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Cherrybelle
08-08-2013, 06:14 AM
I needed to see/read this thread! I am currently struggling to make that change but I know I have to do it. Now.
THANK YOU.
freckles
08-18-2013, 06:51 AM
To drink or not to drink at work is somewhat of a source of stress for me... I am new to this (again) so there is the factor that *one* drink at the beginning of my shift will loosen me up, both on stage and in being outgoing with customers. But, there is also the fact that I am not a big drinker & kind of a lightweight, and I have to drive home. I hope, for the sake of my money, that fellas are going to buy commission drinks for me, and that part of my job is to appear eager to get them and drink them. I could tell the bartender at the beginning of my shift to make mine non-alcoholic, but I haven't done that, because I fear the customer might stand at the bar and hawk her every move making my drinks, and then we're both "busted"... so, I usually end up having my *one* jack & diet at 2pm, and try to sneakily retreat to the DR & pour out as much as I can of my commission drinks. A couple of times even this tactic has led to me drinking more than I wanted to (not sloshed, but feeling the effects, for sure). It is a very delicate balance that I have yet to strike. I hope that soon enough, I'll feel comfortable enough at work that I won't feel like I "need" that first drink anymore.
ExoticBeauty4U
08-18-2013, 10:18 AM
I cant dance sober, but kudos to you girls who can:)
AmyLynne
08-18-2013, 02:40 PM
why would you want to work sober? I want to see everything through a vodka induced haze!
Aniela
08-18-2013, 03:27 PM
To drink or not to drink at work is somewhat of a source of stress for me... I am new to this (again) so there is the factor that *one* drink at the beginning of my shift will loosen me up, both on stage and in being outgoing with customers. But, there is also the fact that I am not a big drinker & kind of a lightweight, and I have to drive home. I hope, for the sake of my money, that fellas are going to buy commission drinks for me, and that part of my job is to appear eager to get them and drink them. I could tell the bartender at the beginning of my shift to make mine non-alcoholic, but I haven't done that, because I fear the customer might stand at the bar and hawk her every move making my drinks, and then we're both "busted"... so, I usually end up having my *one* jack & diet at 2pm, and try to sneakily retreat to the DR & pour out as much as I can of my commission drinks. A couple of times even this tactic has led to me drinking more than I wanted to (not sloshed, but feeling the effects, for sure). It is a very delicate balance that I have yet to strike. I hope that soon enough, I'll feel comfortable enough at work that I won't feel like I "need" that first drink anymore.
I've worked in clubs that offered non-alcoholic options for commission drinks. Keep the customer at the table while he's ordering, rather than letting him go to the bar to order it. This was actually a rule at one of the clubs I worked, b/c mgmt didn't want non-drinking dancers to feel obligated.
Altho I don't drink at work, if it's late in the nite I will tell the customer politely, should he offer me a drink, that I do have to drive home so I'm done drinking. I have yet to have anyone get pissy at me when I use this excuse.
I've def used the 'take it in the DR & dump it' tactic, but I would keep a bottle of Coke in my locker to replenish sm of the liquid if I thought the customer might get suspicious. Then I could basically have my virgin Coke, but it would still smell enough like alcohol to leave him none the wiser.
freckles
08-18-2013, 04:42 PM
[QUOTE=Aniela;2527130]I've worked in clubs that offered non-alcoholic options for commission drinks. Keep the customer at the table while he's ordering, rather than letting him go to the bar to order it.
Very smart, and I wish this was an option, because I would certainly handle it that way... except that i work days, and there is no waitress. I have had a customer ask me to take his money to the bar & get my drink, but in that case it was a flute of champagne (or 3)... kinda hard to fake as we don't carry a non-alcoholic anything that looks like champagne. So, I used the old, "I'll be right back" tactic on that one. Still ended up drinking probably 1 1/2 glasses, which, for me, is quite a bit.
AmyLynne
08-18-2013, 06:28 PM
Order virgin drinks for yourself.. don't tell the douchebag. The waitresses should know. Charge the guys like 10 bucks for your drink when it costs 30 cents to make.
