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carmen_b
02-09-2020, 02:53 PM
^ A festival ?

I notice sometimes with those events I look forward to them and then get there and I'm like " fuck why did I do this ?" .

WendiStarr
02-09-2020, 03:01 PM
BD is an asshole, got me all worried for no reason, and then had the nerve to be all pissy at me. No, don't send me a nighttime text making me think that you're in danger and then go silent on me and have your phone go straight to voicemail. Asshole, made me worry that he had done something bad. I sent police to do a wellness check and sure enough, once I did that, he sent me angry texts asking what the fuck was wrong with me, why did I send the police, blah blah blah. What the fuck is wrong with me is that apparently I still care enough about your ass to have someone check on you, since you have the truck and car seat so I can't go anywhere. I swear I'm not going to bother anymore. I'll only answer if he asks about our daughter and nothing more. I'm not going to reach out to him or worry about him anymore. I'm so tired of having my mind screwed with and my heart broken.

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2020, 03:53 PM
A day job client is reminding me of a club client who either doesn't know what they want or is pretending not to know to drag time out ......

Haha.

We are in a third variation of the contract ( yes, third ! ) .
Cross y'alls fingers that this third time is THE charm. If it is, I will make $600 today which will help life tremendously.


Humans! Especially indecisive ones.

My first couple months vanilla selling I encountered old Mfs well seniors over 70. They’d ask for info, and when I get there to explain it, they’d come up with every excuse in the book

And to make matters worse this bitch lived in the sticks, and I had to drive a good 1.5 hrs total to meet with him.

it’s like they’ll intentionally drag out time with me simply cause they’re bored lonely or whatever.


I wish I could do like mega hustler strippers and walk out mid sentence literally so I just do the next best thing and quickly rush out if I feel like they won’t/can’t buy.

Anyhow im sure you’ll make the 600 either with that client or quickly with another client

seashell
02-09-2020, 05:02 PM
My petty annoyance is that today I went out with some new people, and I had a really great time, but can't shake the feeling that no one likes me. I always get this way after socializing with people, and I know it's usually not true, but...

Elektra Luxx
02-09-2020, 05:22 PM
^ A festival ?

I notice sometimes with those events I look forward to them and then get there and I'm like " fuck why did I do this ?" .

It's Six Flags Fiesta Texas. It's a theme park with rides, shows, games, gift shops and restaurants. They're having a Mardi Gras themed event going and they've got people dressed in costumes they're giving Mardi Gras beads. So a guy in costume walks up to me and asks if I want beads. I said "sure" and I didn't flash him my boobies...well...it's a theme park for kids and families but he still gave me beads. So that's a plus.

https://www.sixflags.com/fiestatexas/special-events/mardi-gras

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2020, 07:36 PM
I only have one dude in my harem right now.

Last time I tried to date one guy at a time I ended up getting emotionally attached and it was a disaster. I’m back to my belief on harems but i need to actually have more than one

chanzep
02-09-2020, 08:06 PM
Sometimes I forget how bad people look at Strippers. There is a video all over the internet of a girl having a bad fall off the pole. like and still twerking. The comments are terrible. Most people making jokes etc. I hope the girl is ok I saw a girl fall like that before and she was concussed.

lynn2009
02-09-2020, 08:17 PM
What is call off?

miss.a.p1600
02-09-2020, 09:41 PM
Sometimes I forget how bad people look at Strippers. There is a video all over the internet of a girl having a bad call off like and still twerking. The comments are terrible. Most people making jokes etc. I hope the girl is ok I saw a girl fall like that before and she was concussed.

Just saw that. And that’s how black people do. If she got up moving they assumed she was okay and the roasting commenced

She had had to be in shock though.

and the fucked up things is no one around that was willing to help her.

Id think bouncers are supposed to be watching the stage. At least one bouncer is supposed to keep eye on stage but sometimes they are lazy af.

