View Full Version : Would you date someone who smokes weed and you dont?
anonymous camgirl
01-17-2018, 12:46 PM
^^^I think a person can be addicted to ANYTHING - legal or non legal. There are people out here addicted to sex, shopping, caffeine, casinos, food, money, the daily wine drinkers, etc and they'd probably defend their choices too. But, It's only when people see their choices negatively impact their lives (spending all their money and not paying bills, alienating from friends/family, messing up careers/education opportunities, getting around wrong crowd, health problems as a result) do they consider a change of behaviors.
Part of addiction is that it can be Psychological and/or Physiological.
Most people with addiction to mj it is psychological more than anything vs. other substances like liquor/pills/etc where you can have shakes/seizures/physical illness if you try to quit cold turkey
That's not the point I was trying to make.. but thanks..
SnuffleUffleGrass
01-17-2018, 03:14 PM
MJ doesn't agree with everyone. Beyond one or two puffs it turns into a really negative experience for me.
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2018, 03:40 PM
That's not the point I was trying to make.. but thanks..
oh - can you elaborate? (if you want to). I just meant that if a person is addicted to a substance (weed for example since that's the topic of the thread) then the psychological bit would create a belief that "if x (negative consequence) hasn't happened then my behavior is okay". So when you said that someone addicted to substances defends their choices - I meant that is probably part of being psychologically dependent on a substance.
MJ doesn't agree with everyone. Beyond one or two puffs it turns into a really negative experience for me.
Very true. I feel the same. I prefer myself to enjoy life without using substances legal/illegal and if I do I keep it to bare minimum so as to avoid any dependence/addiction/negative consequences.
But yeah dating someone who smokes weed and you don't = short lived relationship. If I did not smoke weed and my partner did (or vice versa), it would put a damper in the relationship and it probably would not last
Ill leave my thoughts at this final post here...
anonymous camgirl
01-17-2018, 03:57 PM
oh - can you elaborate? (if you want to). I just meant that if a person is addicted to a substance (weed for example since that's the topic of the thread) then the psychological bit would create a belief that "if x (negative consequence) hasn't happened then my behavior is okay". So when you said that someone addicted to substances defends their choices - I meant that is probably part of being psychologically dependent on a substance.
Ill leave my thoughts at this final post here...
What I am trying to say is, People are addicts of many different things.. they don't defend their choices so vehemently as pot smokers do.. Have you ever talked to a pot smoker and said.. well it's still bad for you though? especially if you smoke it!.. Studies have been shown it is worse than cigarette smoke for the lungs.. they will jump down your throat.. and don't ever CALL it a DRUG for god's sakes.. they will tell you it's so wonderful. it's an herb and cures many diseases , seizures etc etc.. No one disclaims that... but you are still an addict who is in denial..
For instance.. I have been addicted to coffee, cigs, alcohol.. I don't defend those things.. I know they are bad.. Coffee not so much.. studies show it's good for the liver.. I am not going to become aggressive and defend my stance.. it's better if you avoid such substances except the coffee.. Coffee is LIFE! haha..
I hope you understand my point better now.. I have had many discussion with staunch marijuana smokers.. and they become super hyper vigilant about their rights to smoke it and it's a panacea for every disease and health illness out there!...
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2018, 04:25 PM
I think I see what you are saying - I do believe it's possible for people to go overboard and overlook the negative consequences like as you mention the effects that long term smoking has on one's health.
Ifyouseekamy
01-20-2018, 05:29 AM
I know lots of people-surprise- that smoke. It’s not my place to judge other people, but it is my place to only allow people who live the same lifestyle as me in my life. It causes problems down the road. Dumb, avoidable problems.
Dancer_maria
01-21-2018, 06:46 PM
Most real jobs with drug testing will refuse a Pot smoker
ALL Insurance companies WILL charge a LOT more for a Smoker, any type
There is proof that there is more tar in unfiltered ANYTHING..
Not all weed is the same.
The by products (THC) for topical PAIN are great ....
In 10-15 years your brain slows down and your lungs clog... and NO "Big Pot" companies to Sue...
I like my customers healthy and working... , all of course in my Opinion.....
