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TheBrownFox
01-28-2022, 05:34 PM
Try going back at a different time and possibly getting a different sales buyer person. Some are snooty while others aren't at places like that. That's what I did at Buffalo Exchange in LA years ago. Sometimes it worked. Good luck ��


Thanks. It was like three girls in there working behind the register, and even the one girl was looking at one of the items in the bag and was like "Ooh, this is nice!" I'm not even gonna bother wasting bus money going back there in the cold, and wasting 2 hours or more of my time. I'll try Facebook Marketplace and OfferUp once more. If no takers, I might sit the stuff outside somewhere with a sign saying "FREE...take it all" or something.

The sexy nun costume from my nun blowjob video is one of the things I've been trying to sell. I will try Facebook Marketplace, or might list it for sale on the adult sites for a high price, or just make it a prize for an MFC "top member" of the month or something. Not gonna do a raffle because the last raffle I tried to do was a bust (Had like two people get raffle tickets, and that's it...lmao).

LoveyD
01-28-2022, 05:48 PM
L keeps asking me to take his daughter to an event I’m going to.

I keep telling him it’s an all-day sporting event, the bleachers are hard, it’s crowded, and it’s not kid friendly.

I don’t want to deal with this ADHD kid talking non stop while I’m trying to focus on the event.

Bruh - if I didn’t offer it’s for a reason.

Then his ass purposely asking in front of the kid.

Oh fuck no.
This was the kind of manipulative crap my ex housemate Homely Bitch used to pull. I HATE when people put me on the spot! So now if you say no, it generates negative energy between you and his kid. Homely Bitch pulled this crap on me if front of her niece. This behavior is what made me say fuck this bitch, I'm out!
Dude, I'm sorry but fuck him for doing that.

LoveyD
01-28-2022, 05:51 PM
OMG it's gonna be down to low 30s tomorrow. That's freezing for Florida. I wonder how homeless people living in colder weather do it. That's tough!

Thank God I have a car and am not desolate like the ppl I see on the street. Idk how they do it either. Thank God I have a car, blankets, pillows, and a hoodie. And cozy socks.

Aurora_Sunset
01-28-2022, 06:02 PM
I so badly wanted to take the voluntary time off that they kept sending out today, one even before I got there. But I didn't want to leave the person in charge of the desk without my backup. Which was good, because the other bitch that was supposed to be at the desk DID take the time off and never showed up. I have a feeling she'll do it again tomorrow if given the chance, so I feel like I can't screw over the other girl. If they're still slow and offering time off on Wednesday, I'm taking it.

LoveyD
01-28-2022, 06:18 PM
Thanks to my IC customer who took 5 dollars off my tip.

I wish IC would just allow customers to tip after the service has been completed. Because despite the fact that I found all of her items and delivered them on time, she dinged me by five bucks. Okay then.

Marina Starr
01-28-2022, 06:35 PM
You are still very blessed despite not having a home. I don't know how they do it in hot or cold. Are you still going to Starbucks? They have outlet inside the bathroom for you to blow dry or curl your hair. I'm tempted to take my curling iron into the bathroom and curl my hair then sit and do my makeup. Starbucks = hoes' second homes, lmao.

What I would never do is sell pussy at Starbucks.


Thank God I have a car and am not desolate like the ppl I see on the street. Idk how they do it either. Thank God I have a car, blankets, pillows, and a hoodie. And cozy socks.

carmen_b
01-28-2022, 07:09 PM
^ Upscale hotels too have full vehicle dweller amenities.
Sneak in smooth AF and have a jacuzzi / shower in the outside area lol.
Women don’t seem threatening at all and don’t get questioned.

Ive had 2 hour poolside relaxing days courtesy of whatever hotel I’m near ha. I learned the trick during my truck dwelling summer .
Buy a small item such as tea or lunch and blend even better. No one gives a damn.

LoveyD
01-28-2022, 07:12 PM
^^^ lol I'm at Starbucks right now! Charging my phone and waiting for orders to roll in. It's been shit all week. I may become a phone hoe now! Hee hee

miss.a.p1600
01-28-2022, 09:43 PM
Oh fuck no.
This was the kind of manipulative crap my ex housemate Homely Bitch used to pull. I HATE when people put me on the spot! So now if you say no, it generates negative energy between you and his kid. Homely Bitch pulled this crap on me if front of her niece. This behavior is what made me say fuck this bitch, I'm out!
Dude, I'm sorry but fuck him for doing that.


