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neverendingkneebruises
11-30-2020, 08:15 PM
My club started hiring "sanitizers" to clean the stage in between girls, tables in between customers, chairs, etc. Well they are allowed to do VIP rooms for as little as $100 including the room fee (the least we can do is $150 for our cut) :O And they get paid hourly?? (Not a waitress wage, like minimum wage) I talked to one who said she was thinking of being a stripper when our club was doing auditions again (they said they didn't want to hire new girls atm because of CoVid) and I said, why not?? She said well I don't have to do mandatory stages like a dancer! .....seriously. lol.

I get WHY some clubs allow waitresses to do rooms but idk, I wish clubs would stop allowing anyone to do the stripper's job because then what is the point of having strippers?? I mean shit I don't blame them, not having to do stages and they don't have to pay house fee like us, plus get paid hourly, seems like a pretty good deal, maybe I'll do that when I move instead of just being a damn stripper, cuz damn. :-\

And not to mention, what if we get a checkup and they aren't cleaning? We get shut down for violating the code the club agreed to when we opened during CoVid. jfc

indiegirl
11-30-2020, 08:33 PM
Looks like Raziel has created his (at least)third alter ego on here and this time it’s a super honest extras girl.

Is there a way to ban him or mods can figure out if it's him? I don't want guys in the ladies only. They've already invaded a stripper forum as it is. UGH.

Genoveve
11-30-2020, 08:46 PM
^^I have no idea. It's easy to get new IP addresses so I don't think there's any way to prove it's actually him(which is funny since he quickly offered only IP checking as the way to verify he wasn't the same person), and lord knows SW doesn't ban people just because a bunch of us want them gone.

Genoveve
11-30-2020, 09:05 PM
My club started hiring "sanitizers" to clean the stage in between girls, tables in between customers, chairs, etc. Well they are allowed to do VIP rooms for as little as $100 including the room fee (the least we can do is $150 for our cut) :O And they get paid hourly?? (Not a waitress wage, like minimum wage) I talked to one who said she was thinking of being a stripper when our club was doing auditions again (they said they didn't want to hire new girls atm because of CoVid) and I said, why not?? She said well I don't have to do mandatory stages like a dancer! .....seriously. lol.

I get WHY some clubs allow waitresses to do rooms but idk, I wish clubs would stop allowing anyone to do the stripper's job because then what is the point of having strippers?? I mean shit I don't blame them, not having to do stages and they don't have to pay house fee like us, plus get paid hourly, seems like a pretty good deal, maybe I'll do that when I move instead of just being a damn stripper, cuz damn. :-\

I think it's bizarre to let anyone other than strippers do rooms or dances but if I was in a situation where the waitresses or 'sanitizers' were getting the more lucrative end of the stick I would totally switch to that.

indiegirl
11-30-2020, 09:16 PM
Sometimes it feels like cyber Monday is a way for businesses to get rid of the less popular items on their website. The majority of the bestseller items on this clothing website I like are at full price. I was hoping to treat myself lol. (I shouldn't be even shopping I know lol. I just treated myself in November)

neverendingkneebruises
11-30-2020, 09:21 PM
I think it's bizarre to let anyone other than strippers do rooms or dances but if I was in a situation where the waitresses or 'sanitizers' were getting the more lucrative end of the stick I would totally switch to that.

Thing is most clubs I've worked (and definitely not this one) don't allow you to switch... once you're hired as a stripper, you can't go back :O
Not to mention I prefer to charge more than $50 for a half hour in VIP :P

indiegirl
11-30-2020, 09:58 PM
Thing is most clubs I've worked (and definitely not this one) don't allow you to switch... once you're hired as a stripper, you can't go back :O
Not to mention I prefer to charge more than $50 for a half hour in VIP :P


I'm trying to think how this is gonna pan out in terms of safety as well as the vibe. Wouldn't the pole/stage be wet if they were using one of those sanitizer spray machines? They also give very little time between sets. It's not enough time to wipe down a stage so nobody falls doing pole tricks. Plus some stages are larger than others.

