View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
lurkingtitties
03-11-2022, 10:20 AM
If he wanted to he would! I’d be upset AF if my bf took off snowboarding without addressing this request.
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 10:24 AM
^ Right ?
There is service on the damn mountain .
If this in't handled by 3-5p.m. I'm checking into my AirBnB and putting my phone on ignore.
whirlerz
03-11-2022, 10:25 AM
I'd be on the hunt for a substitute, not a toy, but that's me.
Good luck though.
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 10:43 AM
^ Yup that'll be next.
I was patient ( as much as I could stomach which I guess is about 24 hours ).
That is enough.
Since I admit I was pretty nasty when I first found out I respected the request to " calm down " and give it a little time. It's been enough time now.
I'm just not comfortable having her on there and it hasn't changed in that 24 hour time frame.
The revamped privacy settings were a good change but not enough.
I can't believe he is hanging onto something so stupid but I'm not going to be openly disrespected.
lurkingtitties
03-11-2022, 10:49 AM
Like, not saying you should or shouldn’t end it, but he’s ignoring your reasonable request and even pushed off having a conversation about it for as long as he could…he can feel your absence for a while.
whirlerz
03-11-2022, 10:52 AM
Btw, I am sorry for what you're going thru..
Hi to lurking t's haven't seen you on here lately :)
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 10:54 AM
^ yes, it's good to see Lurking back !!! :)
lurkingtitties
03-11-2022, 10:59 AM
Hey guys!!! I’ve missed y’all too. Was laying low because of a stalker coupled with ex bf drama…it made me too paranoid to post anything. Finally had a breakthrough yesterday and have decided to put it behind me/focus on moving forward so I’m back now!
charlie61
03-11-2022, 11:25 AM
Every relationship is different, too. I would bet there are a lot of people reading about this thinking, why is this such a big deal, who cares, my partner and i are friends with our exes, etc. And that's totally cool, if it's working for you. But i think if you're in a relationship where, from the beginning, it was understood that befriending exes is not okay, then it makes sense to be upset about this as a change.
I'm not sure he's thought through how it would feel if you befriended your ex on FB, carmen, and how he'd feel if your ex were posting on your wall...
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 11:28 AM
^ Right ?
I changed a bunch of my photos to letting friends view them.
He can see the pics now of my ( huge ) ex in Hawaii . I had always hidden EVERY photo of my 2011-2018 ex ( the Hawaii guy). I changed it to add some fairness .
I cut my ex off due to his actions in 2018 so I can't really duplicate the full experience .
I also don't feel I should need to ( duh ) !
It doesn't matter if it's a "resurface ". She wasn't there this entire time, the " culture " of the relationship has always had a high privacy level , and I didn't approve a change to it ! Maybe IF I was asked I would have been more open to it with a little time.
charlie61
03-11-2022, 11:28 AM
Especially if it were an ex you had substantial history with, like not a casual fling, maybe someone you were with for 8 years, like, THAT kind of ex. The 6'6" guy you've mentioned, i think.
I'm not into retaliation, obviously, i just wonder if he'd be totally cool with that or if he'd understand a bit better by thinking through that scenario.
miss.a.p1600
03-11-2022, 11:33 AM
I think the exwife (and possibly your dude since he’s shuffling his feet on putting her in check) is on some covert slick shit.
Two weeks ago she was coming inside your house and still had her keys, had her kid reminiscing n posting up old family photos in your house. Now her ass tagging him on Facebook.
The likelihood they reconcile and remarry is slim to none but that doesn’t stop these men from playing women against each other to feed their egos.
I can see why you’d be pissed.
charlie61
03-11-2022, 11:35 AM
^totally agreed, it's an ego feed. A bit of reminiscing, maybe, a bit of an ego feed / looking for attention, etc. I'm super chill, but i would be very unsettled by a change like this in my relationship. Especially if my partner were being all dodgy about discussing it, dragging his feet, etc. It's just weird, IMO.
