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GlamourRouge
05-12-2013, 06:31 AM
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Not really. OP just knows that one fuck up can always lead to things like this:

Now, I don't think that will happen (odds are against it), but I like to maintain my privacy. And not only is it privacy for peace of mind, it also protects you against bogus lawsuits that can (even just temporarily) freeze or seize your assets (house, car, bank account, etc). I'd rather minimize that, given the choice.

Cam_Model_Jess
05-12-2013, 06:40 AM
^Don't waste ur time, babe. :/ Every single one of annel's posts have been reported.

GlamourRouge
09-07-2013, 03:18 PM
Regarding privacy and meeting people offline, roast gave some good info here: which I will quote & bold below.

A lot of girls keep making posts about wanting to meet up with people in their area, but you really need to be careful. Its really easy for them to say "so&so verified me" and you take it at face value. But then, if you message that person, they may tell you "i don't know who that person is" -- so that's why you really need to be careful. Especially if the person is defensive about it, or acts seemingly out of character about it.

Roast also mentioned Alexa Dicarlo, and if you aren't familiar with that story, please research it.


Lasty, like roast says over & over below, don't feel crazy for wanting to make sure that a "cam girl" is who she says she is! Especially if you have already made plans to meet up! And even more importantly, if you are planning to meet in an area you are unfamiliar with. And especially especially, someone has tipped you off about them being potentially not a cam girl!

If that supposed "cam girl" acts crazy, defensive, or ~*hurt*~ for you simply asking for them to verify themselves with someone (like a MOD), then that is a BIG RED FLAG. You are doing NOTHING wrong! I repeat, you are doing NOTHING wrong! A real cam girl would not feel hurt, defensive, or crazy if you asked her to verify or confirm her identity with someone trustworthy. She would be relieved and probably even laugh at the incident!




I want to reiterate that verification in general is important. I'm not talking about the group anymore (if youre interested just contact h0ttie), I mean in general. I'm a broken record but I don't want it to get buried or overlooked since Im so verbose: It can't be clumsy verification that serves only the (anonymous) person doing the verifying. Don't let your concerns or intuition get discredited or condescended to.

If you're interacting with someone here or offline who is making you feel crazy for wanting thorough verification - assume they have a reason outside of it just being an inconvenience.

Some people have no interest in you and won't want to verify with you or trust you. That is fully acceptable, and hey I am right there with them generally. I don't verify with whoever asks, are you kidding. But if not one person knows who they are - well, ok then, whatever. Water under the bridge - not everyonewho posts online should have an autobiography. But if they claim to be a million amazing things, speak with apparent authority about stuff, and above all want things from you (even if it is just your trust): be smart.

Not to sound like a broken record but if they react to your inquiries as if you're going 'overboard' asking for verification... dump them & forget about it because it is probably bogus, self-serving or just not worth your time.

The only thing that most of us who are experienced agree on is that personal security and self-policing is important - if you're brand new, be wary of those who swoop down to draw you in. If you don't see more experienced people engaged in something - question it, don't just be cynical to be cynical. For example - I try to pay close attention to what vivianbear references because she has more knowledge around certain things and has been proven right - sometimes respecting someone's wisdom & shutting off your skepticism works to your benefit and safety.

Im not being vague just to be vague - most of what Im referencing has backhistories (plural!) here specifically and ways that Ive been duped. I don't even know all of them. There is one person who was wellknown here who was stealing another sex worker's identity for a long time.

Not a week or a few months: a loooong time. I was shocked. They seemed so real. But b/c I did not pay attention to those paranoid Debbie Downers: I never verified or even paid attention to inconsistencies.

I keep referencing Alexa Di Carlo because that is the biggest and most public story that everyone can reference. In that instance: experienced verified sex workers were calling her bluff for ages. Ages. "She" lashed out - threatened to expose people, put people in real danger* and was extremely patronizing about her need to verify (or offered really clumsy verification). Less experienced sex workers clamored to defend "her" and she basked in their adoration and protection. The more experienced sex workers kept trying to get people to listen to them but they were dismissed as being 'crazy' or 'jealous' or 'paranoid' or whatever.

