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JaneBurgess
09-08-2015, 12:35 PM
I took off the weekend and make myself go do things. It actually felt good to be outside and see people.

Glamourmilf
10-13-2015, 12:44 PM
I'm sooo excited to be able to 'hermit' once again!
My new house is perfect for hermitting.
I can FINALLY cam and do pso the way I want. If I dont leave my house for days/ weeks at a time, nobody gives a crap! I always felt pressured to leave my room and go out at my last place, cause roomies would wonder why I was always in my room, sometimes for 3 days straight.
Its been so nice to sit by my pool late at night, under the stars. None of the neighbors can see me, and it's very peaceful.
If I want to do a camathon, I can.
Don't laugh, but the BEST thing about living alone is being able to masturbate whenever I want.
I use a very loud Hitachi, and I havent been able to use in in over 8 months.
Horrah for Hermitting!

kortneykay
10-14-2015, 08:23 AM
I thought I was really social and outgoing. Nope. I'm a hermit. I only leave the house now days (broke things off with a middle school friend) when I need gas, groceries, or a quick bite to eat somewhere alone or with another cam bb. Like GM said, my house is perfect for hermitting and hibernation. But I have all this space and only hermit in my bedroom unless I'm hustling in the office :/

BambiCutie
10-14-2015, 08:27 AM
This is a super old video, but I thought all my anxious camgirl sistas could use the laugh. ;D


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9-c57GJDdh8

Thank youuu, fucking packing tape!!

DeepThoughts
10-14-2015, 10:30 AM
Im back in Hermit mode. All summer I have been dragged out and pressured into all kinds of shit but now I really need the money on account of some unexpected car issues so I have the perfect excuse to just Hermit all the time!

Still though, every day this week my husband is trying to get me to sit down for dinner and have a drink and talk with him. Its a Trap! I know its a trap! If I start with him we will end up somewhere else and then the next day I will be too tired to work and my schedule will be thrown off so instead I just keep looking at him like "Who are you? Why are you in my house?" I want to bitch hermit this entire winter away!

Glamourmilf
10-14-2015, 10:50 AM
. Like GM said, my house is perfect for hermitting and hibernation. But I have all this space and only hermit in my bedroom unless I'm hustling in the office :/

This is so true. Years ago, when I lived in teeny apartments, I'd visit friends/clients who had palatial estates in Beverly Hills, and Bel Aire, I wondered why they would only use 1 room, and their kitchen.
I kept thinking that when I got a huge place, I'd utilize every inch. Nope. I did the same thing they did.
My last apt. In the city was so tiny, that I had to put my bed in the living room,right next to the galley kitchen...right next to my desk and work and tv area.
I used my bedroom for my closet, which way way cool.
It prepared me for my last living sitch, which was renting a converted garage room, which had everything I could want...fridge, walk-in closet, micro, hot plate, coffee maker, full bathroom, etc.

I get it now.

absolutelyadorable
10-14-2015, 11:23 AM
Bahaahahaha I love this!! Now that winter's coming up I can feel myself going into hermit/hibernation mode. Earlier this year I was in school so I HAD to go out 4-5 days a week but now that I've graduated IT'S ON AND POPPIN!!!!!
Since moving down south I can be perfectly happy staying in for days on end, especially in the winter. Summertime I'll get out and get some fresh air every now and again, mainly cuz I get suckered into getting out by a few friends, but once it gets cold I'm a total bear. I kinda hate driving, so working from home is truly a godsend.....I buy a whole bunch of groceries once a month or so, laundry facilities are in the kitchen, and I pay bills online or I drop off my rent check in the wee hours of the night lol #winning.

Glamourmilf
10-14-2015, 11:37 AM
^^^ Hibernation is opposite where I live.....Summers are way too hot to go out (temps over 100). But more people go out then , and everyplace is way too crowded.
Winter is great for me to go run errands because people here dont like the cold (well to THEM it's cold at 60 or 70 degrees), (laughable),so they stay in.
And if it rains...well it hasnt in 4 yrs,but when it does, there's nobody out anywhere.
I love it!!

absolutelyadorable
10-14-2015, 11:43 AM
60-70 degree winters?! let me book my ticket............lol

Glamourmilf
10-14-2015, 12:01 PM
60-70 degree winters?! let me book my ticket............lol

I know right? It used to be 80 tops in the summer too, but global warming took over, and so...Yeah.

absolutelyadorable
10-14-2015, 12:48 PM
Geesh that sucks........ :/
Still sounds lovely though to never have to trudge through snow, or bundle up, or worry about whether or not this damn truck will crank up in the cold weather.....sighh...

