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Aurora_Sunset
09-06-2019, 01:11 PM
My back ALWAYS hurts lately. At first, I was joking about it, and "getting old haha," but it's ceased to be funny. I don't know what the problem is. It's usually my lower back. Yesterday, it was killing me. I tried sleeping with a pillow between my legs all night last night, since I used to do that and stopped, so I thought it was just bad hip alignment during the night. But then woke up this morning with my upper back hurting like hell instead. After a couple hours of doing nothing but laundry, my lower back is hurting again.

carmen_b
09-06-2019, 03:44 PM
This dance trip is going well.
On track.
BUT why does it feel like it should be going ever BETTER ? ! ? Lol.

I think I want a guy to call and be like " I made reservations at the steak house and have ( $400 + ) for you to not dance tonight but just join me for dinner and drinks on the town ". Like ......I want to be stupidly spoiled instead of spoiling .

I am just out there sometimes with ideas. Haha
I'm starving . I think that's part of it .

Glamourmilf
09-07-2019, 07:26 AM
Massage clients and the reasons they piss me off, would probably take up this thread on the daily.
I don't want to do that.
So, this will be the last rant.
A new customer contacted me yesterday morning. He wanted me to call him. * Here we go again.::)
He is rambling on, about being an ex soccer coach, getting injured, being paralyzed, etc etc. He's from Trinidad, he's 76 years old,, blah blah blah.
I tell him that I can help him. I give him my rate, and ask what day he wants the appt?
Do you think that's the end of it?
Nooo.
He tells me that he's moving into another unit that day, and will be ready to make the appt next week.
Okay.
I tell him that I've got a fully booked day, and have to run.
Do you think that's the end of it??
Nooo.
He tells me that he wants to cook for me, etc.
I hang up, and he starts rapid texting me throughout the day.
Giving me up to the minute status of his move. To which I never respond.
Omg Dude, STAAAAAAAP!!!:stop:
It would be different if I was alone and lonely.
But, I have to talk to hundreds of freeloaders on cam everyday!!
I can't anymore.
It's time to disconnect from the world for a while until I can regroup.

Edit to add: I replied to his message by just saying " That's great. Let me know when you are ready to make the appt."
He replied, " I'll call you later today."
Nooo!
I tell him I'm working all day, and to just text when he's ready to make the appt.
He texted ok.
Is that the end of it?
Nope.
He messages me, " Should I have all the moving boxes put away? Or?
Omg!
I also got a message time-stamped 2 am, asking for an incall massage. My ad clearly says OUTCALL ONLY!
He says he has company, so I can't go there.
* This ad isn't even for sensual massage. It's for a therapeutic!
So far, it's been only men who reply to the ad.
All wanting a ' fuck or happy ending."
I'm done.

This dude kept wanting an appointment. I caved and agreed.
Went to his dumpy apt yesterday.
As soon as I walked in, he asked me for a senior discount. He added, "There's going to be a happy ending, right?"
We already discussed on the phone that it's therapeutic.
For $120, I'm not touching any guy's dirty dick. Are you for real????:O
The entire massage was done with him laying on his back and begging me to touch his 'uncut' flacid wee wee.
Blech! Disgusting!:eek:
He kept saying he was so lonely and wanted me to let him touch me. Kept telling me to take off my clothes.
No!!!!
He started jerking himself off, and telling me how much he loves white women. Then he opened his mouth wide, and started making obscene tongue gestures, simulating eating pussy. :yuck:
*If he hadn't been a paraplegic, I would have been raped, for sure.
I told him that the massage is over, and it was time to leave.
When he went to pay me, and was counting out the money. He had the NERVE to say, "This is the easiest $120 you'll ever make in your life."
Not even close buddy.
He wants me to go over there again just to hang out.:rotfl:
Hours later, at 10:30 pm, he starts blowing up my phone, telling me how much he's looking forward to our next session.
Delete and block.

