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Glamourmilf
04-16-2016, 11:26 AM
Well 1st test is the seating plan all the tables have non visible numbers so we can deliver the food too and so the hostess can seat people, also then they have seat numbers which are different for each aisle, then I did a hostess workshop, I have to know the whole menu off by heart and did a test describing each food item its a nightmare, I could not remember and have to take it again, then I have to learn their computer system, and I have a test to do on the bar? and more coming Im dreading it, maybe its just this chain but they expect all staff to know everything annoying.

Wow! Too much work for me.
But it makes sense in the eyes of the owner, I suppose.
I never really thought of the training part of it being so detailed. Mainly because anyplace I go and ask a question about the service, or even directions to get there, employees never know the answer.

miss.a.p1600
04-16-2016, 11:51 AM
^^^^^^ I'm going through something similar now Aurora sunset.

It's hard going up against your family especially the older ones. In my culture you're supposed to respect your elders and part of that means not talking back to them/not arguing with them.

I have a hard time now with my extended family and their inability to remain tactful (talking shit about me to the kid) and having age appropriate convos around the kid (like discussing rapes and murders and teen pregnancy, etc). I complain to them and it falls on deaf ears. But I'm at the point now where I was when I was taking anti-depression meds that gave me the confidence to say what was on my mind regardless. And I made ultimatums, like either clean up your conversations / hold your tongue or I'm not bringing the kid around. Which I'm doing today so crossing my fingers everyone remains calm and there's a resolution

I guess there are certain situations or certain times you have to respectfully take a stand (especially if they're doing something that hurt others or themselves). For me, people negatively influencing the kid and talking negatively about me to the kid - it's upsetting to me especially when my own family does this and I have said before this is unacceptable to me yet they keep doing it. I may have to significantly reduce my time spent with them if they don't respect my wishes.

chanzep
04-16-2016, 12:19 PM
Wow! Too much work for me.
But it makes sense in the eyes of the owner, I suppose.
I never really thought of the training part of it being so detailed. Mainly because anyplace I go and ask a question about the service, or even directions to get there, employees never know the answer.

Yeah too much work for me too! Considering you rely on tips! It's hard work, I'm thinking of going back to waitressing at a club , easier and I can slut it up with my look!.

chanzep
04-16-2016, 12:21 PM
I hate applying for jobs then waiting for them to get back to me, like one job just got back to me from like 2 months ago!, I know how I ended back at the club, eurgh the vanilla world.

Aurora_Sunset
04-16-2016, 04:33 PM
I asked a friend almost a month ago if she would go out with me this weekend. It's a HUGE party weekend for the town, and I normally don't participate because downtown is cray-cray but I decided I wanted to go out in the comfort of friends this year and just experience it a little bit for once. She promised she would go out with me, and was even the one who reminded me about it last weekend, implying she was still gonna do it. I texted her yesterday about it, haven't gotten any response and have been trying to call all day with no luck. What the the hell? :(

I normally don't mind going out by myself but it can get legitimately dangerous this weekend.

SweetJulia
04-16-2016, 05:47 PM
My grandma constantly sends the most racist, anti-immigrant, and Islamaphoic email chains. Everyone talks about how uncomfortable it is behind her back, but it's one of those things that no one wants to "call grandma on" because it will start an irreversible family war.
That sucks but I'm secretly impressed you're grandma is that internet savvy. Not impressed by the racist thing for the record

ScarletKitten
04-16-2016, 07:06 PM
It's because some SC patrons are that pathetic & only see you as boner topping, not as a human with feelings & a life outside of the club. I watched a guy trying to gas up a hot blonde dancer with free shots b/c she was waiting for her ride home with her suitcase next to her...He was obviously hoping to sidetrack her to his place. (Joke was on him, that hottie is a Size 1 but can hold her liquor like a Russian guy.)

(Don't feel bad about being annoyed by people like that, they are the same types that would attack you if you got stuck in an alleyway with them. Not every person is a shining star of kindness and light.)

