View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
Selina M
01-14-2022, 10:22 PM
Selina, I'm so sorry. If you're anything like me, partner relapses are beyond terrifying and destabilizing. It's a horrific disease. :hug:
Thank you <3 I don't like to tell people about it because it makes me feel stupid sometimes for sticking around. They haven't phased me too much in the past, but these last two times have resulted in his family becoming downright abusive to me. Guess they need someone to direct their anger at.
charlie61
01-14-2022, 10:30 PM
^Yep, it can be extremely isolating. I even started telling my family that my partner had cancer, because i needed support and understanding, not judgment. Anyway... <3
Marina Starr
01-15-2022, 04:24 PM
I don't think I'm the only one but does anyone get bothered when you for example offered your neighbor something that you bought at the grocery store buy one get one free and they don't even say thank you or acknowledge your gesture? Not even a no thanks, or okay. No response at all.
That just makes me feel some kind of way.
Pokahantas
01-15-2022, 04:31 PM
I got yelled at by my FIL this morning because my SO relapsed and I, at the end of my rope, knowing how scared he is of actual withdrawals, told him he needed to prove he was serious by doing 24 hours cold turkey. His dad is a doctor who had written him all these anti-nausea, anti-anxiety, blah blah meds to soften withdrawal. He gets coddled by everyone and his dad is the most enabling, head-in-the-sand type I've ever seen, and it's not done him any favors thus far.
SO agreed and is already past 24 hours and is really not too bad off.
However, I still had to listen to a tirade of "Who the fuck do you think you are, why are you making him suffer, he's suffering enough, you think I'm controlling, you know what I'm done, you can control him all you want now." I just kept repeating "Ok" calmly and it made him angrier and angrier until he hung up.
His family are all pieces of work and I am not going to be surprised if Daddy Warbucks has a clause in his will instructing SO not to use any inheritance on me :rotfl: God I'm sick of them.
Selina,
So sorry you’re going through this. Just know that regardless of what his family says you’re strong. Enablers are so hard to deal with because they don’t see the harm they do. Sending hugs to you in this situation.
Pokahantas
01-15-2022, 04:48 PM
I don't think I'm the only one but does anyone get bothered when you for example offered your neighbor something that you bought at the grocery store buy one get one free and they don't even say thank you or acknowledge your gesture? Not even a no thanks, or okay. No response at all.
That just makes me feel some kind of way.
This is even worse what my neighbor did. I bought him a door matt to put in front of his door because there was a sale so I bought us both one. Well, he used it for like a week and then he threw it in the trash. Was so awkward. I never mentioned it.
TheBrownFox
01-15-2022, 05:05 PM
I don't think I'm the only one but does anyone get bothered when you for example offered your neighbor something that you bought at the grocery store buy one get one free and they don't even say thank you or acknowledge your gesture? Not even a no thanks, or okay. No response at all.
That just makes me feel some kind of way.
That would bug me too. Does your neighbor usually act like that...like they don't hear you? I'd probably repeat myself a little louder, and make eye contact and make sure they see me talking to them. Unless they're blasting music on AirPods or something, they should've heard you and answered you.
I recently binge watched the shows Mixed-ish and Black-ish on Hulu, and I'd noticed that - in several episodes - those kids don't say "Thank you" when their parents or grandparents give them money. It really bothered me. There's one episode of Mixed-ish where their grandfather comes into the cafeteria to bring them some McDonald's. They don't even say hi to him or thank him. They just take the food, and he leaves. I was like WTF. If my kid or grandkid acted like that, I'd stand there and make them greet me with a hi and say thank you before I leave. It's called good manners.