Flickdreams
09-01-2013, 04:23 AM
Just get past the fear that it's going to make a difference to your income. I don't drink at work anymore and only once has a man made it an issue (although he was making an issue with everyone so it negated it being an issue- he was just beligerent). In my experience if I truly don't feel its an issue then my body language and attitude carry that across to the customer. I will order a non-alcoholic drink if offered to be social. Decide what your boundries for work are and learn to communicate them in a non-defensive, non-agressive manner.
Tell the customers you are diabetic- then you can only drink sodawater,water, coffee (no more sugarey drinks at the club but it's a samll price to pay for a reasonable excuse).
hellkitty
10-12-2013, 08:07 PM
Don't get me wrong, I could work sober, but being naturally introverted, it helps to have a drink or two to loosen up and energize me. Of course, I'm never the one to buy my own drinks : )
I find it hard to work 100% sober in Vegas. It's a drinking town and everybody is revved up to have the time of their life. People really do look at you crazy if you order water or soda. I usually have 3-4 drinks in a 7 hour time frame with lots of water in between. I have worked 100% sober before and I admit I had more energy to stay later but I always feel like customers aggrevate me more. I see a LOT of alcoholics and its sad. I'm an active single mom to a first grader trying to move into a different career path an I can't afford to be sick and hungover just to make money. But I see the girls who either have no responsibilities or don't handle their responsibilities get shitfaced because all they have to do is sleep all day when they get home, wake up and do it again.
I don't see it different either way, it's all about what is best and most profitable for you, right? So good for you if you don't need drinks, good for you if you do. :P Me personally, I'm way more outgoing and flirtatious when I'm buzzed, like hellkitty said, sort of naturally introverted so line 'em up for me haha.
Emberlove
10-16-2013, 11:22 PM
That is amazing to hear, congrats to everyone who doesn't drink/quit drinking at work! I still believe its fine if you do, just that choosing not to drink is better for your safety, body, and business in the long run. Im 19, 20 in a few months, so Im not legal to drink. Never have been a drinker & never will be!
Aniela
10-16-2013, 11:31 PM
I find it hard to work 100% sober in Vegas. It's a drinking town and everybody is revved up to have the time of their life. People really do look at you crazy if you order water or soda...
I will be the first to admit that I've lost a fair amt of business b/c of the fact that I didn't drink at work. That's a boundary that was as important to me as not letting a guy stick fingers in unwelcome places.
W/ that said, at alcohol-serving clubs that didn't have commission drinks I'd order an amaretto sour, light on the amaretto, & make it last all nite, to take the pressure off of having to have a drink ordered for me/drink w/ customer. At sm clubs, I have allowed customers to order me non-virgin shots, when I was certain that I could toss the shot over my shoulder when the customer wasn't looking. I also did my dead-lvl best to have an arrangement w/ the bartenders & waitresses to have them bring me virgin shots, then I could just act being drunk - not hard when you're as naturally clumsy as I am :D
Amira702
10-22-2013, 02:26 PM
I find it hard to work 100% sober in Vegas. It's a drinking town and everybody is revved up to have the time of their life. People really do look at you crazy if you order water or soda. I usually have 3-4 drinks in a 7 hour time frame with lots of water in between. I have worked 100% sober before and I admit I had more energy to stay later but I always feel like customers aggrevate me more. I see a LOT of alcoholics and its sad. I'm an active single mom to a first grader trying to move into a different career path an I can't afford to be sick and hungover just to make money. But I see the girls who either have no responsibilities or don't handle their responsibilities get shitfaced because all they have to do is sleep all day when they get home, wake up and do it again.
I agree. I try to order one cocktail and a bottle of water so after the cocktail is done I can drink my bottle of water but a lot of the guys give me a hard time about it so a lot of the time I end up drinking more than I should which makes me slack on money because I will skip working if I am not well rested. Just stay home and hang out with my kids.