NitaBaby
09-07-2019, 07:37 AM
I know this girl who always tells me stories about her escapades with her "gay best friend" and for some reason that annoys the shit out of me. What does him being gay have to do with any part of your story? Does this mean you have a "regular" best friend? Does this guy know that he's the gay bestie? Like, when you introduce him to people do you say "this is Tom" or do you say, "this is that gay friend i told you about"? I don't understand the necessity behind the distinction.

"This is my Chinese best friend".
"This is my unemployed best friend".

I just don't get it lol I really don't. Just...can you not?

carmen_b
09-07-2019, 09:11 AM
Glam, omg gross.

You gotta get the $$ up front and put all your stuff in a pile ( like .... if your phone plays music, set it on top of your purse ). Keys clipped to top of purse for a quick grab also.
That's your go bag lol . Then if they are gross you can give one warning and on the next infraction you can say your need to end early due to the boundaries being crossed and grab your stuff and leave.
They are naked so they won't run after you ( most likely ) . Haha.

miss.a.p1600
09-07-2019, 09:30 AM
Reminds me of the time in my much younger naive days I needed some extra money and answered some ad.

It ended up being in some random motel (that should have been an alert right there) but when I walked in it was some old ass disabled dude who wanted to pay me to help him shower.

He wasnt naked but idk maybe he was because he was sitting on the ledge of the bathtub with a long white T-shirt

He could tell I was uncomfortable and was like it’s okay if you don’t want to stay.

I left cause it just wasn’t giving me good vibes

And like you girl I don’t wish that on no one but good thing he was disabled and couldn’t overpower or run after me.

Sorry to hear that guy was acting like such a disgusting animal

carmen_b
09-07-2019, 09:39 AM
^ The jerking off thing can be quite alarming in a session.
$120 is not enough for any kind of sexual service ( even a " self serve " ) so it's basically theft as well.
I've had it happen a few times and had to run out ( this is in YEARS of doing the massage hustle though ).

WendiStarr
09-07-2019, 09:43 AM
I'm frustrated with fbsm regulars lately. What is with the sudden push for fs? I swear, all of the mf'ers have been asking if I'm willing to do more and it's like "*Bob, I've been seeing you for 5+ years and never did fs with you. Why would I suddenly do it now?" I'm sick of the lacatation questions too. Even if I were lactating, I wouldn't want your nasty ass sucking on them! Maybe I just need to find a vanilla full-time job. I could not be any more turned off by men who are not my bf.

carmen_b
09-07-2019, 09:45 AM
^ Damn, it's a wave of massage guys bothering a few of us on here haha.

My most recent report wasn't a massage guy but a club guy. He asked how much for " outside the club " and I told him up front I only massage and don't do full service escorting . He offered $300 for escorting for two hours ( lol yeah right ! ) . My therapeutic massage price is $100 day time and $120 - $140 evenings. Haha. People are dumb sometimes.

chanzep
09-07-2019, 10:46 AM
I want to get laid, don't have time to date due to goals and the men in this city are trash mostly. Fml.

miss.a.p1600
09-07-2019, 11:43 AM
^ The jerking off thing can be quite alarming in a session.
$120 is not enough for any kind of sexual service ( even a " self serve " ) so it's basically theft as well.
I've had it happen a few times and had to run out ( this is in YEARS of doing the massage hustle though ).


Where is Edward when we need him?

51881

Alarm their nasty ass right back lol!

carmen_b
09-07-2019, 12:07 PM
Haha
I don’t need to cut their little wee wees off .
Just need boundaries understood and compensation correct. :)

miss.a.p1600
09-08-2019, 06:45 AM
Well perhaps.

But if dudes like that suffer consequences (not saying they necessarily need their dick chopped off per say - although the threat of it could whip them into place) for subjecting people to their fetishes without consent, it would be a lot less predatory behavior going on.

A lot less unsolicited dick pics, a lot less unsolicited self service, etc

Glamourmilf
09-08-2019, 07:15 AM
Where is Edward when we need him?

51881

Alarm their nasty ass right back lol!


