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audritwo
09-15-2013, 01:31 PM
Camming has taught me...
That I can talk dirty.
That I am an interesting person.
That I'm fucking beautiful. Goodbye body dysmorphia. I can look in a mirror now without crying and believe my partner when he tell me how beautiful I am.
I really do hate most straight men.

maryjaynexo
09-15-2013, 04:21 PM
Camming has taught me that I should never give a fuck what other people think, and thankfully, I'm starting to put that into practice in my everyday life.

audritwo
09-16-2013, 11:04 AM
Camming has also taught me how to twerk. Someone told me to shake my butt and I twerked. :3

astridorbital
09-16-2013, 11:25 AM
Camming has taught me to demand my worth in a world that constantly trying to tell me I don't have a right to.

Thymian
09-16-2013, 08:45 PM
Camming has also taught me how to twerk. Someone told me to shake my butt and I twerked. :3

Me too! I went to a free twerking class at a local dance studio for a lark thinking I'd never be able to pick it up. But then I was like, oh, this is it? I do this every night on cam.

It was funny because I do not look like someone who'd know how to twerk but some of the moves had people struggling to get it and the instructor would look over at me and say, "That's it!" I wanted to say, "Don't ask me how I know this!" LMAO.

MellyMay
09-20-2013, 01:35 PM
This goes back to when i was fetish modeling pre-camming days, but ESPECIALLY now with camming:

I have learned that my social norms are drastically different from many of my friends. What might seem harmless or funny to me can make my [vanilla] friend uncomfortable.
I am learning to RESPECT boundaries as opposed to always pushing them.

anonymous camgirl
09-21-2013, 06:58 AM
Yea I agree with you, About respecting others boundaries.. I grew up not to have any because I grew up in a very strict religious home where women were not to talk , think or have an opinion or any power over themselves.


This goes back to when i was fetish modeling pre-camming days, but ESPECIALLY now with camming:

I have learned that my social norms are drastically different from many of my friends. What might seem harmless or funny to me can make my [vanilla] friend uncomfortable.
I am learning to RESPECT boundaries as opposed to always pushing them.

shysara79
09-22-2013, 05:43 PM
Camming has taught me that there are even more FD up people in this world than I thought there were! I think the one that gets to me the most is the number of men that request age play type role plays. Scary shit... Keep your kids close to ya !

Jade62013
11-08-2013, 11:19 PM
1) That I'm way more attractive and worthy than I thought I was

2) That I'm way more lazy and lacking in self-discipline than I thought I was

3) That the world operates based on stereotypes. Racial stereotypes, gender stereotypes, stereotypes of sex workers, all kinds of stereotypes color my interactions with customers everyday...I feel like cam customers are more bluntly honest with us than most people are with other ppl in the "real world," I am just amazed that what comes out of these people's mouths...

4) That even the best job has its downsides

KarmaComa
11-08-2013, 11:28 PM
I've learned that even if you give some guys your pinky finger, they will try to take your whole harm. Be true to yourself, no amount of money is worth violating your boundaries.
I've also learned to check my asshole for stray toilet paper if I take a potty break during a shift. Both lessons were learned the hard way.

qwerty24
11-09-2013, 01:11 AM
Camming has taught me to ask people personal questions in order for them to like me more.

And that white lace always looks like crap after a couple of washes.

Alirox
03-14-2014, 01:18 PM
lol :D

anonymous camgirl
03-14-2014, 02:23 PM
How to be a bitch

Glamourmilf
03-14-2014, 02:31 PM
That the saying "Life will have its ups and downs", never pertained more than while camming. Literally, and figuratively!
That the more intelligent I come across on cam to men, the less money I make. The more I act like a brainless bimbo, the more money I make.

Busygirl
03-14-2014, 02:54 PM
Camming has taught me how to work hard.

