View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
WendiStarr
02-13-2018, 01:54 PM
I have a damn headache and just want to sleep. The stupid hotel I'm staying at, the keys don't frickin' work. I went up to the front and had the keys reset or whatever several times. I don't like having to put something in the door in order to not be locked out and have to go back up to the front desk or housekeeper to open the door for me. Speaking of housekeepers, I swear they have nothing better to do other than gather in the hallway and gossip like teenage girls, stand around on their phones, and be annoying. They did that as soon as I checked in. Then one of them walked in on me for no reason while I was sitting here in my robe, eating. She went out to the hall and was laughing with another housekeeper about,"That girl in there was in a bath robe!" Hahaha. If my room wasn't already paid for for 2 days, I'd have left asap. I'm seriously thinking of saying fuck it and leave. My head hurts and I'm irritated.
Aurora_Sunset
02-13-2018, 04:27 PM
So, the girl I complained about a few weeks ago for cutting off her family because they wouldn't co-sign a loan for her after years and countless financial emergencies that they've bailed her out of - 30 year old woman who's never held a real job for more than 2 weeks - always expects to run to family, or throw up a gofundme, to just fix every dumb situation she gets herself into through poor decisions...
Apparently whined and spun her woe-is-me story enough on social media and to her school that not only is ALL of her past debt cleared, but the rest of her school is completely free and paid for....
Like... I don't wanna hate or nothing buuuut
Is it wrong that I'm SUPER, pettily shitty about this? Meanwhile, I've always paid my own way, still have 10K left on student loans, about 14k in other debt that I don't expect anyone to help me out of, and will probably have to defer school - that isn't even nearly as expensive as hers - for a second year because I won't be able to pay for it come fall.
But sure... I suppose if you twist things around enough and make everyone on social media feel sorry for you, you always get bailed out of your "unavoidable" situation.
Then she fucking ends up posting all these statuses literally two weeks after "crying" about how grateful she is, about how her life is so hard and she's always so depressed it's just difficult to get out of bed, or accomplish anything on her free-ride tuition, while she lives and eats free at everyone else's houses.
Bitch, stfu.
I also kinda hate this girl cuz several times during the school year, she'll post pictures of how thin she is, her pants falling off of her, her thigh gap... but frame it with these statuses about how "omgosh, when I get stressed, I just forget to eat! Oh my, isn't my thigh-gap 'disturbing?'" -_-
I don't even understand how people "forget" to eat... like... the only times I don't eat during stressful times is if I am just literally so busy that I can't. But trust me - I ain't FORGOT that I haven't eaten lol
chanzep
02-13-2018, 06:18 PM
Today was tough, I got no sleep last night and woke up half hour before I had to be at work, I had to wash instead of shower and do a terrible makeup application in the uber. got there flustered and hungry and the building is freezing, work is ok but people are just annoying. working at home was a blessing on days like this. I m hoping I can make this job work for at least a few months for a steady income and my resume. I hope tomorrow will be better.
SuperJa
02-13-2018, 07:16 PM
I was so pumped to work tonight and now it's pouring freezing rain so I shouldn't go in. Why on a night I"m actually up for it??
miss.a.p1600
02-13-2018, 09:49 PM
I don't know how to end it with the old dude.
Anyhow, he wants me to meet up with him on Valentines. First this mf asked me what I wanted (I had to think about it) then as I was about to say something - this bitch was like "oh Im going to get you some chocolate covered strawberries and feed them to you". Um just no....
I like chocolate covered strawberries and all but cotdamn it I notice your ass interrupt me and I swear if I don't get what I want mf, it's going to be a cold day in hell till I pay any attention.
*sigh*
I guess I will have to be direct and tell him for he tries to "surprise" me and gets me something I do not want.
WendiStarr
02-14-2018, 05:23 AM
I barely slept at the hotel. Loud door slammers and people hanging out in the halls, carrying on all night and around 10pm, I seen LE here. I gtfo.
Glamourmilf
02-14-2018, 06:06 AM
I barely slept at the hotel. Loud door slammers and people hanging out in the halls, carrying on all night and around 10pm, I seen LE here. I gtfo.
Why are you there? Did I miss that?
