View Full Version : I think some dancers are really into me... not sure though, I'd like input.
invibe
04-12-2013, 09:20 PM
I want to know when a dancer is down to see me outside of work in a casual fashion. when is it okay to ask explicitly/ and how should one ask in such a way as to indicate I am not looking to pay for sex, trick situation?
also, peace up, A town down.
in 1/3 dances i receive, there is a visible snail trail left on my pants. I should start a spredsheet on this, get some legit data going.
For a guy that looks like Brad Pitt you seem to have no idea when women actually like you or are just being girls. How did that happen?
Summerlove91
04-14-2013, 08:41 PM
Honey PLEASE dont let it get to your head. Im not saying women there would not be atrracted to you but we do "act" interested in order to make our money. If the girls does not give you her number and want to presue a relationship outside of the club...nine times out of ten she is only "interested" in your money. I sit and pretend that I care about what men tell me and the moment they dont want to dance and just want to talk...im gone to the next one.
AmyLynne
04-17-2013, 10:17 AM
Im only into your wallet and bank account. If you have amex or a gold maybe that too. Now if you were to say take me to Towbin Motors and buy me a car that may change.
lemiwinks31
04-19-2013, 03:38 PM
Im only into your wallet and bank account. If you have amex or a gold maybe that too. Now if you were to say take me to Towbin Motors and buy me a car that may change.
What if I'm a Dolphin Mode George Clooney....
AmyLynne
04-20-2013, 05:12 PM
not even then.
So you want to hook up with a stripper...I'll tell you some stuff, promise.
Well I guess this is as good as a place to keep it real...
Mr Hunter, or anyone in the future that reads this...I'd be willing to bet that those girls were just looking for money. The first thing you have to understand is that for the young ladies that dance it is a JOB. This is their job. They are doing it for the money. That means they have bills to pay. Honestly, most clubs use the business model of a house fee or "rent". That means that everyday that girl has to pay the club a certain amount before she leaves. That means that every single girl is already starting her night in the negative. They have bills and rent like everybody else too so they're really in the negative. Imagine that for a second for a retailer...."the first 4 hours of your 8 hour shift go back to Wal-Mart". hahaha, and people hate Walmart already...
Yes, some nights the house fee is decimated in a half hour and one stage set but other nights it's slow like any other industry or business. With that in mind, for them to be successful, they have to WORK which means they can't be sitting around for hours thinking about taking some guy home *imagine that!*. It's funny actually when you think about it because they get bombarded so much in the real world probably already and combined with the club, why would they ever think about it? "I need to find a guy to take home tonight." I can't see that being in a dancer's mind, honestly....least not at work. Now that that's out of the way, and don't worry there's still good stuff coming...
You probably understand that this is her job. What you might not get though is that so much of it is a sales job. People want to be sold on things they buy. It's the reason we have commercials and test drives. Yes guys know that the girl is hot but that feeling that the girl actually wants them makes the whole experience ten times better. We've all been there before as guys that are getting a lapdance. It's too good to say no. It's the whole reason we get the 2nd one...and third one...and fourth one....hold on I gotta go to the ATM real quick...
They are SELLING you. That means they will lie, they will exaggerate, they will tell you the honest truth if it can get them the sale which is you buying dances. Car salesman do the same thing and nobody cares. They lie from the beginning about their name. Does that make them evil people? No. They're there for money and honestly your focus should be entertainment. Remember though, lying doesn't necessarily just have to be verbal. It could be physical or even emotional to get you closer to spending.
Then you get in your car like "damn, I just spent a lot of money and didn't even realize it." Funny thing is you still didn't want to say no. I even know guys that don't go to clubs because they can't say no to a beautiful woman.
You said you're a younger guy that sticks out and dancers tell you you're sexy. I am a younger guy too and get the same thing. I wonder what will happen when we get older at clubs. I guarantee girls will be like "You know, I'm actually more into older men." Believe me, these ladies are in a competitive environment where they see HUNDREDS of guys a week. I mean even you know a shy girl versus an outgoing girl. Anybody in sales picks up intuition from experience. Dancers are probably masters at it. They probably know ways to inflate your ego so quickly and make you think that she wants to have your babies and marry you if you just get a few dances. They probably have ways to go after groups of guys versus loners and different personality types. They have to know if they want their rent paid! Another example is that guys get vulgar in clubs and girls stay all smiley like it was a cute comment when on the inside you know they're thinking "what a sleazebag!" The point is that she's going to be good at semi manipulating you and making an impression when her true thoughts could be totally different.
I've even heard of girls giving their number to customers so they could text them to come "visit" them at the club. Hell I've even heard of a doctor coming by the nearest club 4-5 days a week during his lunch break to drop $150-$200 each time on his favorite. You gotta hustle in this gig.
At the end of the day regardless of your emotional and hormonal intoxication, she was doing her job. Sounds to me like she was pretty good at it.
You said you're a young good looking guy. You probably think you're the exception to the rule when in actuality you probably look like easy prey. I was and still am at times I'm sure because now I don't care as much. You're supposed to spend money there.
BTW if you have no intention of spending money, let them know early on so you don't have to waste their time.
her goal is always to make as much ca$h as possible that night. It is not to start a life long relationship with you.
So you still want to hook up with a dancer....I'll finish it tomorrow, I'm just really tired.
CarmenF
04-23-2013, 05:28 AM
honestly guys who try to hook up with dancers just because they are dancers are douches. You want a fucking trophy wife that's it.
Dancers are no different from other girls, like camgirls. You probably just wanna brag about them huh?
honestly guys who try to hook up with dancers just because they are dancers are douches. You want a fucking trophy wife that's it.
Dancers are no different from other girls, like camgirls. You probably just wanna brag about them huh?
That's pretty much true. I have a bud that has dated a couple. All girls love this guy though. It doesn't really matter where we are. Dancers are girls and just sitting around with the hopes that they'll ask you out is a waste of time, mostly hers. Guys think if they spend a lot of money that the girl will fall for them. It's nothing I've seen. I've seen girls go after him when we were making it rain and also when he was just chilling watching the tv. It doesn't matter. Dancers pick a guy if they're into him just like any other girl in real life.