Marina Starr
03-14-2014, 03:54 PM
Camming has taught me that if it's not in private or exclusive then it doesn't make sense!

mia_noxx
03-14-2014, 04:01 PM
1 men are assholes

2 i can be financially independent and make money without a degree and started 2 days after my 18th birthday

3 be more self confident

4 take better care of myself

5 figure out that my boyfriend was a jealous loser and dumping him was one of the best things i've ever done

chloemay
03-14-2014, 07:24 PM
That I have a big head- literally. Taking my wig off is relief equal to removing a tight underwire bra at the end of the day.

Natalie0523
03-14-2014, 07:47 PM
Camming has taught me…

…men and women love all different kinds of shapes, colors and sizes...my body is perfect just the way it is..and so is yours! ;)

…how to have more patience.

…to speak my mind a bit more.

Those are the ones I have for now =)

Natalie

smaddy
03-14-2014, 08:02 PM
Caming has taught me that a lot of guys don't have a f**ing clue how the female body works.

Example:
Me: (gets taken private)
Customer: Get naked BB
Me: (undresses gets into position)
Customer: Oh bb you look like your right about to cum.
Me: Uh no it takes me a few minutes

chloemay
03-14-2014, 08:05 PM
Caming has taught me that a lot of guys don't have a f**ing clue how the female body works.

Example:
Me: (gets taken private)
Customer: Get naked BB
Me: (undresses gets into position)
Customer: Oh bb you look like your right about to cum.
Me: Uh no it takes me a few minutes

I am laughing. So sad but true!

Sabihah
03-14-2014, 11:35 PM
#1: That my intellect, talent, and ability will simply not make more money for me than leveraging my physical attractiveness and body will. Sad, but true - and I won't be shedding any tears over it while I'm paying the bills by rolling around on my bed.

#2: Depending on the typical guy for validation - my standard holding pattern - makes just about as much sense as depending on a 6-year-old for advanced mathematical insights.

#3: Almost everyone will tell you what they think you want to hear: good folks, bad folks, and sometimes even yourself. The biggest advantage you can give yourself in this life is a healthy dose of skepticism.

#4: Forming a healthy relationship with yourself is a basic requirement for sanity. Sometimes I literally visualize the stronger part of myself reaching down to pull the rest of me up. Sometimes that strong, confident nugget is only a fraction of what's going on in my head - but I try to remember to find it every day.

#5: Most people will never be able to understand how you can be a beautiful, bright, talented person who makes her living doing sex work of any variety, but some people will respect - even be in awe of - your willingness to break free from the beaten path. More often than not, these people are also pursuing success and doing interesting things. Never let anyone stay in your life if they can't understand why you don't want to just settle down and become a dental assistant - or whatever.

The Scarlet Letter
03-14-2014, 11:42 PM
Camming has taught me to live within my means and the importance of a budget. Save up money on the good days, it'll be needed for the difficult ones to get by.

cherryblossomsinspring
03-15-2014, 01:43 AM
That some men are still clueless about how a woman's body works. This troubles me because those same men are out there fucking women and are lame in the sack!

Glamourmilf
03-15-2014, 05:54 AM
^^ So true, and doesn't it make perfect sense? Who is teaching a guy when he is grown, how to please a woman? Most of what he's getting is from porn.... Lord help us!
I only have slept with guys in their early 20's, and the ones who knew what to do, confessed they learned it from either their babysitters when they were a teen, or from an older woman.

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 06:24 AM
I hate some of the sexist shit going on in this thread... I mean, "Men are pigs?", etc. Seriously? Camming taught you disgust towards men? If camming reinforces and strengthens your sexism, imo that's pretty dangerous. If men said "Women are pigs", shit would hit the fan, but somehow, dissing men is fine. Double goddamn standard.

mia_noxx
03-15-2014, 07:21 AM
@incantatious... i'm not saying that men from cam are assholes... i knew how they work long before i've started camming. There was a time in my life when i was so lonely and depressed, i've added a member of mine on skype.. he was twice my age, from new orleans, and i thought we would be two comfy penpals (no sex or anything), and i would wake up at 4 am just to talk to him ( my timezone is 7 hours forward than usa), and he would just fantasize about bringing me in the US and marry me... it turned out that he had a wife and a kid, and just wanted a 3rd world pretty girl to show off pictures of his chrystler and motorcycle and oh-his-so-fabulous-carefree life.... i should have known better... but i was lonely and vulnerable, and a noob in life. and i'm never doing it again, i've lost all faith in men, and before, i saw them my knights in shiny armor... now they are just ATM machines... i don't regret it tho... this is how one builds up thick skin.

