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lurkingtitties
11-10-2022, 04:09 PM
This golf course near me used to do bingo night.

No bingo tonight. :(
I thought I had my out of the house plans ha.

What's the age range for bingo night? If it's all older folks, is it awkward to be the youngest person there? Asking because I found a cribbage league near my house. I friggin love cribbage and nobody I know wants to play, but I'm hesitant to be 30+ years younger than everyone!

carmen_b
11-10-2022, 06:44 PM
^ I found it was all ages ( well 30 + I'd say ) . I only went one time.
I wish they were still doing it because it fell on Wed. so it was nice to have something mid - week.

The prizes were just things like appetizers , drinks, desserts , ha .

Staci
11-10-2022, 07:41 PM
Lol what does ducked mean?

Edit: I just googled it LOL. I'm so confused! haha
It's a 'thing'! LOL

Duck Duck Jeep, an act of kindness where Jeep owners place rubber ducks on each other's cars, was created by Allison Parliament in Ontario, Canada. Since its start in 2020, the movement has taken hold of the United States. As of Feb. 7, the “Duck Duck Jeep – Florida” Facebook group had about 16,900 members.

indiegirl
11-10-2022, 07:54 PM
It's a 'thing'! LOL

Legit! Since owning a jeep, I feel like a proud mom noticing so many jeeps and how popular they are nowadays compared to when I owned a mustang! Heck the gas price decline LOL! This is the final product of my jeep from exterior alterations from the past. I was told by 2 people it would look like a male owned car and I got it done anyways. I live for my happiness in my private life NOW. Not for other people's in my personal life.

https://i.ibb.co/qnfPGfx/IMG-6038.jpg (https://ibb.co/LPW2wWv)

Staci
11-10-2022, 08:03 PM
Legit! Since owning a jeep, I feel like a proud mom noticing so many jeeps and how popular they are nowadays compared to when I owned a mustang! Heck the gas price decline LOL! This is the final product of my jeep from exterior alterations from the past. I was told by 2 people it would look like a male owned car and I got it done any ways. I live for my happiness in my private life NOW. Not for other people's in my personal life.

https://i.ibb.co/qnfPGfx/IMG-6038.jpg (https://ibb.co/LPW2wWv)


Nice!

My brother has an older one - but is always complaining about what a gas-guzzler it is. Hopefully yours is better!

indiegirl
11-11-2022, 10:15 AM
MOTHERFUCKER CHARGED ME BACK!!!! Unreal! I had to deal with his coked up ass and I was soooo wary of Paypal. I am disputing this. Can you please tell me if I am in the wrong ladies with my dispute dealing with paypal. Obviously I fucked this man, I just need guidance to have my money. It was for 1200.

Update: I told him he was doing a charge back with his drivers license and reminded him how nice I was. The paypal case was closed. UNREAL!!!

WonderWoman0642
11-11-2022, 11:05 AM
MOTHERFUCKER CHARGED ME BACK!!!! Unreal! I had to deal with his coked up ass and I was soooo wary of Paypal. I am disputing this. Can you please tell me if I am in the wrong ladies with my dispute dealing with paypal. Obviously I fucked this man, I just need guidance to have my money. It was for 1200.

Update: I told him he was doing a charge back with his drivers license and reminded him how nice I was. The paypal case was closed. UNREAL!!!

OMG I'm getting angry just reading this! What a prick. I'm glad it was closed.

kimbe
11-12-2022, 01:25 AM
It sucks being on a strict diet when asked to go out for dinner..

JenniferNorth
11-12-2022, 06:40 AM
Upwork is dry when it comes to finding vanilla work. The company I work for lost one of our well-paying clients as of yesterday. I need to do something else to supplement income for our family and I am at such a loss. I want to cry. Do I create a Fiverr profile? Offer my writing services? I know Reiki sells on there and I was going to offer that as well, but the prospect of setting things up/the unpaid and unsure if it will take off situation has held me back. I feel like at this point I might as well try anything. The shitty thing is that since Covid, everyone wants to work at home doing vanilla jobs and everyone wants to be a writer. I should try to buckle down on creating an ebook or something. "Confessions of a former cam girl"?

I already have my 20 hour a week job and a writing job. I've gone looking for new work and I just feel upset at the current state of the economy and finances as it is.

