View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-04-2018, 01:28 PM
^^I'm glad you brought this up. Not feeling safe.
I've been feeling so vulnerable, especially with the way our political leaders are making it seem like it's ok to treat women badly.
It triggered my own sexual abuse issues, so I searched online for a support group that deals with this.
I went for the first time last night.
When the therapist asked why I was there, as soon as I mentioned the above reason, the women said that they'd prefer politics weren't brought into the conversation.
What?
Heads in the sand much?
The therapist said that it's something we MUST talk about, because it is affecting women in a negative way.
*Oh, and while we've been sleeping, the FBI concluded it's investigation. Without even interviewing certain key witnesses.
Anyway, back to the support group.
The room was too small to seat 12 women. Most of which had been attending for months, and knew each other well.
I didn't want to give my name, because this town is so small, and I didn't want to risk being outed.
Towards the end of the meeting, some broad makes an announcement, " I don't mean to single you out, she says to me. But it's making me VERY uncomfortable that you won't tell us your name. I'm a cop, and it drives me nuts not to know.":O
Oh, yeah, like I'm going to tell you.
I give her a fake name.
When it's time to write down our phone number, and pass it around for everyone to have it (: supposedly so we can remind each other of future meetings), I pass.
Are you freaking kidding me?
What a waste of my precious time!
I will NEVER go back there again.
Can you imagine if I shared all of my ' illegal' activities with that group?
That cop would have my name, number, everything about me.
I'm so sorry.
On topic- today I read Terri Hatcher spoke in detail about her experiences with sexual abuse.
I've always liked her work (& she was a 49ers NFL cheerleader back in the day) …..Her recollections are so awful. It was a relative that abused her, and there were terrible repercussions to the case.
The horrible thing about American politics is our system breeds the "wolf in sheep's clothing" politician, especially the men. Most of the men who can make laws to curb sexual abuse don't really think about the topic because it doesn't affect them. They're never lived the life of the "Underdog."
whirlerz
10-04-2018, 02:01 PM
Some lady behind me, going from a gas station to a Walgreens parking lot, laid on her horn cause I took a few extra minutes, >:( I tried to pull over so she could get by, but no..I just went down a ways & parked.
She was just using it (ajoining section from gas station to W.'s lot) as a thorough fare any way so..
Glad I didn't have to worry about seeing her in the store
lynn2009
10-04-2018, 03:28 PM
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carmen_b
10-04-2018, 03:54 PM
Ugh. I'm just sitting here realizing my house is so NOT sexy.
My ex took the tv table and tv .
The fish tank my ex promised to remove ( without hassling me or required me to lift a finger ) is still here.
The living room and office are the same room.
I'm an artist with NO art on the walls. I have some of my work and some from friends sitting on top of thingsanyway ...
I can start by getting those japanese screen things. I think the thing I hate the most is that I see office stuff and kitchen from the couch . I want to create at least a little space that is really cozy. I also have wanted a screen and movie projector for a long time so I will probably go get it soon.
JGB2009
10-04-2018, 06:06 PM
Annoyed that the dumb guy at the desk misunderstood me. Told him I think I may have BV and when I got tested.....I was tested for a UTI instead. So now I am being treated for a UTI......although I know that may be important to treat......I am told if I am not better next week I will be given medication for BV next week. Just super annoyed!!!!! Why don't people listen!!!!!
Ifyouseekamy
10-04-2018, 06:13 PM
^^I'm glad you brought this up. Not feeling safe.
I've been feeling so vulnerable, especially with the way our political leaders are making it seem like it's ok to treat women badly.
It triggered my own sexual abuse issues, so I searched online for a support group that deals with this.
I went for the first time last night.
When the therapist asked why I was there, as soon as I mentioned the above reason, the women said that they'd prefer politics weren't brought into the conversation.
What?
Heads in the sand much?
The therapist said that it's something we MUST talk about, because it is affecting women in a negative way.
*Oh, and while we've been sleeping, the FBI concluded it's investigation. Without even interviewing certain key witnesses.
