View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
lynn2009
02-24-2015, 05:31 PM
I'm hungry and it's dinner time but I don't want to get up and make food. Might keep sneaking individual Oreos indefinitely.
I went for a run after work, got home, proceeded to eat cheesecake for dinner.
zoezoebelle
02-24-2015, 05:48 PM
I went for a run after work, got home, proceeded to eat cheesecake for dinner.
There is half of a cherry pie downstairs and I'm so tempted but it will make my tummy hurt. :(
ScarletKitten
02-24-2015, 07:29 PM
I'm still irritated with "the-one-who-shall-not-be-named". Even after one of the mods basically told him to back off from our community, I sign in here and see that he is online EVERY SINGLE TIME. Like, what part of "Fuck off" doesn't he understand? WHY does he feel the need to constantly post in all these threads on here?! He's not a sex worker OR a customer. What the fuck is he doing here?! I used to be friendly with him. Now I ignore him. I get creepy vibes from him all the time now. He even posted a naked pic of his family member in one of the picture threads. A FAMILY MEMBER. It has since been removed, but GROSS! Who does that?
Also, I'm annoyed that the "post pictures of you" thread has pretty much died, because of his creepy comments. He called someone here a "little bunny". That just makes my skin crawl for some reason.
I should just let it go. But seriously, dude. Instead of a stripper/ sex worker forum, go join a "people who love horses" forum or "High IQ" forum (since he often states his high IQ score on here for validation.) There are ALOT of smart girls on this forum, but I have never seen any girl posting her IQ on here. It seems to be a male thing to do, boasting about one's own intelligence. It gets on my nerves.
The ones who are the most intelligent don't need to announce it. Intelligence speaks for itself.
But seriously, I just want to BLOCK this one user. Is it possible to do that here?
Edit: Okay, I see the option for "ignore user", but how does that work? All the user's posts are blocked/hidden from your view?
KikiGem
02-25-2015, 12:06 AM
ScarletKitten, I hear you on all those points! Also, my last two bfs have claimed to be geniuses, and they soooo were not- so yes, overestimating and boasting about intelligence is *definitely* something men love to do.
My pissy rant: I cannot believe this so-called SD offered me 1500/month to hang out 1 to 2 times a WEEK plus have to go on a weekend trip once a month. What kind of a deal is that?? Has he seriously found women who agree to spend that much fucking time with him for that little??
I told him I can work with his budget, but he wouldn't get that much time. He doesn't seem to get why. Men don't fucking *get* anything. They're all so fucking clueless. I'm sick of them.
michele11
02-25-2015, 09:05 AM
You know I know It ALL! Lol.
Selina M
02-25-2015, 10:30 AM
^ Noooooot directed at you! lol
Kellydancer
02-25-2015, 03:06 PM
A naked family member? That is low. I didn't see the high IQ comments but nothing makes me madder than when someone (usually men) think because someone was a dancer they are stupid. I'm not stupid, far from it and it seems most aren't either. I bet I have a higher IQ than he does. I actually do have a high IQ ( been tested) but rarely tell people.
My pet peeve today: hypocrisy. A family friend died of alcoholism. A friend also has a drinking problem, which is why we are just friends. Anyway he wants to go with me to the funeral because he's afraid he'll be bullied by this group. The reason he is being bullied is because he's never liked how they bully people and they got him kicked out of the association they are in because of his drinking. The irony? They are alcoholics too! Yet they are still there and he isn't. I think they are jealous of him because he owns a business and they are mostly bums. Oh and a few of them have said they are going to start shit with him at the funeral.
michele11
02-25-2015, 04:35 PM
^ Noooooot directed at you! lol
I was just joking. Haha.
wednesday86
02-25-2015, 04:39 PM
I'm still irritated with "the-one-who-shall-not-be-named". Even after one of the mods basically told him to back off from our community, I sign in here and see that he is online EVERY SINGLE TIME. Like, what part of "Fuck off" doesn't he understand? WHY does he feel the need to constantly post in all these threads on here?! He's not a sex worker OR a customer. What the fuck is he doing here?! I used to be friendly with him. Now I ignore him. I get creepy vibes from him all the time now. He even posted a naked pic of his family member in one of the picture threads. A FAMILY MEMBER. It has since been removed, but GROSS! Who does that?
