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Cashmere Star
09-28-2014, 09:46 PM
Even the most super-sober veterans trip once in a while. I think even if you do trip (assuming it is bc you weren't tanked up!) the more important thing would be how you recover from it. I have tripped onstage a bunch of times bc I am just clumsy, I just make light of it & keep right on going. If you can laugh it off &/or continue the flow so the stumble does not seem too noticeable, you will be fine.

Phew, so it shouldn't be too bad. I doubt I'll trip but who knows. If I stumble I'd just be like 'whoops' and smile with my hand over my mouth, then go on dancing. If I fall I'd pick myself up. I am not worried about how I handle it, just that it shouldn't disqualify me. I was walking in the 6-inches only for over a week, I could've gotten more practice but I decided that it's better to audition sooner than later.

calinacain
09-30-2014, 04:17 PM
TONS of good advice on this Thread! Good luck to you ladies, you'll do great as long as you believe it.

The #1 thing that helped my earnings was CONFIDENCE. Even if you don't feel confident, pretending goes a long way. SuperFlirt by Tracy Cox should be required reading for anyone just starting out. It gives some excellent tips for projecting confidence in the club.

StripperWeb is a great resource and will go a long way in maximizing earnings as long as you follow the right advice.

Good luck to you!

Cashmere Star
10-01-2014, 08:18 PM
So I danced yesterday night for the first time.. I was only on stage for 6 minutes (2 songs) and damn, my legs are still sore lol! Better go back this week to practice.

Vyanka
10-29-2014, 09:05 PM
TONS of good advice on this Thread! Good luck to you ladies, you'll do great as long as you believe it.

The #1 thing that helped my earnings was CONFIDENCE. Even if you don't feel confident, pretending goes a long way. SuperFlirt by Tracy Cox should be required reading for anyone just starting out. It gives some excellent tips for projecting confidence in the club.

StripperWeb is a great resource and will go a long way in maximizing earnings as long as you follow the right advice.

Good luck to you!

I loved that book. That was one of the books I read when I was a newbie.

LanaRey
10-30-2014, 06:47 PM
It is important not to get drunk before or during work. If you are professional and never drunk you will be respected by management. You are not a cocktail waitress or a bartender. You are not there to sell or drink alchohol. You are there to make money by entertaining the customers. You are in the lap dance sales business. If you would rather sell alchohol, then you can apply for a job as a cocktail waitress or bartender. You don't have to be a stripper. If a guy wants you to get drunk with him beware. There is a reason for that and it's not a good one. Guys who want to buy you drinks will try to take advantage of you. They want your defenses to be slow; which is the ONLY REASON that they are offering to buy you a drink. Don't be afraid to say you make your money doing lap dances not drinking.

I know this is old, but at my club - it's "the norm" for a guy to buy us a drink. Though the bartender makes my drinks virgin && we get $5 off every drink a guy buys for us. But in my club - if a guy buys us a drink its usually a tell- tale sign that he wants to spend his money on you.

marina_x
11-10-2014, 09:11 PM
Going in for an 'interview' for my first time tomorrow. They didn't use the word audition but I'm bringing clothes and shoes in case... and arriving looking hot, or at least thats the plan!

2 Questions.. Should I tell them I've never danced before? & When I first go in and ask for the manager, should I use my real name or stage name?

Flickdreams
11-11-2014, 04:58 AM
^Start a separate thread honey :)

marina_x
11-11-2014, 11:27 AM
Whoops thank you!

Aniela
11-11-2014, 12:02 PM
Going in for an 'interview' for my first time tomorrow. They didn't use the word audition but I'm bringing clothes and shoes in case... and arriving looking hot, or at least thats the plan!

2 Questions.. Should I tell them I've never danced before? & When I first go in and ask for the manager, should I use my real name or stage name?

B4 starting a new thread, try running a search. If you had $1 for every time these questions have been asked you could probably pay off the cost of your first pair of heels.

Aniela
11-11-2014, 12:07 PM
I know this is old, but at my club - it's "the norm" for a guy to buy us a drink. Though the bartender makes my drinks virgin && we get $5 off every drink a guy buys for us. But in my club - if a guy buys us a drink its usually a tell- tale sign that he wants to spend his money on you.

