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smeca
08-04-2013, 11:09 AM
I say cutely "did you enjoy that?.... do i deserve a tip?" but only once in a while. Like someone i VIPed with the other night but he was only in town from abroad so wont see him again so wasnt worried abut putting him off. He gave me 50€ ! :D

I'm not sure cos people don't really tip in england. Tips on restaurant bills are pretty much expected and some customers do leave the change with the bar staff but I've lost the balls to ask for tips from every dance when it's busy. I did when I started in my current club and it really added up and brought me up to target each week. :/

I'm worried it's my manner because some dancers have said things to me like "oh well you know when they go for an £80 dance they'll just hand you 100..?" Lol no never happens! May just be the age group I go for tbh.

rudi
12-07-2013, 04:42 PM
A trick I have found on my journey is that I simply charge more than the set lap dance price. If the lap dance price for the club is $20 I charge $30 and I always charge an odd number. Chances are the customer will not have a $20 bill and a $10 bill or two 5's but they will have two 20's. So automatically they will give you $40 and say "keep the change", at least that's what I have discovered through trail and error. Another example if your club set lap dance fee is $40 I charge $50 again an odd number. And believe 8 times out of 10 they will give me $60 because all they have are 20's. And better yet if they hand me $100 asking for change I just say, well we can just do an extra _____ dances for an even $100, don't ask just tell them, and 7 times out of 10 they say ok. Now if a customer ever says to me, all the other girls are charging $20 and your charging $30, I just state, I'm not the other dancers your paying for quality, and that usually shuts them up. Now in Vip if I get someone upstairs I generally know from my skill level that I can keep them in there between 1.5hrs to 3.5hrs so instead of asking for a tip I continue to lay on the psychology and make them feel like I don't want this to end, (even though they say they can't run your credit card anymore,) so lets just finish off the evening with a few more lap dances down stairs. A) they either go to the ATM and pull more money out from their debt cards or B) they still have a secret stash in their pocket and I can get at least another $300 to $600 out of them that way. And then surprisingly they show up the next day and do it all over again---until they leave town, I prefer tourist base clientele since I am a traveling dancer, I can hold them that way for about 2 or 3 days while they are in town for business or pleasure. So I'm just super sneaky with it never making them feel that its all about the money, its all about this relationship/friendship that is forming and I do not want it to end.

xxxGothBarbie
12-08-2013, 11:17 AM
That's very smart! ^ It's very similar to what I do

TashaToday
12-08-2013, 07:02 PM
I've found a phrase that has been working great for me. I bring it up just before the dance starts- "Dances are $$, and gentlemen typically tip too." Everyone has tipped!

charlie61
01-03-2014, 01:04 PM
I've found a phrase that has been working great for me. I bring it up just before the dance starts- "Dances are $$, and gentlemen typically tip too." Everyone has tipped!

Lines like these are good. And yet I always find myself wondering...if I hadn't asked for a tip, would he have bought more dances instead? You feel like you're making more money, but it's possible that if you hadn't asked for a tip, he would've bought three more dances instead of tipping you $10 (or whatever). It really is a tricky balance to find!

Girls working in larger clubs with higher customer turnover can be ballsier with stuff like this. But still, you should make every customer count..

xcatxbrownx
01-03-2014, 04:48 PM
I always ask for a tip after the dance depending on how the customer is. If he spends more than $300, I won't ask, they usually tip more without asking. If they've only bought 1-5 dances, I always ask. If they are Mexican, I demand a tip, because asking never works and I'm not putting up with tongue on my nipples for $20.

audrey_k
01-04-2014, 07:59 PM
Depends entirely on the customer. If it's a guy with money who comes in on a regular basis I would NEVER ask for a tip. It offends a customer like that and you end up getting a shitty tip ($5 when he might have given you $200).

If it's a customer who is new to the strip club scene, or someone who's a foreigner and may not totally understand the concept of American tipping, I just say "the dances are x and if you'd like to tip me it's very appreciated! i had so much fun with you." I just find these people do not tip otherwise. They are the kind of customer who thinks I am keeping 100% of my money when in fact I'm only keeping 50%, so tips are VERY important for me if I don't want to end up giving back half my money at the end of the night.

