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07-28-2013, 01:05 PM
That's good to hear you may have home training. Technically everyone is being trained and we all live by rules whether they are clearly written or just understood.

Besides, I didn't say that I was the one doing the training but maybe that word 'training' is a little harsh. How about "learning through reinforcement"?

A regular learns over time that if he provides tips (maybe food/drinks) + money for dances = he is more likely to get the attention and experience he's looking for...

Now there are regulars that don't spend any money but those are the ones sitting in the corner by themselves


We're on the same page.

I guess there's (at least) two types of regulars. Those who spend and those who don't. I'm there to spend, otherwise why go?

But I have seen "regulars" who appear to use the club as their hangout, their regular bar. There to look, to chat, but not to spend. With some it's a daily visit, there by the hour. Wth?

charlotte.
07-28-2013, 10:01 PM
That's very rude. You do realize the majority of people who go strip clubs dont go to spend $50 on drinks for the lady right? Sou ds like someone's ego is bloated. This isnt a bar or a regular club. if we wanted to buy you a drink we should have went to a regular club. Its a norm there. Your getting our money from lappers sometimes by just sitting down, we aren't getting in your pants or getting your number (for romantic purposes). That is the difference between strip clubs and bars. Please don't prod, just shows you have no interest in anything but your self. You arent even interested in selling us a fantasy (no extras included)

of course I have no interests other than myself. at the clubs I work in, it is the norm to buy the ladies drinks and you are the one with the bloated ego if you think im going to sit on your lap and listen to your babble without a glass if champagne.

regardless, your posts make you seem like the angry customer who I and other like dancers can easily spot and avoid. if you have such contempt for so many factors in a sc then why go?

Aurora14
08-07-2013, 10:52 AM
Dancer: Hey can i order a shot?
Me: Umm...no.
Dancer: Uhhh...okayyyy....
Me: Want to do some dances?


I wish I has more customers like this. Right to the point. I get sick of guys wanting to do nothing but buy me drinks. I also work in a club with no drink commission and we don't have to sell drinks, so i drink out of boredom.

If you don't want to buy her drinks that's fine. It is your money to be spent on YOUR entertainment. But if you aren't drinking you better be dancing. Tell her straight up how you feel. If she chooses to not respect your feelings on that matter, that's her problem and you can always find a lady to replace her.

grindonme
09-01-2013, 03:27 PM
There was this stripper that i used to tip, they didn't do table/lapdances just danced onstage, that i stopped tipping because she was always asking for drinks after i would finish tipping her. I felt the whole "buy me a drink" thing was for customers looking to hangout and talk to the strippers, i'm more of a tip/getting dances and then move on to the next one type.

~*SwanPrincess*~
09-01-2013, 05:41 PM
I only ask a guy for a drink if I know him well or if I am in VIP. If someone offers to buy me a drink, sometimes I'll get one.
I never order food at work. I've been offered food before and always decline. All the bar food is greasy and I know would just make me tired and bloated. I bring my own healthy snacks with me in case I get hungry!

tempest666
09-01-2013, 05:54 PM
It depends...if it's one of my long time regs I'll text them and ask "Can you bring me (insert healthy food)" or occasionally a Wawa coffee. I try to bring my own food or eat at home. Customers occasionally ask if I want an alcoholic beverage but I usually decline or have the bartender make me a virgin drink.

Barney Stinson
09-01-2013, 07:04 PM
This happened just last week...

Dancer 1: I was in like my third or fourth dance with her, and planned for a few more. Offered her a drink since I figured she might be a bit tired and might need a drink especially if she was going to be with me for a few more dances. She replied, only if you are getting one too. Awesome!

Dancer 2: Only in dance number 2, and she was asking for a shot. Being nice that I am, I agreed. This one only got two dances with me. And...her dances were not as great as the first one.

Jasmine.Doll
09-22-2013, 12:58 PM
I've worked at clubs where I HAD to make customers by me 9 drinks per shift (without commission). It was lame. I've worked at a lot if clubs where the cocktail waitresses would plot my demise if I didn't help them with their drink sales, by getting guys to buy me drinks. I've also worked I places where I got great drink commissions, so I defiantly asked... But, if the club isn't forcing me or paying me and no one is going to kill me, I don't usually ask. Although, if I'm sitting with a customer and he gets a drink without offering me one or if the cocktail asks him if he'd like to but me one and he says no, I often assume the guy is either cheap or not interested and move on...

Jasmine.Doll
09-22-2013, 01:00 PM
Or if he offers me water, I'll move on. In my last club, this happened a lot. "Would you like some water?" Really dude? You can't even spring for a Pepsi or something. Cheapskates!

yoda57us
09-22-2013, 01:38 PM
Or if he offers me water, I'll move on. In my last club, this happened a lot. "Would you like some water?" Really dude? You can't even spring for a Pepsi or something. Cheapskates!

