View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
miss.a.p1600
03-06-2022, 07:18 PM
Sounds like your family doesn’t want to help you becAuse they don’t like who you chose as a partner so they won’t put much effort in to help you.
LoveyD
03-06-2022, 09:34 PM
That's awesome! I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't believe that you are more desirable as you aged. There are plenty of young guys that like older women.
I do not buy into the notion that women become invisible when they reached a certain age. Women feel they're invisible once they reached certain age because they've been indoctrinated to believe this bullshit.
I get more attention and highly visible now in my 40's than in my 20s, 30s. A lot of that has to do with confidence and how I carry myself. When people see me, they don't think of someone that accepts disrespect or bad treatment. I didn't emit the alpha bitch air when I was younger.
My crushie is 13.5 years younger than I am. He's never made my age a thing. We've been through similar things in life, and we understand each other.
I feel a lot more accomplished now, and I still have more goals and I know what I want. I think he finds that sexy about me. Plus he straight up told me, " You have a life, you're not needy, you're NORMAL, and my grandma really likes you." I was really happy to hear that because she's a cool and smart lady.
Dreamqueen
03-07-2022, 12:01 AM
I'm sure you've been told that lot so you know he wasn't bullshitting. It makes me so happy and petty when hoes in real life who are much younger but look older than I am.
#pettyhoe
Yes, I have been told that, thank God.
I've been told that I look 20 years younger my entire life.
In my 40's I still got carded.
The ONLY downside to having a baby face, is that older men are predatory.
All men, but especially old.
It has always creeped me out.
But I'd rather be looked over than overlooked. ;D
whirlerz
03-07-2022, 07:02 AM
Well, very low water pressure, (pipes freezing?)
Texted GooffBall upstairs, left note under his door too.. Think he went back to sleep, not hearing anything, he was bumping around before.
Cripes. Don't wanna text landlord, yet, & he'll just refer me to him. GB the go to guy for stuff.. Also, the little house is locked, (I asked LL to, so that's where our water is (we're on a well) :(
& for some reason, he has a heater turned on, facing his closed door? /:O
I just now texted LL. Shit. Now I'll get a lecture about making him lock the door :(
whirlerz
03-07-2022, 07:35 AM
So, update above, he got in & did what ev so water'll be back on in a bit..
However, everyone is a in pig in the bathroom, I take out the trash in there, cause they wont>:(
Also, the dumpster blew over yesterday w/high wind, no one bothered to pick it up? Trash all over the lawn, which of course No One else would pick up, I'd only brought up the 1, the other was about 1/4 full, so I brought it up too.. ::)
I took the little trash out, the dumpsters emptied already, NOT putting them back!
SUCH.FUCKIN'.PIGS!:yikes:
Marina Starr
03-07-2022, 08:01 AM
I was craving donuts today so I went to publix to get some, these hoes in the bakering saw me through their peripheral vision and completely ignored me. I know so because they can feel the weight of my stare. So I asked if everyone in the bakery department was off today?!. They said no, turned around and asked me what I wanted.
I told them I don't get ignored. The manager apologized.
I'm very gracious but that depends on how I'm being treated. It shouldn't have to be this way. I don't give a fuck what their issues were. I told the manager I'm too pretty and special to be ignored. I know with confidence that they wouldn't date dispute that.
I don't know exactly what it is but people, especially men tend to eat my bitchiness up.
whirlerz
03-07-2022, 08:52 AM
Cotdamn stinking blunts smell.. I opened the hallway window & kitchen window
+ I have an air cleaner in my bathroom, (tried to close vent in there but couldn't).
Nasty AF.
LoveyD
03-07-2022, 05:07 PM
Crush isn't feeling well today, says he feels like he is coming down with a cold. I hope he didn't catch covid again.
whirlerz
03-07-2022, 06:16 PM
I just had a covid test yesterday, it was by my food pick up place, so I went in there.
I'll get results in a couple of days. I don't think I have it, but might as well check it out.
TheBrownFox
03-07-2022, 08:09 PM
I just had a covid test yesterday, it was by my food pick up place, so I went in there.