^^ Just say no, tell him it's inappropriate. :)

I told him unless he is present then he should not just drop his daughter off. ItÂ’s not the most little kid friendly type event and heÂ’s saying I just donÂ’t want to be bothered. Not on my own no I donÂ’t. He and his other kids should all come together.

HeÂ’s trying to guilt trip me about my ability to be a resource to him and his kids.

I help how I am able to and I refuse to agree to things that I donÂ’t think would be a good idea. You bring your ass, bring your kids, and stop trying to throw them off on me like Bertha throwing them off on you. You want to spend time and sacrifice for your kids them do the work to take them and stay with them yourself

HeÂ’s being a dick, his ex wifeÂ’s tendencies are rubbing off on him, and heÂ’s playing in victim Olympics tonight

miss.a.p1600
01-28-2022, 10:13 PM
I hate this little kid barging in my room.

If we live together in the next house.

That kid is going to be on the other wing of the house and I’m getting a smart lock to lock my door at all times.

miss.a.p1600
01-28-2022, 10:15 PM
L is being a dick and a troll.

I’m glad he is deep asleep now

indiegirl
01-28-2022, 11:14 PM
I painted my toenails and they look like shit hahaha! No way I'm setting foot in to get a pedicure after reading that story about the woman who lost her leg. I need mine to walk. Plus nail salons aren't as sanitary as you may think.

~Carmen~
01-29-2022, 02:52 AM
People (almost always men) who stomp up and down stairs. I don't get why they do that. I thought it was just my old place but it's the same here.

JessaJade
01-29-2022, 05:05 AM
^Same with slamming doors. Why?

GlamLifter
01-29-2022, 05:10 AM
Today’s morning work out �� will be more of a duty than pleasure..

Marina Starr
01-29-2022, 05:30 AM
And kicking doors?

Personally for me those are signs of hostility especially kicking and slamming doors. No men that I know would do that in my presence because we'll have a talk and that would be the last time they'd do that shit again.

I'm a monster bitch so I need men to have calm and loving demeanors.

^Same with slamming doors. Why?

miss.a.p1600
01-29-2022, 06:27 AM
I really don’t like L right now.

I knew my mom acting needy, him helping her, would translate into me taking care of one of his kids for him and then multiple guilt trips if I said no.

This asshole NEVER guilt trips that Bertha bitch to take care of her own kids (this hoe didn’t have food and fucking electricities) yet I somehow *Im* the one being guilt tripped.

Fooh!!!!

I’m never dating men with kids again.

LoveyD
01-29-2022, 08:43 AM
^ Upscale hotels too have full vehicle dweller amenities.
Sneak in smooth AF and have a jacuzzi / shower in the outside area lol.
Women don’t seem threatening at all and don’t get questioned.

Ive had 2 hour poolside relaxing days courtesy of whatever hotel I’m near ha. I learned the trick during my truck dwelling summer .
Buy a small item such as tea or lunch and blend even better. No one gives a damn.

Lol when I was pregnant way back when, I'd sneak into this nice beach side hotel to use their pool and sunbathe. I'd go wallow around in their pool because I was so pregnant and it gave me relief to float around. Nobody questioned me. Who's gonna hassle a pregnant lady? Lol!

GlamLifter
01-29-2022, 09:32 AM
Today’s morning work out �� will be more of a duty than pleasure..

That session really gave me my energy back, funny how exercising can turn a potential bad day to a good one. Knowing that is why I rarely skip any work out no matter how painful it is.

carmen_b
01-29-2022, 09:34 AM
Stick to your script !
" Sorry L that you and Bertha are a shit show of disorganization.
I can't take them for more than an hour. Good luck figuring it out from here. "
Lol


I really don’t like L right now.

I knew my mom acting needy, him helping her, would translate into me taking care of one of his kids for him and then multiple guilt trips if I said no.

This asshole NEVER guilt trips that Bertha bitch to take care of her own kids (this hoe didn’t have food and fucking electricities) yet I somehow *Im* the one being guilt tripped.

Fooh!!!!

I’m never dating men with kids again.

