View Full Version : Feeling pissy today. Petty annoyances, what do you have?
yaya_cash
09-09-2022, 05:06 PM
He's already dicking you around ( just from what I gather ) .
He's had *multiple* convos with you about an arrangement.
So .... arrange it then .... by slipping you something.
Damn, Carmen B. You know about that. :D What would you write or tell him: I'd love to sit on your face and give you some head. Just don't forget to bring our agreed cash arrangement in an envelope ? ;) :D
miss.a.p1600
09-09-2022, 05:10 PM
So my potential daddy wants me to sit on his face and to give him head before he's comfortable giving me money. He has done everything else I requested from him without a hassle. He's a good looking older man in his 40's that is a millionaire and he agreed to give me a ring and an agreed gift-arrangement weekly if I just let him give me **** and suck him once. Would you take the chance? I haven't connected with anyone else like him, and I don't want to be unmarried forever, have to pay my bills, have to have roommate/s to cover all my (expensive) expenses and have to be abstinence.
Players, misogynistic men, men who are selfish and entitled will expect a lady to perform services and please them on the front end then they MIGHT provide compensation on the back end.
NOPE! Not today self centered males!
Better come correct and provide the compensation UPFRONT.
Pay to play baby!!!
miss.a.p1600
09-09-2022, 05:12 PM
So request he brings an envelope of cash instead of using a payment app?
CASH only.
apps are tracked by government AND the dude can easily reverse the payment (most apps are a big no no on using them to accept money for adult services) leaving you high and dry after he got what he wanted
miss.a.p1600
09-09-2022, 06:31 PM
Thanks for the tips. What would you write or tell him: I'd love to sit on your face and give you some head. Just don't forget to bring our agreed cash arrangement in an envelope ? ;) :D
In so many words. Yes. Let him know you get what you want SO THAT he can get what he wants.
I personally would do this verbally though. I dont trust these dudes. But if he’s a true SD he already knows what time it is.
Cutie101
09-09-2022, 07:17 PM
Thanks girl. Do you really believe a man, like him would consider marrying the younger woman in such an arrangement? I'm not even sure I want to go through with it, I'm not used to such an arrangement. Usually I have gotten significant cash upfront without any of that foreplay and been gifted a credit card thereafter sleeping with a man. I would want to get married and not mess up my chances. I guess I have to take my chances...?
It seems like he's holding the upper hand and you should never allow him. And why do you wanna marry an old dude when you can simply have more SD's, make them buy you a condo, milk their cash and live headache free with money that are your own? Marriage means he will always hold the upper hand and you depend on him. Until he gets bored. No. Go be independent, buy your own place, build your savings account and MAKE THE RULES. Why worrying if you're good enough to marry a dude like this, when you should work on yourself to be a princess and choose your own partner by your own criteria, later and not now? You must always choose, not be chosen.
So, pay for play with everyone. Make HIM be desperate for you, not the other way around. The ball shall always be in your court.
WendiStarr
09-09-2022, 07:24 PM
Kids and I are back in a hotel. Relative that were were temporarily staying with hinted around about being stressed out over landlord coming over and seeing the kids and I there. She got bitchy with me like,"Well, he has a right to come in at any time because he owns the place". She didn't seem to get why I was bothered by some random man just coming in like that, as if I'm not a sexual assault and domestic violence survivor who doesn't get triggered by men. Vanilla women live in a bubble of ignorance.
yaya_cash
09-09-2022, 08:43 PM
Okay thanks for your replies and chatting with me. I've figured something out. I hope this goes well.
yaya_cash
09-09-2022, 09:03 PM
He's already dicking you around ( just from what I gather ) .
He's had *multiple* convos with you about an arrangement.
So .... arrange it then .... by slipping you something.
We have been having multiple conversations to reach a mutual agreement, every time we need to clarify our needs. That hasn't been so clear. I'm not trying to rush into an arrangement that's not going to work.
kimbe
09-10-2022, 12:05 AM
What would you write or tell him: I'd love to sit on your face and give you some head. Just don't forget to bring our agreed cash arrangement in an envelope ? ;) :D
I'd be very clear how you want it. In my opinion, men generally prefer that you get straight to the point..