Aurora_Sunset
10-22-2013, 08:02 PM
I used to drink at work, but got really bad after switching clubs. I was nervous, and would end up having 3-4 drinks before work even started. Looking back on the night that I blacked out and don't remember half the night - yikes. So embarrassing. And I made shit money. I mostly escort now, and I absolutely refuse to drink on the job. Not only do I consider it dangerous, but being drunk certainly makes me look and act like a hot mess.
Which is why I've been trying to cut back/quit drinking period lately. I hate the way I am while drunk and always end up feeling horrible about myself the next day because once I start, it's hard to stop. It's really difficult, but not drinking while working is a stepping stone. I recently didn't go back to a club after being hired because one of their rules was that you were never allowed to turn down a drink because that's how the bar makes its money.... Umm... so I should put my health, comfort, and safety (I had to drive over an hour to this club) on the line so that the bar can make more money? No thanks. I didn't appreciate that.
missplayful
10-25-2013, 12:44 PM
I danced 2, 5 years sober but last 6 mo I can't do anything without percocet
crystalize
11-06-2013, 08:20 PM
I have done both. Strangely, on busy weekend nights I find it easier to stay sober but on dead nights I need to stay with one customer for longer and that usually flows much better with a few drinks.
Tomorrow and Saturday I will have to work 100% sober. I'm dropping off my baby at the Nancy's house (usually I have someone come to my house)
No way I'm picking up my baby drunk, it's bad enough I'm picking him up after dancing til 5 am.
Jamiexxx
11-06-2013, 11:25 PM
I always work sober. I can't drink because of some meds I'm on. But even if I could, I would never drink at work. I feel like that would be way too dangerous and I might let my guard down, not be able to defend myself against grabby customers, talk trash or stuff like that. My club doesn't serve alcohol (nude) but some girls get trashed in the dressing room. I don't think they're making a lot of money.
Tarasaurusrex
11-07-2013, 08:57 AM
I used to drink at work, but got really bad after switching clubs. I was nervous, and would end up having 3-4 drinks before work even started. Looking back on the night that I blacked out and don't remember half the night - yikes. So embarrassing. And I made shit money. I mostly escort now, and I absolutely refuse to drink on the job. Not only do I consider it dangerous, but being drunk certainly makes me look and act like a hot mess.
Which is why I've been trying to cut back/quit drinking period lately. I hate the way I am while drunk and always end up feeling horrible about myself the next day because once I start, it's hard to stop.
I feel the same way. I worked the eve of my 21st birthday, not like I was a stranger to alcohol prior to that, but after midnight I don't even remember what happened, I had to ask the house dad, we all went to an after party at his house and he said I was walking and talking just fine, but it's scary, because I don't remember the last 2 hours or the ride to his place and that could have been really bad, thank goodness I had quite a few friends looking out for me that night.
Now, I just don't drink, because I too have a hard time stopping once I start and then I want to do other things that aren't so good....it turns into a vicious cycle. I appreciate you being honest though, because I am the same way and hate to acknowledge it. I also notice when I don't drink I look better, just healthier and my skin has a nice glow instead of a matte yellowish tint, gross, so that is good motivation to stay sober too.
Aurora_Sunset
11-07-2013, 10:29 AM
I also notice when I don't drink I look better, just healthier and my skin has a nice glow instead of a matte yellowish tint, gross, so that is good motivation to stay sober too.
Yes! I notice this too! My skin definitely looks way different after I've stopped drinking for a few days. Way healthier. And then, if I do drink, the next day I'm like, "Ugggh, what is wrong with my face?" Maybe others don't notice it on me, but I can see a drastic difference. It definitely is a huge motivator!
I'm glad if my post helped you feel not so alone. I live in a college town with a very heavy drinking culture, and the few times I've tried to broach the subject of cutting down on/stopping drinking, the people around me are not supportive, at all. They don't even want to hear about how out of control it makes me feel or why I don't want to get that crazy and do bad shit anymore. It's like if they acknowledge that those are legitimate reasons for me to stop drinking, they'd have to take a look at their own habits/behaviors, and everyone around here is pretty much the "definition" of an alcoholic just cuz that's the culture around here. So it's considered "normal"... but I don't think it is. And it's frustrating to not have any support.