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 11:37 AM
^ Well she didn't have a key. But yeah you are right. She missed her pick up window for her daughters things by 10 minutes. J STUPIDLY left anyway to get in motion to a concert and then she used the open door that was there for the dog nanny and not her . It was totally fucked for sure ( I told J that there are NO EXCEPTIONS and she can't ever do it again ).
I asked him to fib about our window to leave by 1 hour from here on out in case she pulls any 10-20 minutes late antics again.
It's weird all right .
He can think about it tonight BY HIMSELF.
He seemed to be very time starved when I needed to discuss it yesterday.
Today he will have PLENTY of time.
Plus every hour is agitating me more.
He is pretending to not understand the feet dragging at this point is worse than what could have been a fuck up / then quick fix.
charlie61
03-11-2022, 11:38 AM
We are hardcore threadjacking, but i think it's on topic!
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 11:42 AM
^ I totally realized I should have made something separate yesterday.
I expected it to be resolved in 24 hours and didn't expect my posts to continue yesterday.
indiegirl
03-11-2022, 12:15 PM
So fun being barked at by my dog when he wants attention while I'm trying to cram study. And literally it's not a choice since it's an accelerated program. He'll continue barking and barking until I get fed up and stare at him saying "HIIIIII!!" in the most annoyed way. lol.
Finally got coffee. I can't finish studying this crap right now because it is so boring!! 8 more weeks of this class before the next term.
LoveyD
03-11-2022, 12:38 PM
Just catching up here. @Carmen I understand your anxiety. I wouldn't care if my guy was cordial/civil with his ex, but...boundaries! And wtf with her just going into the house? What made her feel entitled to do that? Did he tell her it was okay? And if he did, why didn't he say something to you?
Red flag that he seems to have no time to discuss this.
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 02:05 PM
^ He totally knows it is a no go for her to be here when we are not. He made a decision two weeks ago that he knew was sketchy because he was desperate to leave to get into his concert VIP line. I forgave it that once. It's something we have talked about before ( that one of us has to be here during kid pick ups / stuff pick ups ).
He can fib about the window we leave by an hour ( this way we have a buffer if she is 10-20 min. late ).
If we leave town at 3 p.m. for example, he needs to tell her we leave by 2 p.m.
Also .... I sort of *had* to forgive it. My dog sitter was also 15 min. late !
He had to leave the door open for my doggies pick up.
Everything was set in a pile by the door.
BUT ... the agreement is that she is never there when we are not ( duh ) .
Privacy.
Just like how I don't want to open up even the *option* to have a nasty comment pop up on a photo or anything else social media related. There shouldn't be a social media link since they are not together.
I'm fine with a cordial vibe too especially when it comes to precision with co-parenting ( picking up daughter on time ) !
YES please with that.
No one needs to hate each other.
Boundaries are a MUST though.
moneybags
03-11-2022, 02:29 PM
I think the exwife (and possibly your dude since he’s shuffling his feet on putting her in check) is on some covert slick shit.
Two weeks ago she was coming inside your house and still had her keys, had her kid reminiscing n posting up old family photos in your house. Now her ass tagging him on Facebook.
The likelihood they reconcile and remarry is slim to none but that doesn’t stop these men from playing women against each other to feed their egos.
I can see why you’d be pissed.
Amen.
Carmen my advice to you is to let yourself know what you know and don’t let him or anyone talk you out of your knowing. You don’t need any of us to validate you. I will say I understand the challenge of trying to figure out if it’s just an old trigger or if the problem is here in the now. Also, it can be both him being unconscious and your old wound-they aren’t mutually exclusive. My advice is to pray or meditate-it doesn’t have to be super spiritual. A walk in the woods, a long bath, or even time alone journaling will help you navigate this challenge and decide from a higher perspective what the best course of action is. I’m a peaceful spirit and I would be LIVID if either he or she was causing discord in the relationship-intentionally or not. They could both be acting out unconsciously. I would have zero tolerance for it! You shouldn’t ever feel insecure in a relationship, and he should make you feel secure.