She should have just laid there but the fact she was moving around like nothing happened I guess they figured she’s okay just playing it off.

chanzep
02-09-2020, 10:09 PM
I edited post I meant fall , my damn auto correct!. Yes all over Instagram on some rapper s and comedians posted it. I read a comment that she broke her jaw, not sure how true that is. Most comments were gross. These are the same vanilla girls that song along to Cardi B and think they are Sugar babies for getting $100 dollars off a dude. But think they are better than girls in club's ugh.

carmen_b
02-09-2020, 10:10 PM
Yeah, and try to see if their weak arms and sand bag bodies could even get UP the pole. 95% couldn't !
Sometimes I forget how bad people look at Strippers. There is a video all over the internet of a girl having a bad fall off the pole. like and still twerking. The comments are terrible. Most people making jokes etc. I hope the girl is ok I saw a girl fall like that before and she was concussed.

seashell
02-10-2020, 04:07 AM
^So true! Just yesterday I was around people who were making fun of sex workers. One of them knows I used to be a stripper, and the rest were just dragging sex workers as if we're inhuman. They don't realize how disgusting and ignorant they sound.

My petty annoyance is that I don't want to go to my dad's third fucking wedding. First of all, it's really really expensive for me to go back to the US. He paid for my flight, but I also need to board my dogs, pay for hotels on my layovers, I'm going to miss out on work, and I'm in the middle of trying to move to a different country.

And I don't want to deal with meeting her, I don't even want him in my life, I don't want to have to drive all the way to his small town, in the middle of nowhere. All of it is just not appealing in any way whatsoever.

miss.a.p1600
02-10-2020, 07:25 AM
I hate turning down sex from bonafide pro freaks cause my body can sense it will be good.

But 9 times out of 10 they don’t offer anything else along with dick.

Idiots!!!

Aurora_Sunset
02-10-2020, 12:13 PM
I accidentally lost track of the day and paid 2 credit card payments a day late. This one single fucking day past schedule will result in over $100 in late fees next month. Just kill me now.

Aurora_Sunset
02-10-2020, 12:14 PM
Oh also, in addition to my most prevalent part time job fucking with my schedule and hours, I was just told not to come into my other part time job tonight because of maintenance. There goes more money when I need it most.

miss.a.p1600
02-10-2020, 12:30 PM
I accidentally lost track of the day and paid 2 credit card payments a day late. This one single fucking day past schedule will result in over $100 in late fees next month. Just kill me now.

I hate that.

Reminder notification on your phone?

miss.a.p1600
02-10-2020, 07:10 PM
^i also meant to say that if you’ve never been late in past 12 months they might remove the late fee.

whirlerz
02-10-2020, 08:02 PM
So, finally the drunk guy in my place's moving, this Sat. he says..

I go down the street to the gas station to buy a lotto tix & a pop, & guess who comes in while I'm chatting w/the clerk?
I know damn good & well he's expecting me to drive his drunk ass home,since he doesn't/can't drive (after he bought a big bottle of cheap vodka) which fuck all that.

I ran in the bathroom, shut the door, peeked out a couple X's & waited til he was gone, TG!
He was getting all flirty w/me earlier, FUCK OUTTA HERE!:yikes:

lynn2009
02-10-2020, 08:51 PM
Yeah, and try to see if their weak arms and sand bag bodies could even get UP the pole. 95% couldn't !

I danced on and off for 6? years and I could never climb the pole. That shit is so hard!

NitaBaby
02-11-2020, 08:14 AM
I can't cuddle while I sleep. Get the fuck off of me and take your body heat with you.

Bf will make a playful comment every now and then about how I like to "sleep by myself" as if I'm sleeping in an entirely different room or something. But last night he tried to cuddle and I immediately woke up and couldn't fall back to sleep. Told the man that he simply HAS to move and he was like "c'mon, I just want to cuddle with you". How sweet, but it was four in the morning and I had one more hour before I needed to get up and start my day. I had to grab a pillow and act like I was gonna sleep on the couch for him to finally get off me.

Now I'm irritated. I didn't fall back to sleep after that and I hate feeling guilty for being unaffectionate when it actually has nothing to do with affection at all. A 250lb man on my chest does not help me sleep. Period. I can reserve a seat in your lap later on that day but when I'm sleeping GIVE ME MY ROOM. It bugs me that he doesn't truly understand that. Mind you, he hasn't said or done anything since 4 this morning to make me feel defensive or like I need to explain myself. It's just the fact that he seriously wasn't moving until I started getting out of the bed and he never NOT listens to me. So he definitely thought I was joking or at least thought I was not that serious about it.......even though I've made my sleeping habits very clear in the 3 years we've been together......*sigh*. I'm tired asf now. But guess who has yet ANOTHER sleep quirk and can't take naps without drugging herself?