This is where I'm at with men right now.
Just when I thought creepy massage guy, couldn't get any more creepy,.... He did.
He texted me early the next morning ( yesterday), telling me how he likes his coffee.::)
I didn't respond.
Then he texted me, saying that he'll pay me $200 to take my top off.:boobies: I still don't respond.
*While I was camming, and taking phone sex calls, ( from 10 am- 5 pm), he called and texted every few minutes for a total of 70 TIMES!!!! OMFG!
His last ditch attempt to contact me, was a text, saying, I WANT TO MAKE AN APPOINTMENT ( in all caps).
Clearly, he can't take a hint.
Stalker alert.
I blocked him.
I don't think this massage gig is for me.
Another guy who gave me a fake name, etc, asked me for a photo.
Little did he know it wasn't the right day to ask me that, considering my current mood.::)
I sent him a photo of Minnie Mouse.
:rotfl::rotfl:

WendiStarr
09-08-2019, 09:56 AM
I have had an awful headache since I woke up. It's the kind that I can feel pressure in my ears too. I hope I'm not coming down with something.

lynn2009
09-08-2019, 06:54 PM
My dumb dog walker isn't available this week and she is only telling me this now. Dumb asshole.

chanzep
09-08-2019, 07:44 PM
@Glamourmilf I'm imagining the guy opening the Minnie Mouse pic LMAO.

seashell
09-09-2019, 06:25 AM
My dumb dog walker isn't available this week and she is only telling me this now. Dumb asshole.

That's super lame. My dog walker is a 16 year old girl, and she is so mature and professional, lol.

WendiStarr
09-09-2019, 02:15 PM
I had an hour outcall massage today. As soon as I got there he wanted to skip to the happy ending right away and said that he had to leave in 10-15 minutes to go on a date. Wth? As if I felt like wasting 20 minutes getting there, lugging the massage table up the steps and in the door, and going through getting everything set up only to be rushed out of there. I am convinced that there must be some nationwide bullshit massage "monger"(what they refer to themselves) group out there somewhere that's telling them all to act like asshats, I swear.

miss.a.p1600
09-09-2019, 05:31 PM
I am so tired and just want to go to sleep.....


But I have hella household duties, prep for tomorrow, plus I have this face mask on that I don’t feel like spending the time and energy washing off.

Just shag me backwards

carmen_b
09-10-2019, 08:42 AM
My brain for remember dates strikes again. Barf.
J's ( 2011-2018 ) birthday today. We always went " big " on birthdays , anniversaries , valentines.

I am just trying to let it go .
It's a good sign I guess I didn't remember it until yesterday. I did feel super " off " yesterday.

NitaBaby
09-10-2019, 08:59 AM
I keep getting these brain numbing headaches. Had one for the entire 3 hour movie yesterday. Got it again this morning. BF thinks I might need to see an eye doctor because of how I only get headaches when I'm looking at a screen......I had not thought about it like that. I am sick and damn tired of my skull hurting.

WendiStarr
09-10-2019, 09:22 AM
I went for a walk and this stupid city utility truck decided to stop right in front of me and park in such a way that I had a difficult time seeing traffic coming. Every time I tried to cross the street I couldn't because vehicles just kept on coming. People couldn't see me behind the damn truck so when the pedestrian sign was lit up, of course no one was stopping because they assumed no pedestrians were walking. After waiting what felt like forever, I saw an opening but figured I'd better hurry up and cross before traffic comes again. I ran across. I guess the rush of all that triggered my heart to start racing really fast that by the time I had got to the other side safely, I felt like I couldn't breathe and my heart was beating crazy fast. It must've been an anxiety attack because it went away once I got home and laid down with the fan blowing in my face and drank some water. That was scary. I need to just avoid walking any areas where I may have to run because every time I have, I have had that scary racing heart and breathless feeling.

