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AlenaRoza
01-01-2014, 10:33 PM
^ I have actually tried every club in the area, even some within an hr and a half and saw no differences, really. I think today I'm going to only bring a specific amount of alcohol and cigarettes. I'm just not a very friendly or outgoing person sober, and I'm awkward. But I decided I will make this work, slowly, or find a regular job.

Bbvsla
01-02-2014, 01:28 AM
I also like working sober. However, how do you girls go around alcohol in clubs that have "drinks minimum"?

For example, clubs requires 2 or 4 drinks for a customer to purchase for half an hour. I want customer to be drunk of course and tell him to get a shot. I will get myself red bull or water.

But some clubs require customer to purchase a bottle. I've worked at clubs where champagne rooms would come with bottle of vodka or whiskey, not only champagne or wine.

So my question is, how NOT to drink in champagne rooms where bottles are required? In the same time make sure that customer is drinking?

AlenaRoza
01-11-2014, 09:11 AM
Okay. So due to a pretty traumatic experience a few nights ago after work, I have cut alcohol out of my life. I skipped work yesterday and am going in tonight, bringing nothing but red bull. I'm so worked up about this. But I'm also so excited! It's gonna be a whole new experience. I don't plan on making what I usually do but I'm sure ill work back up to it.

Aniela
01-11-2014, 10:45 AM
I also like working sober. However, how do you girls go around alcohol in clubs that have "drinks minimum"?

For example, clubs requires 2 or 4 drinks for a customer to purchase for half an hour. I want customer to be drunk of course and tell him to get a shot. I will get myself red bull or water.

But some clubs require customer to purchase a bottle. I've worked at clubs where champagne rooms would come with bottle of vodka or whiskey, not only champagne or wine.

So my question is, how NOT to drink in champagne rooms where bottles are required? In the same time make sure that customer is drinking?

Tell mgmt/staff that you are diabetic or have sm other medical thing going on that makes alcohol a no-go. I have done this to thwart pushy customers, & when they think it is a medical thing that you have no control over prohibiting your drinking they tend to be a bit more reasonable. I drank the absolute min in alcohol clubs, nvr accepted alcoholic shots unless I knew that I could toss it over my shoulder when the customer wasn't looking, a dozen other ways to get thru sessions where 'I don't drink at work' wasn't gonna fly.

Sm times you just need to get creative. I agree it is a bitch, I have worked in clubs where mgmt got pretty pissy that I didn't want to help boost their alcohol profits at the expense of my own well-being.

Also a skilled waitress will be able to fill your glass w/ smtg non-alcoholic or min-alcoholic while appearing to give you a solid pour.

Aniela
01-11-2014, 10:48 AM
Okay. So due to a pretty traumatic experience a few nights ago after work, I have cut alcohol out of my life. I skipped work yesterday and am going in tonight, bringing nothing but red bull. I'm so worked up about this. But I'm also so excited! It's gonna be a whole new experience. I don't plan on making what I usually do but I'm sure ill work back up to it.

:hug: for whatever happened at work the other nite.

I am happy for you tho that you are starting to get back on the sober track! Good luck tonite, it can take sm time but this job can def be done & still be profitable w/o having to be lit.

mm621
01-11-2014, 08:38 PM
I used to always dance drunk. The last few nights, I have been sober. I do like it better. I find that guys always try to take advantage of you (try to stick their fingers in unwanted places) when you're drunk, knowing that your judgement is clouded. Also, since I've been dancing sober, the proposition for extras seemed to decline. :)

audrey_k
02-11-2014, 08:19 AM
I'm getting a little out of control with my drinking at work :-[ it's not good. I drank so much tonight that I was SO nauseous at the end of the night, luckily I ended up making a lot of money before our rush-hour because I spent most of it lying down on a couch trying not to vomit. One of the DJs, who's known me for years, has told me the last couple times that I seem weird and asked me if I was drunk... not good. I was drunk, of course. And I worked last Monday and fell down in my heels twice and everyone noticed....

I just feel like I can't dance sober sober, I just can't do it. I'm tired and I'm so fucking annoyed dealing with these assholes, my club is just so DIRTY and it's not that I'm getting drunk so I can do extras or something, but I feel like I have to be drunk not to get totally frustrated with being propositioned and grabbed and man-handled all night. I just feel like it puts me in a better, fun mood, I'm more of the party-girl that these guys want when I've had a few drinks. I have more confidence and I'm more flirty, my club is full-contact so I do have to grind and stick my boobs in their face and when I'm drunk I can imagine I'm somewhere else and get more into it. I make a LOT more money when I'm drinking... I don't know if it's that I can't dance sober or I can't dance at my club sober?