Then - when more concrete evidence blew up, people felt betrayed and upset, and were only able to connect the dots in retrospect. The experienced sex workers who had been in the know the whole time tried to basically tell people to "be smart"

Sure Lusty saying the thing about survival skills was harsh but I get where she's coming from - so in the name of not spoonfeeding, I mean, just: be smart. When it comes to protecting your business, be smart. When it comes to not making yourself overly vulnerable to someone who just sucks (even if it is innocuous sucking): be smart.

For example - how do you know Im not some elderly male level 3 sex offender trying to throw you off of my scent? Unless we've PMed and chatted and verified, you don't. I could be here on some epic quest trying to groom unsuspecting college girls into sending me pictures of their pussy. It may come out of nowhere six months from now and sound like a perfectly sound project. I mean I've mentioned affiliates and content before. More importantly, you *know* me right? I post in SW at least once a day... sometimes I post really early in the morning, like 5:30am when most squares are up getting ready for work, because I uh uh uh have an early indy cam session! yea, that's it... so I just want to sell a zip file of camgirl's vaginas in my c4s store - itd be a total hit.... Ill send you some of the profit - what is your alertpay.... oh come on, Ive talked about being on c4s all the time.. you don't need the store number,, Id be worried you'll judge it! lol, it is under construction... plus itd take forever to have to skype with you. god don't waste my time and insult me like that, you're so paranoid... anyway Ive been verified by other people whose names I forget to write for you to ask... Im having a bad hair day anyways, lulz...plus my webcam broke even though Im a camgirl, ugh what a bummer right..... so let me explain to you how to take the best picture of your pus-

I mean, come on.

I wrongly accused someone who I PM with of being full of it and she took it in stride because she knows why sex workers are cautious.. because she is one. I was proven wrong and she had no reason to be defensive so she wasn't. It was quickly squashed with no incident.That is how it should go. If someone is fussy and 'insulted' or only wants YOU to verify, I mean, be suspicious.


(notice how I did not use a name in that anecdote? Weird right? So maybe, just maybe, that anecdote is total bullsh!t and should be something you remember to bring up when I ask for a picture of your pussy, ya dig? Be smart)

On the business side of things since I went on a tangent - remember when everyone and their mother was on AW? And talking about it nonstop? Then about 4 months later everyone complained that the prices were no longer competitive and they weren't earning? And PJ's DP business swelled so quickly that she had to keep closing registration? Did you see in one of the AW UK forums girls were like 'uh wtf at the influx of US profiles'. Now many of the dead profiles are of US girls?

Do you see how the posts about financial domination, fetishes, and what the most profitable clips on c4s & kinkbomb usually aren't answered in that much detail? There is a reason for that.

Be smart.

If it is more memorable - imagine an upside vivianbear avatar saying "be smart" instead of my burned meat or giantess avatar repeating it.


(*I mean literal harm since that person solicited escorts for services and went on a rabid campaign to out "her" accusers. But also hypothetical harm if they're giving you made up
advice, ask for your story or image, etc).

loveshooks
09-07-2013, 11:28 PM
^^^^

absolutely. this is the internet, it's always important to verify that a cam chica is actually a cam chica before exchanging personal info, let alone meeting up in person.

I think the...discomfort level for all parties involved in clearing up issues of cam chica legitimacy depends a lot upon how the questioning party handles things. A great way to solve the issue one way or the other is to simply say to the person "hey, I heard x y z and I'm a bit concerned, are you willing to clear this up either with me or a mod?". If the person is legit then yeah, they will. Case closed, problem solved, no harm no foul is the suspicions end up not being correct.

What's not cool is collectively gathering to share a chica's personal info with others absent the cam chica in question...doing so violates people's trust and yes, can cause damage to friendships. If someone suspects a cam chica is actually a dude the only way to clear it up is to actually have a conversation about it, with the person involved. After all, how can someone clear up suspicions to which they aren't even privy? Cloak and dagger group drama isn't necessary and it detracts from the use of the forum and verified as a safe shared space.

When it comes to cc or sw in general I'm sure that there are some blues masquerading as chicas so def tread carefully. Even in verified, I think it's wise to choose carefully when deciding to share personal info, simply because there's never any guarantee that personal info told in confidence will stay that way. Being a cam chica doesn't automatically mean one will act with integrity.