Also, I'm annoyed that the "post pictures of you" thread has pretty much died, because of his creepy comments. He called someone here a "little bunny". That just makes my skin crawl for some reason.
I should just let it go. But seriously, dude. Instead of a stripper/ sex worker forum, go join a "people who love horses" forum or "High IQ" forum (since he often states his high IQ score on here for validation.) There are ALOT of smart girls on this forum, but I have never seen any girl posting her IQ on here. It seems to be a male thing to do, boasting about one's own intelligence. It gets on my nerves.
The ones who are the most intelligent don't need to announce it. Intelligence speaks for itself.
But seriously, I just want to BLOCK this one user. Is it possible to do that here?
Edit: Okay, I see the option for "ignore user", but how does that work? All the user's posts are blocked/hidden from your view?
I haven't figured out who this person is, but I do know that everyone who brags about their iQ is usually a dumbfuck.
My petty annoyance today: My son is driving me up the wall!!!!!!!!! He refused to take a nap today and he's super hyper, making messes everywhere, getting into everything. It's freezing cold and snowing so we can't go outside to play. GRrrrrrrrrrrrr I JUST WANT AN HOUR ALONE TO READ MY NEW BOOK ABOUT THE FIRST HOMINIDS TO PEOPLE ANCIENT EUROPE HOW MUCH IS THAT TO ASK??!!
Spinnerette
02-25-2015, 06:14 PM
I get tired of calling my bank for account issues and having them tell me they can't see anything on their end. Wtf are you people even there for if you don't have backend access? I can log into my own account and see that a deposit hasn't hit yet like...
xStacey
02-25-2015, 08:33 PM
Ugh i'm registered on this customers forum just to read reviews and I only wrote one post in one thread and received like 50 private messages from random guys.
- Hi, where do you work?
- Are you a stripper?
- Are you a massage girl?
- Are you an escort?
- What's your name?
- Hi I want to meet you.
- Oh I see you worked at X place and you must be very pretty to be hired there. I was wondering if you'd be interested in joining my escort agency.
:O
SweetJulia
02-25-2015, 10:17 PM
Ugh i'm registered on this customers forum just to read reviews and I only wrote one post in one thread and received like 50 private messages from random guys.
- Hi, where do you work?
- Are you a stripper?
- Are you a massage girl?
- Are you an escort?
- What's your name?
- Hi I want to meet you.
- Oh I see you worked at X place and you must be very pretty to be hired there. I was wondering if you'd be interested in joining my escort agency.
:O
I once joined a few sites like that and pretty much told extras guys they were pathetic. Felt pretty good.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-26-2015, 06:36 AM
I'm pet sitting our neighbor's dog & she sounds as if she's going to throw up all over the carpet. Guess I will know for sure when I come back from work. ha ha ha
xStacey
02-26-2015, 06:43 AM
I once joined a few sites like that and pretty much told extras guys they were pathetic. Felt pretty good.
The guys on those forums are so cheap too... There were a couple of guys who were complaining about an increase of $10 for one hour at a body rub parlor where I used to work, how it was way too expensive and told other members to stay away from that place in the future. They thought by "boycotting" and not encouraging customers to spend, the prices will drop lol. I replied it's only $10... My post was deleted and I got a warning xD
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-26-2015, 09:10 AM
The guys on those forums are so cheap too... There were a couple of guys who were complaining about an increase of $10 for one hour at a body rub parlor where I used to work, how it was way too expensive and told other members to stay away from that place in the future. They thought by "boycotting" and not encouraging customers to spend, the prices will drop lol. I replied it's only $10... My post was deleted and I got a warning xD
Body rub addict guys are the WORST!!!!!! I did a private show for one and he was as gross as hell, and because I got mad at him over something stupid he did, he accused me of stealing his wallet. I told him I would call the cops on him because I didn't do that & I would find a way to make him regret trying to accuse me of theft.
