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SweetJulia
11-11-2013, 09:07 PM
Me thinks OP shouldn't post when he's drunk and emotional. My two cents: No, she wasn't turned on, she wanted to flatter you because that translates into more money. In all the nights I've ended with dressing room conversations, I can count the number of times a girl mentioned being turned on by a customer on one hand. Me personally, I can remember every time it happened. Four. Over 6 years of at least 3 days a week of work. I've had quite a few more on webcam. My point is, actually being turned on by customers is rare. Her job is to shower you with attention and make you feel special, it sounds like she was very successful in doing so.

unbeleavable
11-11-2013, 10:25 PM
LOL.. yes you are meant to be together & that night was yours not hers!

unbeleavable
11-11-2013, 10:36 PM
Ok I stand corrected on the club-kissing issue. That is why I posted. It was news to me - and no, I didn't get the idea from Pretty Woman. I have fallen prey to the urban legend.

@moderater Was your post regarding the insult directed to my post? What? The word prostitute? Its a real word with wide ranging applications - even beyond the sex industry.
Who is being thin skinned now?

My friend you will know when you are skinned, here.

yoda57us
11-12-2013, 03:53 AM
@moderater Was your post regarding the insult directed to my post? What? The word prostitute? Its a real word with wide ranging applications - even beyond the sex industry.
Who is being thin skinned now?

What on earth are you talking about? Your post didn't get deleted so it wasn't offensive. I'm well aware that prostitute is a real word, I've been paying them for sex for many years. It's not about a particular word but rather how it is used and if it was directed at a member here. As far as your "thin skinned" comment goes you may want to think twice before taking a shot at the mods, especially when you can't seem to figure out what we are even referencing.

SweetJulia
11-12-2013, 05:34 AM
She wants you. Call her, right now!
Yeah, do this-cuz I'm SURE she gave you her super-duper private line, not a burner phone for customers. Which she has blinged out-like I did-to convince customers it was her real phone. Such ego stroking is like saying "Open, sesame!" to a customers' wallet lmao :)

SweetJulia
11-12-2013, 07:11 AM
You could not be more right.

I've been thinking a lot about this thread since I started it. Since you all have helped me so much in such a short time. I have been thinking about how I could attempt to help you in some small way as a measure of thanks? How can I be a good guest?


Money.

donb777
11-17-2013, 10:09 AM
I see things a little differently. I have four friends, yes all successful businessmen, who are in happy marriages to, guess what, ex-strippers. Vegas strippers at that. I can't tell you how often I have heard, I don't date customers, yet when you ask girls where they met there boyfriend or husband, guess what, almost always, AT THE SC! I knew one lady well, as she always oversaw my customer parties at a certain Vegas SC. I knew she was married, no problem. Shw told me one night that after 15 years of dancing, hundreds if not thousand of men, one night a guy walked in and she knew he was the one and the got married three months later. Really! So..I would be interested in your responses to this.

donb777
11-17-2013, 10:21 AM
I sent a reply but being new to the site not sure it connected.

First of all, I think any dancer on this site would agree that love can happen in SC. Rare, not really, I say it happens just as much there as anywhere. Does it happen in 40 minutes, no. I have four friends, all successful men ( a key) who all married Las Vegas dancers. All very happy today. Relationships did not happen overnight. When I get in the mood every few years to go to a club, I go hard, spend well, get VIP treatment, become known, in time get bored and take a long time off. During these periods always seem to meet someone who is not only beautiful, but sweet and smart and date them. Have any of these lasted into marriage, no. But isn't that true OTC the club too. When you ask a dance, who says she is married or in a relationship where they met, in my experience, 7 or 8 out of 10 say, AT THE CLUB. So, what I am trying to say is DO NOT go looking for love in a SC, but can it happen, yes. But be careful. Let actions speak, not words.

Jasmine.Doll
11-17-2013, 10:33 AM
I see things a little differently. I have four friends, yes all successful businessmen, who are in happy marriages to, guess what, ex-strippers. Vegas strippers at that. I can't tell you how often I have heard, I don't date customers, yet when you ask girls where they met there boyfriend or husband, guess what, almost always, AT THE SC! I knew one lady well, as she always oversaw my customer parties at a certain Vegas SC. I knew she was married, no problem. Shw told me one night that after 15 years of dancing, hundreds if not thousand of men, one night a guy walked in and she knew he was the one and the got married three months later. Really! So..I would be interested in your responses to this.

^^Right. Your stripper friend dated one out of thousands of men. So it's kinda rare. But I dated a customer, too. It happens. But, did you read the original post? OP wanted to know if kissing during a lapdance was the sign of a "real connection." He just wanted to know if the dancer "lost control" while she was attempting to empty his wallet. Most of the dancers here agree that just doesn't happen. He didn't want to date her. He says he'd never leave his family and whatnot. Anyway, so I agree that occasionally strippers do meet boyfriends and stuff, at the club, I don't think they "go crazy" during lapdances. Like I said, when I dated the guy I met at the club, I didn't collect a dime from him. If def didn't give him "extras" lapdances. The guy I dated was smart enough to know that whatever I did in our lapdance (esp out first one) would be what I did for everyone.