WonderWoman0642
01-29-2022, 11:31 AM
An old friend of the family was hanging out with my brother, and they called me and left a message. I have not seen or talked to this person in years. I didn't return their call. (I planned on it, just busy...having a life and not sure what to say to someone I hardly know anymore). Then my brother complained to my mom that I don't call anyone, I don't keep in touch with my family etc. I'm not sure if my mom exaggerated what he said or what, but I'm annoyed. I'm always singled out for not keeping up in touch. I just spent a week with everyone for christmas. And I swear this goes back to me working from home...it's like you're single and at home, why aren't you always available?

miss.a.p1600
01-29-2022, 11:32 AM
^yeah he said he’d come get the kid once she got too bored and was ready to leave

So I said well if you’re going to be driving all around then just drive there and stay with her and bring both your kids.

To me this was a good alternative

But I guess he needs a break from the little kid and hoping I’d step in.

Well not my fault you agreed to have them ALL weekend and you refuse to get this kid is some activities. I’m not the type to have kids hanging off me like that. I’d rather pay for a kid friendly activity, send them to grandmas house, etc.

Nah bruh if you want me to deal with your kids then YOU need to be there too.

If you’re such a good dad, who spends time with his kids then why is it okay to pawn them off on me? If you need a break then where are their aunts uncles grandparents

#holdberthaccountable
#compensateme
#raisingberthaskidsbeyondmypaygrade

carmen_b
01-29-2022, 11:43 AM
^ Just refuse.
I never take J's daughter ( for more than an hour during his work out ).
^ I do that maybe two days total a week and sometimes just once in the week.
I would not do a half day thing or something unless it was an emergency or he was out of town ( working for premium $$$ ) .
He is rude to expect this on a normal week.

TheBrownFox
01-29-2022, 12:30 PM
So remember what I was saying before about how January has been the month of things (I'm excited about) constantly going wrong?

This lady from Facebook Marketplace was about to CashApp me just now for a Michael Kors bag (which I'd listed for cheap, because I wasn't sure if it was real or not) I had listed. But I had to stop her from sending the money as soon as I realized that I don't even have the fucking bag anymore. Yesterday when that secondhand store wouldn't buy ANY of my stuff, I'd told myself "Well there's no way in Hell I'm carrying all of these heavy bags all the way back to the bus stop AGAIN." So I left one of the bags outside on a bench, and said fuck it...someone else can just come take all this stuff then. And the other two bags I brought back with me...I made sure had the stuff most likely to sell. Well as it turns out, that Michael Kors bag was in the bag I'd left behind on the bench. A woman from FB Marketplace just informed me (after looking at the photos) that the bag was REAL. Fuck! :banghead:

Well...whoever finds it is gonna be very happy.....

WonderWoman0642
01-29-2022, 03:09 PM
^^^ Damn I'm sorry. I'll be glad when this month is over too.

miss.a.p1600
01-29-2022, 03:20 PM
^ Just refuse.
I never take J's daughter ( for more than an hour during his work out ).
^ I do that maybe two days total a week and sometimes just once in the week.
I would not do a half day thing or something unless it was an emergency or he was out of town ( working for premium $$$ ) .
He is rude to expect this on a normal week.

Well he was trying to drop his daughter off with me so sheÂ’d be out of the way while him and his son helped my mom.

He didnÂ’t want to drop his son with my mom cause he was scared sheÂ’d work him too hard but yet he was cool with dropping his daughter with me despite me telling him this is not the event I want to take an 8 year old to.

The way he argued with me yesterday and was a complete dick- I just donÂ’t want to deal with him for a good week.

he took an edible - more than the recommended dose - and it was like the truth serum. He became belligerent, rude, and accusatory. All his issues he had with me that I didnÂ’t know he had all came out.

whirlerz
01-29-2022, 03:29 PM
Brown Fox:

I'm so sorry, Babe - I meant to tell you, I sell various items (including a designer bag) on neighbor.com, it's worked well for me, they don't charge a fee.

I don't like those resellers, we have Plato Closet, they couldn't give me directions to their own store while I was nearby lol?

They offered me, for Tommy Hilfiger shirt, Marc Jacob leather tote, & a bunch of stuff $40.?
FOH:rotfl: I sold the bag for like 30.00, I wanted to get rid of it..
Idk if anyone told you, I think you can have Real Real Rep look at it, at least verify it, they have some go locations, they offered to come out & see my bag (this was pre pandemic tho).

whirlerz
01-29-2022, 03:35 PM
Cripes, I removed & replace my twin bed mattress protector, fucking heavy AF, none of these goons would be of any service lol.