LoveyD
03-11-2022, 02:55 PM
^^ yes. The lack of respect for boundaries makes for an emotionally unsafe situation.
xxxGothBarbie
03-11-2022, 04:46 PM
Having one of those weeks where I'm just in a constant pissy mood due to things popping up. Another is my cali ex won't leave me the fuck alone after he left me some abusive messages last night while he was drunk AF. Then I'm getting the old empty suicide threats *eyeroll* um we aren't together asshole, you're not my problem anymore. Fuck off. I can't even be friends with the assclown bc he doesn't respect boundries.
Also, my "friends" being a bit funny towards me since the drama at the bar last week (which didn't even involve all of them) Now I look "crazy" bc I defended myself against a bartender that basically flung my drink at me bc I checked her for having a shitty ass attitude & since they still wanna go there & know people there, they're distancing from me a bit. Whatever. I guess these days standing up for yourself gets you punished *eyeroll* the world has become so fucking annoyingly soft. They weren't my friends anyways.
WendiStarr
03-11-2022, 07:42 PM
I amended my taxes and got a refund check in the mail even though I prefer direct deposit. The damn check has my last name first and my first name last. Ugh, wtf IRS? I hope the bank deposits it.
LoveyD
03-11-2022, 08:48 PM
^^ @ Wendi I'm sure it'll be okay. But it's cool you got some Bday money!
@carmen understandable.
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 08:53 PM
So aggravating.
Even trying to step away .....
I just feel like it took forever . Pack up. Wait till 7pm for him to notice my stuff is gone.
Wait 2 hours to reply to him for impact.
I just feel like this process is taking forever ( and nothing may work anyway ).
Eh :/
Well the convo is in motion anyway....
https://i.ibb.co/X4djsRk/DCEB9-E18-2830-41-C8-9-C73-10156-B458-BA6.jpg (https://ibb.co/X4djsRk)
Snooze fest.
He says he compromised ( privacy settings ect ).
I told him to just change it back to how it was before I got the nasty surprise on Wed. and I’ll come back to suck on him and we can fall asleep.
I guess I'd thought I'd " win it " somehow and get through ......
charlie61
03-11-2022, 09:44 PM
I'm just so confused... why is he seemingly willing to die on this particular hill?
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 09:54 PM
^ I'm not really sure.
I asked roughly that on the phone just now.
He must just be digging maybe because it seems controlling ? Or possibly just looking for " ways " to get rid of me without having to put my stuff out on the lawn ? People can be odd.
He ended up deleting ( or claiming he did ) FB which I am not sure how I feel about.
lurkingtitties
03-11-2022, 10:02 PM
Can you still see his profile? If you can that means he hasn’t deactivated…if you can’t, get a family member to check to rule out that he blocked you to pretend that he deactivated.
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 10:09 PM
^ No content shows up.
Profile Pic doesn't show up.
Can not search for his name.
He knows I'm way too tech savvy to lie about taking it down v.s. just blocking me .
Or at least I think I am.
That is also not the result I wanted.
I just COULDN'T do it ( tolerate having his ex there ).
:/
lurkingtitties
03-11-2022, 10:16 PM
Yeah, it’s just another way of digging his heels in. Take the profile down rather than accommodate your request. Sooner or later he will have to reactivate because people will notice, and then you/he will be back at square 1…
What’s the point even of keeping her as a friend if he’s made all these privacy changes?
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 10:24 PM
Supposedly it's a delete not a deactivation?
Well I've made my case to him.
I just can't stomach the social media connection.
He doesn't see the wall post as the territory issue that I do ( it wasn't bad or anything nasty but zero communication is better ).