Glamourmilf
09-10-2019, 09:41 AM
I went for a walk and this stupid city utility truck decided to stop right in front of me and park in such a way that I had a difficult time seeing traffic coming. Every time I tried to cross the street I couldn't because vehicles just kept on coming. People couldn't see me behind the damn truck so when the pedestrian sign was lit up, of course no one was stopping because they assumed no pedestrians were walking. After waiting what felt like forever, I saw an opening but figured I'd better hurry up and cross before traffic comes again. I ran across. I guess the rush of all that triggered my heart to start racing really fast that by the time I had got to the other side safely, I felt like I couldn't breathe and my heart was beating crazy fast. It must've been an anxiety attack because it went away once I got home and laid down with the fan blowing in my face and drank some water. That was scary. I need to just avoid walking any areas where I may have to run because every time I have, I have had that scary racing heart and breathless feeling.

OMG That's so scary!
Especially being pregnant.
I had to move out of the city, because my anxiety attacks got so bad every time I'd leave my apt.
Hope you feel better.

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-10-2019, 12:52 PM
Petty annoyed at our middleman, who is paying us late again.

This should be an interesting weekend.

lurkingtitties
09-11-2019, 06:58 PM
That's super lame. My dog walker is a 16 year old girl, and she is so mature and professional, lol.

How did you find your dog walker? I’d love to find a good one for my dog. He’s neurotic and won’t go with just anyone.

miss.a.p1600
09-11-2019, 08:18 PM
What I am pissy about Is Why am I always drawn to this thread?

I wish I could have safe nsa sex but I always assume the dude will be crazy af afterwards. It’s like male privilege entitled them to be sexist douchebags who cum n run but no! Don’t ever let a lady ride a face n run ... they lose their minds

lynn2009
09-11-2019, 11:28 PM
I try not to talk to that guy at work anymore because I am positive he considers me a charity case but sometimes I can't help it and then I feel like more of a loser than ever.

seashell
09-12-2019, 07:27 AM
My dog has eaten something poisonous and ended up at the vet, twice in the last few months. And both times, right before I was supposed to go on vacation. I am so stressed out. I don't know who is going out for drinks with me later, but dear lord it's that kind of a night.

WendiStarr
09-12-2019, 07:56 AM
Someone keeps calling me with a restricted number. I ended up putting my phone on silent. I have this feeling that it's baby's daddy's alleged ex wife. It could just be a telemarketer I guess. Regardless of who it is it's annoying.

carmen_b
09-12-2019, 11:53 AM
I had a GREAT time at the cabin a couple days ago with M but now I am feeling irritated.

I said a couple days ahead I was leaving for the place at 3 p.m. Tuesday. Instead of arriving here at 3 and making it seamless he asked if we were going still at 2:45 p.m.
I gave him a break on that ( weather was looking bad ) and told him I'd leave at 3:30 . I did leave ( didn't wait for him as he arrived late ) and he drove up.

He had nothing to eat or drink ( fully aware this is a cabin the forest ).
We had a great time BUT I'm feeling salty about the lack of prep on his part today. I don't think I'm being a bitch . Thoughts ? I mean ... we went somewhere really cool that i provided ( no cost to him ).
Maybe it's a lesson for next time and I'll be more clear like " bring dinner, drinks , snacks, and breakfast stuff ".

I feel like he could redeem himself by offering to take me to a nice meal in a couple days when I'm back in town .

carmen_b
09-12-2019, 12:01 PM
#2

Packing day for a day job trip. Ugh ! Worked already and now have to pack, do a pick up, and drive 5 hours ! ;(

I said I'd be there and need the $ from the gig so there is no debating ......... I'm going .......... just looking to bitch I guess hahaha.

miss.a.p1600
09-12-2019, 01:28 PM
Went to apply for a job. And right after I fill out the application these people are like “ready for a drug screen?” And she proceeds to do it herself! I thought they were supposed to send us to a lab or something- after hire.

Good thing I kicked those habits lol

Elektra Luxx
09-12-2019, 01:37 PM
I feel so unhealthy. I'm tired all the time. I haven't exercised in months and I've been eating like really unhealthy. There's a new gym opening just a block away and I've decided that I'm going to start working out again.

My next round of cancer treatments don't start until the middle of October, so that gives me some time to get in better shape before I start feeling really tired again.

Oh...change of subject

MEN SUCK!!!

