View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
JGB2009
03-02-2021, 06:05 PM
I am so mad because i have a pimple on my chin. Just gross!!!
chanzep
03-02-2021, 07:24 PM
Yes Wendi I hate those applications. Also I have been turned down by many jobs after the personality tests lol.
indiegirl
03-03-2021, 08:53 AM
Hahaha I read some new lengthy negative posts about me (when I had my pimp everything was just perfect about me on these forums since a lot of women are in stables on that forum and they're trying to hype their money/women up for customers)...one went into specific detail about me wearing my hat and said he was thinking about the safety of the community since I didn't remove the cap during some appointments. REALLLLY!?! FUCKING REALLLY!?!?! One guy called me autistic but enjoyed my blow job. I cannot wait to leave this fucking industry. I probably should stop looking at these posts. They make me feel so sub-human the way they treat women. The cheapest people always have the biggest mouth.
Best part was one saying "she said she used to do track and field and likes to drink (meanwhile he's smoking weed and not blasting himself on this forum). But she doesn't look like she's drunk?" Homeboy....I show up drunk and high to tolerate this situation for the now until I finish nursing school. haha. Nobody's autistic in my room, I'm coping. One called me middle-aged in a post when I clearly am not. These fucking asshole men ruin it for the good ones.
LoveyDovey
03-03-2021, 09:49 AM
thanks! I’ve always wanted to write about sex work.
I've been wanting to write a handbook for baby strippers and sex workers, and offer valuable advice like "If someone at a table has a stack of their money spread out on said table, keep in mind they are only trying to bait dancers into giving them their time for free. Men who flash their money like that don't have the intention of spending it. Look for the guy who is seated at a table, looking around the club. He is the one who has cash and is looking for a gal to spend it on." lol
indiegirl
03-03-2021, 10:00 AM
Threw up during my appointment last night. UGHHH!!! He jammed it down my throat too far not expecting it and I blamed it on my stomach. He asked if I vomited, and I put it on my stomach. These deep throaters.
whirlerz
03-03-2021, 10:04 AM
OMG, ugh, sorry hun..
^
carmen_b
03-03-2021, 10:37 AM
I have straight up tried to just steal bills when they do this.
Sometimes successfully.
They are assholes who deserve it.
I've been wanting to write a handbook for baby strippers and sex workers, and offer valuable advice like "If someone at a table has a stack of their money spread out on said table, keep in mind they are only trying to bait dancers into giving them their time for free. Men who flash their money like that don't have the intention of spending it. Look for the guy who is seated at a table, looking around the club. He is the one who has cash and is looking for a gal to spend it on." lol
LoveyDovey
03-03-2021, 10:52 AM
I have straight up tried to just steal bills when they do this.
Sometimes successfully.
They are assholes who deserve it.
If they wave you over, take up your time, and offer nothing in return, then hey, I don't blame you.
carmen_b
03-03-2021, 10:54 AM
^ My friend and I made a game once getting a $100 bill from one of these lame-o cash flashers hahaha.
Girls in strip clubs are sharks and doing this is just asking for trouble lol.
If they were being respectful we wouldnt bust out these little games.
LoveyDovey
03-03-2021, 10:57 AM
^ My friend and I made a game once getting a $100 bill from one of these lame-o cash flashers hahaha.
Girls in strip clubs are sharks and doing this is just asking for trouble lol.
;D;D;D
JGB2009
03-03-2021, 05:45 PM
Ungrateful people make me so mad.
moneybags
03-04-2021, 02:43 AM
I’ve been having guys get a min in private and then log out. I’d rather just have fun and not worry about waiting a whole minute, but I’m going to have to.