LMAO! This must happen more than I realize. Yesterday afternoon my fave ordered a drink that she had never tried before (I told her to order whatever she wanted) and apologized to me two or three times when the waitress came back with it and the cost was higher than she anticipated. I was fine with it but I guess all guys are not. I'm an old timer and still of the belief that if the cost of drink scares you that much you probably shouldn't be sitting with a dancer in a strip club.

bem401
09-22-2013, 02:27 PM
Or if he offers me water, I'll move on. In my last club, this happened a lot. "Would you like some water?" Really dude? You can't even spring for a Pepsi or something. Cheapskates!

Around here , if I'm not mistaken, bottled waters are at least as expensive as soda or a domestic beer.

Jasmine.Doll
09-22-2013, 03:13 PM
The club I was at sold bottled water for $1. What's worse is the most expensive drink available was only $5 or $6 (juice bar in a sad little dust-ball of a town). So, it wasn't like I was in a position to gouge anyone with a drink order.

I just moved to neck of the woods, Bem. I'm glad water/soda/beer are equally priced. I'll probably still order water, if offered beer, soda or water. But I will be happy to be have a few options!!

yoda57us
09-22-2013, 05:23 PM
Most of the clubs I go to are in Mass or RI and charge about $5 for bottled water or soda and a beer is generally within a buck or two of that. Mixed drinks are all over the board but generally are 8 bucks or more. There is one club in town that sells the dancers water for a buck or two and some of the cheaper customers try to take advantage of that by only offering to buy them a water...and making the dancer go get it at the bar. Lol, it takes all kinds I guess...

oldster
09-23-2013, 10:24 AM
I cannot get past this cheapness thing. I have finally got my fav and the bartender to stop freaking asking and just bring her the damn drink. No I do not buy drinks for everyone who walks by, but she is sitting with me, I am buying. Buying a girl water, really. Really?

I am not a big spender, but a drink is just a drink

Another girl who I do not get dances from but who think is funny will occasionally plunk down and say 'Are you buying me a drink or what?' I find it amusing and she only does it once in a while so I laugh and do it.

whirlerz
09-23-2013, 10:33 AM
There is one club in town that sells the dancers water for a buck or two and some of the cheaper customers try to take advantage of that by only offering to buy them a water...and making the dancer go get it at the bar. Lol, it takes all kinds I guess...

I'd be givin' that jerk an impromptu shower w/said water..}:D

estafador
10-01-2013, 12:36 PM
of course I have no interests other than myself. at the clubs I work in, it is the norm to buy the ladies drinks and you are the one with the bloated ego if you think im going to sit on your lap and listen to your babble without a glass if champagne.

regardless, your posts make you seem like the angry customer who I and other like dancers can easily spot and avoid. if you have such contempt for so many factors in a sc then why go?

Two things: 1. I believe in the evolution of change. What that means is whether or not its a club, strip club bar or resturant etc, I don't just randomly just give away drinks to people I don't or will ever know. I do it for friends that is it. If I'm gonna impress which I assume is why the majority of men buy ladies drinks, I do so with my good looks and charm...and gift of gab or silver tongue. A drink will not impress the chick so why bother. It is the 21st century. Lets put a little spin on life folks.

2: I don't hate anybody. Why should that stripper over there be an exception. True, I'm not intending to get to know you no matter how gosh darn fine you are because I know I'm wasting time, but I don't hate the girl. I go simply to buy some lapdances and 1 or two VIP sessions. You can talk to me and if you want extended conversation sure, but I'm that patron who will either tell you to leave and don't waste your time or stay and lets get some dances going. Dont assume I'm a misogynist.

estafador
10-01-2013, 12:37 PM
of course I have no interests other than myself. at the clubs I work in, it is the norm to buy the ladies drinks and you are the one with the bloated ego if you think im going to sit on your lap and listen to your babble without a glass if champagne.

regardless, your posts make you seem like the angry customer who I and other like dancers can easily spot and avoid. if you have such contempt for so many factors in a sc then why go?

Two things: 1. I believe in the evolution of change. What that means is whether or not its a club, strip club bar or resturant etc, I don't just randomly just give away drinks to people I don't or will ever know. I do it for friends that is it. If I'm gonna impress which I assume is why the majority of men buy ladies drinks, I do so with my good looks and charm...and gift of gab or silver tongue. A drink will not impress the chick so why bother. It is the 21st century. Lets put a little spin on life folks.

2: I don't hate anybody. Why should that stripper over there be an exception. True, I'm not intending to get to know you no matter how gosh darn fine you are because I know I'm wasting time, but I don't hate the girl. I go simply to buy some lapdances and 1 or two VIP sessions. You can talk to me and if you want extended conversation sure, but I'm that patron who will either tell you to leave and don't waste your time or stay and lets get some dances going. Dont assume I'm a misogynist.

Jasmine.Doll
10-01-2013, 01:01 PM
1. Your right. A drink doesn't impress anyone. But being polite does. Most guys don't buy strippers drinks so dancers will be impressed by the $5 they spent. They buy drinks to get better treatment from the ladies, who appreciate a customer with manners and isn't showing signs of being a tightwad. Different clubs have different norms for the drink thing... So maybe your at a club where his behavior isn't a bid deal. But, if you are that guy that no one sits with or approaches, you might wanna spring for a drink, on occasion. That $5 might really improve your strip club experience!