So my two cents...as far as questioning the legitimacy of a self-proclaimed cam chica: just ask her and work together from there to solve the concerns. No doubt it'll still be a bit uncomfortable initially but it doesn't need to turn into anything ugly.

GlamourRouge
09-08-2013, 12:05 AM
^^^^

absolutely. this is the internet, it's always important to verify that a cam chica is actually a cam chica before exchanging personal info, let alone meeting up in person.

I think the...discomfort level for all parties involved in clearing up issues of cam chica legitimacy depends a lot upon how the questioning party handles things. A great way to solve the issue one way or the other is to simply say to the person "hey, I heard x y z and I'm a bit concerned, are you willing to clear this up either with me or a mod?". If the person is legit then yeah, they will. Case closed, problem solved, no harm no foul is the suspicions end up not being correct.

What's not cool is collectively gathering to share a chica's personal info with others absent the cam chica in question...doing so violates people's trust and yes, can cause damage to friendships. If someone suspects a cam chica is actually a dude the only way to clear it up is to actually have a conversation about it, with the person involved. After all, how can someone clear up suspicions to which they aren't even privy? Cloak and dagger group drama isn't necessary and it detracts from the use of the forum and verified as a safe shared space.

When it comes to cc or sw in general I'm sure that there are some blues masquerading as chicas so def tread carefully. Even in verified, I think it's wise to choose carefully when deciding to share personal info, simply because there's never any guarantee that personal info told in confidence will stay that way. Being a cam chica doesn't automatically mean one will act with integrity.

So my two cents...as far as questioning the legitimacy of a self-proclaimed cam chica: just ask her and work together from there to solve the concerns. No doubt it'll still be a bit uncomfortable initially but it doesn't need to turn into anything ugly.

What are you even talking about? lol

temptingmodel
09-08-2013, 09:14 AM
absolutely. this is the internet, it's always important to verify that a cam chica is actually a cam chica before exchanging personal info, let alone meeting up in person.

(ensure the person is who they say they are, use references, like escorting )


I think the...discomfort level for all parties involved in clearing up issues of cam chica legitimacy depends a lot upon how the questioning party handles things. A great way to solve the issue one way or the other is to simply say to the person "hey, I heard x y z and I'm a bit concerned, are you willing to clear this up either with me or a mod?". If the person is legit then yeah, they will. Case closed, problem solved, no harm no foul is the suspicions end up not being correct.

(go straight to the source , no need to wait)

What's not cool is collectively gathering to share a chica's personal info with others absent the cam chica in question...doing so violates people's trust and yes, can cause damage to friendships. If someone suspects a cam chica is actually a dude the only way to clear it up is to actually have a conversation about it, with the person involved. After all, how can someone clear up suspicions to which they aren't even privy? Cloak and dagger group drama isn't necessary and it detracts from the use of the forum and verified as a safe shared space.

Instead of a few ppl talking about a issue without the accused involved is kinda like a witch hunt. People where once killed for being wrongfully accused.

When it comes to cc or sw in general I'm sure that there are some blues masquerading as chicas so def tread carefully. Even in verified, I think it's wise to choose carefully when deciding to share personal info, simply because there's never any guarantee that personal info told in confidence will stay that way. Being a cam chica doesn't automatically mean one will act with integrity.

Men will pose as women. This has happened to me .

So my two cents...as far as questioning the legitimacy of a self-proclaimed cam chica: just ask her and work together from there to solve the concerns. No doubt it'll still be a bit uncomfortable initially but it doesn't need to turn into anything ugly.

Just ask the person , cant hurt anymore than not asking.



Really, Did I jut have to break DOWN SOMETHING lol THAT WAS ALREADY BROKEN DOWN? The summary of the summary is , trust noone until YOU know for a fact. Do not trust the messenger, they get shot for reasons ;) The minute a person finds out , is the very minute they need to to put up all red flags and ask questions.
Of course what will tip this off is someone saying "I heard XYZ", that is how all rumors are started.

Obviously there was a issue brought up for this thread to come back to life.
The best bet is to go with your instinct, if it tells you one thing, that is what you need to do.