Genoveve
03-04-2021, 01:17 PM
Okay this is going to be really pissy. There's a fitness chick I follow on instagram and she is always spray tanned orange and always wears super warm tones, like she's always in orangey pinks and pinkish oranges and pinkish browns, orangish browns, bronzes...etc., and whenever she shows her makeup collection and her eye shadow palettes they're always in that same color palette----yet she always has her hair bleached silver white. GET A WARM-TONED BLONDE. Her fake tan wouldn't look SO orange if her hair wasn't so cool-toned, and she obviously loves warm tones so there's no excuse. Omg I don't know why but it actually drives me insane.
LoveyDovey
03-04-2021, 01:41 PM
Still waiting for my security deposit + rreceipts from landlord...funny I haven't received any yet seeing that my room has a clean carpet and has been advertised on craigslist since Feb 24...he'd better return it because twice now since the ad was up he lied and said he is still waiting for carpeting and paint guys to show up because my room is SUCH a mess and it's unrentable. Gee, then why is the carpet clean and posted on craigslist? Because you steam cleaned it yourselves? Keep going, it's going to be very easy for me to prove you a liar in court. Sending a certified to the LL AND the owner of the house. The LL refused to give me the owner's info when I asked for it months ago, but I did a little homework and got that info for myself. They will both be receiving certified letters over the weekend. Hope this makes the LL shit himself even more lol
Staci
03-04-2021, 01:46 PM
Gee, then why is the carpet clean and posted on craigslist?
Do you think he will claim that he posted an older picture on Craigslist?
Genoveve
03-04-2021, 01:50 PM
Still waiting for my security deposit + rreceipts from landlord...funny I haven't received any yet seeing that my room has a clean carpet and has been advertised on craigslist since Feb 24...he'd better return it because twice now since the ad was up he lied and said he is still waiting for carpeting and paint guys to show up because my room is SUCH a mess and it's unrentable. Gee, then why is the carpet clean and posted on craigslist? Because you steam cleaned it yourselves? Keep going, it's going to be very easy for me to prove you a liar in court. Sending a certified to the LL AND the owner of the house. The LL refused to give me the owner's info when I asked for it months ago, but I did a little homework and got that info for myself. They will both be receiving certified letters over the weekend. Hope this makes the LL shit himself even more lol
GET HIM. :killer:
indiegirl
03-04-2021, 02:34 PM
Okay this is going to be really pissy. There's a fitness chick I follow on instagram and she is always spray tanned orange and always wears super warm tones, like she's always in orangey pinks and pinkish oranges and pinkish browns, orangish browns, bronzes...etc., and whenever she shows her makeup collection and her eye shadow palettes they're always in that same color palette----yet she always has her hair bleached silver white. GET A WARM-TONED BLONDE. Her fake tan wouldn't look SO orange if her hair wasn't so cool-toned, and she obviously loves warm tones so there's no excuse. Omg I don't know why but it actually drives me insane.
I feel the same when people apply Heavy eyeliner/shadow and look super pretty/ much younger with a natural makeup look.
I'm really bummed/annoyed. Yet another hotel I used to frequent has now installed a key card only entrance into the hotel 24/7. (I'm not sure why this has been starting lately) but I've added it to my list of not returning.
LoveyDovey
03-04-2021, 02:35 PM
Do you think he will claim that he posted an older picture on Craigslist?
He might, but the TV and shelves weren't in there until I moved in. Plus I have photos and videos of the room that show the TV and shelves in the exact same spot. Also I can testify that before I moved out, the landlord's friend/my housemate mentioned he had a steam cleaner he could use and I wouldn't have to worry about it.
The housemate is in the navy/military and is cool. He signed me out, writing a note on our checkout sheet the the room was in good standing, no complaints. I had to have the housemate/landlord's helper sign me out BC the LL was too pissypants to do it himself BC he was mad at me for leaving, which would explain why I had to ask him 4 times over 8 days to give me receipts dating back to November. He was trying to fuck with my new living arrangements so I wouldn't get the house so I'd wind up staying, plus he didn't want to give me receipts so later he could try and claim that I didn't pay rent.