Nina_
01-21-2018, 07:50 PM
For me it's the other way around. I smoke weed, and I couldn't imagine dating someone who doesn't. It's medicinal/therapeutic in many ways for me, it's kind of like bonding to smoke with a boyfriend.
And I don't have much to worry about, I'm going into law, and no "BigLaw" firms (the ones that pay the most) drug test their employees. If they did, it would be hard for them to keep lawyers employed. Lol. The lawyer I work for is a square, but many others I've met or known smoke weed and some are into even heavier stuff (yikes). But larger law firms could give a fuck if you take a toke, they just care that you're getting your job done.
ScarletKitten
01-21-2018, 08:02 PM
Wow.....what's with all the weed hate in this thread?
IvoryDoll
01-21-2018, 08:09 PM
I’d think that it would be hard for a non smoker to be with a person that consumes marijuana not so much the marijuana itself but your partner being high all the time. Yes it’s fun every once in awhile but every friend I’ve had that’s a habitual weed smoker, they forget conversations 3 mins after you had them and you cannot be serious with them. Every convo always leads into the topic of weed. Of course these are just my personal experiences.
Nina_
01-21-2018, 08:32 PM
I have never seen an addict defend their drug of choice as much as a marijuana user..
You must not know many addicts, then... And I'm not talking about marijuana.
Coffee addicts don't , not even prescript users, or alcholics, or cig smokers.. or any other thing you can be addicted to..
Caffeine users don't need to defend themselves for being "addicted" to caffeine because it is so normalized that many people don't even know it's addictive. People love Starbucks and aren't shamed when they go there, and coffee is sold at plenty of gas stations, 7/11s, etc. People aren't judged for drinking coffee, although caffeine is probably more physically addictive than marijuana.
Marijuana users hold on to their beliefs so strongly they will fight to the death for them.. it's laughable.
I think that might have to do with the fact that it was only made illegal via prejudices against Mexicans in America for using it recreationally. Oh and one of the pioneers of it becoming illegal, Harry J Anslinger, publishing propaganda saying things like, "reefer makes darkies think they're as good as white men," and "smoke a joint and you're likely to kill your brother," along with plenty of other egregious statements that were racist and/or untrue. THAT is laughable.
Not sure why you lumped pharmaceuticals into the mix when many of them are dangerous and deadly whereas no one has ever died as a direct result of marijuana use.
miss.a.p1600
01-21-2018, 08:53 PM
For me it's the other way around. I smoke weed, and I couldn't imagine dating someone who doesn't. It's medicinal/therapeutic in many ways for me, it's kind of like bonding to smoke with a boyfriend.
And I don't have much to worry about, I'm going into law, and no "BigLaw" firms (the ones that pay the most) drug test their employees. If they did, it would be hard for them to keep lawyers employed. Lol. The lawyer I work for is a square, but many others I've met or known smoke weed and some are into even heavier stuff (yikes). But larger law firms could give a fuck if you take a toke, they just care that you're getting your job done.
Lawyers I know are known for indulging in liquor and/or blow.... goes out of your system in 24 hours, keeps you up to work on briefs/depos/etc, and gives a pleasant feeling
And that lady mentioned 'real' jobs refusing pot smokers which may be the case however having an employee job is not the only way to make a living.
Nina_
01-21-2018, 09:11 PM
I agree, not to mention, being a lawyer is a "real job" and like I said, BigLaw doesn't drug test them. No large firm is interested in drug testing its employees.
And yup, I assume a decent amount of lawyers (not saying most, but some) do coke. They're working like 16 hour days and need to stay up and stay focused. Idk how I'll cope, no coke for me. I can't even handle coffee without getting anxiety, stimulants aren't my thing. I'll have to find a healthy way to keep me up and alert that doesn't make you have to shit and doesn't preclude you from having an appetite... I like to eat.
And I probably get some of that from my dad... while he likes his coffee, he always makes sure he has an Imodium for, you know, "just in case" he needs it after. Lol
Titus23
01-21-2018, 09:17 PM
I agree, not to mention, being a lawyer is a "real job" and like I said, BigLaw doesn't drug test them. No large firm is interested in drug testing its employees.
