View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
indiegirl
09-20-2021, 07:52 AM
Nothing like hearing a smoothie blender go off at 7am for 2 weeks in a row. LOL
WendiStarr
09-20-2021, 11:57 AM
How conservative the rural area I live in is. You'd think I am in the bible belt south with these close-minded religious nuts. It looks like I will be continuing this pregnancy. I just hope it goes well then.
Marina Starr
09-20-2021, 02:48 PM
I've had roommates so I will share my experience. This will be in general situations and people but there are exceptions.
MOST people are very hesitant renting to those working from home. They're afraid you'll raise the electricity, utilities bills way up!
I wouldn't tell them you do camming right away. This is a two ways interview, you don't even know exactly who they are. You can be honest but that doesn't mean you have to disclose everything. Find a few places you really like and can see yourself living there, meet potential roommates and see if they're compatible. Make up a job that vanilla people find dependable but boring so they don't ask lots of questions. You are a camgirl, you know how to tell believable lies. People generally don't view streamers as a stable source of income. Find someone that works outside the house with a set schedule so you can work when they're gone. You can still cam when they're home but you gotta be careful.
The MAJORITY of people are not comfortable renting to sexworkers. Even people that say they're very accepting and open-minded. What they really mean is they don't have a problem with it just not in their home. People who are truly okay with it are rare but they're out there. There are exceptions. Keep looking and don't settle. If you settle moving in, you'll rush to move out!
Okay this isn't directly related to work, but today I'm SO PISSED at how difficult it is to find housing as a sex worker!!!
I've been looking for a share for over a month and am coming up with big fat nothing. Since I do online work I'd like to be in a houseshare where the people are okay with it, or at least neutral. My camming isn't silent so I'd rather not have to lie about my job then deal with housemates angry that I'm masturbating all the time lol. That said, I'm not super loud and my flatmates at my last place never had any complaints. But after sending 30+ enquiries I've only had two people respond to me.
I live in a fairly liberal area and haven't ever had an issue finding LGBT-friendly places before, and even had an easier time finding places years back when I was a student! My now I'm a swer full-time it seems impossible :/
In a couple of the messages I just said I'm a streamer + freelancer, and am basically trying out different lies I can come up with for my job...but still no luck. I can't afford to live alone again, I did before and it burnt though my money, so I really have no option but to find a flat or house share. So yeah rant over, fuck people who hate swers, annoying af that people won't rent to us!
PS, if anyone in the UK has tips on finding sw-friendly housing pleaseee let me know, I'm drowning trying to find literally anywhere! Idk how others manage it at all
carmen_b
09-20-2021, 03:35 PM
^ Also .... if you REALLY get stuck maybe consider a hybrid schedule even temporarily working outside of the house a couple days a week ( such as 16-20 hours ) and camming for 20 hours possibly?
You might need to just create some sort of reason to be out of the house a bit to sell yourself better when looking at rooms.
carmen_b
09-20-2021, 03:38 PM
Omg period time ..... ugh !
This is such a " meh " day.
We went on this outdoor adventure and I was happy with it but now sunburned / windburned a bit and I feel like a see a little cold sore coming on. They make me so self conscious. I'm taking an anti-viral every hour ( 6 in a row ) instead of just one a day . I think I was forgetting to take them too which is totally ON me. I hate that.
I am questioning my " life " big time currently and I know it's 80% the period talking logically. I am trying to find passive entertainment . I have a rule with myself not to make big decisions or changes during this time ( pre-period couple days or first two days of ).
Marina Starr
09-20-2021, 03:40 PM
Great advice, Carmen! That way they won't question why you're home all the time. A part time could be you only work when you're needed, your schedule is sporadic. As long as you pay rent on time, contribute to roommates duties that shouldn't be a problem.
^ Also .... if you REALLY get stuck maybe consider a hybrid schedule even temporarily working outside of the house a couple days a week ( such as 16-20 hours ) and camming for 20 hours possibly?
You might need to just create some sort of reason to be out of the house a bit to sell yourself better when looking at rooms.
carmen_b
09-20-2021, 03:45 PM
^ Yeah, I didn't want to sound discouraging but I would never rent to someone who outright said " I'm home all the time " and I have rented A LOT of rooms out over the years. I think figuring out THEIR schedule and then selling yourself as compatible to it could be a good angle.