He backed off but gah...if I could go back in time and NOT have done that Body Rub.....I would have passed on the money. He pissed me the hell off
Selina M
02-26-2015, 10:56 AM
The guys on those forums are so cheap too... There were a couple of guys who were complaining about an increase of $10 for one hour at a body rub parlor where I used to work, how it was way too expensive and told other members to stay away from that place in the future. They thought by "boycotting" and not encouraging customers to spend, the prices will drop lol. I replied it's only $10... My post was deleted and I got a warning xD
Thats what happened when a club here raised prices, the dances on the wall went up to $15 but the center of the room stayed at $10, and on TUSCL there was this huge move to boycott the club over it. Like... for real guys?! If you're so poor that that'll break the bank, stay the fuck home.
michele11
02-26-2015, 04:08 PM
^ hell dances are 40 at a lot of the clubs i work. Guys need to get out of the 80's.
Selina M
02-26-2015, 04:11 PM
^ I actually tell cheapskates that a LOT. "You think $20 is expensive? Don't go to St. Louis or NYC, you'll be unpleasantly surprised."
I think it's all just conditioning. If we slowly raised the prices back up and conditioned them to expect air dances for $10 or $20, they'd probably learn to deal with it.
Edit: alright, who finally banned Unkle Fuzzball? 'Cause I'm sure there are high fives to be claimed!
amberlly
02-26-2015, 05:55 PM
the annoying poster is gone!! All of his posts were annoying and totally wrong. I mean he even posted in body business about female reproduction issues.. There was no end to his intrusiveness.
Fml what a weirdo.
audrey_k
02-26-2015, 06:30 PM
I hate that when guys are in a relationship with you, there's no seduction when it comes to having sex. Once in a rare while my boyfriend will do something sweet like buy flowers, cook dinner or run a bubble bath, but most of the time his idea of seducing me is grabbing one of my boobs like a 12 year old, and it annoys me because he used to go to such lengths to seduce me. I can't really complain about the sex since he's one of the only guys I've ever dated who can get me to orgasm 90% of the time, but seriously, please don't grab my boob like a 12 year old and expect that to get me wet.
amberlly
02-27-2015, 02:09 PM
I bought a bangle full price in what I thought was a good deal. It's now on sale half price 2 weeks later. Ugh at least it's really pretty
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-27-2015, 02:40 PM
I joined a pole dancers related Facebook group and deleted my comment out of one of the threads because this one girl kept posting a trillion comments bashing strippers. Girl......its not the strippers faults guys keep hitting you up asking you to dance on their poles. Guys are going to be disgusting on social media no matter what. oh and if you're so appalled with strippers why are you half naked in dominatrix gear and in outfits I wear to work in half your pictures? stupid.
We had a waitress like this who was a total bitch to all of us, then she worked up the nerve to finally become a dancer. She got knocked up pretty fast so her career wasn't too long. Her true calling in life was to the tribe of Air Force Dependapotamous. Somewhere along the way her budget boob job half-deflated.
I now realize existence is the punishment for women that crazy...
Kellydancer
02-27-2015, 08:48 PM
I am so mad, I got my period and ruined my new blanket while sleeping.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-28-2015, 10:55 AM
Petty annoyance- a weird pimple near my ear. Basically a fine ingrown hair. It made feel old and gross...I don't need that kind of stress in my life.
Also my boyfriend is annoying me even though I'm sure he doesn't mean to.....today is is an epic wet blanket full of complaints...
michele11
02-28-2015, 11:07 AM
^ Haha.
zoezoebelle
02-28-2015, 01:36 PM
There are two pancakes left but I'm too full to eat them.
SweetJulia
02-28-2015, 01:47 PM
I absolutely hate people who resent that sex workers do it for money. Usually, it's guys who can't get attention elsewhere and spend a bit too much money. A public service announcement: sex workers do this for money. Period.