And yup, I assume a decent amount of lawyers (not saying most, but some) do coke. They're working like 16 hour days and need to stay up and stay focused. Idk how I'll cope, no coke for me. I can't even handle coffee without getting anxiety, stimulants aren't my thing. I'll have to find a healthy way to keep me up and alert that doesn't make you have to shit and doesn't preclude you from having an appetite... I like to eat.
And I probably get some of that from my dad... while he likes his coffee, he always makes sure he has an Imodium for, you know, "just in case" he needs it after. Lol
Zipfizz got me through my Iraq deployment. It's all natural vitamin B12. 0 calorie powder that you mix into a bottle of water. It's the best energy I've ever felt with no crash at all. Lasts about 6-8 hours. I'd take one of those to start the day and immediately be dialed in. You can order it off Amazon, and it comes in a ton of flavors (grape is my favorite). Just be careful when adding it to water, as it does fizz! You'll want to make sure you mix it in a sealable container, or you'll have a mess on your hands. Literally!
Nina_
01-21-2018, 10:03 PM
Zipfizz got me through my Iraq deployment. It's all natural vitamin B12. 0 calorie powder that you mix into a bottle of water. It's the best energy I've ever felt with no crash at all. Lasts about 6-8 hours. I'd take one of those to start the day and immediately be dialed in. You can order it off Amazon, and it comes in a ton of flavors (grape is my favorite). Just be careful when adding it to water, as it does fizz! You'll want to make sure you mix it in a sealable container, or you'll have a mess on your hands. Literally!
Awesome! Thanks! Hopefully it doesn't make me all jittery like a 5 hr energy. I'll try it out, I've been so tired lately because of all the b's I'm dealing with.
And I know we are getting OT lol but seriously... thank you for your service.
Titus23
01-21-2018, 10:10 PM
Awesome! Thanks! Hopefully it doesn't make me all jittery like a 5 hr energy. I'll try it out, I've been so tired lately because of all the b's I'm dealing with.
And I know we are getting OT lol but seriously... thank you for your service.
I never got jittery from it. Just focused. Loved that stuff, and should probably get back to using it! Hopefully it does the trick for you. And thank you for the appreciation.
WendiStarr
01-22-2018, 09:30 AM
I don't smoke weed or do drugs of any kind. I'm anti-drug because I have a child to take care of and I don't think that drugs fit in with that. As someone who grew up being around a bunch of adults with substance abuse issues, it repelled me far from wanting anything to do with drugs. I don't see weed as being bad, per se, if it's something that the person partakes in every now and then, although I don't smoke it myself. If the person is able to handle themselves responsibly and take care of their adult responsibilities, then fine. It's just that I could not date someone who is high all the time. If it's to the point where the person is not doing anything with their life but sitting around getting high, no job, no motivation to do anything; it's not going to work out. I have zero patience for people when they're high and acting stupid and irresponsible. It makes me feel triggered by childhood memories and I can't tolerate having to deal with that again.
Selina M
01-22-2018, 12:39 PM
What gets me here is that I feel like some people aren't making the distinction between "having smoked today" and "being high as most people think of it". I bet $1000 y'all deal with people daily who have smoked that day and don't even know it.
It doesn't affect everybody the same, nor is every strain of it the same, and even more depends how much you smoke. Some people with ADHD use it instead of Adderall, some people with anxiety use it instead of Xanax. A smoker doing that every day in small amounts is no different to me than people with prescription meds.
I'd be curious the responses on "Would you date someone who drinks every day and you don't". I bet there'd be a lot more "Oh sure as long as it's in moderation and he's not drunk". Drinkers seem to be afforded a distinction between 'drunk' and 'having had a drink', while weed smokers are just stamped with 'high'.
We had a rabbit like you
01-22-2018, 12:54 PM
Of course. I couldn't care less as long as it doesn't get in the way of anything major (like spending all their money on it, sexual issues, or being annoying when they're high lol) it's legal where I am, and I honestly wish I liked smoking but it just gets me paranoid and miserable
jack0177057
01-30-2018, 06:33 PM
It depends how much they smoke, how much money they spend on it, and how it affects them.
vanessa_mtl
02-03-2018, 03:18 AM
wow what a thread I missed while I was smoking weed in Jamaica! Lol!