You are miles ahead of a lot of girls if you're remaining sober at work. :thumbsup: Sasee's advice is spot-on even in clubs where customers buying dancers drinks is the norm. She was talking abt 'getting drunk' as opposed to just selling/accepting drinks. True, 'buying a drink or two for the dancer' is often a sign the customer is interested in you, but you'll notice Sasee specifically said 'If a guy wants to get you drunk'. Those are the kind of guys that need to be watched out for, & sadly there are A LOT of them out there.

Ellie210
02-17-2015, 07:37 PM
What if a girl asks to borrow something as simple as makeup? How do I politely say no without her getting mad at me or thinking I am being rude?

Selina M
02-17-2015, 07:45 PM
^ I would say I'm a germaphobe so nobody can borrow my makeup. Though honestly you don't need to explain yourself to anyone and can just say no. You're not there to make friends.

charlie61
02-17-2015, 08:10 PM
^ I would say I'm a germaphobe so nobody can borrow my makeup. Though honestly you don't need to explain yourself to anyone and can just say no. You're not there to make friends.

Even better...tell them you're still recovering from a terrible cold / flu / plague.

tempest666
03-02-2015, 06:27 AM
What if a girl asks to borrow something as simple as makeup? How do I politely say no without her getting mad at me or thinking I am being rude?

"Buy your own shit. If you're too broke to buy your own makeup you shouldn't be stripping."
I don't care if I appear rude or if someone gets butthurt.

ChloeLuva
05-04-2015, 10:02 PM
Thought I would add to this- be equally aware of management.
---You don't have to give the owner/manager a dance as part of the 'audition'. You don't HAVE to dance for anyone, if you don't want, and definitely not for free. Don't let them intimidate you into thinking you have to do what the 'boss' says to pass the audition just because you're new.
A lovely brand new girl tonight came back to our table telling us she did this :( They are not training you, they're preying on newbies for free kicks.

I don't understand this. How do you get the job if you don't dance for them?

Aurora14
05-04-2015, 10:10 PM
Auditions are done on stage. Not a lap. You can tell a lot about someone by watching a 2/3 song stage set.

If a manager/owner says you have to do an actual lap dance for them, they are scuzz. That won't be the dirtiest thing going on in there. LEAVE

ChloeLuva
05-04-2015, 10:16 PM
Thank you for the quick response! Good to know.

charlie61
05-15-2015, 04:27 PM
Thought I'd add to this thread, along the lines of "mistakes newbies make..." After returning to dancing, I'm noticing all kinds of mistakes I made back when I was dancing the first time around. Just a few come to mind right now.

Mistake #1: Not exercising or lifting weights because "dancing is exercise." To keep your body strong, you need to treat yourself like a professional athlete. Give yourself the day off after a night of work if your body is hurting. But the next day, get into the gym to lift and do some cardio. I used to only do cardio, which can throw your muscles out of balance and make them too lean. These days, my knees are thanking me for doing quad / hamstring / abductor / adductor strengthening exercises. Lifting weights and stretching are a big deal. Use your free evenings in front of the tv to stretch while you're zoning out.

Mistake #2: Not doing anything before you go into work, to "save up your energy." I used to get into the habit of giving myself a couple of days before a night of work to be a total couch-loser. I wouldn't go outside or do anything productive, and I'd just obsess over the upcoming night of work. Not only did this result in me building up negative energy about working and resenting the job itself, but it was terrible for my mental health in general. Instead, keep to a normal routine as much as you possibly can. On the day that I work, I volunteer, go grocery shopping, go for a walk outside, and then shower and get ready for work. That way I don't spend the day obsessing about my upcoming shift, which helps keep my energy clean.

Mistake #3: Not paying attention to what you're doing with your knees on stage. If you dance just once a year, you have little risk of injuring yourself. But if you're working once a week, those cute little floor moves you do where you're banging your knees into the stage really start to add up. Be as gentle as possible while also putting on a good show. Calculate the "worth-it-ness" of hurting your knees for someone who's throwing handfuls of money at you vs. putting on a big show for people who are tipping you a dollar at a time. Pay attention to the shoes you're wearing, how often you're using your knees as fulcrums, and how often you squat down to take tips.

