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TheBrownFox
08-09-2021, 03:15 PM
I'm already irritated w/back to school , (like a month ago!)

Now they're doing Halloween?
Sigh


Yeah, Spirit Halloween and Spencer Gifts are blowing up my e-mail around this time. Lol. Spencer's just sent out an e-mail about Britney Spears backpacks (Not interested, but I did go "Awww!"). I saw they had Golden Girls backpacks the last time I was in there, and I'm really proud of myself for NOT buying any of those My Hero Academia backpacks that I saw. OMG...

whirlerz
08-10-2021, 11:20 AM
So, the former maintenance guy knocked on my door, looking for cable boxes, I'd stupidly given mine to the B that moved out, however, I asked the former owner (he still owned it then) & he said it was ok, the maintenance guy told me I shouldn't have (& I should have said anything really) I think it should be ok tho..

I passed along an email to the new owner about it, he said he left it, along with most of the boxes, @ some property::).
I f'n know that B took it, tho!>:(
She tried to take an outdoor chair cushion of mine, I hid it, + she tried to take this guy's Tiki torches,::), anything that's not nailed down is 'hers', don't touch her shit tho!
Her grandson lives here w/gf, he's the same way lol.

Anyway, I got him to turn on the hose, so I can wash my deck..

I was beyond irritated trying to find/get a tracking# (over an hour on phone w/p.o., TG FedEx sent it!) for some damn skincare shite I'd returned, sent co. a screenshot of that #.

It was returned 6/21! They need to credit me, I refused it unopened.

TheBrownFox
08-10-2021, 12:25 PM
Fucking annoyed that I missed out on money last night, because that damn video call feature on SextPanther wouldn't work right. The invite doesn't even show up on the computer. It shows up on your phone in a text message with a link. I clicked the link, and all it did was take me to the homepage...prompting me to sign up as a member or as a model. WTF. I see so many models rave about how great SextPanther is, and I'm trying to make money on it without actually having to take phone calls. I wanted to do texting and video calls. No one ever buys the videos I listed for sale on there, so I'm left with the texting and video calls features...but the damn video call feature isn't working.

lilylilylily
08-10-2021, 12:59 PM
When I called and left a message to cancel an appointment and they keep calling back thinking I want to make an appointment. Just called back and cancelled again. I hope they get it this time

xxxGothBarbie
08-10-2021, 09:30 PM
Had to walk in the damn rain tonight to get some pizza for dinner without an umbrella :(
So glad my dinner wasn't ruined! Then I have to get dolled up again bc I looked like a drowned rat from the rain ugh

indiegirl
08-11-2021, 01:36 PM
Dish TV is trying to scam me with their bullshit thinking I'm as confused as my mother was when she had it. Why is the bill constantly changing and why am I paying a "locked rate fee" of 80 bucks and then an extra 80 dollar fee for the actual service? What the hell is a locked rate and fluctuating bill price each month? I am NOT spending 200-250 a month for my roommates to watch tv.

TheBrownFox
08-11-2021, 02:13 PM
^I told expensive-ass Comcast Xfinity to go ahead and remove that monthly charge for the Xfinity remote from my bill, since I can't even use the Xfinity remote at all now with this new TCL ROKU TV (Comes with a Roku remote). Now I gotta get used to using that and that kind of remote.

LoveyD
08-12-2021, 05:00 AM
I hate manipulative people.

WendiStarr
08-13-2021, 05:12 AM
Fucking thunderstorm and flooding bullshit and the power outage. It's been humid and 90 degrees for the past 3 days. We've been at hotels since Wednesday and because hotels know there's a ton of people without power even the cheap ones are charging an arm and a leg. DTE estimated that power won't be restored until Sunday morning. Fuck! If anyone was considering moving to Michigan, don't bother. This has been the stormiest, flood year ever. This $120/night shit sucks too and I definitely can't cam or do pso while sharing a room with kids. This is the 4th time that this has happened with flooding,power outage, and having to stay in a hotel this summer.

indiegirl
08-13-2021, 07:15 AM
I spent extra on a 4 star hotel for a returning customer only to find out he is on the 8th floor of the same hotel I'm in. He was wanting to buy me dinner and pay for my time as well as two hours and I wound up backing out because of a nosebleed. He wanted to see me this morning and brought up he will pay me 125 for the morning after pill as well and I completely have backed out of seeing him. Tired of these barebackers. I now have to make my money back.