Genoveve
11-30-2020, 10:17 PM
I am so heated. One of my best friends confessed to me that the guy she was seeing basically moved himself in with her and only works two days a week and doesn't pay any rent and she hates him and needs him gone. It's been going on for a year, he's one of those total career mooches. I am so upset for her, every time I get a new update from her I have to get up and start pacing around my house. I told her that if she needed someone to physically remove him from her apartment that I would have no problem doing it, apparently she gave him an official deadline and he is supposed to be gone by the first. She's pretty confident that he will actually be gone by then, I told her if he's not that I am going over there.

Not a pissy annoyance but a happy update, this loser moved out this morning. Thank god, for the last week or so I've been texting my friend like "He has 6 days left." "5 days." "4 days." Not gonna lie I was looking forward to having to kick him out but things definitely worked out for the best.

indiegirl
11-30-2020, 10:43 PM
Roar it has been so slow...I'm not sure if this is covid or black friday/holiday related (sometimes I take it personally like I was doing something wrong). I legit had to wait until 4am until I finally got 1 appointment on Saturday. I'm used to 3-5 people. Nothing bugs me more than doing makeup and getting all set (but I need time to sleep) and once I sleep losing an appointment request. Trying to be positive tonight. I can wait for so long all day/night long for money. 24/7 is not my plan.

neverendingkneebruises
11-30-2020, 10:53 PM
I'm trying to think how this is gonna pan out in terms of safety as well as the vibe. Wouldn't the pole/stage be wet if they were using one of those sanitizer spray machines? They also give very little time between sets. It's not enough time to wipe down a stage so nobody falls doing pole tricks. Plus some stages are larger than others.

They were doing 3 songs per dancer (instead of the usual 2) and just rubbing alcohol spray or disinfectant wipes for the stage and pole from what I saw, dried very quickly, same cleaning solution for the tables. No machinery except for elbow grease. :P

I'm not sure how effective it actually is, but that's what our governor told the club they had to do to stay open.

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2020, 06:44 AM
Sometimes it feels like cyber Monday is a way for businesses to get rid of the less popular items on their website. The majority of the bestseller items on this clothing website I like are at full price. I was hoping to treat myself lol. (I shouldn't be even shopping I know lol. I just treated myself in November)

Some of it is.

Just like car dealerships they offload last years models of popular appliances

But also the reverse, some of it is new stuff introduced at a low price for the first time then raised up to retail after the sale.

otherwise people would take their sweet time buying if they didn’t have deadlines to obtain a sale

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2020, 06:46 AM
*****TMI warning****

I woke up out of my sleep in middle of the night because my stomach was hurting and I had to use the bathroom to relieve it.

Anytime I get up out my sleep it makes me more tired and I didn’t wake up at 5am like I wanted.

indiegirl
12-01-2020, 07:22 AM
*****TMI warning****

I woke up out of my sleep in middle of the night because my stomach was hurting and I had to use the bathroom to relieve it.

Anytime I get up out my sleep it makes me more tired and I didn’t wake up at 5am like I wanted.

It's so fun being TMI like that with men and women...but when a guy returns it, it feels like "I don't want to hear it!" lollllll. With other women, I'm totally down to listen to their TMI so I can give advice. :P

indiegirl
12-01-2020, 09:09 AM
@Genoveve.....just got a PM from RAZIEl. BAHAHAHA .....What an unstable man. Boy you are a nuisance and I skip past your BS posts. I'm here for fellow SW's. LOL. I see that stupid bird as his icon because I added him when I was being nice allowing him to be a friend. LOL. Here we are. lol. Oh man. Can the site do photo id requirement and only have women?