cherryblossomsinspring
03-15-2014, 10:34 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ob5KzB_EOqc

I think I'm addicted to this song! Especially the ending haha!

cherryblossomsinspring
03-15-2014, 10:39 AM
I hate some of the sexist shit going on in this thread... I mean, "Men are pigs?", etc. Seriously? Camming taught you disgust towards men? If camming reinforces and strengthens your sexism, imo that's pretty dangerous. If men said "Women are pigs", shit would hit the fan, but somehow, dissing men is fine. Double goddamn standard.

Incantatious listen to the song all the way through. It's also written by an all male band.

We already know songs that call women "bitches, hoes, whores, gold diggers, slags,cunts etc"and they make serious $$$ off of those songs and play them all over the radio and even in clubs.

That song is hilarious if you listen to it all the way through. Heheh:)

Glamourmilf
03-15-2014, 11:38 AM
^^ LOL! Good video. Those poor little piggies, being compared to men. Pigs are so cute, and lovable!

No, seriously, I think it's regional, because In my experience, English men are the best men ever, because when they are about to have an orgasm, instead of screaming, "I'm cumming!!", they quietly and politely say, "I'm arriving!". ;D Love them!

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 12:28 PM
I'm not necessarily just talking about the song, (though I'm guessing the title was the operative meaning of why it was posted in the first place, otherwise.. what the point?) but like.. is anyone else seeing this?? Plenty of women posted stuff about men that I'm just..
http://www.reactiongifs.com/r/Shocked.gif

But the thing that gets me? SO many women are saying how surprised they were how men love all kinds of body types, colours and weights.. Gahh.. I'm probably way outnumbered on this, so whatever.

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 12:31 PM
Incantatious listen to the song all the way through. It's also written by an all male band.

We already know songs that call women "bitches, hoes, whores, gold diggers, slags,cunts etc"and they make serious $$$ off of those songs and play them all over the radio and even in clubs.

That song is hilarious if you listen to it all the way through. Heheh:)

I agree. The song is meant to be a tongue-in-cheek joke. Very subtle.

I am not going to deny that there is a whole lot of unnecessary man-hating that goes on around Stripperweb. It is just in this case, it is just an understandable misunderstanding.

P.S. cherryblossomsinspring, I am completely addicted to this song too. So much so that it is on m work playlist. ;)

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 12:51 PM
Camming has taught me that the camgirl profession has a lot in common with the nursing profession.

If you read through nursing forums you will see that they deal with a lot of the same issues that camgirl do. All they are trying to do is to make the person they are caring for feel better and a lot of the time those people they are just trying to make life easier for are so hostile towards them that they end up feeling discarded and used.

It is a major challenge for many of them to be able to separate the behaviour of a bunch of individuals with the behaviour of all people in general.

I can think of several times in my life that I have had to deal with horrid, bitter and burned out nurses who treated me like garbage because so many other patients had treated them like garbage before me. One pretty much left me in mind-numbing pain because she couldn't be bothered to show me any empathy as it would slow down her ability to keep pace with her work load.

I have also had a couple of nurses who were completely angels and whispered into my ear that it was going to be alright while I cried out and sobbed in pain.

It would be SO easy for me to say that all nurses suck because I've had 90% more bad nurses then good ones but it would also be disrespectful to those 2 nurses who were there when I needed them most. ;)

AliceFun
03-15-2014, 01:10 PM
^^^ Soo true, these are stressy professions, camming & nursing & some others where work with the public is involved; some people get bitter in time, too much stress, pressure, people often feel they taken advantage of by customers, patients, etc, in time they loose enthusiasm but it's up to everyone's character/ personality to just decide to be a bitch & dont care anymore or stay enthusiastic & get hurt or give up & do something else. Often people just cant give up on work so they carry on & do what they can.

