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Hopper
09-21-2012, 06:36 PM
Or both customers and dancers could just accept the fact, as most do, that a strip club is a place of human interaction. Dancers approach as it is how they make their living. We as customers can say yes, no or maybe. Ultimately the customer owes it to the lady not to waste her time and the lady needs to accept a polite no gracefully and move on. Threads like this continue to surface because, sometimes, one side or the other fails at what should be a simple conversation.

And if we had some eggs, we could have ham and eggs, if we had some ham. :)

yoda57us
09-22-2012, 01:12 AM
^ I don't really eat eggs or pork anymore....but we could have pancakes!

that.guy.in.la
09-23-2012, 04:04 PM
I can't believe there are girls who actually talk about this stuff to custies! What a drag. One thing working in customer service, food service and for government in the past taught me is that you leave your baggage at home, lol

I had a similar thing happen last week - a dancer started talking to me by saying how bad the night was and how she wasn't making any money.

Shortly thereafter another dancer came over and joined the conversation. The first girl asked me who I had gotten dances from and I told her. The two girls started making fun of and mocking that dancer. Another dancer walked by and as she walked past them, they both said, "Freak!" Then they said that girl is so weird. They continued basically ripping every other girl in the club apart.

After all that, they asked if I wanted a double dance from both of them, I politely declined. I know it's a tough job and it's pretty competitive, but I wish they had kept that negativity in the dressing room.

yoda57us
09-23-2012, 04:17 PM
Over the years dozens of dancers have lost out on my money by making the mistake of ripping another dancer that I was friendly with. It's just such a bad idea to show ANY negativity much less dumping on the other girls in the club.

rgbg
09-25-2012, 07:00 AM
Over the years dozens of dancers have lost out on my money by making the mistake of ripping another dancer that I was friendly with. It's just such a bad idea to show ANY negativity much less dumping on the other girls in the club.

My immediate assumption, when someone rips (not just tactful critique) the other girls like that is that she herself is a complete sleaze and not worth my time. That's one of the few circumstances that would make me dump a dancer I was already talking with.

Doc Holliday
09-25-2012, 07:21 AM
I remember one of the most physically attractive dancers I have ever had the pleasure of being with was a complete rude little shit and the only one I ever actually stopped mid-dance. She also told me this complete bullshit line that she doesn't go to VIP because the only girls that do are the ones that fuck and she doesn't do that. This was in one of the cleanest clubs I had ever been to, too. The VIP wasn't anything special, just a couch room that cost like $30 to get in and wasn't private. But our beef wasn't that, it was with the fact she was insulting my friend who worked there. I remember threatening to get her fired if she so much as looked at my friend wrong. Despite that disaster of a night, we turned out to be friends, and she was actually always nice to my other friend, she was just having a bad night I guess.

Kessler
09-25-2012, 09:55 PM
^That was kind of a schizophrenic post. So...wait...you ended up being friends with her?

Djoser
09-27-2012, 04:10 PM
It does happen in this business, a lot more than I ever would have guessed before I actually started working as a DJ. I have become friends with women that tried as hard as they could to get me fired lol. Though it generally takes a while for that, and it's not always so likely.

I am now fairly friendly with a girl that DID get me fired. Since I went right over to the club down the street and made more money kicking the first club's ass for more than 3 years, I have seriously thought about literally thanking her for doing what she did--but it's probably not necessary.

You have a lot of volatile personalities in the clubs. It's extremely vicious and predatory, in more ways than one, and everyone's ego is on the line. That sets people up for continuous conflict. And it doesn't help when there is so much drinking and drugs going on.

brotherhood
10-07-2012, 09:37 AM
As soon as i'm approached i know whether or not i will get dances from someone. I will always let dancer know that i'm not interested. It's truly amazing how many get mad, because you are trying to save them from wasting time. There is one lady that is ok looking, but that i'm not physically attracted to that every time i went to the club, i would get 5 dances from. I considered her to be my good luck charm. I also enjoyed talking with her. Now i no longer get dances from her, but she still stops and talks with me when she is not busy so i always give her a nice tip and whenever she's on stage i make sure she gets a tip.