I believe one of his posts said "he could contribute to the site". HOWWWWW. Nobody wants it!

naomi_doll
12-01-2020, 09:22 AM
He’s (Raziel) pmed me several times, I deleted without reading. Odd that mellowmutt wondered how pms worked and also sent many of them.... hmmm.

indiegirl
12-01-2020, 09:25 AM
He’s (Raziel) pmed me several times, I deleted without reading. Odd that mellowmutt wondered how pms worked and also sent many of them.... hmmm.


I'm tired of it. It is a female support site. I hope whoever is in charge makes changes.

kamiliam
12-01-2020, 09:43 AM
In theory I like that we can have an community with customer input. Unfortunately many men (or a few very lonely) just thread jack looking for validation. They show shallow support in the hopes of free emotional labor and attention.

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2020, 09:44 AM
@Genoveve.....just got a PM from RAZIEl. BAHAHAHA .....What an unstable man. Boy you are a nuisance and I skip past your BS posts. I'm here for fellow SW's. LOL. I see that stupid bird as his icon because I added him when I was being nice allowing him to be a friend. LOL. Here we are. lol. Oh man. Can the site do photo id requirement and only have women?

I believe one of his posts said "he could contribute to the site". HOWWWWW. Nobody wants it!

or do background checks to make sure they’re not off the rockers n dangerous AND make them pay money to chat with ladies

It’s their male privilege entitlement....welcome to patriarchy on stripper webs lol

indiegirl
12-01-2020, 12:15 PM
or do background checks to make sure they’re not off the rockers n dangerous AND make them pay money to chat with ladies

It’s their male privilege entitlement....welcome to patriarchy on stripper webs lol

Down with pay. Or else we are gonna be with future Raziels. GEEEZ. My safe haven and then of course men waltz in to wreck my happiness. Not trying to be a bitch but nobody wants to hear your tantrums men. It's a womans forum. Find somewhere else. Sorry I need to chill but I know these men will be back lol.

neverendingkneebruises
12-01-2020, 12:33 PM
In theory I like that we can have an community with customer input. Unfortunately many men (or a few very lonely) just thread jack looking for validation. They show shallow support in the hopes of free emotional labor and attention.

Honestly, it is nice to have customers input their opinions, but I am SUPER sus of any man who invades a female dominant space to begin with :O Like there's a million forums you can go to, but you choose the one mainly inhabited by female-identifying sex workers?? eehhhh.

carmen_b
12-01-2020, 01:38 PM
^ It's so creepy. It's an attempt to learn secrets and see behind the curtain ( then many of them admit this is a terrible idea later lol ) !

They just can't leave it be.

Also attempts to get free attention which should be nipped in the bud immediately.

whirlerz
12-01-2020, 01:51 PM
Don't even get me started on men on here..

So, yesterday, I had a 1 day slave job starting 4am, I forget to ask goofball to take the full garbage cans up to curb, & now they are completely full! p/u was probably today, since T'giving last week.

I texted the maintenance guy, hes going to come & take some of the bags, I mean how Fucking LAZY can you get??>:(
The cans are [/supposed [I]tb against the side of the bldg, (they're not) we can get a code violation for thatalone!

Then the one guy parks his pos jeep directly in front of the door, we have HUGE pkg lot, every space's close::)
Waiting for the day some delivery car/truck pkows into him lol

whirlerz
12-01-2020, 01:54 PM
He’s (Raziel) pmed me several times, I deleted without reading. Odd that mellowmutt wondered how pms worked and also sent many of them.... hmmm.

OMG, WHY cant we get these fucks out of here???
Anyone ever report, contact mods ( Djoser/Bahuba)?

All the shit these guys do, I do barely 1small thing & get b**** ?

WendiStarr
12-01-2020, 02:58 PM
^ Right! They have trash like tuscl, reddit, usag, and craigslist to spew their disgusting troll bullshit. I feel like there shouldn't be any men allowed to post unless they are mods or in the adult entertainment industry. It seems that any others just come here for free attention from women.

Pokahantas
12-01-2020, 03:04 PM
I think I'm done having sex. I view it as something for male pleasure and a procreation tool.