ETA: regarding men being pigs, they always were, are & will be pigs, more or less, it's in their DNA, they will do anything & everything to get laid. Of course there are amazing men out there, i have respect for a bunch of men in know IRL & i appreciate when men show their nice good sides.

With cam work, we get in contact with their 'dark side' unfortunately, after a while u start to believe all men are like this. Same like in a hospital or jail, seeing sick people always or dangerous people like in jail u start to think all people are sick or most guys are criminals, etc, it's the profession that is creating a biased view.

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 02:27 PM
ETA: regarding men being pigs, they always were, are & will be pigs, more or less, it's in their DNA, they will do anything & everything to get laid. Of course there are amazing men out there, i have respect for a bunch of men in know IRL & i appreciate when men show their nice good sides.

"Women were, are, and always will be pigs, more or less, it's in their DNA..." IDK woah - can you imagine people saying this about women and it being all cool...? This is what I feel just ain't right. You can say yeah, there are women you respect, etc, after saying that, but still, stating that there is just something inherently dreadful / bad / negative about a gender because "it's in their DNA".. It is sexism.


With cam work, we get in contact with their 'dark side' unfortunately, after a while u start to believe all men are like this. Same like in a hospital or jail, seeing sick people always or dangerous people like in jail u start to think all people are sick or most guys are criminals, etc, it's the profession that is creating a biased view.

I do get this, however.. But surely not all your clients are bad? And you see good people, too? Like guys who tip "just because"? Not all of them are bad.

AliceFun
03-15-2014, 02:39 PM
Then i will rephrase it, "Some men are pigs".

chloemay
03-15-2014, 02:44 PM
"Women were, are, and always will be pigs, more or less, it's in their DNA..." IDK woah - can you imagine people saying this about women and it being all cool...? This is what I feel just ain't right. You can say yeah, there are women you respect, etc, after saying that, but still, stating that there is just something inherently dreadful / bad / negative about a gender because "it's in their DNA".. It is sexism.



I do get this, however.. But surely not all your clients are bad? And you see good people, too? Like guys who tip "just because"? Not all of them are bad.

I agree with you. The thing is, the negative experiences tend to stand out more than positive in general. For examply, today, I logged on to NF, and got camshows right off the bat with two cool to talk to, non-demanding guys, one for 10 minutes and one for 20. Then, I get a call from a guy who hangs up in three minutes. Wouldn't you know I wonder more about what the 3 minute guy didn't like about me then the other two that obviously did.

Now, I barely ever do the busy free-chat sites, however when I do cam on MFC its the situation above times 100. So, its easy for me to see how girls can be emotionally exhausted by camming and dealing with guys even when there are so many good things, and good guys, that she has interaction with from day to day.

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 02:59 PM
"Women were, are, and always will be pigs, more or less, it's in their DNA..." IDK woah - can you imagine people saying this about women and it being all cool...? This is what I feel just ain't right. You can say yeah, there are women you respect, etc, after saying that, but still, stating that there is just something inherently dreadful / bad / negative about a gender because "it's in their DNA".. It is sexism.

My 2 cents:

Men's DNA (genetics) push them to try to reproduce and seek sexual pleasure as much as possible. Our jobs pretty much exist because of this genetic push. A large portion of the men that women in our profession end up dealing seem to be willing to lie and cheat in order to get those needs met.

I agree that calling men pigs may not be the best short-hand for describing this genetic push. But after being called a whore at least a hundred times a day as short-hand for my career choice I do understand that women sometimes get tired of it and will then sink to their level of using short-hand.

This in no way makes the fact they women do this the right choice in anyway or form -- it just means that I can understand that the reason why they say it doesn't come from a place of maliciousness. It comes from a place of deep sadness and hurt from suffering through daily sexism that is directed towards them.

I guess what I am saying is that even though I do believe you are 100% correct semantically that maybe if you were hoping to correct other people on this unfair behaviour towards men that a softer touch may be in order?

Using statements such as "Double goddamn standard" towards women who have to suffer through sexism themselves everyday because of their career choice can come off as very dismissive to their own personal battles against sexism themselves.