I'll get results in a couple of days. I don't think I have it, but might as well check it out.
Best of luck in that your test is negative. :)
LoveyD
03-07-2022, 09:04 PM
I just had a covid test yesterday, it was by my food pick up place, so I went in there.
I'll get results in a couple of days. I don't think I have it, but might as well check it out.
I hope all is ok and that your results are negative.
I feel tired today. Need a good night's sleep so I can have a good workout tomorrow.
I need a shower.
xxxGothBarbie
03-07-2022, 09:55 PM
I hate being so unmotivated to get things going again ugh. It's like I'm stuck in place. Laziness is my worst toxic trait at times like these.
LoveyD
03-07-2022, 10:41 PM
^^ I feel stuck, too. It sucks.
Marina Starr
03-08-2022, 05:21 AM
Soooo I'm trying to enjoy my morning before starting my day at Starbucks as I do everyday and right now there is a barista and this ugly asshole kept talking loudly and I don't know when they'll stop. They're not reading the room and are completely tone-deaf.
Their topics of discussion was about inflation, car parts on backorder, trucks. Every fucking thing that I don't give a flying fuck about.
Baristas should not have long ass conversations with customers and customers need to get their drinks, shut up or get the fuck out. I'm not here for on going loud ass conversations.
I finally told the shift manager this loud ass conversation is bothering me. He told her he needed her help for this bullshit to finally stop.
I'm beyond annoyed and highly bothered. I may complain to corporate later but for now I wanna give myself a bit of time to see how I feel. They always make it right and straighten shit out because I'm gifted at complaining.
miss.a.p1600
03-08-2022, 09:14 AM
L getting pissy because I'm in the bathroom - doing nothing but reading the news minding my own business.
His problem, I'm in there while he's waiting (well how tf am I supposed to know if youre waiting and you should have woken up earlier so you wouldn't have to wait) and that I'm in there doing nothing or in his mind, avoiding him while chatting up his replacement (well what I do in private is my prerogative as long as it's not cheating so what).
After I came out the bathroom, I went to another part of the house and his wealthy brother called. I couldn't dare tell him I couldn't say bye to him before he left because he was too busy acting pissy for nothing and because I was talking to his brother about investments and earning income multiple ways while he's out here mismanaging his money by "loaning" money to his deadbeat ex-wife and broke friends.
Look! if you want my time, you need to make it worth my while. Otherwise, the mornings are times for me to reflect, meditate, talking about getting/maintaining the bag and preparing for my day without the noise and distraction from other people, including you if you're going to be that way.
ravenskyy
03-08-2022, 09:29 AM
I just had a covid test yesterday, it was by my food pick up place, so I went in there.
I'll get results in a couple of days. I don't think I have it, but might as well check it out.
I hope your test is negative!
The only thing that I'm mad about is this menopausal ass weather. Bring Spring Back DAMMIT! lol
Aurora_Sunset
03-08-2022, 02:06 PM
Motherfuckin' cats are EXPENSIVE. All 3 were due for the vet. One is obese and needs to go on special diet food. The other is still having diarrhea issues and is also going on new, special food. 2 of them need dental surgery for bad teeth.
I expected the check-up and shots for all of them to be around $400 today - it was just over $1,000.
WendiStarr
03-08-2022, 02:36 PM
The only DV shelter in my area and their lack of any help. I sat there on hold for over an hour only to be told that they are currently experiencing a backlog of cases, took my info down, and would call me when they have space. I was expecting more than that. I hate their,"stay with a relative or friend" crap. You think I haven't already thought of or tried that? I have no one! They said if I was in immediate danger to contact LE for assistance. Uh, ok and LE won't do shit unless BD leaves physical evidence. I feel disheartened like I have to be beaten, bruised, broken bones, almost killed in order for anyone to do anything and help me? I don't know if it's my state or what. I don't know what to do anymore.
whirlerz
03-08-2022, 03:02 PM
I am so very sorry, Wendi.. I am thinking of you, my dear. I wish you were in my area, it's better for this type of thing..
Is there any free legal service that can help you?
By me there is Prairie State Legal, staffed by volunteer attorneys, Mon - Thurs from 8 12noon, maybe there is something like that by you?