Dreamqueen
09-10-2022, 12:32 AM
Whole Foods has just installed readers that scan your hand...for a chip, so you can pay that way.
Nope.
Not doing that.
Be gone Satan!
Dreamqueen
09-10-2022, 12:44 AM
If you could find a place there , could you just rent a uhaul and just tow your car to SD? Just a thought...
I'm not moving there because the rent is too expensive right now. It's over twice what I pay now, and for only a tiny 1 bedroom ( I have a large 2 and with a yard).
I'm expecting a housing crash by next year, so I might go there then. Might. There's a lot of crime and homeless there now, and not like it was when I lived there over 20 years ago.
I need to sell my car first.
Plus, the weather will be nice here soon, so I'm not going to miss it.
yaya_cash
09-10-2022, 04:27 AM
I'd be very clear how you want it. In my opinion, men generally prefer that you get straight to the point..
I'm realizing this.
miss.a.p1600
09-10-2022, 05:43 AM
The longer I stay with this cheap lazy misogynistic self absorbed male privileged dude, the more resentful I become.
I’m going to start speaking my departure from this dead weight into existence, in the gratitude thread
Because I don’t want my negative feeling he’s causing me to feel block my blessings that will get me out of here and into a better situation
kimbe
09-10-2022, 12:46 PM
I think my dude has been pouting and puttering .
I think he did the math and figured out he actually *can't * afford the 100k airplane he wanted.
THIS is FAR from a failure I would say ! Neither can 99.9999% of the population ( or they don't have the license to fly it ).
This has been a weird hobby that has taken a TON of time and so far done nearly nothing to enhance our lives other than a couple scenic trips that were pretty cool. I've been supportive of the hobby all the way through 75% of flight school and now he is acting upset that upon graduation he won't just automatically have a plane. I assume that totally NORMAL for the hobby . People are probably into this 3-5 years before they get even part time ownership of one.
I'll probably edit this out .... like ... .stop it with this honestly.
SO .... this is another layer to the pout pie.
There are only about 3 private aircraft dealers in the vicinity ...... and guess who is lurking behind one of them ........ the AVIATOR that drove me nuts ( in the dating thread ). I told J his name. I do NOT want him to have the commission lol IF he ever does get serious about shopping ( either himself or with a partner or two ) !
What's his goal of getting a pilot license? Just to do recreational flights every now and then, or is the purpose to use his license for business flights? Is he getting just a VFR raring, or is he getting an IFR (instrument) rating?
I'm asking because I'm naturally skeptical to anyone with money to do so, getting a license, buying an expensive airplane, go flying and kill themself.
Sorry for being so straight forward, it's just that I've seen it happen several times.
indiegirl
09-10-2022, 01:02 PM
Apparently someone sued the Deja Vu strip clubs AGAIN and they sent me a letter in the mail for a settlement agreement. Like GIRLLL, I should've agreed to the payment because I worked at 2 of them in the past but at the same time I threw the letter out because I wanted nothing to do with that club ever again.
kimbe
09-10-2022, 01:15 PM
Talking about flying, I drove down here yesterday to fly skydivers today and tomorrow, spent the night at a crappy motel, only to find out during the inspection of the airplane today that there was something with the elevator control that didn't felt normal to me.
As a pilot, this is one of the difficult things to deal with, I mean it's not like a fuel/oil leak, worn tire, oil leak from propellor etc etc, which is very easy to determine. I just felt there was something wrong/not normal with the movement of the elevator control (elevator is the control surface on the horizontal stabilizer that is used for controlling pitch) without knowing exactly what was wrong. It just didn't feel right.
Surrounded by skydivers eager to get up, I definitely felt the to pressure to fly, but I wanted to get it checked. It took several hours to get it checked and I have to say I'm glad I grounded the aircraft.. There was a screw on the assembly that had loosened and partially blocked the free movement of the elevator control.