I want to just go back to being celibate.

omg I feel the same way!

whirlerz
12-01-2020, 03:53 PM
^ Right! They have trash like tuscl, reddit, usag, and craigslist to spew their disgusting troll bullshit. I feel like there shouldn't be any men allowed to post unless they are mods or in the adult entertainment industry. It seems that any others just come here for free attention from women.

They can go on midwestgrainbelt.com.
Blue basement central.

Sooo annoying!

whirlerz
12-01-2020, 04:00 PM
Don't even get me started on men on here..

So, yesterday, I had a 1 day slave job starting 4am, I forget to ask goofball to take the full garbage cans up to curb, & now they are completely full! p/u was probably today, since T'giving last week.

I texted the maintenance guy, hes going to come & take some of the bags, I mean how Fucking LAZY can you get??>:(
The cans are [/supposed [I]tb against the side of the bldg, (they're not) we can get a code violation for thatalone!

Then the one guy parks his pos jeep directly in front of the door, we have HUGE pkg lot, every space's close::)
Waiting for the day some delivery car/truck pkows into him lol

Maintenance guy came took like 4 (big!) bags, + old shredded tires.

I wrote a big note in black thick marker, I put all our names on it, asking to comply. I put maintenance guys name on it
They can shove it, if they don't like it. We already had 3 code violations, & the house in back must stay empty, (but heated, our well's in there)
Im going to make a copy for everyone.

ETA: Lol. I made 2, 7 x 10 cards 1 for each dumpster, saying they have to be brought up to curbside Sunday.
We'll see.

chanzep
12-01-2020, 07:12 PM
The men in here have gotten out of control it seems they are everywhere apart from here. I would be happy to do photo proof etc to get away from them. They ruin most threads they are in. They have the whole internet this is our space.

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2020, 07:17 PM
Exactly

The unsavory dudes are like whack a moles.

IF the moderator bans them, there’s always another one that pops up.

whirlerz
12-01-2020, 07:57 PM
The men in here have gotten out of control it seems they are everywhere apart from here. I would be happy to do photo proof etc to get away from them. They ruin most threads they are in. They have the whole internet this is our space.

So true!
I flood Lounge for that reason, fuck them

Genoveve
12-01-2020, 08:39 PM
In theory I like that we can have an community with customer input. Unfortunately many men (or a few very lonely) just thread jack looking for validation. They show shallow support in the hopes of free emotional labor and attention.


Honestly, it is nice to have customers input their opinions, but I am SUPER sus of any man who invades a female dominant space to begin with :O Like there's a million forums you can go to, but you choose the one mainly inhabited by female-identifying sex workers?? eehhhh.


^ It's so creepy. It's an attempt to learn secrets and see behind the curtain ( then many of them admit this is a terrible idea later lol ) !

They just can't leave it be.

Also attempts to get free attention which should be nipped in the bud immediately.

100%. I don't have a problem with dudes being here but the nature of this platform does seem to attract some real loonies. I agree that a guy wanting to join and post regularly here(let alone obsessively) is already sus from the gate....I could understand the male participation better back in the day when this site was way more full of active industry members, many of whom knew each other, and there was a real community and there would be meet ups and such. But I really don't see how the current SW environment would be enticing to most dudes, which I assume is why so few of them post anymore.

LoveyDovey
12-01-2020, 10:36 PM
I'm over men. Think I just want to be by myself for a while. All I want to do is focus on my own goals and make some awesome s*** go down. Guys just drag me down anymore. It's like there's no point to it. They just cause drama and problems and don't really do anything to enhance life. I'm over it.

whirlerz
12-01-2020, 10:47 PM
I heard that.^

I live w/ 4 of 'em, they're all mentally fucked.

LoveyDovey
12-02-2020, 07:56 AM
I heard that.^

I live w/ 4 of 'em, they're all mentally fucked.