Yesterday my husband said he had no desire to climb the ladder at his job - in a sense that is okay, since it isn't a great company and management sucks. I'd rather he work for the city or state and get paid more anyway.

But motherfucker, if you think for one minute it is okay to just muddle through in this damn job for another year at the same (or even slightly increased) wages, you've got another thing coming. Because it is SO not okay.

I just need to vent. Maybe if I make a list of possible solutions to my problem that will help (it usually has in the past).

miss.a.p1600
11-12-2022, 08:57 AM
^girl I know the mf feeling..

JenniferNorth
11-12-2022, 01:53 PM
^ I sent you a PM.

I'm determined to pull myself out of this shit mess, one way or another. Maybe I need to take some temporary shit job to get from point A to point B or start thinking more outside the box.

buttonpop
11-12-2022, 11:34 PM
I just spent $20 on the worst salad I have ever had. It was advertised as chicken, fruit, goat cheese, vinaigrette. Sounds good right?

It arrived with grapes coated in some kind of cinnamon flavoring (????), pine nuts (i specifically asked for no nuts), roasted squash (it was gross), a bright yellow curry/turmeric salad dressing smeared on two sides of the bowl (not mixed in), the tiniest bit of goat cheese (like the size of one penny), 3-4 giant pieces of lettuce that had not been chopped (inedible without making a huge mess), and chicken. It tasted super weird and the flavors did not go together AT ALL.


ugh i hate wasting money on bad restaurants. It's always places with good reviews too which is so confusing. my gf tried the salad and said it was gross too, so it wasn't just me. I used to love eating out.

WendiStarr
11-13-2022, 02:35 PM
The kids are being extra messy today. Either my oldest or my 2 year old left the fridge open while I was showering. Leftover spaghetti was all over the floor and my youngest was happily rolling around and playing in it. The entire leftovers from yesterday. That was a lot of spaghetti and was supposed to be our lunch today. Of course nobody knew who did it and no one helped me clean it up. My 2 year old had a tantrum because she wanted cookies instead of lunch and threw her cup so her entire drink went on the floor. I was like a maniac trying to clean it up because the floor under the table is carpet and her drink was red. She also asked for shredded cheese, only to take a couple bites and toss it to the floor, sending pieces of cheese flying. I had the fun task of picking that out of the carpet. Meanwhile my 2 year old who figured out how to remove her diaper decided to sneak off to the other room and fingerpaint the wall with poop. Even though it's freezing outside, the kids wanted ice cream from Dairy Queen. My oldest accidentally knocked my 2 year old's entire blizzard on the floor. She's old enough(13) to clean up the mess but she didn't even bother to help at all. I was just thinking,"Why do you guys keep frickin spilling stuff today?!Enough, please!" It's days like these that mommy wishes her tummy could tolerate alcohol because I would totally have a drink or 2 after they go to sleep tonight and call it a night.

Aurora_Sunset
11-13-2022, 03:02 PM
Fucking fuckhead neighbor with the constant car alarm that he HAS to be doing on purpose is back on his bullshit the last two nights. I begged my husband yesterday to PLEASE get in touch with the office about it, because he has the videos of it going off in the middle of the night as well as the license plate number, and I'm always at work when the office is open. Of course he "forgot" again.

I'm so goddam tired of this. I don't understand how no one else has said anything/done anything about it yet.

I have one of those devices in my car that shatters windows with a pulse so you can escape if you're trapped in your car. I'm on the verge of taking it to his car windows, swear to fuck.

Aurora_Sunset
11-13-2022, 03:53 PM
I continue to be delighted and amazed that I'm apparently the only person in this household who knows how to use a plunger.

Genoveve
11-13-2022, 06:01 PM
Fucking fuckhead neighbor with the constant car alarm that he HAS to be doing on purpose is back on his bullshit the last two nights. I begged my husband yesterday to PLEASE get in touch with the office about it, because he has the videos of it going off in the middle of the night as well as the license plate number, and I'm always at work when the office is open. Of course he "forgot" again.

I'm so goddam tired of this. I don't understand how no one else has said anything/done anything about it yet.

I have one of those devices in my car that shatters windows with a pulse so you can escape if you're trapped in your car. I'm on the verge of taking it to his car windows, swear to fuck.