I need to figure out how I'm going to answer his routine "how did you sleep" question because I already know I'm going to say something bitchy.

carmen_b
02-11-2020, 11:01 AM
Totally !! I BARELY do it anymore !!! I was not excluding myself when I was speaking about that body description haha !
I danced on and off for 6? years and I could never climb the pole. That shit is so hard!

carmen_b
02-11-2020, 11:03 AM
They paid but just like 5 minutes ago when I sent a text saying someone else was ready to book that day and I'd only be able to work with one person ........

Sales person B.S.

hahahah

Every Feb. commission I have either paid or pending has been like that. It's a drag out fight to claw the credit card of the persons hands hahaha. I'm heading to strip. It certainly couldn't be worse and I can work in my underwear, drink , and continue this fighting to get paid by day light hours when I'm not at the club.


Humans! Especially indecisive ones.

My first couple months vanilla selling I encountered old Mfs well seniors over 70. They’d ask for info, and when I get there to explain it, they’d come up with every excuse in the book

And to make matters worse this bitch lived in the sticks, and I had to drive a good 1.5 hrs total to meet with him.

it’s like they’ll intentionally drag out time with me simply cause they’re bored lonely or whatever.


I wish I could do like mega hustler strippers and walk out mid sentence literally so I just do the next best thing and quickly rush out if I feel like they won’t/can’t buy.

Anyhow im sure you’ll make the 600 either with that client or quickly with another client

miss.a.p1600
02-11-2020, 11:21 AM
I don’t like cuddling anymore either.

A different reason.

I dated this guy who turned out to be insecure and clingy.....and it really showed at night when he’d be half asleep (I think) and wrap his legs and arms on me to the point I felt smothered.

Now when I think of cuddling I think it time-wasting, smothering, clinging and heavy.

Maybe I’ll be open to it again one day. But for now if it ain’t a breastfeeding infant......im
not trying to do it.

Now if *I* want to do it to them, which is a rare “lay my head on your chest” moment, then they will gleefully oblige

im a hypocrite in this aspect but it’s only cause I don’t do anything in sentence #4.


I can't cuddle while I sleep. Get the fuck off of me and take your body heat with you.

Bf will make a playful comment every now and then about how I like to "sleep by myself" as if I'm sleeping in an entirely different room or something. But last night he tried to cuddle and I immediately woke up and couldn't fall back to sleep. Told the man that he simply HAS to move and he was like "c'mon, I just want to cuddle with you". How sweet, but it was four in the morning and I had one more hour before I needed to get up and start my day. I had to grab a pillow and act like I was gonna sleep on the couch for him to finally get off me.

Now I'm irritated. I didn't fall back to sleep after that and I hate feeling guilty for being unaffectionate when it actually has nothing to do with affection at all. A 250lb man on my chest does not help me sleep. Period. I can reserve a seat in your lap later on that day but when I'm sleeping GIVE ME MY ROOM. It bugs me that he doesn't truly understand that. Mind you, he hasn't said or done anything since 4 this morning to make me feel defensive or like I need to explain myself. It's just the fact that he seriously wasn't moving until I started getting out of the bed and he never NOT listens to me. So he definitely thought I was joking or at least thought I was not that serious about it.......even though I've made my sleeping habits very clear in the 3 years we've been together......*sigh*. I'm tired asf now. But guess who has yet ANOTHER sleep quirk and can't take naps without drugging herself?

I need to figure out how I'm going to answer his routine "how did you sleep" question because I already know I'm going to say something bitchy.

miss.a.p1600
02-11-2020, 11:27 AM
I do the same sometimes too.

Like look mf. You asked for help with this, I’m here to help, but I got other people who requested I see them and my schedule is packed. Now are you gonna take some action or shall I close your file?!?

Letting them know youre in demand AND you are okay losing them cause you have other clients is key with some of these people who like playing hardball. Past couple months people have been tight walleted. I’m hoping now since people got their tax returns back and maybe some money back that they will be spending again.

Good thing to hear he paid.


They paid but just like 5 minutes ago when I sent a text saying someone else was ready to book that day and I'd only be able to work with one person ........