IsobelWren
09-08-2013, 10:11 AM
What are you even talking about? lol

She's weighing in on what you said about Alexa Di'Carlo and what Roast was saying in the post that you quoted. That's usually want the ^ symbol means, that the person is replying to the post above. Well, unless you're in math class, in which case the carrot means the number preceding is raised to the power of the number following.

chloemay
09-08-2013, 06:36 PM
She's weighing in on what you said about Alexa Di'Carlo and what Roast was saying in the post that you quoted. That's usually want the ^ symbol means, that the person is replying to the post above. Well, unless you're in math class, in which case the carrot means the number preceding is raised to the power of the number following.


Oh you and your fancy math talk :-) (end hijack)

GlamourRouge
09-09-2013, 04:24 PM
PRIVACY CONCERNS: SOCIAL MEDIA EDITION:

So I've been working on this (still a work in progress) & wanted to compile all the tips together, but I didn't know if I should post it here or in a new thread, so I just put it here. If you think it needs to be a new thread, I will make it into a new one. I covered OFFLINE MEETING above ^^^ here: .


Some good threads about privacy tips (which apply to social media):



(<--- little bits in there)



1.) FACEBOOK (Say NO to cam facebook. I'm not sure if "Pages" work differently in the sense of friends requests, but they aren't adult friendly anyway).


This is typical with facebook. They link:


I have a question about privacy on Facebook. My concern is that I have two account, 1 personal and 1 under my alias. The problem is that even though there is no connection what-so-ever it keeps suggesting I make friends with people I actually know IRL. Is there a way to disconnect the friend suggestion program? Cause if I can see them, I'm pretty sure they would be able to see me too. And quite a few of them would recognize me. Or would I be better off just shutting it down since I don't have much going on there anyway?


As roast points out, it often stems from (but NOT always):


Cookies - FB and twitter stores your internet activity even if you switch accounts, so the recommendations are based on your cookies. I get recommendations on performer twitters to follow ppl on my personal twitter every so often - ditto with FB

But yea FB is a POS when it comes to adult stuff (and is a privacy nightmare in general), same with Yahoo pulse... which haha does anyone even use that, oh Yahoo, you try so hard


And typically what happens if you don't keep camming private... Well, I actually find the opposite true for my daily life (I'm open about it on 2nd or 3rd meeting to weed those who can't handle it out of my life), but its not a good idea if you want to keep camming a secret from people you know IRL like your family or people you didn't want to know:


I can answer #1. I told close friends (6-10 years of being BFs) - MISTAKE. I was something to brag about. "My friend does porn!" They had no regard/didn't understand my need for privacy and safety. Once I started getting strangers (friends of friends) coming up to me, ("Wow (your friend) told me you got into porn!" Or guys hearing it through the gossip line and seeing me as an easy-lay because you know 'porn = easy hoe!' pft!) - I shut it down reeeeeeal quick.

Thankfully no one knew my camming name. Now, they all think I am getting out of the industry and am taking up a boring vanilla job at grocery store.

My occupation was a status symbol to them. Like something to flaunt. So I am lying to these people now because I found out I couldn't trust them. It hurts and it sucks. Better off just to keep it to the industry folks and yourself.



2.) TWITTER (Twitter is okay, just be careful about a few things):


Listen to what ROAST said here. Very important... There's also sites where anyone can do a reverse image search!:


-keep your cam pictures your cam pictures, modeling pictures your modeling pictures, escorting pictures your escorting pictures, and your personal pictures your personal pictures.

-ask yourself each time you tweet or post blogs if the content is for yourself or for your audience. if youre not sure, dont post it. your camming twitter doesnt need to know you checked in on foursquare, they dont need to see pics of children, they dont need to know the full name ofyour newborn. try to keep a personal twitter if you have a hard time stopping yourself from spilling your guts on your camming twitter, youll start to figure out the difference between appropriate and inappropriate.



3.) INSTAGRAM: (OK if used correctly)

- Instagram is a good tool to use, but there are apps out there that let you use your instagram account, and if you are logged in with your instagram account, everyone whose profile you look at, can you know looked at their instagram profile!!!!

Why is this bad? This is BAD because, if you are logged in under your cam/porn instagram and you look at a family member's instagram who ALSO logs into that app, THEY CAN SEE EVERYONE WHO HAS LOOKED AT THEIR INSTAGRAM and will find you out!

One app I can think of off the top of my head that does this is called "statigr.am" -- I'm sure there are more!