How many homes is the car visible to when it's parked? Like is it really out in the open where multiple places have a good view of it? Because if it's somewhere where there's no security cameras on it I'd slash all 4 tires. If there are though I'd wear a disguise and figure out how to make sure I wasn't leaving my house in it in case your spot is within the security camera views. Ring lights are so common now.

lynn2009
11-13-2022, 08:10 PM
Aurora, does the office have an email you could use?

indiegirl
11-14-2022, 02:19 PM
The payment the guy charged back on went through to my bank account and now it says I owe paypal the money back to them and it has a hold and pending on it. Does this mean he tried to do another chargeback again or paypal is holding it for a certain period of time? I tried to contact paypal 3 times and they don't seem to have people live on the phone available anymore? I'm so irritated.

Edit: It seems he did another charge back on it. I fucking hate men. How have other ladies resolved this?

Staci
11-14-2022, 02:48 PM
The payment the guy charged back on went through to my bank account and now it says I owe paypal the money back to them and it has a hold and pending on it. Does this mean he tried to do another chargeback again or paypal is holding it for a certain period of time? I tried to contact paypal 3 times and they don't seem to have people live on the phone available anymore? I'm so irritated.

Edit: It seems he did another charge back on it. I fucking hate men. How have other ladies resolved this?
Since Paypal doesn't allow charges for adult work (including legal SW like phone sex) - you may not have any options. When they have suspected people of using it for this purpose, they have shut down their Paypal accounts and held their funds for 180 days.

If you google you'll find many posts similar to this one:
https://www.reddit.com/r/paypal/comments/sm2cc7/i_literally_got_limited_for_the_past_5_months_for/

indiegirl
11-14-2022, 03:21 PM
Since Paypal doesn't allow charges for adult work (including legal SW like phone sex) - you may not have any options. When they have suspected people of using it for this purpose, they have shut down their Paypal accounts and held their funds for 180 days.

If you google you'll find many posts similar to this one:
https://www.reddit.com/r/paypal/comments/sm2cc7/i_literally_got_limited_for_the_past_5_months_for/

I haven't received that letter yet but I have used it for years for mostly hotel purchases and random items any normal person would buy. I probably have a handful of transactions using them from random people over a year. Do you think this would strike a red flag if they go through my transactions. I legit just bought medical equipment for school practice I need on paypal this morning lol.

Staci
11-14-2022, 03:33 PM
I haven't received that letter yet but I have used it for years for mostly hotel purchases and random items any normal person would buy. I probably have a handful of transactions using them from random people over a year. Do you think this would strike a red flag if they go through my transactions. I legit just bought medical equipment for school practice I need on paypal this morning lol.
I think when there are charge-backs, they may scrutinize accounts more closely.

miss.a.p1600
11-14-2022, 04:25 PM
The payment the guy charged back on went through to my bank account and now it says I owe paypal the money back to them and it has a hold and pending on it. Does this mean he tried to do another chargeback again or paypal is holding it for a certain period of time? I tried to contact paypal 3 times and they don't seem to have people live on the phone available anymore? I'm so irritated.

Edit: It seems he did another charge back on it. I fucking hate men. How have other ladies resolved this?

I used to run a vanilla business with PayPal and if you receive a charge back they will deduct (or freeze) the said amount from either your pp balance or withdraw it from your linked bank account and hold it until the issue is resolved.

if it’s resolved in your favor the money is returned to you

if it’s not in your favor that money is not returned to you

If I ever did have a cunty Karen or Chad dispute the charges, 90%+ of the time I had outcomes in my favor because I had a website stating clearly what the buyer would get/not get in a TOS

as Staci mentioned with adult work there is more of a grey area (because you have nothing backing up what that transaction was for) plus PP is hard on people using their merchant platform for adult transactions.

I hope you get a positive resolution bc it’s a bitch move for dude to reverse charges like that but unfortunately you’re now at the mercy of PP resolution team

Staci
11-14-2022, 04:41 PM
as Staci mentioned with adult work there is more of a grey area (because you have nothing backing up what that transaction was for) plus PP is hard on people using their merchant platform for adult transactions.
I didn't mean to imply it was a grey area. It is my understanding that SW is a hard NO as far as PayPal is concerned.

WendiStarr
11-15-2022, 06:07 AM
^ Yeah, payPal is anti-sw. I got permanently banned 12 years ago for accepting PayPal for Skype shows. An asshat did a charge back, must've told them that it was for an xxx cam show, and they permanently banned me from using PayPal.

I need my stupid period to stop already so that I can get back to creating content.

