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TheBrownFox
05-23-2013, 11:20 AM
Curiosity.And no I didnt start drama. Its just that some people get touchy and offended easily. Thats not me starting drama. You cant ever make everyone happy or never step on toes.

I just wanted to point out that in another thread (where a poster got her answers, then refused to read another thread with more good advice), you said you thought the ladies were being rude and snippy. So maybe they would say you were being 'touchy' and 'easily offended?' *shrugs shoulders*

CourtneyRaine
05-23-2013, 11:22 AM
I think having a sense of humor is very important, especially in this line of work. But some things just aren't funny and are actually really hurtful. This reminds me of a time several months ago when a former member (who has since been banned) also made rude comments directly pertaining to another trans girl on here being trans. I stood up for the girl and was told by the now banned member that I need to get a sense of humor. Here's the thing: singling someone out because they are different or don't live up to your standards or expectations isn't cute or funny, it's bullying, and I will ALWAYS call out a bully. I am actually not a confrontational person by nature but Stripperweb is a really amazing community where we try to make EVERYONE feel welcome and I don't want to see it degrade into some free for all where picking on people becomes acceptable. Comments singling out and questioning the validity of someone's gender are rude, uncalled for, and frankly no one's business.

Do I get along with every poster on here? Of course not. This isn't some magical utopia. I adore most of the girls who are active on here but there are some people I'm indifferent to and some who flat out annoy me with every post they make. I've probably said some things that have come out harsher than I intended and I've PMed at least one individual here to apologize and clarify what I've said so that they wouldn't feel like they were unwelcome here. No one expects you to go to that length or befriend every cam girl or even like every cam girl, but we do expect a modicum of manners. Coming around saying you're not sorry and putting the fault on everyone else (because according to you, WE are the ones with the problem since we lack the sense of humor to get you)... Not the greatest way to make a good impression.

cammodel
05-23-2013, 11:47 AM
I just wanted to point out that in another thread (where a poster got her answers, then refused to read another thread with more good advice), you said you thought the ladies were being rude and snippy. So maybe they would say you were being 'touchy' and 'easily offended?' *shrugs shoulders*I didn't care about that. I just made an objective observation. People couldn't understand why she got snippy. I gave a valid answer as to why. Not every comment I make is emotional. I'm a highly non emotional person. I understand the problem here....I just don't really have enough empathy to convey I understand....which trips out most people who do. Its really no big deal to me. I'm ok with generalized forum chat. Most forums are just people commenting. I'm highly selective of the people I become friends with. I don't take the word friend as casually as others.

cammodel
05-23-2013, 11:55 AM
I think having a sense of humor is very important, especially in this line of work. But some things just aren't funny and are actually really hurtful. This reminds me of a time several months ago when a former member (who has since been banned) also made rude comments directly pertaining to another trans girl on here being trans. I stood up for the girl and was told by the now banned member that I need to get a sense of humor. Here's the thing: singling someone out because they are different or don't live up to your standards or expectations isn't cute or funny, it's bullying, and I will ALWAYS call out a bully. I am actually not a confrontational person by nature but Stripperweb is a really amazing community where we try to make EVERYONE feel welcome and I don't want to see it degrade into some free for all where picking on people becomes acceptable. Comments singling out and questioning the validity of someone's gender are rude, uncalled for, and frankly no one's business.

Do I get along with every poster on here? Of course not. This isn't some magical utopia. I adore most of the girls who are active on here but there are some people I'm indifferent to and some who flat out annoy me with every post they make. I've probably said some things that have come out harsher than I intended and I've PMed at least one individual here to apologize and clarify what I've said so that they wouldn't feel like they were unwelcome here. No one expects you to go to that length or befriend every cam girl or even like every cam girl, but we do expect a modicum of manners. Coming around saying you're not sorry and putting the fault on everyone else (because according to you, WE are the ones with the problem since we lack the sense of humor to get you)... Not the greatest way to make a good impression.
First impressions are only important if you care to impress the person. I could turn on the charm but it would be fake. I am not sorry lol. I can't feel something that's not there. I could say I'm sorry but it would be a lie. So why lie just to make someone feel better when its a lie? I would feel b elittled that someone felt I was so weak they must lie to me to make me feel better. As for friends....eh I mean people can do as they wish but a lot of people complain of being outed or having models try to steal their traffic. If you are friends some women let their guard down. I view this as competition. You don't become friends with co workers because its always unproductive. Being nice is fine but its never a good idea to become buds with people who are competing for the same dollar.