But I work SO much these last few weeks that it's gotten to the point where I am drinking 5/6 nights a week and I worry about the effect that that's having on my physical and mental health :-\

Tarasaurusrex
02-11-2014, 09:12 AM
I'm getting a little out of control with my drinking at work :-[ it's not good. I drank so much tonight that I was SO nauseous at the end of the night, luckily I ended up making a lot of money before our rush-hour because I spent most of it lying down on a couch trying not to vomit. One of the DJs, who's known me for years, has told me the last couple times that I seem weird and asked me if I was drunk... not good. I was drunk, of course. And I worked last Monday and fell down in my heels twice and everyone noticed....

I just feel like I can't dance sober sober, I just can't do it. I'm tired and I'm so fucking annoyed dealing with these assholes, my club is just so DIRTY and it's not that I'm getting drunk so I can do extras or something, but I feel like I have to be drunk not to get totally frustrated with being propositioned and grabbed and man-handled all night. I just feel like it puts me in a better, fun mood, I'm more of the party-girl that these guys want when I've had a few drinks. I have more confidence and I'm more flirty, my club is full-contact so I do have to grind and stick my boobs in their face and when I'm drunk I can imagine I'm somewhere else and get more into it. I make a LOT more money when I'm drinking... I don't know if it's that I can't dance sober or I can't dance at my club sober?

But I work SO much these last few weeks that it's gotten to the point where I am drinking 5/6 nights a week and I worry about the effect that that's having on my physical and mental health :-\

Hmmmmm first of all it sounds like you may be working too much.....as for the club, you may want to take a few days off and try a new club? If that's not any better you may just need to not push yourself so hard.....sometimes you make more money when you work only 3 days, but are in really good spirits those days. Take care of yourself first and foremost! I remember I pushed myself and I was consuming (alcohol, well drugs too - the two used to be a necessary compliment to one another.....sadly), but I threw up and I realized I was really hurting my poor body. I slept for like 20 hours! LOL! But after that I really realized that if I kept going that way I would end up in the hospital very soon or worse.....it was a scary wake-up call. So be good to you! Oftentimes that means having a healthy work/life balance and I find personally that means the max I can work is 3 nights a week - this can be a pretty draining job.

audrey_k
02-11-2014, 09:20 AM
^I know :( I wouldn't normally be working so much, but I'm moving in three weeks to the UK and I'm just really nervous about money. I know I'm going to have a lot of expenses when I first get there so I want to have a lot saved-- I also don't know what money is going to be like there. I mean, I'm going to audition at clubs as soon as I get there, but I don't know if it will take me a while to get used to hustling there or if I might end up not doing well, I always see girls posting about how rough their nights are there so it's making me really anxious and I've just been working myself to the bone this last month and saving everything. It sucks! I don't even get to enjoy my good nights, everything just goes in my shoebox, and the fact that I constantly need to be banking makes me VERY stressed at work and probably leads me to drink more. I'm still a few thousand dollars away from where I wanted to be and I have a lot of expenses to cover in the next few weeks as well-- I have to pay off all my credit cards so I can close them out and get new ones, pay off $400 in parking tickets, blah blah... and I'm super nervous about moving, so it's probably all sort of coming together and influencing my drinking! Ugh. The last month has been rough :(

xxxGothBarbie
02-12-2014, 03:21 AM
I HATE working sober & unfortunatley the last few shifts I've worked I've been sober :/ I def don't make as much money when sober as I do when I'm tipsy. I just worry about getting a DUI driving home even if I'm not buzzed. I know our bodies metabolize one drink per hour but I still get scared that it won't be out of my system at 2 am not to mention that downtown where i work, the cops all swarm the streets looking for drunks soooo it really sucks :/ I've thought about drinking early in the night like around 6 pm or so & stopping or just doing a day shift somewhere & then I won't be as much of a target in the early evening as I am at 2 am.....

xcatxbrownx
02-16-2014, 04:15 PM
I've worked sober since I started, but lately have been having 1 or 2 beers on occasion. I notice I give less of a shit about money and therefore make more after a beer or two. I don't like it and probably won't continue, or switch to Adderall, which I love.

miss.a.p1600
02-18-2014, 10:10 AM
I wish I could work totally sober.

I used to drink between 2-4 drinks each shift just to relax and get into a smooth hustle. It seems like I made more money when I was tipsy.

The downfall is the more I worked the more i felt like shit the next day. I really hate drinking alcohol because I don't like hangovers which I get from even minimal amount of alcohol.

Now I have cut back on alcohol during work and turned up my acting, seduction, and sales skills.