Tarasaurusrex
11-07-2013, 10:42 AM
Well the smart ones ;) will get to a point when they (hopefully) realize; 'wait every time I have gotten in trouble or fought with my friends or just had a bad night I was drinking.....' that was a wake-up call too, doing the mental inventory and realizing not once has any of that drama occurred whilst sober LOL.
Even though it is legal, alcohol is extremely dangerous. I have heard of and seen alcoholics having to detox much in the same vein as someone addicted to opiates or barbiturates. Not saying you or I were that extreme, but if one has a hard time controlling their alcohol intake, IMHO that is just as bad for your mental and physical health as any illegal or controlled substance. It is hard when you don't have friends that feel the same way and it does suck too, because you want to be social and be a part of things, but you feel awkward as others push their bad party habits on you.
PlatinaPrincesa
11-20-2013, 06:23 PM
I've been MIA from my main club because I quit drinking. It's not that I feel uncomfortable sober, but my girlfriends who I've known for years work there and they party hard. They're my close friends in and out of the club for a reason, but my habits/lifestyle is so different from them and I feel like I need to be away from it for a little bit. They have no clue that I'm battling my own thoughts when I work now. One even said I used to be "sweeter," but really I was just buzzed and vibed with them all the time. Listened to whatever they wanted to talk about etc. I'm still the same I just don't bullshit as much. Every day I'm sober I feel better and look better, but my old gfs don't do many sober activities or understand that I just pretend to drink now (i never drank much to begin with). We live in New Orleans after all.
cairalis
11-22-2013, 03:32 AM
I've been MIA from my main club because I quit drinking. It's not that I feel uncomfortable sober, but my girlfriends who I've known for years work there and they party hard. They're my close friends in and out of the club for a reason, but my habits/lifestyle is so different from them and I feel like I need to be away from it for a little bit. They have no clue that I'm battling my own thoughts when I work now. One even said I used to be "sweeter," but really I was just buzzed and vibed with them all the time. Listened to whatever they wanted to talk about etc. I'm still the same I just don't bullshit as much. Every day I'm sober I feel better and look better, but my old gfs don't do many sober activities or understand that I just pretend to drink now (i never drank much to begin with). We live in New Orleans after all.
I think that when you change habits like drinking and partying hard its inevitable to lose a few friends...it is difficult, but at the same time...if partying is the only thing that brings you together, then it might not be that big of a loss...and real friends always come around in the end...you might just have a little break for now.
LexiConn
11-27-2013, 10:22 AM
I work in a slow club that definitely seems to attract the "let's sit and have a drink" type of customers so I've found myself drinking 2-5 drinks a night. I'm not happy with that, it's hard on my body and mind. I never pay for my own drinks so there is really little to "motivate" me in the way of making more money by not drinking - especially when getting a guy to spend $5 on a Jack and Coke may result in a dance if I use the old "finished our drinks, let's go for a dance now".
Really I feel like I'm making excuses, so here I will put them all out there, as lame as they are when said in daylight:
* drinking helps me fake being interested.
* drinking makes me feel more fluid on stage
* drinking keeps me from feeling my feet hurt.
Really though?
* I'm supposed to be acting. It doesn't have to be easier. I'll get better with practice.
* More fluid on stage is kind of a joke. I could actually stretch and warm up first and work on more moves rather than just getting "loose" on booze.
* Feet hurting is just part of it and I already know I'll feel better if I quit drinking and just stay hydrated.
My man has been gently discouraging my drinking and I KNOW I shouldn't be. I know it bothers him. I know it's not good for my body in the long term (even if in the short term it's not "hurting" anything).
Here I am in my late 20s feeling like I am graduating from some kind of "fun party" stripper (even though I never let myself get THAT loose) into a serious business woman. Part of me doesn't want to quit drinking at work because I'm scared it will be hard. But a much bigger part of me wants to quit because I don't want to jeopardize my relationship and home life or end up full-blown alcoholic.