Glamourmilf
10-14-2015, 05:28 PM
Geesh that sucks........ :/
Still sounds lovely though to never have to trudge through snow, or bundle up, or worry about whether or not this damn truck will crank up in the cold weather.....sighh...

It is lovely. I grew up in snow, so if I never see snow again, it wont be too soon.
Car batteries die more quickly, and tires flatten easier, cause of intense heat....but its a small price to pay for lovely weather.

Issabelle
10-14-2015, 05:36 PM
...I thought I was a bitch hermit when I was living alone and only left the house early morning/late night for brief runs to the store or to sit in the private section of my favorite bar. No, no--my new living situation = ACHIEVEMENT UNLOCKED Ultra Bitch Hermit!

Seriously, I live in the country now. Like, I have five neighbors in a one mile radius. My company includes my dogs and my dad, who does nearly all of our shopping so long as I leave cash to cover it. I take my dogs to the trainer/groomer every week and see my BFF (at her house) once a week. I've started to have the niggling feeling of discomfort-that-could-become-anxiety-someday in the back of my head whenever I leave the house without human or canine companionship to run a last minute errand.

It's officially time to join a gym or something. Wait, no, I think Amazon can deliver that too and my new mail woman is nice to talk to anyway. Yup, hermit.

kortneykay
10-14-2015, 05:41 PM
You know you're a bitch hermit when: You only go out for food at night, hit the drive through, and head straight back home, lol.

Glamourmilf
10-29-2015, 10:09 AM
Just returned from a mini vacation.
Checked in to on of my fav hotels...got a suite, far away from everyone...to just....hermit.
No phones, nobody knowing where I am. Ahh, just the peace and solitude that comes from being with oneself,and ones own thoughts.
Ate good food, went shopping at some awesome thrift stores, watched t.v., sat out on the balcony and looked up at the stars, and full moon.
Note to self: Do do that when the world gets too much.:chillpill

theharlot
11-02-2015, 10:10 AM
Cheering for you right now. I know the hitachi-deprivation feels. Also feeling your post MIGHTILY in general.


I'm sooo excited to be able to 'hermit' once again!
My new house is perfect for hermitting.
I can FINALLY cam and do pso the way I want. If I dont leave my house for days/ weeks at a time, nobody gives a crap! I always felt pressured to leave my room and go out at my last place, cause roomies would wonder why I was always in my room, sometimes for 3 days straight.
Its been so nice to sit by my pool late at night, under the stars. None of the neighbors can see me, and it's very peaceful.
If I want to do a camathon, I can.
Don't laugh, but the BEST thing about living alone is being able to masturbate whenever I want.
I use a very loud Hitachi, and I havent been able to use in in over 8 months.
Horrah for Hermitting!

Glamourmilf
11-02-2015, 11:20 AM
Cheering for you right now. I know the hitachi-deprivation feels. Also feeling your post MIGHTILY in general.

Thank You Harlot.
Yesterday is the day that my friends know they can reach me by phone..( during football)...
They ALL called at once! Yikes! Talk about stimulus overload.
I was on the phone for 5 hrs. My energy, and voice were shot, and I felt sooo wiped out. Never again!
I had planned on camming, but there was no way...logged into my phone lines, could barely take calls before I had to log out and go to sleep.
Going to hermit for a few days so I can get things done..im not even through unpacking from my recent move. Argh!

Susperia
11-02-2015, 04:38 PM
I've been in hermit mode for about a year now. The only days I go out are Friday and Saturday nights and Sundays. During the week I totally hole up in the house. I have no time for anyone. I run around my house naked. and only watch tv very late at night. I don't ever call anyone...infact I hate phone calls unless its during a cam session. I will hit up yoga 2 days a week for an hour and make it out to the grocery store about once every 2 weeks. I don't really have time to see friends unless I'm on my period or its on a Fri or Sat night, or if its a trip to Sephora. So yeah....but then again I call it turtle mode.