SweetJulia
02-28-2015, 01:55 PM
I absolutely hate people who resent that sex workers do it for money. Usually, it's guys who can't get attention elsewhere and spend a bit too much money. A public service announcement: sex workers do this for money. Period.
zoezoebelle
02-28-2015, 03:41 PM
I absolutely hate people who resent that sex workers do it for money. Usually, it's guys who can't get attention elsewhere and spend a bit too much money. A public service announcement: sex workers do this for money. Period.
I had a customer fucking lecture me for 15 minutes the other day about why I do my job!! He asked me, "So why are you doing this?" And I said, "Oh, you know, I want to go to college." He responded with, "Excuse me, but every time I hear someone say that I get completely turned off. Everybody says they want to go to college, and then you see them still here years later. I don't believe it. Besides, you should never tell a customer you're going to college! You should say, 'I'm here because I want to be the best stripper ever! I love my job!'" Then he went on to judge me very loudly for not working every day of the week, and very boldly said, "You'll never make any money if you keep that attitude." UHG. I wanted to punch him in the jaw.
SweetJulia
02-28-2015, 06:52 PM
I had a customer fucking lecture me for 15 minutes the other day about why I do my job!! He asked me, "So why are you doing this?" And I said, "Oh, you know, I want to go to college." He responded with, "Excuse me, but every time I hear someone say that I get completely turned off. Everybody says they want to go to college, and then you see them still here years later. I don't believe it. Besides, you should never tell a customer you're going to college! You should say, 'I'm here because I want to be the best stripper ever! I love my job!'" Then he went on to judge me very loudly for not working every day of the week, and very boldly said, "You'll never make any money if you keep that attitude." UHG. I wanted to punch him in the jaw.
I hate that. Sex work is physically and mentally draining. It's NOT easy work, I believe one hour of adult work is equal to twice that in vanilla work. That said, I love the haters. I get paid to do something they wouldn't make money from, I can work when I want, and people have to pay for my attention. Also, I love when people who are customers give unsolicited advice. Especially while not paying. Usually, the same ones who "know how this works". When I was at my first club, there was a girl who literally carried around a suggestion box and let them fill it up. Then, she'd use them for toilet paper lol.
Selina M
02-28-2015, 08:15 PM
^ I NEED A SUGGESTION BOX!
I need to give it to the one DJ. Gawd. I don't want to work Saturday afternoons anymore because he's been on my nerves so bad. I feel obligated to be nice to him bc he got my bf a job DJing at another club... but that job has turned out to be more of a pain in the ass than it's worth. DJ has been telling me that bf is getting "complacent" and management doesn't like that. I got pissed, bc he's stayed late covering for another DJ several times, dresses way nicer than the other staff (they bitched about "dress code" at the beginning, when they all walk around in t-shirts and jeans) and busts his ass to help the girls out and play what they wanna hear, so I told him off a little... and also, wtf do you expect in the enthusiasm department? It's a Tuesday afternoon in buttfuck Egypt, so he has 3 girls on his shift sometimes and half the time no customers. "Oh well sometimes girls quit working a shift bc they don't like the DJ, sooooo yeah" (Isn't that fucking ironic.) But I told him, no, he's had the same few girls working that shift every week and they all tip him well over the minimum, and he's had 7 or 8 girls the last couple weeks.
I'm also used to using the DJs as a vent outlet; all of them will make fun of customers or admit that it's slow, but not this guy, he's gotta give advice CONSTANTLY. "It's not that bad, it's all in your attitude" "Go talk to the guys at the bar" etc etc. The other day he went "I like your makeup, you did a good job today." Like oh, is it not good normally? Gah.
amberlly
02-28-2015, 08:55 PM
Those I want something real and resent paying for anything customers should be robbed and shot. Besides the obvious reasons sex workers need to be paid - a relationship still involves cost. Time, money, effort.