LoveyDovey
03-04-2021, 02:36 PM
GET HIM. :killer:
I'm not saying anything to him about it until we are in front of the judge. He doesn't know that I know about the ad. He can sit there and BS to the judge. I am sure they'll see through it.
kamiliam
03-04-2021, 02:44 PM
Okay this is going to be really pissy. There's a fitness chick I follow on instagram and she is always spray tanned orange and always wears super warm tones, like she's always in orangey pinks and pinkish oranges and pinkish browns, orangish browns, bronzes...etc., and whenever she shows her makeup collection and her eye shadow palettes they're always in that same color palette----yet she always has her hair bleached silver white. GET A WARM-TONED BLONDE. Her fake tan wouldn't look SO orange if her hair wasn't so cool-toned, and she obviously loves warm tones so there's no excuse. Omg I don't know why but it actually drives me insane.
100%, there are so many people who want to be blonde that are terrified of going even a touch warm. Like if you are going to someone who is experienced doing blondes you won’t be piss yellow. Your own coloring does matter, I don’t think there is much of an emphasis on that given to younger girls nowadays, just going with the trends regardless of what is flattering. Everyone should experiment with their looks but if your job is to be hot as an influencer maybe paying attention to what is flattering is important.
Genoveve
03-04-2021, 03:12 PM
I'm not saying anything to him about it until we are in front of the judge. He doesn't know that I know about the ad.
That's what I mean, I'm giving you props for hiding your cards. I am invested in this saga.
100%, there are so many people who want to be blonde that are terrified of going even a touch warm. Like if you are going to someone who is experienced doing blondes you won’t be piss yellow. Your own coloring does matter, I don’t think there is much of an emphasis on that given to younger girls nowadays, just going with the trends regardless of what is flattering. Everyone should experiment with their looks but if your job is to be hot as an influencer maybe paying attention to what is flattering is important.
THANK YOU. I have a another annoyance in the same vein, and this might piss people off because a LOT of chicks do it, but it drives me nuts when women who have light hair and light eyes use black eyeliner and black mascara for their minimal, every day makeup. Because it doesn't go with their light coloring I think it looks really harsh and weird. If it's part of a smoky eye or a full makeup look that's a totally different story, but if they for instance have blonde hair and blue eyes and their eye makeup is nothing but jet black liner and mascara I just think it doesn't match at all and looks like they didn't finish their makeup. I have blue eyes and right now light auburn hair, it would be like me penciling my brows in with a black eyebrow pencil and then that just being my eye makeup look. Or like if a chick with black hair just used auburn mascara and auburn eyeliner and that was her whole eye look. That's how mismatched and unfinished it looks to me.
I know why they do it too, they do it to try and make their eyes darker so they don't look washed out, but the contrast between their light coloring and the black just makes them look even more washed out to me. Mascaras and liners come in so many shades aside from BLACK, there's all kinds of browns and auburns and greens and purples and blues....etc. Black is not the only option.
LoveyDovey
03-04-2021, 04:43 PM
^^Thanks Genoveve, I know you are and I appreciate the emotional support. I'm gonna get him for sure! Bwahahaha... Just gonna let him dig his own hole for now.
kamiliam
03-04-2021, 05:02 PM
That's what I mean, I'm giving you props for hiding your cards. I am invested in this saga.
THANK YOU. I have a another annoyance in the same vein, and this might piss people off because a LOT of chicks do it, but it drives me nuts when women who have light hair and light eyes use black eyeliner and black mascara for their minimal, every day makeup. Because it doesn't go with their light coloring I think it looks really harsh and weird. If it's part of a smoky eye or a full makeup look that's a totally different story, but if they for instance have blonde hair and blue eyes and their eye makeup is nothing but jet black liner and mascara I just think it doesn't match at all and looks like they didn't finish their makeup. I have blue eyes and right now light auburn hair, it would be like me penciling my brows in with a black eyebrow pencil and then that just being my eye makeup look. Or like if a chick with black hair just used auburn mascara and auburn eyeliner and that was her whole eye look. That's how mismatched and unfinished it looks to me.