It's not just housemates. It's boyfriends too. All they do is lie, cheat, misrepresent themselves, take advantage of you, they get DUIs and have legal issues, then when you leave, they try and kill you. Been seeing a therapist for this issue. I am tired of being told I choose the wrong men. No, it's the man's fault for acting like an asshole. Then they do zero to help me out, and if they do help me, then I am forever indebted to them. Then when I tell a man that I've never been married, they look at me with pity and say things like "oh a beautiful girl like you has never been married?? that's such a shame". Yeah dick, it is a shame that you men are so shitty that I refuse to marry any of you. Learn respect or F off. Byeeee! I'm over it. Gonna build a life for myself by myself. And I'm not going to let some douche come in and ruin it as they typically do.

whirlerz
12-02-2020, 08:35 AM
Yea, I heard that too!^

So, get this: I was texting w/the 1 roomie I had a crush on, we were talking about house here being sold, I mean we were texting a good 10 minutes +.

All of sudden he goes: "Oh you're the wrong _____ (my name)::)

Yeah, riiight, pal

LoveyDovey
12-02-2020, 09:14 AM
^^^omg... See it's this shit I'm talking about. Guys are just dumb.

whirlerz
12-02-2020, 09:20 AM
^^^omg... See it's this shit I'm talking about. Guys are just dumb.

I know!
I'ma be real cold to him, he has helped me w/stuff tho.
He fixed my lamp last week, it was really fucked up.

But then, so is he.

indiegirl
12-02-2020, 01:20 PM
Welppppppp.....I'm about to bite the bullet and spend $14,000 on central air/heating for the entire house. It's going to bring my house value up anyways but it hurts temporarily. I'll hand him the debit card like I'm in 'Birdbox' lol. I want to pretend it never cost this much.

Jucie
12-02-2020, 01:56 PM
^ Wow, that’s a lot of money!

indiegirl
12-02-2020, 02:07 PM
^ Wow, that’s a lot of money!

I know. It's a house made in the 50's. I was quoted 8,000 but once he got here he realized all he had to do and the price went up. I'm so bummed. I'm just trying to convince myself to get it over with.

miss.a.p1600
12-02-2020, 02:54 PM
It's not just housemates. It's boyfriends too. All they do is lie, cheat, misrepresent themselves, take advantage of you, they get DUIs and have legal issues, then when you leave, they try and kill you. Been seeing a therapist for this issue. I am tired of being told I choose the wrong men. No, it's the man's fault for acting like an asshole. Then they do zero to help me out, and if they do help me, then I am forever indebted to them. Then when I tell a man that I've never been married, they look at me with pity and say things like "oh a beautiful girl like you has never been married?? that's such a shame". Yeah dick, it is a shame that you men are so shitty that I refuse to marry any of you. Learn respect or F off. Byeeee! I'm over it. Gonna build a life for myself by myself. And I'm not going to let some douche come in and ruin it as they typically do.

welcome to male privilege n entitlement at its finest ......even the “nice” guys are in this category

I get the annoying question about marriage too. I want to say “Well fuck face, if there were more men who were raised properly, knew how to provide n connect with a women the world would be a much better place”

neverendingkneebruises
12-02-2020, 04:34 PM
y'all should read Female Dating Strategy. It's a controversial subreddit and I don't agree with a LOT of their points (I believe in all sex workers rights, that not all porn is bad, and that trans people deserve rights, poly relationships can work well among other things). BUT they have REALLY good advice on how to vet men that you're seeing and how they actually objectify us and use women's free labor to oppress us. Very much an eye opener.