WendiStarr
01-15-2022, 05:34 PM
My mom can't stand when anyone is happy or when she thinks someone might be happy so she likes to start drama. My stepdad(former, I guess) is supposed to be getting married to his girlfriend in May. My mom posted all over Facebook that all of her kids hate their new soon-to-be stepmom which isn't true at all and that they plan on eloping next month. My mom is just bitter that the girlfriend is 34 years old, while my mom is in her 50s. I asked my stepdad if it was true and he was pissed.
whirlerz
01-15-2022, 07:29 PM
Selina, I am so sorry to hear about that, best to you dear.
charlie61
01-15-2022, 07:42 PM
Annoyed with my partner's beard / mustache / hair situation. This is always his winter look. He has such a handsome face under all of that bushy, black stuff. Sigh. I would never say anything because i want him to live his best life, but I won't get near it. We already aren't a big kissing couple (are we the only ones??), so i can assure you that there will be zero kissing until all of that is gone (probably not until spring). Beards always look like masses of pubic hair to me. He keeps his pubes very tidy, by contrast, so I'll happily spend my intimate time Down There instead.
Sorry for the TMI, y'all.
indiegirl
01-15-2022, 09:06 PM
When ladies don't ever respond back for reference checks but expect me to respond immediately. Unbelievable level of unprofessionalism. I had one do this to me before and I just let her figure her life out without a reference check (guy was safe. I typically don't behave like this but she contacted me on a bad day) but oh nowwww you're able to contact me because you need me?! LOL. I get we all have personal lives but just blowing me off and never responding isn't fair.
My safety counts too. It's a fucking email with a simple Yes or no answer. Not cool.
JGB2009
01-15-2022, 09:24 PM
I know this sounds harsh but I really hate my daughters teachers. She had to stay out of school for 10 days because she had covid. They gave her stacks of work that needs to be done and she is no where close to being finished. I just wanna pull my hair out!!!!
miss.a.p1600
01-15-2022, 09:33 PM
Annoyed with my partner's beard / mustache / hair situation. This is always his winter look. He has such a handsome face under all of that bushy, black stuff. Sigh. I would never say anything because i want him to live his best life, but I won't get near it. We already aren't a big kissing couple (are we the only ones??), so i can assure you that there will be zero kissing until all of that is gone (probably not until spring). Beards always look like masses of pubic hair to me. He keeps his pubes very tidy, by contrast, so I'll happily spend my intimate time Down There instead.
Sorry for the TMI, y'all.
How I avoid corona = rarely kiss partner in the mouth
Real talk
Hes had it and his kids had and pretty much his whole family
I avoid sharing utensils, or anything where I’m swapping spit. Thankfully he’s good admitting when he has symptoms and take corona test if I ask him to so I’ve managed to avoid it partially because I’m a level 3 germaphobe
And besides is beard look like pubes and you’re already going “down there” might as well be “up there” too? I guess if you can’t catch coronavirus from giving oral sex then technically it’s safer than deep French kissing (if you can get past the beard of pubes)
indiegirl
01-15-2022, 09:54 PM
I know this sounds harsh but I really hate my daughters teachers. She had to stay out of school for 10 days because she had covid. They gave her stacks of work that needs to be done and she is no where close to being finished. I just wanna pull my hair out!!!!
Going to the principal aka her boss is how you get your way LOL. Had my mom complain to the principal because of my adhd diagnosis since I couldn’t finish a test like normal people on time which caused me to get a D or F and the teacher came up to me crying apologizing when she was a total bitch to my face for it in high school.
I felt fucking stupid for taking longer than everyone else and mama bear went into Karen mode LOL! I got extra time.
kimbe
01-16-2022, 12:40 AM
Annoyed with my partner's beard / mustache / hair situation. This is always his winter look. He has such a handsome face under all of that bushy, black stuff. Sigh. I would never say anything because i want him to live his best life, but I won't get near it. We already aren't a big kissing couple (are we the only ones??), so i can assure you that there will be zero kissing until all of that is gone (probably not until spring). Beards always look like masses of pubic hair to me. He keeps his pubes very tidy, by contrast, so I'll happily spend my intimate time Down There instead.
Sorry for the TMI, y'all.
Maybe that's his strategy ;) Let his beard grow wildly while manscaping very well knowing you'll give him head.. :)
Marina Starr
01-16-2022, 05:29 AM
I see where you're coming from but for me not acknowledging a kind gesture is worse. At least your neighbor acknowledged that you gave the door matt to him. It was given to him so what he chose to do with it is his choice. He probably didn't like it or it didn't work for him.
Not acknowledging is rude, it comes across as giving someone the cold shoulder.
Depends on the situation and context but no response can also meant to be a silent 'fuck you!'.