Glamourmilf
11-05-2015, 12:37 PM
^^ 'Turtle mode'. I like that.
Those phone calls...ugh! How annoying!
It seems like nobody gets the 'memo' that I can't drop everything just to talk on the phone.
It's always some b.s. 'emergency' too.
They'll tell me that it will only be a minute. Nope. Not going to do it,cause it always takes more than that, and I expend way too much energy.

Question: Does being a hermit include going out by myself?
I'm in a mood lately that I want to explore my new town without anyone being with me.
I enjoy my solitude.

webcamcutie
11-06-2015, 06:28 AM
I go out Friday to pay bills and spend my paycheck, otherwise, I go out once or twice a week to the tanning salon, and if it takes me more than 30mins I freak the fuck out. I hate leaving my house. When I get home Friday after doing my errands (shopping for stuff, food, whatever) if it takes me more than 2 hours I start to get anxiety from being gone from my house too long. Oh, well that and I have to drop the kid off at school in the morning and pick her up in the afternoon, I usually throw a tanning session in there with that somewhere cause I'm forced to leave then.

Sidenote: I hate leaving my house, and I rarely spend too much time away from my computer, cell phone, or laptop.. sigh.

Glamourmilf
11-06-2015, 09:43 AM
^^^ Yes to this! If I'm out of the house too long, I start having wicked anxiety attacks. It comes on quickly, with very little warning.
It's at that moment that I must leave wherever I am, and come straight home.:(
What seems to set it off is if I'm in a loud, or crowded place.
Sometimes it takes a couple of hrs to decompress once home.
My live in maid is like this too i think, because she NEVER goes out. She knows to not talk to me when I'm home...Had to nip that in the bud..my home is my only refuge.

webcamcutie
11-06-2015, 12:48 PM
Time to do that dreaded 'leave the house' thing again. Wish me luck! hahaha

Glamourmilf
11-06-2015, 09:01 PM
^^^ Hope u had good luck with your errand day.
I had to return a couple of items to Target today. Thank God the return counter was right inside of the entrance.
I really needed food, but Target keeps their food way in the back of the store. Confuses me as to why they put perishables, and frozen foods way back there.
I couldn't deal with it, so I stopped at my favorite KFC near my house that never has anybody in the drive through line. Ahhh!
Now I'm Home, sweet home!

webcamcutie
11-06-2015, 09:25 PM
^^^ haha, I made it home alive! I was out longer than I wanted to be but I survived, now I'm home sweet home sitting around like an old lady with rollers in my hair casually going to be an hr late for my cam shift tonight.. Oh Fridays, how I hate you! Atleast I have a week of being safe in my nest before having to return to the outside world.. :)

Glamourmilf
11-07-2015, 11:52 AM
^^Glad you got through it.:-[
Today after camming, i need to go food shopping, get gas, and stop at Walgreens.
Cue the dread music.
I wish the stores stayed open really late, like they do in the city. My only complaint about living in the country.:banghead:

Issabelle
11-09-2015, 06:00 PM
Yesterday, I deleted every social media account in my possession. Which, to be fair, was only Facebook and Instagram, but it was a blown up shit show the last few days (ladies of verified--you know my situation). I've restricted my phone to only accept calls from contact numbers (there are about 40 of these) and am looking into apps that automatically reject SMS/MMS texts from unknown numbers and prevent non-contacts from leaving voicemails (let me know if you have a good one!). I'm officially a proper hermit in a bubble now.

Today, I got up before noon, put on pants, went to lunch with a dear friend, dealt with college related stuff, got my gym membership back (woo! 3 a.m. non-existent crowd!), and generally behaved like a successful adult type person. I'm not leaving the house again for anything but doggy training classes and possibly a haircut. 1-2 weeks of total isolation = perfection at the moment.