CourtneyRaine
05-23-2013, 12:34 PM
First impressions are only important if you care to impress the person. I could turn on the charm but it would be fake. I am not sorry lol. I can't feel something that's not there. I could say I'm sorry but it would be a lie. So why lie just to make someone feel better when its a lie? I would feel b elittled that someone felt I was so weak they must lie to me to make me feel better. As for friends....eh I mean people can do as they wish but a lot of people complain of being outed or having models try to steal their traffic. If you are friends some women let their guard down. I view this as competition. You don't become friends with co workers because its always unproductive. Being nice is fine but its never a good idea to become buds with people who are competing for the same dollar.

So that begs the question, why are you here? I'm not asking that in an accusatory manner, I am genuinely curious. If you see us all as competition who are potentially out to get you and affect your money, what is the point of being on this forum? How does it benefit you to interact with girls you feel you are competing directly against?

To a degree I understand that we are each others' competition, in the broad sense that the more cam girls flood sites the less likely/more difficult it becomes to grow your business. But, I have become friends with girls on here and it has directly helped me. I have a couple of friends from SW whom I've exchanged numbers with and we talk about cam stuff and mostly real life stuff. In that way it's helped me to have new friends, but being here has also helped me make more money. I am definitely doing better with camming than I was before I joined this forum. I've had girls here give me amazing advice and take me under their wing until I got to the point where I am comfortable with my cam income. I try to help other girls make more money and it hasn't negatively impacted my own income in the slightest. I'm actually not in direct competition with the girls on here because most of them don't even work on the sites I'm on, and the ones who do have completely different niches from me so we're appealing to completely different customer bases.

cammodel
05-23-2013, 04:20 PM
So that begs the question, why are you here? I'm not asking that in an accusatory manner, I am genuinely curious. If you see us all as competition who are potentially out to get you and affect your money, what is the point of being on this forum? How does it benefit you to interact with girls you feel you are competing directly against?

To a degree I understand that we are each others' competition, in the broad sense that the more cam girls flood sites the less likely/more difficult it becomes to grow your business. But, I have become friends with girls on here and it has directly helped me. I have a couple of friends from SW whom I've exchanged numbers with and we talk about cam stuff and mostly real life stuff. In that way it's helped me to have new friends, but being here has also helped me make more money. I am definitely doing better with camming than I was before I joined this forum. I've had girls here give me amazing advice and take me under their wing until I got to the point where I am comfortable with my cam income. I try to help other girls make more money and it hasn't negatively impacted my own income in the slightest. I'm actually not in direct competition with the girls on here because most of them don't even work on the sites I'm on, and the ones who do have completely different niches from me so we're appealing to completely different customer bases.
Curiosity mainly. IRL I never ask for help, I'm someone who likes to do things all on my own. Even if it takes me longer and usually if I have to help someone else I get frustrated if they don't get it the first time, because if it's not rocket science then it's not rocket science. If other people like helping that's cool. I have added a couple posts trying to help someone figure out some things on SM. I'm not saying anyone here is competition, I'm just saying in general. If you had two companies who both sell chocolate. IDC if one sells dark chocolate and one sells milk chocolate, good luck getting one to give the other one trade secrets.

justanothercamgirl
05-23-2013, 04:40 PM
Yeah, IDK a sense of humor goes a long way. I really don't see the offense, really. But ok. I didn't mean to offend. I know what a transsexual is, I also know what a drag queen is. I don't find either of the two offensive to each other. Then you have sexual reassignment surgeries as well. Trannies dress like women, they still have a man's package. Drag queens dress like women, they still have a man's package. Sexual reassignment, people still aren't sure to call them male/female for legal purposes. It may be 2013, but to expect the world to understand such things is a far stretch. I work on cam sites, but I'm not an expert in the world of transsexuals. My job is to take money from men. Plain and simple. It's a turn key job that's fast and easy money. For two hours I can get a couple hundred and log off. That's all I see camming for me personally. It may be a serious business to others, that's ok. But McDonalds is a serious business to some people as well, but if I worked there I wouldn't take it seriously nor would it be serious to me.

I see lots of drama here, so no I probably won't be verified. I've been trolled in my room, who hasn't? IDK if they were cam girls or just guys being trolls but either way, that is not a big deal. Like I said, I know how women are....

BTW, if you say something disrespectful, you didn't mean for it to be disrespectful, and it ends up being that way, what exactly can you do? You can't make a time machine and go back and not say it. Not much you can do about it. I think I said once on a thread that I'm a real bona fide narcissist. I really never get offended, and usually I have a hard time feeling sorry for people who are offended by words. It's just life.