This is even worse what my neighbor did. I bought him a door matt to put in front of his door because there was a sale so I bought us both one. Well, he used it for like a week and then he threw it in the trash. Was so awkward. I never mentioned it.
Marina Starr
01-16-2022, 05:32 AM
Yes some do but some of them shunned me, lol.
And quite frankly I don't give a fuck!
That would bug me too. Does your neighbor usually act like that...like they don't hear you? I'd probably repeat myself a little louder, and make eye contact and make sure they see me talking to them. Unless they're blasting music on AirPods or something, they should've heard you and answered you.
I recently binge watched the shows Mixed-ish and Black-ish on Hulu, and I'd noticed that - in several episodes - those kids don't say "Thank you" when their parents or grandparents give them money. It really bothered me. There's one episode of Mixed-ish where their grandfather comes into the cafeteria to bring them some McDonald's. They don't even say hi to him or thank him. They just take the food, and he leaves. I was like WTF. If my kid or grandkid acted like that, I'd stand there and make them greet me with a hi and say thank you before I leave. It's called good manners.
miss.a.p1600
01-16-2022, 07:51 AM
I’m already ready for him to go back to work and his kids to go back to their mom.
I’m hungry I want to my myself some food but I don’t want to have to deal with his picky kids or have to cook them food. L needs to have their food ready since he knows what they like.
miss.a.p1600
01-16-2022, 09:22 AM
L saying last minute (today) that his kids are going to spend the night an extra night.
I wish I could leave out on his ass today and let him deal with his kids all day and night (by his damn self) except it’s fucking snowing and ice on the road.
I might just take the risk driving out just to get away from being locked in with some kids for another night that I didn’t agree to all because he wants to give Bertha a break from her own damn kids.
Fuck her!
And Fuck you too!!!!
I wish I could kick him out this house just pay for it myself and let him and Bertha live together so that way he won’t have any guilt about spending 24/7 with his kids and Bertha can run him around
indiegirl
01-16-2022, 09:27 AM
Someone needs to truly take Tik Tok away from my mom. 5 emails of tik tok videos this morning is a new record. LOLLLLL. I think it's work related and then I'm getting an email alert to watch a dog slide down a hill in the snow from her hahahaha.
GlamLifter
01-16-2022, 09:29 AM
^ You’ve got my deepest sympathy miss a.p1600!
SnuffleUffleGrass
01-16-2022, 09:30 AM
Someone needs to truly take Tik Tok away from my mom. 5 emails of tik tok videos this morning is a new record. LOLLLLL. I think it's work related and then I'm getting an email alert to watch a dog slide down a hill in the snow from her hahahaha.
I'm comfortable enough with my age to say, TikTok gives me a migraine. I've had co-workers watch it compulsively & it seems to be dumbing down a lot of young people, which is not what the world needs right now.... :-[
Petty annoyance- the dishes.....
charlie61
01-16-2022, 10:42 AM
Maybe that's his strategy ;) Let his beard grow wildly while manscaping very well knowing you'll give him head.. :)
Lol! Trust me, i don't give him a reason to need to strategize like that! We really just aren't a kissing couple, anyway. Kissing does nothing for me as an ace. We'll kiss a couple of times during sex, but when he has his beard, i just make my face unavailable if it seems like he might go for it! My skin could break out just *looking* at that damn beard, lol!
Aurora_Sunset
01-16-2022, 11:57 AM
I don't really like my new role at work. The job is fine, but I'm used to walking all day, not standing/sitting behind a desk. I feel like I can't afford to suddenly become so sedentary. I also used to say that the ONE thing I loved about my job was the fact that I didn't have to interact with people all day if I didn't want to, and now I have to talk to people all damn day.
I also started learning more about what the process is like to move up there, and I don't like it at all. It really made me feel like I need to get serious about figuring out how to get out of there, because it seems like it's difficult to "stay in place" once you start moving up (you either basically prove yourself for the next promotion within a year or get fired), but I really don't want to enter that world.
indiegirl
01-16-2022, 12:06 PM
It's a beautiful dayyyyyyy for my kitchen faucet to break. Don't worry, I already vented out loud like a nutcase to myself and then called someone to vent. BAHAHA. More hundreds to spend on the replacement on my kitchen faucet I just recently replaced. A+ day so far and it's only 11:00am!