But yeah, the truth is that most men either bring you down in a relationship for their own benefit, or don't contribute anything positive. Very few actually boost you up. Dating them is very high risk and low reward. A GOOD man will know that they are dangers to women to begin with and will do EVERYTHING they can to recognize this and fight against patriarchal standards, toxic masculinity etc. As well as help you grow, not keep you stagnant. My fiancé is like this, but if we ever broke up i'd probably be celibate or date only women (I'm queer asf). Also;

https://www.businessinsider.com/unmarried-childless-women-are-happiest-expert-says-2019-5

^^ This is why I told my fiancé we probably will never be legally married, or if we are, prenup will be involved and I want to keep my last name. I always joke that marriage is for men. They joke about their wives being a ball and chain when marriage overwhelmingly, time and time again, benefits them. Just food for thought.

carmen_b
12-02-2020, 06:20 PM
Indie : Have you paid ? This might be worth a 2nd opinion !
That is a huge price difference !

carmen_b
12-02-2020, 06:21 PM
^ I will check out that article posted above. Seems like such a good one !!

LoveyDovey
12-02-2020, 06:24 PM
I don't even know if I ever want to get married in the first place. At one point I did. But now I almost feel like, what's the point? Why would I build my life up just to legally attach myself to somebody who could wreck it? I like having the GTFO option with no legal strings attached.. Maybe I'm just hurting from a lot in the past and I'm just not healed enough to start anything new with anyone. I kind of just want to be on my own for a while. If I were to give another guy a chance, he'd have to be hot with a sense of humor, someone who can make me laugh and smile and not be a controlling abusive manipulative douche. And he's got to have his own job/money, be respectful and reciprocating. and I'm not going to date anybody after I've gotten to know them as a friend for a while. that's the other thing too. It's like they'll be cool at first, but then once you start dating them, they switch into dick head mode. I'm so over it.

indiegirl
12-02-2020, 08:47 PM
Indie : Have you paid ? This might be worth a 2nd opinion !
That is a huge price difference !

He said he misunderstood when he arrived. He also has to remove the old school heater furnaces that has the carbon monoxide issues and plenty more. I had my mom's husband on the phone (who's in the housing industry) on the phone talking to him because he didn't want him to take advantage of me with the price and said the price was accurate. Another place quoted around 12-14k too. Old houses are so expensive to bring up to standard.

moneybags
12-02-2020, 08:54 PM
I don't even know if I ever want to get married in the first place. At one point I did. But now I almost feel like, what's the point? Why would I build my life up just to legally attach myself to somebody who could wreck it? I like having the GTFO option with no legal strings attached.. Maybe I'm just hurting from a lot in the past and I'm just not healed enough to start anything new with anyone. I kind of just want to be on my own for a while. If I were to give another guy a chance, he'd have to be hot with a sense of humor, someone who can make me laugh and smile and not be a controlling abusive manipulative douche. And he's got to have his own job/money, be respectful and reciprocating. and I'm not going to date anybody after I've gotten to know them as a friend for a while. that's the other thing too. It's like they'll be cool at first, but then once you start dating them, they switch into dick head mode. I'm so over it.


This is just my opinion, but why do we (women) believe there’s something wrong with us for wanting to do it like the dudes? Guys have the exact same logic and no one looks at Leanardo DiCaprio like he’s some wounded bird cause he dates 24 year old models. If that’s how you feel that’s valid, but I think we as women get brainwashed about we NEED a relationship or there’s something wrong with us. A lot times men are just a waste of time. There’s a lot of good guys, but there’s a lot of bad dudes. Why roll that dice when you can be happy on your own or in a committed relationship. Marriage was designed to be a legal contract. Women were one time property. Yet if you dare say you want to be single forever people treat you like your crazy for not wanting to be in a legal contract forever? WTF to each their own, but just cause I’m better off alone doesn’t mean I’m broken. It means I outsmarted the system

kamiliam
12-02-2020, 11:03 PM
This is just my opinion, but why do we (women) believe there’s something wrong with us for wanting to do it like the dudes? Guys have the exact same logic and no one looks at Leanardo DiCaprio like he’s some wounded bird cause he dates 24 year old models. If that’s how you feel that’s valid, but I think we as women get brainwashed about we NEED a relationship or there’s something wrong with us. A lot times men are just a waste of time. There’s a lot of good guys, but there’s a lot of bad dudes. Why roll that dice when you can be happy on your own or in a committed relationship. Marriage was designed to be a legal contract. Women were one time property. Yet if you dare say you want to be single forever people treat you like your crazy for not wanting to be in a legal contract forever? WTF to each their own, but just cause I’m better off alone doesn’t mean I’m broken. It means I outsmarted the system