Anyway, back to the support group.
The room was too small to seat 12 women. Most of which had been attending for months, and knew each other well.
I didn't want to give my name, because this town is so small, and I didn't want to risk being outed.
Towards the end of the meeting, some broad makes an announcement, " I don't mean to single you out, she says to me. But it's making me VERY uncomfortable that you won't tell us your name. I'm a cop, and it drives me nuts not to know.":O
Oh, yeah, like I'm going to tell you.
I give her a fake name.
When it's time to write down our phone number, and pass it around for everyone to have it (: supposedly so we can remind each other of future meetings), I pass.
Are you freaking kidding me?
What a waste of my precious time!
I will NEVER go back there again.
Can you imagine if I shared all of my ' illegal' activities with that group?
That cop would have my name, number, everything about me.
In ACA we talk about the “Don’t talk rule” of family dysfunction. The “don’t talk rule” of not talking politics is a way for our dysfunctional society to cope. The more I work on my dysfunction, the more I see it on our society.
Psychology focuses on the person. Sociology focuses on the social factors. So I would say the problem is there are few experienced people who can deal with both- Maybe a LCSW?
I really like the 16 step program because it includes patriarchy and heirachy. I’ve started meetings before and people don’t do their part, so I just focus on my own success. So few people are survivors, I quit trying to help. They seem to just drag me down.
At some point individuals can’t cope. No amount of therapy can heal myself if I’m constantly being oppressed and retraumatized.
I understand why some on my black friends laugh at the idea of therapy. They have had to deal with trauma their whole life; they don’t expect to be treated equally. They know fighting for their rights NOW is the only way to make progress.
There are good therapist. Please keep trying. A LCSW is a social worker with therapy training. They probably would understand better. At some point, all a therapist can do is help you cope with this crazy world
miss.a.p1600
10-04-2018, 07:12 PM
^i always wondered why adults who consider themselves mature cannot talk about politics
I’ve seen it here in the forum how quickly people start insulting others and then being completely closed minded
But I think it’s also something about challenging people’s beliefs - it’s like in their mind it’s almost like challenging who they are.
I have only 1 republican friend who we can talk for hours about politics and it helps me see the perspective from other political viewpoints. It’s too bad more people can’t do that.
WendiStarr
10-05-2018, 03:47 AM
Annoyed that the dumb guy at the desk misunderstood me. Told him I think I may have BV and when I got tested.....I was tested for a UTI instead. So now I am being treated for a UTI......although I know that may be important to treat......I am told if I am not better next week I will be given medication for BV next week. Just super annoyed!!!!! Why don't people listen!!!!!
You must have tested positive for the presence of blood or protein in your pee. It's possible that you have a UTI and BV. I understand where you're coming from though. The only way to test for BV is by pelvic exam and the doctor taking a sample of discharge from your cervix to look at under a microscope. Some places will do that right away, come back and tell you that its BV, and give you the pills or cream to treat it. Some medical staff get annoyed if you try to make your own diagnosis based on symptoms so they will be a dick and completely dismiss your issue. That's when you have to be persistent with them until they listen or get a 2nd opinion.
Glamourmilf
10-05-2018, 06:59 AM
In ACA we talk about the “Don’t talk rule” of family dysfunction. The “don’t talk rule” of not talking politics is a way for our dysfunctional society to cope. The more I work on my dysfunction, the more I see it on our society.
Psychology focuses on the person. Sociology focuses on the social factors. So I would say the problem is there are few experienced people who can deal with both- Maybe a LCSW?
I really like the 16 step program because it includes patriarchy and heirachy. I’ve started meetings before and people don’t do their part, so I just focus on my own success. So few people are survivors, I quit trying to help. They seem to just drag me down.
At some point individuals can’t cope. No amount of therapy can heal myself if I’m constantly being oppressed and retraumatized.
I understand why some on my black friends laugh at the idea of therapy. They have had to deal with trauma their whole life; they don’t expect to be treated equally. They know fighting for their rights NOW is the only way to make progress.