WendiStarr
02-14-2018, 10:23 AM
^ I pm'ed you
seashell
02-14-2018, 10:45 AM
My dad emailed me to wish me a happy Valentine's Day. I just instantly started crying. I stopped speaking to him last year... I blocked him on facebook and he doesn't have my phone number. I think this is the first time he's reached out by email. It makes me so sad because he's a horrible person, nothing good has ever come from me interacting with him, and yet I feel so sad when he's begging for my attention.
chanzep
02-14-2018, 08:45 PM
I am so tired and my feet hurt barely slept again feeling like I don't have time to do anything grr I need to go to bed again!.
Glamourmilf
02-15-2018, 08:46 AM
I called my aunt (whom I consider to be my second mom) yesterday to wish her happy Valentine's Day, and to tell her that I'm thinking about her. She lives far away, and has been a wreck since my uncle died 20 years ago.
But, as usual, she had the TV blasting in the background!
I asked her to turn it off when she's talking to me, but she never does!!!
It's not like I'm interrupting her. That's all she does all day.
I guess I'm boring to talk to, because when I try asking her questions, or tell her about something, she brushes it off with yep, or hmm.
I'm done. God bless her. I'm not going to call her anymore.
#Rude
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Aurora_Sunset
02-16-2018, 07:35 AM
I just slept for only an hour after a 12-hour shift last night so I could drive an hour and a half and make it to an early morning hair appointment that I'm vastly overdue for. It was supposed to be at 9:30 and my stylist isn't even here yet and the door is locked. My hair usually takes almost 3 hours to do, and I'm supposed to meet a client later. I don't have time for her to be late and then fuck around getting shit set up. I drive all this way still because she's good with my hair, but if she's going to be unreliable, I'll have to say fuck it and try my chances with a new stylist closer to me...
She KNOWS I drive into town just to see her too, so pulling this on me is really uncool.
Also, I didn't do jack shit to my hair today under the impression that I'd be getting it done... if I have to show up to my appointment like this, I'm gonna be hella pissed.
Aurora_Sunset
02-16-2018, 08:25 AM
I just slept for only an hour after a 12-hour shift last night so I could drive an hour and a half and make it to an early morning hair appointment that I'm vastly overdue for. It was supposed to be at 9:30 and my stylist isn't even here yet and the door is locked. My hair usually takes almost 3 hours to do, and I'm supposed to meet a client later. I don't have time for her to be late and then fuck around getting shit set up. I drive all this way still because she's good with my hair, but if she's going to be unreliable, I'll have to say fuck it and try my chances with a new stylist closer to me...
She KNOWS I drive into town just to see her too, so pulling this on me is really uncool.
Also, I didn't do jack shit to my hair today under the impression that I'd be getting it done... if I have to show up to my appointment like this, I'm gonna be hella pissed.
Yep, she overslept and now I have to go to my appointment like this. Luckily, it's at least a regular who doesn't really care what I look like. I tried giving her some slack and rescheduled for tomorrow morning, and even after offering that, she texts me back 5 minutes later asking to move it another hour. -_-
WendiStarr
02-16-2018, 10:21 AM
Too many people blowing up my phone today when I just want to be left alone. I'm not working today. I'm mentally and physically exhausted and need to recharge. I don't have my daughter this weekend and I plan on doing nothing, alone.
chanzep
02-16-2018, 04:55 PM
So my vanilla job is driving me crazy, first of all I been finding it hard to wake up to start work at 7am, my alarms have not been working all week and now my alarm clock is broke?, today I woke up at 7!, I had to force myself to go in. Today I was working with a different guy and it was actually ok and I learned stuff, the bitch that I had been working with all week barely trained me then told the manager to change my shift because she's too busy to train me, I thought I was being paranoid that she did not like me/training me .I noticed the new schedule only has her alone she is so miserable but the only 1 to stay there for 2 years so they let her have her set schedule. I don't care but next week I will be working lates which I don't like doing in vanilla jobs not really worth it. I will see how it goes. I don't like the fact that our shifts change every week and they only tell us on Fridays!, I only have Sunday off this week also grr .
miss.a.p1600
02-16-2018, 10:09 PM
Just realized I might be the opposite of MGTOW and slightly freaking out.
I wish st. webs was live on weekends.