How about the domestic help line?
I'm praying really hard for you, my love. God will make a way for you!
carmen_b
03-08-2022, 03:27 PM
Wendi :
I would recommend calling them everyday and tell them your situation is escalating.
You can elaborate the physical violence if needed ( tell them he shoved you or something ).
That fact is .....domestic violence can escalate and it's really good he isn't physically abusing you but they should still be helping.
Think of it like this .... you are on their radar now and if you keep speaking up ( which is exhausting because you feel like its should just take once ) then you might finally get some help out of them and resources for where to stay ! This organization should also help with child care ( I hope to hell they do ) .
LoveyD
03-08-2022, 05:35 PM
Wendi, here's the National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.ndvh.org or 1-800-799-SAFE . They may have info on additional resources that can assist you on leaving safely.
Cops don't do shit until it's too late. Why they just can't send over an officer is beyond me. Protect and serve, my ass!
xxxGothBarbie
03-08-2022, 07:18 PM
^ Can you possibly afford to leave and get into an airbnb or hotel away from the area for a bit? :(
Family fucking sucks ugh I'd def cut them off after you are able to find safety away from where you are.
Shelters are useless as well unfortunatley bc they don't seem to see the importance of people's situations.
I hope you are able to get away ASAP <3
whirlerz
03-08-2022, 07:27 PM
Yes, ^ I know where I am, they (a social services place) offered to put me in a hotel, I was kinda scared of this one roomie, it worked out that I was able to stay here tho.
Idk if they have that where she lives, where I am they have more services available..
Wendi, I still say to ask a church?
Where I am, there's big churches that help people, it does vary in the area you are in.
indiegirl
03-08-2022, 10:08 PM
Yes, ^ I know where I am, they (a social services place) offered to put me in a hotel, I was kinda scared of this one roomie, it worked out that I was able to stay here tho.
Idk if they have that where she lives, where I am they have more services available..
Wendi, I still say to ask a church?
Where I am, there's big churches that help people, it does vary in the area you are in.
Don't they have grants or funds where they can give money to women who need it to relocate in DV situations? There has to be more resources out there somewhere. :(.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 08:10 AM
Wendi :
You can try cities near you too.
Try other ones too !
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 08:17 AM
Deleting ....
Thanks for listening. :)
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 08:45 AM
I feel like I'm treated pretty well *overall* but then I'll hit a moment like there where it's like " oh this seems like pretty clear disrespect .... now what ?".
I decided to chat with him and ask him to remove.
I'm not sure what will happen.
Maybe I'm PMS-ing but this seems really disrespectful to me.
xxxGothBarbie
03-09-2022, 10:10 AM
I feel like I'm treated pretty well *overall* but then I'll hit a moment like there where it's like " oh this seems like pretty clear disrespect .... now what ?".
I decided to chat with him and ask him to remove.
I'm not sure what will happen.
Maybe I'm PMS-ing but this seems really disrespectful to me.
I think it's tacky AF not to mention disrespectful to add an ex to fb or ig I'd you are in a new relationship ugh. Glad u spoke up. I'd have flipped.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 10:30 AM
Delete ......
miss.a.p1600
03-09-2022, 10:30 AM
Maybe I should let the coffee sink in.
I just noticed J had added his ex on FB .
? I'm not really sure what to think of this.
There is some context :
In situations where we have created our " couples culture " of whatever you call it ..... I always choose " separate " in regard to the houses ( daughter traveling back between the homes ). Am I the weird one ? For example ..... I don't want to watch each others dogs ect. even though that would sometimes be the easiest way. Separate.
Why is social media ALWAYS a thing ? I have such trauma surrounding it knowing my ex of 7 years was using it to communicate with his ex while we were still living together in 2018.
Obviously I know that J and his ex communicate to co-parent.
I'm very surprised he would do this without at least letting me know .
This is why social media is a hard NO for me.