4.) LINKED IN: (Avoid, avoid, avoid!)

- LinkedIn is scary because, like various instagram apps above^^^, people whose LinkedIns you view, are able to see that you've viewed them! So if you have one in your cam name, they would be able to see it.

- Also, LinkedIn lists other people that others have looked at right before or right after they looked at your profile. That can pull up family members, friends, your REAL LinkedIn with your REAL name & info!, and other creepy things like that! So its best to just AVOID AVOID AVOID!

- Also II, if you have a REAL linked in, don't go around clicking adult industry folk's LinkedIns because then they will have your REAL info! They can put 2 & 2 together!



5.) WHILE IN FREE CHAT / IN REAL LIFE:

Little things & recognition. TheBrownFox's recognition tips are good. Its the little things you don't realize:


A while ago I remember wearing a tank top which showed the name of the tattoo parlor I'd go to. I realized that wasn't cool, so I stopped doing it.

Also, I make sure my son's backpack (which has his name on it) and other items with my or his name aren't in the cam's view. Some guys pay attention to even small details of what you say and have visible on cam.


& this, in case you ever got outted and didn't want to be:


make up a fake real name if you want.

-Set up a Google Alert - - for your real name, so you can see how often (and where) it shows up on the internet.


So:
1.) Go through your cam area and remove all identifying information (unless you just don't care- like if you live in NY or LA or somewhere that's massively large)
2.) Designate a few coffee cups as your "camming cups" so you don't use one with identifying information like your name or the name of a local place
3.) Keep your camming area clean, so you don't have any identifying information just laying around (papers, backpacks, etc.) If you have papers laying around, get like a filing cabinet, or section off a whole drawer in your dresser for papers so you don't accident leave them out




I will periodically be adding to this! I also want to add in dangers of newer forms of social media like Vine & Keek! Let me know if you have any requests! I know a lot of people didn't know about the Instagram or LinkedIn things!

Via Flaminia
01-02-2014, 01:13 PM
Bumping. It's always an appropriate time to read this thread, but especially in light of the Snapchat debacle and a few privacy invasions I have heard about. Such a great one, GR. Thanks.

Happy New Year everyone.

Camigirl
01-03-2014, 05:35 PM
These people are sick but clever. I am a victim of online stalking from a guy on LJ. He was in another performers room when it all happened, and got some personal info. through her PICTURES! He knew most have FB or Twitter or some social site. He looked up her age or close to what she had given for an age, (she never gives out her real age, but close) anyway, he found her by way of many hours with her pictures on LJ. Yes led him to her FB. It's closed but could see another friend she had, he was then added to her friends FB and it all went from there to ME! I worked LJ at the time, put up with him saying my full real name in chat, and MY address! YES!
So after admin failed to put a perma. ban on his sorry ass, I went looking for who the heck he was. Found out through other members on LJ and contacted his PD in Australia. Had all the screen shots, his youtube crap, and threats he had typed out to me on LJ. I did this for many many months, he was arrested. Let out the next day. Back to court 3 or 4 times, the not guilty. He got off claiming he did not live alone and anyone could have used his computer to do this. Get that!
Still... I had him arrested in his country. IT can be done! He now has been delivered his name to Border Control, as that was the most the USA could do, because he said he was coming to the USA after me. I can talk about this now because it's over, unless he starts back up again. IF anyone was to come to my home and harm me, he was going to be the first to go after, because he was showing he wanted harm to come to me.
The screen shots are sick! I have them all, with all his usernames etc. LJ has to this day failed to get rid of him, he still bothers my friend. She has learned to ignore him and he leaves, he is not as brutal with her online now as he was, and me.. he backed way off. I will go after him again with my local PD and his PD as both our countries have online stalking laws. The only way I was able to get him as far as I did is keeping track of all his activity, printing it out and turning it over to South AUS. and my PD.
I am not proud I lost the case with his lies, he's sick. I am proud that we have the power to at least go after these people. One night in jail I only hoped he was someones bitc_!!! That works for now.
Yes, I have proof this happened. These screen shots and messages are gross, and disgusting!
I will PM anyone who would like to see, just please be from here at SW.
:)

TheBrownFox
01-04-2014, 09:43 AM
@Camigirl: Damn, that's scary as hell! I try to be real careful about this sort of stuff too. I don't even like to mention the exact current temperature when I'm broadcasting, because I don't want some creepy fuck trying to pinpoint my city/town.