I know why they do it too, they do it to try and make their eyes darker so they don't look washed out, but the contrast between their light coloring and the black just makes them look even more washed out to me. Mascaras and liners come in so many shades aside from BLACK, there's all kinds of browns and auburns and greens and purples and blues....etc. Black is not the only option.
Oh my god thank you for saying it first. Even worse is jet black liner no mascara. I have lash extensions so no shame I know my eyelashes no makeup are always a little too much and give me some lack of liner privilege. But I am not super into liner in general. A metallic black is a much better option for MOST blonde/light eyed women if they can’t give up black completely.
carmen_b
03-05-2021, 02:29 PM
Me for months :
" All I want to do it work and make $ "
Work comes up Sun / Mon :
" Oh , this weekend ? I was hoping to leave town."
;/
carmen_b
03-05-2021, 02:51 PM
Goodness , back with more bitching haha.
J's sister ( for the third time ) is arriving a day before he has his daughter / her niece to " visit with us " . I guess I should be happy it's someone else to talk to other than J haha.
The two of them though ....... they are SO covid cautious they won't even go for a meal in off peak hours ( yawn ) so it'll just be something at his house.
Boring ! One time we managed to drag her out and she ordered the weirdest stuff ( like the most calorie heavy things you can possibly find on the menu ) .
I don't know why I'm bitching ! I've GOT to keep it together anyway. When she was here about 6 weeks ago I was on my cycle and just FURIOUS inside that someone else was in the house.
I felt so put out making conversation that I had to excuse myself at like 10p.m. ! I was decent to be around but ended up melting down solo upstairs .
Just throwing it out there and we totally DON'T need these visits considering we only have 15 days a month with the house to ourselves !
It's totally fine to arrive ON the day he gets daughter lol.
J seems concerned .
I'm not sure if he is dreading her visit today too or if he is worried about me keeping it together which I PLAN TO !
LoveyDovey
03-05-2021, 03:02 PM
^^^ugh. That ismoisutrizesEspecially when during your cycle. I really don't wanna deal with anyone then!
I ordered Jergens lavender lotion and while it moisutrizes well, and smells somewhat like lavender, it still has that lotiony smell I don't like. I think I am spoiled by Bath and Body works stuff. Even though their stuff smells strong, at least it doesn't smell lotion-y. Guess I will suck it up and use it anyway...
And now LL is trying to use $99 of my security deposit to clean 3 areas as opposed to only my bedroom. I am trying to get a receipt for just my room since the hallway and stairs were disgusting way before I moved in. The carpet cleaners sent me a receipt saying they cleaned 3 areas for $99.
Not dealing with him anymore. I'm sending certified letters to both him and the house owner, and I am going to explain to the owner how his LL is an idiot. I'd be even willing to pay $35 for the carpet in my br to be cleaned, plus 1/6 of the cost of the stairs and hallway, but that is it. So it should be about 50 dollars at most, and I am not paying for repainting Because there is literally no wear and tear on the walls. Think I am just going to blow off LL and send a letter to the owner stating that I will pay $50 for carpet cleaning and if I get charged for anything else we will have to go to court. Owner will probably tell the idiot LL to refund me $340 and to leave me alone. I just want this over with.
carmen_b
03-05-2021, 03:21 PM
^ Yeah, I made a terrible call last time too. I really wanted to just sit and watch a movie but felt so obligated to interact. Luckily it isn't " that time " lol this time !
But last time I had such a melt down and J gave me a valium . Lets hope this visit goes much better ! I don't think my mood will turn because I really haven't talked to anyone except you guys, J , and my therapist in a few weeks haha.
Lovely : You clearly are not backing down here. I'm sure you'll get the correct amount back. It's a real shame you have to fight to do that though.