Sales person B.S.

hahahah

Every Feb. commission I have either paid or pending has been like that. Like .....a drag out fight to claw the credit card of the persons hands hahaha. I'm heading to strip. It certainly couldn't be worse and I can work in my underwear, drink , and continue this fighting to get paid by day light hours when I'm not at the club.

carmen_b
02-11-2020, 11:31 AM
^ I have to do stuff like that sometimes to get them off the fence ( like 25-30% of the time or so ). Part of sales I guess . A certain part is genuine though. It's kind of like " buy something or we are done in 24 hours ".

Aurora_Sunset
02-11-2020, 12:18 PM
I can't cuddle while I sleep. Get the fuck off of me and take your body heat with you.

Bf will make a playful comment every now and then about how I like to "sleep by myself" as if I'm sleeping in an entirely different room or something. But last night he tried to cuddle and I immediately woke up and couldn't fall back to sleep. Told the man that he simply HAS to move and he was like "c'mon, I just want to cuddle with you". How sweet, but it was four in the morning and I had one more hour before I needed to get up and start my day. I had to grab a pillow and act like I was gonna sleep on the couch for him to finally get off me.

Now I'm irritated. I didn't fall back to sleep after that and I hate feeling guilty for being unaffectionate when it actually has nothing to do with affection at all. A 250lb man on my chest does not help me sleep. Period. I can reserve a seat in your lap later on that day but when I'm sleeping GIVE ME MY ROOM. It bugs me that he doesn't truly understand that. Mind you, he hasn't said or done anything since 4 this morning to make me feel defensive or like I need to explain myself. It's just the fact that he seriously wasn't moving until I started getting out of the bed and he never NOT listens to me. So he definitely thought I was joking or at least thought I was not that serious about it.......even though I've made my sleeping habits very clear in the 3 years we've been together......*sigh*. I'm tired asf now. But guess who has yet ANOTHER sleep quirk and can't take naps without drugging herself?

I need to figure out how I'm going to answer his routine "how did you sleep" question because I already know I'm going to say something bitchy.

I cannot cuddle while trying to sleep either. I’m fine for a little cuddling for a few minutes, but then get off me when I’m actually trying to fall asleep. It’s hot and legitimately uncomfortable for me. I’m small. And my man is not small. He doesn’t get that. When we first started dating, we discovered that him trying to spoon me at night literally fucked up my shoulder so badly for a week straight (until we figured out the cause) that I thought I would have to go to the doctor. It’s because his weight on me all night is too damn heavy. That shit HURT and I don’t think he understands how serious that was for me. Even his arm draping over my side fucking hurts - it’s putting pressure onto my lung and I can’t breathe properly. Or it’s down low and just crushing the squishy part of my stomach. Cuddling is supposed to be a nice experience. It’s not nice when I’m in pain.

NitaBaby
02-11-2020, 01:53 PM
I cannot cuddle while trying to sleep either. I’m fine for a little cuddling for a few minutes, but then get off me when I’m actually trying to fall asleep. It’s hot and legitimately uncomfortable for me. I’m small. And my man is not small. He doesn’t get that. When we first started dating, we discovered that him trying to spoon me at night literally fucked up my shoulder so badly for a week straight (until we figured out the cause) that I thought I would have to go to the doctor. It’s because his weight on me all night is too damn heavy. That shit HURT and I don’t think he understands how serious that was for me. Even his arm draping over my side fucking hurts - it’s putting pressure onto my lung and I can’t breathe properly. Or it’s down low and just crushing the squishy part of my stomach. Cuddling is supposed to be a nice experience. It’s not nice when I’m in pain.


Yes! Exactly.

I’m attracted to men that dwarf me so it’s kind of ironic that his size is 90% of the problem when it comes to cuddling. It really does hurt. Just one arm across my stomach makes me feel like I’m balancing luggage on my chest. I’m sorry you got hurt like that, I definitely feel for you. And I’m glad I’m not the only one.