:/
I also *did* give it time to settle after the privacy changes which happened yesterday. I still couldn't even stomach seeing her photo in the friends list. Plus then I'm just living in fear of more intrusion like another wall post or a comment ? We just had a very high level of privacy before and he can't seem to grasp that the change is too shocking for me currently. I think it's very insensitive of him too to know about my trauma of my last serious relationship ending 3-4 weeks after my partners ex just " popped up " on FB. Obviously they are different and I know that but at least some sensitivity ?
lurkingtitties
03-11-2022, 10:40 PM
Delete is permanent, deactivation is temporary…he really permanently deleted the account?
carmen_b
03-11-2022, 10:42 PM
^ I think he did.
BUT he is VERY techy.
He probably has an entire copy organized + a back up of that copy ect. !
Well this didn't land in a perfect spot. :/
I'm not sure how I feel about it. On the phone I was like " well just tell me if things are in a more friendly place " and he was like " I wish you were more friendly ".
I just can't figure out why it was important to dig in to something when it bothered me.
I feel like it also send a message like " Well I didn't want to face my ex and tell her to respect our privacy so I just took it down ".
Dreamqueen
03-11-2022, 11:03 PM
You can go to an auto parts store and try doing your own re-charge of your air. A product like this is the most simple way to try.
https://www.amazon.com/Professional-Synthetic-Conditioning-Refrigerant-Dispenser/dp/B007USCM7E/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=Car+AC+Recharge+Kit&qid=1646932072&sr=8-2
I went to have him check it out.
My free on levels are fine. Full, actually.
The problem is with a condenser/compressor that needs to be replaced.
Even though I was hesitant to go over there, I'm really glad that I went.
He spent an hour explaining how lots of things work in my car, which I appreciate, because I don't know a thing about cars.
He's easy on the eyes ( has great arms), lol, and a house so beautiful, I could cum just looking at it. He has a sweet dog too.
The best part was that he only charged me $25 for the diagnosis.
indiegirl
03-12-2022, 07:55 AM
"Do you have a 30 or 45 minute option. I can't last an hour." ......the common words of a cheap man. My rates are listed. Don't act surprised.
I remember the good old days of men who actually treated women like escorts and not flat out prostitutes. Housekeeping is knocking at 6:47am to clean.....FOR REAL....*eyeroll
Anyways, I invested in purchasing test banks for 2 of my classes for 60 bucks total for yet another method to quiz myself. Once I saw all the material we were gonna cover in the Surgical Tech book I realized I needed more. I'm passing that CST exam #1 like my mom did. My mom knows me as the professional worrier...I go from "What have I gotten myself into!?! I'm not going to pass!!!" to getting one of the top grades in the class and she always says "See!" So fun. I told her yesterday "I'll show you! I'm completely not passing the tests this week." Then I took the test bank test without even finishing reading and missed only two out of 55 hahaha. Ugh the shit I do to myself.
whirlerz
03-12-2022, 12:36 PM
Tell him to just JO^?
Fucking Co's, they give a discount, then charge more for shipping, & anyway, suppose to be free shipping?!
Then they're not in til Monday? Nice>:(
Sent email to cancel
LoveyD
03-12-2022, 02:10 PM
Homely lady behind the deli counter is seriously being a rude c*nt right now. I get it, bitch. You don't feel like being here, you want to go on your lunch, even though your manager just said it's not for another 20 min. Must have pissed you off when I laughed at your rudeness.
Marina Starr
03-12-2022, 02:34 PM
Similar shit also happened to me at Publix deli last week. They saw me walking from produce to deli. Produce is right in front of deli. When I got there they all looked down pretending to be busy and basically shunned me. So I asked if they're were all off? I wasn't upset but very condescending. They said no. I said it sure doesn't look like they wanna work. So they started asking me what I wanted.
Now mind you, I totally get it, it's not easy dealing with people but handle that as individuals, case to case basis. What I won't tolerate is being shunned or ignore because I'll raise hell. What's sad is it doesn't have to be that way. I'm only there to get what I needed and leave but their behaviors made it unpleasant.