I had a complete encased cover, used that on the mattress, then a contour one for the mattress topper (Japanese fouton) I want to get a plastic encased cover for that as well.

I was seriously afraid the damn thing was gonna crash down on my lappie, tho I was careful.

TheBrownFox
01-29-2022, 03:41 PM
Brown Fox:

I'm so sorry, Babe - I meant to tell you, I sell various items (including a designer bag) on neighbor.com, it's worked well for me, they don't charge a fee.

I don't like those resellers, we have Plato Closet, they couldn't give me directions to their own store while I was nearby lol?

They offered me, for Tommy Hilfiger shirt, Marc Jacob leather tote, & a bunch of stuff $40.?
FOH:rotfl: I sold the bag for like 30.00, I wanted to get rid of it..
Idk if anyone told you, I think you can have Real Real Rep look at it, at least verify it, they have some go locations, they offered to come out & see my bag (this was pre pandemic tho).


Thanks, whirlerz! I'll have to check out that site neighbor.com.

TheBrownFox
01-29-2022, 04:15 PM
Brown Fox:

I'm so sorry, Babe - I meant to tell you, I sell various items (including a designer bag) on neighbor.com, it's worked well for me, they don't charge a fee.

I don't like those resellers, we have Plato Closet, they couldn't give me directions to their own store while I was nearby lol?

They offered me, for Tommy Hilfiger shirt, Marc Jacob leather tote, & a bunch of stuff $40.?
FOH:rotfl: I sold the bag for like 30.00, I wanted to get rid of it..
Idk if anyone told you, I think you can have Real Real Rep look at it, at least verify it, they have some go locations, they offered to come out & see my bag (this was pre pandemic tho).


I don't think I'm looking in the right place. This Neighbor website is talking about renting your space for storage. Was it a different website that you meant to tell me about?

carmen_b
01-29-2022, 05:13 PM
Is it mostly what you'd expect though ?
Like hoping you'd help more with the kids ?




he took an edible - more than the recommended dose - and it was like the truth serum. He became belligerent, rude, and accusatory. All his issues he had with me that I didnÂ’t know he had all came out.

carmen_b
01-29-2022, 05:38 PM
Damn it's been a rough weekend.

Now I'm feeling " eh " because he went to a meet up all day ( for Snowboarding ) .
We talked about doing more socially outside of each other . We were BOTH onboard and now 8-9 hours later I'm like " well this has been a long day " .

I think I just made a mistake and didn't really find much to do other than little bits of work here and there and the gym.

Not traveling this weekend really has thrown me off. It's been 5 weeks since we have gone out of town together and I can't say I loved the decision to stay home this weekend .

WendiStarr
01-29-2022, 06:08 PM
I hate how nobody in my family cares that BD is back around and doesn't seem to want to go away, even despite embarrassing him at work in front of all his co-workers yesterday. I was trying to get my dad and brother to come over and scare him off since they claimed they'd help me but nope.

miss.a.p1600
01-29-2022, 07:18 PM
Is it mostly what you'd expect though ?
Like hoping you'd help more with the kids ?

Yeah. He said I never invite his kids out with me and I must not want to be obligated.

Then he was trying to say whatever he thought would hurt my feelings because o guess he thought I hurt his kids feelings by not inviting her along. Well I never told her she could go because I knew sheÂ’d be whining and complaining because itÂ’s not a little kid type event and he refused my completely viable plan b solution (instead of dropping her with me he should just drive them both to the event himself, leave when they got tired, then go help my mom)

heÂ’s the one that tried to manipulate me to agree to his kids demands by asking me in front of her.

I donÂ’t want to go to that house and be sleeping next to him tonight. I probably wonÂ’t be there till midnight then I plan to leave really early in the am.

If he thinks hurting me is the way to take care of his kids heÂ’s dead ass wrong.

Yet the dusty Bertha bitch canÂ’t keep groceries and electricity for his kids, ruined his credit so he canÂ’t buy us a house, and forced him into driving all over the city on his lunch breaks.

He can kiss my ass.