To me, my social media is like private club - if you aint following MY rules you can get the fuck out. And most men are going to be tagging photos, questioning you about your likes, stalking your profile, making hella assumptions and its a fucking unnecessary headache
Look you want to access my social media - follow me on LinkedIN (the lowest drama social media platform where most people are talking about BUSINESS and making money not 'why you like Chad Thundercock's picture?' 'Why you post a bikini pic?' and other stupid ass questions men ask when they harass you about your social media profiles.)
But yeah he shouldn't be adding his ex on Facebook. If anything he should delete the h*e on his social media and ALL traces of her on social media.
And yes some things can and should be separate as long as there is no slick shit going on. I don't trust men not to be doing slick sh*t because when you leave them to their own devices they don't know how to act. Even if they are good men, they still need that proverbial leash
L deleted all pics of Bertha (and unfriended all her family) - of course because she is a borderline deadbeat, she's nowhere near as attractive as I am lol, and her/her family brings zero value to his social media like I/my family do/does.
Convos #2, #3, and more would be "I'm not going to tell you how to run your social media, but unless you want to sleep on the couch until further notice, you need to delete/unfriend any exes" .... If I were you. Cause next thing you know that broad is going to be tagging him in family photos, sliding in his DM's, keeping up with him and his affairs and creeping on you too.
The only reason he needs to keep up with his ex wife social media is so he can have leverage sue her in court if she acts an ass and says crazy stuff on there. But he's not in court with her so no reason to keep up with her on there. If he wants pics of the kid, he can take pics himself or have her forward them on text.
I think it's tacky AF not to mention disrespectful to add an ex to fb or ig I'd you are in a new relationship ugh. Glad u spoke up. I'd have flipped.
Thank goodness L knew what time it was and deleted his ex, and her family, without me having to ask
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 10:39 AM
^ Yeah touching him will stop until this is resolved .
We have been on this great streak having a blast together ( really actively working to create the life we want ). So much proactive energy and tons of fun plans to look forward to.
Um.... now this ?
I felt like there was so much coming up for us.
miss.a.p1600
03-09-2022, 10:47 AM
I feel like I'm treated pretty well *overall* but then I'll hit a moment like there where it's like " oh this seems like pretty clear disrespect .... now what ?".
I decided to chat with him and ask him to remove.
I'm not sure what will happen.
Maybe I'm PMS-ing but this seems really disrespectful to me.
^ Yeah touching him will stop until this is resolved .
We have been on this great streak having a blast together ( really actively working to create the life we want ). So much proactive energy .... now this ?
I'd also add, me personally, I would not tell him how you know he add her on social media.......so you can have oversight without him getting wise and hiding because he knows how you know....
I'd simply give a broad reminder like 'hey Bob, youre great at keeping our relationship strong and ignoring/blocking out any distractions in real life/online/etc so lets keep that momentum" or something to that effect.
Last thing you want is to create a big argument or have him creating lists, putting you on restricted list, and hiding his FB activity from you so be discreet about how you know he added her or he will get better at covering up to stay one step ahead of you.
But if you notice it continues THEN covos #2,3, and beyond can be a bit more direct.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 10:51 AM
^ I’d like complete separation.
I already said something.
I never let anything “ sit “ .
It was something I felt strongly about not “ oh I’ll be fine in 24 hours “.
Hopefully he will agree with this.
Agree with your points. Extra photos of daughter are not worth making the current partner uncomfy ( from my perspective ). Just send more pics on both sides if needed.
They are good about sharing pics. No one is picture hoarding.
At some point I may be open to meeting and having things on a more friendly level. I’d like to chat about a big change like that first though.
The lack of judgment is concerning.
I prefer an " out of sight out of mind " vibe .
It's a big change to see with no communication / verbal warning ahead of time.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 01:51 PM
Hopefully J will be struck by some common sense at some point today .....
I won't be around much ( movie / dinner out ect ) .
He had given me a heads up yesterday that his daughter was expecting a play date today ( courteous ) so I was planning to avoid the noise 3:30 - 6:30 anyway.
I might just make my outing extra long.