2. I don't think anyone accused you of being hateful or mysogynistic. You just seemed a little jaded/bitter....

Nina_
10-05-2013, 12:24 PM
I don't ask for drinks, but more often than not, the customers asks me if I want one. Then I'll order something. I'd never ask a customer I just met for food, especially since in the time it takes to wait for the food and then eat it, I could've been making money. But like I mentioned previously, I will order food from my regulars if I'm hungry but that's because they're regulars so I know I'm still getting paid x amount. I feel like the only reason a guy should have for not buying a girl a drink is if it's too tell her he's not interested lol, usually customers buy drinks out of interest or common courtesy, or both.

michele11
10-05-2013, 03:13 PM
I'm sorry but if I sit with a customer and he orders himself a drink ad the waitress asks" would you like to get the lady a drink" and he says no I get up and leave. It's the principal, or I love when a guy has an extra beer his friend doesn't drink and he tries to give it to me. I don't drink beer. Also I'm in vip all night most nights I work( I travel) so I'm not eating and drinking adequately so I get thirsty. I always get a water with lemon too. It's free and guys are like" what did you order"??? It's fucken water and it's free! I guess none of you guys frequent Manhattan clubs I ordered a water and a grey goose madress my first shift and no they won't bring regular water only bottles and it was close to 30. That I was embarrassed and apologized profusely but if a customer can't spend 6-8 on a drink then they probably aren't worth my time. I can go to a bar and get drinks bought for me all night long without getting up. It's a strip club and it's the principal.

blondhottie
10-06-2013, 12:54 AM
I asked for drinks when I danced, but never food. I wouldn't feel sexy chowing down on some buffalo wings or pizza in front of a customer LOL. :) I agree with Michele, buying a lady a drink is a gentlemanly thing to do. If they declined to buy me a drink, I'd quickly ask for a dance and move on if they said no. The clubs I worked at were not that fancy and dancer drinks were only $5-6 dollars-if a customer can't afford that, he has no business being in a strip club to begin with.

michele11
10-06-2013, 09:16 AM
Yeah, I don't eat at work( only once at a club I worked with a 5 star steak house) and I was paid 300 an hour. I'm weird though, I eat before I come in and I don't like eating in front of strangers and feel gross that I can't brush my teeth and stuff.

rickdugan
10-07-2013, 07:49 AM
In all fairness to estafador, he is a younger guy on a fixed budget who clubs in NYC, which alters the dynamic a bit compared to almost anywhere else. In most NYC clubs, drinks are very expensive and often cost almost as much as a LD. So for him, each drink quite literally takes away one LD from his night. I've had a number of nights where I've gone into NYC clubs by myself and dropped $200+ just at the bar before spending dollar one on anything else.

Now this doesn't change my view that it is a common courtesy, which of course is how I get to a $200 bar tab in NYC in the first place, but at least I can understand his feelings on it more than most guys in many other area. At least his intentions are ultimately good, which are to hand that cash over to a lady in exchange for his dances - lol.

Radius
10-07-2013, 09:00 AM
What I don't get with guys not buying the girls drinks is, strictly from a cheapness point of view, buying her a drink is one of the best investments in the club. At most clubs, the etiquette is that she stays with you and talks through the drink. So, she's there 5 minutes while you're waiting, then 15+ minutes while you're drinking. And, bonus, she might be a bit happier when she's done :) At the club I go to, if it's happy hour, depending on what she orders that might have cost me $3.50+tip, or more normally $10-$15 plus tip. Time-for-money-wise, if you're cheap, you're liking that ratio. This is all aside from the "just good manners" argument, which I complete agree with

Jasmine.Doll
10-08-2013, 10:34 AM
In all fairness to estafador, he is a younger guy on a fixed budget who clubs in NYC, which alters the dynamic a bit compared to almost anywhere else. In most NYC clubs, drinks are very expensive and often cost almost as much as a LD. So for him, each drink quite literally takes away one LD from his night. I've had a number of nights where I've gone into NYC clubs by myself and dropped $200+ just at the bar before spending dollar one on anything else.

Now this doesn't change my view that it is a common courtesy, which of course is how I get to a $200 bar tab in NYC in the first place, but at least I can understand his feelings on it more than most guys in many other area. At least his intentions are ultimately good, which are to hand that cash over to a lady in exchange for his dances - lol.

I get that he'd prefer dances to buying drinks. I don't get why he's so sensitive about the concept of buying a girl a drink. It seems like being asked to buy a lady a drink gets him pretty fired up. Yes. Drinks in Manhattan can be very expensive. But dancers don't set those prices. We didn't vote and decide that a beer should cost $30. I just think its silly to get so upset about such a common strip club practice. And you know, there are clubs in NYC that don't have $30 dancer drinks. They are just a train ride away. But I have a feeling our friend would not enjoy buying drinks at those clubs either... After all, he thinks the strip club is a place where ladies want to be impressed by his silver tongue--not his pocket book.

But, yeah. NYC is an expensive place to play.