Dreamqueen
11-15-2022, 11:09 AM
There's no place to sit at the car wash that I take my car to.

So, yesterday while I was there, I found an isolated place behind the mall.
As SOON as I sat down to read my book, some woman appeared and sat down right next to me.
She lit up a cigarette (my biggest pet peeve), and started playing Russian tv on her phone without ear buds.
Why?
Oh, why do these things happen every time I go out?
Oh, I know.
Maybe because people are such inconsiderate twats.
Yeah, that must be why.

Aurora_Sunset
11-15-2022, 03:17 PM
How many homes is the car visible to when it's parked? Like is it really out in the open where multiple places have a good view of it? Because if it's somewhere where there's no security cameras on it I'd slash all 4 tires. If there are though I'd wear a disguise and figure out how to make sure I wasn't leaving my house in it in case your spot is within the security camera views. Ring lights are so common now.

It's right in the front of our building, which is close to the entrance of the apartment complex, so it's fairly visible. I don't know if there are any security cameras facing it, but it's always parked under a light. I haven't gotten close enough to the car to check if it has a dash cam - one of my thoughts was that he's doing this on purpose to try to lure someone into vandalizing his car and then suing them/cashing out. But I'm very close to saying fuck it and doing it anyway. I'm so tired (figuratively and literally) of this.


Aurora, does the office have an email you could use?

They don't have an email. And they rarely even answer their phone. -_- I can't wait to be out of this place.

LoveyD
11-15-2022, 06:42 PM
Men at safe parking who tried to strike up conversations with me. No, gross men, I'm not going to get into your car or truck with you and give you a bj. Get that fantasy out of your head right now. This is why I don't talk to men. Because if I give them literally 10 seconds of my attention, they think I have the hots for them or something stupid like that.. If they ask me a question or make a comment, I literally grunt at them. Grunt grunt grunt maybe it will help them understand me better LOL

LoveyD
11-16-2022, 07:43 PM
I had my job interview today with the doordash warehouse place. Everything was going fine until I found out how much they're offering per hour. $16.50. . F****** ridiculous. Why would I spend 40 straight hours a week to make what I already make now? Why would I sacrifice a flexible schedule like that? After the interview I sent them an email telling them that $16.50 is not a living wage. Times that by 40 hours a week and it's still nothing. I told them that they would have to start me at twice that amount for me to even consider it, and even that's not a living wage for this town. Unbelievable.

indiegirl
11-17-2022, 08:37 AM
I had my job interview today with the doordash warehouse place. Everything was going fine until I found out how much they're offering per hour. $16.50. . F****** ridiculous. Why would I spend 40 straight hours a week to make what I already make now? Why would I sacrifice a flexible schedule like that? After the interview I sent them an email telling them that $16.50 is not a living wage. Times that by 40 hours a week and it's still nothing. I told them that they would have to start me at twice that amount for me to even consider it, and even that's not a living wage for this town. Unbelievable.

I feel this with every fiber of my being living in California, meanwhile some places here have the sheer audacity to pay people 8-9 an hour. How do they plan on people surviving here with pay like that?

carmen_b
11-17-2022, 08:43 AM
^ What exactly does the doordash warehouse do ?

Doesn't the food move straight from a restaurant to the customer via driver ?

LoveyD
11-17-2022, 08:44 AM
^^ it's exactly the reason why I am homeless! Everybody wants to charge $1,800 or above for a one bedroom, but nobody wants to pay over $15 an hour. Then we wonder why people are out on the streets. I mean yeah I could rent a room from somebody for $800 a month, but I don't want to take the risk of again of having another psychotic housemate. My safety is priority. Which is why I sleep in a safe parking lot every night LOL it's f****** bs.

carmen_b
11-17-2022, 08:46 AM
^ Maybe level up your car living game with a Van eventually ! More space !
You may get to a point where you've had it but I could totally see a larger type space working too.

I'm scared to rent a room too ( with a commitment of more than a few month anyway ) just because it's so HARD sharing space with others . I don't really think most humans are nuts it's just hard with the quirkiness of room mates. A big thing for me is I HATE having anyone not actively paying in the space haha ! See your boyfriend or girlfriend ELSEWHERE please ..... anywhere they are not lingering HERE .