Marina Starr
09-20-2021, 04:04 PM
Maybe I'm cheap but I didn't realize microwaves were so "expensive". The ones around $50 are not that great and the ones close to $100+ make me question if they're worth the money.
Marina Starr
09-20-2021, 04:11 PM
That's totally true. We're selling pussy and benefits but it's still sales. I love selling pussy and BlueChew
#bluechew now right to your door, no prescriptions needed, no embarrassing appointments. I love referrals, send some my way, sis!
Have you tried "Internet Sales"? I'm in the US but that's what I put on my application and it was approved. I hope you find something!
Aurora_Sunset
09-20-2021, 06:15 PM
Maybe I'm cheap but I didn't realize microwaves were so "expensive". The ones around $50 are not that great and the ones close to $100+ make me question if they're worth the money.
I don't know if anything has ever offended me more as an adult than realizing how fucking expensive trash cans are. The cheapest ones that aren't the tiny bathroom ones easily run $40-50+, and they aren't even that big. TO HOLD GARBAGE. Fuck this world.
Staci
09-20-2021, 07:24 PM
I don't know if anything has ever offended me more as an adult than realizing how fucking expensive trash cans are. The cheapest ones that aren't the tiny bathroom ones easily run $40-50+, and they aren't even that big. TO HOLD GARBAGE. Fuck this world.
^This!
I literally just spent almost $300 to replace my two rolling outdoor trash cans that the garbage men keep throwing around and breaking off the lids. I'm tired of having to chase down the lids from wherever they blew off.
Thank goodness for Amazon gift cards! I'll tell the caller who gave it to me that I bought sexy lingerie. He doesn't need to know that he paid for my trash cans! LOL
TheBrownFox
09-21-2021, 12:43 AM
I don't know if anything has ever offended me more as an adult than realizing how fucking expensive trash cans are. The cheapest ones that aren't the tiny bathroom ones easily run $40-50+, and they aren't even that big. TO HOLD GARBAGE. Fuck this world.
Yeah, I can't remember how much the tall trash can was that I got for my son's dorm (Asked him if he preferred a black one or white one, and he said white). I just know I got it from Target.
Out of curiosity I just did a search on Dollar General's website, and they have a Hefty 13.5 gallon black trash can (The kind I buy for my kitchen) for $17, a 20-gallon trash can with lid for $13.95, and a 34-gallon wheeled trash can for $18.50.
carmen_b
09-21-2021, 09:08 AM
Sometimes life feels weird to me like a twilight zone.
My small business only made about $1050 this month so far.
J gave me $600 . Life still feels weird and stalled .
I need to make some big decisions regarding some money issues .
I actually paid off a decent chunk of debt during Corona because my bills were so low BUT I feel at odds.
I'm " under - preforming " .
I think it is time to finally find a broker and see if I can get my first real estate transaction going.
Even if I can technically survive on such a small amount it doesn't mean I SHOULD you know?
Waiting for this business to revive is starting to feel like a raft losing a little air at a time in the ocean.
I guess there are still 10 days in the month and it's " not over till it's over " ha.
I feel lost without my clients " needing " me and I'm not sure how to maximize this time that I haven't had before.
I feel like life is easier than ever but I'm unhappy often.
I might need help ( therapist ) sorting through some things. :/
carmen_b
09-21-2021, 01:25 PM
I’m going to make the therapy appt.
I feel like I have a high level of agitation and even though it’s not the “ I truly need this “ trauma therapy I’ve done before I could still use some guidance.
roseforarose
09-21-2021, 01:53 PM
I've had roommates so I will share my experience. This will be in general situations and people but there are exceptions.
MOST people are very hesitant renting to those working from home. They're afraid you'll raise the electricity, utilities bills way up!
I wouldn't tell them you do camming right away. This is a two ways interview, you don't even know exactly who they are. You can be honest but that doesn't mean you have to disclose everything. Find a few places you really like and can see yourself living there, meet potential roommates and see if they're compatible. Make up a job that vanilla people find dependable but boring so they don't ask lots of questions. You are a camgirl, you know how to tell believable lies. People generally don't view streamers as a stable source of income. Find someone that works outside the house with a set schedule so you can work when they're gone. You can still cam when they're home but you gotta be careful.
