good route to take. I like to have the dancer take the lead, but if things are moving too slowly for my taste I'll make a definitive move but ask "may I?" before proceeding. Rarely have I been turned down. Seems to work pretty well.
Naida
05-16-2012, 12:25 AM
I find a bit of both approaches can be a good route to take. I like to have the dancer take the lead, but if things are moving too slowly for my taste I'll make a definitive move but ask "may I?" before proceeding. Rarely have I been turned down. Seems to work pretty well.
Judging by the way you worded this, lopaw, I'm assuming that you wait until you're actually in a dance with the girl. That, in and of itself, prevents the "fuck this perverted prick/bitch" train of thought in a dancer's head. Add that you're a femme loving pink and your attitude (as I've observed it) towards dancers? You're like my dream customer!
As a non-hooker dancer that doesn't mind contact, here are my thoughts-
Don't ask to touch me before you buy a dance. You'll get told no and, even if I don't report you to bouncers/management (which I probably will), all the other girls will know within five minutes that you're a cheap PL that only wants cheap/free groping.
If you're going to ask, at least buy a lapdance or two. If you ask me after already paying me for my time, I'm MUCH more receptive. For only $20-40, I'm not gonna allow you to touch, but I'll give you the option of buying more songs/dances and allow mild touching (like my arms/legs/face/hair) for a minimum tip amount. The more you want to touch, the greater number of dances and higher tip. If you want something specific that's mostly non-sexual for the average person, like spanking/massaging/playing with my feet/touching ass/maybe kissing, VIP/CR is a requirement with a tip. The more you will pay, the more you can play.
I will NOT allow any breast and/or genital contact in the club. I am a dancer. I am here to fulfill a FANTASY, not to act it out. Some customers like no touching and just enjoying the way I move as I dance. Some like to spend an hour in VIP/CR and cuddle while we have drinks and talk. Some have pseudo-sexual interests that they're too embarrassed to share with their significant other. For the right price, I'm more than happy to be their entertainment/friend for the evening. However, I am not a hooker/escort and will not meddle with their business.
Let_It_Fly
05-21-2012, 01:37 PM
LOL, where did you read that?posts #101 & #105 (last sentence )
Naida
05-21-2012, 03:26 PM
posts #101 & #105 (last sentence )
So I went back and checked these posts. Post #101-
Unless you're taking me to VIP/CR, don't even bother asking [boundary questions]. All it'll do is piss me off and probably get you reported to management for seeking extras.
I suppose this could be misconstrued as boundary questions only being acceptable if we're going to VIP/CR, since this was posted before my detailed explanation in post #112. But no, VIP/CR is not the deciding factor. It certainly HELPS you, if you're not a total PL, but it doesn't decide.
There are a LOT of things wrong with this post, so I'll just go in order-
1) If a customer just grabbed my tits without warning, he gets only one warning to remove them before I walk out.
2) If a customer stuck his finger up my ass, I will physically assault him right back in a far less pleasant way.
3) If a customer pulled his cock out, I'm walking out and reporting him, so he just wasted his money.
Yes, asking is better than any of those three possibilities but, ultimately, any dancer that isn't an extras girl will think you're a worthless prick. We deal with enough of those on a nightly basis. Which leads me to the next issue-
4) Keep your hands to your fucking self. If you want to touch, you're in the wrong place. Hire a hooker or an escort. And,
5) Just cause a $20 dance isn't "public", that doesn't make it VIP.
I see nothing in this that would imply VIP/CR being a deciding factor. Since you said "last sentence", I assume you're referring to Number 5. That had nothing to do with boundary questions, just a statement that a $20 lapdance- even in a private booth- is NOT the same thing as VIP.
Let_It_Fly
05-22-2012, 06:50 AM
^^^You are correct about #105, I reread & missed the reference point. Although in #112:
If you want something specific that's mostly non-sexual for the average person, like spanking/massaging/playing with my feet/touching ass/maybe kissing, VIP/CR is a requirement with a tip. The more you will pay, the more you can play.
Laurisa
05-22-2012, 07:03 AM
One word of caution, I'm wary of guys who approach me and want to try and touch me or talk dirty immediately. If you seem really drunk or like a douchebag I'll ignore you too. If you come up politely and ask "are you available for a dance/VIP?" I will go with you so long as you don't send me bad vibes. If you send me bad vibes I'm getting my money upfront and giving my manager a heads up and I'll stop the dance immediately at the first sign of trouble--no refunds. My sanity ain't worth your money.
Naida
05-22-2012, 08:17 AM
^^^You are correct about #105, I reread & missed the reference point. Although in #112:
If you want something specific that's mostly non-sexual for the average person, like spanking/massaging/playing with my feet/touching ass/maybe kissing, VIP/CR is a requirement with a tip. The more you will pay, the more you can play.
No offense, dear, but I'm seriously having a hard time understanding what you're trying to say/ask at this point.
Hopper
05-23-2012, 05:54 AM
If I see a dancer I like and I decide to buy an LD from her I either approach her or get one of the other staff to get word to her. So far I haven't been turned down. I don't want to waste time waiting for her to single me out from the crowd. If I don't make a move, she could disappear into the LD area with another customer for an hour.
If the dancer is chatting with or hustling another guy, I just let one of the other staff know that I want an LD with her. I don't think this is "fucking over" the other guy. Staff have often come to take dancers away who were chatting with me. They usually give me the option of buying an LD first.
I don't need to talk about boundaries because all of the SCs in my town are full contact.