IÂ’m not saying shit to him anymore about that, he can let that Bertha bitch drag him down and IÂ’ll just elevate myself up out of here.

charlie61
01-29-2022, 08:06 PM
Yeah, miss p., your dude wants a stepmom wifey type. Some women in these situations get REALLY involved... those maternal instincts kick in, and the stepchildren become like their own children. I think that's what would warm your man's heart, truly. That will just never be you, and i think that's okay. I would be the EXACT same way in your situation. Aurora (our mod) recently had a post describing the exact same reaction to her stepchildren.

LoveyD
01-29-2022, 08:14 PM
L needs to stop with that manipulative BS where he asks you to do things right in front of his child. He's he's teaching her very manipulative behavior and it's not cool. I would tell him to put a stop to it immediately and to only confront you about these things away from the kids. Because it's now his fault that there is negative energy being generated between you and his daughter.

I remember taking care of my ex's kids. Their mother is the one who put a hit out on me and my son. It wasn't the kid's fault that their mother was a crackpot, so I made sure to treat them respectfully and with kindness. I think in a way, it got under her skin because her kids would always go back to her house and tell her how nice I was. But then my ex would do stupid s*** to generate negativity between me and the kids, and I hate to say it, but two of them turned out to be narcissistic just like their mother. Looking back, it was a damn good idea to get out of that relationship. I felt like they were trying to make me and my son the targets of abuse and I wasn't having it, I don't care how rich that man was. Life with them was not a luxury.

TheBrownFox
01-29-2022, 08:24 PM
^Re: The stomping and slamming doors. My ratchet next door neighbor lets her kid(s) stay up at all hours of the night running around and knocking against the wall. I'll be live on cam, and I'm just thinking why the fuck is she letting these kids run around like this is Chuck-E-Cheese's??? They don't have a bedtime??? And her son (who I guess could be like 18 or older) is almost slamming the door hard when he leaves the house, making the walls to my house shake. Also he sounds like a psycho. Everyday I can hear him on the phone yelling at somebody at the top of his lungs. He needs to go get a job or something.

One good thing is that their pit bull (which, technically, they're not allowed to have here anyway, but somehow they have it here...) isn't scratching against the freakin' walls anymore.

miss.a.p1600
01-29-2022, 08:50 PM
Yeah, miss p., your dude wants a stepmom wifey type. Some women in these situations get REALLY involved... those maternal instincts kick in, and the stepchildren become like their own children. I think that's what would warm your man's heart, truly. That will just never be you, and i think that's okay. I would be the EXACT same way in your situation. Aurora (our mod) recently had a post describing the exact same reaction to her stepchildren.

i saw her post.

her feelings describe how I feel everyday ….. to a t!

Aurora_Sunset
01-29-2022, 09:03 PM
Yeah, miss p., your dude wants a stepmom wifey type. Some women in these situations get REALLY involved... those maternal instincts kick in, and the stepchildren become like their own children. I think that's what would warm your man's heart, truly. That will just never be you, and i think that's okay. I would be the EXACT same way in your situation. Aurora (our mod) recently had a post describing the exact same reaction to her stepchildren.

Exactly this. I said it in another post, but I think it's ridiculous that the societal expectation is that ALL stepmoms step in to treat the kids exactly as though they were their own. I don't believe that step-parents necessarily NEED to fill that role. I do my best to help and be involved, more because I know it would hurt the kids if I didn't and I don't want them to suffer from thinking I don't care, more than I care about anyone else's expectations. (Sometimes I care about others' reactions to my involvement, but moreso that I just hate the guilt trips that I don't think are justified, and I don't want that to bleed out into comments to the kids, making them feel uncared for). I DO care about them, but I don't think I'll ever be ultra-excited about being stepmom of the year, getting super involved in all their stuff and taking care of them by myself, etc. I just gotta try to find a way to balance my "blah-ness" about step-mothering with making sure it doesn't adversely affect the kids (cuz again, I don't think it's their fault and I don't want them to feel that way). Honestly, I bet a lot more biological moms even feel this way about mothering once they have kids that they were ambivalent about than would EVER admit, because they'd be labeled as bad mothers. Kids are just a LOT, and not everyone loves it.

Aurora_Sunset
01-29-2022, 09:12 PM
I hate this little kid barging in my room.

If we live together in the next house.

That kid is going to be on the other wing of the house and I’m getting a smart lock to lock my door at all times.