Aurora_Sunset
01-16-2022, 12:07 PM
Not life-threatening or anything, but I'm starting to get annoyed at how long it seems to take Hulu to get new seasons up in the last year-ish. Shows that I know ended months and months ago, but they drag ass on putting them up. I'm sure it's a legal rights thing or whatever, but I feel like it didn't used to take this long.
Aurora_Sunset
01-16-2022, 12:32 PM
The apartment complex is being kinda dick-ish about our new lease. They originally were going to raise the rent by $40 but my husband talked them down to only raising it by $20. But when we asked about a longer lease (18 months-2years), they said "they don't do those," which I know is BS, because I remember having the option to choose an 18 month lease when we first moved here - I just didn't take it because I didn't know if we would like it here - AND their letter about renewing literally states, "if you want a longer or shorter lease, please talk to us." They just won't do it because they don't want us locked into our price. That's really annoying, because it means that whenever we leave, we'll be moving in the middle of winter again. January is a hella inconvenient time to move because it means trying to find and lock down a place during the fucking holidays. It was only done out of necessity last year.
Then, after signing and turning in everything, they called to tell me they put the ending date wrong? So, they emailed over a new front page, and they had changed the end date from 01/31/23 to 01/15/23.... why??? Our original lease was until the end of this month, so why wouldn't the next year's lease also be until the end of the month? It felt like they were being petty about trying to force us out earlier next year.
charlie61
01-16-2022, 01:35 PM
I've been trying to only lift at the gym during slow times on the weekends to minimize potential covid exposure (I've gotten both shots plus booster, but i really do noooot want covid, especially after managing to not get it for years...). But i want to lift more consistently instead of trying to fit everything in on the weekends. I'm enjoying my progress with lifting, and doing it just twice a week is pretty limiting. So, i want to go in more often, but the gym is busy during the work week (everyone goes from 3:00-6:00), and i don't want to get covid... sigh..
I could do some lifting at home, but it is just not the same.
kimbe
01-16-2022, 01:39 PM
I could do some lifting at home, but it is just not the same.
If you've got a set of dumbbells, you can do pretty much at home :)
I agree it's not the same, and the motivation factor of being at the gym must not be underrated!
charlie61
01-16-2022, 01:47 PM
If you've got a set of dumbbells, you can do pretty much at home :)
I agree it's not the same, and the motivation factor of being at the gym must not be underrated!
Yep, exactly, you get it. That's really what pushes me! And we don't have a dedicated room for it, here. It's just not the vibe.
kimbe
01-16-2022, 01:56 PM
Yep, exactly, you get it. That's really what pushes me! And we don't have a dedicated room for it, here. It's just not the vibe.
Yeah, I barely work out at home at all, even though we have all kinds of dumbbells, bands, etc etc. I just don't get the right feeling, and since I generally push it hard, I need the vibe to be there!
charlie61
01-16-2022, 02:01 PM
Yeah, I barely work out at home at all, even though we have all kinds of dumbbells, bands, etc etc. I just don't get the right feeling, and since I generally push it hard, I need the vibe to be there!
Exactly, yes!!! It'd be just kind of going through the motions / maintaining instead of a real workout.
LoveyD
01-16-2022, 08:09 PM
I went to my gym this morning and noticed that there were at least about 10 men wandering around without their masks on and I nearly flipped my s***. I kept having to move machines to get away from maskless people. Thank God I have my kn 95 on and I'm boosted and all that but still I get nervous! Charlie, I can see where you're coming from on this!
And I need to go to the gym so I can take showers too! Given that I deliver groceries. I don't want to be some dirty scrub.
Instacart and their stupid app. Takes forever to get through to them if I have a problem with the order. They don't have a phone number and the chat is useless. Then I'm stuck waiting for them to reach out to me for hours, cutting into my money making time. At least I was able to get some orders out with the shipt platform.Shipt is so much better. Instafart is annoying.
charlie61
01-16-2022, 09:07 PM
^Yep, i live in a mask-mandated area, and no one wears masks at this private gym. Ugh.