On a less tough note, most of the dancers I know beat all the stereotypes (Uni. degrees, husbands, kids, mortgages) but it's not good to brag about in the club. These days I think bragging about one's good fortune is more likely to invite predators into one's life than admirers ....

LMFAO @ "boner topping"! :laughing:

Aurora_Sunset
04-17-2016, 07:59 AM
People who ask me how I lost weight and got fitter, and then they totally ignore half of what I say, try to lose weight as well, and then bitch to me about how it's not working for them. "Must just be my fat genes." Or it must be the fact that you're not listening... One friend thinks she can get away with just exercising at the barest newbie level but not give a fuck about her diet. Another thinks she can just eat Lean Cuisines.

I know I shouldn't get too pissy cuz it honestly took me a long time to admit and embrace the fact that weight loss came from a combination of exercise and diet. I used to be the "I'll just exercise" person, and finally realized that even going to the gym 5-6 days a week wasn't netting me any weight-loss without looking at my diet. It was a hard wake-up call, but when I try to explain that to anyone else, their eyes glaze over and they don't fully comprehend, believe, or accept that basic exercise is not burning off enough calories to keep stuffing your face with Taco Bell every day.

The girl who just eats Lean Cuisines went to the doctor this past week to get blood work because she's been bitching about how she's constantly tired since starting to diet. I was like "Well... ya know, maybe it's the fact that you're been skipping breakfast and then only eating highly processed microwave meals for 2 months." "No, I haven't been doing it long enough for anything bad to happen! There's clearly something wrong with me. I should feel better since starting to lose weight." Um... not if that weight-loss is the result of basically starving yourself of all real nutrition... You could eat like that for only 2 weeks and feel the shitty effects - it's not surprising that 2 months of that is pulling you down. She even said when she started it that she knew it wasn't healthy and she would probably become anemic. Now that it's actually happening, she refuses to attribute it to her shitty diet - no, it's clearly forces beyond her control. -_-

In the same vein: people who suffer from anxiety and demand that you tiptoe around their mental anguish but they constantly pump their bodies full of highly processed food, caffeine, and other stimulants. They lecture you on how anxiety is totally "all biological"..... but the second you suggest that maybe they could mitigate the severity by changing their diet, they fly off the handle about how that wouldn't change anything because it's just something "you have." And yes, I completely understand that simply changing your diet won't "cure" anxiety and it's far more complicated than that. I'm not trying to insensitively say "if you just did this, your anxiety would magically go away," but there are certain things that definitely help with the physical symptoms. You can't claim something is "chemical" and then turn around and act like it's mystic voodoo beyond your control the second someone suggests a way to alter your chemicals a bit.

22lligm
04-17-2016, 06:28 PM
God dammit I am so irritated with this customer right now. He had texted me two weeks ago saying he wanted to come in last Sunday and see me, but to not text him again (he's married). So I figured I won't text him again unless he texts me first. Sunday comes along and I never hear from him at all. I normally hate Sundays because they're so slow so I thought I'm not going in unless he texts to confirm he will be there... I don't hear from him so I don't go in. Then I took this weekend off because of some issues & I just get a text from that customer saying he was there last Sunday but I wasn't, and then he was there again this Friday and I wasn't there. OMG! Why can you not text me beforehand? I don't live in the club! Now he's saying tonight is his last night he has free and why am I not working tonight blablabla. Umm because it's 8pm, I have a torn hamstring, i've been eating pizza all day, my hair is greasy.. I am not prepared to work! I just told him to text me in advance next time he has a free night so I will for sure be there. What an idiot.

ETA: Omg & now I ask if he will be free at all this week and he says 'yes' and then I say 'ok text me before and i'll for sure be there' and then he says 'okay see you in a few weeks'. What?! I can't with this guy lol this is too annoying.

Spinnerette
04-17-2016, 07:22 PM
I'm extra burned out and I always try to take a break and come back and hope that my attitude about interacting with idiots will have changed, but nope. Never happens. I hate these men too much. Each and every last one of them from the opening correspondence to when I decide that the money is no longer worth the blood-boiling frustration. This should be SO SIMPLE, but they make it so hard.

