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simone87
08-26-2013, 02:07 PM
I would never want to marry someone who wanted/demanded to be taken care of.
well that's fine for you, different people want different things. but i assure you, there are many men out there will are willing to support and protect their women. both parties should take care of each other, maybe in different ways.
damn right you man should be taking care of you and wanting the best for you if he's getting your pussy.
a good man should want to do that for his family, as long as his woman treats him well and appreciates him
lemiwinks31
08-26-2013, 02:16 PM
there is a big difference between wanting what is best for each other, and one party demanding to be financially taken care of by the other.
Obviously I realize that this is my opinion and different people want and need different things.
As long as it is working for you, everyone is happy, right.
Kellydancer
08-26-2013, 03:26 PM
I think some people get confused and equate marrying for money and marrying a man who expects to be supported financially as the opposite and this isn't true. Just because some of us will not marry for money doesn't mean we are open to marrying a man who is a mooch. It's NOT the same thing. I would never marry a man who didn't work, but the thing is I don't expect him to support me either. I can take care of myself and there is no reason why women can't do this. Men aren't here just to financially support women anymore. BOTH should be supporting each other financially, emotionally etc.
Btw this idea that men should be paying for the honor of dating or having sex or whatever should stay in the strip clubs. Yes men in the clubs (or hiring escorts or camming) are paying with the idea of getting whatever he desires in return. In real life though life doesn't work that way. What ends up happening is the man becomes resentful then figures he will do it in return or he decides never to date or things like that, which ends up hurting other women.
I am actually ashamed of some of the comments in this thread. I don't know what kinds of morals many of you were raised with but my parents always installed a sense of pride and working hard. They always told me never to depend on anyone else. It's one thing if it is later decided one of the people will stay home to raise kids but that is something unrelated to what people are talking about because both are providing something. However when dating or marrying, sorry but no one is that special to demand a man pay them for pussy because then it makes the woman nothing more than a prostitute. Nothing wrong with being a prostitute but that's what it is.
simone87
08-26-2013, 03:37 PM
there is a huge difference between not being able to support yourself and wanting to mary a man who can/is willing to take care of you when you need it. i'm just fine on my own, but if i'm with a man i want a man. if i wanted a roommate i would get one.
Kellydancer
08-26-2013, 04:59 PM
I see nothing wrong with the other person willing to help support the other when they need it but it should go both ways. If I lose my job I want him to help me out and likewise I will with him. That's different though than someone saying "I"m a woman therefore he should always support me but I don't have to".
cherryblossomsinspring
08-26-2013, 06:12 PM
there is a huge difference between not being able to support yourself and wanting to mary a man who can/is willing to take care of you when you need it. i'm just fine on my own, but if i'm with a man i want a man. if i wanted a roommate i would get one.
Exactly the 50/50 plan isn't something I'll ever do. Once I break even then I mine as well call him "the roommate I screw "because that's exactly how it would feel to me. What I always feel is kinda funny is that the man with that extra disposable income that he now has thanks to his "fuckable roomie" is now being spent on a woman he feels deserves it. Go figure.
simone87
08-26-2013, 06:19 PM
^ exactly. it comes down to..if a man really loves you and cares for you, he will WANT to support and care for you. men and women are wired differently, yes are equal as human beings, but we are different. its like the girl who said that its ok to pay for the first date or else you are a kept woman. okkk
and the whole " we are equals now, men don't have to pay" please..please..please.. because that's a huge crock of shit, in society's/employers eyes we are still not. so don't use that to excuse shitty boyfriends.
Kellydancer
08-27-2013, 12:23 AM
^ exactly. it comes down to..if a man really loves you and cares for you, he will WANT to support and care for you. men and women are wired differently, yes are equal as human beings, but we are different. its like the girl who said that its ok to pay for the first date or else you are a kept woman. okkk
and the whole " we are equals now, men don't have to pay" please..please..please.. because that's a huge crock of shit, in society's/employers eyes we are still not. so don't use that to excuse shitty boyfriends.