LoveyD
08-13-2021, 09:07 AM
^ Just tell her you are already at full time / max work hours.
I know what you mean! :)
It would cause me anxiety unless there was a very clear written agreement and prob some money offered every 4-8 work hours !
I’m a paid up front girl ha. Lap dances , deposits for my freelance small business work , all of it !

I can’t even stomach the risk of lost time or delayed payments.
:/

I remember being out on a job and someone was like “ you are the only one working this week who requested daily pay in your booking contract “. I’m just thinking “ yeah that sounds right “ ha.

I wish I could tell her this but I can't. My car needs a new timing belt so I can't drive it. She's all "well I have work for you to do if you want to make some money" and the thing is I just don't want to do a crappy job for her and waste her time. I know she is trying to help but it's just giving me more anxiety. I don't need another job. I just need a car to do my job lol. And it's like she's being manipulative about it. Like she'll say" you can do some work for me and pay for the car parts" and then I'll reply that I already paid for the car parts and I'm just waiting for them to be delivered. Then she'll tell me to cancel the order and work for her. It's like she doesn't know how to take a cue.

miss.a.p1600
08-13-2021, 01:30 PM
I took a generic plan b

I hope that shit works.

miss.a.p1600
08-13-2021, 01:59 PM
Dear clueless dudes,

Stop taking off your socks like you are a 12 year old kid. I do not want your crusty foot dust flying in my face while you carelessly fling your socks off n into the air.

Genoveve
08-13-2021, 02:00 PM
I wish I could tell her this but I can't. My car needs a new timing belt so I can't drive it. She's all "well I have work for you to do if you want to make some money" and the thing is I just don't want to do a crappy job for her and waste her time. I know she is trying to help but it's just giving me more anxiety. I don't need another job. I just need a car to do my job lol. And it's like she's being manipulative about it. Like she'll say" you can do some work for me and pay for the car parts" and then I'll reply that I already paid for the car parts and I'm just waiting for them to be delivered. Then she'll tell me to cancel the order and work for her. It's like she doesn't know how to take a cue.

Why can't you bluntly tell her no? Also I'm not sure if it's that she's just really bad at taking cues, she might understand but just not give a shit. Some people are just very self-absorbed. And if she IS just really dumb, then you actually will have to just spell it out for her. I would straight up tell her no and that if she doesn't find someone else to do it soon and wants to just keep hoping on you she's going to be screwed.

LoveyD
08-13-2021, 02:51 PM
You're right, G. I tried to hint around at "no" because I didn't want my disinterest to come off as rude but I think I'm just going to tell her thanks but no thanks. I need to remember that I can say " no" and an explanation isn't necessary.

I just don't like how manipulative she can be sometimes. She has a way of putting me on the spot that makes me feel very uncomfortable . Like if I say "no" then I'm a bitch.

carmen_b
08-13-2021, 03:02 PM
^ Your intuition seems to guide you to the “ no go “ vibe on this.

Genoveve
08-13-2021, 03:06 PM
^^^I would not care if someone like that thought I was a bitch, actually I'd consider it a plus.

LoveyD
08-13-2021, 03:08 PM
^^^I would not care if someone like that thought I was a bitch, actually I'd consider it a plus.

Lol true. She's otherwise a nice person but she just has these moments where she puts me on the spot. Like when her niece comes over. I'll be omw out the door to work and she will ask me right in front of the girl " Don't you want to play old maid with a six year old ?" And I'm all well, um, I can't, I have to work. Then of course that disappoints the kid and makes me the bad guy when she's the one responsible for the disapointment. I wish she would quit it. It's not cool.