I don't have it in me anymore to be nice. I'm too jaded.

Genoveve
04-17-2016, 08:21 PM
I love how I added this hot guy to my snapchat so I started making sure I looked a lot better in my snaps, then the guy hardly ever watched them so I forget about it and go back to looking like crap and now he watches them regularly. He probably enjoys a good shit show just like everybody else.

Glamourmilf
04-17-2016, 10:00 PM
Wow! Too much work for me.
But it makes sense in the eyes of the owner, I suppose.
I never really thought of the training part of it being so detailed. Mainly because anyplace I go and ask a question about the service, or even directions to get there, employees never know the answer.

Case in point: I was in Walgreen's today, and asked the saleswoman what a certain item was, and what it was used for?
She picked it up looked at it, and said, " I haven't a clue." And handed it back to me. *LeSigh

xStacey
04-17-2016, 11:30 PM
I hate all-nighters...

xStacey
04-18-2016, 02:46 PM
I see some ads for law-related summer jobs and they're ridiculous. Intership, 35 hours per week for $580 ? Lol seriously. I did not work this hard and all those sleepless nights to make less than I could make in 6 hours at the club or with a high school degree.

whirlerz
04-18-2016, 04:00 PM
Yrs ago, I worked in legal related offices..I remember interviewing, & it seemed like they no a/c? In Chicago, in the height of summer? & of course they wear suits, how can they stand it? Cheap AF.

kaninchen
04-18-2016, 05:03 PM
I had an excellent customer on Saturday who gave me his card and wants to take me shopping. The only catch is that I haven't seen any customers OTC with my current boyfriend and I'm not sure how to navigate it this time. Should I tell him some old rich dude is going to the mall with me and then spend an hour reassuring him about it? Should I just say I'm going to the mall with my friend Tiffany? I don't want to lie and I'm not going to do anything that would make my boyfriend upset anyway, but I also don't want to be upfront and then have to potentially listen to him whine.

I really hate how this is even something I have to think about. I know my boyfriend isn't sitting around analyzing how his work might make me feel.

BambiCutie
04-18-2016, 05:24 PM
Water heater busted causing a flood in the garage and set my roomy in an asshole mood, after rushing around the house to shut the water off. -fml

BarbieNYC
04-18-2016, 08:33 PM
I finally got my car back from my crazy mother.

And now the sound system isn't working -_- my favorite thing about driving this car was being able to drive fast and blast music in it

chanzep
04-18-2016, 09:31 PM
City flooded!, wanted to look for a new job today. I'm suppose to go to other job tomorrow for more training and test, don't think I can be there anymore. Ugh and I feel bad now for doing a week training like I wasted their time or something!, I shouldn't they have high turnover and have been skipping major parts of my training hence why I don't feel comfortable grr. Hope I can find a decent club to wait at.

miss.a.p1600
04-19-2016, 07:19 AM
I had an excellent customer on Saturday who gave me his card and wants to take me shopping. The only catch is that I haven't seen any customers OTC with my current boyfriend and I'm not sure how to navigate it this time. Should I tell him some old rich dude is going to the mall with me and then spend an hour reassuring him about it? Should I just say I'm going to the mall with my friend Tiffany? I don't want to lie and I'm not going to do anything that would make my boyfriend upset anyway, but I also don't want to be upfront and then have to potentially listen to him whine.

I really hate how this is even something I have to think about. I know my boyfriend isn't sitting around analyzing how his work might make me feel.

I would personally tell the customer he can take you shopping if your hot friend Tiffany can come along too. It's a crazy world and you don't know him like that yet. If he's really rich it should be no problem. Then I'd tell the boyfriend you an Tiffany are going shopping and if you have to tell the boyfriend, which I would not, but If you must be open with him beforehand then I'd spin it so I'm shopping with my gf and rich dude randomly saw y'all and offered to pay the tab.