The MAJORITY of people are not comfortable renting to sexworkers. Even people that say they're very accepting and open-minded. What they really mean is they don't have a problem with it just not in their home. People who are truly okay with it are rare but they're out there. There are exceptions. Keep looking and don't settle. If you settle moving in, you'll rush to move out!
Thank you for all of your responses guys!
I've definitely lied about it in the past (was doing sw part time when I got my last place, but it was my main income) and if I'm talking to an estate agent or landlord I'll just straight up lie lol- I'll never see them anyway so don't have an issue keeping up that lie. My issue is more with housemates themselves, because we've had a ton of lockdowns here lots of people are still working from home, so working when they're out is much harder to do right now.
I'm aware it's a bit of a silly thing to be stressing about since I could just lie the whole time, but I've had some pretty terrible house shares before so don't want to have to lie about my job every day. Thankfully, I went to a good viewing yesterday in a house where a few strippers live so that's promising! And I have a viewing tomorrow that looks promising too ;D
I think I've now accepted that it's just going to take a lot longer than expected, but I would rather wait to find a good place- you're 100% right about the settling thing!
roseforarose
09-21-2021, 02:00 PM
I actually hadn't thought of the issue of me being home all the time at all until you guys mentioned it, so I'll try to think of something to say around that to sell myself a bit better! At least for now it's still fairly 'normal' for people to be working at home bc of the pandemic (seems like 8o+% of places have some people working at home), so that works in my favour for now ;D
TheBrownFox
09-21-2021, 08:19 PM
If y'all are on both forums, you're probably tired of seeing me bitch about this, but I'm so fucking annoyed that there's no absolutely no way to prevent Stripchat from auto-tweeting that ugly-ass duckface snapshot of me when I go live. Like if I try to bypass that 'Tweet & Go Live' screen, it won't let me broadcast. I have to click the damn 'Tweet & Go Live' button, and then that horrible snapshot posts to Twitter. And then I have to hurry on to Twitter to delete it...every fucking time. And then when I go to post my own "I'm online on Stripchat!" tweet with the URL to my room, it automatically embeds a DIFFERENT snapshot of me (Another bad one). Seriously, there's no way I can delete these two snapshots from their system or something??? There's not even anything in my model admin section showing me these pics or how to get rid of them. I like it when cam sites give models the option to choose the photo that's tweeted, or at least do a quick 5-second countdown snapshot right then and there. I've already brought this to Chloe's attention.
xxxGothBarbie
09-21-2021, 08:21 PM
^ Just lie & say you do marketing online, that's usually what I say. If they press it just say online sales etc. Play it off like it's so boring. Sometimes it works for me other times ppl are intrigued & nosy AF about it.
LoveyD
09-21-2021, 09:04 PM
Period bloat. I feel huge and round, like the full moon outside.
JGB2009
09-22-2021, 08:24 AM
^ Just lie & say you do marketing online, that's usually what I say. If they press it just say online sales etc. Play it off like it's so boring. Sometimes it works for me other times ppl are intrigued & nosy AF about it.
LOL or you could say you signed a confidentiality agreement and can't discuss anything about it. I did that once with someone.
whirlerz
09-22-2021, 09:05 AM
So, *gross out warning *
I live on a busy street, so yea dead animals.. Idk why it bothers me, but I take our spade shovel & toss it in the vacant overgrown lot, I saw the last one got skinned, eaten by another animal, it just left the outside part.
I tried to wash down the blood by dumping water on it, not doing much tho.
