View Full Version : Wired Differently - Turned on By Female Promiscuity, Should I Date a Sex Worker?
DDavid
11-11-2013, 04:46 PM
^ Haha, you reply too fast! Give me time to re-read and edit my posting.
DDavid
11-11-2013, 04:47 PM
Okay, done, no more editing for now.
justanothercamgirl
11-11-2013, 07:54 PM
Also, we men sometimes forget the emotional/erotic differences between men and women. If I am looking purely to get off with a woman, my selectivity drops substantially. Sometimes, even an "ugly" girl could do nicely, specially after a few drinks.
Ooooooooooooooh! I see what is going on here. You are under the false assumption that women's sexuality is the same as a man's.
You do understand that women can 'get off' on reading a romantic novel. It is why they sell so many of them. Women in general aren't motivated by 'physical interaction' the same way men are. We are also not motivated by what we see visually the same way either.
I am a girl who is bisexual, has had her fair share of group sex and what normal society would consider 'lots of other outrageous sexual experiences.' I have never in my adult life been monogamous and have had a long-term poly relationships in the past. I am a highly-sexually charged human being!
And yet, I am still not really motivated by the physical. :D
DDavid
11-12-2013, 09:56 AM
Ooooooooooooooh! I see what is going on here. You are under the false assumption that women's sexuality is the same as a man's.
Yes, that was my point. If a girl loves sex "like a boy", we (naïve and foolish guys) will think of her as a "boy" with a woman's body; like the joke in an episode of Two and a Half Men, when Charlie is describing a promiscuous girl and he says, "She's exactly like me, but with a vagina."
You do understand that women can 'get off' on reading a romantic novel. It is why they sell so many of them. Women in general aren't motivated by 'physical interaction' the same way men are. We are also not motivated by what we see visually the same way either.
Being that I am not a woman, I will never quite understand 100% about a woman's sexuality. However, I have managed to learn a tiny bit. My impression is that women are changing all the time, like a game where you have to push different buttons each round. I think it is difficult for most men to understand, because we only have one button. (Though having a fetish can add a few more buttons.) IDK, maybe it has to do with a woman's "cycle" or maybe it has to do with women having different emotional and sexual needs. One day she wants passionate and tender love-making that validates the loving bond of our relationship - it is slow, intense and spiritual, like tantric sex - focusing on deep spiritual connection and love. The next time, she wants a sensual and erotic massage with a lot of manual or oral stimulation. It is focused on sensual pleasure for her. Still, the next time, she wants me to be dominant, forceful and "rough", to have "my way" with her and she wants to submit to me - leather and whips optional - it is focused on uncontrolled love or "rough love" with mild to moderate BDSM. The trick is to, first, get a woman to feel comfortable with you and the setting. Second, to get a woman thinking about sex (and not the new shoes she wants to buy or her to do list for the week). Third, you need to somehow magically figure out what she wants that particular day - what buttons to push and in which combination. This is probably the best argument for monogamy, that it takes time to learn the "cycle" and all the combinations. But, some people in monogamous relationships get lazy and lose this benefit.
I am a girl who is bisexual, has had her fair share of group sex and what normal society would consider 'lots of other outrageous sexual experiences.' I have never in my adult life been monogamous and have had a long-term poly relationships in the past. I am a highly-sexually charged human being!
Wow, you are the kind of girl I am looking for! Wink!
DDavid
11-12-2013, 12:26 PM
You do understand that women can 'get off' on reading a romantic novel. It is why they sell so many of them. Women in general aren't motivated by 'physical interaction' the same way men are. We are also not motivated by what we see visually the same way either.
When I was in 8th grade, boys were already looking at porn magazines (no internet at that time). But, I never saw a girl looking a porn magazines. Instead, a few girls were reading and sharing erotic books. I asked to see one of these erotic books and flipped through the pages, disappointed at finding no pictures anywhere. I was like - WTF? No pictures? What good is a sex book with no pictures? I thought the girls were too coy or timid to look at explicit materials. However, when I actually started to read some of the paragraphs in these books, I blushed. They were very explicit and I learned new words, like "clit" and "labia". It was very advanced stuff, containing a lot more information than what the boys were looking at. Boys were simply marveling at images of naked women, while girls were already reading detailed descriptions of adult fantasy scenarios and advanced love-making techniques.