Aurora_Sunset
09-13-2019, 01:45 PM
Hubby is super burnt out. He works all the time, and every day he has off, he has his kids. I know he loves when he gets to have them over, but I also know they wear him out. He never has a day to just relax by himself with no responsibilities. He almost cried at work yesterday, and just kept saying that he was tired, and I know he meant mentally and emotionally.

I really wanted to plan a little surprise trip today and cheer him up, but when I went to request a couple days off for him, I realized he doesn't have enough PTO to take any extra days off this month or next. I don't know what to do for him.

WendiStarr
09-13-2019, 08:47 PM
The downside of living close to a hospital: creepy ass sounding ambulance sirens. It sounded like some apocalypse shit. I've never heard a siren like that before. It sounded exactly like the city of Chicago's creepy tornado siren(Google it if you don't know what I'm talking about but I don't suggest doing so at night or while home alone). I'm home alone tonight and now I can't sleep.

SnuffleUffleGrass
09-14-2019, 06:15 AM
The downside of living close to a hospital: creepy ass sounding ambulance sirens. It sounded like some apocalypse shit. I've never heard a siren like that before. It sounded exactly like the city of Chicago's creepy tornado siren(Google it if you don't know what I'm talking about but I don't suggest doing so at night or while home alone). I'm home alone tonight and now I can't sleep.

Oh that sucks.

Petty annoyance …..the neighbors let their house cat out to run around and I know what's going to happen to it. Poor thing will be 1) hit by a car 2) grabbed by a coyote or 3) picked up by Animal Control. I hate negligent pet owners.

JGB2009
09-14-2019, 06:23 AM
Annoyed that I broke out with a cold sore yesterday. I feel so gross!!!

Elektra Luxx
09-14-2019, 09:24 AM
lynn2009...clear out your PMs.

Aurora_Sunset
09-14-2019, 10:20 AM
I am in a really unmotivated depression pit this weekend. I will get some sort of workout done today, if only because I have to report to my mom as my accountability buddy. But I also know I NEED to work, I need to go out and Uber and get that good Saturday money. But I so don't want to leave the apartment. I'm tired of relying on it.

I'm mad at myself for dragging my feet on responding to the credit union I applied to. They emailed me back the day after I submitted my application, and I held off on responding for 5 days, because "oh what if I really don't want it?" I finally did when I was at my part-time job and in a moment of realizing how much I fucking hate being there, and anything has to be better than picking up there. But I never heard from them after that, so I think they pegged me as flaky, and I ruined it.

Aurora_Sunset
09-14-2019, 10:23 AM
Also, 7-year old peed himself, probably over last weekend, and just threw his completely soaked shorts in their hamper rather than tell us. Of course, this means they didn't dry, didn't get rinsed, and just soaked several of his sister's clothes that were around them, and they sat in there festering for almost a week until I did laundry yesterday.

The wash cleaned mostly everything that was affected, but one was a dress with different material for the ruffles, and I don't think it will come out... It still smells like piss when I sniff it. I'll try once more, but I'm not super hopeful. Anyone have tips for getting urine stench out of clothes?

WendiStarr
09-14-2019, 10:53 AM
^ Wash everything in a cup of white vinegar, just white vinegar, no detergent. Then after washing them in white vinegar, wash them in your normal detergent. That should work. My daughter was a bed wetter and used to pee through her clothes and all over my bed sheets and blankets all the time when she was younger.

My annoyance for the day is bf is being indecisive again. I was looking forward to spending a nice weekend together but he left, who knows where. I can't keep putting up with this anymore.

carmen_b
09-14-2019, 12:39 PM
You could probably follow up with them and offer to meet them this Mon. or Tues. if you wanted it.
I find people tend to er on the " too cautious " side with jobs. They WANT someone showing initiative and sending the " I am ready to work soon " vibe.

Even if you tried it and bailed in a month if you hated it ........ ( sometimes I have to think of things that way ).


I am in a really unmotivated depression pit this weekend. I will get some sort of workout done today, if only because I have to report to my mom as my accountability buddy. But I also know I NEED to work, I need to go out and Uber and get that good Saturday money. But I so don't want to leave the apartment. I'm tired of relying on it.