Still think sex workers are expensive? Idiots
Spinnerette
02-28-2015, 08:57 PM
So I've screened two different sets of men for my MMF fantasy so far (I've been trying to set one up all month) and, between both "couples", the men I'm doing the corresponding with have revealed that they're die-hard "submissives" (in quotes because they basically want the scenarios depicted in sensual femdom porn and that shit ain't real). First of all, what a complete and utter turn-off, and secondly, I'll be damned if I waste my time doing something that does nothing for me outside of the fact that it pays well for free. Like they're both all, "X (referring to the other participant) isn't into stuff like this, but I would love to serve under and be a slave to a real Goddess!" Barf. This is why I was so against threesomes to begin with because there's always one person who's a selfish asshole and ruins it for everyone. I'm just trying to get this one urge out of my system. It's like you deal with THIS or you have the "hyper-masc" guys who want to dp you and choke you out all gonzo-style and I'm def not down with that. I blocked one guy because he sent me a picture of a woman sitting on a couch in a corset and panties holding a leash that was attached to some kneeling naked dude and he was like, "Are you into this?" and the banality of it all pissed me off. OMFG, a woman put a color on a man!!!!11 SoOoOoOoo erotic! I'm so burned-out on camming because I have to talk to BORING motherfuckers like him all day long so hell no I'm not about to do it for free. The fuck am I supposed to get out of "pegging" a guy? I don't draw my sense of dominance from phallic representation, are you serious? Ugh, I hate mainstream BDSM.
OliveJardin
02-28-2015, 10:11 PM
I am just starting to feel semi normal again after my BA and I have to go through it all again in 4 days (correction) :( *sigh*.
xxxGothBarbie
03-01-2015, 02:39 AM
ugh! I'm kinda pissed at myself for not looking into booking my hotels I've been living in on orbitz to save more money. I did a search tonight & found deals almost $25 cheaper than I've been paying for every 3 days at a time. Also sucks that I forget to check out on a day that I didn't work the night before to change hotels. I missed work tonight bc I've been up since 11 am after working a long shift last night & have been to tired to go back tonight. blah this shit's draining :/ oh well better to be on my own than having to live on someone else's rules.
michele11
03-01-2015, 10:45 AM
^ always use priceline or hotwire. They don't tell you the name but show you a map. I save about 30-40 a night sometimes more. In nov I got a 4 star down town for 57. If I'd of walked in it would have easily been 120 min.
ScarletKitten
03-01-2015, 11:44 AM
I'm really fed up of my fucking life. I hate being negative but I have no other way to vent. I am so fucking done with stripping. I hate it so much. If I had to do this for the rest of my life, I would put a gun to my head and pull the fucking trigger. I am just beyond pissed off and wanting to rip my skin off. I fucking hate everybody in that place. I am fed up of every single customer in there. I want to kill them all. I am NOT having a good day today. I have to work again tonight and I am dreading it. I fucking hate this so much.....someone kill me.
xStacey
03-01-2015, 12:42 PM
I'm really fed up of my fucking life. I hate being negative but I have no other way to vent. I am so fucking done with stripping. I hate it so much. If I had to do this for the rest of my life, I would put a gun to my head and pull the fucking trigger. I am just beyond pissed off and wanting to rip my skin off. I fucking hate everybody in that place. I am fed up of every single customer in there. I want to kill them all. I am NOT having a good day today. I have to work again tonight and I am dreading it. I fucking hate this so much.....someone kill me.
I am sorry you are going through this... Have you looked into other jobs? I know how difficult it can be to quit even when staying is hard... Maybe you just need a change of scenery, i hope you will feel better soon :grouphug:
wednesday86
03-01-2015, 01:00 PM
I'm really fed up of my fucking life. I hate being negative but I have no other way to vent. I am so fucking done with stripping. I hate it so much. If I had to do this for the rest of my life, I would put a gun to my head and pull the fucking trigger. I am just beyond pissed off and wanting to rip my skin off. I fucking hate everybody in that place. I am fed up of every single customer in there. I want to kill them all. I am NOT having a good day today. I have to work again tonight and I am dreading it. I fucking hate this so much.....someone kill me.