Aniela
06-07-2015, 04:01 PM
^^^^ INTENTIONALLY banging your knees into the stage? What the hell could be considered 'cute' abt that? :ouch: What I am picturing right now looks painful & downright masochistic.

But yes Yes YES pay attention to how you're using your body while dancing. If there is a pole or a wall available, use them for balance & for taking the majority of your wgt while bending over, squatting, etc. Be careful w/ splits & other extensions. Coming down hard into a full split & bouncing up&down on those fully extended hips is hard as hell on them, & there's nothing sexy abt literally being unable to stand the nxt day bc your groin muscles are overtaxed & refuse to support your wgt.

Everything ^^^^ abt free wgts on your off days is also spot on.

charlie61
06-07-2015, 04:21 PM
^At my dive, we used to do bachelor-party dances on stage, where we'd do all kinds of stuff to humiliate the Bachelor. This included a popular move where we'd put the guy on his back on stage, position ourselves between his legs, and pretend to fuck him (with our bottoms on and everything - it was just a funny thing to do in front of his friends). When you do that on stage, you're banging your knees into the floor. That's just one example of the plethora of stupid things I used to do with my knees. I used to rock my body back and forth onto my knees, put needless pressure on them during my stage shows, etc.

Save the knees!! :)

TearieLeigh
06-25-2015, 06:59 PM
All I have to say is dont go around bragging about how good the blow you have is, and dont brag about how your dad kicked out of the house because he found out you were selling drugs.


Urg I seriously hate girls like this that come into my club.

BiSexyandSpicy
06-26-2015, 10:44 PM
Thank You for all the great advice.

tempest666
06-27-2015, 02:33 AM
What if a girl asks to borrow something as simple as makeup? How do I politely say no without her getting mad at me or thinking I am being rude?

"Fuck off and buy your own goddamn makeup. If you can't afford Dollar tree makeup you shouldn't be stripping."
(Yes I said this to someone. They didn't even know me and they were asking to borrow my shit.)

BiSexyandSpicy
06-27-2015, 03:03 AM
@ rosemead......

Love the avatar...looks like a woman dreaming, very creative.

savannahjames
07-21-2015, 12:25 PM
So I am dark skin tone and I wanted to know any suggestions for moisturizing without slippery side effects on the floor

100% pure cold pressed extra virgin coconut. This is the only moisturizer I use. I make sure to put it on at least an hour before going into work. It absorbs rapidly and wont leave the stage and poles slippery.

naomi28
08-01-2015, 03:37 PM
If I had to give advice to anyone starting, it would be to do your research and seek out support. I was lucky enough to find this forum before I started dancing. I spent like a week pouring over everything before I auditioned. It was so helpful to me. Make sure that you know what you are getting into and make sure you know your rights. I remember the best piece of advice I got from someone on here was something along the lines of:

"Don't do anything that you aren't comfortable with, even if a custy offers you a lot of Money. If you give an inch they will take a mile. And don't feel bad about it either."

STRAIGHTALK
08-12-2015, 10:50 AM
You can visit this website for many tips, tricks, and simple help for many of dancing questions

Garnetroses
09-15-2015, 08:31 PM
Hello! I will start dancing officially on this Thursday.I am a bit nervous, but yet I know what I have to offer. Definetly no "extras" over here. I want to be a good exotic dancer, so to speak. Can I just have a rundown possibly of what an entertainer should bring to work? Like perfume, wipes etc? I have been I guess ghost reading and researching this forum, and found alot of useful and helpful tips and tricks. Anything is appreciated. Just trying to prepare for my first day! Nervous- excited. Like a sexy schoolgirl's first day of school Lol

savannahjames
09-16-2015, 01:05 PM
Hello! I will start dancing officially on this Thursday.I am a bit nervous, but yet I know what I have to offer. Definetly no "extras" over here. I want to be a good exotic dancer, so to speak. Can I just have a rundown possibly of what an entertainer should bring to work? Like perfume, wipes etc? I have been I guess ghost reading and researching this forum, and found alot of useful and helpful tips and tricks. Anything is appreciated. Just trying to prepare for my first day! Nervous- excited. Like a sexy schoolgirl's first day of school Lol