The whole equal pay situation is a topic that really upsets me tremendously because yes women are discriminated against. However that's not because of wiring but rather because most of today's CEO's are white older men raised in an era where women were little more than property to some extent. I believe as more and more CEO's are women and minorities and from Gen X and Y we will see more pay equality.
That aside I do have a problem with a man not paying for a first date. Honestly if a man doesn't pay on a first date he either thinks of the woman as a possible FWB or isn't into her. Once a relationship develops, no it's not fair to only have the man pay for dates, especially if the woman works as well. Obviously it depends on what they both do for a living but if a man makes more then I see no problem for him paying for most of the dates.
Once I get married I will not expect him to pay the majority of the bills because I got a career to support myself. I can't say the bills will be 50/50 because things change, like one of us could get sick or lose a job or be promoted. I don't think it is fair if he paid the majority of the bills simply because he is a man.
I will admit though at times the idea of using men has entered my mind but I immediately realize it is wrong. I should share something that happened yesterday when the one guy I like was at an event as was I and I was getting hungry and had no money. It crossed my mind to ask him to buy me dinner until I remembered I was going home around that time anyway. I'm sure he would have as he is a nice guy (and apparently does like me) but when I told my mom this she was angry I even considered this as it would be using him. Now when we do go on a date soon I will expect him to pay and I know he will because he is a gentleman.
DonaDiabla
08-27-2013, 12:30 AM
Well said. It's funny how much you may actually put up with when you're in that " can't live without you love" phase. It's actually debilitating. I feel that after I got away from said "type of relationships" I realized I was best in relationships where there more companionship+ friendship+ we both have something the other wants, alot in common and a love of the person. It was a different type of emotional connection to the person that I wasn't used to but the relationship lasted alot longer than the ones that burn hot and cool just as fast.
So that is also another reason why marrying for comfort ie wealth makes sense to me. It's not that a love can't be there it's just not that "I can't live with you love". I used to love being in love like that. It would leave me dreamy for hours to the point a whole day would end and I realized I hadn't gotten anything else accomplished. I don't like being out of control of my own mind like that. It's actually terrifying when you've really just become a love zombie. ahaha .
Also the couples that get together in the " can't live without you love" , when one falls out of that deep want, need desire they end up having a hatred for their partner. It's like ugg I can't stand "her/him" being around. Not sure why but all of a sudden it seems that little things seem to bug and annoy the person that no longer wants to be there. Maybe I'm reading into this too much but sometimes thinking about yourself and your needs and being fair in making sure another persons needs are being met leaves some common comfort and common ground. How can you not love someone that is on fair footing with you?
I'm more attracted to men that think about what they can offer rather than trying to convince me on what they desire shouldn't cost them anything for me to give it. You can usually tell right away which man that is.
I really like your post :)
brownsugardoll
08-27-2013, 03:23 AM
I want to follow my mother foot steps regarding her marrying my father. She met my father in her 20's and he was in his 50's. He impressed her with his old school Cadillac cars, houses, spoil her with lavish gifts, and trips. He was not the kind of man to be jerk with money. So, I can see why my mother fell in love with him because he was willing to do his role as man provide luxury and treated my mother like a Queen. I want to marry a man that's well financial stable and treats me tender along with me being caring in return to him. No, I don't expect always a fairytale ending, but I don't want too troublesome marriage.
nantiabrown
08-27-2013, 03:51 AM
I wouldnt suggest you this , because after you get married most possible the husband will cut you the sponsoring....
nantiabrown
08-27-2013, 03:52 AM
she was ever happy?or did she ever love him? I think is unfair from your site even if hes ok.
LaurenAus
08-27-2013, 11:44 AM
Have you ever dated for money? I have a "sugardaddy" and it's exhausting. That's how I know I probably couldn't marry only for money, but people have different degrees of tolerance I guess.