There are good therapist. Please keep trying. A LCSW is a social worker with therapy training. They probably would understand better. At some point, all a therapist can do is help you cope with this crazy world
Thank You. I really appreciate that.
The therapist left a voicemail yesterday, saying that the women didn't feel comfortable with me being there and not sharing.
Fine with me.
I'm not a jump into a group and start sharing intimate details anyway. In my grief group it's perfectly fine not to share. And nobody ever asks for my number. Silly me thought this one would be the same.
*When I looked at the therapist's Facebook page, I noticed that we have a lot of the same friends. Just as I suspected. Too small of a town.
I'm good. For now.
lynn2009
10-05-2018, 01:14 PM
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trustfundkiller
10-05-2018, 04:08 PM
I feel guilty not working tonight but I really need to take a break and my body is telling me to slow down. I've had a cold for a week and I haven't been able to fight it off because I've been working and traveling non-stop. I had my Pleasers break and I had to use a junky emergency pair that are way too tight, and my feet were bleeding and I even have blisters. My amazing customer ordered me a new pair of $200 crystal Pleasers, so there's a silver lining, but my feet are in lots of pain. I only got about 4 hours of sleep when my plane got back Wednesday before I was up early on Thurs taking care of appointments and getting ready to work. I'm so exhausted, my body is crying out for me to stay at home and rest. I don't want to end up in the hospital with a pneumonia or a staph infection since I have an open wound on my feet.
I shouldn't feel guilty about needing a break, yet I do. I just can't keep going, going, going like the Energizer Bunny. It won't end well.
whirlerz
10-05-2018, 04:18 PM
Oooh, put those feet up, hon! Seriously, elevate your feet. Take an ibuprofen, or whatever pain reliever.
whirlerz
10-05-2018, 04:28 PM
Quote Glammie:
Really, how? How would you trade them?
Because my nosy neighbor knocks at my door, (and windows), even though I have a big yellow Do Not Disturb sign on my door.
It NEVER fails, that I'm usually in the middle of a cam show.
Happened again 2 days ago.
I'm at my wit's end with her.
All the other tenants know not to even talk to me.
But this bitch. OMG!
What do you suggest I do?
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Well, I'm sorry..
As far as mine, I called the county sheriff, since I'm out of the town's jurisdiction. He stopped by, she wasn't home @ the time, & we talked for a bit, meanwhile, she came back - he asked if I wanted him to speak to her, which I declined, since she saw me talking to him.
I like to use the lightest touch possible..
I also spoke w/the landlord, (I'd spoken to him previously as well, I know he told them about the noise, bc the guy yelled outside my window about "we've been reported for being loud"::):O He also said he'd speak to her, again I said no, bc he'd already done that..
I feel in her case, she does shit deliberately, which some people just enjoy drama
Fine, I just ignore, that's about the best I can do.
People are gonna do wtf they want.
In my case, I ignore them completely, no eye contact, if I see them coming, I go the other way, if I have to physically pass them by, I keep my head down or turned to the side.
TG they don't approach me or knock, if they did, I'd just ignore.
I also have my 130 db key chain alarm.
Honestly, as an abuse survivor, I'm afraid, her loud voice, foul mouth, etc trigger me. Not to mention the door slamming (car & house doors)
Tomorrow I'm going to an abuse survivor/help 1 day seminar.
I even tried to move, that didn't go well either, so I'm here, sticking it out.
Good luck.
Aurora_Sunset
10-05-2018, 05:36 PM
I literally hate every single photo of me from my sister's wedding. In the dress I had with the professional hair and makeup I had done, I should have looked amazing and loved the way I look, but my current weight just ruined it all for me. The smallest smile gives me a double chin and you can see how chunky I am through all my clothes. I can't stand to look at myself.
Glamourmilf
10-06-2018, 05:10 AM
Quote Glammie:
Really, how? How would you trade them?
Because my nosy neighbor knocks at my door, (and windows), even though I have a big yellow Do Not Disturb sign on my door.
It NEVER fails, that I'm usually in the middle of a cam show.