Elektra Luxx
02-17-2018, 03:05 AM
Yep, she overslept and now I have to go to my appointment like this. Luckily, it's at least a regular who doesn't really care what I look like. I tried giving her some slack and rescheduled for tomorrow morning, and even after offering that, she texts me back 5 minutes later asking to move it another hour. -_-
People who are unprofessional really piss me off.
I'm always Go, Go, Go! It's very hard for me to relax. (Tangent Warning!!!) BTW, I happened to have a hair appointment today too. Anywhoo, I'm on my way there and I'm a stop light I see this homeless man just sitting on the corner watching the cars go by. Just watching life go by and his face perfectly serene and relaxed. You could tell, He didn't have care in the world and if he did, it would sort itself out. Everything is going to be...okay. WTF!!! I need to talk to this guy.
So my kid brother is a ninth grader. I brought up the school shooting in Florida and before I could ask him anything about if his school has any emergency plans he stops me and says "I don't want to here about that. I don't want to talk about negative things or view negative things. Why can't the news media report of positive things? It's all fear mongering because that's what gets the clicks." Humm, is that it? Is it that easy? To stop listening to the negative things in life? To not even acknowledge them? Is that even possible?
Glamourmilf
02-17-2018, 08:12 AM
An ex boyfriend whom I still keep in touch with sent me this in a text yesterday.:O
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I suddenly remembered why we broke up. ( Back in the early 90's) He's always had a great sense of humor, and is interesting to talk to. However, imo, this just went too far. He's in his 50's now. You'd think he would know better. He's never been married.
I'm going to take the high road, and not respond. Just block and move on.
baer45
02-17-2018, 11:01 AM
An ex boyfriend whom I still keep in touch with sent me this in a text yesterday.:O
49501
I suddenly remembered why we broke up. ( Back in the early 90's) He's always had a great sense of humor, and is interesting to talk to. However, imo, this just went too far. He's in his 50's now. You'd think he would know better. He's never been married.
I'm going to take the high road, and not respond. Just block and move on.
Send this back to him.
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Randi Starr
02-17-2018, 01:05 PM
I always seem to get clients while escorting that just have to know if I see black men as customers. Always insecure white men. I always have to hold in a huge laugh when they ask "do you see black customers". Me. "No I prefer white men". Always fall for it. If they only knew I mostly go for black men in my personal life. Especially when they decide to dine out haha. They'd be pissed!
Vyanka
02-17-2018, 02:35 PM
Apartment hunting is a bitch. -_-
chanzep
02-17-2018, 03:07 PM
Ok today was annoying as fuck at work, not only is the training shit but stuck in a small space with annoying co workers too, today 1 made a annoying statement about me but I had to be professional about it. thankgod for tomorrow off, I might have to waitress again because this place is driving me mad. Vanilla co workers are way more annoying and your stuck next to them too grr.
Elektra Luxx
02-17-2018, 07:52 PM
I'm so angry and frustrated with everyone and everything right now. Everyone wants to tell me how to live my life. I just want go away somewhere and never come back. I want to burst out crying and yell and scream and hit something. I'm just so angry. I want to walk out my door and never look back. I'm very, very angry and frustrated. I don't know. I need to be alone for few days. I hate, hate, hate myself and everthing. I having a breakdown. I'm really tired and i want to be alone.
ScarletKitten
02-17-2018, 08:02 PM
I'm so angry and frustrated with everyone and everything right now. Everyone wants to tell me how to live my life. I just want go away somewhere and never come back. I want to burst out crying and yell and scream and hit something. I'm just so angry. I want to walk out my door and never look back. I'm very, very angry and frustrated. I don't know. I need to be alone for few days. I hate, hate, hate myself and everthing. I having a breakdown. I'm really tired and i want to be alone.
Awww Elektra, I'm so sorry babe. I hope you feel better soon!
We had a rabbit like you
02-17-2018, 08:27 PM
Ok so my nipples are my big money-makers but the next dude that think he can put his mouth on them will get throat punched. Im getting worried cause I feed my baby with those an oh god if he EVER got a disease from those nasty asses..I’d die.
I looked it up an seems it’s only possible to get herpes (?) and it’s only contagious during outbreak. But I’m worried
I think I’m gunna start being way more careful
Elektra Luxx
02-17-2018, 08:58 PM
Awww Elektra, I'm so sorry babe. I hope you feel better soon!