Edit: I'm realizing that she's "surface nice" and a total bitch underneath. Why can't people just be normal?

miss.a.p1600
08-14-2021, 03:31 PM
I reluctantly got the second vaccine.

Now I feel like I’ve been shagged upside down n backwards by a bbc gangbang

My body is sore n I’m hot n now I don’t feel like doing anything I planned to do today

FML!!!

LoveyD
08-14-2021, 07:48 PM
^^ aw man that sucks. I'm sorry the vaccine is kicking your ass. I hope you feel a lot better soon.

My housemate is now giving me a passive-aggressive guilt trip. I entered the house and she was watching TV and started complaining that she threw her back out from lifting things for her art show because she had no help.

I'm thinking bitch you could have hired someone else as there are 2 other people who are her family members who live here and could use the money but now it's my fault that you're injured?

When I think about it, there have been maybe five times she has put me on the spot in front of people, making me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. Idk what her deal is. I pay rent on time, I keep to myself, I don't break shit or make messes and I don't bother them for anything. I keep a positive friendly demeanor around them when I do go ddownstairs and I don't act like a drama queen.

I think she is one of those covertly miserable people who are nice on the surface but very negative inside. Really not feeling that comfortable here anymore. I think I am going to tell the other lady tomorrow that I'm moving out October 1st. By then I should be financially ready to gtfo. It sucks BC I love the location and house but I don't like this chick putting me on the spot in front of people as a way of manipulating me and making me look and feel like an asshole. Red flags!

Getting my timing belt replaced this week, then gonna work my tail off and not really be at home a lot. I'm avoiding this chick.

Why can't I find decent people to live with?

chanzep
08-14-2021, 08:36 PM
She sounds annoying. How dare she act like that.

LoveyD
08-14-2021, 08:51 PM
It is annoying. I just put my notice in that I will be moving out Oct 1 before any more bullshit happens.

Sucks cuz this place would be perfect otherwise.

miss.a.p1600
08-15-2021, 07:08 AM
^^ aw man that sucks. I'm sorry the vaccine is kicking your ass. I hope you feel a lot better soon.

My housemate is now giving me a passive-aggressive guilt trip. I entered the house and she was watching TV and started complaining that she threw her back out from lifting things for her art show because she had no help.

I'm thinking bitch you could have hired someone else as there are 2 other people who are her family members who live here and could use the money but now it's my fault that you're injured?

When I think about it, there have been maybe five times she has put me on the spot in front of people, making me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. Idk what her deal is. I pay rent on time, I keep to myself, I don't break shit or make messes and I don't bother them for anything. I keep a positive friendly demeanor around them when I do go ddownstairs and I don't act like a drama queen.

I think she is one of those covertly miserable people who are nice on the surface but very negative inside. Really not feeling that comfortable here anymore. I think I am going to tell the other lady tomorrow that I'm moving out October 1st. By then I should be financially ready to gtfo. It sucks BC I love the location and house but I don't like this chick putting me on the spot in front of people as a way of manipulating me and making me look and feel like an asshole. Red flags!

Getting my timing belt replaced this week, then gonna work my tail off and not really be at home a lot. I'm avoiding this chick.

Why can't I find decent people to live with?

Thanks! I broke down n took some Advil. N now I feel a lot better.

That’s messed up your roommate is trying to play mind games. She seems like a lonely lady who has awareness of other people n nothing else to do than to try to manipulate for her own benefits.

whirlerz
08-15-2021, 08:30 AM
Hope you feel much better, Ms. P.!

Kudos to you, for being brave to go thru w/2nd shot!
My friend refuses to get it at all, then expects to visit with me?
Also, he visits fam that don't get it either?

Well, I have some things to bitch about, but one of the things that caught my eye was you-know-who CConvo, you know the thread..my eyes rolled back in my head, ffs.::)

Eta: I took a peek, wow just wow, like the one response, zzzzzZ.::)

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
08-15-2021, 08:35 AM
TransUnion and CapitalOne can kiss my grits!

miss.a.p1600
08-15-2021, 08:44 AM
L is being really dumb right now.