Kellydancer
08-27-2013, 11:51 AM
^^^
I know a lot of women (mostly strippers, models and other women like that)who dated strictly for money. If both are on board I see nothing wrong. The man provides the money and the woman provides her beauty. I sort of had a situation like that where this one guy (a regular)would pay me several hundred a week to escort him to events or just come over to hang out. No sex was involved and he did it because he was a CEO and going through a divorce. I knew it would be a short thing so I wasn't upset when it ended but it lasted a few years. I dated other men as well because it was strictly a business transaction.
Have you ever dated for money? I have a "sugardaddy" and it's exhausting. That's how I know I probably couldn't marry only for money, but people have different degrees of tolerance I guess.
Yes, I have had several sugar daddies, most of which I could not stand but its the game I love,(tehe). Could I marry this type, hell no but I have had one, maybe two who I actually kind of liked, I even thought about them when they were out of town, etc and could I marry this type, yes. The type I like is the type that genuinely wants to do for me and is interesting. Just like people, most may be the same but there is always an exception to the rule.(once in a very rare while)
The_Ecdysiast
09-04-2013, 08:25 AM
This.
And I think it is phenomenal that you met the type of man you did. To me, that is the kind of man I desire for myself.
I think that if you are going to marry for money, you need to at least have a certain affection for the person. I believe in many types of love. A totally loveless marriage will always eventually fail. I believe a person needs to be best friends with the person they marry.
*Is this person a wonderful travel companion?
Why go on vacation to a great spot if you have to go alone or be bored because they are wanting to do nothing you want to do.
*Are they willing to pay for things to improve your life?
It may be school, wine tastings, gallery shows, even plastic surgery, but it you absolutely want to do it you should have the opporitunity.
*Does he treat you right?
Money doesn't mean he can hit or verbally abuse someone. If children become involved this rings even more true.
*Are you on the same page with procreating?
He may want tons of kids and you want non,e or the other way around. If you aren't totally a nurturing type, is he willing to get a nanny to help out?
My SO and I got together when he was working part time at Wal Mart, but I knew he had potential because he takes after his father. (His father literally worked his way from the bottom of the factory totem pole to being the COO.) We had the agreement (as soon as we became serious) that as soon as he had money, I was staying home. We both had the 1950's idea stuck in our heads. While he isn't rich now, he is in a position to double his income in the next 10 years. Right now we are comfortable and I CHOOSE to work. He pays all of our bills. We go on mini vacations when we have a sitter. He WANTS me to get mani/pedis every 2 weeks. He was even going to buy me a BA and lift for Mother's Day until I got pregnant again. In return, I take care of paying bills, care for the house and children, and make sure he has dinner ready when he gets home (most nights).
If something were to happen to him, I'm not above marring for money. Only if the above criteria are met though. I want my children to be taken care of, but I would also like to enjoy it.
KatGrrl
09-08-2013, 05:16 PM
Just because someone marries for money doesn't mean they hate the person or don't get along. You could marry for money and still get along or perhaps even like the person. A friendship marriage is probably better than a romantic one anyway, because romance fades. It always does. Honestly, no one stays in love and attracted to their partner for their entire lives anyway. You go through phases in LTRs.
And just because you marry for money doesn't mean that you don't have any skills. Plus, if you're smart enough to land marrying for money, chances are you stashed some away or you're attractive enough to go (back?) to sexwork if you need a job.
^ This is why I'm on Stripperweb.^ Some ladies just get exactly what you're thinking and manage to articulate it so perfectly. So, thanks :)
BlondebombGA
09-08-2013, 08:39 PM
Eta: I'm award that it is a gold-digger scape out mentality. But for me, I didn't want my child to have to live with the consequences of the poor decisions *I * have made in life.
I'm that kid. My Mom was encouraged by my Grandfather to do this because she was beautiful and could. My life lesson from this piss poor decision was to NEVER depend on someone else for your financial well being because it is not worth it. Money=control. Sure I can look at it as it was in past centuries and in old money families now that it is a business contract, because marriage is in a lot of ways, but growing up in a house hold with 2 people who got married for the wrong reasons and all the sh*t that comes with that has definitely come with negative consequences for my intimate relationships. To be blunt it was hell and f*cked me up royally about partnerships. Even my own Mom instilled in me to always be self sufficient if that tells you anything.