Obviously I'm leaning towards solo living .......

indiegirl
11-17-2022, 08:46 AM
Ughhh this is me every time my roommates are home "Why can't you just go home?" meanwhile they are paying rent to live here LOL.

LoveyD
11-17-2022, 08:48 AM
^ What exactly does the doordash warehouse do ?

Doesn't the food move straight from a restaurant to the customer via driver ?

The doordash job requires you to receive and package orders, then send them out for delivery. You don't actually have to drive or anything, you just fill the orders. It's more like a convenience mart than a restaurant type deal.

LoveyD
11-17-2022, 08:49 AM
^ Maybe level up your car living game with a Van eventually ! More space !
You may get to a point where you've had it but I could totally see a larger type space working too.

I'm scared to rent a room too ( with a commitment of more than a few month anyway ) just because it's so HARD sharing space with others . I don't really think most humans are nuts it's just hard with the quirkiness of room mates. A big thing for me is I HATE having anyone not actively paying in the space haha ! See your boyfriend or girlfriend ELSEWHERE please ..... anywhere they are not lingering HERE .

Obviously I'm leaning towards solo living .......

I still owe money on my car right now. And I don't want a van. Vans seem to get targeted more by police.

I want a home. With four walls and a kitchen and a bedroom and a bathroom.

I just don't want to live with people I don't know. I mean it's fun when you're younger and in college but when you're older you need space. And privacy.

carmen_b
11-17-2022, 08:50 AM
I guess with the van it sucks gas $ too for delivery work which would not be ideal.

carmen_b
11-17-2022, 08:51 AM
I want a magic room mate like of my first ones in Hawaii. A college professor just LIVED on campus it seemed like.
I don't know why he was out 12 hours a day but what a great room mate !!

Then this other room mate I had there said she worked 9 - 5 outside the house so I was thinking " great this is a fit " . I was doing my massage thing like Noon to 8:30ish! I figured I'd have quiet mornings M- F and then no less than 2-3 weeks later she didn't work 9-5 at the office anymore and was working from home 25-35 of those hours .
:/
Liar ! Ha.


Ughhh this is me every time my roommates are home "Why can't you just go home?" meanwhile they are paying rent to live here LOL.

carmen_b
11-17-2022, 08:53 AM
Plus I have room mate ptsd anyway .....

I talked to my friend V about her step kid situation and hers is that she has ONE ( her partner has two kids ) that she doesn't care for.
She is just like " yeah it's like having the worlds most annoying room mate " .
It was like ..... WOW ..... I hadn't thought of it before !!
I didn't dislike J 's daughter but found the challenge of sharing space up there for sure.

V's is the oldest of her partner and she's almost 18 !
I told her to plant the seed now to move out right around turning 18 but of course she had already been working on it !

WonderWoman0642
11-17-2022, 11:31 AM
It snowed way more than expected and the plow buried my car. I hate shoveling.

carmen_b
11-17-2022, 11:37 AM
^ I just got one of those scraper and brush sticks.
I'm dreading it. I feel like I WANT to be near my family but it's very uncommon I'd be somewhere in winter.
I've avoided 7 of the last 10 winters.

WonderWoman0642
11-17-2022, 12:02 PM
^ I don't blame you. I like having four seasons but we really got dumped on. I was really enjoying the fall, and winter just came overnight. I'm not sure why but it makes me feel so anxious.

kimbe
11-17-2022, 12:05 PM
^ I'm definitely not a winter person either..

Dreamqueen
11-17-2022, 12:05 PM
I feel this with every fiber of my being living in California, meanwhile some places here have the sheer audacity to pay people 8-9 an hour. How do they plan on people surviving here with pay like that?


^^ it's exactly the reason why I am homeless! Everybody wants to charge $1,800 or above for a one bedroom, but nobody wants to pay over $15 an hour. Then we wonder why people are out on the streets. I mean yeah I could rent a room from somebody for $800 a month, but I don't want to take the risk of again of having another psychotic housemate. My safety is priority. Which is why I sleep in a safe parking lot every night LOL it's f****** bs.

These rents are criminal.
Every so often (usually when my stalker neighbor has a day off and is home), I take a look at what's for rent, just to get away from her.

1 bedrooms start at $2000.
2 bedrooms at $2500.
To live in the desert?
A place so hot that you can't even go out for 6 months?
Where your a.c. bill is over $500 per month?
Nah. Not worth it, imo.
My new neighbors are paying $2000. The place is a dump.
The previous tenant was paying $1000, but destroyed the place when he got caught for stealing.