He initially told his kids he’d see them on FALL BREAK.

Somehow he’s been able to see them about once a month (either he goes or she comes here) which is good but it’s not sustainable.

Rather than tell the little crumbsnatcher “I said, I’ll see you again on fall break!” And give her a calendar.

He’s going to put his old ass car with a shit ton of miles on the road again ahead of schedule because the kid keeps asking him when he’s coming and saying she misses him.

I tell him you can’t let a little kid dictate your schedule n finances.

You don’t have a plan for car maintenance money, you don’t have a plan for them to sleep here, you’re still paying for their overpriced cellphones when I told you to change to a cheaper option with better service.

When I remind him that he needs to save money instead of traipsing down there with his car he’s like “well she misses me so I have to go see her”

Ffs!!!!

Is she going to miss you having money when you’re throwing it in the wind on travel you really cannot afford.

whirlerz
08-15-2021, 08:56 AM
Crumb snatcher, lol!

Also, Ms P, drink some Gatorade, roomie told me about that when I got my shot, it really helped!

Also, I have some other stuff to B about, but, embarrassed:-[

whirlerz
08-15-2021, 09:06 AM
TransUnion and CapitalOne can kiss my grits!

I feel your Pain!^

I'm going to have to open a secured credit card, there's just no other way, at least one that won't involve tons of paperwork

carmen_b
08-15-2021, 09:44 AM
What is up with this chick lol ?

You can hire people from CraigsList, you can hire them straight from your own business page on FaceBook ( I have done that personally ) , you can hire people doing a call out on your person FB ..... many many options here lol.

You might have to just set some boundaries and explain you don't want to blend schedules any more than you already are ( living in the same space ). Such as .... you are happy to converse in the house .... but your schedule is totally full ( even if it isn't ) . I would tell her you'd appreciate not being put on the spot anymore. Sometimes you've got to be really really up front with people even if it's uncomfy.

I have also had room mate situations " turn " when the person seemed to be seeking a " friend " type roomie.
I was just seeking a space and not wanting to add more social time onto my schedule.


^^ aw man that sucks. I'm sorry the vaccine is kicking your ass. I hope you feel a lot better soon.

My housemate is now giving me a passive-aggressive guilt trip. I entered the house and she was watching TV and started complaining that she threw her back out from lifting things for her art show because she had no help.

I'm thinking bitch you could have hired someone else as there are 2 other people who are her family members who live here and could use the money but now it's my fault that you're injured?

When I think about it, there have been maybe five times she has put me on the spot in front of people, making me feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. Idk what her deal is. I pay rent on time, I keep to myself, I don't break shit or make messes and I don't bother them for anything. I keep a positive friendly demeanor around them when I do go ddownstairs and I don't act like a drama queen.

I think she is one of those covertly miserable people who are nice on the surface but very negative inside. Really not feeling that comfortable here anymore. I think I am going to tell the other lady tomorrow that I'm moving out October 1st. By then I should be financially ready to gtfo. It sucks BC I love the location and house but I don't like this chick putting me on the spot in front of people as a way of manipulating me and making me look and feel like an asshole. Red flags!

Getting my timing belt replaced this week, then gonna work my tail off and not really be at home a lot. I'm avoiding this chick.

Why can't I find decent people to live with?

LoveyD
08-15-2021, 10:20 AM
Thanks! I broke down n took some Advil. N now I feel a lot better.

That’s messed up your roommate is trying to play mind games. She seems like a lonely lady who has awareness of other people n nothing else to do than to try to manipulate for her own benefits.


Glad to hear you're feeling better and hope that this won't be a long-ass recovery this time. Edibles always help too if you can get a hold of some.

You hit the nail on the head with this chick.

It just fucking sucks. I do what I can to be a good renter but of course once again I wind up living with an emotionally abusive asshole.

At least I know this is not my fault. She has issues and is the one creating the drama.