I smoke everyday before I work and after to fall asleep. Seriously this thread is for strippers whether or not you are sober you def know and work with people who use alcohol, nicotine, caffeine and probably coke, speed, and Painkillers. Weed is way easier on your liver than all of those. Stripperweb so judgy!
There are as many kinds of stoners as drinkers, beer drinkers, wine drinkers, occasional drinkers and drunks. Selina is right. I don't smoke during the day and neither does my bf unless it's vacation. Life is too hectic. But I know people who have successful businesses and are 1000% more chronic than me. So, there's that to consider.
JGB2009
02-23-2018, 07:55 AM
The guy I used to talk to smoked it a lot. This is one of the reasons why I would not commit to him because it is illegal in my location and I have kids. Honestly I don't care who smokes it, its just I am protective when it comes to my children. His current girlfriend has 3 kids so I guess it is not a issue for her. I just didn't wanna risk getting in trouble.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-23-2018, 12:21 PM
Look I'm going to be the harsh party pooper here and point out the real, horrible consequences of long term pot addiction....
* your personality will be offensive to a lot of people because pot makes you less interactive/engaged in important conversations.
* long term pot smoking DOES aggravate some mental issues, like paranoia or depression.
* the plant estrogens in pot can cause unflattering physical changes (like man boobs, or munchie related weight gain)
Just saying that pot is a literal miracle drug for some illnesses/issues but overdone can be almost as gross as alcohol abuse or being on other sort of substances
anonymous camgirl
02-23-2018, 12:43 PM
I'd be curious the responses on "Would you date someone who drinks every day and you don't". I bet there'd be a lot more "Oh sure as long as it's in moderation and he's not drunk". Drinkers seem to be afforded a distinction between 'drunk' and 'having had a drink', while weed smokers are just stamped with 'high'.
Nope! I wouldn't , I was in a relationship with someone who drank everyday, not good.
anonymous camgirl
02-23-2018, 01:12 PM
You must not know many addicts, then... And I'm not talking about marijuana.
Caffeine users don't need to defend themselves for being "addicted" to caffeine because it is so normalized that many people don't even know it's addictive. People love Starbucks and aren't shamed when they go there, and coffee is sold at plenty of gas stations, 7/11s, etc. People aren't judged for drinking coffee, although caffeine is probably more physically addictive than marijuana.
I think that might have to do with the fact that it was only made illegal via prejudices against Mexicans in America for using it recreationally. Oh and one of the pioneers of it becoming illegal, Harry J Anslinger, publishing propaganda saying things like, "reefer makes darkies think they're as good as white men," and "smoke a joint and you're likely to kill your brother," along with plenty of other egregious statements that were racist and/or untrue. THAT is laughable.
Not sure why you lumped pharmaceuticals into the mix when many of them are dangerous and deadly whereas no one has ever died as a direct result of marijuana use.
Actually that's all I have ever been around is addicts , as a sober person who never engaged in any of it.. lol.. As an empath these people seem to be attracted to us...
True , true... I do have to say that starbucks addicts spending hundreds of dollars a month are shamed though.
Really don't have any argument here.. But like I said I have been around addicts my entire life.. Not partaking and it does harm you and your family and children if you have them with them... it's just not the best life you could have.. If you are using for medicinal purposes more power to you then... But just for constant recreational use? why?
Violethollywood
02-23-2018, 02:33 PM
personally...ive been with both types of men. and honestly i'd rather be with a stoner than an alcoholic. I've dated lots of guys who were potheads and they were never mean towards me and were very laid back, the alcoholics i've dated were generally cheery too, but all they did was drink any chance they got and still drive while doing so, it was insane, a couple of the alcoholics had bad aggression problems, like they'd turn into a monster when they would drink. not good.
MedusaUnleashed
02-23-2018, 03:33 PM
It is interesting to see/hear all the different views on cannabis. They’re almost as biased and slanted as the views on sex work. Most people, I think, speak on cannabis/marijuana from limited experience and understanding. It truly has so many uses that it is very difficult to predict how each person will react to a particular strain or delivery method. If we are talking strictly about smoking marijuana then I could see this being an issue with some people because SMOKE is obviously an irritant to the respiratory system and skin. I don’t understand why people have a problem with other delivery methods that don’t interfere with them though.