And if you play games on your phone (such as Doodle Jump on the iPhone), don't accidentally post your high score on Twitter like I did one day! My Doodle Jump screen name has my real name in it, so I deleted the post right away when I noticed it happened.

Camigirl
01-04-2014, 11:00 AM
@Camigirl: Damn, that's scary as hell! I try to be real careful about this sort of stuff too. I don't even like to mention the exact current temperature when I'm broadcasting, because I don't want some creepy fuck trying to pinpoint my city/town.

And if you play games on your phone (such as Doodle Jump on the iPhone), don't accidentally post your high score on Twitter like I did one day! My Doodle Jump screen name has my real name in it, so I deleted the post right away when I noticed it happened.
It is very scary indeed. I also tried telling people I lived in Cali at first on LJ, and a person pointed out the time. It was actually My time..Florida. I failed on that, I had a clock on my wall in view. And I have cammed outside at times, they see bushes and trees and know where you are pretty much at, what state that is.
1: Never show a clock on the wall.
2: Never show brush of any kind outside your home
3: Never show a view of a fence with any part of the house or another home, they may google map it, and get it right!
3: The types of vehicles around, (no tags of course) say a lot!
4: Noises outside, you may live near an interstate and they hear the big trucks driving by often.
5: Talking about laws in your area, Yea... they pick up on that too!

AND SIX: Always remember we can be found! We are online! If it's not through our mistakes, it may be through an ADMIN!
Don't be paranoid, I made fantastic friends here on SW! But always make sure you know who the person really is!!!
AND last but not least: Some performers meet with customers.
1) meet in a very public place far from your home.
2) Take a cab!
3) IF it does not feel right, it's not. Excuse yourself to the bathroom and go out that backdoor!
4) Have a guy friend with you, but looking like a random guy sitting around where you are hanging out.
5) Never let them hear the RAIN on your windows. Or see snow falling. Keep blinds/curtains closed.
6) Many (not all) but many customers LIE. They want SEX. They want something many of us are not out for.
7) IT's TOO DAMN EASY TO GET KILLED ONLINE TOO. I PREFER DYING OLD AND WRINKLED, NOT MURDERED.
Be careful ladies.

I been there, it's never going to be over for me, ever! I live this shit daily. He's in another country, but he can travel. He was cleared of all the charges.
It's real. It happens. He's sick. He's not the only one!

Take care,
be safe online.

TheBrownFox
01-04-2014, 11:13 AM
5) Never let them hear the RAIN on your windows. Or see snow falling. Keep blinds/curtains closed.
Forgive me if this is a stupid question, but can you explain this one? Is it because guys hear the rain (or see the snow) and are hesitant to leave and go back home in that weather? And they try to stay with you longer til it stops? Even though I don't meet cam site customers ever, this part of your post had me curious.

Camigirl
01-04-2014, 02:39 PM
Forgive me if this is a stupid question, but can you explain this one? Is it because guys hear the rain (or see the snow) and are hesitant to leave and go back home in that weather? And they try to stay with you longer til it stops? Even though I don't meet cam site customers ever, this part of your post had me curious.
Oh, sorry. No, if they see or hear the rain hitting the window or thunder (which I forgot to ad) they may know say.. you live in Cali. Not sure what part of Cali. exactly, but start looking at the weather in parts of Cali. now. So they can pretty much guess or get it right where you are located. City etc. If you say you live in say Florida and they see snow behind your window, blinds, curtain whatever they then know you are where it is snowing. All this may seem like baby steps, but if you get a stalker he is going to take every small bit of information he can see and figure location out sooner or later. I tell you, this guy who I have had in jail took anything he could, from NOT being able to own Pit Bulls in certain parts of the country, and he knew I had a Pit, can't own a Pit in Broward. I showed her on cam and she is on Twitter as well. The small things we would never think of.
They are sick, this is how they start to pick our lives apart, slowly. He never left for over 2 years! He is still around but scared I bet to chime in on other sites, he's safe on LJ, Ban/kick does not work. Admin does not help.
Sorry for the confusion.