Thanks, I just got through having a crying meltdown and I'm really tired. I just need to be alone for awhile.
Aurora_Sunset
02-17-2018, 10:33 PM
Didn't sleep between Thursday and Friday. Ran around all day yesterday and today. Saw a good friend last night and had a good time despite the tiredness, went out for a friend's birthday tonight, super exhausted and not intending to stay long. Ended up having a great time and wanted to stay much longer than anticipated despite the exhaustion. Having a really nice dinner out with a cute boy I like tomorrow night that I've been looking forward to all week.
The thing is, my life has been such a shitshow the last however-many months that I just got home and started having massive anxiety over the fact that I'm in a good mood and happy about this weekend... Now I'm exhausted but can't sleep because I'm terrified of being hopeful about being happy in life again. The fuck is this shit
DonaDiabla
02-18-2018, 04:54 AM
I am so fucking annoying tonight! This asshole left one of my pso characters an negative review after he spend over 30 dollars on it. But here is why it is annoying! Because the negative review was because my character was animated character.Here's the kicker....he knew it was an photo of non-human person. Well, I am keeping that loser's money.Likewise, I am sick of losers like that trying to shit on my animated characters.All of those motherfuckers who talk about them never animated nor design shit in their lives. Rant over :)
Glamourmilf
02-18-2018, 08:21 AM
Send this back to him.
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Will do. Thank You @Baer
Apartment hunting is a bitch. -_-
This all day! ^^^^^ Can you get a broker to look for you?
BarbieNYC
02-18-2018, 10:31 AM
Ugh so many things
-My hairdresser is getting lazy and fucked up and now I have breakage all over my hair. I think it's time to pull the plug. I'm about to start going to my school's cosmetology department and finding a fresh student i can train to do my hair the right way. I am so mad my hair was so beautiful and now i have all these random broken pieces everywhere. I've also been bugging her to buy me more olaplex and she has been too lazy to go smh.
-new members resurrecting threads from 2005.
-nerds are worse than strippers anyday. I have no real friends at school because everyone is in lowkey competition with me. I started noticing jealous tendencies with people I started getting close to. It's shitty to know that everyone is lowkey waiting for you to mess up. I was glad I was never a top earner in dancing because it allowed me to deal with focusing on myself and my money goals. But these kids can't handle not being on top and it's kinda pathetic. Being at the top of my class is a nice thing but it doesn't define me like it defines these kids. Smh that is not normal
WendiStarr
02-18-2018, 10:46 AM
Woke up with a sore throat. Why do I always get sick right before I move? I'm chugging the hot ginger and lemon tea and trying to avoid sugar now.
Elle:)
02-18-2018, 01:57 PM
I hate my life. I just want to move and leave.
Vyanka
02-19-2018, 12:36 AM
Will do. Thank You @Baer
This all day! ^^^^^ Can you get a broker to look for you?
I may if I can't find anything. I need to drive to towns to look around. I sooooooo fucking regret giving up my last place. The landlords were so kind, the town was perfect, and commute to work was perfect. I wanna cry. I wrote them a letter today(lost their ph numbers), asking if that place still gets rented out and if it's available. I hope to God it is. He was gonna take 100 off my rent if I stayed, but my dumb ass left. Kicking myself in the ass. :( I also had FREE cable and internet. :(
Glamourmilf
02-19-2018, 03:55 AM
I may if I can't find anything. I need to drive to towns to look around. I sooooooo fucking regret giving up my last place. The landlords were so kind, the town was perfect, and commute to work was perfect. I wanna cry. I wrote them a letter today(lost their ph numbers), asking if that place still gets rented out and if it's available. I hope to God it is. He was gonna take 100 off my rent if I stayed, but my dumb ass left. Kicking myself in the ass. :( I also had FREE cable and internet. :(
Fingers and toes crossed that you get back in there.:crossfing:pray: and prayers. Lots of prayers. To St Jude. He's the one to pray to in a situation like this.