Dude, AITA (am I the asshole) for thinking we should start locking our bedroom door at night to set better boundaries with the kids? I have been fighting this losing battle for years. After a call-out awhile ago, the bedroom door is never locked during the day unless I'm taking a dump in our bathroom or getting changed, so even if I go back there for some quiet time, there's no guarantee a kid won't bust through the door without knocking and make themselves at home, demanding attention. Fine. I deal with it.

But, in my mind, there is absolutely no reason for them to enter our room during sleeping hours aside from an actual emergency. And if it IS an emergency, these kids have no problem screaming their heads off and pounding on the door to wake us up. 6 yo, last weekend, ran down the hall yelling and started pounding on the door when we were already asleep just because she wanted the fucking charger for the iPad. I had already locked it after she had busted in for no good reason twice already when she was supposed to be going to bed. When I locked it and the pounding woke my husband, he yelled at her to go to bed, and then questioned me on why the door was locked and left it unlocked again. His excuse is that they "need to get in/what if it's an emergency," which I basically think translates to he just doesn't want to be woken up when they wail on the door for no reason, because he often sleeps through them just coming in. I don't. Not only does it wake me up, but they always let in the cats that I specifically keep out of the bedroom because they make a mess and fuck with my little cat. It's a whole ordeal for me to get up and get them out in the middle of the night. Usually, when the kids "sneak in" in the middle of the night, it's for nothing more than to ask for some bullshit (like the iPad charger or a glass of milk that they can easily get themselves) or to steal my husband's phone off the nightstand without permission. So, by the time he wakes up, he doesn't have his phone and it's dead in one of their beds. What if someone needs to contact him?

I feel like it would help a lot with boundaries to train them that we lock our door during sleeping hours, and that it's not appropriate to 1) disturb us unless it's truly important, or 2) come in and take things without permission while we're sleeping. Is that insane? Because I'm looked at like I have two heads whenever I try to do this or bring this up.

I swear, I get the more "modern" type of parenting that allow for a more open relationship between adults and children, but I do still think it's important to teach them the concept of boundaries and rules. I think it's ridiculous to try to train this new generation in exerting their boundaries without setting the example that parents have reasonable boundaries too, even with their kids. Is it really a cruel stepmother thing to lock them out of OUR bedroom at night? I know for a fact that bio-mom and stepdad used to lock their door when they were trying to break the youngest of the habit of crawling into bed with them/us every night. Sooo.... not like no one else in the family does it.

indiegirl
01-29-2022, 09:35 PM
Met a driver who talks like me during appointments and was so off put that I put my earbuds in. Hunny was people pleasing for a good tip lol.

Trying to be on time someone is driving 1 hour and 30 to see me. I gotta bring my A game.

LMAO I swear me and this cute guy were trapped downstairs for a while because we didn't get that we had to use our keycard and after a while hotel staff stared at us and said "key card".....lol. We even planned to find the staircase thinking they were all broken down. He said "Is this your floor?" We both are down the hall from each other. I said "No. I'm stalking you." sarcastically Hahahaha.

carmen_b
01-29-2022, 10:06 PM
Aurora : I think it’s crazy to not lock your door.
Like you said you will 100% hear it if there is an actual emergency !

miss.a.p1600
01-29-2022, 10:25 PM
Dude, AITA (am I the asshole) for thinking we should start locking our bedroom door at night to set better boundaries with the kids? I have been fighting this losing battle for years. After a call-out awhile ago, the bedroom door is never locked during the day unless I'm taking a dump in our bathroom or getting changed, so even if I go back there for some quiet time, there's no guarantee a kid won't bust through the door without knocking and make themselves at home, demanding attention. Fine. I deal with it.

But, in my mind, there is absolutely no reason for them to enter our room during sleeping hours aside from an actual emergency. And if it IS an emergency, these kids have no problem screaming their heads off and pounding on the door to wake us up. 6 yo, last weekend, ran down the hall yelling and started pounding on the door when we were already asleep just because she wanted the fucking charger for the iPad. I had already locked it after she had busted in for no good reason twice already when she was supposed to be going to bed. When I locked it and the pounding woke my husband, he yelled at her to go to bed, and then questioned me on why the door was locked and left it unlocked again. His excuse is that they "need to get in/what if it's an emergency," which I basically think translates to he just doesn't want to be woken up when they wail on the door for no reason, because he often sleeps through them just coming in. I don't. Not only does it wake me up, but they always let in the cats that I specifically keep out of the bedroom because they make a mess and fuck with my little cat. It's a whole ordeal for me to get up and get them out in the middle of the night. Usually, when the kids "sneak in" in the middle of the night, it's for nothing more than to ask for some bullshit (like the iPad charger or a glass of milk that they can easily get themselves) or to steal my husband's phone off the nightstand without permission. So, by the time he wakes up, he doesn't have his phone and it's dead in one of their beds. What if someone needs to contact him?