oh my love I know exactly what you mean! I am so grateful that my husband works and we don't have a ton of bills right now so that I can take some time off.... I'm so over stripping too. I don't know how much longer I can keep it up before I violently assault someone. But damn it I need at least another $5k to feel secure enough to move so I can't quit altogether just yet. :/
Which brings me to what I came here to bitch about: I'm sick and tired of seeing these bitches I know talking about how "being a mom is a job." No bitch it fucking isn't. You're just lucky that your spouse works his ass off so that you can stay home. I've been a full time SAHM and it's not even difficult-at all. It is easy and boring as fuck. Should my husband call it his "part time job" to take care of his own child while I'm at work? No? Stop saying it's a job to make yourself feel better about your life. BTW I have nothing against SAHMs. The cool ones understand that it's a luxury and they're lucky to get to stay home full time. I just don't like people who delude themselves and try to feed me bullshit.
Tsepmet1
03-01-2015, 01:53 PM
I can't get my eyeliner wings to match today.
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-01-2015, 02:43 PM
I had a customer fucking lecture me for 15 minutes the other day about why I do my job!! He asked me, "So why are you doing this?" And I said, "Oh, you know, I want to go to college." He responded with, "Excuse me, but every time I hear someone say that I get completely turned off. Everybody says they want to go to college, and then you see them still here years later. I don't believe it. Besides, you should never tell a customer you're going to college! You should say, 'I'm here because I want to be the best stripper ever! I love my job!'" Then he went on to judge me very loudly for not working every day of the week, and very boldly said, "You'll never make any money if you keep that attitude." UHG. I wanted to punch him in the jaw.
IMO he was deliberately trolling you. I'm starting to think the new trend for MRA guys is to gaslight and manipulate women in conversations/online discussions b/c....well these guys are crazy ass creeps usually.
MyButter
03-01-2015, 02:48 PM
My 2 year old washing machine died yesterday. I'm stickin' it to the man, and ordering a WonderWash.
KikiGem
03-01-2015, 03:07 PM
Sudden itching and bumps all over arms, elbows, around my neck and chest, legs, back, back of hands, everywhere! Everywhere fucking itches, it just came on so suddenly. It's driving me fucking insane.
Also why is every school day a beautiful sunny day, but my off days are slushy, snowy, gray and rainy?
Kellydancer
03-01-2015, 05:40 PM
oh my love I know exactly what you mean! I am so grateful that my husband works and we don't have a ton of bills right now so that I can take some time off.... I'm so over stripping too. I don't know how much longer I can keep it up before I violently assault someone. But damn it I need at least another $5k to feel secure enough to move so I can't quit altogether just yet. :/
Which brings me to what I came here to bitch about: I'm sick and tired of seeing these bitches I know talking about how "being a mom is a job." No bitch it fucking isn't. You're just lucky that your spouse works his ass off so that you can stay home. I've been a full time SAHM and it's not even difficult-at all. It is easy and boring as fuck. Should my husband call it his "part time job" to take care of his own child while I'm at work? No? Stop saying it's a job to make yourself feel better about your life. BTW I have nothing against SAHMs. The cool ones understand that it's a luxury and they're lucky to get to stay home full time. I just don't like people who delude themselves and try to feed me bullshit.
I know several SAHM and most are lazy. My sister in law pretty much sits around doing nothing. She doesn't cook, she doesn't clean and my niece is in a school all day. I go banned from another site for calling a woman lazy because she claimed she worked harder than me being she was a mom. She then admitted her house was messy, her husband cooked and her kids were teens.
xxxGothBarbie
03-01-2015, 06:21 PM
^ always use priceline or hotwire. They don't tell you the name but show you a map. I save about 30-40 a night sometimes more. In nov I got a 4 star down town for 57. If I'd of walked in it would have easily been 120 min.
^ Ya michelle, I did a search on both of those sites including kayak & then I tried Orbitz and found amazing deals :) The only thing about hotwire is that where I'm staying at, I'm uber picky about exactly where I stay & they don't tell you until you pay. I'll be living on Orbitz until I can find a decent room for rent.