Genoveve
03-05-2021, 05:03 PM
Oh my god thank you for saying it first. Even worse is jet black liner no mascara. I have lash extensions so no shame I know my eyelashes no makeup are always a little too much and give me some lack of liner privilege. But I am not super into liner in general. A metallic black is a much better option for MOST blonde/light eyed women if they can’t give up black completely.
I used to have lash extensions for like 2 years and I was initially really bummed that I could only get them in black because I wanted brown for this exact reason.
I have an Amazon annoyance; I canceled an order on the 3rd, usually they don't charge you till an order ships but because it was shipping right as I cancelled it I got charged. Their cancellation confirmation email said I would be refunded within two business days but today, which was the second or third business day since, I wasn't refunded. I assumed 'refunded' = money back in my account. Well I was talking to their chat support because I wanted to know if it was a hiccup(like maybe it got messed up because of when I cancelled it) or if it was normal and had to do with my bank. Omg the woman just kept talking in circles, she was like "You weren't charged." I was like 'Uhhh well I see the $57 transaction and I see my balance missing $57.' This happened like 4 times. Finally I told her to just have a representative call me and the one who did told me it does just have to do with the damn bank. That's the first time I've ever had an unhelpful Amazon agent which in like 20 years is I guess pretty good.
carmen_b
03-05-2021, 09:09 PM
Ugh , I feel SO blah !!
carmen_b
03-05-2021, 09:22 PM
This latest AirBnB reservation :/
These people keep shaving one day off the beginning of their trip.
Are they stuck somewhere?
If they shorted me one night can’t they do tomorrow too lol since I need a hotel tomorrow currently. :/
( to get bookings I set it at ultra flexible most folks have been decent these ones are stretching the policy )
LoveyDovey
03-06-2021, 09:18 AM
So today I need to print out and mail certified letters to my ex landlord and the owner of the house. The landlord is gonna have a shit when he sees I found out the name and address of the owner, as he kept that info from me when I requested it a few months back.Hopefully the owner will figuratively smack some sense into the L'Ls head and I will have my deposit back ASAP. This assclown and his antics are affecting my abilities to pay other bills...
WendiStarr
03-06-2021, 11:16 AM
I used to have lash extensions for like 2 years and I was initially really bummed that I could only get them in black because I wanted brown for this exact reason.
I have an Amazon annoyance; I canceled an order on the 3rd, usually they don't charge you till an order ships but because it was shipping right as I cancelled it I got charged. Their cancellation confirmation email said I would be refunded within two business days but today, which was the second or third business day since, I wasn't refunded. I assumed 'refunded' = money back in my account. Well I was talking to their chat support because I wanted to know if it was a hiccup(like maybe it got messed up because of when I cancelled it) or if it was normal and had to do with my bank. Omg the woman just kept talking in circles, she was like "You weren't charged." I was like 'Uhhh well I see the $57 transaction and I see my balance missing $57.' This happened like 4 times. Finally I told her to just have a representative call me and the one who did told me it does just have to do with the damn bank. That's the first time I've ever had an unhelpful Amazon agent which in like 20 years is I guess pretty good.
I used to work for Amazon customer service and they trained us to lie, even if we could see that the charges were there, and refer the customer to their bank to resolve the issue. 2 business days is more like 5-7 days or sometimes up to 2 weeks. I lost all respect for Amazon after working for them.
My petty anoyance is that I paid some computer engineer fucker to tutor me on something I have been having difficulty with. After I sent payment, all he did was tell me he's super busy, send me a generic pdf file of basic shit that I already know and not even help me at all.
Genoveve
03-06-2021, 11:47 AM
I used to work for Amazon customer service and they trained us to lie, even if we could see that the charges were there, and refer the customer to their bank to resolve the issue. 2 business days is more like 5-7 days or sometimes up to 2 weeks. I lost all respect for Amazon after working for them.