WendiStarr
02-19-2018, 09:18 AM
This cold is kicking my ass. Annoying landlord is getting on my nerves today. A friend who's supposed to be helping me move came over to see how much stuff I have to move so he can decide which of his trucks he's going to need to use to help me(he has a lot of trucks). Annoying landlord was standing there in the hallway in front of my door, asking him questions. She was asking who he was, what kind of vehicle did he have, who was he here to see, was he here to see ____(my real name), is he my dad/uncle/other relative, etc. I'm pretty sure that she will have LE sitting in my parking lot now. Every time my brother, uncle, dad, grandpa, daughter's father, or anyone male visits me all of a sudden LE will park in the parking lot of my apartment building. I'm not doing anything here in my home anyways, other than getting ready to move. Ugh, I can't wait until I move and no longer have to deal with her questioning everyone who comes over or seeing LE in my parking lot. I wish I had more females in my life but it's hard to make female friends.
Update:
As anticipated an LE car was sitting in apartment parking lot facing my apartment building when I went outside to throw out trash. Another one pulled up and started talking to the others. I walked right by them and threw my trash out. They didn't say or do anything, were just sitting there. Smh. They can watch me throw trash out and move stuff into trucks. I'm sure I'll be super fun and exciting to watch.
MissMoore
02-19-2018, 01:13 PM
Anybody who expects me to look ANY type of way and not help out in some way shape or form. NO I will not big gigantic boobs if you don't pay for them. NO I will not go pay out of my own pocket for 3 syringes of juvederm. NO I will not dye my hair whatever color if you don't pay for it.
lynn2009
02-19-2018, 03:59 PM
I cannot stand it when I obviously don't want to talk to someone, especially about Derek, and they keep trying to pry answers out of me and force 'comfort' on me. Fucking stop it.
whirlerz
02-19-2018, 06:37 PM
This cold is kicking my ass. Annoying landlord is getting on my nerves today. A friend who's supposed to be helping me move came over to see how much stuff I have to move so he can decide which of his trucks he's going to need to use to help me(he has a lot of trucks). Annoying landlord was standing there in the hallway in front of my door, asking him questions. She was asking who he was, what kind of vehicle did he have, who was he here to see, was he here to see ____(my real name), is he my dad/uncle/other relative, etc. I'm pretty sure that she will have LE sitting in my parking lot now. Every time my brother, uncle, dad, grandpa, daughter's father, or anyone male visits me all of a sudden LE will park in the parking lot of my apartment building. I'm not doing anything here in my home anyways, other than getting ready to move. Ugh, I can't wait until I move and no longer have to deal with her questioning everyone who comes over or seeing LE in my parking lot. I wish I had more females in my life but it's hard to make female friends.
Update:
As anticipated an LE car was sitting in apartment parking lot facing my apartment building when I went outside to throw out trash. Another one pulled up and started talking to the others. I walked right by them and threw my trash out. They didn't say or do anything, were just sitting there. Smh. They can watch me throw trash out and move stuff into trucks. I'm sure I'll be super fun and exciting to watch.
OMG, what LOSER Bitch!^
That sounds like my sd, he doesn't hound people, but he tells me all the doings of his neighbors, like seriously, WGAF? Get.a.life.
Ow, watching someone taking out their trash, just wow
carmen_b
02-19-2018, 08:30 PM
Miss Moore, yours reminds me of bfs love for my ( what's getting to ) really long hair. Is IS frustrating to be responsible for keeping up with the maintence of a look. It occurs to me the other day that he has never offered to help brush it or pay to get it done ect.
( mine is a super small thing )
Overall he is ok with my more granola chick look ( very minimal makeup since I retired ).
i just found it interesting .
My sisters overweight husband was also saying something about her hair and it seemed SO obvious to me that he should have just booked her a hair appt if he wanted a more fancy look. DO something to help !
Aurora_Sunset
02-19-2018, 10:22 PM
I'm so furious I can't think straight right now.
My ex was mad at me last night cuz I was going out to dinner instead of making time to play a dumbass video game with him online. Ended up hanging with guy friend all night and crashing at his place. Ex blew up my phone all night, and I ignored it. But of course, he's been threatening suicide lately every time he doesn't get his way in talking to me about whatever he wants to talk about. So I conceded and called him back this morning. He was asking me all sorts of questions about last night, then demanded to know where I was.
He seemed SO DAMN SURE that I had not spent the night in my own apartment that I called him back later and asked if he had come here last night.
He did.
He used the key that I never got back from him and entered when I wasn't here.
He snooped on my calendar and all around my place.