NitaBaby
09-11-2022, 06:30 AM
I got my car AC fixed two months ago. It cost me $1200 that I’m still bitter about. but I’d been driving around in Texas heat for at least six months so I was ready to do what I had to do.
Not even 3 full weeks after my car started blowing cold air for the first time in forever, it konks out on me again. Something unrelated to the AC (but clearly still somehow related) burned up while I was driving. It smelled like burning plastic in my car for three days before I finally went to get it checked out. I just wasn’t ready for more AC issues and thought “if I don’t ask anyone then maybe there isn’t a problem”. Yeah.
My mechanic told me what the issue was and while he worked on coming up with the estimate I sat in the waiting room and cried. Thankfully I only need $300 but I’ve been avoiding getting it done out of a sort of misplaced defiance.
Now I’m pissed that I’ve been driving myself and my girls in this hot ass car while also being $1200 out - and soon to be even more. Also pissed that I’m about to get on cam today to make the money to get it fixed again - versus making the money to go shopping.
I need a shopping day like nobodies business. But it’s physically painful getting into my car now, the heat is so bad.
WendiStarr
09-11-2022, 01:23 PM
My brother sent the relative that is being bitchy towards me(because of the landlord incident) to pick me up and bring me to his house for a party. She was taking forever to show up and the kids got cranky because they needed a nap. I had them ready to go. They both ended up falling asleep. Both my 2 youngest were napping and there was no way I could carry them both, a diaper bag, 2 car seats, and my purse all at once like she expected. My oldest is visiting with ex's parents, otherwise she would've helped me. The relative was acting like she couldn't do shit and was like either get everything at once and come out now or I'm leaving. I said leave then. I could've just called an Uber but at this point, fuck it. I'm fine continuing to be alone. The shelters are still full.
miss.a.p1600
09-11-2022, 04:07 PM
^whats her problem?
carmen_b
09-11-2022, 04:40 PM
Recreational use for now ( within the next year ) . Such as towns 2-4 hours away.
I'm " meh " about the whole thing right now. It's all been a hassle and I agree with what you are saying about the risks ........
I personally see myself flying mostly commercial .
He's been pretty honest that it's not completely intuitive to him and he isn't picking it up as fast as he had hoped.
I will just see how it plays out. It NEVER saves $ ha. The gas alone is more than regular flights tend to cost .
You'd think .... oh .... it could balance * because * it's 100% flexible. Well .... not really ..... not in rain ,wind, OR clouds.
What's his goal of getting a pilot license? Just to do recreational flights every now and then, or is the purpose to use his license for business flights? Is he getting just a VFR raring, or is he getting an IFR (instrument) rating?
I'm asking because I'm naturally skeptical to anyone with money to do so, getting a license, buying an expensive airplane, go flying and kill themself.
Sorry for being so straight forward, it's just that I've seen it happen several times.
miss.a.p1600
09-11-2022, 05:09 PM
^Make sure he names you as beneficiary on the life insurance
carmen_b
09-11-2022, 05:56 PM
^ I probably wouldn't have the nerve to do this. I really wouldn't. It's something to think about though .
Aurora_Sunset
09-12-2022, 07:30 AM
My anxiety is really bad today. To be fair, it's been ramping up for about a week now. For some reason, I've especially been getting some really bad anxiety surrounding driving lately. I was super nervous just going to the dentist today, and was so relieved to just get home and get out of the car. There's really nothing that has triggered this, as far as I can tell, so I don't know why...