Here's some basics that you should bring.
Lock if they have lockers
Unscented babywipes
2 pairs of shoes
2 outfits with extra thongs to change in and out of
rubbing alcohol and lint free cotton wipes. (you'll want to wipe down with these every hour or so to save you from getting ass and back of the leg pimples)
bring your own make up
Hair tools (when your new, girls will not be to keen to share)
A big enough bag to carry it all in. bring some snack bars too to eat mid shift if you get hungry. The high protein low sugar ones will keep you from bloating. Don't wear any lotion, if get really dry and ashy like me use 100% pure extra virgin coconut oil and put it on at least 2 hours before your shift. It absorbs very fast and wont grease up the pole. If you choose to wear perfume be sure to only wear it behind your ears, back of the knee and in the crease of your elbows. Men don't like going home to their wives smelling like other women. Hope this helps! Anymore question feel free to PM me.

Garnetroses
09-16-2015, 01:20 PM
Here's some basics that you should bring.
Lock if they have lockers
Unscented babywipes
2 pairs of shoes
2 outfits with extra thongs to change in and out of
rubbing alcohol and lint free cotton wipes. (you'll want to wipe down with these every hour or so to save you from getting ass and back of the leg pimples)
bring your own make up
Hair tools (when your new, girls will not be to keen to share)
A big enough bag to carry it all in. bring some snack bars too to eat mid shift if you get hungry. The high protein low sugar ones will keep you from bloating. Don't wear any lotion, if get really dry and ashy like me use 100% pure extra virgin coconut oil and put it on at least 2 hours before your shift. It absorbs very fast and wont grease up the pole. If you choose to wear perfume be sure to only wear it behind your ears, back of the knee and in the crease of your elbows. Men don't like going home to their wives smelling like other women. Hope this helps! Anymore question feel free to PM me.



Thank you soooooo very much Savannah. This helps alot. I figure the first time will be a bit nerve racking, but I hope to find my own groove after a while. I know this is a bit outlandish question Lol I know we are a type of entertainer, in a way creative, maybe performance art if you look at it from a certain angle, but have exotic dancers/Strippers ever used streamers, flags or props to enhance their performance in addition to the pole? Thanks.

Aniela
09-17-2015, 11:12 AM
I know we are a type of entertainer, in a way creative, maybe performance art if you look at it from a certain angle, but have exotic dancers/Strippers ever used streamers, flags or props to enhance their performance in addition to the pole? Thanks.

'strippers/exotic dancers' … wow. Don't overthink the job title. No need to be PC here, just call us what we are

As for streamers, flags … if you're thinking seriously abt this, I would suggest actually going to a club as a customer first to get a better idea of what you're getting into. This isn't like the high school auxiliary dancers that come out at halftime during football games to entertain the crowd, & it's not burlesque.

Sm feature dancers may use various props & various fancy costumes, but those are girls who have been doing this for a while & have a routine down cold.

Garnetroses
09-17-2015, 11:17 AM
'strippers/exotic dancers' … wow. Don't overthink the job title. No need to be PC here, just call us what we are

As for streamers, flags … if you're thinking seriously abt this, I would suggest actually going to a club as a customer first to get a better idea of what you're getting into. This isn't like the high school auxiliary dancers that come out at halftime during football games to entertain the crowd, & it's not burlesque.

Sm feature dancers may use various props & various fancy costumes, but those are girls who have been doing this for a while & have a routine down cold.

Yeah you're right. I tend to over think things sometimes. I have been to numerous clubs, but I just thought that would add. Wrong thinking. I start tonight as a dancer , and It is what it is. Still trying to learn the ropes. Thanks for being straight with me. We are what we are.

SalemTheStripper
09-22-2015, 07:10 PM
I really wish I would have found this forum before I'd started dancing. It would have really helped my nerves. Now I'm planning on auditioning for my second club soon. And certainly figuring out where I've been going wrong! Thank y'all so much.

TheGoldenEmpress
10-11-2015, 07:52 AM
Thanx so much Vyanka! I have learned a lot reading this thread 😆

justsomechick22
10-21-2015, 06:33 PM
where can you get pole dancing classes and my biggest issue with this type of dance is the top vid's first 20 seconds on how she moves her butt. Like That's exactly what my friend was trying to teach me. I can't like slowly gradually move like that are there dance classes for that too? Or does it come with the pole dancing?