Jasmine.Doll
11-12-2013, 02:42 PM
Being that I am not a woman, I will never quite understand 100% about a woman's sexuality. However, I have managed to learn a tiny bit. My impression is that women are changing all the time, like a game where you have to push different buttons each round. I think it is difficult for most men to understand, because we only have one button. (Though having a fetish can add a few more buttons.) IDK, maybe it has to do with a woman's "cycle" or maybe it has to do with women having different emotional and sexual needs. One day she wants passionate and tender love-making that validates the loving bond of our relationship - it is slow, intense and spiritual, like tantric sex - focusing on deep spiritual connection and love. The next time, she wants a sensual and erotic massage with a lot of manual or oral stimulation. It is focused on sensual pleasure for her. Still, the next time, she wants me to be dominant, forceful and "rough", to have "my way" with her and she wants to submit to me - leather and whips optional - it is focused on uncontrolled love or "rough love" with mild to moderate BDSM. The trick is to, first, get a woman to feel comfortable with you and the setting. Second, to get a woman thinking about sex (and not the new shoes she wants to buy or her to do list for the week). Third, you need to somehow magically figure out what she wants that particular day - what buttons to push and in which combination. This is probably the best argument for monogamy, that it takes time to learn the "cycle" and all the combinations. But, some people in monogamous relationships get lazy and lose this benefit.
This is a weird post. I don't know what to say other then you make women sound like they are extremely high maintenance with schizophrenic tendencies. Whips one night, tantric sex the next... Maybe there are chicks like that out there.... ??? I like to mix it up too, but it's more along the lines of doggy vs. cowgirl. Maybe I should chart the nights I do it in the missionary position to see it correlates to my cycle.
DonaDiabla
11-12-2013, 03:22 PM
When I was in 8th grade, boys were already looking at porn magazines (no internet at that time). But, I never saw a girl looking a porn magazines. Instead, a few girls were reading and sharing erotic books. I asked to see one of these erotic books and flipped through the pages, disappointed at finding no pictures anywhere. I was like - WTF? No pictures? What good is a sex book with no pictures? I thought the girls were too coy or timid to look at explicit materials. However, when I actually started to read some of the paragraphs in these books, I blushed. They were very explicit and I learned new words, like "clit" and "labia". It was very advanced stuff, containing a lot more information than what the boys were looking at. Boys were simply marveling at images of naked women, while girls were already reading detailed descriptions of adult fantasy scenarios and advanced love-making techniques.
Wow, you still do not know about women, huh? Frankly, some of your posts sound a little bit creepy and that you have a very limit view point of women's sexuality. Not only that some of your posts come off sexist. I think you come on here to troll and not asked real questions because you want to get everyone's attention. You think that sex workers fit into your twisted virgin/whore fantasies. Dude, you need to explore your sexuality and learn more about women before making weird comments about women's sexuality.
Jasmine.Doll
11-12-2013, 04:06 PM
^^Yeah, I can't figure OP out. He's says he's searching for an intimate, real connection with a very specific, strong, independent, sexually adventurous woman who shares his unique fetish. Then he says that pretty much the entire female population of any given Walmart is capable of turning him on. He thinks strippers are sex freaks and soccer moms never are. He chastised me for using the word skank because it is derogatory towards women. He gave me an after-school-special lecture explaining the dichotomy of female sluts and male studs. Then he goes on to hypothesis that women's sexuality is controlled by our periods and has nothing to do with us as individuals. Maybe your right about the troll thing.
DonaDiabla
11-12-2013, 04:19 PM
^^Yeah, I can't figure OP out. He's says he's searching for an intimate, real connection with a very specific, strong, independent, sexually adventurous woman who shares his unique fetish. Then he says that pretty much the entire female population of any given Walmart is capable of turning him on. He thinks strippers are sex freaks and soccer moms never are. He chastised me for using the word skank because it is derogatory towards women. He gave me an after-school-special lecture explaining the dichotomy of female sluts and male studs. Then he goes on to hypothesis that women's sexuality is controlled by our periods and has nothing to do with us as individuals. Maybe your right about the troll thing.