I was surprised when the email said 1-2 business days because IME it's more like 5-7 days, idk why they would even have that in their email because it's misleading. Like, I think to most people "refund" = money back. It was so annoying because she would say Amazon didn't charge me, then I would tell her I can see the charge and the missing money, and then she'd be like 'Well Amazon does xyz' and I would be like okay so when will the money be back because it's been 2 business days' and she'd be like 'They didn't charge you.' Over and over again. I just wanted to know if it was normal or not!! All she had to say was that it's up to the bank to release the funds or whatever like the lady over the phone. Maybe the online person was new or something.
After being a devoted Amazon fan since whenever I got my first debit card(17-years old? 18?) I've been really turned off by them lately. Maybe they're having issues due to the rapid Corona business expansion but them not properly paying their drivers(https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/press-releases/2021/02/amazon-pay-617-million-settle-ftc-charges-it-withheld-some) really left a bad taste in my mouth. This is the first year that I didn't renew my Prime membership and I only order through them as a last resort, whereas they were my default for yeeears.
carmen_b
03-06-2021, 11:57 AM
J can not seem to make the connection easily sometimes to save me driving.
I just spelled it out about 10 minutes ago about how I have a very *limited* window to restock the AirBnB tomorrow 40 minutes AWAY from him and BEFORE that in the morning I wanted to do a yoga class in his area.
I have the huge AirBnB to myself tomorrow and would really prefer to stay at his place tonight BEFORE going to the AirBnB.
I hope he changes his mind during the course of the day.
I will definitely be mentioning this 80 minutes of driving multiple times lol .
He is asking me to stay tomorrow ( Sun ) and I probably won't since then I'm driving BACK the same day.
We have this family dinner with his very conservative parents in an hour.
He is also working late ( very rare for him on weekend ).
I feel like our lives couldn't get any more boring if we actively tried hard at it ( at least in the next few days ).
whirlerz
03-06-2021, 04:34 PM
So today I need to print out and mail certified letters to my ex landlord and the owner of the house. The landlord is gonna have a shit when he sees I found out the name and address of the owner, as he kept that info from me when I requested it a few months back.Hopefully the owner will figuratively smack some sense into the L'Ls head and I will have my deposit back ASAP. This assclown and his antics are affecting my abilities to pay other bills...
I sure hope it works out for you, LD, you deserve it!
LoveyDovey
03-06-2021, 05:48 PM
^^thank you. It better. I spent $34 on printing out stuff and mailing it certified mail. Owner should get it by Monday. I let the owner know about the issues I had with the LL, including withholding my security deposit.
Now I see their ad on craigslist has been updated. The carpets look clean. LL is trying to charge me $99 for my room, the hallway, and stairs. The carpet cleaners told me my room was $35. I specifically told the LL I will only cover my room since the hallway and stairs were dirty upon my arrivals and I have the photos to prove it. And they also replaced the shower curtain and added a rug and a towel hanger in the bathroom. They can't use my deposit for this because the shower curtain was old and dirty prior to my move-in, nor can they use my deposit to "spruce up" the shithole.. I stated all this in my letter. That I will pay $35 for the carpet in my room only, that's it, as I did no damage to the walls in my room or anywhere else in the house. So I need my $355 back or else we go to court. Hope the LL shits a brick when he realizes I sent a certified letter to the house owner describing what an idiot he is. I am sure I will hear about it soon lol
carmen_b
03-06-2021, 07:44 PM
^ I’m pretty sure owner will just give you $355!
Plus the manager might be trying to do shady dealings like keep some for himself or something ....
carmen_b
03-06-2021, 07:46 PM
I failed to get my vehicle ready to dwell in lol !!
I am just so cheap lately. I think 2020 really did a weird number on my mind.
I spent $55 on a hotel ( I’ll only need 6 nights in March at most)!
That’s silly low living costs and Im sitting here like “ I could use that $55!”
Then I think “ My partner is an idiot “ or “ I’ve ruined my life “.