Procrasturbator
03-15-2014, 03:25 PM
I don't really feel like getting into a debate about men's rights (vom) so I'll just say this:

When men stop being ENORMOUSLY socially and economically privileged (at the expense of women) then maybe women hating men will be the same as men hating women. When men stop harassing, exploiting, beating, raping, torturing, and murdering us, I'll stop calling them assholes. But when they continue to oppress women simply because they can, I'll continue to hurt their fee fees by calling them assholes, and any man who has any sense of decency and self-awareness should understand that. It's not the same thing at all.

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 03:39 PM
Indirect statement: If someone is a sexist cunt for whatever reason, that doesn't stop them from being a sexist cunt.

Let's get this straight, half of the hateful shit here said about men, if it was aimed at women, wouldn't be permitted *ANYWHERE*, therefore women firmly hold the privilege in that department. I've been harassed, attacked, and taken shit from men, but that doesn't for a second give me the right to be a sexist asshole towards them or to tar the entire male population with the same brush.

If your job turns you into a self-righteous bitch toward ANYONE on behalf of their gender, gtfo of it for your own sanity. If you don't, don't expect every woman to smile in your face when you spew sexist garbage.

Procrasturbator
03-15-2014, 03:46 PM
The fact that you need to use incredibly inflammatory, gendered terms such as "cunt" and "bitch" (as opposed to the completely gender-neutral "asshole") says it all. *shrug* I don't feel that men as a gender need me to defend their honor, neither do I feel they're particularly negatively affected by random women on a female-centric forum who they've never met calling them assholes.

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 03:48 PM
The fact that you need to use incredibly inflammatory, gendered terms such as "cunt" and "bitch" (as opposed to the completely gender-neutral "asshole") says it all. *shrug* I don't feel that men as a gender need me to defend their honor, neither do I feel they're particularly negatively affected by random women on a female-centric forum who they've never met calling them assholes.

You're seriously picking on my terminology, rather than what I actually said? Yeah, I think maybe that says it all.

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 03:49 PM
Indirect statement: If someone is a sexist cunt for whatever reason, that doesn't stop them from being a sexist cunt.

Let's get this straight, half of the hateful shit here said about men, if it was aimed at women, wouldn't be permitted *ANYWHERE*, therefore women firmly hold the privilege in that department. I've been harassed, attacked, and taken shit from men, but that doesn't for a second give me the right to be a sexist asshole towards them or to tar the entire male population with the same brush.

If your job turns you into a self-righteous bitch toward ANYONE on behalf of their gender, gtfo of it for your own sanity. If you don't, don't expect every woman to smile in your face when you spew sexist garbage.


You just used the term derivative term 'bitch' as shorthand for the women who have been calling men pigs.

See how easy it is to fall into 'shorthand'?

Procrasturbator
03-15-2014, 03:50 PM
I already responded to most of what you'd already said (misogyny =/= misandry, not the same thing at all in any way shape or form, etc), so yes, "sexist cunt" did catch my eye.

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 03:51 PM
You just used the term derivative term 'bitch' as shorthand for the women who have been calling men pigs.

See how easy it is to fall into 'shorthand'?

Women who think it's so cute and adorable to call all men pigs are bitches, in my book.

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 03:51 PM
You're seriously picking on my terminology, rather than what I actually said? Yeah, I think maybe that says it all.

Um, sweetie.

That is exactly what you've been doing to us. :(

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 03:53 PM
Um, sweetie.

That is exactly what you've been doing to us. :(

Who? You? Everyone here? Or sexist / misandrist women? Ah, yeah.. crying shame.

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 03:56 PM
Women who thinks it's so cute and adorable to call all men pigs are bitches, in my book.

Wow, just wow.

If you think that two wrongs equal a right then I just don't know what to say about that.

We *all* deserve respect and not to be called derogative names, whether you are a man or a women.

Incantatious
03-15-2014, 03:59 PM
We *all* deserve respect and not to be called derogative names, whether you are a man or a women.

Exactly.

justanothercamgirl
03-15-2014, 04:01 PM
Exactly.

Then why are you calling people names? :(