I don't wanna get too close, I'll go out & try again later::)
Back to cleaning my room::)
minibagel
09-22-2021, 09:23 AM
called the pharmacy this morning to pick up an ointment for my contact dermatitis. “yes, the ointment is ready, but… do you know the price?” i said no. “it’s $285 with insurance.” it was $523 without!!! LOL scuse me? the derm told me it would be expensive and that they'd have to fight with insurance, but i didn't expect anywhere near that range.
my dad suggested i try goodRX (i never buy drugs so no experience) and apparently i am going to pick up my 60g tube of ointment at a different pharmacy for $65. while that’s a kick ass discount, i am still in absolute shock over the price of this little tube of ointment (tacrolimus/protopic). and honestly $65 is still expensive. welcome to america. GOD BLESS goodRX if i will actually pay ~65
Marina Starr
09-22-2021, 11:03 AM
Also when you get your prescription filled, always ask for price through insurance vs. no insurance. I was quoted $35 for meds that a Pharmacist got without insurance. He thought that's what I wanted. Yeah, I want to pay the higher price, lol. I priced the same meds through insurance and it was $5. That's 85% price difference.
called the pharmacy this morning to pick up an ointment for my contact dermatitis. “yes, the ointment is ready, but… do you know the price?” i said no. “it’s $285 with insurance.” it was $523 without!!! LOL scuse me? the derm told me it would be expensive and that they'd have to fight with insurance, but i didn't expect anywhere near that range.
my dad suggested i try goodRX (i never buy drugs so no experience) and apparently i am going to pick up my 60g tube of ointment at a different pharmacy for $65. while that’s a kick ass discount, i am still in absolute shock over the price of this little tube of ointment (tacrolimus/protopic). and honestly $65 is still expensive. welcome to america. GOD BLESS goodRX if i will actually pay ~65
Genoveve
09-22-2021, 04:43 PM
called the pharmacy this morning to pick up an ointment for my contact dermatitis. “yes, the ointment is ready, but… do you know the price?” i said no. “it’s $285 with insurance.” it was $523 without!!! LOL scuse me? the derm told me it would be expensive and that they'd have to fight with insurance, but i didn't expect anywhere near that range.
my dad suggested i try goodRX (i never buy drugs so no experience) and apparently i am going to pick up my 60g tube of ointment at a different pharmacy for $65. while that’s a kick ass discount, i am still in absolute shock over the price of this little tube of ointment (tacrolimus/protopic). and honestly $65 is still expensive. welcome to america. GOD BLESS goodRX if i will actually pay ~65
How bad is your contact dermatitis? I got it once and it just went away on its own quickly. I never even thought to put anything on it.
Marina Starr
09-22-2021, 05:07 PM
I find it so ironic there are people of color that are quick to holler "DISCRIMINATION" but it's okay if they do it. Just because they've been discriminated, oppressed and marginalized (and STILL are) do not give them a free pass. You can't march, protest and demand justice, tolerance and acceptance when you don't practice any of that.
You would think that people who have experienced racism, discrimination, oppression would be more accepting and understanding but the majority of time that isn't always the case. So when I'm asked if I want to march and protest in solidarity, I DON'T because my life don't matter to these people when the tables are turned.
kamiliam
09-22-2021, 08:11 PM
How bad is your contact dermatitis? I got it once and it just went away on its own quickly. I never even thought to put anything on it.
I had it once and got prescribed a topical with antibiotic on it. It was like a bingo stick marking the spots. Also expensive if I remember correctly.
JGB2009
09-23-2021, 07:36 AM
I don't know if I have mentioned this before but my kids family who lives down the road uses the neighborhood road as a damn yard. I kid you not they all hang out in the damn road. If you drive by them you have to go by them really slow so you don't hit them. Also all the damn cars stop in the middle of the road to talk to their sorry asses. I could go on and on but to avoid driving by them I take the other road to get on the main highway. I wish they would all move but that is not gonna happen.
minibagel
09-23-2021, 09:07 AM
Also when you get your prescription filled, always ask for price through insurance vs. no insurance. I was quoted $35 for meds that a Pharmacist got without insurance. He thought that's what I wanted. Yeah, I want to pay the higher price, lol. I priced the same meds through insurance and it was $5. That's 85% price difference.
doesn’t the doctor forward insurance info to the pharmacy beforehand? last week i got a prescription steroid cream and it was really cheap but i didn’t even think to check if it was the price through my insurance, oops. GoodRx saved me hundreds tho! yay *hugs my $65 tube of rash ointment*
How bad is your contact dermatitis? I got it once and it just went away on its own quickly. I never even thought to put anything on it.
i’ve been dealing with it since mid july, i've had different types of rashes since and was still pretty bad until last week. was even on a round of oral steroids, didn't do anything. i like to think i am in the healing phase now. i had a neck rash at first, then i got it elsewhere on the body. neosporin made it worse apparently (derm thinks i had an allergic reaction to it) and then it just kept spreading. i didn’t have the willpower to not scratch the itch, especially at night, almost considered making my bf bind my wrists before bedtime lol.