This way use a real "Tiffany" as your cover and your safety net.

kaninchen
04-19-2016, 11:56 AM
I would personally tell the customer he can take you shopping if your hot friend Tiffany can come along too. It's a crazy world and you don't know him like that yet. If he's really rich it should be no problem. Then I'd tell the boyfriend you an Tiffany are going shopping and if you have to tell the boyfriend, which I would not, but If you must be open with him beforehand then I'd spin it so I'm shopping with my gf and rich dude randomly saw y'all and offered to pay the tab.

This way use a real "Tiffany" as your cover and your safety net.

This is actually great advice except for the fact that Tiffany is my co-worker (I have no civilian friends in this city because I'm a grumpy loner tbh) and I would NEVER introduce her to any of my customers because she would steal them, lol.

Aurora_Sunset
04-19-2016, 12:43 PM
Today, someone at the animal shelter started freaking out because they went into a room with a cat who is FIV+. She came out and started ranting about how we should put a sign on the outside of the door to warn them, and "omg, am I going to be contagious to my cats at home now!?"

I had to try to explain to her, without sounding too annoyed, that just like HIV, you cannot "catch" FIV just from being in the same room. And humans can't even be carriers of feline immunodeficiency virus. It only passes from cat to cat through biting/scratching or mating - basically blood and sex... just like HIV.

Even if I cut her a break on the cat-to-human thing, since some diseases can cross species, it's still not like the virus just fucking floats around the air. Does she think that's how it works with humans who have HIV? People are dumb.

Glamourmilf
04-19-2016, 12:51 PM
This is actually great advice except for the fact that Tiffany is my co-worker (I have no civilian friends in this city because I'm a grumpy loner tbh) and I would NEVER introduce her to any of my customers because she would steal them, lol.

I'll go with you. From one loner to another... We don't even have to talk. Just have him pay for my gas and one pretty item. Call me.

Aurora_Sunset
04-19-2016, 04:44 PM
Why is my apartment so hot!? I've checked the vents, and yes it's cold air coming out; nevertheless, the temperature in my apartment keeps rising further into the 80s. I don't recall it being like this last summer...

If this is what it's doing when the temp outside is only in the 80s, I am terrified of what actual summer is going to bring.

Boob-sweat ftw...

Glamourmilf
04-19-2016, 05:42 PM
Why is my apartment so hot!? I've checked the vents, and yes it's cold air coming out; nevertheless, the temperature in my apartment keeps rising further into the 80s. I don't recall it being like this last summer...

If this is what it's doing when the temp outside is only in the 80s, I am terrified of what actual summer is going to bring.

Boob-sweat ftw...

I have the same situation where I'm living. it's 90 degrees outside, and it's sweltering inside my room. Don't really know why, since it's been 90 before, and the house usually stays cool. 3 fans on me, PLUS the a/c during my cam shows.:hot: Ugh! I HATE hot weather!
Not looking forward to the long, hot summer that will be here soon.:'(

SnuffleUffleGrass
04-20-2016, 08:29 AM
I am so pissed off. My psychopathic half-brother called his (estranged) middle son last night. It was more of the typical ego-centric BS my half-brother is famous for despite him having trashed his life & hurt his kids via neglect. I'm sure he was fishing for $$$ from his own kid. (BTW his middle son doesn't want contact with his dad but I guess the youngest son gave dad the phone #)

I have a sort-of parental role to my nephew so this all aggravates me. ugh. Thank God middle son is too smart to fall for his dad's BS

SweetJulia
04-20-2016, 10:32 AM
I have a ton of shows and a photo shoot scheduled tomorrow that's about half my weekly income and I'm going to be so exhausted. Also means I'll have to use self tanner and conserve my energy today. I've also had nothing but soda and candy for the last three days and about ten hours of sleep, no matter how many sleeping pills I take. My car's finally going to be fixed next week, only taking them almost a month. They didn't even touch it the first week cuz insurance was so slow. I just want my poor baby back :(

Glamourmilf
04-20-2016, 08:58 PM
It pisses me off when I am paying for my items in either the grocery store, or the drugstore(CVS, Walgreen's, etc), and the checkout girl stops, picks up something, and comments on it. Like what she thinks. I don't CARE! Put my stuff in my bag, let me pay for it, so I can get the f.ck out of here!