MomoMania
11-29-2013, 12:02 PM
Awesome job! I think even having just a few drinks at work when you're working, say, four days a week, and then go out drinking on your night off is where girls begin to run down the road of alcoholism. It's a depressant too, so it makes you feel like you need more the next day for the pick-me-up to work. I've been working sober for about 6 months now, minus the days I go into the champagne room, and it has made a tremendous difference in my sales! I'm also able to use practice new sales techniques to expand my skills. Yay for sober working!!
SkyeSabrina
11-29-2013, 12:15 PM
Since I started dancing last year in August, I've never gotten wasted at work. I always either stayed sober or had 1-2 drinks tops. I don't feel comfortable drinking in an environment where there are people I don't know very very well. That being said, I did used to have to smoke before I went to work every single shift and if we were slow, I'd poke outside for a quick puff. I stopped doing this about four weeks ago, and stuck to being sober during my shifts.
Oddly enough, it worked. My money increased, I don't lose things or leave stuff out to get stolen in the DR, no more zoning out during conversations with customers, etc.
It might also have to do with me turning off my phone during shifts too for the past few weeks.
MomoMania
11-29-2013, 03:05 PM
SkyeSabrina, I love your avatar! Alex Grey is my favorite artist and that painting was on the cover of Risk Strassman's book DMT the Spirit Molecule. Had to mention that as a side note <3
anacol
11-29-2013, 04:11 PM
I don't drink at work. I have to always be on alert andvim there to make money not get drunk. It's never been an issue for me o be sober cause I'm not a huge drinker and I'm not nervous while at work. Drinking makes me sleepy whenever I do drink so drinking at work has always been a no go.
SkyeSabrina
12-01-2013, 04:13 PM
SkyeSabrina, I love your avatar! Alex Grey is my favorite artist and that painting was on the cover of Risk Strassman's book DMT the Spirit Molecule. Had to mention that as a side note <3
Thank you very much! I actually have that book at my house. I love his work, I have one of his eyes tattooed on my hip. ^_^
MomoMania
12-01-2013, 11:14 PM
Oooh! My friend has one on his shoulder. Not the purple ones, but the sunset color ones. I take it you listen to Tool? >.<
SkyeSabrina
12-02-2013, 10:01 PM
Oooh! My friend has one on his shoulder. Not the purple ones, but the sunset color ones. I take it you listen to Tool? >.<
Yes pretty frequently. They totally made me dance to nothing but Tool for the first four months of dancing at my first club. I love any of Maynards work though.
(Sorry for the threadjack)
MomoMania
12-03-2013, 01:01 AM
My apologies as well. All in all working sober is the beezneez, and I think it makes more money. Back to you Mary Jane!
Novabynight
12-03-2013, 02:52 AM
Thanks everyone for posting on this subject! I didn't think I would be able to stay sober at work but I went on a cleanse last year and didnt drink for a month and surprisingly, I made more money that month than ever. I was eating really healthy so I had tons of energy. Plus I never got sore! When I'm too drunk I cannot find the money in the club. I can't even tell who has been there all night and who is new and who has already been hustled by another girl. Plus I waste valuable after midnight lap dance time waiting in line for drinks at the bar. Plus I waste more time in general and my closing lines get sloppy. I love drinking at work, but it's beginning to become a problem for me. I order martinis and shots of Jameson all night. I feel like I need it, but I know from experience that I don't. Plus I over tip the staff when I'm drunk and I am more likely to eat crappy food that night/ the next morning because I'm hungover and I feel like I need to smoke some herb to feel better and I end up feeling lethargic and not getting much done. It's a self-perpetuating and defeating cycle that has to stop. How am I ever going to make it to hot yoga at noon when I'm hungover on the bathroom floor? You ladies have inspired me to go on another vegetable juice cleanse and stay sober at work indefinitely.
22lligm
12-06-2013, 06:08 PM
I need to do this also.. I got way too drunk at work last night :-[ now I feel like shit and am not going in tonight. i was more flirty and less awkward but I need to learn how to be like that sober!
Tarasaurusrex
12-06-2013, 06:20 PM
I need to do this also.. I got way too drunk at work last night :-[ now I feel like shit and am not going in tonight. i was more flirty and less awkward but I need to learn how to be like that sober!