Jasmine.Doll
11-17-2013, 10:38 AM
I think 7-8 out of 10 is REALLY stretching it. Of my married stripper friends (I have known 4, maybe 5 dozen. I travel a lot.), I can think of 3 that met their spouses in the club. And one of those girls is a crazy gold digger. Another married the DJ and the 3rd married a cute military boy that she'd danced for. I'm not saying it never happened, but I think your stats are a bit off.

donb777
11-17-2013, 10:52 AM
I certainly respect your opinion. Thanks for the reply. I agree that it does not happen in 40 minutes. The girl I am taking to dinner tonight, for our first date, I met at the SC almost 1 yr ago. Though we were very comfortable together, she was in a relationship, I was jumping around (in fact did not remember her name the next time we met - awkward) and had not seen been to the club or seen her in months. When we did see each other again recently, I know this sound sappy, but it felt right, I said it, she said it. I did not ask her out that first meeting, but I went in again a few days later, bought her a drink, told her I was there for one reason, to ask her to get to know me OTC, she said yes. I will tell amy customers reading this, that dating a dancer (and I have some limited experience with this) is not what most of think.
I will not bring up her work, the club or our past experiences there. I will not assume that because we had some private time in the club that it will automatically occur OTC. Best to just treat this as a whole new beginning with someon you find attractive and interesting. Sorry, went on a little to long.

donb777
11-17-2013, 10:54 AM
I certainly respect your opinion. Thanks for the reply. I agree that it does not happen in 40 minutes. The girl I am taking to dinner tonight, for our first date, I met at the SC almost 1 yr ago. Though we were very comfortable together, she was in a relationship, I was jumping around (in fact did not remember her name the next time we met - awkward) and had not seen been to the club or seen her in months. When we did see each other again recently, I know this sound sappy, but it felt right, I said it, she said it. I did not ask her out that first meeting, but I went in again a few days later, bought her a drink, told her I was there for one reason, to ask her to get to know me OTC, she said yes. I will tell amy customers reading this, that dating a dancer (and I have some limited experience with this) is not what most of think.
I will not bring up her work, the club or our past experiences there. I will not assume that because we had some private time in the club that it will automatically occur OTC. Best to just treat this as a whole new beginning with someon you find attractive and interesting. Sorry, went on a little to long.

Jasmine.Doll
11-17-2013, 11:08 AM
I think your situation is very different from the one which is the topic of this thread. But, on a side note, I don't understand why you are not allowed to speak about her job.... Who doesn't talk about work, occasionally, with their SOs?

safado
11-17-2013, 12:01 PM
Just hang in there donb777, one of these days it will be your turn!

bem401
11-17-2013, 04:00 PM
A dancer telling a potentially smitten customer she found love with a customer might just be dancer BS to keep the customer coming in and spending. There are plenty of guys regularly visiting the SC and spending big time because they think they have some sort of special connection with a dancer.

rickdugan
11-21-2013, 08:45 AM
Girls who make out with customers disgust me.

You're entitled to your opinions I suppose.

I've only done this with two dancers over the years, but I have to admit that it was hot. Both of them were already established favorites, initiated the kissing and, oh yeah, were beautiful and sexy as hell. And yes, my wallet opened up much wider on those nights.

I am not advocating that all girls do this. I also wouldn't do this in a first time meeting with a strange dancer myself. But I can understand why some girls choose to do so. If other guys are affected the way that I was (and I'm sure that some are), then I have no doubt that it can be a very effective earning technique.

Shit, I've had my balls grabbed and dick rubbed so many times by girls trying to sell backrooms that I am barely fazed by it anymore and often say no (especially if I saw her grab other crotches before mine - lol). But during those isolated instances where my favorites kissed me in order to close the sales, I was almost ready to hand over my wallet and car keys to them. ;)

Kellydancer
11-21-2013, 11:33 AM
I sent a reply but being new to the site not sure it connected.

First of all, I think any dancer on this site would agree that love can happen in SC. Rare, not really, I say it happens just as much there as anywhere. Does it happen in 40 minutes, no. I have four friends, all successful men ( a key) who all married Las Vegas dancers. All very happy today. Relationships did not happen overnight. When I get in the mood every few years to go to a club, I go hard, spend well, get VIP treatment, become known, in time get bored and take a long time off. During these periods always seem to meet someone who is not only beautiful, but sweet and smart and date them. Have any of these lasted into marriage, no. But isn't that true OTC the club too. When you ask a dance, who says she is married or in a relationship where they met, in my experience, 7 or 8 out of 10 say, AT THE CLUB. So, what I am trying to say is DO NOT go looking for love in a SC, but can it happen, yes. But be careful. Let actions speak, not words.

But were those marriages actually love ones? That's the key because I know a couple of dancers who married men simply because they had money. There was nothing love related at all to them. These relationships didn't last long generally.

Sure relationships can happen from the club but in my experience very few end up "love of the life" relationships. I dated one guy I met at a club but it was months after I left the club and even then we were friends for years.