Thank you for your candor on how little you care for others feelings and how you have little empathy for those who are offended by words.

The truly important thing in this situation is you've now made it more than apparent to any camgirl in a thousand foot radius why they should never ever meet you.

Babybunny
05-23-2013, 04:46 PM
Thank you for your candor on how little you care for others feelings and how you have little empathy for those who are offended by words.

The truly important thing in this situation is you've now made it more than apparent to any camgirl in a thousand foot radius why they should never ever meet you.

I'm putting her on ignore

sexysusie
05-24-2013, 08:55 AM
It would be great to make more friends who work in adult stuff, who I can socialise with generally. But it's a harder task that it seems. Most camgirls by nature of the job I guess are quite cautious? And when you do actually meet one or both of you may want to still keep your real name etc private, while the other is offended by that.. Awkward!

I have met a couple of girls and really enjoyed chatting to both just because it was nice to finally let it all out to someone who understands lol. But I wouldn't give my real name and for one girl I think she found that a bit offputting and we haven't met since. Perhaps I'm bring paranoid but I worry if things ever turn sour that is one person who for sure could out you and make life difficult if they wanted. If only everyone was as lovely as they can seem on the Internet :) the social side seems to come more when girls are camming or doing shoots together, which I can't do as the oh just will not have it.

pumpkin_lovely
05-24-2013, 10:18 AM
I'm going to join the verified group soon :) Also, at least speaking for myself, I would love to meet other cam models in my area!

LadyCoco
05-24-2013, 11:15 AM
I wish I could meet others in my area, but I'll have to stick with online friends for now. I live in an extremely conservative small town. I need to get my ass in the verified group within the next week. It's about time. :)

CourtneyRaine
05-24-2013, 11:50 AM
Just wanted to say I adore SW. Been PMing a few lovely ladies all morning when I mentioned I needed some advice on something. I definitely couldn't go to my vanilla friends and ask for suggestions or a solution to my dilemma, so having girls here who really get it has been invaluable!

temptingmodel
05-24-2013, 02:07 PM
Just a warning, one time , many moons ago
A MAN from here hit my PM

"I am in --------- we should meet" He was posing as a cam girl.

GlamourRouge
05-24-2013, 02:31 PM
I have now met several girls IRL from Verified. They have all been aweeeesomeeeee

justanothercamgirl
05-24-2013, 03:42 PM
I have now met several girls IRL from Verified. They have all been aweeeesomeeeee

I am all jelly right now!!!!

GenieBrazilian
05-24-2013, 04:53 PM
I think having a sense of humor is very important, especially in this line of work. But some things just aren't funny and are actually really hurtful. This reminds me of a time several months ago when a former member (who has since been banned) also made rude comments directly pertaining to another trans girl on here being trans. I stood up for the girl and was told by the now banned member that I need to get a sense of humor. Here's the thing: singling someone out because they are different or don't live up to your standards or expectations isn't cute or funny, it's bullying, and I will ALWAYS call out a bully. I am actually not a confrontational person by nature but Stripperweb is a really amazing community where we try to make EVERYONE feel welcome and I don't want to see it degrade into some free for all where picking on people becomes acceptable. Comments singling out and questioning the validity of someone's gender are rude, uncalled for, and frankly no one's business.

Do I get along with every poster on here? Of course not. This isn't some magical utopia. I adore most of the girls who are active on here but there are some people I'm indifferent to and some who flat out annoy me with every post they make. I've probably said some things that have come out harsher than I intended and I've PMed at least one individual here to apologize and clarify what I've said so that they wouldn't feel like they were unwelcome here. No one expects you to go to that length or befriend every cam girl or even like every cam girl, but we do expect a modicum of manners. Coming around saying you're not sorry and putting the fault on everyone else (because according to you, WE are the ones with the problem since we lack the sense of humor to get you)... Not the greatest way to make a good impression.



Well said! I always love your post. I'm blowing you internet kisses right now.

And Marina, you're a tough cookie, good job keeping your cool. xoxo

Marina Starr
05-24-2013, 04:57 PM
http://i184.photobucket.com/albums/x311/melaniamai/tumblr_mcbd39S3gy1qcfdmxo1_500_zpsf860dffc.gif (http://s184.photobucket.com/user/melaniamai/media/tumblr_mcbd39S3gy1qcfdmxo1_500_zpsf860dffc.gif.htm l)

Well said! I always love your post. I'm blowing you internet kisses right now.