Homely lady behind the deli counter is seriously being a rude c*nt right now. I get it, bitch. You don't feel like being here, you want to go on your lunch, even though your manager just said it's not for another 20 min. Must have pissed you off when I laughed at your rudeness.
LoveyD
03-12-2022, 02:46 PM
Similar shit also happened to me at Publix deli last week. They saw me walking from produce to deli. Produce is right in front of deli. When I got there they all looked down pretending to be busy and basically shunned me. So I asked if they're were all off? I wasn't upset but very condescending. They said no. I said it sure doesn't look like they wanna work. So they started asking me what I wanted.
Now mind you, I totally get it, it's not easy dealing with people but handle that as individuals, case to case basis. What I won't tolerate is being shunned or ignore because I'll raise hell. What's sad is it doesn't have to be that way. I'm only there to get what I needed and leave but their behaviors made it unpleasant.
I literally walked up to the counter and said hello. She just stood there. No "Hello, May I help you?" Or anything. She stood there for a good 30 seconds just looking at me when she inched toward the counter I finally said "Hi, I need a pound of turkey, please." Then after she handed me my turkey, she's all "have a nice day." And I replied "I'm not finished, I still need one more thing." Her mgr said right in front of me that she wasn't due for lunch for another 20 min. Then of course after she goes to slice more turkey for me, two men asked if I needed help. No, you guys relax. Let the Homely deli bitch earn her paycheck. I laughed at her and then she became more polite. It was so uncalled for. I wasn't doing anything to be rude. I was just asking for help.
Marina Starr
03-12-2022, 02:54 PM
I hate the 'no hi' 'no hello'. For me that instantly sets a bad tone right off bat.
I love how you handled it. I tried to have empathy and understanding because I find it sad that people have to be that away. It must be really awful to hate your job.
However, we're humans so there will be days we have zero tolerance for bullshit.
I literally walked up to the counter and said hello. She just stood there. No "Hello, May I help you?" Or anything. She stood there for a good 30 seconds just looking at me when she inched toward the counter I finally said "Hi, I need a pound of turkey, please." Then after she handed me my turkey, she's all "have a nice day." And I replied "I'm not finished, I still need one more thing." Her mgr said right in front of me that she wasn't due for lunch for another 20 min. Then of course after she goes to slice more turkey for me, two men asked if I needed help. No, you guys relax. Let the Homely deli bitch earn her paycheck. I laughed at her and then she became more polite. It was so uncalled for. I wasn't doing anything to be rude. I was just asking for help.
LoveyD
03-12-2022, 02:56 PM
No Hello is creepy. Like I'm imposing on the bitch. Fuck her.
Marina Starr
03-12-2022, 03:29 PM
I LMAO that you laughed at her. Can I borrow this pettiness?
All I have to do is think of some shit on SW and laugh hysterically on the spot.
https://i.ibb.co/JvkP474/laughing-haha.gif (https://imgbb.com/)
No Hello is creepy. Like I'm imposing on the bitch. Fuck her.
LoveyD
03-12-2022, 03:40 PM
^^^Borrow all you want! I have plenty to spare lol!
Dreamqueen
03-12-2022, 09:22 PM
Homely lady behind the deli counter is seriously being a rude c*nt right now. I get it, bitch. You don't feel like being here, you want to go on your lunch, even though your manager just said it's not for another 20 min. Must have pissed you off when I laughed at your rudeness.
Similar shit also happened to me at Publix deli last week. They saw me walking from produce to deli. Produce is right in front of deli. When I got there they all looked down pretending to be busy and basically shunned me. So I asked if they're were all off? I wasn't upset but very condescending. They said no. I said it sure doesn't look like they wanna work. So they started asking me what I wanted.
Now mind you, I totally get it, it's not easy dealing with people but handle that as individuals, case to case basis. What I won't tolerate is being shunned or ignore because I'll raise hell. What's sad is it doesn't have to be that way. I'm only there to get what I needed and leave but their behaviors made it unpleasant.