WendiStarr
09-12-2022, 08:17 AM
So depressed over my housing situation. I called a nice looking mobile home, asked if it was available, and when she said it was, I said that I'm interested in buying it for cash. She asked about monthly income and I told her that it's roughly around x amount. She asked for w2 pay stubs. I told her that I'm self-employed (because I am 1099) and got rejected about that. I told her that I have more than enough in my bank account to pay in cash for the mobile home and could bring a bank statement to prove it. She said that if I'm self-employed I'm not considered to have a stable income. I said that I will be getting child support soon too and she just wasn't interested in hearing it. I feel so defeated. I need to somehow get a vanilla job and find childcare for my kids while also paying hotel costs. Childcare is going to be $600/week just for 2 kids. I'm feeling so hopeless today. The DV shelters still have no space. I checked today. I don't want to fake pay stubs because I get Medicaid and plus, that would be fraud. I'm not going to risk going to prison over that and my kids ending up in foster care. This year has honestly been the worst year of my life.
kimbe
09-12-2022, 11:36 AM
Recreational use for now ( within the next year ) . Such as towns 2-4 hours away.
I'm " meh " about the whole thing right now. It's all been a hassle and I agree with what you are saying about the risks ........
I personally see myself flying mostly commercial .
He's been pretty honest that it's not completely intuitive to him and he isn't picking it up as fast as he had hoped.
I will just see how it plays out. It NEVER saves $ ha. The gas alone is more than regular flights tend to cost .
You'd think .... oh .... it could balance * because * it's 100% flexible. Well .... not really ..... not in rain ,wind, OR clouds.
Ok, and the fact that he already admits this, is a good sign that he will know his limits. A pilot that knows his limitations, is usually a safe pilot!
kimbe
09-12-2022, 11:44 AM
I arrived at home one hour past midnight. It's too late when I had an appointment at 8..
chanzep
09-12-2022, 01:23 PM
I'm so sorry Wendi that's terrible. They acting crazy if you have the cash to buy. Your situation so unfair . How can they expect women to leave these monsters then not help. It makes me so mad. Why they can't transfer you to another state ? There are states paying people to move there. They should be helping mothers like yourself. I pray you get something very soon.
whirlerz
09-12-2022, 01:35 PM
Yes, I owned a mobile home, I ran into similar shit.. They didn't want to meet w/me, even tho I said I was interested & wanted to buy, had the full amount..
They wanted to show it to someone, after I said I wanted to buy it? Yeah ok sure..::)
You'll find something, Wendi my Love!
Hugs!
You know we're all praying for you!
chanzep
09-12-2022, 01:51 PM
got my nails done last Wednesday at a different salon and they are chipping already!. So annoying gels should last 2 weeks min. I wanted that to be my new salon because its next to a bunch of stores.oh well the nails lasted for the event i wanted them for.
buttonpop
09-12-2022, 02:33 PM
She asked about monthly income and I told her that it's roughly around x amount. She asked for w2 pay stubs. I told her that I'm self-employed (because I am 1099) and got rejected about that.
What a nightmare. It should be illegal to discriminate against 1099s. I have experienced the same issues even with my non-adult, professional day job where I'm an independent contractor too. You can always set up an LLC and pay yourself via W2. You can give your LLC a totally generic name and you don't have to reveal that you're the owner of the LLC too.
whirlerz
09-12-2022, 03:52 PM
Oh thanks for that, button!
whirlerz
09-12-2022, 03:55 PM
Whole Foods has just installed readers that scan your hand...for a chip, so you can pay that way.
Nope.
Not doing that.
Be gone Satan!
OMG are we dogs now!?
So NOT doing that either, I could see them putting other shit in there, no ty
indiegirl
09-12-2022, 05:17 PM
OMG are we dogs now!?
So NOT doing that either, I could see them putting other shit in there, no ty
I know. Amazon bought Whore Foods and they have been installing these creepy ass machines.