WendiStarr
02-12-2020, 07:29 AM
I wish I knew a hacker. I seriously would pay someone to remove me from EM's stupid website. I have been retired from fbsm, yet someone created another fake account with my pictures and info on there and is posting fake reviews, as if I'm still active. It pisses me off because BD saw it and asked me how I'm still doing fbsm with a newborn. I've not been doing anything work wise other than Phrendly, NF texting, and selling pictures and videos from when I was pregnant. I contacted EM about it and they are still on the whole,"Send us a face picture with today's date on it to prove it's you". I don't see how that would help when the person stole my faceless pictures from my deleted website.

chanzep
02-12-2020, 01:47 PM
I have Pmt and people are annoying me. Also the dancer that fell got money on Go Find me and people are mad too. I am disappointed in people s attitude now I know why I did not fuck with vanilla people for so long they are full of shit .

seashell
02-12-2020, 10:56 PM
My petty annoyance is that I spent way too much money yesterday, but it was all on things that I needed to buy. Like new bras and underwear. I've had the same ratchet bras and underwear for an eternity.

NitaBaby
02-13-2020, 04:03 AM
got up at 4 in the morning to cam because "early asf" is the only kind of morning shift worth logging on for and LO AND BEHOLD. i'm cramping and cannot ignore it.

i'm leaning over with my fist in my stomach to put pressure on my uterus as we speak. how nice.

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2020, 09:56 AM
My petty annoyance is that I spent way too much money yesterday, but it was all on things that I needed to buy. Like new bras and underwear. I've had the same ratchet bras and underwear for an eternity.

Lol!!!! Same....

whirlerz
02-13-2020, 10:08 AM
I go sum nice undies @Ross4less, j/s :)

Well, I rarely open my mail, since I pay my bills online..

Got a letter from an insurance Co. I no longer have..
I was sent a 40.check eons ago its uncashed, have no froggin clue what pile it's in or where..

miss.a.p1600
02-13-2020, 01:25 PM
I want this reusable menstrual disc

It’s pricey so I was waiting for the cvs 40% off

My dumb ass forgot, it’s expired and now I don’t know when another one will come to my email.

Hopefully before my period

chanzep
02-13-2020, 04:01 PM
The vanilla world is really killing me. The only job I could stand was bartender.

whirlerz
02-13-2020, 04:53 PM
I wrote about this in the Streamate thread, but now, after submitting 2 more documents, that they SAID WOULD BE ACCEPTABLE , I now have to run down to the main post office & go thru more BS.

I wonder tho, if I shut down my account, if they'll F me out of my $, since it's less than the minimum amount.

JGB2009
02-13-2020, 06:11 PM
My period starts the day before Valentines day. Fuckin lovely!!!!!

Adrienne7
02-13-2020, 08:17 PM
HEY!!! I am MENSTRUATING here, I should not have to HINT that you need to bring me wine and pizza, you should READ MY FUCKING MIND. Goddamn it. Fine go to your guy's night and play your fucking Magic cards. I'm F.I.N.E. and not bitter at all. Fucking clueless men. Where is my chocolate??!!!!!

carmen_b
02-14-2020, 09:01 AM
^ Clueless AS FUCK ! I still remember telling ( not hinting ) B to bring me chicken noodle soup and no soup ! He showed up with a nice craft beer though.
Wtf ?!? Haha. This is like 10 months ago also.

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2020, 09:20 AM
Same

I basically never held a job longer than 2 years. I’d quit because I couldn’t tolerate aggressive office politics, incompetent power hungry “bosses” who expected me to kiss their ass n lick their boots (nope I’m not that submissive) and slaving hella hours for low pay


The vanilla world is really killing me. The only job I could stand was bartender.

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2020, 11:19 AM
My family member is annoying af!

This bitch brings up some guy I let her meet over a damn decade ago.

The guy turned out to be a complete loser I was was out of his league so I ditched him. He was a complete nut job and stole from me. I never told my family about the details but obviously if I don’t bring up this mf why you bring this up?

She’s like yeah remember that guy?

Me - nope

Yeah the one we went to eat with

Me - nope don’t remember

Yeah you know his name was bob, john, yeah John! John was such a nice guy.

Me - look! I said I don’t remember and no he was not a good guy so drop it!

Dumb ass!

carmen_b
02-14-2020, 11:44 AM
Get the hint ! Hahahah. ^^

My annoyance is guilt related.
I will see my former SD in a couple of days and I have these " guilt ghosts " that hover around me and that whole situation. Our relationship wasn't sexual ( just arm candy stuff ) but my former partner I don't think EVER forgave me for this stuff . I saw D ( former SD ) in Aug. 2011 - March 2011 and my long term partner 7 years partner J I also met in Aug. 2011. He hated that whole thing and now I'm starting to feel stress at the thought of seeing D in a few days ! At the TIME in 2011 I was new to Hawaii and not used to the severe differences in living costs . So D would take me on this nice weekly date and just get conversation and arm candy and some chit chat between. D was usually giving me about $300-$350 ish a week + some shopping.