I'm bringing my swimsuit in case I just need to set up shop at the gym at their amenities hahaha.
miss.a.p1600
03-09-2022, 02:20 PM
Just when I think 'maybe it could work'
I think back to how L refuses to put his ex-wife in check (and he instantly defaults to "I'm going to take care of my kids"). Okay cool, but I'm not about to be beholden to no Bertha bitch drama bc. you mfs don't have a viable co-parent agreement. Sure keep underestimating this broad, give her the benefit of the doubt even when she doesn't deserve it, sometimes feels sorry for her and come to her rescue when she needs to be rescuing herself.
Anyways its 2022. I'm doing ME. I'm securing the bag with or without you. And I'm leaving deadweights in the dust.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 02:28 PM
Him at 2:15
" If I order a pizza at 4:30 can you go pick it up ? "
Ummmmmm did the city put something in the water in this house ???
Just do the right thing dude before I need to run this by my Mom, Therapist , Home Depot workers as I'm buying plastic bins to pack, + anyone else who will listen.
SW ladies get the news first lol.
Genoveve
03-09-2022, 03:34 PM
You can't do any job forever. There will always come a point where you're too old to do your job. What if you're in your 50s with the cushy corporate job and then get paralyzed from the neck down in a car accident? Chances are, you're losing that job. It's not worth trying to figure out what's going to happen in 15-20 years. Nothing in life is ever guaranteed. The only difference between sex workers and corporate workers is that we need to be more proactive about saving and investing our money because we don't have an employer doing it for us, though everyone should be proactive about their finances anyway. Job security is an illusion. It doesn't exist. Money and health are the only true forms of security, and even those are far from infallible.
100%. It always annoys me too when morons criticize people for making money off of their looks and say crap like "They won't have their looks forever," ....like no shit. If you're an athlete at some point your body is going to deteriorate to where you can no longer compete. If you work with your hands they will eventually age and lose their dexterity to where you no longer can. If you rely on your brain/smarts for your work, eventually your mind will start to deteriorate and you will lose your sharpness and your performance will suffer.
Aurora_Sunset
03-09-2022, 04:04 PM
Ugh, this has been an expensive month already. Between the vet, gas prices, and maintenance on my car - oof.
Aurora_Sunset
03-09-2022, 04:06 PM
My husband needed a co-signer for a new Sallie Mae loan he's trying to take out so his school will stop harassing him about high monthly payments before he's even done with the program. They checked my credit and said I wasn't creditworthy enough to be a cosigner on a loan that's not even that big. Wtf? I know my score is back up in the 700s. I just checked in through Experian last month.
Genoveve
03-09-2022, 04:22 PM
I'm very annoyed with Windows 11. I had to buy a new laptop so on Amazon I ordered an HP one that had the camming specs I needed and would arrive quickly, it gets here and I'm setting it up and everything is gucci but when I plug my webcam and mouse into it they don't work. They are registering that they're plugged into the laptop but the laptop is not registering that they are plugged into it. I do all the troubleshooting I can and when nothing works I call HP support, they run a diagnostic and it says that the USB ports don't work and I'm told I have to mail in the laptop for repair. I'm like yeah-the-fuck-right and just return it. I'm very annoyed, have never received a broken brand new electronic before. So anyways I then go in person to Best Buy and buy a Lenovo laptop; I get home, I'm setting it up, everything is gucci, I plug in my webcam and my mouse and they don't work. I know there's no way I bought 2 different brand new laptops from 2 different brands from 2 different merchants that have broken USB ports.
So now I'm wondering if Windows 11, which I have never had before and which both new laptops have, is not compatible with certain devices even though as far as I was aware a USB will work in a USB port. I plug my phone charger into it and it immediately works, I plug my old logitech c290 into it and it works. I plugged my OLD ass mouse into it and it works. I don't know why my newer mouse and cam won't. I call Best Buy's support and ask if there's a Windows 11 device compatibility issue and they say yes. So now I am working with a barely functioning mouse and am praying that the new one I ordered will work on this laptop when it gets here. I also hate the logitech cam because it makes me and my space look extremely dark even with 4 lights on me and it's so hard trying to find a spot to cam in that my pets can't end up in the frame in with the wide screen.