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2022, 07:07 AM
Ls kids are out of school today and begged him to stay at this house here while I’m here working from home.
Um sorry kids but no can do. Thanks to your degenerate parents bombarding me with last minute childcare requests without my consent, I’m burned out already.
Bertha will not get one second of free childcare out of me.
Matter of fact, all y’all need to get up out my space today
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2022, 07:41 AM
^Yaassss! Territory invaders have left the nest.
GlamLifter
01-17-2022, 08:15 AM
Yep, exactly, you get it. That's really what pushes me! And we don't have a dedicated room for it, here. It's just not the vibe.
You loose the vibe, but also the unwanted attention which adds up to the pros of lifting at home.
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2022, 08:40 AM
I seriously wish I could kick Berthas ass right now.
The stupid bitch is doing exactly what the ladies of stripper web said she would do.
She thinks because I work from home that I’m supposed to be a free baby sitter to her loud ass kids. And then threatens L that she’s taking a second and third job so he’ll have to pick up her kids during her parenting time.
Bitch take care of your damn kids before I report your simple ass to CPS!
Marina Starr
01-17-2022, 08:49 AM
I don't get why people have issues with or care so much if someone is a stripper or sex worker when it doesn't affect them at all.
My attitude is if you're not feeding or paying my bills then don't tell me what to do.
JGB2009
01-17-2022, 08:52 AM
When you told your mother only half of the truth. You can't lie to me cause I know what really happened, but I bet you would lie again if you get the chance.
Aurora_Sunset
01-17-2022, 09:17 AM
I seriously wish I could kick Berthas ass right now.
The stupid bitch is doing exactly what the ladies of stripper web said she would do.
She thinks because I work from home that I’m supposed to be a free baby sitter to her loud ass kids. And then threatens L that she’s taking a second and third job so he’ll have to pick up her kids during her parenting time.
Bitch take care of your damn kids before I report your simple ass to CPS!
If he's picking the kids up during her parenting time, he needs to lawyer-up and take her to court to get the child support switched in his favor. There should be no reason to be "forcing" him to take the kids all the time, yet be receiving child support from him. It's the parent who parents less time that pays child support to the one who parents more. L needs to stand up to her. She only does this crap because she knows she can.
If you haven't already, you should start keeping a detailed log of every single time L has his kids during what is supposed to be her parenting time. It'll build the case that he has them more often than her. Also, keep records/screenshots of any texts she sends threatening crap like this. Tell him to do as much communication with her as possible via text. That way, you have records of her threats, nonsense, and confessions that she can't take care of her own kids.
If he can't learn to stand up to her and her manipulative BS, best to leave his ass. You shouldn't have to put up with that. Ex-Berthas will always be out here, Bertha-ing, but you and your partner need to be on the same side against her - not him catering to her every tantrum while you suffer the consequences of it.
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2022, 09:27 AM
^their divorce agreement says they split custody in half so no one pays child support.
The crazy thing is she made way less than him and should never agreed to that but her dumb ass had no lawyer and probably didn’t fully read or understand what she signed.
So now she begs him every week for money or threatens/guilt trips him into taking on more responsibility/increasing his parenting time. Whilst sitting on her ass doing nothing to improve herself.
I told him he needs to quit letting her use those kids to manipulate him and have him running all over town using up his resources to the point there is nothing left and he won’t be attractive to anyone except her (and apparently she wasn’t attracted to him if she emotionally/ verbally abused him like he claimed).
I said you are not her Manny/Uber
Let that bitch enroll her kids in some after school activities and unless she is level 10 retarded she needs to solve her own childcare problems she creates.
That hoe is passive aggressive and petty af!
Aurora_Sunset
01-17-2022, 09:27 AM
I asked my husband if he wanted to go to the gym with me yesterday while I did a yoga class, and he whined and said he wanted just one more day off of doing nothing before he got serious about making changes on Monday. I said fine, then asked him last night if he wanted me to wait today until he woke up so we could go to the gym together so I can do my run. He hemmed and hawed again in the way that I know means he has no intention of going today. What happened to "I'll start on Monday?" He never will, and it's pissing me off.