WendiStarr
09-23-2021, 10:29 AM
Dealing with Amazon. Baby was supposed to get her toy bus/slide on Sunday. It kept showing as out for delivery but never arrived. On Monday I contacted customer service and they told me to wait until Tuesday and they'd refund me or send a free replacement if I hadn't received it by then. On Tuesday they said that I have to wait until Wednesday until they could help me. Finally yesterday I got a customer service agent to order a free replacement since she said it appeared my original order was lost in transit. It came today and I was excited until I opened the box and started assembling it. It was missing parts that made it unusable. They can't just send the missing parts. I have to send it back to get a refund. I'm aggravated because I've been waiting for this damn toy so that baby would stop driving me nuts wanting to use me as a climbing toy/jungle gym.
Marina Starr
09-23-2021, 11:33 AM
True but that isn't always the case. It's good to always ask pharmacy if what your doctor prescriptes would be lower priced through insurance or no insurance. Certain drug manufactures can price something much lower than what your insurance would cover.
doesn’t the doctor forward insurance info to the pharmacy beforehand? last week i got a prescription steroid cream and it was really cheap but i didn’t even think to check if it was the price through my insurance, oops. GoodRx saved me hundreds tho! yay *hugs my $65 tube of rash ointment*
WendiStarr
09-23-2021, 11:39 PM
I had my 2nd moderna shot yesterday morning. I felt fine until around 6pm when I started feeling muscles aches and a slight headache. I woke up at 2am with nausea and tummy pain and thought for sure I was going to puke but it came out the other end instead. While I was sitting on the toilet with that nastiness, I suddenly got all hot and sweaty and ears started ringing, like I was going to faint. I laid down on the floor and got the chills. Oh, man. Feeling like this is scary when I'm far away from everyone and everything. I hope this goes away soon. I've got kids to take care of. If these side effects are what covid would be like, I'm glad I got the vaccine because this feels awful.
whirlerz
09-24-2021, 03:32 AM
I had my 2nd moderna shot yesterday morning. I felt fine until around 6pm when I started feeling muscles aches and a slight headache. I woke up at 2am with nausea and tummy pain and thought for sure I was going to puke but it came out the other end instead. While I was sitting on the toilet with that nastiness, I suddenly got all hot and sweaty and ears started ringing, like I was going to faint. I laid down on the floor and got the chills. Oh, man. Feeling like this is scary when I'm far away from everyone and everything. I hope this goes away soon. I've got kids to take care of. If these side effects are what covid would be like, I'm glad I got the vaccine because this feels awful.
I'm glad you got the Vax, Wendi, sorry this happened.
I had the Johnson one, I had slight nausea, the roomie suggested Gateraide, it helped.
Or try ginger or mint tea, good luck & feel better
Drink lots of water too, stay hydrated
lynn2009
09-24-2021, 12:50 PM
I strongly do not like it when people ask me a question they already know the answer to.
LoveyD
09-24-2021, 04:09 PM
Wendi I hope you're feeling better. This thankfully shouldn't last long. Hopefully tomorrow you'll feel a lot better.
I'm about to move. Idk where yet. My check engine light just came on. I need this like I need a hole in the head.
Genoveve
09-24-2021, 05:32 PM
I strongly do not like it when people ask me a question they already know the answer to.
I have the opposite problem; I hate when people ask questions on a topic that they know absolutely nothing about and will never know anything about, to where answering is pointless and to where their question doesn't even make sense to begin with.
indiegirl
09-25-2021, 05:03 AM
Angry. Some man shorted me 100 and I thought he was being kind leaving 200 extra out of his wallet for me. He ended up knocking on the door accusing me of taking his 200 dollars he left out. I was thinking it was a 100 dollar tip along with the full fee. I left with 400 bucks after paying for this 4 star room for him and an uber which will be roundtrip. I'm so annoyed. Basically I made around 150 bucks after fees and shortchanging me 100. I have 2 people waiting to possibly meet. I'm not interested in being disrespected like that again full well knowing my price. My fault for expecting a kind guy based on his emails.