It's been fine and peaceful otherwise, much better than the shithole I was renting before. I am just glad that I've mainly kept to myself and my business private. Because I knew this was a possibility and well, here we are. Thank God I didn't get emotionally invested with these people. It's just annoying because now I am the one who is inconvenienced once again.

I'm just steering clear/ignoring her and pretending not to know what a bitch she is. I told them i was moving out by Oct. 1st, sooner if need be. I don't need her fucking drama. Why do people have to suck so bad? Just gonna keep myself busy, out of the house, away from her nonsense. It blows because now I am aware of creep she is, and that makes it really hard to relax here. Fuck toxic people.

LoveyD
08-15-2021, 10:25 AM
What is up with this chick lol ?

You can hire people from CraigsList, you can hire them straight from your own business page on FaceBook ( I have done that personally ) , you can hire people doing a call out on your person FB ..... many many options here lol.

You might have to just set some boundaries and explain you don't want to blend schedules any more than you already are ( living in the same space ). Such as .... you are happy to converse in the house .... but your schedule is totally full ( even if it isn't ) . I would tell her you'd appreciate not being put on the spot anymore. Sometimes you've got to be really really up front with people even if it's uncomfy.

I have also had room mate situations " turn " when the person seemed to be seeking a " friend " type roomie.
I was just seeking a space and not wanting to add more social time onto my schedule.

She's just being an asshole. And I definitely avoid roommates who want a "friend."

I told them I have to be out by Oct. 1 due to personal/family situation and if they ask questions I am just going to reiterate that it's a personal family situation and I am going to be busy over the next few weeks.Then make myself hella scarce.

If she puts me on the spot again, I am going to straight up ask her "Is there a reason you are trying to make me feel uncomfortable in front of everyone? Because this is not okay." That should make her stop.

Kinda glad this bitch hurt her back. It's karma for being nasty.

Feeling this so hard rn:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWB5IegZ7cs

WendiStarr
08-15-2021, 12:00 PM
BD is making sure that my last few weeks with him are miserable as hell. I'm also annoyed that now suddenly all these vanilla companies want a video interview 1.5 months after going on a job app spree. I packed my laptop up because I don't want BD destroying it once he realizes I'm leaving him. He has a terrible temper. I have to leave everything in storage because it's safer there.

miss.a.p1600
08-15-2021, 12:08 PM
Glad to hear you're feeling better and hope that this won't be a long-ass recovery this time. Edibles always help too if you can get a hold of some.

You hit the nail on the head with this chick.

It just fucking sucks. I do what I can to be a good renter but of course once again I wind up living with an emotionally abusive asshole.

At least I know this is not my fault. She has issues and is the one creating the drama.

It's been fine and peaceful otherwise, much better than the shithole I was renting before. I am just glad that I've mainly kept to myself and my business private. Because I knew this was a possibility and well, here we are. Thank God I didn't get emotionally invested with these people. It's just annoying because now I am the one who is inconvenienced once again.

I'm just steering clear/ignoring her and pretending not to know what a bitch she is. I told them i was moving out by Oct. 1st, sooner if need be. I don't need her fucking drama. Why do people have to suck so bad? Just gonna keep myself busy, out of the house, away from her nonsense. It blows because now I am aware of creep she is, and that makes it really hard to relax here. Fuck toxic people.

I don’t know how I forgot but yeah I’m going to order my personal stash to my pobox.

i told L I have a pobox and that he could add himself on it but he never said anything about it so it will be my private mail sanctuary for now.

I think if you stay gone n the less interaction you have with that roommate the better

miss.a.p1600
08-15-2021, 12:15 PM
L keep asking me “do you *need* some money or are you good?”

Boy if you don’t quit playing Ima find a man who will willingly just give it without asking those secretly manipulative questions. I could be misinterpreting this but It’s like he’s hoping I’ll say no by the way he’s asking it. N if I say yes it’s like he wants me to beg him for money or make me feel like shit for accepting it or something.

Guess I’ll be simply disappearing n let him figure it out.