And as happens everyday men with money can quickly become men with no money.
sandraflirt
09-21-2013, 02:23 PM
YOLO lol do it you can always divorce lol then go for the love marriage next lol
rickdugan
09-22-2013, 07:53 AM
A woman is by no means unequal simply because she factors a man's earning ability into the equation, nor is she necessarily demanding to be taken care of. This is especially true when children are involved. My wife spent almost half of our first several years together pregnant and for all but the first year she also had babies to nurture. None of this would have been possible if I could not earn enough to support the house and pay for the medical and other expenses involved with the birth of 3 kids. She has done a fantastic job training and caring for our children, including beginning their educations long before formal schooling. My elementary school girl is the top student in her private school class and I give my wife most of the credit for that. Taking great care of three children and our home is definitely a full time job. She is also serves on fundraising and other committees for our oldest daughter's school and is active in other charitable drives. Net-net she is a truly remarkable woman and the fact that she does not work outside the home does not detract from that.
And anyone who thinks that the husband holds all the power in this type of situation is sadly mistaken. With 3 children and my wife not working outside the home for 8 years, she would take me to the cleaners should she ever decide to divorce me. Unlike the jobless numbnuts that are all too often the topic of baby daddy discussions around here, guys who earn well normally cannot escape being held accountable as their income is easy to track and verify.
Now I'm not saying that she married me just for money. We are not a mismatched couple in terms of age, looks, education, etc. But you better believe that earning potential factored into her decision making process and I don't blame her one bit.
Anyway, just my thoughts on the topic.
DonaDiabla
09-22-2013, 03:29 PM
A woman is by no means unequal simply because she factors a man's earning ability into the equation, nor is she necessarily demanding to be taken care of. This is especially true when children are involved. My wife spent almost half of our first several years together pregnant and for all but the first year she also had babies to nurture. None of this would have been possible if I could not earn enough to support the house and pay for the medical and other expenses involved with the birth of 3 kids. She has done a fantastic job training and caring for our children, including beginning their educations long before formal schooling. My elementary school girl is the top student in her private school class and I give my wife most of the credit for that. Taking great care of three children and our home is definitely a full time job. She is also serves on fundraising and other committees for our oldest daughter's school and is active in other charitable drives. Net-net she is a truly remarkable woman and the fact that she does not work outside the home does not detract from that.
And anyone who thinks that the husband holds all the power in this type of situation is sadly mistaken. With 3 children and my wife not working outside the home for 8 years, she would take me to the cleaners should she ever decide to divorce me. Unlike the jobless numbnuts that are all too often the topic of baby daddy discussions around here, guys who earn well normally cannot escape being held accountable as their income is easy to track and verify.
Now I'm not saying that she married me just for money. We are not a mismatched couple in terms of age, looks, education, etc. But you better believe that earning potential factored into her decision making process and I don't blame her one bit.
Anyway, just my thoughts on the topic.
I agree with you completely.:D
GlamourRouge
09-22-2013, 11:56 PM
You know what's bizarro? I feel like the absence of love (from my side, at least) is actually what allows me to be more assertive within my relationship. I actually feel so much more vulnerable when I really like someone.
If I get married, I actually kind of... want what you have ^^^. LMAO. Because I know if I married for love, it would end really ugly at some point.
Kellydancer
09-23-2013, 10:38 AM
A woman is by no means unequal simply because she factors a man's earning ability into the equation, nor is she necessarily demanding to be taken care of. This is especially true when children are involved. My wife spent almost half of our first several years together pregnant and for all but the first year she also had babies to nurture. None of this would have been possible if I could not earn enough to support the house and pay for the medical and other expenses involved with the birth of 3 kids. She has done a fantastic job training and caring for our children, including beginning their educations long before formal schooling. My elementary school girl is the top student in her private school class and I give my wife most of the credit for that. Taking great care of three children and our home is definitely a full time job. She is also serves on fundraising and other committees for our oldest daughter's school and is active in other charitable drives. Net-net she is a truly remarkable woman and the fact that she does not work outside the home does not detract from that.