I hate being fat-shamey, but it's more the fact that his weight gain is indicative of all the bad habits and lack of taking care of himself in general. If I could see him actually caring about his health but he was just generally a big person who struggles to keep weight off, I wouldn't be angry. I've had so many conversations with him about how upset I'll be if our retirement years are spent blowing our life savings on his medical bills because he didn't take care of himself. How, if he ends up in a nursing him in his 60s because he trashed his health, I'm not sticking around to visit his sick ass - I'll be out traveling and enjoying my golden years. I'm still offended that I have literally cried while telling him how worried I was about his health regarding smoking, but it wasn't until his son said the same thing that he actually took it seriously and quit. "Oh man, it was just so rough to see my kid look sad and say he didn't want me to die from cigarettes." Bitch, I had been saying that, but apparently staying alive for me wasn't good enough.
I also feel angry that when we met, he was really into taking care of himself. Hadn't smoked or even drank soda in years, went to the gym every day. And it's like the second we got together, and he realized I wasn't going to nag and fat-shame like his ex, he decided to go back to all his nasty and lazy habits. Like... thanks.... maybe I should start being a judgmental bitch about it then.
I hate being that person, because it makes me feel shallow to be upset about it, when he's otherwise a good partner. But it really is mostly about worries about his future health and the impact it will have on our lives/finances when we're older. We live in America, buddy. There's no guarantee we'll be able to afford any medical emergency even with insurance that will fight us tooth and nail about paying for anything. If you want to trash your health, I suggest we move elsewhere.
GlamLifter
01-17-2022, 09:39 AM
I don’t think you have reason to feel fat shamy, you’re showing an interest in his best!
miss.a.p1600
01-17-2022, 10:38 AM
I asked my husband if he wanted to go to the gym with me yesterday while I did a yoga class, and he whined and said he wanted just one more day off of doing nothing before he got serious about making changes on Monday. I said fine, then asked him last night if he wanted me to wait today until he woke up so we could go to the gym together so I can do my run. He hemmed and hawed again in the way that I know means he has no intention of going today. What happened to "I'll start on Monday?" He never will, and it's pissing me off.
I hate being fat-shamey, but it's more the fact that his weight gain is indicative of all the bad habits and lack of taking care of himself in general. If I could see him actually caring about his health but he was just generally a big person who struggles to keep weight off, I wouldn't be angry. I've had so many conversations with him about how upset I'll be if our retirement years are spent blowing our life savings on his medical bills because he didn't take care of himself. How, if he ends up in a nursing him in his 60s because he trashed his health, I'm not sticking around to visit his sick ass - I'll be out traveling and enjoying my golden years. I'm still offended that I have literally cried while telling him how worried I was about his health regarding smoking, but it wasn't until his son said the same thing that he actually took it seriously and quit. "Oh man, it was just so rough to see my kid look sad and say he didn't want me to die from cigarettes." Bitch, I had been saying that, but apparently staying alive for me wasn't good enough.
I also feel angry that when we met, he was really into taking care of himself. Hadn't smoked or even drank soda in years, went to the gym every day. And it's like the second we got together, and he realized I wasn't going to nag and fat-shame like his ex, he decided to go back to all his nasty and lazy habits. Like... thanks.... maybe I should start being a judgmental bitch about it then.
I hate being that person, because it makes me feel shallow to be upset about it, when he's otherwise a good partner. But it really is mostly about worries about his future health and the impact it will have on our lives/finances when we're older. We live in America, buddy. There's no guarantee we'll be able to afford any medical emergency even with insurance that will fight us tooth and nail about paying for anything. If you want to trash your health, I suggest we move elsewhere.
Put some mirrors in the house so he can see himself
And make sure you’re on the life insurance as the beneficiary - non revocable lol! Most women outlive men because we take better care of our bodies and health.
charlie61
01-17-2022, 10:52 AM
Aurora, i totally feel you, omg. My partner used to be a total workout junkie, super health-oriented when i met him... it was really attractive to me since I'm a health junkie, too. He was hardcore! Like, he would blend up power greens with water and drink them straight, that kind of stuff. We used to go to yoga together a few times a week, and he was...jacked. But then he completely dropped those habits after a year or so. I can't complain too much... he doesn't smoke, he's a vegetarian, and he's one of those freaks who could eat chips, beer, and pizza every day and still be very lean. But that makes it even more annoying, because i feel like if he were fat like the rest of us would be with his habits, he might change his ways. He NEVER exercises now. Part of me thinks he just got bored with that lifestyle, but the salty part of me feels like i got tricked into falling in love with a different person.