This the kind of money games that get you cheated on!

carmen_b
08-15-2021, 01:16 PM
Wendi :
So smart to move your valuables discreetly !

carmen_b
08-15-2021, 01:17 PM
Miss P :
Just tell him yes you could use it !
When you wrote that other post I was thinking too that you could phrase it as how it could “ save “ you from needing to work late 3-4 nights or something.

Like... try to teach him the connection between him getting more time and helping more if possible. Make a clear connection that if he helps you’ll work less and give him more time .

I think that’s lame though too like you are saying about catching the vibe he hopes you’ll say no. :/

miss.a.p1600
08-15-2021, 04:08 PM
Miss P :
Just tell him yes you could use it !
When you wrote that other post I was thinking too that you could phrase it as how it could “ save “ you from needing to work late 3-4 nights or something.

Like... try to teach him the connection between him getting more time and helping more if possible. Make a clear connection that if he helps you’ll work less and give him more time .

I think that’s lame though too like you are saying about catching the vine he hopes you’ll say no. :/

Okay. I’ll stop being so boneheaded about the “how” and just accept it the next time.

He could tell I was irritated/confused by how he was asking it and said “next time I offer just say yes or no”

So I could phrase it that way to make it easier for him to understand the connection.

Thanks for the feedback Carmen.

carmen_b
08-15-2021, 04:17 PM
^ It can help to say it’s for a specific bill but I really think the whole “ a little help could free up my time “ thing might work on him.

You have described him here as a little needy so I’d say it’s safe to assume he’d highly prefer you get done working by 6 or so v.s. working later like 8-8:30.
With his help you might not need to “ work late “ ever or very infrequently anyway.

I’m far from an expert !
I mentioned in another thread how awkward my own situation was !

JGB2009
08-15-2021, 06:42 PM
Trying to pay my DSL bill online and the website won't load!!!! I hate glitchy websites!!!!

miss.a.p1600
08-16-2021, 04:51 AM
^ It can help to say it’s for a specific bill but I really think the whole “ a little help could free up my time “ thing might work on him.

You have described him here as a little needy so I’d say it’s safe to assume he’d highly prefer you get done working by 6 or so v.s. working later like 8-8:30.
With his help you might not need to “ work late “ ever or very infrequently anyway.

I’m far from an expert !
I mentioned in another thread how awkward my own situation was !

He finally forked over some money voluntarily.

Sheesh!!!

But I see now he’s going to have to be nudged (by me saying “yes …..” when he asks) about 50 percent of the time.

miss.a.p1600
08-16-2021, 07:02 AM
L calls me multiple times a day and it’s not my thing to be talking to someone numerous times a day.

Unfortunately I’m going to have to start ignoring some of the calls after he calls me this am (a good 10 minutes after I see him at home and right before I’m about to start my work day) talking about some “can you do me a favor”

Um no I cannot. I’m not interrupting my day for anyone.

I only answered because I thought it was some sort of life threatening emergency.

Anyway he totally ruined my morning meditation.

JGB2009
08-16-2021, 10:44 AM
I guess u wanted to irritate my soul today......

lynn2009
08-17-2021, 08:00 AM
When someone texts, calls and emails me at the same time.

Marina Starr
08-17-2021, 11:26 AM
I can't stand people who are HABITUALLY late. They'll pick and choose who they'll do it to.

When you give them a grace period of 5, 10 minutes or whatever and if they go over that there will be a charge then they'll start showing up on time.
You have to set boundaries because people that don't respect boundaries won't.

Just as givers have to set limits because takers never do.

I know people that are always late or takers won't like this post and that's okay. Policies are not for you to like. You can respect them or go do it to people that will tolerate and accommodate your bullshit.

TheBrownFox
08-17-2021, 12:23 PM
L is being really dumb right now.

He initially told his kids he’d see them on FALL BREAK.

Somehow he’s been able to see them about once a month (either he goes or she comes here) which is good but it’s not sustainable.

Rather than tell the little crumbsnatcher “I said, I’ll see you again on fall break!” And give her a calendar.