And anyone who thinks that the husband holds all the power in this type of situation is sadly mistaken. With 3 children and my wife not working outside the home for 8 years, she would take me to the cleaners should she ever decide to divorce me. Unlike the jobless numbnuts that are all too often the topic of baby daddy discussions around here, guys who earn well normally cannot escape being held accountable as their income is easy to track and verify.
Now I'm not saying that she married me just for money. We are not a mismatched couple in terms of age, looks, education, etc. But you better believe that earning potential factored into her decision making process and I don't blame her one bit.
Anyway, just my thoughts on the topic.
Here's the thing though and that's nor really the same. I do think people (both people actually)should look at the financial aspects of anyone they plan to marry. I know I would never marry a man I had to support (and yes this is partly why I will NEVER date a man with kids). I do get frustrated with the women here who are supporting a man and many are also doing the housework as well. I am a big believer though in women being educated and for all women to be able to support themselves even if they are stay at home moms. I have a friend who is going through a divorce now and because she has been out of the workforce for years she is basically considered unemployable and is going back to college to train for something useful. In the meantime though she had to move home and her ex has the kids. That's a different subject though than strictly marrying someone just for money as a few here mentioned.
rickdugan
09-24-2013, 06:31 AM
I have a friend who is going through a divorce now and because she has been out of the workforce for years she is basically considered unemployable and is going back to college to train for something useful. In the meantime though she had to move home and her ex has the kids.
I'm not sure I really get all of this Kelly. How was she not able to maintain custody and obtain decent support payments? How much education does she really need for basic employment? How is she ok with being away from her kids?
Idk Kelly, but it sounds like there is a lot more to this girl's story.
Kellydancer
09-24-2013, 11:22 AM
I'm not sure I really get all of this Kelly. How was she not able to maintain custody and obtain decent support payments? How much education does she really need for basic employment? How is she ok with being away from her kids?
Idk Kelly, but it sounds like there is a lot more to this girl's story.
My friend is basically unemployable because she has been out of the workforce for 10 years. She was an admin but with the changes in technology (she used a typewriter)she can't find a job like that. She was working in a store but that store went out of business. Her husband is supposed to be paying her alimony and child support but isn't. Because she moved back with her parents her husband kept the house and the kids.
BellaK
09-24-2013, 01:30 PM
I totally would!
Jasmine.Doll
09-24-2013, 01:54 PM
I would be scared to marry for money or even to marry someone I loved who was going to support me. Shit happens. If we divorced, I'd hate to be in a position where I had to quickly find a way to support myself/kids whatever. But, I have major trust issues. And I really value my independence. Couldn't be a kept woman, even in the best of circumstances.
Jasmine.Doll
09-24-2013, 01:59 PM
Maybe I could do an Anna Nicole--marry someone filthy rich, on the brink of death. Although that didn't seem to work out well for her... On second thought, maybe I wouldn't do that either.
summerbre
09-24-2013, 03:01 PM
Everyone's opinions here are awesome - this was a fun discussion to read, and I totally see both sides. I really enjoyed reading everyone's perspectives, especially about how "love" itself can be dangerous and erratic.
From the perspective of someone who is *somewhat* of a commitment-phobe, not just in relationships but in big life decisions like signing a long term lease, selecting a college to attend, moving to a new city, relinquishing 40 hours of my week to a 9-5 job, RSVPing for friends' far off weddings, booking flights ahead of time (OK now that I'm thinking of all of these things, maybe I should try therapy again. I swear, I'm working through it, it's just taking time!)... The most important thing in my life is my freedom. To do what I want, when I want to do it.
Aside from covering the bare necessities like food/transport/home, money is valuable to me because it affords me freedom. When it comes to lifestyle choices, I live happily as a minimalist - I don't chase that "new stuff" buzz, and will live alone and content in a 400 sq. ft. studio or in a hotel/hostel on the road. If I were ever financially lacking enough to consider marrying for money, it would be a catch-22 with no easy solution, because to me, that sort of marriage would involve relinquishing the freedom I have as an independent, self-sustaining individual to go where I want, when I want, with whomever I want, for however long I want - and at that point, what good is hubby's money to a bird in a cage?