Aniela
10-22-2015, 10:54 AM
where can you get pole dancing classes and my biggest issue with this type of dance is the top vid's first 20 seconds on how she moves her butt. Like That's exactly what my friend was trying to teach me. I can't like slowly gradually move like that are there dance classes for that too? Or does it come with the pole dancing?

Don't bother w/ pole classes unless it's an urban club, & even then. Pole takes major strength so you def don't want to rush it. Save your $$$ & learn pole tricks OTJ/via Youtube + practising at work w/ the physical conditioning you will build up from dancing. Ditto any 'booty/twerk' classes. All of that can be learnt for free while working.

justsomechick22
10-22-2015, 02:40 PM
Don't bother w/ pole classes unless it's an urban club, & even then. Pole takes major strength so you def don't want to rush it. Save your $$$ & learn pole tricks OTJ/via Youtube + practising at work w/ the physical conditioning you will build up from dancing. Ditto any 'booty/twerk' classes. All of that can be learnt for free while working.

How do I know if a club is urban or not? I don't get what am I supposed to do while I have the job and know absolutely nothing. I am interested in CH I think I'm going to go next Saturday and check it out. Then apply in the next two weeks.

savannahjames
11-20-2015, 01:41 PM
Thank you soooooo very much Savannah. This helps alot. I figure the first time will be a bit nerve racking, but I hope to find my own groove after a while. I know this is a bit outlandish question Lol I know we are a type of entertainer, in a way creative, maybe performance art if you look at it from a certain angle, but have exotic dancers/Strippers ever used streamers, flags or props to enhance their performance in addition to the pole? Thanks.

you'll do just fine. Make your routine is on point if you decide to use props, I've only ever seen feature dancers use props.

Vyanka
03-07-2016, 06:00 PM
Don't ever give your I.D. & social security number to another chic, so that she can work at a club. (((Head bang))). It's illegal, and you'll be paying taxes on money that wasn't yours!!

Just witnessed this stupidity.

Gia2608
03-07-2016, 07:46 PM
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That site redirects somewhere else and my anti-virus recommended I didn't open it. I am not sure where you found it...

Gia2608
03-07-2016, 07:48 PM
'strippers/exotic dancers' … wow. Don't overthink the job title. No need to be PC here, just call us what we are

As for streamers, flags … if you're thinking seriously abt this, I would suggest actually going to a club as a customer first to get a better idea of what you're getting into. This isn't like the high school auxiliary dancers that come out at halftime during football games to entertain the crowd, & it's not burlesque.

Sm feature dancers may use various props & various fancy costumes, but those are girls who have been doing this for a while & have a routine down cold.

Sold! Although I did see a girl do an entire stage set once "en point", as in prima ballerina. It was erotic and hot.

Heart&Pole
03-10-2016, 04:21 AM
Best advice for new girls on stage: SLOW DOWN.

Don't try to be a rap video girl right from the jump.

The slower and more controlled your movements are, the more freedom and flexibility you have to change your mind re: your next move as well as the freedom to transition to a new sequence/set of moves.

Flowwww slowwww & fake it until you make it :)

Heart&Pole
03-10-2016, 04:35 AM
I'm going to agree for the most part with Aniela, but add my own little twist.

As a former pole fitness instructor, I see tremendous value in taking a couple beginner level classes. If exotic dancing is your career or even your passion, invest in yourself!!

Learning some basic spins & smooth/controlled ways to transition from the pole to the floor & back can aid in your stage presence & confidence TREMENDOUSLY. Confidence is what draws the money - it really isn't about your "moves."

For the most part, customers are so enthralled with your body and watching you (admiringly) that you can pretty much do no wrong HOWEVER, I've definitely discovered that having a few basic spins/moves under your belt can quickly build confidence in beginning dancers and give them a trick/move to revert to if their mind goes blank.

After that, its an lifestyle...the more advanced I got on the pole tricks/stage presentation, I increased my stage show tips as well as the quantity of private dances sold after I exited the stage. I personally found a passion for "pole fitness & even competitions," but that is not the route that many people choose.

When I found myself starting to spend extra money on the "pole arts," that was when I got may ass back in the club and made sure I was using my skills to line my pockets.