If I'm being honest, I'm more judgmental than i should be. My deep fear is that his habits will shorten his life, and it legit gives me anxiety when i see him not exercising, drinking frequently, eating sugar and chips, skipping meals (he forgets to eat sometimes and then will have pizza or similar instead of something healthy).... ugh... I'm trying to just not care as much. He's made some changes, like he doesn't drink nearly as much as he used to (he would never get drunk or binge drink, but he used to have 4-6 drinks 5+ nights a week, which was intolerable to me). He probably has 2-3 drinks 3-4 nights a week now. We've definitely had serious discussions / calm fights about this more than once.
Anyway, just venting, sorry. I've thought about going to therapy for this before. It's one of the only issues i have with him - like you, everything else is great, and there is NO WAY i would end the relationship for this issue. It is what it is. I think he'll get healthier as he gets older (he's almost 40) and starts feeling the impact of his daily decisions. Or maybe he's one of those genetic freaks who will outlive all of us despite his habits.
Secret Shelly
01-17-2022, 08:36 PM
Put some mirrors in the house so he can see himself
does that even work with men? the couple of guys i've went out with that have had beer belly's look in the mirror and think they look like Hercules!
chanzep
01-17-2022, 10:55 PM
Looking online I see why guys nowadays think they can treat women anyhow and keep them with no effort. Because they can!!. I read some asshole post saying if your man pays all your bills would you allow him to wake you up at 3 am to cook for him!!!
There were girls saying yes!!most said yes only a few said no. Are they insane. I'm not a maid nobody can ever wake me up to cook. My ex hus wouldn't dare. Every other guy that paid my bills did not live with me. These young girls have no standards . It's sad. Anything to say they have a man. Now these young men egg each other on to get girls and do nothing for them terrible. Glad I'm older . If I was younger I would still date older . I'm not dealing with that shit.
carmen_b
01-17-2022, 11:10 PM
^ Increase my life quality or be DONE.
I'll go up in age 10-15 years as well if needed so the guy feels like he is getting a " deal " .
It infuriated me in dating because I felt like a couple years ago I would get these " dating leads " and then when they wouldn't scale up into dinner dates / being a gentleman...... ew ...... I just can't.
I just wonder what happens to these low investment turd types of dudes.
Like ..... someone is actually going to MARRY that guy at some point that couldn't even set up a time and place for dinner smoothly?
How is a dude even allowed to interact with women after a certain point of bad behavior?
There should be a secret message board warning other women.
xxxGothBarbie
01-18-2022, 12:52 AM
Someone needs to truly take Tik Tok away from my mom. 5 emails of tik tok videos this morning is a new record. LOLLLLL. I think it's work related and then I'm getting an email alert to watch a dog slide down a hill in the snow from her hahahaha.
I agree omg. It astounds me to see the amount of younger women on there showing their feet, bodies, etc for fuckin free to these asshole guys. Like make $ off that smdh
Younger ppl annoy me in general anyway lol
xxxGothBarbie
01-18-2022, 12:54 AM
Looking online I see why guys nowadays think they can treat women anyhow and keep them with no effort. Because they can!!. I read some asshole post saying if your man pays all your bills would you allow him to wake you up at 3 am to cook for him!!!
There were girls saying yes!!most said yes only a few said no. Are they insane. I'm not a maid nobody can ever wake me up to cook. My ex hus wouldn't dare. Every other guy that paid my bills did not live with me. These young girls have no standards . It's sad. Anything to say they have a man. Now these young men egg each other on to get girls and do nothing for them terrible. Glad I'm older . If I was younger I would still date older . I'm not dealing with that shit.
You couldn't pay me to wake up for nobody! Men act so entitled these days.. yuck