I realize this will all change as I get older, and would DEFINITELY be different now if I had children to support. But right now, I'd no sooner take a job as a corporate wage slave than I would marry for money. Then again, I wouldn't walk down the aisle for love right now, either. I might consider an open relationship for frequent flyer miles, however. :)
rickdugan
09-24-2013, 03:44 PM
Her husband is supposed to be paying her alimony and child support but isn't.
Then why didn't she drag his as back to court? A simple contempt of court hearing would have taken care of that.
Kellydancer
09-24-2013, 06:58 PM
I'm not sure why she hasn't, but I think part of it is their divorce isn't finalized because he is dragging his feet. I told her to sue him for alimony and child support.
dancersrights
01-28-2014, 01:33 AM
nothing wrong with it, but could you be happy in it?
jack0177057
01-28-2014, 09:46 AM
I'm not going to say you should not marry for money, but I don't think you should marry JUST for money. Despite whatever you think now, you will not be happy in the long run if you marry someone you don't really care for, just because of the size of his bank account. A rich guy is not stupid (unless he is the stupid son of a genius father). If you marry him only for money, he knows it, and he will treat you as such, like one of the other disposable assets he has collected. You'd be better off as a high-class call girl than being married to (and sexually servicing on a regular basis) someone you have no attraction to whatsoever. At least the high-class call girl is independent and gets to travel all over the world without asking anyone for permission, and she is always appreciated.
On the other hand, you can find a guy that has money and that also has other characteristics that interest and stimulate you. If he is rich and attractive, then you've got it made... If he is not attractive, maybe something else... like, if he is a musician and you love his music;... or he is a business genius with a very interesting business (night clubs, high-end restaurants, high-tech, upscale retail, etc.), and you love to learn about the business and become involved in it. If you are patient, you can find a guy that has money AND has something else to offer.
DonaDiabla
01-28-2014, 02:16 PM
I'm not going to say you should not marry for money, but I don't think you should marry JUST for money. Despite whatever you think now, you will not be happy in the long run if you marry someone you don't really care for, just because of the size of his bank account. A rich guy is not stupid (unless he is the stupid son of a genius father). If you marry him only for money, he knows it, and he will treat you as such, like one of the other disposable assets he has collected. You'd be better off as a high-class call girl than being married to (and sexually servicing on a regular basis) someone you have no attraction to whatsoever. At least the high-class call girl is independent and gets to travel all over the world without asking anyone for permission, and she is always appreciated.
On the other hand, you can find a guy that has money and that also has other characteristics that interest and stimulate you. If he is rich and attractive, then you've got it made... If he is not attractive, maybe something else... like, if he is a musician and you love his music;... or he is a business genius with a very interesting business (night clubs, high-end restaurants, high-tech, upscale retail, etc.), and you love to learn about the business and become involved in it. If you are patient, you can find a guy that has money AND has something else to offer.
Jack0177057, This is your opinion to not marry for money but I respected it :). Frankly, I found romantic love is just not great for someone like me .However, when I first start this thread....I forgot to include getting married to man with money but we also would like the same things or at least have the same interest. I was thinking more on the lines of having a deep friendship with a well-to-do man and we get married out of convenience .But I could get married to a man that I am not attracted because I see no difference between being a high-class call girl or marrying for money. The hustle is different just like marrying a man just for citizenship or benefits reasons are all different hustles. Attraction is subjective because I could be attracted to a man's body and not his mind. In addition, it is also a cultural thing and many women in the Caribbean have married or gone out with men for different reasons besides love. In fact, not only did my parents or grandparents or great-grandparents be together for other reasons besides romantic love but they had loyalty, trust, and other things that are well wonderful things .I do agree with your last statements as I was thinking of more along the lines of marriage of convenience with a handsome well-to-do man. In fact, I was going to enter into this type of marriage but the guy died half-way through the arrangement and his mother did not have any other children. I attend to her before she leave for her home country as I believe in total loyalty and friendship :) Thank you for a thought-provoking post :)
jack0177057
01-28-2014, 03:43 PM
^ I think we're both on the same page then. I did not say not to marry for money, but don't choose based ONLY on money. Look for a "package deal" with other attributes,... its out there. If romantic love is not your thing, then the "package" might consist of other things - like sharing interest or complementing each other in some way (business, emotional, spiritual, etc.)