Flickdreams
02-22-2014, 10:22 PM
I just feel that alcohol is not a sustainable method to make money.

MISS_TENAY
02-26-2014, 05:16 PM
girl me too lol

crystalize
03-15-2014, 04:39 PM
I am planning on working sober this whole coming week (5 days) and I am really really hoping that I will make enough money/have the energy to hustle. I'm gonna try red bull but other than that, I have no idea what to do...

Novabynight
03-17-2014, 04:44 PM
Sometimes I just like to have a drink in my hand. All the time! So I buy a glass of wine, nurse it all night, and tell customers that I have had several or that it's a new glass. They don't notice or care. Tell customers offering shots that you have to drive home or sometimes I tell them I have an auto-immune disorder and my body rejects hard alcohol. Or arrange with the bartender to have fake shots. I've also pretended to take them and hid my shot glass and brought it back to the dressing room to give it to a girl who actually wants it.

Trixia
03-18-2014, 10:49 PM
I do better when I'm sober. I don't get caught talking at a table for an hour while drinking and forgetting to hustle.

SativaDiva3
03-24-2014, 06:18 PM
I was so happy to find this thread on here & was able to read so many of you ladies' different experiences!

I know a couple of things about a couple of things. There is no universal right or wrong when it comes to drinking. Some people can get away with having one or two on occasion. Then there are those who can't have one without worrying about where you are going to get the next 15 and your entire night revolves around alcohol. Alcoholism really is a disease that develops over time; sometimes faster than others - depending on each body.

In 2009 when I discovered dancing-a job where I could get paid to party-I auditioned drunk (twice) and began working DRUNK. My first audition I was wasted and didn't even wait around to see if I got the job? So I returned a couple of weeks later and tried again. I worked drunk (& popping pills) EVERY-DAY for 4 years. Eventually my behavior resulted in a DUI arrest, only one fortunately; it should have been 600 DUIs; also VERY fortunate to have never physically harmed others or myself. Drinking made me act a fool; but I couldn't live, especially WORK without it. While drunk, I constantly made poor decisions, was rude, and embarrassing. It was typical for me to need 3-5 drinks before leaving the dressing room. I did have an alcohol problem before I ever started dancing; in fact, it may have led me to dancing, but I am grateful for that! Bottom Line: I had a problem. My DUI (jail, probation, court ordered treatment and AA) saved my life.

I had to quit working at my home club (for a while?) because it was my riskiest playground. I returned after my first 60 days sober and sold VIP (champagne) the first 3 nights back. Yes... I did drink it. That was over two years ago. I worked for a few weeks at just under one year sober. I really didn't have any problem besides embarrassing stories left from my drinking days that customers and co-workers didn't forget. It scared me how much I did not remember... Maybe my experience with alcohol is what keeps me away from it, but I'm thankful for it. I have lots of tools to keep me away from alcohol. I plan on going back to work permanently before long and plan to remain sober for life. I don't know if I'll work at my old club. It is a partying club and your VIP $ depends on which bottle of champagne you sell...

If you can get away with not drinking at work, I really suggest it. BUT I am a firm believer in "to each her own." I look 10 years younger than I did 2 years ago since I quit drinking, also lost a lot of unnecessary weight. I am 26 and get mistaken for a young teen, when I don't have makeup on. I am MUCH more mature. I don't know why anyone would ever want to give me money back when I was a crazy drunkard...

Peace and love ladies and best wishes to all.

LuxFox
03-24-2014, 06:33 PM
I don't dance anymore, but a good thing to do is talk with the bartender before your shift to make your drink virgin. Or, sipping on soda water with a lime in it during your shift to "replace" the alcoholic drink. I used to do that a lot.

carolina6
03-27-2014, 06:28 AM
Thanks for all the info in this thread. I have always drank at work and I am going to try dancing sober today. I worked tuesday for 12 hours and must have had 12 drinks in that time. Even bought myself and the bartender one shot, which I never do. It was a crappy day and drinking wasn't making it any better. I threw up all yesterday morning. That shit has to stop, so I am going to see how long I can go without drinking there.

There are a few girls I work with who do not drink and they still do well, so I can ask them for advice. Red bull and Voss for me today!

cairalis
03-30-2014, 12:47 AM
It's so nice that this thread got so many replies! I just wanted to share an article I wrote about the subject :)
http://www.strip-magazine.com/mistakes-dancers-make-2

Cherrybelle
04-08-2014, 03:24 PM
Hey girls,

Just thought I'd share my sober experience with all of you that want to start working sober. I've been drinking the majority of the time while working as a dancer, we are talking 8+ years and that is BAD. I just woke up one day and decided enough was enough. I set my mind to it, went into work sober, had everyone from the DJ, to the manager, to all my fellow drinking buddies (dancers) LAUGHING at me when telling them I quit. Fast forward to 2am and my manager comes up to me telling me ''well done, you're the highest earner tonight''. Yes, really. I was still stone cold sober.