Glamourmilf
12-17-2015, 10:09 PM
Bumping, because if any of You ladies are like me, it's 'Tis the season to be hermitting, fa, la, la, la, la , la,.
Spare me the crowded stores, malls, supermarkets, and most of all.....Christmas Parties. 43641

BadBitch
12-21-2015, 10:29 PM
http://sadmoment.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/I-Dont-Want-To-Get-Out-Of-Bed-Comic-By-Sarah-See-Anderson.jpg

^^^ Me today.

YES YES YES YES!!!!!

I'm so glad I found this thread! I thought I was the only one who was becoming a hermit!!!! God, I fucking love you girls!

MistressX
12-21-2015, 11:47 PM
This is so me right now! I've not deleted my Facebook as it's essentially my only contact with the outside world of "friends". Everything else I have is geared towards making money in some way. I hang out with my bff/room mate and occasionally my bf who lives 300 miles away. The only other thing I have is my coaches..

I guess this would make me a hearse hermit.. Lol

oCURIOUSo
12-23-2015, 08:35 AM
Am I the only camgirl that likes leaving home? Lol

OpenBobsBB
12-23-2015, 11:03 AM
Am I the only camgirl that likes leaving home? Lol

I actually love leaving my house but I just rarely have reason to with all the things I can do at home lol. All my friends are in school/at work and I can take care of almost everything from my computer. I mostly leave to grocery shop and work out but I always get excited to do those things because I like being around other humans in small doses; when I worked my other jobs (all service industry) I HATED leaving my house.

absolutelyadorable
12-23-2015, 12:25 PM
Lol I've missed this thread......I can relate to just about everything on here. I have a good friend that LOVES to go out in the rat race I'm like -_________-

BadBitch
12-23-2015, 08:21 PM
Am I the only camgirl that likes leaving home? Lol

I go back and forth. I'll make sure to go out every morn to Starbucks, the gym and run errands. Then, when income home, I get ready then stay in the entire day. It's become my routine. I went out yesterday around 4pm. I was amazed at what goes on out in the world while I'm usually locked in my bedroom at that time.

BadBitch
12-25-2015, 08:43 PM
I love Your typo^^^ "when income home" lol!
That's actually why I prefer to be home. It's where I make my income. Being out is where I usually see money going out also. Just an observation.

Blah ha ha!!! Fucking autocorrect + big fingers on phone.

I hate when friends hit me up when they're off from work. They want to do lunch. They figure since I work from home, that I can just drop everything. Um, no. They just don't get it. They get paid for their time off. I don't.

Marina Starr
12-26-2015, 07:25 AM
NO, you are not the only camgirl. I have to leave the house at least once a day or else I'm going crazy. I can't stay inside all day, everyday. That will get me into depression.
I go to Starbucks every morning so that's a good reason to get out of the house :)

Am I the only camgirl that likes leaving home? Lol

Mare
12-26-2015, 04:12 PM
Blah ha ha!!! Fucking autocorrect + big fingers on phone.

I hate when friends hit me up when they're off from work. They want to do lunch. They figure since I work from home, that I can just drop everything. Um, no. They just don't get it. They get paid for their time off. I don't.
OMG. THIS!!! Esp since they have no idea. I'm just like nope, don't have time. But they think I do because they have an idea of my other work schedule. I really need to make up some bullshit, but I hate lying to people, and having to remember all the bull. It's just easier not to deal with anyone. Bitch hermit here for sure.

moneygoddess
12-26-2015, 04:38 PM
I love being a bitch hermit so much that I don't even cam, I just do voice overs and affiliate marketing. If it weren't for the kids I'd probably never ever leave the house. Just a few more years and I'll be able to go rent a little secluded place where no one will ever go and sit outside at night by myself with my two big dogs and a glock by my side and listen to the coyotes howl. Just leave the presents and money at the door and leave me the hell alone. *smile*

ebonee
12-26-2015, 09:55 PM
It's Saturday night and I keep trying to figure out why everyone keeps asking me what I'm doing tonight lmao it's happening . I think I'm starting to disconnect a lil from the world .... Oh well more cam time means more cash in my pockets

EllieGold
12-27-2015, 11:25 PM
I feel so isolated these days from friends and family. I just communicate with my husband and kids these days and that's about it. I hardly get out to have fun. :-/

I have honestly come a far long way. in 2010 I had severe anxiety. I couldn't leave the house without suffering severe panic attacks. I would hyperventilate and stay in my room hours on end. I just couldn't handle anything. This is why I started working from home in the first place. I want to find work again outside the house but just can't. I still get a bit anxious, but its nowhere near as bad as it used to be.