My long term partner and I made an agreement to forgive about forget about the D thing in March 2011 ( I had kept it discreet but J spied on my phone one time) . We moved on but I think deep down he NEVER forgave me.
Anyway ..... J ran off with someone else in Aug. 2018 so I know logically I shouldn't feel guilt !

I sometimes feel like if I just wouldn't have had this situation maybe J could have gotten past the stripping things ( I was retired at the time but he also had a problem with that ). I feel like this guilt hovers. J did agree though to " forgive and move on " and he did some other creepy shit too ( porn use ) that I forgave him for .

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2020, 11:53 AM
Exactly!

I think her bitch ass was doing that on purpose. She acts mentally slow sometimes but she’s highly intelligent

Granted she doesn’t know about ALL the fucked up shit he did and why I chose to forget.

But still why bring up and try to force me to reminisce about a dude I clearly said multiple times “I don’t remember” and now you can forget as well.

She’s an idiot ....

I should have threw it right back at her and bring up all her ex flings, ex lovers, bust downs from 1970 through 1980s .... while her husband was on speaker phone

miss.a.p1600
02-14-2020, 11:57 AM
And see that’s the thing Carmen

A lot of these guys want to hold things like that over women’s heads but they themselves have their own vices, skeletons or whatnot. Very hypocritical.

carmen_b
02-14-2020, 12:01 PM
^ Yes. I found his browser history of vids ( not judging anyones stuff but lets just say we never incorporated these things ).
He said he felt shame about it and was sorry . My main concern was just the frequent use with more hard core stuff may lead to " preformance " issues ( this isn't just me , it's scientifically proven I believe ).

So ..... I get past THAT but my former stripping thing is an issue ( I never should have mentioned but was trying to be fully honest ).
I sort of categorized D as " work " related . I never really considered our outings as real dates. I do see J's concern though and my lack of judgement. Like .... we live on a very small island. It's probably best to not run around with a man my dad age and be spotted out and about. Eventually D and I gained trust and grew into friends . When J found out about that whole thing I told D I couldn't see him and poof it was done. D never caused us any problems or issues ( he has a high level security clearance and way to much to loose so the safety risks with him are very very low ) .

I just remember as we were " wrapping up " our relationship in Aug. 2018 I think J MENTIONED that stuff with D as if something we said we had moved past is even remotely relevant !
Meanwhile he is chit chatting with an ex on FB and basically putting a new relationship in place before ours is even done .

carmen_b
02-14-2020, 12:07 PM
I SHOULDN'T feel any guilt getting picked up at airport, joining D for a meal, or going out to do a shoot with him while there.
If I do and it's not enjoyable I'll just say I need to do work related things ( an accurate story anyway ). If I end up mentally " stuck " with D and get into any thought cycles of " this person I why my relationship didn't work out " ect. , I'll circle this issue with a therapist later.

indiegirl
02-14-2020, 12:18 PM
Getting denied from a vanilla job interview is so insulting. They just flat out ghost you sometimes. This time they closed the interview process and reopened the position online meaning I did not get the job instead of sending me a courteous email that I didn't get the position. I spent hours getting ready and drove an hour for the interview. Least they could do is send an email for me to look elsewhere.

carmen_b
02-14-2020, 12:21 PM
^ goodness . They can be such turds right ?

Haha. I mean you can follow up if you give a damn. I have heard that some interviewers wait for a candidate to follow up to show interest.

indiegirl
02-14-2020, 12:31 PM
The office manager said they would let me know in a week and I never got the call. I feel like sending a telegram singer to the office manager to humiliate him for being rude. lol.

lynn2009
02-14-2020, 01:32 PM
The office manager said they would let me know in a week and I never got the call. I feel like sending a telegram singer to the office manager to humiliate him for being rude. lol.

I agree, once you've interviewed, it is very rude to not notify candidates one way or the other. I'm sure the whole place is run horribly and you're better off without it.