My advise to any of you that wants to stop drinking at work: JUST DO IT.
Don't ''cut down'' (coz you won't). Just quit and if you have a hard time talking to customers sober, then pretend you're an actress on a film set and FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT.

I'm gonna carry on doing this sober as I got a massive confidence boost from it. It's easier than we think - it's all in our heads.

blairish
04-12-2014, 03:51 PM
t's easier than we think - it's all in our heads.

I second this. I've been ten days sober now and while I was incredibly nervous the first sober shift, it has been nothing but better ever since. I don't think you could MAKE me drink at work now, now that I've "experienced the other side"! :)

MiraMichele
04-13-2014, 10:58 AM
I can't dance sober or do pretty much anything in the adult business sober, when I cammed I constantly had a rum and coke in my hand.

When I very first started dancing I didn't hardly drink at all, I never really cared for alcohol and the town I was working in didn't allow for dancers to drink so that helped with me not starting. Looking back on those days I don't know why I was even a dancer, I was probably the lowest earner in the club because I was so shy and introverted. Well I moved to a different city that did allow dancers to drink in the clubs. I didn't go in and start drinking right away, but some of the girls commented on how shy and nervous I seemed, that why didn't I try a drink to calm me down, so I did. I had a couple and bam, I felt happy, I was fun and talkative, I moved better, guys bought more than one dance from me because I wasn't a nervous wreck lol. A couple of days later I won the spot for selling the most dances so I got free tipout the next day as my prize (that would have never happened in my sober days). I was thinking, gosh, why didn't I start drinking months ago?

Well that did nothing but start a huge downward spiral. I could never work sober again, I couldn't look back on those horrible $0 days because I was sober, it made me sad to think about it. Not long after starting to drink and knowing how much I was drinking was making me kind of ashamed, getting weird looks from management and the barstaff everytime I would go back for another drink, I started carrying my own liquor and sneaking to drink it so they would think I was drinking less. Well, I almost always eventually got caught so I would get suspended, cut off from drinking or fired. If I got cut off, I knew I couldn't make money so I just wouldn't go back. I just kept getting worse over the years to where I had to be drunk before I would even get to work, usually drink all of the liquor I would sneak in on top of numerous drinks from me buying them and customers buying them.

I got fired from countless clubs, did some really dumb shit that some of it I remember and some of it I don't. The worst ones were when I didn't remember so I knew I was shitfaced, would return to the club I was working at and was told I need to leave the premises (the shame). To this day i don't know what happened and I asked them what I did, they just told me to leave and wouldn't tell me what I did, this happened twice. I don't know how but I never got a DUI, thank God I never got in a wreck or hurt or killed someone.

I haven't danced in a while now and I'm probably done with my dancing days, lol, I can't go back to how bad I was. I do still drink but I have cut back drastically, I don't drink a quarter of what I used to in my worst days. I still drink something on most days but mostly because my anxiety is so bad that it is about the only thing that will help me make it through the day but some days it is only 1 beer, or a few shots or something, nothing crazy.

NightGoddess
12-09-2014, 12:39 AM
Hey girls,

Just thought I'd share my sober experience with all of you that want to start working sober. I've been drinking the majority of the time while working as a dancer, we are talking 8+ years and that is BAD. I just woke up one day and decided enough was enough. I set my mind to it, went into work sober, had everyone from the DJ, to the manager, to all my fellow drinking buddies (dancers) LAUGHING at me when telling them I quit. Fast forward to 2am and my manager comes up to me telling me ''well done, you're the highest earner tonight''. Yes, really. I was still stone cold sober.

My advise to any of you that wants to stop drinking at work: JUST DO IT.
Don't ''cut down'' (coz you won't). Just quit and if you have a hard time talking to customers sober, then pretend you're an actress on a film set and FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT.

I'm gonna carry on doing this sober as I got a massive confidence boost from it. It's easier than we think - it's all in our heads.

Gosh, I love you! Thank you so much for posting this. Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this awesome thread!


I don't think I will quit drinking outside of work, but this week I am going in to work and I am going to be working completely sober.

NicoRico
12-18-2014, 12:34 PM
I'm a sober dancer too. I haven't met one in real life, but I'm happy to know there are others out there! People can't believe I dance completely sober, but I have a drinking problem and CANNOT drink in moderation.