If you want to work on booty popping/twerking/etc -> the best advice I can give is to get on your knees in front of a full length mirror and start testing things out...warning: you may not leave this mirror for the next 3 weeks lmao.

SeraphinaAngel
06-01-2016, 12:35 AM
Thank you. I do this regularly anyway, but due to some past issues I've had growing up, that really helps. I'm actually looking to do exotic dancing for multiple reasons, but the main one is because I absolutely love to dance. :)

SeraphinaAngel
06-01-2016, 12:38 AM
-Hire a shrink or keep a journal. Sex work can make you feel vulnerable and may stir up feelings that you didn't know existed. Some may disagree on this, but everyone processes experiences differently.

Thank you again :)

maggie82
06-20-2016, 09:57 PM
Thought I would add to this- be equally aware of management.
---You don't have to give the owner/manager a dance as part of the 'audition'. You don't HAVE to dance for anyone, if you don't want, and definitely not for free. Don't let them intimidate you into thinking you have to do what the 'boss' says to pass the audition just because you're new.
A lovely brand new girl tonight came back to our table telling us she did this :( They are not training you, they're preying on newbies for free kicks.

So that is not cool for them to ask for a lap dance ever? Is the audition just supposed to be a pole routine?

NewTanyaStar
07-14-2016, 04:21 PM
Hi

I have been reading a lot about becomeing sripper and aftr reading a lot of all the negative and positive reviews, comments and blogs I am still very interested it giving it a go, considering the negatives I feel like I would have a lot of fun and want to try and become a successful stripper on the weekends in London, UK.
The only advice I could not much on was 'which strip clubs are recommended' Can anyone reccomend some good strip clubs to work for in London ???? (i know there are a lot out there that are not very good or the a lot o club takes to much money from the strippers or have pushy male owners) are there any good ones that are recommended for beginners ??

LoveyDovey
08-14-2016, 12:31 AM
I'm going to agree for the most part with Aniela, but add my own little twist.

As a former pole fitness instructor, I see tremendous value in taking a couple beginner level classes. If exotic dancing is your career or even your passion, invest in yourself!!

Learning some basic spins & smooth/controlled ways to transition from the pole to the floor & back can aid in your stage presence & confidence TREMENDOUSLY. Confidence is what draws the money - it really isn't about your "moves."

For the most part, customers are so enthralled with your body and watching you (admiringly) that you can pretty much do no wrong HOWEVER, I've definitely discovered that having a few basic spins/moves under your belt can quickly build confidence in beginning dancers and give them a trick/move to revert to if their mind goes blank.

After that, its an lifestyle...the more advanced I got on the pole tricks/stage presentation, I increased my stage show tips as well as the quantity of private dances sold after I exited the stage. I personally found a passion for "pole fitness & even competitions," but that is not the route that many people choose.

When I found myself starting to spend extra money on the "pole arts," that was when I got may ass back in the club and made sure I was using my skills to line my pockets.

If you want to work on booty popping/twerking/etc -> the best advice I can give is to get on your knees in front of a full length mirror and start testing things out...warning: you may not leave this mirror for the next 3 weeks lmao.

Girls ask me all the time to teach them my pole work, but I'm self-taught and hesitant to teach others what I know. I always tell everyone to take a class so that they can be taught by an instructor properly. I tell new girls to not copy me because most of them are wasted and wind up falling off the pole, hitting their heads. So I tell them don't drink. Take classes. They'll learn their own moves too with practice.

Vyanka
08-20-2016, 08:38 PM
Hi

I have been reading a lot about becomeing sripper and aftr reading a lot of all the negative and positive reviews, comments and blogs I am still very interested it giving it a go, considering the negatives I feel like I would have a lot of fun and want to try and become a successful stripper on the weekends in London, UK.
The only advice I could not much on was 'which strip clubs are recommended' Can anyone reccomend some good strip clubs to work for in London ???? (i know there are a lot out there that are not very good or the a lot o club takes to much money from the strippers or have pushy male owners) are there any good ones that are recommended for beginners ??

Look through club chat. This thread is to help newbies how to work/act in the SC.

Layla.00
08-21-2016, 01:50 AM
Read the UK thread. It has a lot of useful info about London and other UK clubs. I wouldn't recommend starting in London if you're not from there though.