If it's a customer who's none of the above, just random, it entirely depends. I usually just throw in my tip line if he looks new. Sometimes I won't say anything and if he doesn't tip me I'll be like "oh you didn't like the dance?" If it's a customer who was really difficult to deal with I will get pushy and demand a tip.

Novabynight
01-05-2014, 05:24 PM
After the dance I say something along the lines of "ok that will be xx$ plus whatever you want to tip me" or "but if you think I did a REALY good job you can always leave me a tip!" And I give every single customer a big hug afterwards and say thank you whether they tipped me or not. In the champagne room we usually end up talking about how the club takes soo much money from us, as someone already mentioned, and if they have money they will usually tip but I'm careful about asking for a tip to the wrong person. If I am positive the guy is really broke and is probably spending his whole paycheck on me I won't ask for a tip but ill ask for a drink which they are more than happy to buy me hehe. I realized when I first started dancing that if you don't ask for what you want you probably won't get it. I also prod the customers to tip the wait staff and bartender well, I act incredibly impressed by their generosity "oh my gosh you are soooo sweet" and touch them alot and smile. Then after his dances the dude will already have it in his mind that you are super impressed by big tips.

carolina6
01-15-2014, 11:26 PM
I happened upon a line that worked yesterday. He asked how many dances we had done. I said "5, but you can pay me for 6 if you want!" And he did. If he really doesn't know how manu he had, the amount he spent is probably not so important anyway. If he was worried, he would be counting.

Barbietron
01-27-2014, 04:41 PM
If a customer asks how much a dance is, you say, for example:
"Topless dances are a minimum $20, and naked dances are a minimum $40." That's an easy tip.
That worked for me 9/10 of the time. Also, if you wear a garter, after they pay for dances (if they didn't tip already) put your leg up and pull that thing out. They will usually stick a couple bucks in it. Things like that are not only good ways to increase your take home pay by at least $100, it also trains them to tip everyone. When everyone is making more money, it's a happier club, a more relaxed club, and confident strippers = $$$$!

I have also seen girls just walk around the room and wiggle in front of a guy for a few seconds, pull their garter out and most dudes would tip. I never did that because I don't think it's good for long term money, and guys probably won't take you too seriously.

Sierra30
04-12-2014, 11:04 AM
i just coyly stand there, naked, in front of them, rub my breasts lightly together and day "Tips are ALWAYS appreciated but never expected...." and smile coyly but flirtatiously......they ALWAYS tip....

kaninchen
04-17-2014, 04:46 PM
Lines like these are good. And yet I always find myself wondering...if I hadn't asked for a tip, would he have bought more dances instead? You feel like you're making more money, but it's possible that if you hadn't asked for a tip, he would've bought three more dances instead of tipping you (or whatever). It really is a tricky balance to find!

Girls working in larger clubs with higher customer turnover can be ballsier with stuff like this. But still, you should make every customer count..

You know, I'm pretty aggressive with asking for, and in some cases demanding, tips, yet I've never found this to be a problem. I don't think I've alienated too many guys that way because I do have a sizable menagerie of regulars, especially in comparison to other dancers I work with. I think it's all about the delivery… if you can make the asking for tips as cute and sexy and flirty as your dance was, guys will feel good about tipping you. If you fumble the asking for tips and make it seem awkward and unfun, then yeah, they're not gonna come back to get more dances.

After all, no one is put off of bars or restaurants because tips are essentially mandatory. No one thinks waitresses are greedy for expecting 15%! By vocalizing your desire to be tipped, you're only reinforcing the notion that we deserve tons of money for our time and hot bodies.

Tourdefranzia
04-18-2014, 08:57 AM
Before I start dancing for my customers, I'll tell them the price of the dance, how much I have to give to the house and then finish with telling them most of my customers just pay my VIP fees. This works out very well. Everyone I did a VIP with yesterday paid my fees for me. I do have a regular who is a coupon clipper, and he never tips, but he also spends around 400-600 a week on me, so I'm not complaining. I've put him on low priority on busy nights, though. He likes to get a lot of bang for his buck. I try to convince this customer to come in on the slow days when I won't be making much anyway.