Sophia_Starina
10-12-2012, 01:58 PM
Over the years dozens of dancers have lost out on my money by making the mistake of ripping another dancer that I was friendly with. It's just such a bad idea to show ANY negativity much less dumping on the other girls in the club.

WTF? Girls are so ridiculous some times. If I'm ever asked about another dancer (by a customer), I always compliment the lady in question. Regardless of my personal feelings, I can always say something positive about any co-worker I encounter. There is no excuse to be a petty, bitter, cuntrag with some Mean-Girls mentality.


Strippers! We are all in this together! Even though we are independent contractors, we all deal with more than enough shit each night... we can't waste energy tearing each other down.


I'm sending out love to all the strippers out there.

Have a fantastic night & make tons of $$$$$$$$$ !

invibe
02-04-2013, 05:09 PM
I'm really not trying to be rude by asking this, but I have to because it still seems like a mystery to me. I get there are some customers who enjoy wasting time on purpose, which is kind of psychotic and bizarre and sad, but this happens too often to be the case all the time.

I sit with a customer, I ask if he would like company first. He says 'sure!' we talk. Everything's cool. But he says no to a dance. Ok, fair enough. Honestly, as long as a customer is friendly and nice and polite I appreciate them, even if they don't spend a lot. And there are also custies who are just fun to talk to at the bar who I understand just want to chill, but are there some of you who do this on purpose or what? Do you decide whether you are going to get a dance right away or after conversation? Is it the conversation that puts you off or do you know right when you see the girl whether or not you will get a dance? Just curious.

bump of an ancient thread... oh well

Probably a tiny minority of the people that do this are up to something else. I casually went to strip clubs when I was in the military before going out to bars. Not going to lie, used that as a crutch to take the edge off being shy around really cute girls for years (strange but true). I no longer do this, but one night I was headed downtown to meet girls at the bars and just wasn't feeling like it, so I stopped in a SC in that area. I stopped at the bar ordered a drink and got into a conversation with the first girl that talked to me. I was physically attracted (duh) but she was actually fun to talk to as well. When the subject of a dance came around I thought about the fact that most strippers do not date customers. Me being me I turned that around into giving her the option to hang out instead for the cost of a dance, did that a second time and then finally got a dance from her then left. That basically broke the rule I was avoiding ah well. Honestly I was having fun and didn't care, I knew she had a BF but never asked. It was just nice to be gamed instead of doing the gaming for a change lol.

renee39
02-22-2013, 09:39 AM
Heh..that's prolly usually bullshit for sure, but what's funny inm my case is I actually did do graphic design and motion graphics and a little web design for a while before I went back to stripping. So when there are tech or designer guys and I mention programs and lingo that they know and mention that I did similar stuff they say ,'naw, you're full of shit'. It's a little insulting, but I can't blame them.


lol. they are prolly high
hahaha...I was thinking the same thing, probably, usually high!:D

renee39
02-22-2013, 03:05 PM
I have never seen or heard of a dancer refusing tip money for their time , NEVER!!! I have been dancing on & off for 18 years and it is unimaginable to think any dancer would say no or use it towards a dance next time to your offering them money for their time
I'll often offer dancers some $$ if I know that I won't be getting any dances and she's been sitting with me and chatting. No one has ever seemed offended....why would they? They are there to earn their money, whether it be for stage dancing, lap dancing, or doing the GFE thing by sitting and talking. Interestingly, many dancers have politely refused my tip money for their time, instead suggesting that the next time I'm at the club I instead use that cash to try a lapdance with them :).


@yoda - you sure do seem to be posting alot of double-doubles lately......itchy trigger finger? :D

FasaCorp
02-22-2013, 06:37 PM
I would get suspicious as hell if a dancer turned down a tip for her time spent (unless she was a favorite and I had already spent a good chunk on her that night). Can you say Vice?