Jasmine, he is a troll looking for attention because he does not see women as people but as sex objects. He came on here in order to gives us sex workers a tongue lashing and useless theories about female sexuality. He thinks that we are whores without emotions, brains, or talents. DDavid, is a self-righteous, sexist, and classless prick trying to get a rise out of us. Even the title of his original post: Wired-Differently-Turned-on-By- Female-Promiscuity...this makes me think he does not think we are even human because we do sex work. Then he thinks that by dating a stripper, cam girl, and PSO will make him a sexual god. Interesting enough, he also tries to apply that since we choose this work that we must be open to weird sexual perversions. I know his game :)
Jasmine.Doll
11-12-2013, 04:22 PM
Hopefully he is a troll. Otherwise I feel bad for him. If these are genuine posts, poor guys is hopelessly confused....
justanothercamgirl
11-12-2013, 04:29 PM
Wow, you are the kind of girl I am looking for! Wink!
I noticed you left out the "And yet, I am still not really motivated by the physical" part of the paragraph when you quoted it.
You seem to have a knack for twisting things that people say to mean something completely different then what they originally intended.
DonaDiabla
11-12-2013, 04:31 PM
Yes, that was my point. If a girl loves sex "like a boy", we (naïve and foolish guys) will think of her as a "boy" with a woman's body; like the joke in an episode of Two and a Half Men, when Charlie is describing a promiscuous girl and he says, "She's exactly like me, but with a vagina."
Being that I am not a woman, I will never quite understand 100% about a woman's sexuality. However, I have managed to learn a tiny bit. My impression is that women are changing all the time, like a game where you have to push different buttons each round. I think it is difficult for most men to understand, because we only have one button. (Though having a fetish can add a few more buttons.) IDK, maybe it has to do with a woman's "cycle" or maybe it has to do with women having different emotional and sexual needs. One day she wants passionate and tender love-making that validates the loving bond of our relationship - it is slow, intense and spiritual, like tantric sex - focusing on deep spiritual connection and love. The next time, she wants a sensual and erotic massage with a lot of manual or oral stimulation. It is focused on sensual pleasure for her. Still, the next time, she wants me to be dominant, forceful and "rough", to have "my way" with her and she wants to submit to me - leather and whips optional - it is focused on uncontrolled love or "rough love" with mild to moderate BDSM. The trick is to, first, get a woman to feel comfortable with you and the setting. Second, to get a woman thinking about sex (and not the new shoes she wants to buy or her to do list for the week). Third, you need to somehow magically figure out what she wants that particular day - what buttons to push and in which combination. This is probably the best argument for monogamy, that it takes time to learn the "cycle" and all the combinations. But, some people in monogamous relationships get lazy and lose this benefit.
Wow, you are the kind of girl I am looking for! Wink!
I call bs on all of your posts on SW. Frankly, you are a troll because no real woman would ever be so transparent as to do this. Your descriptions of women you have been with seem like they have been taken out of Penthouse Magazine or a gonzo porn film. Not even De Sade would have written such a BDSM scene.... that is the type of sex scene that comes out of a cheap porno from the 60s called a roughie. Do tell us the best argument for monogamy? Because I do enjoy your pseudo-intellectual bs about women's sexuality, sexual fantasies, and monogamy.
DonaDiabla
11-12-2013, 04:48 PM
Hopefully he is a troll. Otherwise I feel bad for him. If these are genuine posts, poor guys is hopelessly confused....
Normally, I would not call a guy out if he confused. But it just the way his posts come off...creepy, sexist, and bit self-righteous at times I smell troll, lol :)
DDavid
11-12-2013, 05:17 PM
Woops! Seems I overstayed my welcome here. Thank you ladies for a lot of very valuable information and some very good points. I have learned a lot from this thread and it has really opened my eyes. Maybe the "cycle" bit ruffled some feathers. I did watch something on the Discovery Channel (it was called "Science of Sex Appeal") that actually involved scientific studies on a woman's cycle and its effect on her sexual preferences, but I'm not doctor, so I should have kept my mouth shut about that. Anyway, it seems to me some ladies are starting a fire to roast me. Time for me to exit before they tie me to a tree.
DonaDiabla
11-12-2013, 05:38 PM
Woops! Seems I overstayed my welcome here. Thank you ladies for a lot of very valuable information and some very good points. I have learned a lot from this thread and it has really opened my eyes. Maybe the "cycle" bit ruffled some feathers. I did watch something on the Discovery Channel (it was called "Science of Sex Appeal") that actually involved scientific studies on a woman's cycle and its effect on her sexual preferences, but I'm not doctor, so I should have kept my mouth shut about that. Anyway, it seems to me some ladies are starting a fire to roast me. Time for me to exit before they tie me to a tree.