Happened again 2 days ago.
I'm at my wit's end with her.
All the other tenants know not to even talk to me.
But this bitch. OMG!
What do you suggest I do?
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Well, I'm sorry..
As far as mine, I called the county sheriff, since I'm out of the town's jurisdiction. He stopped by, she wasn't home @ the time, & we talked for a bit, meanwhile, she came back - he asked if I wanted him to speak to her, which I declined, since she saw me talking to him.
I like to use the lightest touch possible..
I also spoke w/the landlord, (I'd spoken to him previously as well, I know he told them about the noise, bc the guy yelled outside my window about "we've been reported for being loud"::):O He also said he'd speak to her, again I said no, bc he'd already done that..
I feel in her case, she does shit deliberately, which some people just enjoy drama
Fine, I just ignore, that's about the best I can do.
People are gonna do wtf they want.
In my case, I ignore them completely, no eye contact, if I see them coming, I go the other way, if I have to physically pass them by, I keep my head down or turned to the side.
TG they don't approach me or knock, if they did, I'd just ignore.
I also have my 130 db key chain alarm.
Honestly, as an abuse survivor, I'm afraid, her loud voice, foul mouth, etc trigger me. Not to mention the door slamming (car & house doors)
Tomorrow I'm going to an abuse survivor/help 1 day seminar.
I even tried to move, that didn't go well either, so I'm here, sticking it out.
Good luck.
Thanks Whirl.
I've been doing a lot of researching online about how to handle an overly friendly neighbor.
When I got home yesterday, as soon as I walked past her unit, she raced out and called my name.
I knew she wanted to detain me with her gossip.
I had my keys in my hand ready to unlock my door, and just said, "I'm busy."
She asked if everything was ok.
Yep. I answered.
Then shut my door.
I owe nothing to her, or anyone else.
Nothing.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-06-2018, 07:59 AM
OK privacy protip here- if you use FB/IG for your adult work, just access the pages from one device that you don't let anyone else use.
I noticed FB suggests profiles that belong to people on other FBs that are logged into my main computer.
Also FB seems to have laid off of deleting pages with wacky aliases/fake names (EX- Green Giant, Mor Door etc.) so you can use a work name for your page and it's doubtful anyone will report you.
YEAH I know FB is a pain in the ass but I use it for my other jobs and it's an easy way to keep info organized about transactions/convos.
WendiStarr
10-06-2018, 10:11 AM
Ex's parental unit. I don't know why they have to cause such difficulty over my daughter's birthday. I'm having her birthday party today since it's the only day that everyone in my family has available. Her birthday is actually tomorrow. They are picking her up tomorrow afternoon so that their side of the family can have a party for her and spend time with her too. They want me to bring her out there this evening so that she can go to church with them tomorrow. They started some bs about how she needs to be going to church on a regular basis and be around "good, church going people", blah blah blah. No, you guys can wait until tomorrow afternoon! That turned into a lecture about how I should go to church so that I can meet decent people. That struck a nerve because when I was 9 I was molested by my youth pastor. Ugh! Not everybody who goes to church is a good person. Likewise there are plenty of good people who don't attend church. I'm not trying to make this into a religion war, I swear.
miss.a.p1600
10-06-2018, 10:16 AM
My mother is annoying af.
She rolls up to the same place I’m at then instantly starts acting her usual weird self.
I’m being my cool normal self then the bitch starts asking “what’s wrong!”
Heaux! If I thought something was wrong I’d say so. Now quit making assumptions, quit trying to “read” me, leave me the fuck alone, and stop acting weird!
beverly_worldshaker
10-06-2018, 11:48 AM
Last night a pack of very normal looking white dudes in button ups from Florida came in. Had me repeat the prices of the dances 17 times and "what you get with the dance" like its some fuckin combo meal but then just complained about how they could get "more" in clubs in Florida. Like OK, go back to Florida? So you think you're entitled to touching titties at a certain rate everywhere you go? What is the going rate for women's body these days? How do men find themselves so comfortable to negotiate this.
miss.a.p1600
10-06-2018, 01:46 PM
I agreed to go on a date with the old dude .... I should be getting ready but all I want to do is chill, watch videos and sleep
whirlerz
10-06-2018, 01:55 PM
Thanks Whirl.