This helps me.....in fact now I usually only drink solo LOL - that sounds bad, but seriously, after 10 years of alcohol exposure my embarrassment toll has racked up some serious points no doubt, so I just think back to the countless times I said or did something ridiculous and embarrassing whilst drunk. Then I think about the next morning (which is the ultimate torture and not because of the hangover) and how afraid I was to leave the bed to ask someone just exactly how stupid/annoying/embarrassing I acted. The fact that I had to ask someone to get exact details is even more embarrassing. Then remember your personal torturous times that happened and be like, do I really want to drink around others? In public? Nope. The whole next day of feeling awkward and hungover is soooooooooo not worth it.
22lligm
12-06-2013, 07:03 PM
lol! i should try this next time i want a drink then
Tarasaurusrex
12-07-2013, 12:01 PM
It works, but I am 27, like if I had been 22, I probably wouldn't have experienced the sufficient amount of embarrassment necessary LOL, but you get to a point and this is key, you don't necessarily say "I will never drink again" because that is too unrealistic a goal to start with, but you say "I will not drink in public again", either I will have a cocktail at MY home with a few girlfriends or a glass of wine to unwind after a long day. That is key, baby steps, because total depravity just makes you want to do something all the more! Also, it completely eliminates trying to find rides because you are too drunk to drive :) - you aren't going anywhere.
xxxGothBarbie
12-07-2013, 01:14 PM
I usually need to drink at work in order to hustle my ass off. I never get shit faced but I do sometimes get really buzzed however I always control my shit. I make more money when I'm buzzed anyway.
audrey_k
12-09-2013, 07:53 AM
I used to always be super fucked up when I worked. I worked my first shift in years tonight and had one wine cooler, and I did SO much better than I did when I was fucked up. I was much more on my game when talking to customers. And I realized, guys don't like girls who are fucked up. A couple guys complained to me about other girls they thought were drunk or high. That was me a few years ago! Lol.
22lligm
12-09-2013, 12:05 PM
okay once again I got too drunk at work thanks to the champagne room i did! now im determined to not drink at all my next few shifts..
MellyMay
12-09-2013, 03:45 PM
I've noticed that I like to have whiskey shots on cam. I am trying to get to a place where I'm not becoming dependent on "loosening up" with alcohol. It's not been out of control, but I want to nip it in the bud before it does.
i'm a pothead anyway.
britchick85
12-10-2013, 08:56 PM
Thats how I feel too. Im really a crap hustler when im totally sober
MISS_TENAY
12-14-2013, 04:20 PM
I feel you babes
Tourdefranzia
12-16-2013, 01:14 PM
Alcohol contributes to premature aging. It tends to destroy vitamin A in your body. Vitamin A is necessary for nice skin, nails, and hair. Whenever you see a hard drinking dancer, she is usually older looking than her actual age. I've met women 10 years younger than me who look like they are my age or older (I'm 44).
I began dancing in 1998 and have only had a drink at work very few times. I got drunk once, just to see what it would be like to work while intoxicated. It sucked. All I wanted to do was go home, and I made hardly anything that day. I had to call off the next day because I was too hung over to get out of bed. Drinking really messes with my money making ability, so I just don't do it.
Here is an article where a woman who is a moderate drinker gives up alcohol for a month and looks younger after: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2424117/Look-giving-drink-month-face-Mother-enjoyed-glasses-wine-week-transformed-going-cold-turkey.html
If she looks so much better after only one month, it makes me wonder what alcohol can do to a person after years of daily drinking.
jadey23
12-17-2013, 01:12 AM
When I first started dancing I felt compelled to drink bc I'd simply get drained, and the alc would give me a nice boost (not to mention make customer convo more tolerable), however since i've been working out regularly and eating cleaner I have more natural energy to run with and rarely drink at work or even recreationally. my mind is also clearer, so i'm closing sales more strategically. as far as tolerating customer convo, it's gotten much easier now to filter them out (deflecting their negativity while still engaging them) bc I haven't been as stressed out overall; tho i also tack that onto just gaining more experience in the industry over time.