Asked me to create a porn from his car after he shortchanged me. Dumb loser.
Update: He took 2 of my 6 dollar waters they provide in the room when I happily provide a 7 stage water pitcher for water consumption. UNBELIEVABLE!!! This man had a shit eating grin the whole time he screwed me over.
lynn2009
09-25-2021, 10:40 AM
Last week I paid four hundred fucking dollars to get my dishwasher repaired and it's still not working!!! It's not even improved, it looks like nothing was done.
indiegirl
09-25-2021, 10:50 AM
Last week I paid four hundred fucking dollars to get my dishwasher repaired and it's still not working!!! It's not even improved, it looks like nothing was done.
Totally my fear with appliance repair too!! Sometimes it doesn't last long after it's back to broken and then I get pissed to the point I buy a new one because these MF-er's will be charging service fees to the point it would be cheaper to buy a new one.
lynn2009
09-25-2021, 11:14 AM
Totally my fear with appliance repair too!! Sometimes it doesn't last long after it's back to broken and then I get pissed to the point I buy a new one because these MF-er's will be charging service fees to the point it would be cheaper to buy a new one.
I thought about it when I got the quote but the guy assured me everything else looked good about the machine. I left a message and asked if they would be willing to make a courtesy call to look it over again. If not I'm going to replace it when one of those models that is bad for the environment, I'm too old for this.
carmen_b
09-25-2021, 12:02 PM
Today’s obsession is finding this dark blue and silver stripper outfit.
I think I must have left it in WY or it got stolen there ugh.
I searched the closet pretty extensively with no luck . The car is next.
I do hope I find it.
whirlerz
09-25-2021, 01:54 PM
Today’s obsession is finding this dark blue and silver stripper outfit.
I think I must have left it in WY or it got stolen there ugh.
I searched the closet pretty extensively with no luck . The car is next.
I do hope I find it.
I sure hope you find it carmen!
So, landlord leases our washer and dryer, we get bills for it..
I had them in my room & mentioned it to him today, he said the former LL hasn't paid in a while?
That ultra uber wealthy coot?
This new owner too, he's going to be getting some money for most of us on a program, it's approved!
And the new LL not paying either?!:O
He said he'd buy them, but I highly doubt it, since the lawn still hasn't been mowed..::)
I opened them he owes like $1200.00!
TF?
I've been working on cleaning my room, so I've slacked on laundry..
Ugh, our door stays open, (I've a separate entrance) IDK if locking it would help, or if people would keep it locked.. Cripes!
miss.a.p1600
09-25-2021, 06:21 PM
I Cannot wait till L goes back to work
I can’t do this couples stuff any longer and I want my solitude and my freedom to do whatever tf I want to do without having to consult.
I think I work better either solo or as a project manager/leader
Also he keeps guilt tripping his daughter and trying to convince her to live with us. Um no ma’am!!! Those bay bay kids need to stay with their mom. I’ll leave him quick if he moves this kids in here full time. Not cause the kids themselves per say but because he always used his kids as an excuse to be lazy career wise
Elektra Luxx
09-25-2021, 06:31 PM
I thought about it when I got the quote but the guy assured me everything else looked good about the machine. I left a message and asked if they would be willing to make a courtesy call to look it over again. If not I'm going to replace it when one of those models that is bad for the environment, I'm too old for this.
If I had to chose between my mental health or the environment...umm...well...how much damage could one little dishwasher do? I'm sorry I said that.
lynn2009
09-25-2021, 06:37 PM
If I had to chose between my mental health or the environment...umm...well...how much damage could one little dishwasher do? I'm sorry I said that.
I give myself a pass on a lot of things because I'm vegan and that's a thousand times better for the environment than Starbucks' dumbass straw less lids or whatever else posturing nonsense companies or other people do.