I've been doing a lot of researching online about how to handle an overly friendly neighbor.
When I got home yesterday, as soon as I walked past her unit, she raced out and called my name.
I knew she wanted to detain me with her gossip.
I had my keys in my hand ready to unlock my door, and just said, "I'm busy."
She asked if everything was ok.
Yep. I answered.
Then shut my door.
I owe nothing to her, or anyone else.
Nothing.
Great, well-handled. :)
miss.a.p1600
10-06-2018, 05:25 PM
Old dude gone say “it’s a lot of old people here!” Like dude they the same damn age as you! Df?!?
Then he gone say some “don’t ever leave me” uh bruh! Number 1 quit acting thirsty and 2. I’m not married therefore I am a free agent.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-06-2018, 05:47 PM
Thank You. I really appreciate that.
The therapist left a voicemail yesterday, saying that the women didn't feel comfortable with me being there and not sharing.
Fine with me.
I'm not a jump into a group and start sharing intimate details anyway. In my grief group it's perfectly fine not to share. And nobody ever asks for my number. Silly me thought this one would be the same.
*When I looked at the therapist's Facebook page, I noticed that we have a lot of the same friends. Just as I suspected. Too small of a town.
I'm good. For now.
I'm surprised they did that to you. Sorry to hear it.
miss.a.p1600
10-07-2018, 07:05 AM
This mf needs a lesson in manners.
He got me a small cake then proceeded to not only eat my cake with the spoon that had been in his mouth he touched one of them with his fingers.
#imdone
I took them home just to pretend to him like I’m going to eat them but I’m going to throw them away
Dude what part of I am a germaphobe and do not touch my shit are you not understanding???
Then his bitch ass squeezed me hard again. And tried to gaslight “oh I barely touched you”. I said next time I’m going to squeeze the shit out of your testicles then smugly say “oh I barely touched you”. I swear if he cannot figure out how to correctly touch a woman, and it shouldn’t take that long to figure out, he’s going to lose all his opportunities with me.
Glamourmilf
10-07-2018, 07:25 AM
I'm surprised they did that to you. Sorry to hear it.
Thank You.
It was surprising to me too.
A part of me wished that I would have met other sex workers there.
Perhaps some at the group were, I'll never know.
I looked at Meetup groups for sex workers, but nada.
I miss my gal pals in LA, who I used to dance/escort with.
Sure, we still talk on the phone.
But, there's nothing like face to face lunches, shopping excursions, and just having a movie night with them.
Ifyouseekamy
10-07-2018, 07:38 AM
Thank You. I really appreciate that.
The therapist left a voicemail yesterday, saying that the women didn't feel comfortable with me being there and not sharing.
Fine with me.
I'm not a jump into a group and start sharing intimate details anyway. In my grief group it's perfectly fine not to share. And nobody ever asks for my number. Silly me thought this one would be the same.
*When I looked at the therapist's Facebook page, I noticed that we have a lot of the same friends. Just as I suspected. Too small of a town.
I'm good. For now.
I'm surprised they did that to you. Sorry to hear it.
I hope you get the help you need.
Groups are so weird. Sometimes they are awesome and sometimes they can make things worse. Even in a “safe space”, I start with safe shares.
Maybe the women shelter can give you good references for a counselor. My DV group leader knows what I do and is really supportive.
I think finding a good therapist takes a lot of work. Most people don’t have the time and energy to try on different therapist when they are in a crisis.
The person who knows what’s best for me is the person in the mirror.
Take care.
carmen_b
10-07-2018, 10:07 AM
Ugh. I feel you. I’m very upset about every photo early 2016 to a few months ago.
We are our own worst critics.
I would look at them again in a week or two ( not before ) because I have had a pro shoot I hated and then didn’t hate them as much with fresh eyes a few weeks later.