I'm also confused as fuck about the diagnostic results with the first laptop. 1.) why wouldn't HP's support bring up the compatibility issue and 2.) why did the diagnostic result in a fail? I thought maybe with that laptop it actually could have been broken ports because the mouse did work for it for like 2 seconds, and if it was a compatibility issue I feel like that would be impossible, but this laptop just did the same when I tried my newer mouse one last time. /:O
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 06:31 PM
Didn’t want to disrupt work day or time with daughter.
Plus I couldn’t. I needed to go to the Dr. myself which took 60% of the day.
I was only there 90 min in the day.
No change to the situation 8 - 6:30 ugh.
I almost feel like I should just drive North to my family and evaluate from there....
It IS hard to not speak to him when I live there.
I wonder if I should get a hotel tonight ? Bad time for both AirBnBs to be taken ugh.
:/
When we talk at 8 ish ( if I go back there ) I hope he has some sense and isn’t just locked into this “ well you can’t tell me how to use social media “ thing. I need to decide what to do. I'm back at the house but really don't want to be here. It's making feel like he's kicking me when I'm down ( knowing I've had pain for 9 days ).
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 07:57 PM
I wonder if I got creative .....
Look .... hit the unfriend OR the block button ..... you'll get BJ's for days straight and lets not let this ruin our week.
I'm probably too mad to suggest what WOULD be the most effective ! ^^^
charlie61
03-09-2022, 09:04 PM
^should he really get blowjobs for days on end just for undoing something he shouldn't have done in the first place?
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 09:13 PM
Exactly hahaha.
Thanks for saying that.
I think I was just like " I wonder if I could spin it differently or flip it ".
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 09:14 PM
I don’t even know why I said that.
I think I am just looking for more assurance that I’m not wrong .
He wants to sleep on it v.s. discussing it late.
Not sure about that .....
So ... we just do fucked up things to each other and then not set any time aside to discuss because it's " late "?
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 09:18 PM
Dude ... what is WRONG with you omg ?
He referenced not being “ helpful “.
Um ... excuse me .... I stepped out to not cause drama and be in potential meltdown mode !
I really think he didn't think his day through. He seemed upset about the play date thing. Um .... then don't do it. If she can't be fully responsible for her own guests ( other than providing food ) that is a problem.
I sound have done a hotel.
My mom advised against saying it seemed “ a little drastic “.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 09:36 PM
I see giving someone push back and not just *immediately* jumping when your gf or spouse suggests something ...... but c'mon. There is no benefit to delaying the removing as a "friend". It's happening if the relationship is existing from this point on SO IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE TODAY.
If an overall culture of " separateness " was changing that is something to TALK to your partner about and give some serious heads up as well as get THEIR thoughts on a big change. This is awful and insensitive.
I am SO ANGRY .
Instead of just quickly fixing it ..... making me wait all day ? ! ?
moneybags
03-09-2022, 09:48 PM
My husband needed a co-signer for a new Sallie Mae loan he's trying to take out so his school will stop harassing him about high monthly payments before he's even done with the program. They checked my credit and said I wasn't creditworthy enough to be a cosigner on a loan that's not even that big. Wtf? I know my score is back up in the 700s. I just checked in through Experian last month.
It’s actually hard to refinance student loans. If you do qualify then you don’t need one most of the time and if you need to refinance chances are you won’t qualify???
moneybags
03-09-2022, 09:51 PM
I see giving someone push back and not just *immediately* jumping when your gf or spouse suggests something ...... but c'mon. There is no benefit to delaying the removing as a "friend". It's happening if the relationship is existing from this point on SO IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE TODAY.
If an overall culture of " separateness " was changing that is something to TALK to your partner about and give some serious heads up as well as get THEIR thoughts on a big change. This is awful and insensitive.
I am SO ANGRY .
Instead of just quickly fixing it ..... making me wait all day ? ! ?
sorry I didn’t catch this? What happened? I thought you all were doing good, or are you just venting?
All I have to say is I think it takes tremendous courage to be in a relationship. The people you love will trigger the fuck out of you!
It would be so challenge to be in a relationship. I would get so annoyed so easily.
carmen_b
03-09-2022, 09:52 PM
^ Maybe a parent or someone can co-sign? It's so smart to try to get on top of it and lower payments for sure !