Thank you for making my point, DDavid. Not used to strong women, huh? :)
Jasmine.Doll
11-12-2013, 06:18 PM
Woops! Seems I overstayed my welcome here. Thank you ladies for a lot of very valuable information and some very good points. I have learned a lot from this thread and it has really opened my eyes. Maybe the "cycle" bit ruffled some feathers. I did watch something on the Discovery Channel (it was called "Science of Sex Appeal") that actually involved scientific studies on a woman's cycle and its effect on her sexual preferences, but I'm not doctor, so I should have kept my mouth shut about that. Anyway, it seems to me some ladies are starting a fire to roast me. Time for me to exit before they tie me to a tree.
So you are getting your info from the TV network responsible for such gems as "Moonshiners," "Amish Mafia, "Wicked Attractions" and "Who the bleep did I marry?"
Nice.
simone87
11-12-2013, 06:24 PM
i think he's referring to studies about women supposedly liking more "masculine" men when ovulating and more feminine when menstruating, remember reading that somewhere..i wouldn't call those "sexual preferences" tho.
justanothercamgirl
11-12-2013, 08:41 PM
I did watch something on the Discovery Channel (it was called "Science of Sex Appeal") that actually involved scientific studies on a woman's cycle and its effect on her sexual preferences.....
The studies you refer to actually have nothing to do with 'sexual preference' as much as it has to do with 'sexually advertising' that the women is fertile.
Check out this article:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2394560/Red-really-IS-sexiest-colour-Women-tend-wear-rosy-hues-ovulating-attract-mate.html
As you can see it talks about women's preference to wear a different colour when they are at their most fertile.
That being said, I am *completely* confused how this has anything to do with anything with the conversation that came before this. You really do seem to take the information that you see around you and twist it to fit your own personal opinions regardless of the reality of the situation.
Cognitive dissonance at its finest. It really is amazing to watch! I am going to be kind of sorry to see you go. :D
Edited to add: I got curious about what exactly he was talking about so here is a link to a blog that discusses the episode. (blogcritics.org/discovery-channels-science-of-sex-appeal/ )
I personally loved this quote from it. I think it sums it all up completely.....
We are not at the mercy of our hormone clusters ebbing and flowing. The chemistry of sexual attraction may be beyond our control; however, the way we act in response is totally our choice. We have huge brains giving us the ability and opportunity to make deliberate decisions with our lives."
justanothercamgirl
11-12-2013, 08:45 PM
i think he's referring to studies about women supposedly liking more "masculine" men when ovulating and more feminine when menstruating, remember reading that somewhere..i wouldn't call those "sexual preferences" tho.
Agreed, he seems to totally be misinterpreting the information completely.
Kellydancer
11-15-2013, 01:44 PM
Thank you for pointing this out. I guess I always assumed that women who love sex and eroticism would naturally gravitate towards the sex industry, the way people who love animals may gravitate towards becoming vets or vet assistants, people who love standing up to bullies would gravitate towards law enforcement, people who love to argue gravitate towards law or politics, etc. I thought the kind of woman who is comfortable doing sex work is a woman that is very sexually liberated, loves sex, has a very open-mind about sexual activities and has an interest in exploring and performing sexual acts with different lovers. (Keep in mind I am talking about the "happy" escort that chooses this profession and is in control of her choices; I am not talking about the reluctant down-on-her-luck single mom with no where else to turn to for survival and I am not talking about the drug addict who does tricks to buy crack.)
What it seems you are all saying is that the opposite is true - that many (if not most) women in the sex trade are soccer-mom-next-door types who want a plain vanilla monogamous relationship and that the wild crazy kinky women are OUTSIDE of the sex industry and prefer to perform sexual acts for FREE! That is a little counter-intuitive. Why wouldn't these women join the sex industry and make a lot of money doing what they love to do and are already doing for free? Lol.
First off a real stripper would never have sex with a customer. A stripper that has sex with customers is a prostitute. Second the main reason women get into stripping (or other sex work)is because it pays well. If it paid minimum wage very few would get into it.
You have a lot of assumptions and many border on offensive. I never performed sex acts as a stripper and the sex acts I performed were for free. Yes I prefer vanilla sex but I have never been a soccer mom type either. I am just myself and my life was rarely like what many believe a stripper should be. I didn't dress sleazy or sleep around or any of the other things many men assume. I had friends who never worked in the industry who had far more sex than me.