:/
I was analyzing myself and wondering if being so tight with living costs is a 2020 thing or a self punishment thing.
Like ..., ever since my partner left me in 2018 I just can’t seem to get comfy even though I have plenty to put down on a home . I will run it by therapist. :/
I am starting to think though that the behavior might be a self punishment or harm type thing as much as just indecision.
I’ve started some internal work asking myself some things.
LoveyDovey
03-06-2021, 08:02 PM
^ I’m pretty sure owner will just give you $355!
Plus the manager might be trying to do shady dealings like keep some for himself or something ....
I hope so. I think you're right about the landlord. . He is shady AF and seems to be forgetting that the deposit is MY property, not his!
I think the property owner will give it back and have the LL reimburse him. I saw when I looked up the owner's address that he once lived at a house the DEA just recently raided for meth and fentnyl. He now lives a few doors down, same crack neighborhood. I just saw it on the news a week or two ago. Something tells me the owner does not want to go to court haha...
I have a strange feeling the LL didn't mention to the owner that I moved out.
WendiStarr
03-07-2021, 07:22 AM
I sent a text to my mom and brother to see if either of them were planning on coming over for my birthday next week. I don't like surprise visits so I thought it a perfectly reasonable question, especially since last year my brother and mom showed up unannounced while I was all crappy looking and baby was like 6 weeks old. My place was a mess. I told them that I'm just ordering Mexican food and having cake with the kids. She got all mad, wanting to know why I'd do that at my house, instead of a restaurant near her, 45 minutes away. I'm not interested in going out to a restaurant right now because we'd have to wear masks and eat outside. It's still 30 degrees out and I'm not sure how all that works. I'd much rather get takeout and eat at home. Not only that but she has a habit of inviting a bunch of extra people when I have stuff at a restaurant. Then I'm stuck with an expensive bill because I guess everyone assumes that someone else will pay it. Come to find out, she's only starting shit because she doesn't want to spend gas money on coming here. I don't want her toxic ass here anyways. Don't come.
carmen_b
03-07-2021, 08:55 AM
^ Plus if they really wanted the sex work $ they would already be getting it hahaha.
Then they could easily just give Mr Not at All Helpful their prices . :/
Aurora_Sunset
03-07-2021, 09:24 AM
I'm trying really hard to go back to school online, but all the part-time programs I find have one thing in common: Saturday hours. The evening hours during the week are perfectly reasonable, but I guess they assume that everyone who works full time doesn't work weekends so they can throw an extra long class in on Saturday mornings/afternoons instead of just keeping the evening hours if they want to add a weekend day(s). It's annoying. Working "full time" doesn't = M-F, 9-5 for everyone.
Aurora_Sunset
03-07-2021, 12:10 PM
I'm pissy at my sulking husband right now. He's all boo-hoo and mopey, because I discovered that our internet bill wasn't paid last month (which is supposed to be his responsibility) so when I went to pay it today, it was over $100 more than I thought it would be. On Friday, he took the entire extra $400 we had in checks to be cashed and used it for child support, groceries, and other things like gas and his haircut. He told me he hadn't used it all and could put some back in the joint account. When I asked him to, he said he didn't have it, and only $147 in his account... I asked him where the hell the rest of the money went since he told me he hadn't used the entire $400 AND had $180 in his account before even taking it. He says Netflix and Hulu?? Hulu came out 2 weeks ago, and together, that's still only $22... I was like "ok, whatever, well, paying this bill off and our electric bill that's due tomorrow will overdraft me by $40 so I need at least that much back in the joint account so I can use it."
And he has the nerve to get all shitty and transfer $100 of it back into the joint account, proclaiming that he'll "never borrow any money anymore." He's been all sulky ever since. I told him to knock it off, and he was like "I only have $47 to live off for the week now." I was like "Well, I would've been negative $40 without some of that money back. Also, I lived off $7 all last week after paying rent, and you didn't hear me complaining..."