We have all been so warped by gender norms that it isn’t surprising that men seem to think it is ok to forever suckle our tits like a newborn baby. I believe fully in confronting them on all their bs. And I totally agree that we are fully capable of running our own lives as women without them, but everyone needs healthy attachments to others, for some it is important to have a romantic one. All choices can work.

Leo doesn’t get judged as hard for not being married, but a lot of people have said that it is sad that he somehow is living a bad life. Why? That works best for some people. I want that Leo life and kinda have it. He like I in the past, could very much be in love, be a good partner, just doesn’t believe that forever is for him. It sucks to be judged for wanting that as if it is some male choice, when it is just a person choice.

moneybags
12-03-2020, 01:20 AM
^^^ I agree completely.

I think everyone loses when we see each other’s differences rather than see each other as unique individuals making life choices that work for us.

I don't know if I believe we need an SO. I think a pet is enough.

Dealing with micro-aggressions about my relationship status is exhausting and irritating; however, I know it's them projecting their BS (belief system) makes it way easier to ignore the unconscious shit people say.

My main point to the OP is that don’t let people tell you there’s something wrong with you because of x, y, and z. It’s usually bullshit. If what’s “wrong” with you is working and harmless then who is anyone to judge. What’s wrong is this society. Women internalize too much shame and blame when life doesn't work out the way they think it "should." I use to internalize that bullshit people said to me. Don’t believe that BS. You are enough. And you don’t have to do, be, or have anything to be enough.

Just because something comes from a trauma doesn't mean its a bad thing. It can be empowering to be single.

xxxGothBarbie
12-03-2020, 01:46 AM
I don't even know if I ever want to get married in the first place. At one point I did. But now I almost feel like, what's the point? Why would I build my life up just to legally attach myself to somebody who could wreck it? I like having the GTFO option with no legal strings attached.. Maybe I'm just hurting from a lot in the past and I'm just not healed enough to start anything new with anyone. I kind of just want to be on my own for a while. If I were to give another guy a chance, he'd have to be hot with a sense of humor, someone who can make me laugh and smile and not be a controlling abusive manipulative douche. And he's got to have his own job/money, be respectful and reciprocating. and I'm not going to date anybody after I've gotten to know them as a friend for a while. that's the other thing too. It's like they'll be cool at first, but then once you start dating them, they switch into dick head mode. I'm so over it.


^ This right here oMG! So true ugh. I have so much history of that & am so ashamed of it. I didn't allow anyone to treat me that way either , they totes became that way overtime. It's impossible to truly know anyone without investing a certain amnt of time on them. My theory anyway.

My pissy annoyance today is how hard it is to find a hotel room under $40 a freakn night! UGH I've had it with these places. I don't really care if it's super luxurious bc I'm not paying extra for that bc I don't honestly care. I'm super clean & as long as there aren't bugs or mold everywhere I'm fine.

Between the cost of daily food plus the room, I feel like I'll never get ahead & it pisses me off bc I'm trying to be independant & rely on myself but damn it's difficult. No one else gets it either which further annoys me, esp if they have their own apt or whatever. I've come across sooo many ppl lately that are in the same boat as me & they too had their own homes before this pandemic.

I've pretty much given up on trying to stay with family for free bc they don't seem to wanna take the virus srsly so ya def not risking my health for a place to stay.

10 years ago I had my own apt in LA & $$$ in the bank. I wasn't very happy though, I hated being tied in one place honestly. I wish it were the same dam price to stay in week to week spots as it were to have your own apt or house.