As someone else mentioned, I am sure you’ve come across hundreds of people regularly who are high and you never knew it because just cuz you smoke you’re not automatically high. I am a pretty regular smoker (as in almost daily) and I dated a cop for months who never knew. No he wasn’t an idiot cop, no he didn’t know and keep it a secret, he LEGIT didn’t know because not everyone who smokes is unmotivated, lazy, smells etc. I would on many occasions smoke just before going to see him. My own mother still has trouble determining when I’ve smoked. You can’t tell with everyone but some people will swear that all weed smokers are the same, lazy, unmotivated and incapable of functioning “normally” ( whatever the hell that is.)
On the other hand I ended up ending things with cop cuz he was getting laser hair removal on his pubes and for me THAT was completely unacceptable so I guess different strokes for different folks.
MedusaUnleashed
02-23-2018, 03:38 PM
For me it's the other way around. I smoke weed, and I couldn't imagine dating someone who doesn't. It's medicinal/therapeutic in many ways for me, it's kind of like bonding to smoke with a boyfriend.
This exactly. The thought actually makes me smile lol
TheBrownFox
02-26-2018, 09:22 PM
I'd rather not, but if I'm into the guy, I might date him as long as he's cool with the fact that I won't allow it in my apartment. When my son and I moved into this apartment last year, the place had a lingering smell because, apparently, the previous tenant sold weed right from this apartment. Lmfao. Not only that...but we also had some new neighbors on the bottom floor who smoked so much fucking weed, they had this entire apartment building reeking of it. It pissed us and the other neighbors off. We pay too much money in rent to live here to have to breathe that shit everyday. They'd gotten complaints from other neighbors for that (also for them being crazy loud at weird hours), and they were given 30 days to vacate the premises...thank God.
My son, who is on the autism spectrum, also tends to get very upset when he's around regular cigarette smoke. I wouldn't want that shit in my apartment either (can barely stand being around it when I'm hangin' out with people outside the karaoke bar), so that's another reason I wouldn't tolerate a guy I'm dating to be smoking in my apartment. If you must smoke, go do it outside.
vanessa_mtl
02-27-2018, 01:12 AM
I'd rather not, but if I'm into the guy, I might date him as long as he's cool with the fact that I won't allow it in my apartment. When my son and I moved into this apartment last year, the place had a lingering smell because, apparently, the previous tenant sold weed right from this apartment. Lmfao. Not only that...but we also had some new neighbors on the bottom floor who smoked so much fucking weed, they had this entire apartment building reeking of it. It pissed us and the other neighbors off. We pay too much money in rent to live here to have to breathe that shit everyday. They'd gotten complaints from other neighbors for that (also for them being crazy loud at weird hours), and they were given 30 days to vacate the premises...thank God.
My son, who is on the autism spectrum, also tends to get very upset when he's around regular cigarette smoke. I wouldn't want that shit in my apartment either (can barely stand being around it when I'm hangin' out with people outside the karaoke bar), so that's another reason I wouldn't tolerate a guy I'm dating to be smoking in my apartment. If you must smoke, go do it outside.
This is basic manners. Smoking anything inside is disgusting.
somechick99
03-01-2018, 09:52 AM
I used to smoke weed constantly all day, for years with no breaks. I would have trouble sleeping and eating if I went even a day without it. Then last year I took a long break and felt far better, more productive, and my personality and habits changed a lot more than one might think. In other words, weed absolutely affects people in terms of personality, motivation and even morals (at least, it did for me). Things I would previously say "oh well, who cares?" to I now think through and care about. I now smoke occasionally, maybe once a month or so and only socially. I'll also smoke for medical purposes sometimes, for instance if I have a stomachache. I am overall far happier and more productive than when I smoked every single day. That doesn't necessarily mean other people will all be affected the same way, but I do think weed is seen as a harmless substance by a lot of people and it isn't always that way. It depends how it is used because abusing it does have negative effects.
I would date someone who, like me, smoked it only occasionally. If they were stoners I would not date them because I know how smoking weed daily can change people in ways they may not notice until quitting