I'm mad at myself for dragging my feet on responding to the credit union I applied to. They emailed me back the day after I submitted my application, and I held off on responding for 5 days, because "oh what if I really don't want it?" I finally did when I was at my part-time job and in a moment of realizing how much I fucking hate being there, and anything has to be better than picking up there. But I never heard from them after that, so I think they pegged me as flaky, and I ruined it.

carmen_b
09-14-2019, 12:40 PM
Wtf ?
You guys had plans tonight ?
;/




My annoyance for the day is bf is being indecisive again. I was looking forward to spending a nice weekend together but he left, who knows where. I can't keep putting up with this anymore.

lynn2009
09-14-2019, 12:53 PM
The wash cleaned mostly everything that was affected, but one was a dress with different material for the ruffles, and I don't think it will come out... It still smells like piss when I sniff it. I'll try once more, but I'm not super hopeful. Anyone have tips for getting urine stench out of clothes?

You could try running it through the washer with a half cup of white vinegar, no detergent. I haven't done this before but I know my sister has when her pets have had accidents.

Elle:)
09-14-2019, 01:05 PM
I was convinced to try a new restaurant that turned out to be super gross and I feel sick now. And I feel so tired.

carmen_b
09-14-2019, 01:09 PM
^ Damn. I hate wasting funds on disappointing dining. ;/

lynn2009
09-14-2019, 03:24 PM
You could probably follow up with them and offer to meet them this Mon. or Tues. if you wanted it.
I find people tend to er on the " too cautious " side with jobs. They WANT someone showing initiative and sending the " I am ready to work soon " vibe.

Even if you tried it and bailed in a month if you hated it ........ ( sometimes I have to think of things that way ).

I agree, you could tell them you were traveling those 5 days, that is always a good excuse.

WendiStarr
09-14-2019, 06:53 PM
Wtf ?
You guys had plans tonight ?
;/

Yes. What's super annoying and stupid is that he called me at 9 tonight with plans for us, only to text me twenty minutes later saying he wants to just stay where he is and watch TV by himself. I'm not dumb enough to believe that he's actually alone. I give up.

And this night got even more confusing. He texted me at 11pm to say he's coming over and we're going bowling. I didn't think he was serious so I was laying in bed in my PJ's. He texted me to say he was outside. I had to hurry up and get dressed and wipe my pathetic tear-stained and makeup smeared face. I hate bowling and he knows this but I went with him anyways. At the bowling alley he said he was going to come back and let me have my way with him. He put his hand on my belly, smiled at me and said,"We're gonna have a baby!". He made a joke about me being his sugar mama for the night and grabbed my ass. I jokingly told him that he didn't earn that privilege yet. Once we got home, he went to the bathroom and his attitude changed once he came out. Suddenly he said he's leaving and he'll call me in a few days. I told him to please stay and he said, "Nope, I'm leaving. You're too serious". I told him I was joking and he could grab my ass if he wanted and he told me no, that I don't know how to have fun and that he thinks I'm too serious. Now he's not answering his phone. I don't know what the fuck is going on.

Ifyouseekamy
09-15-2019, 03:41 PM
I just wanted to vent. I person in my personal development group told me I just needed to work on my shame about being a sex worker. They are trying to be supportive-which is all I can ask for really. I was talking about why I can’t make friends. I had a traumatic experience of being outed and being shunned and lost a job opportunity to exit the industry. This lady tells me I need to work on my shame. She’s right I need to get off the shame train. But we are a marginalized and vulnerable group. I felt a little invalidated when she said just don’t care what anyone thinks. To some degree she’s right. But that’s like telling a gay guy who has lost his job, family, friends because he’s gay to just not care about what other people think about being gay. Sure getting rid of that internal shame is a good place to start, but there are economic and social consequences to being a sex worker and she didn’t understand that. I thanked her for her advice on working on my shame because she’s not all wrong, but a little annoyed at the oversimplification of women’s oppression. At the same time, i do need to focus on what I can control. I can’t control the patriarchy, so focusing on my sex worker shame really is the right answer.