I literally hate every single photo of me from my sister's wedding. In the dress I had with the professional hair and makeup I had done, I should have looked amazing and loved the way I look, but my current weight just ruined it all for me. The smallest smile gives me a double chin and you can see how chunky I am through all my clothes. I can't stand to look at myself.
This muthafuca had a 2 hour session and didn’t tip me! If you’re not going to tip stay your ass home!
Violethollywood
10-07-2018, 08:21 PM
my dumbass bf just royally pissed me off . Im so fucking mad . He saw me camming and made a comment about how i need to be able to twerk... oh okay i didn't know that. I would love to have a fat ass but i dont . I have a tiny ass. excuse me.
pissed me off so bad bc ive been working out HARD AF everyday the last 2 weeks - 3 weeks . and this MF wants to sit there and talk shit ? BITCH how about you pay my fucking bills since you know im struggling instead of making a bitch ass fucking comment on my ass? Then this piece of shit had the audacity to get mad at me for being offended and told me to get the fuck out of HIS house. um we rent this bitch. Not only that what the fuck how you gonna tell me to get out bc i told you i didn't like that comment? that's his go to to every fucking argument we have "get out of my house"
WHAT THE FUCK! GOD IM FUCKING MAD.
Vyanka
10-07-2018, 11:28 PM
Idkw to find cute handbags anymore. From cheapskie to high end brands. Everything is just NOT my style. I'm hating the fanny pack/belt bag trend, chains and straps that are thicker than a waist belt, mini backpacks(cute but not for everyday, etc).
Wtf yo! Where are the cute and feminine handbags at?
JessaJade
10-08-2018, 05:15 AM
I knew she wanted to detain me with her gossip.
LOL! Your posts on avoiding people and enjoying your solitude are so funny and relatable to me.
JessaJade
10-08-2018, 05:16 AM
Old dude gone say “it’s a lot of old people here!” Like dude they the same damn age as you! Df?!?
:rotfl:
JessaJade
10-08-2018, 05:17 AM
Idkw to find cute handbags anymore. From cheapskie to high end brands. Everything is just NOT my style. I'm hating the fanny pack/belt bag trend, chains and straps that are thicker than a waist belt, mini backpacks(cute but not for everyday, etc).
Wtf yo! Where are the cute and feminine handbags at?
Yes! I find it's the same with shoes. So many ugly styles around I give up for a while.
WendiStarr
10-08-2018, 06:42 AM
Mr. Flaky keeps appearing in my dreams. 3 days in a row now. Wtf, get out of my head! Also my mom is back to creating drama again. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with her. I just seen her Saturday for my daughter's birthday party and she was being nice and calm. Out of nowhere she felt the need to blow up my phone with such mean and hateful texts. She's back on ignore.
JGB2009
10-08-2018, 07:24 AM
Last night while I was at Walmart the cashier was rude to me. All I said to her was that the other items was on a separate order. She said I KNOW in a very rude tone. It was enough to make me look at her and give her the look of death!!! Honestly after that I was in a bad mood. Last night while looking at my receipt I noticed that I could leave a review online. I rated her a one and explained why. I like this Walmart cause it is closer to my house but I might start driving to the other one which will be a longer drive for me.
miss.a.p1600
10-08-2018, 07:39 AM
^ I like Walmart too because they are up on the times and it’s a reason they are one of the top chains
However 9 times out of 10 the people their suck. Whether it’s the ghetto trailer customers or the hood “I barely gaf” employees.
The best way to experience Walmart is online or their pickup (so you don’t have to step foot in the store) but occasionally they fuck up there as well.
From unreasonably long lines to expired food to workers with piss poor attitudes it makes the experience worse.
The other day I noticed the line at money center was astronomical and there was only 1 cashier (yet there was 3 registers). I see 2 employees standing right outside money center and I say “there are 12 people in line and only 1 cashier” the bitch was like “ok and....?” In my mind I’m like heaux you are the fucking assistant manager I shouldn’t have to tell you why that’s a fucking problem. So I politely said “can you get some backup to the register?” And she finally did it herself but she was passive aggressive and purposely worked slow as hell like she’d never seen the register before.
