View Full Version : husband obsessed with my cam money..
PrincessLavender
07-11-2013, 02:34 PM
My husband and I have our own bank account and separate bills that we pay. When I quit my job to cam full time my husband wanted me to $500 a week. I said ok just so I could quit my job (lol) but then he started pressuring me about making $500. I don't need to make $500 to pay my bills. I would be set making $200 a week. The first time I did make $500 he said something like 'you should try for $600 next time'. I just ignored him. Last summer we were getting ready to put our boat in the water and decided to split the dockage. I made $700 one week and then $1,000 the next week (I just got lucky with a fantastic week) and ever since then he thinks I can just log on and start raking in the money. Whenever he starts getting pissy with me about not working or not making $500 a week I just remind him that all my bills are paid and I'm not asking him for money. Usually shuts him up.
He owns his own business and makes more than I do so I don't have the problem of him trying to spend my money on expensive stuff. If he wants it, he buys it. If I want it, I buy it. It just works for us.
CummingCouple
07-13-2013, 10:49 PM
Wow, all the replies on the first page are right. I cam alone but we cam as a couple also and my husband never pressures me, I must remind myself of how lucky I am. Remember to stash your money for taxes, for your self, and welcome fellow cam girl to the ups and downs of camming. I would love to know why some guys do this... Anyone know? My mr. Said it was a like a weird form of slavedriving :0
LilyAnderson
07-13-2013, 11:15 PM
There's certain times when I want to cam, and just don't.
When I do, I make great money.
When I don't, I do awful.
Generally ,the times I don't want to cam are the times I'm pressured by my boyfriend to go on cam.
It's not fair, but men seem to think that making 400.00 every single day is possible. Sure, it might be if you have great regulars, a steady schedule, and experience..
But it does take time to get to that point. I've had great days, making upwards of 500.00.
The next day, I'd make 60.00.
Rich doesn't come overnight,
and NEVER do something you're not comfortable with.
ManyRoses
07-13-2013, 11:46 PM
Wow, all the replies on the first page are right. I cam alone but we cam as a couple also and my husband never pressures me, I must remind myself of how lucky I am. Remember to stash your money for taxes, for your self, and welcome fellow cam girl to the ups and downs of camming. I would love to know why some guys do this... Anyone know? My mr. Said it was a like a weird form of slavedriving :0
I feel like it happens because it is so hard to understand just how...hard...camming can be! Even when you love it, it can be physically and emotionally draining, mentally taxing, not to mention that my eyes start to burn after staring at the screen for so long! And when you just can't grasp how hard it is, it can be really hard to understand why someone WOULDN'T want to be on all hours of the day and night! I told a friend of mine that I averaged around $50 an hour (which is pretty true, although it is going up!) and she was blown away, and kept saying "omg, I would be on like ten hours a day, why don't you work more?!?!" she just couldn't understand that that really isn't doable for me.
I really don't even think that it is as negative as some people make it out to be, even subconsciously. It's just someone seeing all this theoretical money sitting within your grasp, and you not picking it up.
It still sucks though. Personally, I find it a bit insulting. Does anyone really think that if I were capable of making $500 a day and keeping my sanity, that I wouldn't be doing that?!!
BANHammerGoddess
07-14-2013, 07:14 AM
my husband does this too but to a lesser degree. He asks "so are you working tonight" and yeah, it makes me feel guilty but I asked him to do it because i am a procrastinator and i need the gentle reminder. Sometimes I feel like they think the money comes fast and furious and that we should have a copius amounts. They also think this job is easy, and it so isnt.
anytime mine asks me if I'm going to work that night it just makes whatever small seed of non-procrastination just shrivel up and die....
BANHammerGoddess
07-14-2013, 07:24 AM
QUOTE=MissSassyPickles;2480056]Your husband sounds like your pimp. I would keep a separate bank account.
My thoughts exactly!!! My husband loves to say that I don't know how to manage money when he's the one that has a bunch of overdraft fees. My problem is he recently asked to see online how much I'm making. It might be a good thing it's slow for me right now because he had the audacity to ask me for $$ so he can make some type of payment to keep creditors from bugging him while he's at work. He should have thought about that before accusing me AGAIN of not knowing how to manage money the last time I asked for a little gas money!![/QUOTE]
https://i.chzbgr.com/maxW500/1904797952/h7E715BE5/
dafuck???
ManyRoses
07-14-2013, 09:29 AM
My thoughts exactly!!! My husband loves to say that I don't know how to manage money when he's the one that has a bunch of overdraft fees. My problem is he recently asked to see online how much I'm making. It might be a good thing it's slow for me right now because he had the audacity to ask me for $$ so he can make some type of payment to keep creditors from bugging him while he's at work. He should have thought about that before accusing me AGAIN of not knowing how to manage money the last time I asked for a little gas money!!
https://i.chzbgr.com/maxW500/1904797952/h7E715BE5/
dafuck???[/QUOTE]
Oh that is SO frustrating!!! My partner and I are both in the same boat with debt and stuff, so while we talk about it, and sometimes rib each other a little, or give a gentle "should you really be buying that before you have rent in the bank" reminder, we generally leave each other alone when it comes to money.
I can't imagine how annoying it would be to have someone borrowing money from you and then lecturing you about not being good with money. Like having a really unhealthy person telling you how to work out, or the person with the crazy badly behaved dog/kid telling you about how to parent.
GLASS HOUSES, BITCH!
cherryblossomsinspring
07-16-2013, 10:22 PM
Tell him that camming makes you not want to have sex with him. It drains you, so less time on cam means he might get sex that night. That should set his ass straight....
Bingo!!