He’s going to put his old ass car with a shit ton of miles on the road again ahead of schedule because the kid keeps asking him when he’s coming and saying she misses him.

I tell him you can’t let a little kid dictate your schedule n finances.

You don’t have a plan for car maintenance money, you don’t have a plan for them to sleep here, you’re still paying for their overpriced cellphones when I told you to change to a cheaper option with better service.

When I remind him that he needs to save money instead of traipsing down there with his car he’s like “well she misses me so I have to go see her”

Ffs!!!!



Wait...why does he only see his kids once a month? Are they out of state or something? Also, is fall break just another way of saying Thanksgiving break? If so, that is a long time to go without seeing your kids. No wonder his daughter misses him. I could understand if they were college students (And coming home every few months) or adults living independently. But you said they're little kids?

carmen_b
08-17-2021, 12:40 PM
Marina : Being late is very rude.

People who do this should be taught ( such as the meal or outing begins without them , they have to scrounge to find a chair , ect. ) !
OR if the venue changes and they don't know .... well they would if they were there on time, ha.

xxxGothBarbie
08-17-2021, 01:49 PM
Chipotle being greedy AF with their serving sizes these days wtf?! ugh
Annoyes the fuck out of me. Give me a fucking scoop of everything & stop skimping. I barely got any steak in my bowl today. They need to knock that shit off.

indiegirl
08-17-2021, 02:16 PM
I can't stand people who are HABITUALLY late. They'll pick and choose who they'll do it to.

When you give them a grace period of 5, 10 minutes or whatever and if they go over that there will be a charge then they'll start showing up on time.
You have to set boundaries because people that don't respect boundaries won't.

Just as givers have to set limits because takers never do.

I know people that are always late or takers won't like this post and that's okay. Policies are not for you to like. You can respect them or go do it to people that will tolerate and accommodate your bullshit.

This is so me for appointments. It's a well known thing I do ( even during childhood) and some ask for the hotel room in advance for dates now. My anxiety takes control and I delay as long as I can yet feel bad about it. I make the most money when I'm on time.

Marina Starr
08-17-2021, 03:18 PM
Agreed.

The worst are those who are vague about being late so you have no idea how late they'll be or when they will actually show up.


Marina : Being late is very rude.

People who do this should be taught ( such as the meal or outing begins without them , they have to scrounge to find a chair , ect. ) !
OR if the venue changes and they don't know .... well they would if they were there on time, ha.

miss.a.p1600
08-17-2021, 04:49 PM
Wait...why does he only see his kids once a month? Are they out of state or something? Also, is fall break just another way of saying Thanksgiving break? If so, that is a long time to go without seeing your kids. No wonder his daughter misses him. I could understand if they were college students (And coming home every few months) or adults living independently. But you said they're little kids?

Yeah his ex wife discovered we were moving in together so she up n moved 3 hours away (6 hours round trip) drive.

So that’s why he went from seeing them like 3- 4 times a week to whenever he can. So far it’s been about once a month but that’s not feasible to maintain because of cost.

Yes. One is a kid and one is a preteen.

I have minimal sympathy for him because He could have (n should have) reported her to prevent her from leaving but he said he didn’t want to go through court system and didn’t want to rock the boat. Then I was like just kee your kids here then. And he said he wasn’t ready to be a full time dad.

Anyhow.

His initial plan was to see them again on Fall Break.

Usually visitation for out of town parents is during school breaks, holidays etc. Not your typical every weekend cause it’s too costly.

But instead of reminding her of his plans, he caved in n told her he’d come sooner than planned.

Wtf?!!

He hasn’t even purchased necessities for their rooms for this Fall Break and now he’s going to incur unnecessary expenses (ex. Maintenance on an older car, twice the gas, etc)

It does not make financial sense to see them sooner than what he initially planned for. And I told him that and he got defensive n rationalized his decision then doubled down like “she misses me so I’m going”

Honestly I’ll be glad to have the house to myself when he is gone but I’m disappointed he’s not being more financially wise here.