And Marina, you're a tough cookie, good job keeping your cool. xoxo

GenieBrazilian
05-24-2013, 04:59 PM
BTW I would love to make some cam buds after I get verified.

Moving to the Denver area next month. But I travel, alot.

CourtneyRaine
05-24-2013, 07:52 PM
Well said! I always love your post. I'm blowing you internet kisses right now.

D'aww, stop it you :) I live a full state away from where you mentioned and I'm heading south of the border when my lease is up so I can't be out gallivanting with cam girls, as much as I may like to. I'm also a complete hermit; giving my personal fb name or prepaid cell # is cool but meeting people in person is super scary! But even so,

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzzi6cUfk91qj2vh0.gif

Jaana
05-24-2013, 09:05 PM
Marina is a sexy fucking woman.

biancabaker
05-25-2013, 10:17 AM
I have been web-camming for almost 2 months and would love to meet another cam-girl to trade stories w/- shop- grab drinks. I think that would be awesome. I live near a major city so I don't see why it would be unreasonable =) Just hard finding someone when you are working lol- so anyone near MA area thats where I am

TheBrownFox
05-25-2013, 10:31 AM
I am all jelly right now!!!!

Me too! I wanna meet cool people from StripperWeb! :)

Babybunny
05-25-2013, 10:34 AM
Anybody going to Exxxotica?

TheBrownFox
05-25-2013, 10:38 AM
Just a warning, one time , many moons ago
A MAN from here hit my PM

"I am in --------- we should meet" He was posing as a cam girl.

That's creepy!

And that's exactly why anytime someone on the forum talks about wanting to meet up with fellow cam girls, I want to suggest that they first get verified. Many of us would feel more comfortable planning meetings with people who have proven that they're actually cam girls. There are guys who read this forum too. In fact, I got a PM from a guy on here (he seems nice) a few days ago about a money-making opportunity.

temptingmodel
05-25-2013, 11:25 AM
I was using my Cam name with my first profile on SW
I never met the person. Something told me it was fishy and I was right.

roast
05-28-2013, 03:05 PM
Real tales of having awesome cam friends:

Few weeks ago - camgirl friend sends a care package of tea and like 6 packages of sea menstrual sponges. Mostly bc I bitched about being out of green tea and that Id lost my sponges. Only a camgirl understands that getting that a care package of 'stealth' menstrual products and caffeine = orgasmically amazingggggggggggggggggg

Also, only a camgirl friend gets that when youre silent for awhile while chatting or texting that youre ... making money, and doesnt care or is even excited for you. Other friends who see you go silent mid-conversation will be like "omg you there? hello?!" camgirl friend: "Dont apologize for being in a show/getting a call/having a busy room....get money! woo!"

CariDee
06-23-2013, 06:28 PM
^^^ That is beyond awesome!!!

I would love to meet some of the girlies in the UK , think it would be easier to strike a friendship with someone that you can totally be open with. Most of my friends dont know what I do , and at times I find it a bit hard.
On the other side , most of us would be very cautious and guarded when meeting other girlies in the industry. You'd think it would be easier to trust someone that does the same thing , but that isnt always the case.

jculp19
07-03-2013, 05:56 PM
im new here but im also in the Chicago suburbs! im on twitter @blondibaby if you ever want to talk :D

anonymous camgirl
07-03-2013, 08:30 PM
Yep! the best friend I have ever had in my life is a CAM GIRL, we understand each other , can swap stories and gather around SM...lol.. which we do sometimes talkin bout our favorite girls and you can pretty much talk about any taboo subject. We actually followed each others career on the internet for almost 10 yrs before becoming friends. Friends IRL now for about a year.


Real tales of having awesome cam friends:

Few weeks ago - camgirl friend sends a care package of tea and like 6 packages of sea menstrual sponges. Mostly bc I bitched about being out of green tea and that Id lost my sponges. Only a camgirl understands that getting that a care package of 'stealth' menstrual products and caffeine = orgasmically amazingggggggggggggggggg

Also, only a camgirl friend gets that when youre silent for awhile while chatting or texting that youre ... making money, and doesnt care or is even excited for you. Other friends who see you go silent mid-conversation will be like "omg you there? hello?!" camgirl friend: "Dont apologize for being in a show/getting a call/having a busy room....get money! woo!"