I even tried to cheer him up by reminding him that our stimulus checks might hit this week. And he was like, "Not like it's gonna do me any good. I need a long-term solution to money, not a one-time payment." I told him that $2800 is still gonna do him a world of good so to shut the fuck up and be grateful. My $1400 is basically ALL going to paying my parents back for the loan they gave us a few months ago. I also reminded him that he's gonna start getting that extra $250/month for his kid, and he was like "psh, not until August." Ok, ass, then give it to me if you're gonna be an ungrateful turd about it.
I know he's sick of being broke, but he's not the only one stressed. It's not like I'm hoarding my money, living the life of luxury and being some sort of loan shark because I'm "forcing" him to live off $47 for a week so that I can, ya know, pay our fucking mutual bills to keep the internet and lights on. I didn't even ask for $100, I asked for $40.
Aurora_Sunset
03-07-2021, 12:18 PM
Oh, and if he's SO stressed about not making enough money, maybe today wasn't the time to take an entire day off work so he could spend a measly 3 extra hours with the kids, who are using their extra time to either sit in their rooms, not interacting with us anyway, or whining ungratefully about how they still think that going home in 3 hours is "soon" and "not enough time." He only did it cuz dick-head stepdad guilt tripped him last week. I hope losing another $100 on his next paycheck was worth it.
Genoveve
03-07-2021, 12:20 PM
^^^You're basically his mom.
Aurora_Sunset
03-07-2021, 12:20 PM
AND I have been on his ass for weeks about starting to donate plasma at the nearby center that I started going to. Going twice a week, which he could pull off with his schedule, would be an extra $280 a month for a couple hours of his time on days he has free anyway. And this dumbass donated blood the other day without telling me first. I was like, cool.... you know you can't donate plasma for a month now, right?
Ok, I'm done now... lol I love him. I do. But today is one of those days in our LTR.
Aurora_Sunset
03-07-2021, 12:24 PM
^^^You're basically his mom.
I just wish he would pay more attention to money. He mopes about being broke or overdrafting all the time, but does not watch our budget at all. Just kinda wings it and assumes it will work out - until it doesn't. His hours getting cut isn't his fault. I know his schooling is so that he can make way more money than he's currently qualified for. I don't mind picking up the slack while he's getting his education. But I just need him to be more responsible with what we do have. I can only cover so much.
carmen_b
03-07-2021, 12:30 PM
^ I would gently encourage him to maximize / protect his time .
Sounds like he didn’t think losing the $100 for a 3 hour visit through .
:/
We can all use that reminder here or there ....
Aurora_Sunset
03-07-2021, 12:35 PM
^ I would gently encourage him to maximize / protect his time .
Sounds like he didn’t think losing the $100 for a 3 hour visit through .
:/
We can all use that reminder here or there ....
I think he thought it was ok, because this past week he did get all his hours, so the paycheck coming up will be fine.... But the one after that, he'll be hurting again. That's just it - he doesn't think beyond the current paycheck and then acts shocked when reality hits him in the face.
I literally sit down with my budget list, calendar, and calculator and will meticulously calculate out how much money I have to spend on food and gas in a given week based on the paychecks I know are coming and the bills I know are coming out - in 2 or 3 weeks chunks sometimes. I'm not asking him to be THAT anal, but he needs to start acting like we are paycheck-to-paycheck people right now, because we are. I know he had 13 years of having his ex-wife's parents cover so many expenses that he just... doesn't think about being broke af at almost 40 years old. But he needs to get realistic until he's done with school.
Anyway, sorry for the threadjack.
carmen_b
03-07-2021, 12:37 PM
^ Can he pick up work anywhere else since the hours sometimes are not enough?
I know working and going to school is terrible ( because I do it currently ) but if it gives you that *boost* of just another $100 a week or so it's sometimes worth it !
It ALL adds up !