When I asked if he slept here, waiting for me, he said no, but I honestly don't believe him.
THEN he had the audacity, after apologizing a bunch and saying oh yes of course he'll give my key back to me right away.... to turn around at the end of the conversation and say he wants to hold onto it until I pay him back the money I owe.
BITCH NO THAT IS NOT HOW THAT WORKS. YOU SEND ME MY MOTHERFUCKING KEY BACK IN THE MAIL NOW. YOU ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO FUCKING HOLD IT HOSTAGE.
I could literally puke from how angry I am that he invaded my space like that
miss.a.p1600
02-19-2018, 10:33 PM
^^^^Daaaaaaamn!!!!!
Next time you'll have to set a booby trap lol }:D
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddXUQu9RC4U
Glamourmilf
02-20-2018, 08:35 AM
A bad storm caused the electricity to go out, for me, and most of the other tenants yesterday.
24 hours later, ......and we're all still waiting for the Electric Company to come out.
It pisses me off that the landlady never called me.
I had to find out from another tenant. Thank God for this tenant too, because she lent me her super long extension cord, so I could keep my fridge and micro working.
Only 1 of my rooms still has electricity.
I guess, like everything else, I have to call the Electric Company myself to get things done.
Aurora_Sunset
02-20-2018, 11:11 AM
Had another full-on text argument with ex this morning, because he very adamantly doesn't want me to tell anyone what he did. I told him that HE'S the one who fucked up, and he doesn't get to make demands like that, because I'm furious, and if I want to go rant to my friends to get my blood pressure down, I'm certainly entitled to that. And for someone who's clearly SO damned concerned about his privacy, he sure as fuck didn't give a thought about mine.... He compared me not talking to anyone about this to him not talking to anyone about my escorting job. Which... obviously... NOT the same fucking thing. -_- But I honestly don't fucking know about him anymore, and I worry that if he thinks I went and told anyone, that his next move would be to vindictively tell my family about my work. I mean, at this point, why not, right? It's not like he has anything else to lose and clearly doesn't care about hurting me.
So I lied and said I didn't want to tell anyone, not even because I care about his reputation among people he doesn't even know or is friends with, but because it's embarrassing for me to be in this situation - which honestly, it is.
But, extra annoyance, I DID text a friend about it last night. Told him I was so upset - and all he said this morning in response was to get the landlord to change the lock (as though it's just so easy and wouldn't cost me anything) and block his number. I'm getting really sick of this friend being so dismissive every time I tell him what's going on with ex... I try not to bombard him with drama every week, but he will TELL me that he wants me to come to him with problems and wants to know about my life and wants to be there to support me and help me through tough times... but every time I tell him anything about this situation, he's incredibly dismissive and just "stop talking to him; change your locks; call the police; block his number; stop engaging at all." As though, when you have someone - who has a key to your place and clearly isn't afraid to abuse it - and is threatening suicide every time you ignore their calls, it's just so easy to disappear and not engage.... and the thing is, I know he would NEVER take that approach with any of his exes, so it's really unsympathetic for him to act like I'm stupid if I don't.
baer45
02-20-2018, 12:03 PM
Had another full-on text argument with ex this morning, because he very adamantly doesn't want me to tell anyone what he did. I told him that HE'S the one who fucked up, and he doesn't get to make demands like that, because I'm furious, and if I want to go rant to my friends to get my blood pressure down, I'm certainly entitled to that. And for someone who's clearly SO damned concerned about his privacy, he sure as fuck didn't give a thought about mine.... He compared me not talking to anyone about this to him not talking to anyone about my escorting job. Which... obviously... NOT the same fucking thing. -_- But I honestly don't fucking know about him anymore, and I worry that if he thinks I went and told anyone, that his next move would be to vindictively tell my family about my work. I mean, at this point, why not, right? It's not like he has anything else to lose and clearly doesn't care about hurting me.
So I lied and said I didn't want to tell anyone, not even because I care about his reputation among people he doesn't even know or is friends with, but because it's embarrassing for me to be in this situation - which honestly, it is.