I feel like it would help a lot with boundaries to train them that we lock our door during sleeping hours, and that it's not appropriate to 1) disturb us unless it's truly important, or 2) come in and take things without permission while we're sleeping. Is that insane? Because I'm looked at like I have two heads whenever I try to do this or bring this up.

I swear, I get the more "modern" type of parenting that allow for a more open relationship between adults and children, but I do still think it's important to teach them the concept of boundaries and rules. I think it's ridiculous to try to train this new generation in exerting their boundaries without setting the example that parents have reasonable boundaries too, even with their kids. Is it really a cruel stepmother thing to lock them out of OUR bedroom at night? I know for a fact that bio-mom and stepdad used to lock their door when they were trying to break the youngest of the habit of crawling into bed with them/us every night. Sooo.... not like no one else in the family does it.

It’s called no home training.

I’m old school. You KNOCK on adults doors before you enter.

Ima start sleeping nude. Then I bet you won’t waltz in then.

Better yet a smart lock I can lock anytime from my phone.

Yesterday L learned a lesson when his nosy daughter with no home training barged in while he was high off edibles. He shouldn’t have took the edibles till after those kids were asleep and he shouldn’t have let her barge in like that.

I just left the room and let her witness the fuckery and let him regulate on his own daughter cause I didn’t feel like saying shit. Cause I knew if I told her to get out he’d lose his damn mind.

Anyways after 9-10pm you better have your ass in the bed and DO NOT ask me for shit or come out of your room unless it’s to go to bathroom

LoveyD
01-30-2022, 07:23 AM
I remember when I was with my ex and his kids. I agree Aurora, I don't feel that step parents should be under some kind of pressure to love the kids as their own. While I adored his kids for the most part, I did not love them as my own. I have my own kid. I was happy to be there and help and do things for them, and probably did a lot more than necessary, because I wanted them to know I cared. And I didn't want to be a negative impact on their lives. I think a step parent should be more like a friendly aunt or uncle who leaves the majority of parenting up to, who else, the parents. I don't mind being there help or lend support, but I don't think it's fair to expect me to love them as my own. There are boundaries, anyway.

GlamLifter
01-30-2022, 09:09 AM
I’m sick of these low temperatures, right now I’d welcome any global warming!

kimbe
01-30-2022, 11:03 AM
^^I sure hope it heats up soon, we're heading in that direction in the near future!

miss.a.p1600
01-30-2022, 01:25 PM
Yeah, miss p., your dude wants a stepmom wifey type. Some women in these situations get REALLY involved... those maternal instincts kick in, and the stepchildren become like their own children. I think that's what would warm your man's heart, truly. That will just never be you, and i think that's okay. I would be the EXACT same way in your situation. Aurora (our mod) recently had a post describing the exact same reaction to her stepchildren.

I’d like to add.

I would have no problem filling in for Bertha IF I was compensated. I mean all my bills and retirement paid. Plus spending money to put these crumbsnatchers in activities and buy them clothes and get their appearance up to par.

Since I still work and pay bills then that bitch need to pull her own weight.

miss.a.p1600
01-30-2022, 01:28 PM
He apologized for being a dick. But I can’t un-erase the mean shit he was saying or forget about how he tried to hurt my feelings because her perceived me to be hurting his kids feelings for not inviting her to an event I told him as not little kid friendly.

I never agreed or offered so that’s his fault for assuming that would be a good idea and manipulating by asking in front of her.

LoveyD
01-30-2022, 01:44 PM
^^ I hope he doesn't pull that crap again with you.

I am never going to the gym on a Sunday morning ever again. Too many men running around with no masks on huffing and puffing away. I left early. Did one machine and bailed after my shower. I'll go back later when these gross men are gone.

carmen_b
01-30-2022, 01:47 PM
^ He just needs to quit *forcing* it.
:/