My goal is to rent a house.
In the past, it's been where I'm most comfortable.
NO more common walls!!

The only hope is for the market to crash like it did in 08'

LoveyD
11-17-2022, 12:11 PM
^^ the thing is, 20 years ago, the quality of life was way better in my city. There weren't nearly as many people, and the rent was actually affordable. I don't want to pay more when the reality is that the quality of life has decreased. I'm looking to move elsewhere eventually. It depends on what life has in store. If my acting/production assistant gigs pick up and I need to be in La a lot, then I'll probably move to LA area.

WendiStarr
11-17-2022, 06:28 PM
I hate this 30 degree weather. I went out at 6pm to take the trash out and my feet are still freezing despite 2 pairs of socks.

miss.a.p1600
11-17-2022, 08:59 PM
L tried to guilt me for buying food for myself at 8:30pm and not asking him if he wanted me to buy him anything

Firstly, I didn’t hassle you when you bought your kids food yesterday and didn’t ask me if I was hungry. Nor did I hassle you when you cooked food for your kids at your ex wife’s house and didn’t ask if I was hungry or if it was appropriate to traipse to the broads house cooking like you live there n shit.

Secondly I assumed you already ate. It’s 8:30pm for crying out loud.

So unless you are paying me to buy you food, fooh!

I am not your mom. I am not your free DoorDash slave.

WendiStarr
11-18-2022, 08:30 AM
I'm supposed to have a babysitter today, arriving at noon. I've not heard any confirmation yesterday or today that they're still coming and it's making me feel frustrated and stressed. I need to work today and this weekend. Finding a reliable babysitter is hard enough as it is. I have a high need 2 year old and a 9 month old.

miss.a.p1600
11-18-2022, 10:35 AM
Plus I have room mate ptsd anyway .....

I talked to my friend V about her step kid situation and hers is that she has ONE ( her partner has two kids ) that she doesn't care for.
She is just like " yeah it's like having the worlds most annoying room mate " .
It was like ..... WOW ..... I hadn't thought of it before !!
I didn't dislike J 's daughter but found the challenge of sharing space up there for sure.

V's is the oldest of her partner and she's almost 18 !
I told her to plant the seed now to move out right around turning 18 but of course she had already been working on it !

living with a dude …. And his kids …. Has given me roommate ptsd

Kids period (especially when you can’t discipline them/enforce major rules for them, make them get jobs and pay rent, clean up, or have much control when they’re In your space) IS beyond challenging

Never again!!!!!

Dreamqueen
11-18-2022, 10:37 AM
^^ the thing is, 20 years ago, the quality of life was way better in my city. There weren't nearly as many people, and the rent was actually affordable. I don't want to pay more when the reality is that the quality of life has decreased. I'm looking to move elsewhere eventually. It depends on what life has in store. If my acting/production assistant gigs pick up and I need to be in La a lot, then I'll probably move to LA area.


I hear ya.
20 years ago I lived in the desert ( or should I say, "Tried" to.)
Everyone was paying $600-$800 for a 2 bedroom. I got in at $900, which was half of what my rent was in the city.
Those same apts, which are now condos, now go for $2000, and up.
Is it worth it?
Not when the walls are so thin you can hear your downstairs neighbor cough/ or log into his computer to check email. "You've got mail" used to wake me up every morning because he would get home from working the night shift.
There is also SO much crime in that complex.
I could go on and on.

If people's pay was more than rent, than ok...I guess.

But, what you get for the money paid is bogus.
I still don't have a working heater.
Not going to push the issue, because I just use a space heater for the short time that it's cold here. And yes, I'm aware that the landlord does need to provide heat.

The alternative would be that they terminate my lease because I'm a 'problem' and without a reliable car, I'd be out on the street.

miss.a.p1600
11-18-2022, 11:12 AM
I'm supposed to have a babysitter today, arriving at noon. I've not heard any confirmation yesterday or today that they're still coming and it's making me feel frustrated and stressed. I need to work today and this weekend. Finding a reliable babysitter is hard enough as it is. I have a high need 2 year old and a 9 month old.

Most of them probably aren’t reliable. Especially if theyre teens or early 20s - this group is notorious for no show no calls

Treat it like dating - qualify them and keep a rotation of 2 or 3 on deck.