TheBrownFox
01-05-2014, 01:38 AM
Thanks for explaining! And that's terrible you've had to go through that. I know an MFC model who's had a problem with a stalker (stalkers, plural?), and she's even had to move. And I remember her saying that law enforcement wasn't very cooperative. It's horrible, and none of us should have to go through that. *hug*

Camigirl
01-05-2014, 12:49 PM
Thanks for explaining! And that's terrible you've had to go through that. I know an MFC model who's had a problem with a stalker (stalkers, plural?), and she's even had to move. And I remember her saying that law enforcement wasn't very cooperative. It's horrible, and none of us should have to go through that. *hug*
Thank you. I think the point is we have to monitor as soon as a person acts strange online, that means screenshots etc. Seems like a lot of work, and I cried when this guy was released, I and the other performer had been ready to give out depositions to our courts here in the USA. While he was indeed bailed out, had more court dates, however LIED his way through the system. I mean really... we have pictures of HIM in private with the threats saying I am coming after you whore!
Screenshots of him putting our real names and address out there... everything.
One thanks to him. I have beefed up my security in my life. I have fantastic dogs that are my alarms and protectors. I have firearms (which I have become a rather damn good shot on the range) and I have so much information about him now due to the documents.
If he ever sends a person to my home due to his game of "go visit the whore at this address" and I get a visit, it won't be a pretty meeting if I am attacked!
He has taught me after many years as a cam performer that yes, there are some very very bad guys out there. I have lawyers on Twitter who have been a godsend! I can't thank my PD and the internet enough (Twitter) for reading my messages and actually believing in me.

Camigirl
01-05-2014, 12:51 PM
PS and you ladies who hear me as well :)
Thank you all.

SnuffleUffleGrass
05-02-2014, 06:52 AM
Thank you for sharing Camigirl.

GlamourRouge
09-08-2014, 01:18 PM
I'm really annoyed that those "public record" birth certificate sites have seemed to come out of no where! Its impossible to get your information removed, and not only does it have your birth name, but it has your entire birthday, and your mother's maiden name, so its a great way for identity thieves to gain info. Ugh.

If anyone knows how to get removed from those, let me know. But I'm 99% sure its not possible.

Missbeth
09-19-2014, 02:06 PM
For amazon wishlists:

Don't add items from 3rd party sellers.... Only add items that say "sold by amazon" or "fulfilled by amazon" or "amazon.com" .. you can tell if it is a 3rd party seller or amazon by going to the "xnumber new from $x.xx" link
Amazon corporate most likely wont give out your address but a 3rd party seller probably wouldn't think twice. I'm a 3rd party seller and sometimes I get people messaging me to verify the address because they moved or whatever. I don't even know if 3rd party sellers can see that an item was bought anonymously through a wishlist.... I've sold 10k+ items and never had anything that said so.

Glamourmilf
09-19-2014, 04:03 PM
39025

LaPetiteVierge
10-03-2014, 12:00 PM
I found a site suitable for this thread:
http://www.undox.me/

It's essentially a DMCA guide.

GlamourRouge
10-03-2014, 12:10 PM
I found a site suitable for this thread:


It's essentially a DMCA guide.

Now that you brought this up, also check out today's news:

LaPetiteVierge
10-03-2014, 12:16 PM
Now that you brought this up, also check out today's news: http://www.xbiz.com/news/185872
YES! This is absolutely great. It's good to see legislation actually DOING SOMETHING about these things! I wish I could thank you for this 15+ more times.

whiteheat
12-02-2014, 01:32 PM
Regarding instagram, should I worry to use the same app on my phone (I have a personal insta) since iphone could link everything (just like with FB which I don't have) or should I use a different phone or just use the browser version from some comp (is it even possible? lol)
I don't want my real life acquantainces and their followers to find out my camming insta

Bumble_BiiBii
01-06-2016, 12:14 AM
I'm just curious how often "something bad" happens? Some of these things seem a bit overkill, are they really all that important? What would be the most important things on this list? Sorry if I sound naive...

PS, I'm not worried about people I know finding out.

alegendawaits
08-23-2016, 07:49 PM
Do people really do ALL of these? Sounds a bit... much


Also, sorry for the dumb question... but what exactly is a LLC?