But, extra annoyance, I DID text a friend about it last night. Told him I was so upset - and all he said this morning in response was to get the landlord to change the lock (as though it's just so easy and wouldn't cost me anything) and block his number. I'm getting really sick of this friend being so dismissive every time I tell him what's going on with ex... I try not to bombard him with drama every week, but he will TELL me that he wants me to come to him with problems and wants to know about my life and wants to be there to support me and help me through tough times... but every time I tell him anything about this situation, he's incredibly dismissive and just "stop talking to him; change your locks; call the police; block his number; stop engaging at all." As though, when you have someone - who has a key to your place and clearly isn't afraid to abuse it - and is threatening suicide every time you ignore their calls, it's just so easy to disappear and not engage.... and the thing is, I know he would NEVER take that approach with any of his exes, so it's really unsympathetic for him to act like I'm stupid if I don't.
You seem to keep getting sucked into his BS after the break...it's time to tell him to get fuck out of your life. Maybe it's easy for me to say it, but sure it is my first reaction. I had my share of assholes before. My experience taught me to be firm and be strong. There are two ways to rip off a band-aid.
Aurora_Sunset
02-20-2018, 12:48 PM
You seem to keep getting sucked into his BS after the break...it's time to tell him to get fuck out of your life. Maybe it's easy for me to say it, but sure it is my first reaction. I had my share of assholes before. My experience taught me to be firm and be strong. There are two ways to rip off a band-aid.
Honestly, at this point, it's self-preservation. I'd like to think I know what he's capable of, but I don't anymore. If I make him believe that I hate him entirely and will never speak to him again, I feel like "at best," he'll off himself without taking me down with him... but at worst, he'll either go legitimately off the deep end of trying to hurt me physically as well, or at the very least, out me on escorting and ruin my life and family. His insane justifications for all his batshit behavior do not have me believing he'll act rationally or maturely in any way.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-20-2018, 01:06 PM
Honestly, at this point, it's self-preservation. I'd like to think I know what he's capable of, but I don't anymore. If I make him believe that I hate him entirely and will never speak to him again, I feel like "at best," he'll off himself without taking me down with him... but at worst, he'll either go legitimately off the deep end of trying to hurt me physically as well, or at the very least, out me on escorting and ruin my life and family. His insane justifications for all his batshit behavior do not have me believing he'll act rationally or maturely in any way.
Now might be a good time to get prepared for him to attempt some horrible stunt like outing you. The bright side of living in today's world is it's easier to make people think he's lying about things.
Yikes. Be careful.
baer45
02-20-2018, 01:17 PM
Honestly, at this point, it's self-preservation. I'd like to think I know what he's capable of, but I don't anymore. If I make him believe that I hate him entirely and will never speak to him again, I feel like "at best," he'll off himself without taking me down with him... but at worst, he'll either go legitimately off the deep end of trying to hurt me physically as well, or at the very least, out me on escorting and ruin my life and family. His insane justifications for all his batshit behavior do not have me believing he'll act rationally or maturely in any way.
So he has leverage on you. One of the reasons that I don't think escorting and relationships go along. People are very selfish, especially on the break ups. The idea of getting back at someone you used to love makes me sick. But it happens to everyone. I can think of a few ways that my exes could screw me up.
I hope your plan of going easy on him works. It has never worked for me:(
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-20-2018, 02:38 PM
So he has leverage on you. One of the reasons that I don't think escorting and relationships go along. People are very selfish, especially on the break ups. The idea of getting back at someone you used to love makes me sick. But it happens to everyone. I can think of a few ways that my exes could screw me up.
I hope your plan of going easy on him works. It has never worked for me:(
One of my exes threatened to "revenge porn" me but he folded when I said I didn't care if he did it. (In the context it wouldn't have been a problem.) My point being even people who swear up and down that they wouldn't do something to you are capable of doing it.......Words are very cheap and people do dumb things when fired up with emotion/ not in their right mind..
I may have missed it but Aurora why is your ex depressed? Why is he acting this way?
baer45
02-20-2018, 03:33 PM
One of my exes threatened to "revenge porn" me but he folded when I said I didn't care if he did it. (In the context it wouldn't have been a problem.) My point being even people who swear up and down that they wouldn't do something to you are capable of doing it.......Words are very cheap and people do dumb things when fired up with emotion/ not in their right mind..
I may have missed it but Aurora why is your ex depressed? Why is he acting this way?
Very true. Break ups are usually ugly for a reason.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-20-2018, 07:12 PM
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