It also pisses me off when I call on a rental, and they tell me that a week ago it's been rented. Then take down the ad!
I even gave my app in and was accepted in one of the places I looked at! "Oh, we lost your number, so we rented it!"
Piss off!

DonaDiabla
04-21-2016, 04:19 AM
That guy on Niteflirt who thinks that screaming and ranting is how a maledom should act :)

Aurora_Sunset
04-21-2016, 08:07 AM
I hate when people exasperatedly say shit like "I wish I could just be a prostitute/stripper. I'd totally be cool with just selling my body at this point." No you don't and no you aren't, otherwise what's stopping you? It's one of those statements like "I wish I could just be a lesbian" that ignorant people make when they're fed up with men and apparently under he impression that lesbian relationships aren't real relationships with disagreements and hard work the same way heterosexual relationships work. Just "going off and being a ho" is like this caricature in people's heads of this total "fuck it all" move that you just "do" one day cuz you're over "actually" working - not a real job with its own set of bullshit and required business, financial, and social know-how... If it's oh-so easy and you're so ready for it, go fucking do it... People ARE out there doing it! You could too if you're so "cool" with it.

And usually the excuse people give if you call them on "well, why don't you do it then?" Is "Oh I'm not hot/thin enough. But IF I was, I would totally be all over it!" Right, sure...

carmen_b
04-21-2016, 10:55 AM
^ They have no CLUE how much skill / effort it takes to do well at either. I never say a thing when people get going on those types of rants! Go do it then !

Velveteen.Rabbit
04-21-2016, 11:22 AM
So I applied for scholarships for my program and I'm applying for even more that require a list of references so I've been asking friends. One girl just so happened to hear this and then rudely tells me that I'm really immoral for applying for scholarships because I'm taking away scholarship chances for other people "who actually need them" um. My program is cheap (~6k) but ultra competitive to get into and I've made it this far, so I figured why not apply for scholarships anyway. Yes, I am a pro domme and make money that way, but how is it my fault if other people don't get the scholarship and I do? How is this morally wrong? It's not a need-based scholarship. I didn't lie. I'm not parading around the fact that I'm a pro domme, but that shouldn't have any affect. I can smell jealousy from a mile away.

whirlerz
04-21-2016, 12:10 PM
Well, I literally have every avail. surface (including the drying rack I have) used for drying my laundry, (mostly lingerie, but also my down jacket) since the damn motel has no working dryer.>:(
My ass isn't moving frm this bed for a while if @ all, today.:(

Glamourmilf
04-21-2016, 12:19 PM
This little SHIT that I'm renting from NEVER tells me anything that's going on in the house!
Woke up today... No water. Turned off once again this week, because someone is working on it. The repairman is right outside of my bedroom, of course.
Moves people and their dogs in without telling me.
People coming in and out of the house. He won't lock the doors.
Yesterday all 3 of my roommates were out. Went to get a glass of water. I was in full wig, tits out, and mini skirt because I was camming.
Some random felon was in the kitchen! Wtf! ( landlord is an attorney, and sees clients here.)
He probably heard ALL of my cam shows, because my bedroom is right off the kitchen!
The way he looked at me told me everything.
Damn it!
If I knew of a hotel that was in my budget, I'd be so out of here!

baer45
04-21-2016, 12:19 PM
I am so bored. I need a part time job.

whirlerz
04-21-2016, 12:40 PM
This little SHIT that I'm renting from NEVER tells me anything that's going on in the house!
Woke up today... No water. Turned off once again this week, because someone is working on it. The repairman is right outside of my bedroom, of course.
Moves people and their dogs in without telling me.
People coming in and out of the house. He won't lock the doors.
Yesterday all 3 of my roommates were out. Went to get a glass of water. I was in full wig, tits out, and mini skirt because I was camming.
Some random felon was in the kitchen! Wtf! ( landlord is an attorney, and sees clients here.)
He probably heard ALL of my cam shows, because my bedroom is right off the kitchen!
The way he looked at me told me everything.
Damn it!
If I knew of a hotel that was in my budget, I'd be so out of here!

