bunny8558
11-09-2012, 12:47 AM
yeah that too. they always try to draw it out and then when you try to pull away they get super offended as though you are trying to rush them when the reality is that they are gripping our waist too damn hard, groping our ass so much that their fingers are sliding in our crack, and trying to kiss us all over. the sad thing is that the only way you can get away is if you violently lurch away and then that's awkward and they get pissed AND then don't tip or get repeat dances. when they try to kiss they always go for the neck or ear which is just fucking disgusting. it's seriously so traumatizing that now it's fucked up my sex life (and all the girls at work say this too), so now I can't stand to have someone kiss my neck or ear in my personal life. that's terrible.
it really bothers me that all of these people in this thread are saying that not hugging customers is the mark of a bad dancer. I think some people here really don't understand how powerless a little girl in a g string (or naked!!!!!) feels when someone two or three times her size has her in a giant bear hug, basically immobilizing her, and is simultaneously trying to kiss her neck and grope her ass and refuses to let her go. if that happens to you enough times you get ptsd and I have had nightmares. some men seriously do not know their own strength and do not understand that kissing is NOT okay at all.
if I have lost out on "repeat business" because I do not hug, fine. ptsd is not worth it. I don't want repeat business from mean customers who try to violate my boundaries anyway. once the dance is over, it is over, we can smile at each other and talk perhaps but the contact stops when the new song starts. I honestly think that demanding that your 3 minute lapdance also include another minute of hugging and neck kissing after is like expecting an escort to give you a 20 minute bj after your hour session is up. this shit is not free.
I've never been into ear kissing. I HATE guys suddenly ear-raping me during the dance. I'm thinking of buying that nail-biter's stuff made from bitters and putting it all over my ears, neck, and boobs.
Take that, gross dudes. (I've heard of girls spraying hairspray on boobs before to prevent grossness, but guys did it anyway!)
And yes, Charlotte, I have issues with affection now as well, especially from my boyfriend. He says this job is ruining me. :/ I had a threesome this weekend after work, and I just wasn't into it. I love threesomes, but after working all night with rough customers, I just wanted to be held.
Despite nymphomania, I'd rather masturbate. It's that bad. I don't hate dancing; I just hate the attitude most of the local customers have towards us here. They're so sexually repressed at home that I think most of them actually hate women. There's no excuse for forcing yourself on someone while they ask you to stop; even if they move away, that should be a sign to stop. Ugh.
*end rant*
I may just start charging weirdos and rough guys a five dance minimum. Oh you want to lick my ear without asking? Continue and you have to buy five dances.
If they don't stop when I ask and pin them down, then maybe telling them they owe me for being mean will work. :)
it really bothers me that all of these people in this thread are saying that not hugging customers is the mark of a bad dancer. I think some people here really don't understand how powerless a little girl in a g string (or naked!!!!!) feels when someone two or three times her size has her in a giant bear hug, basically immobilizing her, and is simultaneously trying to kiss her neck and grope her ass and refuses to let her go. if that happens to you enough times you get ptsd and I have had nightmares. some men seriously do not know their own strength and do not understand that kissing is NOT okay at all.
if I have lost out on "repeat business" because I do not hug, fine. ptsd is not worth it. I don't want repeat business from mean customers who try to violate my boundaries anyway. once the dance is over, it is over, we can smile at each other and talk perhaps but the contact stops when the new song starts. I honestly think that demanding that your 3 minute lapdance also include another minute of hugging and neck kissing after is like expecting an escort to give you a 20 minute bj after your hour session is up. this shit is not free.
I've never been into ear kissing. I HATE guys suddenly ear-raping me during the dance. I'm thinking of buying that nail-biter's stuff made from bitters and putting it all over my ears, neck, and boobs.
Take that, gross dudes. (I've heard of girls spraying hairspray on boobs before to prevent grossness, but guys did it anyway!)
And yes, Charlotte, I have issues with affection now as well, especially from my boyfriend. He says this job is ruining me. :/ I had a threesome this weekend after work, and I just wasn't into it. I love threesomes, but after working all night with rough customers, I just wanted to be held.
Despite nymphomania, I'd rather masturbate. It's that bad. I don't hate dancing; I just hate the attitude most of the local customers have towards us here. They're so sexually repressed at home that I think most of them actually hate women. There's no excuse for forcing yourself on someone while they ask you to stop; even if they move away, that should be a sign to stop. Ugh.
*end rant*
I may just start charging weirdos and rough guys a five dance minimum. Oh you want to lick my ear without asking? Continue and you have to buy five dances.
If they don't stop when I ask and pin them down, then maybe telling them they owe me for being mean will work. :)