I guess Walmart hires and promotes any damn body.
carmen_b
10-08-2018, 09:34 AM
^ Walmart just pays so terribly and treat the people really bad. That's why you always have the most " off " people there it seems like. I think most people know they were also doing stuff like having 38-39 hour a week schedules ( to avoid paying health care ). I'm not up on a soap box about it at all because I go there ( I think pretty much everyone does if they are honest ).
^ I will try the pick up thing. Going inside depresses me every time.
carmen_b
10-08-2018, 09:41 AM
My pissy annoyance is the mid life crisis of my partner for last 7 years ( other than the last 6 weeks ).
His behavior reads straight down every " here is what to look for is a mid-life crisis " list . He turned 45 last month. He has been " off " for 5-6 months.
Unhappy. Whiny. Just " off " .
He plans to meet up with this ex of his who left him 12 years ago. They dated for a year. I only know about it because I made the mistake of pushing the info out of him.
I have let the stress of it distract me and irritate me for the last two days but now I am thinking that I'll just do NOTHING .
I won't call him (again ) and ask him not to go. Been there / done that. I won't try to reach her. I was tempted because I wanted to tell her that I couldn't believe she reached out to someone a couple months ago who was taken.
I am embarrassed. I made the mistake of telling my parents when I was upset a couple days ago.
I just wanted to be clear with him that I'm 100% NOT going to take him back if the weekend turns romantic. Now I just have to let it go.
I always thought being a sexually open person ( I have told him before that he didn't have to be 100% sexually monogamous to me as long as things were really low key and discreet ) would help my life overall but of course someone managed to find the one thing that will actually upset me. We were monogamous ( he never took my up on my offer ). We DID have a firm boundary not to contact exes at all which he broke obviously. ;/
Glamourmilf
10-08-2018, 09:53 AM
Idkw to find cute handbags anymore. From cheapskie to high end brands. Everything is just NOT my style. I'm hating the fanny pack/belt bag trend, chains and straps that are thicker than a waist belt, mini backpacks(cute but not for everyday, etc).
Wtf yo! Where are the cute and feminine handbags at?
Have you tried Etsy?
If they don't have it, someone on there can make it for you.
miss.a.p1600
10-08-2018, 10:53 AM
^ Walmart just pays so terribly and treat the people really bad. That's why you always have the most " off " people there it seems like. I think most people know they were also doing stuff like having 38-39 hour a week schedules ( to avoid paying health care ). I'm not up on a soap box about it at all because I go there ( I think pretty much everyone does if they are honest ).
^ I will try the pick up thing. Going inside depresses me every time.
Yes I discovered like half the people I know who act like Walmart shopping is beneath them.....covertly shop at Walmart. Lol!!!
I guess my annoyance is how fast the time goes.
Then mfs that waste my time.
carmen_b
10-08-2018, 10:56 AM
I know right ? People really do NOT spend more ( 90% anyway ) to " stand up " for their values. It's a sad thing about our modern times.
Elektra Luxx
10-08-2018, 11:34 AM
^^^
I like Walmart...mostly. Their clothes are not really trendy, but are inexpensive and great for every day casual. Also, I shop there for my groceries online and pick them up and they load them for me in my car.
BTW, Target has some cute purses/handbags. I'm very particular about my purses/handbags/mini-backpack and I will splurge. It has to be functional and easily organized with lots of specific pockets for thing like my phone, keys, coin purse, id etc. And when I say splurge, maybe I'll spend $100. Also, try thrift stores for designer purses/handbags/mini-backpacks. Especially thrift stores in upscale areas. Sometimes they have no idea what they have and you can find really nice things. Several times my sisters have found really nice hand bags like Prada or Gucci.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-08-2018, 11:37 AM
Idkw to find cute handbags anymore. From cheapskie to high end brands. Everything is just NOT my style. I'm hating the fanny pack/belt bag trend, chains and straps that are thicker than a waist belt, mini backpacks(cute but not for everyday, etc).