djezcheeze
12-17-2013, 06:32 AM
I can relate SOOO much to this thread. I have been having a habit of drinking to much at work over the last six months. I've had a lot of stress moving around, so I'd deal with it by just making work a party to get through. I've also had horrible eating habits and have stopped working out. It's kind of a vicious cycle. First you feel burned out and crappy from stress, then you drink to handle that stress, and in return your body can't handle the stress that you have. I've been looking for alternative ways to deal with my stress in a healthy way, so I don't feel the need to drink and my vitality will come back. I won't say I won't EVER drink while at work because I used to have a couple if I was getting paid to sit and chat for money or when I was doing a room, especially with customers who really wanted to sit and have a drink first. That being said, I don't want to make work a search for alcohol anymore.
Novabynight
12-20-2013, 04:29 PM
i'm a pothead anyway.
Haha likewise! Who needs booze but ill never give up the devils lettuce!!
MISS_TENAY
12-31-2013, 04:13 PM
thanks girls soo much for your feedback.
sometimes id do feel, like you ladies say... maybe not the right profession for me but i've been doing it almost 2 years and when I see that $$ I cant complain and when im a lil tipsy its soo easy to just take their cash but I cant do it sober I be a nervous freak and they sense that and see my shyness and almost scared look and say ughh I want a party girl a fun girl not this no matter how fine and sexy I may be looking.
soo I still need atleast a couple shots before I begin and I will not quit any time soon but it does take a toll on you and I hate waking up with hang overs and feeling xtra tired.
I definetly have to work on this and I personally think its a phycological thing for me.
AlenaRoza
01-01-2014, 01:47 PM
I hate myself lately. I've always had to drink to work, but a few wine coolers has turned into 50-75% of a bottle of vodka which I keep in my locker, AND whatever shots people offer me. On top of all that, I can literally fly through a pack of cigs a night.
This is super embarrassing to even type out, lol. I've been doing this for 7 or 8 months. I work 3 days a week, in a row. The drinking has made me put on about 15 lbs too, because its also made my diet willpower fly right out the window.
I don't drink outside of work at all. Or smoke, really. I carry myself well though, the managers always tell me I'm so well behaved and ask why I don't drink, lol. Literally every SINGLE girl there drinks. A LOT. every girl besides one who can't. There's also a handful of drug users. Seriously, it is not rare to see a girl passed out in the DR, pass out while giving a dance, fall, fight, etc.
The smart thing to do? Switch clubs. Find another job. But those are not options for many reasons. I go in tomorrow and while typing this I was going to say "I'm going to try my hardest not to drink" but I would be lying. At best I will cut down the amount.
This is going to be a long process.
TheWeirdOne
01-01-2014, 05:10 PM
I hate myself lately. I've always had to drink to work, but a few wine coolers has turned into 50-75% of a bottle of vodka which I keep in my locker, AND whatever shots people offer me. On top of all that, I can literally fly through a pack of cigs a night. This is super embarrassing to even type out, lol. I've been doing this for 7 or 8 months. I work 3 days a week, in a row. The drinking has made me put on about 15 lbs too, because its also made my diet willpower fly right out the window. I don't drink outside of work at all. Or smoke, really. I carry myself well though, the managers always tell me I'm so well behaved and ask why I don't drink, lol. Literally every SINGLE girl there drinks. A LOT. every girl besides one who can't. There's also a handful of drug users. Seriously, it is not rare to see a girl passed out in the DR, pass out while giving a dance, fall, fight, etc. The smart thing to do? Switch clubs. Find another job. But those are not options for many reasons. I go in tomorrow and while typing this I was going to say "I'm going to try my hardest not to drink" but I would be lying. At best I will cut down the amount. This is going to be a long process.My opinion is switch clubs if you can. I started that way then wasn't even making minimum wage money because I was too busy getting drunk. I'm currently recovering and my income is slowly but surely increasing. You sound like you want to quit but aren't ready. You must really want to