lilylilylily
09-12-2022, 06:33 PM
Petty annoyance..I like going to the Indian grocery especially for their condiments and sauces.. The woman cashier has to make a comment, "oh, those aren't too spicy for you?? All surprised. " I'm like I buy them all time and they are spicy enough and add flavor..she's like "yeah, they do"..why does she have to assume and make a comment about my purchase ugh i've been eating Indian food food for years
indiegirl
09-12-2022, 09:20 PM
Petty annoyance..I like going to the Indian grocery especially for their condiments and sauces.. The woman cashier has to make a comment, "oh, those aren't too spicy for you?? All surprised. " I'm like I buy them all time and they are spicy enough and add flavor..she's like "yeah, they do"..why does she have to assume and make a comment about my purchase ugh i've been eating Indian food food for years
Some people are such bitches in customer service in society. I hate people who negatively comment towards something I have to purchase at their sales job. (It is rare for me to even shop in person but when criticism happens, it is embarrassing)... Their job is to SELL not criticize.
yaya_cash
09-12-2022, 09:50 PM
I swear some guys are so annoying, even some married dude can't even invite me to a nice restaurant to get-to-know him and me and he wants to invite himself over prior. What a weirdo. Gross.
And the nerve to actually say I need to work myself up to a nice dinner, is hilarious. You really believe that I am that naiive or low esteem to have you over my place prior JUST to have dinner, with you. Weren't we able to attend the same academically challenging school? I might be a little DUMB, although not that dumb.
I believe I really need to work on myself. Because these dudes aren't it, and to even fix their mouth to say such foul crap.
lilylilylily
09-12-2022, 09:51 PM
Exactly! She could have said something positive about it or asked how I liked those sauces, but just to make a negative assumption..every other time I've gone in there it's been male cashiers, they are friendly yet don't comment on my purchases. For some reason female cashiers always try to be weird with me. Even while I was shopping she asked if I needed help, I politely said no, I enjoy browsing. She was like oh, ok. Like I should have accepted her help and it's weird to enjoy browsing. Ugh
chanzep
09-12-2022, 10:49 PM
And the nerve to actually say I need to work myself up to a nice dinner, is hilarious. You really believe that I am that naiive or low esteem to have you over my place prior JUST to have dinner, with you. Weren't we able to attend the same academically challenging school? I might be a little DUMB, although not that dumb.
I believe I really need to work on myself. Because these dudes aren't it, and to even fix their mouth to say such foul crap.
Ugh how rude . He's married he has to pay for extra female company. Plus he's married why does he think you would let him in your house or cook for him. Ridiculous .
miss.a.p1600
09-12-2022, 11:11 PM
And the nerve to actually say I need to work myself up to a nice dinner, is hilarious. You really believe that I am that naiive or low esteem to have you over my place prior JUST to have dinner, with you. Weren't we able to attend the same academically challenging school? I might be a little DUMB, although not that dumb.
I believe I really need to work on myself. Because these dudes aren't it, and to even fix their mouth to say such foul crap.
men tying to come to your house too soon scream “cheap predator”
Never let married men especially into your home. Can’t afford to have a wife going crazy and try to disturb the peace at your home.
kimbe
09-12-2022, 11:52 PM
got my nails done last Wednesday at a different salon and they are chipping already!. So annoying gels should last 2 weeks min. I wanted that to be my new salon because its next to a bunch of stores.oh well the nails lasted for the event i wanted them for.
That's way to early, I'd go somewhere else next time!
NitaBaby
09-13-2022, 02:14 AM
You ever give someone advice and then watch them complain for years about their decision - as if they never saw the outcome coming? You were told 12 different ways to leave that guy and now he’s your baby daddy. Live with it.
God, I know that’s harsh. But I am sick to death of the women I know complaining about a menace they saw coming.
Dreamqueen
09-13-2022, 01:44 PM
OMG are we dogs now!?
So NOT doing that either, I could see them putting other shit in there, no ty
Apparently.
Read "The Great Reset " by Charles Schwab
Everything is laid out on what they're planning on doing.
Agenda 2030 lays it out too.
carmen_b
09-13-2022, 02:34 PM
Since it was gel they might retouch for you.
got my nails done last Wednesday at a different salon and they are chipping already!. So annoying gels should last 2 weeks min. I wanted that to be my new salon because its next to a bunch of stores.oh well the nails lasted for the event i wanted them for.
indiegirl
09-13-2022, 02:50 PM
Apparently.