Awww!
Damn it, you'd love the motel I'm in, I mean I complain about it sometimes, but really it's decent, quiet, & the ppl workin' here are cool! + wi fi's incl..shoot wish u were here.
I'm avail if u need 2 talk whatta bunch o' losers

Glamourmilf
04-21-2016, 12:58 PM
Awww!
Damn it, you'd love the motel I'm in, I mean I complain about it sometimes, but really it's decent, quiet, & the ppl workin' here are cool! + wi fi's incl..shoot wish u were here.
I'm avail if u need 2 talk whatta bunch o' losers

Thank u Whirl. I just might give u a call after cam tonight.:-*

Glamourmilf
04-21-2016, 06:04 PM
To top things off, it's now hot as F..K! in this house, and the landlord keeps shutting off the a/c!
I explained to him, that I'm performing under bright lights, in a bedroom that's hot.
Ugh! He knows this is the EXACT reason I moved way out here in the first place! i.e., the bitch I was renting a room from wouldn't let me turn on the a/c. all of last summer!
I'm sooo mad at myself, for moving all the way out here. I can't go through another summer in sweltering 110 degree everyday, without a/c! I feel so stuck.
Being overheated makes me irritated and tired, so I'm probably not going to post here, because it's gonna ALL be pissy moods from now on.:(

44760

KaraLynn
04-22-2016, 02:29 AM
Rant....when customers bitch and moan about being bored with seeing the same old girls every night but only tip and buy dances with the "same old girls" and refuse to spend money on the new girls then wonder why the new girls don't stay.

This has been a problem in a few places especially my current city and hometown.

Newsflash...girls don't stay when they don't make money and when girls hear the customers don't spend money on new girls at certain clubs they don't bother auditioning. Nobody has time to wait for you to warm up to them. We all have bills to pay NOW.

So common sense. If you only spend money on the girls you know and ignore the new girls when they come in don't bitch about being bored with the same old girls. This is your fault buddy. Your money talks.

Aurora_Sunset
04-23-2016, 07:34 AM
Was talking to a guy friend, and he asked about this guy who was into me, and I said I wasn't attracted to him. His immediate response was a snarky "Well, yeah, a guy has to be over 6 feet tall and look like a male model just to get your attention!"

Umm... what? That describes... literally no one I've ever been with. o.O Sure there's been some taller guys in there, and sure there's been some pretty cute guys, but I've never even slept with someone who was "male model" material. My last two boyfriends were 5'8'' at most, and I'm only 5 feet tall so why the fuck would height matter to me?... I've also slept with several premature-balding guys, and many guys with a bit of a paunch too, and most of the skinny guys I slept with were just plain lanky and nerdy, not ripped-skinny. Aside from maybe this one frat guy/gym rat I hooked up with a few times (and the last time I did, he had let himself go weight-wise and it wasn't a big deal), a male stripper who wasn't even that tall, and a hot bartender I had one-night stand rebound sex with, I'm usually the more attractive partner in hookups/relationships. Just... what? When have I ever acted that shallow that that would be an accusation thrown at me?

Elektra Luxx
04-23-2016, 02:51 PM
When have I ever acted that shallow that that would be an accusation thrown at me?

When you're pretty everyone thinks that you only go out with guy with model looks. Some yes, but not true with some pretty girls. I suspect this is why l'm often home on the weekends. If a guy is nice I would consider going out with him. Most guys don't even approach thinking they have no chance. If guys would just take a chance they may be surprised at the outcome.

22lligm
04-23-2016, 04:52 PM
I'm walking home from the gym and this guy I met when I first moved out here sees me and pulls over to say hi. We talk a little and then when we're hugging and saying bye he says 'Your ass is getting smaller. Its more wide now and doesn't stick out like it did' Ummm what?? I just said this is why I stopped talking to you before, bye. And he says 'I'm joking!' How is that a joke?? He says that after telling me I need to be in this bikini competition he's having & that I 'need to be his girl'. Wtf is going on in his brain. PLUS he looks like a damn troll. What makes you think you have any room to talk about how I look?