I would say that camming also saved me in a way of income wise. I finally don't have to suffer making minimum wage. It's great but it comes at a cost. Who also agrees that working from home becomes so isolating? I made enough money this month I had a little left over, but realized I didn't have anyone to go out with...how lame, ha. I need some retail therapy once the madness of the holidays is over.

Glamourmilf
12-28-2015, 10:47 AM
That episode I talked about above, left me so drained yesterday.
Even after a great night's sleep, I woke up tired, and headachy.:-[
I was planning on camming last night after the fb games, but I wasn't up to it.
Anyone else feel listless the day after an anxiety attack?

Issabelle
12-28-2015, 11:08 AM
When's the last time I left the house? Family Christmas party? Does that actually count? Um...before that? Days, maybe a week and a half. Oops.

Amazon is just so much better than actually going and buying shampoo though!

Glamourmilf
12-31-2015, 10:19 AM
A friend called and asked if I want to drive out to Pasedena and go to the Rose Parade tomorrow. #BiggestNightmare
Sure, and while I'm there, why not stick a hot poker up my ass?:O

Staples
12-31-2015, 10:46 AM
I get cabin fever too bad. I HAVE to get out of the house once a day or I go nuts. Even if it's just a walk to the gas station around the corner.

Glamourmilf
12-31-2015, 03:59 PM
I get cabin fever too bad. I HAVE to get out of the house once a day or I go nuts. Even if it's just a walk to the gas station around the corner.

I know what You mean. When I lived in an apartment on a floor that was high up above the street, I used to get cabin fever almost everyday. I had to go out for a walk, or something.
But since I live in a house now, I just open my door, and I'm outside by my pool.
It really makes a difference.
I just hate dealing with crowds of people that always seem to migrate to me whenever I'm out, and I go anywhere.
I think living in a city with over 10 million people for so long, really did a number on me.

Glamourmilf
05-15-2016, 12:13 PM
Wore these to the supermarket yesterday, combined with earplugs. I was too tired from a full week of camming to deal with the noise there which I knew would be loud, being a Saturday afternoon and all.
It was my first time wearing them out.
What a Godsend for an HSP like myself! They weren't attached to anything . I bought them at the dollar store.. They're actually the kind that baggage handlers at the airport use.
Ah, the sound of silence.
Do any of my bitch hermit sisters ever wear headphones and you go places that u know will be too loud?
44945

Mare
05-15-2016, 02:35 PM
I' getting sucked farther and farther down the rabbit hole. I've realized that I love to get out once in awhile. But it costs me $$$$. I'd rather be home making $$$ or $$ or $ than dealing with other people.

Melyssax
05-29-2016, 11:19 PM
Totallyyyyyyyy me (=

Glamourmilf
11-15-2016, 11:05 PM
Bump,.... for Jack Alexander.:bump:

kortneykay
11-16-2016, 08:08 PM
Man... feeling very bitchy and hermity, lately :D I've left the house Once or twice this week to go to the gym and grab gas, and groceries. It's all good. I like hibernating for months, and then jetting off somewhere for a few weeks for a change of scenery and a lil vacay.

kinkydirtybitch
11-17-2016, 08:00 AM
Wore these to the supermarket yesterday, combined with earplugs. I was too tired from a full week of camming to deal with the noise there which I knew would be loud, being a Saturday afternoon and all.
It was my first time wearing them out.
What a Godsend for an HSP like myself! They weren't attached to anything . I bought them at the dollar store.. They're actually the kind that baggage handlers at the airport use.
Ah, the sound of silence.
Do any of my bitch hermit sisters ever wear headphones and you go places that u know will be too loud?
44945

I do. Fellow HSP & headphones double as a "fuck off can't hear so don't bother" sign. Misophonia is particularly common in HSP's so we do what we can.

Let's face it, EVERYWHERE is too loud for HSP's and my "bat hearing" as my husband calls it. Try being a raw vegan HSP. The SAD at least provides some emotional insulation!