Read "The Great Reset " by Charles Schwab
Everything is laid out on what they're planning on doing.
Agenda 2030 lays it out too.
Agenda 2030 scares the shit out of me.
buttonpop
09-13-2022, 03:25 PM
Two of my sisters came to visit and stayed with me this past week, and they typically wake up at 5-7am when I typically wake up at 9-10am. All week they woke me up super early and we didn't get to bed until late every night too. I am running on half of the normal hours of sleep I need to feel decently rested. Today I can barely function. I'm guzzling coffee, but I have class until 10pm tonight and I'm actually scared to drive home and possibly fall asleep at the wheel. Naps make me *more* sleepy, and I can't sleep in until Thursday.
Ugh. I love my sisters and we had fun, but I sometimes wish they understood that I can't survive on such little sleep as they can. It's not something I can just push through, and it makes me enjoy all the fun stuff we did SO much less because I'm forcing myself to stay awake and feeling miserable on the inside. I need to sleep for a million hours to make up for all this sleep debt, but with family visiting me in town the last 3 out of 4 weekends I really need to catch up at work and school even more. Hermit mode activated.
NitaBaby
09-13-2022, 03:29 PM
My 12 year old got into a fight at school today. A girl tried to snatch her backpack off of her back, and she snatched it back. They ended up throwing punches, kicks, and rolling around on the concrete.
I'm livid.
This is literally 24 hours after a boy threatened my other two girls on the bus. He came to my car window after my babies got in the car and proceeded to tell me just how much he wanted to choke the shit out of them because one of them interrupted his conversation. This little motherfucker had to be no more than 10 years old.
I truly mean this: I hate living around my own people. The neighborhood, the school district, everything.... I hate it. I've never been in a fight a day in my fucking life - but my 12 year old has.
And I was probably only spared because I went to private school where nobody looked like me almost all the way up until high school. I'm getting them tf up out of here.
xxxGothBarbie
09-13-2022, 04:52 PM
I know that I'm a few days late on complaining about this but just the more I think about it it just irritates the hell out of me. So the friend I stayed with that paid me quite well to clean her apt totally tried micromanaging me and would even question my knowledge on how to get to a club by train I've done a million times before on my own. We got to the club and she spots a guy she finds cute, ok cool. I just commented on his style that I found was really cool because it reminded me of one of my favorite bands the lead singer and she tells me to back off in a serious tone. Umm I wasn't interested in him at all. Then she runs into my old crush (I'm not into anymore) and tells me how he's back with his ex and how he'd hooked up with some other girl at burningman a few days ago. Ok whatever.
So also during that stay , she also would try to almost convince me to spend more than I could afford on a single meal like she does. Ugh I like her but I doubt I could ever bunk with her again for that span of days. She was also bitching about how the mta isn't requiring mask wearing anymore. Just all of that irritates me.
carmen_b
09-13-2022, 04:59 PM
^ Having different spending categories can be so tricky !
Maybe suggest the happy hour instead of dinner at the place ? Ha !
LoveyD
09-13-2022, 06:09 PM
I'm sitting in a Carl's Jr drive-thru with my car turned off. I've been sitting here for at least 6 minutes. Wtf? Why can't they ask a person in front of me to pull over in the parking lot and wait for their food? And now that person in the Drive-Thru has the audacity to motion me to hurry up and come forward. What a joke.
indiegirl
09-13-2022, 09:25 PM
I'm sitting in a Carl's Jr drive-thru with my car turned off. I've been sitting here for at least 6 minutes. Wtf? Why can't they ask a person in front of me to pull over in the parking lot and wait for their food? And now that person in the Drive-Thru has the audacity to motion me to hurry up and come forward. What a joke.
Carls is NOTORIOUS near me for being so frickin long of a wait LOL! I come back there as a glutton for pain when I am desperate and want a great burger :P. It's like a 12 minute wait for a damn burger now but to be honest, their burgers are BOMB.
They suck by making you sit there. Mc Donald's motions you to park.