Then yesterday I'm walking home from the gym again & I walk by this coffee shop where this old guy I've met before is sitting outside. I wave and smile at him and keep walking. Then I get a text (I gave him my number when I first moved out here cause I felt too awkward saying no) saying 'You look very trim, not that you didn't look good before, but it's definitely showing'.

WTF? Why can't I walk down the street without my body being analyzed? It's not like I wear tiny shorts and a sports bra..I wear normal workout clothes. Leave me the fuck alone!

Aurora_Sunset
04-23-2016, 05:19 PM
I'm walking home from the gym and this guy I met when I first moved out here sees me and pulls over to say hi. We talk a little and then when we're hugging and saying bye he says 'Your ass is getting smaller. Its more wide now and doesn't stick out like it did' Ummm what?? I just said this is why I stopped talking to you before, bye. And he says 'I'm joking!' How is that a joke?? He says that after telling me I need to be in this bikini competition he's having & that I 'need to be his girl'. Wtf is going on in his brain. PLUS he looks like a damn troll. What makes you think you have any room to talk about how I look?

Then yesterday I'm walking home from the gym again & I walk by this coffee shop where this old guy I've met before is sitting outside. I wave and smile at him and keep walking. Then I get a text (I gave him my number when I first moved out here cause I felt too awkward saying no) saying 'You look very trim, not that you didn't look good before, but it's definitely showing'.

WTF? Why can't I walk down the street without my body being analyzed? It's not like I wear tiny shorts and a sports bra..I wear normal workout clothes. Leave me the fuck alone!

The grossest thing about this is that they couldn't just deliver it as a simple compliment. It HAD to have a sexual undertone. I don't necessarily care when people comment on my weight loss to tell me I look great, but don't fucking make it about you and your dick's preferences... Why can't guys just say "Hey you're looking good"? No, it has to be this overly perverted analyzation of your body and its specific parts, and this reassurance that they "always found you hot" to make it very clear that they are simultaneously in charge of what kind of attractive you need to be (the one he likes) and that he's entitled to subtly assert any of these preferences over you by even vocally judging your body parts, but also that he's "such a good guy" who has always "accepted" you, therefore you owe him nice guy points.

Aurora_Sunset
04-24-2016, 07:15 AM
When you're pretty everyone thinks that you only go out with guy with model looks. Some yes, but not true with some pretty girls. I suspect this is why l'm often home on the weekends. If a guy is nice I would consider going out with him. Most guys don't even approach thinking they have no chance. If guys would just take a chance they may be surprised at the outcome.

Exactly. I also hate being accused of "never going for nice guys." Like, bitch, please. The entire reason I started going out with my last boyfriend was cuz he was nice to me among a sea of shitty strip club customers. I've been attracted to a bunch of guys who were nice to me. Maybe when I was young and just started dating, I pulled some typical "only liking colossal jerks" crap, but being in the sex industry for a few years will beat that out of you real quick. Do I still like certain kinda-jerky people more than I should sometimes? Sure, but I'm not out there "friend-zoning" every guy who treats me like a human being and going goo-goo-eyed over the idiot crushing beer cans on his head and calling all women "bitches and hos." ::) Nice and decent actually really impresses me.

The "nice guys" that I've dismissed were guys who were either fake-nice to get women, or were nice guys who had a lot of mental problems, hangups about the past, and unrealistic expectations for relationships (sometimes both romantic and friendship) that I didn't want to deal with. I didn't not date them because they were "too nice," it was because they clearly had other issues. And niceness, while a good and attractive trait, is not the be-all-end-all measuring stick of "yes, I'll date you." I've even asked other female friends if they think I was stupid or screwed up by dismissing certain guys in the past, and they're always like "No. So-and-so is a good guy, but he had a lot of issues to work through. You dodged a bullet."