Billabong
07-04-2013, 07:56 AM
I find myself posting here a lot lately and its just like I keep gravitating to the SW trying to get to know some of you as posters and letting you get to know a little bit about me. I dunno, it's like a sorority or something. We have something in common few outsiders understand. I can't tell my friends if I made a few hundred a day, or about the guy with the crazy fetish, or the jerkoff beggars that really piss me off, or how hard it is to be myself and form relationships in the outside world. They don't get it, but so many of you guys do and have offered me such awesome support and words of wisdom. That's pretty awesome.

I'm not really friends personally with anyone here (just one), but I wish I were with more. I doubt any of you live in my state so I know meeting may be out of the question, but it would be cool to have more Skype or PM bbs to shoot the shit with. So I don't know any less awkward way to say "Anyone wanna be my friiiiend? Plz PM me bb!" lol

caramelDip
07-04-2013, 08:24 AM
I would love to have some cam girl friends too, after im verified. I live in Wisconsin :)

Thespark88
07-04-2013, 08:32 AM
This may sound stupid, but how do you... Get verified? I am moving to Texas in September and would love new friends.

Fallenangel2904
07-04-2013, 08:50 AM
This may sound stupid, but how do you... Get verified? I am moving to Texas in September and would love new friends.

https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?159039-My-private-group-verifying

I haven't even been verified myself and I've been on here like two years. Talk about lazy lol. Okay this week I'm doing it FINALLY! I want to not feel like I'm missing out anymore lol

MiaraRiley
07-09-2013, 01:13 AM
:( I would love to have a cam girl friend or two in my area...but alas, I live in a small town. I just wanna hang out :/ I need to work on getting verified so that I can post my location!!
Been camming for over a year now...it gets lonely!

JustineSexton
07-09-2013, 12:05 PM
Whoa, this conversation is still alive? I disappeared from here for a few months because I've been so busy.. LOL

I'm still wondering where all of my fellow Texas cam-chicas are at. XD

lolahjamieson
07-09-2013, 12:41 PM
what about some ontario gals?

MellyMay
07-09-2013, 01:09 PM
Again putting it out there for anyone in Los Angeles.... I know there's a bunch of us!

biancabaker
07-09-2013, 02:35 PM
Hey just a heads up for everyone in this thread- there's a web-cam model named Bouncy Britney she verifies girls and has a cam-model directory. There are about 14 of us verified and thats how I met the girl I just cammed w/ (first g/g cam show and was amazing!) and she is always trying to spread the word so this is her twitter and if you DM her she will tell you how to get verified- it was easy: anyways here's her twitter! https://twitter.com/BouncyBritney
=)

MellyMay
08-14-2013, 01:14 PM
reviving this!

I'm gonna be in Vegas from Aug 27-30. Anyone in town there/then?

Graceface
08-14-2013, 07:57 PM
Another L.A. bb here! I would love to do a monthly-ish meet up and do lunch or something.

Sabihah
08-14-2013, 09:04 PM
There've got to be other SF/bay area ladies - I'd love to meet someone else who cams!

caseychambers
08-14-2013, 09:17 PM
They can be VERY annoying if they come in my room and chat guys up plus request silly shit from me, even if they mean well. If I go in another model's room I watch silently as a guest, give a quick "love your look" as a model, or tip as a premium. Find me when I'm not working please! I do think it would be different if it were a girl in my area interested in a girl/girl as these always bank and I haven't made the time to seek anyone out yet.

EDIT: I'm in NYC and if any other MFC girls are into a g/g cam I'm so down!!

Shiney
08-14-2013, 10:10 PM
.....................

biancabaker
08-15-2013, 10:45 AM
hey casey im in Boston- i know its a little ways a way but i go to NY for my real job sometimes

gingerstripper
08-15-2013, 12:24 PM
is anyone in oregon?

LittleLolaRose
08-15-2013, 01:11 PM
*****, I am!!! (In **** that is.) PM me and tell me what city? :)

ChopperM
08-15-2013, 02:04 PM
what about some ontario gals?

*raises hand* :)

Would love to meet some cam girls from the GTA!

bigbootyjudy1
08-15-2013, 04:06 PM
Where are my Floridians at ? FL :)

CurvyRedhead
08-16-2013, 05:21 AM
I will come back to this thread once I am verified :)

I like to think I am friends/know a ton of other camgirls! Many of which I talk to daily! I am always looking to make more friends!

annikah
09-01-2013, 10:09 PM
Even though I am very new to the camming scene, I've met one cam girl IRL, so far. She actually lives in my area, which was totally unexpected since I live in a little, itty bitty hick town. I'm looking forward to getting verified, and talking to more of the girls, too! Got a ways to go for that yet though. :-)