I don't know what it is about these cunts that work the deli counter.
They have a serious attitude problem.
The men workers ALWAYS treat me better.
It doesn't matter the supermarket.
Hi end, low end, etc. So rude!
I stopped going. Had my own boycott going on.
It's been over a year. I was hungry one night driving home from a Christmas event.
I decided to stop at the cuntiess ( is that a word?) place of them all.
I was pleasantly surprised and shocked at how sweet and accommodating the deli cunt was.
Like, EXTRA nice.
It felt so good that I wanted to cry.
Why can't they always be like that?
I complimented her on it, and would have tipped her if she took tips.
I just don't get it.
I'm never demanding.
I see how they treat men, and it's quite the opposite.
~Carmen~
03-12-2022, 10:40 PM
Daylight savings time. Who loves losing an hour’s sleep and feeling jet lagged for a week? Raise your hand.
whirlerz
03-12-2022, 11:27 PM
Daylight savings time. Who loves losing an hour’s sleep and feeling jet lagged for a week? Raise your hand.
I just wish they'd leave the time the fuck alone!
PIA!
indiegirl
03-13-2022, 12:02 AM
I have the worst headache and both my electricity and my internet is out for days. So convenient. *eyeroll* I was so exhausted when I came home for the electrician that I fell asleep in my dogs bed.
Random side note.....I will never understand how men get off on photos of women who aren't nude or want to pay you for nudes. Like, there are so many free naked women in photos and video out there......I don't get it.
carmen_b
03-13-2022, 10:34 AM
I feel stressed out by Spring Break haha.
:/
My partner has a plan to get out of town for skiing ( it'll give me like 26 hours of the house to myself monday evening to tuesday evening haha ) but now I'm feeling stress today ..... like .... what about tomorrow during the work day?
Why can't these damn schools send parents a discreet email to the tune of " Hey if you need to work , here is what you can sign the kids up for during spring break any day you need " . A template would be nice .
Today I'm good ( we have a hike and dinner planned ).
It's tomorrow I feel stress on.
Marina Starr
03-13-2022, 02:01 PM
I love that you completely spelled out cunts. I freely say it online and in person. I've called plenty of bitches CUNTS to their face when it's called for and there's absolutely nothing they would dare do about it. The reaction from other folks if they heard it is hilarious. The place would be completely silence as if I'm holding the Bible to the Devil, lmao!
USA vanilla cunts are pretty much shocked when they're called that because it's such a bad word in this country. I bet no one ever called them that to their face.
I totally agreed with deli cunts but some bakery cunts can be cunty too. You would think they'd be so happy and helpful with all the sugar high.
I don't have one specific way to handle them, it depends on the situation and how nasty they are but one thing for sure I REQUIRED good treatment and NO disrespect.
I don't know what it is about these cunts that work the deli counter.
They have a serious attitude problem.
The men workers ALWAYS treat me better.
It doesn't matter the supermarket.
Hi end, low end, etc. So rude!
I stopped going. Had my own boycott going on.
It's been over a year. I was hungry one night driving home from a Christmas event.
I decided to stop at the cuntiess ( is that a word?) place of them all.
I was pleasantly surprised and shocked at how sweet and accommodating the deli cunt was.
Like, EXTRA nice.
It felt so good that I wanted to cry.
Why can't they always be like that?
I complimented her on it, and would have tipped her if she took tips.
I just don't get it.
I'm never demanding.
I see how they treat men, and it's quite the opposite.
indiegirl
03-13-2022, 02:15 PM
This roofer next door ended up on my porch and asked me in a confused way “Hi, ummm is anyone else home?” Like that’s a way to get yourself raped. So I stood there saying “ummmm…no.” Loll he then awkwardly said “are you the owner of this house?” Lol this MF-er thought I was too young to be owning this house when all I cared about was not being assaulted and burglarized LOLLL.