Selina M
03-01-2015, 07:10 PM
Agreed with the SAHM thing. 2 of my friends stayed home, one for 3 years and the other for 1, and they both said they were bored to tears. It's really not that hard, but some women make it out to be.
lynn2009
03-01-2015, 08:08 PM
Maybe it's different with your own kids (or if you feed them microwaved everything and let them watch tv all day, which I did not) but I once babysat my nephew pretty much full-time for a week or so when I was briefly unemployed and my SIL was sick during her second pregnancy and it was exhausting. You literally don't get a break for 1 second. I would much rather be at my 9-5. Regardless, I make a conscious effort not to judge people whose situation I've never been in (much like it's unappreciated on our end when the general population make sweeping judgements about stripping/strippers I'm sure most SAHMs would appreciate the same.
I had a guy friend, who I thought we were pretty close and long story short he really abandoned me 18months or so again when I was severely depressed (and I do not use phrases like that lightly). I'm sure it was because of his girlfriend. The last time we talked he had blown me off after initiating contact w/ me first to ask if I was in his city by saying he had to study all day and I didn't reply. I even remember the date, it was December 14 2013, a Saturday. In any case he just texted me to ask if he could call me tomrorow to which I replied "No" and he said okey dokey, sorry to bother you.
MyButter
03-01-2015, 09:03 PM
I find being a SAHM lonely moreso than boring. It's just been such an isolating experience (for me) for some reason.
Stripping was my "me" time :( I miss it!
wednesday86
03-02-2015, 09:37 AM
Maybe it's different with your own kids (or if you feed them microwaved everything and let them watch tv all day, which I did not) but I once babysat my nephew pretty much full-time for a week or so when I was briefly unemployed and my SIL was sick during her second pregnancy and it was exhausting. You literally don't get a break for 1 second. I would much rather be at my 9-5. Regardless, I make a conscious effort not to judge people whose situation I've never been in (much like it's unappreciated on our end when the general population make sweeping judgements about stripping/strippers I'm sure most SAHMs would appreciate the same.
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Again...I have nothing against SAHMs in general. I just can't stand the ones that call it a "job" and act like it's such a chore to look after their own children. Like they deserve some kind of prize for a choice that they made. Fathers don't do this, even the very involved fathers (like my husband.) And I wasn't one of the lazy ones. I breastfed, made all of his babyfood home made from scratch, kept the house clean, took him out to play or to the library every day, cooked dinner almost every night. He's not even 2 yet and he can already count to 10 and read some words. It still isn't a "job" to take care of your own kids. It would be like saying my husband "babysits" his own child when I work and that he should be compensated. The women who make these statements are stupid, entitled twats in my eyes, and they usually ARE the lazy ones that can't even keep their house clean.
I hate to keep repeating myself but you obviously didn't read my entire post, so maybe you'll get the point this time.
Kellydancer
03-02-2015, 11:09 AM
Again...I have nothing against SAHMs in general. I just can't stand the ones that call it a "job" and act like it's such a chore to look after their own children. Like they deserve some kind of prize for a choice that they made. Fathers don't do this, even the very involved fathers (like my husband.) And I wasn't one of the lazy ones. I breastfed, made all of his babyfood home made from scratch, kept the house clean, took him out to play or to the library every day, cooked dinner almost every night. He's not even 2 yet and he can already count to 10 and read some words. It still isn't a "job" to take care of your own kids. It would be like saying my husband "babysits" his own child when I work and that he should be compensated. The women who make these statements are stupid, entitled twats in my eyes, and they usually ARE the lazy ones that can't even keep their house clean.
I hate to keep repeating myself but you obviously didn't read my entire post, so maybe you'll get the point this time.
Agreed. I don't have an issue with SAHM, just the idea many have that it's the hardest job. Yes many work hard but others don't. I had a friend who would complain it was hard, yet spend hours online. Her husband left her because of this. I have a cousin who is one but she has a nanny and maid and spends the day shopping and working out. Yet they are working hard? The ones who do work hard don't spend hours online because they are busy. In most cases the majority of the ones claiming it's hard are lazy. Yet they get a pass because we are supposed to glorify them.