Christina2013
12-26-2014, 02:06 AM
I always dance sober. 95% of the time. Every now & then I'll have a mixed drink but it's not my thing.

pipermonroe
01-19-2015, 01:48 PM
I make way more money dancing sober.

littlelizard
01-20-2015, 03:42 PM
I dance completely sober now that I'm at a no alcohol nude club. I use to drink heavily at an alcohol topless club. Bring in bottles and let customers buy me drinks. I've definitely seen an increase in my earnings working sober.

indiegirl
12-27-2018, 01:00 AM
I can't dance sober or do pretty much anything in the adult business sober, when I cammed I constantly had a rum and coke in my hand.

When I very first started dancing I didn't hardly drink at all, I never really cared for alcohol and the town I was working in didn't allow for dancers to drink so that helped with me not starting. Looking back on those days I don't know why I was even a dancer, I was probably the lowest earner in the club because I was so shy and introverted. Well I moved to a different city that did allow dancers to drink in the clubs. I didn't go in and start drinking right away, but some of the girls commented on how shy and nervous I seemed, that why didn't I try a drink to calm me down, so I did. I had a couple and bam, I felt happy, I was fun and talkative, I moved better, guys bought more than one dance from me because I wasn't a nervous wreck lol. A couple of days later I won the spot for selling the most dances so I got free tipout the next day as my prize (that would have never happened in my sober days). I was thinking, gosh, why didn't I start drinking months ago?

Well that did nothing but start a huge downward spiral. I could never work sober again, I couldn't look back on those horrible $0 days because I was sober, it made me sad to think about it. Not long after starting to drink and knowing how much I was drinking was making me kind of ashamed, getting weird looks from management and the barstaff everytime I would go back for another drink, I started carrying my own liquor and sneaking to drink it so they would think I was drinking less. Well, I almost always eventually got caught so I would get suspended, cut off from drinking or fired. If I got cut off, I knew I couldn't make money so I just wouldn't go back. I just kept getting worse over the years to where I had to be drunk before I would even get to work, usually drink all of the liquor I would sneak in on top of numerous drinks from me buying them and customers buying them.

I got fired from countless clubs, did some really dumb shit that some of it I remember and some of it I don't. The worst ones were when I didn't remember so I knew I was shitfaced, would return to the club I was working at and was told I need to leave the premises (the shame). To this day i don't know what happened and I asked them what I did, they just told me to leave and wouldn't tell me what I did, this happened twice. I don't know how but I never got a DUI, thank God I never got in a wreck or hurt or killed someone.

I haven't danced in a while now and I'm probably done with my dancing days, lol, I can't go back to how bad I was. I do still drink but I have cut back drastically, I don't drink a quarter of what I used to in my worst days. I still drink something on most days but mostly because my anxiety is so bad that it is about the only thing that will help me make it through the day but some days it is only 1 beer, or a few shots or something, nothing crazy.

LOL so embarrassing one club I was fired at I was so shit faced due to the drinking I came back to work the next night (didn't remember being fired) and the owner didn't say anything but looked at me confused but I still worked. The manager had no idea I was even fired and even texted me to come in. The following night, the manager warned me the owner wasn't happy and I asked to check with him if I was fired because I have a distinct look and the owner told one of the girls I was and she mentioned it to me. I asked the next night and the manager said I guess they told you not to come in and I wasn't informed LOL.

I'm not ready to go back to dancing yet. I'm going to wait until I'm a month into my sobriety and do it part time when I need the money. Burnt out as it is so it'll be a nice vacation :).

Ifyouseekamy
12-27-2018, 02:38 AM
I can’t do anything in moderation-NOPE! I don’t like clubs that sell bottle service because I’m not fun if I don’t drink with everyone. I like none alcohol clubs. It’s not hard once you get use to it.

ioienvyioi
12-27-2018, 07:41 AM
I can’t do anything in moderation-NOPE! I don’t like clubs that sell bottle service because I’m not fun if I don’t drink with everyone. I like none alcohol clubs. It’s not hard once you get use to it.

Me either. I realize the clubs with bottle service are harder for me to work at bc I seem like the boring one and I'm only gonna seem maybe under 21?! for so long.. id just rather not. i quit drinking march 8 2011. :)

crystalize
01-07-2019, 08:56 AM
I make way more money dancing sober.

i just started working sober again and i don't have a problem hustling & making money, i actually feel better and more in control = more confident. but i got soooo tired the first 2 sober shifts i left a lot earlier than i would normally... and my feet hurt like 30 minutes in lol.

but overall, i LOVE working sober. especially driving home sober.