Wtf yo! Where are the cute and feminine handbags at?
Try Italian designers.
I like Brighton bags too but the style is very "American West".....not for everyone.
lilylilylily
10-08-2018, 01:45 PM
Last night while I was at Walmart the cashier was rude to me. All I said to her was that the other items was on a separate order. She said I KNOW in a very rude tone. It was enough to make me look at her and give her the look of death!!! Honestly after that I was in a bad mood. Last night while looking at my receipt I noticed that I could leave a review online. I rated her a one and explained why. I like this Walmart cause it is closer to my house but I might start driving to the other one which will be a longer drive for me.
Wow, I had to take the bus the other day and I got a very rude bus driver, even though I was polite (I said hello when I got on, he didnt) I dont have a bus pass and I was having trouble putting in change and he got really impatient, he was also late so maybe that's why but he brought out my inner Susie from the show Curb Your Enthusiasm and I called him a rude POS asshole. Ruined my day too.
Vyanka
10-08-2018, 04:14 PM
Have you tried Etsy?
If they don't have it, someone on there can make it for you.
I have. Didn't find anything on there.
NitaBaby
10-09-2018, 08:02 AM
My webcam isn’t working on my new computer for some reason. I’m an hour past when my schedule starts but still clicking around trying to figure it out.
WendiStarr
10-09-2018, 08:42 AM
I went old school and posted an ad for my vanilla residential cleaning service in the local newspaper. So far I've received nothing but responses from men asking if I would be willing to clean nude or blowing up my phone with texts, wanting to chat about sex or ask me personal questions like how old I am, where I'm from from, what I look like, do I have kids, am I single, etc. Some dude kept firing off questions even though I wasn't responding at all. Some other idiot said, "How about cleaning my cock with your tongue?". Ugh! Keep in mind they have no idea what I look like and there was nothing at all sexual in my ad. I guess they see a female name and automatically start acting thirsty. I'm annoyed by this and my ringer is now on silent. I see that I have new texts but I don't want to read them at all.
Glamourmilf
10-09-2018, 08:46 AM
I went old school and posted an ad for my vanilla residential cleaning service in the local newspaper. So far I've received nothing but responses from men asking if I would be willing to clean nude or blowing up my phone with texts, wanting to chat about sex or ask me personal questions like how old I am, where I'm from from, what I look like, do I have kids, am I single, etc. Some dude kept firing off questions even though I wasn't responding at all. Some other idiot said, "How about cleaning my cock with your tongue?". Ugh! Keep in mind they have no idea what I look like and there was nothing at all sexual in my ad. I guess they see a female name and automatically start acting thirsty. I'm annoyed by this and my ringer is now on silent. I see that I have new texts but I don't want to read them at all.
Wow! That's disturbing and disgusting on so many levels.
How dare they!!
I got the same response when I put an ad for cuddling.
So disappointed.
Elektra Luxx
10-09-2018, 10:21 AM
I went old school and posted an ad for my vanilla residential cleaning service in the local newspaper. So far I've received nothing but responses from men asking if I would be willing to clean nude or blowing up my phone with texts, wanting to chat about sex or ask me personal questions like how old I am, where I'm from from, what I look like, do I have kids, am I single, etc. Some dude kept firing off questions even though I wasn't responding at all. Some other idiot said, "How about cleaning my cock with your tongue?". Ugh! Keep in mind they have no idea what I look like and there was nothing at all sexual in my ad. I guess they see a female name and automatically start acting thirsty. I'm annoyed by this and my ringer is now on silent. I see that I have new texts but I don't want to read them at all.
There has to be a way make money from these idiots. It's like they're waiting read an ad like yours and respond. Maybe next time use an burner phone.
I’ve been getting at least 8 calls a day from different numbers that I block. If I answer they hang up. They’ve started calling my second number immediately after my primary number. I’m pretty sure this has to be someone who knows me but I’m told a lot of people are experiencing something similar. It’s irritating.