WendiStarr
09-25-2021, 08:05 PM
Annoying pregnancy fetish guys. Actually I think it's just one loser creating multiple accounts. All of them have zero posts or followers. He's been sending DM's to my cam persona, posing as a pregnant woman and asking for baby bump pictures. No pregnant woman is going to be irritating another pregnant woman for that. I sent my OF and NiteFlirt links and he still didn't get the hint. I'm not sending free content for creeps to jack off to for free and probably steal my pics to impersonate a pregnant woman and bother more pregnant women for free pictures.
miss.a.p1600
09-26-2021, 06:42 AM
Idk if the “honeymoon” period is wearing off or is L just deciding that since he pays rent then he can be a defiant asshole.
Nope not how it works.
You can hold on to your rigid beliefs, your past baggage, and all your other petty pissy grievances.
Good luck getting sex and good luck keeping me around after this lease is up.
carmen_b
09-26-2021, 08:41 AM
^ If he is driving you *that* crazy you can leave sooner. You don't have to finish out the lease.
I'm not saying do it just an option obviously as you might just be venting. :)
I'm sure the Mom will want to keep the kids.
That would be really weird and odd ( just not typical ) to just let him have them full time.
I think the most you would be looking at here is a 50/50 split.
From a practical stand point too ...... definitely let her keep them if they are not in a routine of going to school yet ( you mentioned they are younger ).
miss.a.p1600
09-26-2021, 09:03 AM
^he only wants to keep his kids physically so he can be cheap n not pay her child support. It’s so counterproductive n counterintuitive to do that when he pays more with his time (plus excuses of I can’t do xyz to get ahead in life cause I’m doing my duty n taking care of my kids) and he still has to pay money when they’re with him half the time or more.
Like sure you can get a pass for not being ambitious like most men cause you’re too busy trying to be Mr Mom cause you erroneously think it will save money (in child support payouts to the ex) and make you look righteous. I don’t think I want to have kids ….. with him……if I did it would definitely not be right now or anytime soon.
I think the thing that’s driving me crazy is he has a good intention of couples doing couples things n bond building but I don’t want to spend time with anyone like that because I start to see things about them I don’t like n vice versa probably.
He’s had the entire weekend off and he’s just here doing nothing productive to the point I had to write a list of shit he needed to do and he better not argue with me about doing it. Guess what he did……
So yeah it has not been pleasant for me having to be around him forcing me to do couples shit together.
Like give me some fucking space. And take care of shit around the house that needs to be done.
Yesterday we got into an argument (his fault of course lol) then I felt forced to go to a family event and have to pretend everything is fine when it’s not.
I would have much rather done my own thing than to have to sit there and be fake af n bitchy (cause he annoyed the fuck out of me and would not let me take space ALONE) around his family I met for first time.
Sorry I’m ranting yes.
Pussy is on strike till further notice! Lol
carmen_b
09-26-2021, 09:08 AM
^ I only read the first paragraph ( so far ) but yeah his thinking does not make sense.
Caring for kids is always pretty much taking a financial loss . Time gets absorbed . You can't really take on overtime ect. when they are not in school yet. He would honestly spend probably very close to what he gives her just having them full time .
You guys are definitely at odds with expectations of how much time to spend together.
You could go over it with a therapist OR just demand your alone time. :)
It can definitely be a balance. I think weekends honestly can be hard on couples .
You have ALL day v.s. just the time after your work hours so it can feel like a negotiation at times.
miss.a.p1600
09-26-2021, 09:09 AM
I just feel like I want to counteract his lack of ambition with my own. Because you can’t teach an old dog new tricks
My goal was to throw myself into work and be gone working as much as possible
The downside is he complains I never want to go anywhere with him. Well I honestly don’t because he feels like now we live together he can truly be himself (listening to garbage music, taking forever to complete tasks, burping loudly all the time, eating sloppily, complaining about what I do, running guilt trips, wasting money then being unable to afford wardrobe updates, and bring that Bertha baggage into our relationship etc)
Le sigh!!!!
I guess I need to find someone like a relationship coach or therapist or whatever to talk more about how many of the things he’s doing is annoying me.
Could just be I’m so used to being single running the ship n now I have to cocaptain with someone who (in my opinion) needs to listen to female leadership.