Anyway, I could go on that rant for days, so I'll stop here lol

SweetJulia
04-24-2016, 07:30 AM
I'm still having pain and ptsd from a car accident almost a month ago.

Elektra Luxx
04-24-2016, 08:28 AM
but being in the sex industry for a few years will beat that out of you real quick.

The "nice guys" that I've dismissed were guys who were either fake-nice to get women, or were nice guys who had a lot of mental problems, hangups about the past, and unrealistic expectations for relationships (sometimes both romantic and friendship) that I didn't want to deal with.

Besides the sex industry, maybe people in sales, get the same kind experience in learning people.

LilLadyLux
04-24-2016, 08:32 AM
I love what this guy has to say about 'nice guys' which btw, if you really are a good person, you wouldn't have to tell people. People would already know. IME only users and abusers walk around telling people their nice guys. Who are you trying to convince? Yourself or me? http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/



"Let's say that the person you love the most has just been shot. He or she is lying in the street, bleeding and screaming. A guy rushes up and says, "Step aside." He looks over your loved one's bullet wound and pulls out a pocket knife -- he's going to operate right there in the street.


"OK, which one is the injured one?"

You ask, "Are you a doctor?"

The guy says, "No."

You say, "But you know what you're doing, right? You're an old Army medic, or ..."

At this point the guy becomes annoyed. He tells you that he is a nice guy"
So here is my terrible truth about the adult world: You are in that very situation every single day. Only you are the confused guy with the pocket knife. All of society is the bleeding gunshot victim.

If you want to know why society seems to shun you, or why you seem to get no respect, it's because society is full of people who need things. They need houses built, they need food to eat, they need entertainment, they need fulfilling sexual relationships. You arrived at the scene of that emergency, holding your pocket knife, by virtue of your birth -- the moment you came into the world, you became part of a system designed purely to see to people's needs.

Aurora_Sunset
04-24-2016, 09:30 AM
^^ Yes! I've read that before. While it gets a little too "you're only defined by your utility" for me, because I like to think the entire world isn't that cold and systematic, it makes a perfect point, especially in relation to people thinking that their niceness is the only qualification they need for dating - as though that would make sense in any other situation. *eye roll*

Love this excerpt from it too:

So, what do you bring to the table? Because the Zooey Deschanel lookalike in the bookstore that you've been daydreaming about moisturizes her face for an hour every night and feels guilty when she eats anything other than salad for lunch. She's going to be a surgeon in 10 years. What do you do?

"What, so you're saying that I can't get girls like that unless I have a nice job and make lots of money?"

No, your brain jumps to that conclusion so you have an excuse to write off everyone who rejects you by thinking that they're just being shallow and selfish. I'm asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don't say that you're a nice guy -- that's the bare minimum. Pretty girls have guys being nice to them 36 times a day. The patient is bleeding in the street. Do you know how to operate or not?

"Well, I'm not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!"

I'm sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don't have, then back the fuck away from the patient. There's a witty, handsome guy with a promising career ready to step in and operate.

Does that break your heart? OK, so now what? Are you going to mope about it, or are you going to learn how to do surgery? It's up to you, but don't complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. "But I'm a great listener!" Are you? Because you're willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there's another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you're a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn't make you sick. You're like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is "The actors are clearly visible."

Elektra Luxx
04-24-2016, 03:14 PM
^^^^Wow! Deep.

But what if the guy with the knife has a cute friend who is an EMT, but is on his dayoff and it's really not because it's Tuesday and who the heck wants a dayoff on Tuesday? Bet you guys never thought of that.

kaninchen
04-24-2016, 05:41 PM
When I was at work on Friday I let a customer squeeze my throat a little too tightly. He's a nice regular at the club and tips really generously, which is why I was sitting around with him instead of getting dances. He was giving me a back rub and started squeezing my throat to be, like, "sexy" or whatever, and I honestly didn't think anything of it until Saturday morning when I couldn't swallow without pain.

Ugh. I just feel dumb and annoyed over it. What a stupid way to get injured.