Sierra30
09-08-2014, 10:45 AM
I always just say "tips are never expected but ALWAYS appreciated" while i wink and grab my tits and push them together....:) ive only ever gotten maybe 2 or 3 guys that didnt tip after my dance....

MelissaRenee
09-08-2014, 03:25 PM
I used to be very polite/formal about it and say "if you enjoyed my services, a tip is always appreciated" and smile. That's if they didn't tip me first.

Recently, another dancer told me she always says "Would you like to tip in cash or credit today?" Which helps, because that is asking a question and giving an option (to buy funny money) without being confrontational about it. Nine times out of then I've found guys will always tip. It's a bit like in a coffee shop where you are paying for a $4 latte and there's a tip line and you know you don't HAVE to, but you kind of feel like a jerk if you don't :)

On lap dances, I guess I'm pretty lucky. The basic lap dance at my club is $30 a song and because the ATM dispenses 20's only, most dudes will just give you $40 and won't ask for change.

azaleanola
09-09-2014, 07:32 PM
I'll casually mention that tips are always appreciated as i stand up to get dressed, making sure to put my butt in easy staring/reaching distance. Maybe 2/3 of them will slip a 5 or 10 into my g-string.

MistyGirl
09-13-2014, 05:40 PM
This is something I'm still very bad at and not sure how to do. If I ask at the start, it might make them reconsider the dance, but by the end, I still feel uncomfortable asking. One way I was thinking of doing it would be saying "$100 (5 dances) without a tip". Not sure how well it'll work.

charlie61
09-16-2014, 01:53 PM
This is something I'm still very bad at and not sure how to do. If I ask at the start, it might make them reconsider the dance, but by the end, I still feel uncomfortable asking. One way I was thinking of doing it would be saying "$100 (5 dances) without a tip". Not sure how well it'll work.

I like your idea, but saying "$100 without a tip" makes it sound like you're telling them that you don't want a tip. "Without" is a negative word, and it's generally best to avoid negatives. "$100, not including a tip" sounds slightly better, but is still negative.

"$100 plus a tip" is slightly better than that. "That will be $100 plus a biiiig, faaaat, juicy tip!" is a playful, fun line that could work well (you'd of course smile lasciviously while delivering it). A challenge can work well, too: "That'll be $100 plus anything extra you think I deserve!" (wink, smile). "That'll be $100, plus a $50 donation for school books!" Play around with variations depending on the customer's personality, what you've discussed during your time together (school expenses? fun new restaurants to try?) and your dancing persona.

tempest666
09-16-2014, 02:29 PM
"If you want to tip me, you're awesome. If you don't that's ok too because my tits are still awesome!". ::)
Works like charm.

wednesday86
09-17-2014, 11:49 AM
I demand tips and over charge custies who have been especially grabby or annoying. I made so much $ Sunday because the guys were drunk, acting crazy and I was just like "You Better tip me for that dance because you were a pain in the ass." I was in spoiled/demanding mode and they just obeyed me. I'm not so good at asking nicely for tips from sweet custies though :/ I always forget about it or it just feels awkward!

ava$
09-17-2014, 09:25 PM
^^I feel the same about asking for tips from sweet ones but still do if I remember..

charlie61
09-24-2014, 05:36 PM
"That'll be $XXX, plus a tip as big as your cock!" Could be played as cute / flirty or super lascivious depending on the delivery. Follow it up with "I need something to remember you by..."

tempest666
09-24-2014, 07:38 PM
"I'm charging you a tall tax!" (At only 5'0 in stocking feet almost everyone is taller than me minus Mini Me)

wednesday86
09-28-2014, 08:38 AM
^haha I'm short too! I'm finally getting better about asking for tips and y'all are right. Once you ask they usually can't say no. Definitely improved my earnings last night when I did dances with a lot of different custies.

22lligm
09-28-2014, 12:30 PM
After all, no one is put off of bars or restaurants because tips are essentially mandatory. No one thinks waitresses are greedy for expecting 15%! By vocalizing your desire to be tipped, you're only reinforcing the notion that we deserve tons of money for our time and hot bodies.

I have to remind myself this!! I'm so weird about money I feel guilty taking their money (taking anyone's money for that matter). Thanks!