For me, the question might be: Would I marry a girl only for her amazing looks (or for the best sex I've ever had). Being a very visual and sensual person with a supersized-libido, I might make this number one on my list of priorities and some would call it shallow, but fuck it. A hot body that is well taken care of may last longer than romantic bliss (average life span of romantic bliss: 2 years; hot body can last well into early 40s if the woman is seriously dedicated to maintaining her shape --- LOL). Having pointed out my #1 priority, I want to have something I can say to her during those short periods when we are not having sex.
Rhiiannon
01-28-2014, 06:19 PM
I would marry for reasons unrelated to love, like for citizenship or some other sort of convenience thing. I know that's technically illegal, but if it helped someone out who was willing to work hard in America (or if I married someone of a foreign country to do the same), I don't think it's wrong. I'm just helping them along.
So yeah, I would marry for money. But since money marriage is more long term than a simple "marry me for citizenship or some other convenience", I would make sure to love the guy at least. I want true love in my life, rich or poor. Okay, I sound sappy. But yeah.
sheshe
02-01-2014, 01:06 AM
If you are happy with that then fine.
Like you said you been thinking about that ever since you were young so if that is what you really want, i don't see anything wrong with that.
Lots of women actually do that, not just those poor ones. Sometimes there are women who are not poor but still marry for money ( even some models or celebrities do that)
Sabihah
02-01-2014, 05:49 PM
I would marry for reasons unrelated to love, like for citizenship or some other sort of convenience thing. I know that's technically illegal, but if it helped someone out who was willing to work hard in America (or if I married someone of a foreign country to do the same), I don't think it's wrong. I'm just helping them along.
I would totally do this, assuming the person was at least likable and trustworthy. You've got to remember that you're still committing to several years of very careful management of both of your lives to ensure that everything - your email and phone conversations, your finances, etc. - corroborate the perception that it's not just a "green card marriage." And if you get caught, the penalties for you will be much more severe than for him: he'll get deported, and you could end up with up to 5 years in prison or $250,000 in fines (in the U.S.).
DonaDiabla
02-01-2014, 06:48 PM
I would totally do this, assuming the person was at least likable and trustworthy. You've got to remember that you're still committing to several years of very careful management of both of your lives to ensure that everything - your email and phone conversations, your finances, etc. - corroborate the perception that it's not just a "green card marriage." And if you get caught, the penalties for you will be much more severe than for him: he'll get deported, and you could end up with up to 5 years in prison or $250,000 in fines (in the U.S.).
Sabihah, it could be done with the right person but you are corrected when you talk about the fines. At one magical time, you could get the dude to buy you tons of stuff including a house or a car. But after 2006, this type of hustle changed because of the foreign men such as men from Africa, Asia, and the Middle East totally wanting to give 5,000 for the whole thing and women accepting that. Then they wanted you to bring over their wives as well by running another scam :( Not only that, people was calling in on each and other stuff that ruin the underground industry. Not only that "matchmakers" would be trying to find you the ugliest trolls that you ever seen with bad table manners or hot guys who are culture shocked plus can not speak English. I mean one Indian "matchmaker" gave me 500 dollars just to talk to the guy and see if we were a match. The guy he found was so hot yet he could not speak any English or no other European language.I hate that times have changed so much :( because it was cool in the 80s to the early 2000s. You can still do with a Latin-American guy but they pay cheap like 2500 to 5000 but it is safe to avoid this at all cost.