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AliceFun
12-16-2013, 01:34 AM
^^^ You ladies rock, u explain all soo well & it makes soo much sense, xxx!!

anacol
12-16-2013, 03:11 AM
I'm a living witness, being very attractive can work for better or worse. Most people especially companies, discriminate against attractive women. I was even fired before because I attracted too many guys that always came into the store and flirt with me. But she said the reason she fired me was because I asked a question... Like seriously I thought if you didn't know something you ask??? That's what I was taught. I thought about suing her for discrimination because I knew the actual reason she fired me but I let it go. But I've been disliked by many my entire life because of my looks. Me being attractive has worked against me in the corporate world and it shouldn't be that way.

Melonie
12-16-2013, 04:15 AM
^^^ oh, agreed that being a '10' can be a huge negative where a straight job 'career' is concerned. While companies are unlikely to admit to this, most HR potentially see very attractive straight job applicants as ...

- a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen
- a potential source of 'drama' for existing female employees
- a definite 'distraction' for existing male employees
- less intelligent, less resourceful etc. than they actually are

Obvious exceptions exist for straight job positions involving direct 'sales' and customer service

Sam38g
12-16-2013, 04:18 AM
Blonde hair are seen as youth aka fertility. As female get older the hair gets darker, but for many centuries people got married at a young age of 13 to 15 because the life expectancy for a female due to no birth control & giving birth to many children along with no modern medicine was 27 yrs old. While men lived to be 42.

Big Boobs & ass is simple of signs of fertility. Men are genetically predisposed to want to mate with a female where the chances of the child being born healthy are from females with Big boobs & wide hips.

This is why models with Big boobs & blonde hair tend to make money more easily. NOT because blonde hair makes them look more slutty. I do resent that statement.

Happy Holidays,
Sam

GlamourRouge
12-16-2013, 04:35 AM
^^^ oh, agreed that being a '10' can be a huge negative where a straight job 'career' is concerned. While companies are unlikely to admit to this, most HR potentially see very attractive straight job applicants as ...

- a sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen
- a potential source of 'drama' for existing female employees
- a definite 'distraction' for existing male employees
- less intelligent, less resourceful etc. than they actually are

Obvious exceptions exist for straight job positions involving direct 'sales' and customer service

I agree. I have had some very questionable experiences with older women in the psychology field. But my experience as a makeup artist was very positive because the same values in a pornstar (minus the sex) are valued in a makeup artist.





This is why models with Big boobs & blonde hair tend to make money more easily. NOT because blonde hair makes them look more slutty. I do resent that statement.

Isn't that the exact same thing? Men are genetically predisposed to want to mate with youthful and child-bearing creatures... so subconsciously they automatically assume that curvy blondes are more slutty. And yes, when I was a blonde (for like a total of 4 years), I was called slutty allllllll the time for 0 reason (when I was just acting like a normal person), yet I am rarely with black, brown, or red hair. So of course men associate blonde hair with being slutty. It doesn't make them sluts, but that doesn't change people's opinions.

Not to mention, the media portrays blondes as dumb and slutty, which men subconsciously (or not) believe as the truth. Stereotypes are powerful, even if they are majorly outdated and not accurate.

Sam38g
12-16-2013, 09:06 AM
Men wanting to have sex with you does NOT make you a slut. Having sex with many men makes you a slut.... But a female being shamed cause she openly enjoys sex aka slut shaming is wrong.. ... I don't live by a double standard that I have resented for years.

Sam

Sexy Shana
12-16-2013, 09:27 AM
I am 100% convinced that your face matters a lot

And boobs too. I went from a B to an enhanced D. I notice the add'l play I get.

Camigirl
12-16-2013, 09:44 AM
Blonde hair are seen as youth aka fertility. As female get older the hair gets darker, but for many centuries people got married at a young age of 13 to 15 because the life expectancy for a female due to no birth control & giving birth to many children along with no modern medicine was 27 yrs old. While men lived to be 42.

Big Boobs & ass is simple of signs of fertility. Men are genetically predisposed to want to mate with a female where the chances of the child being born healthy are from females with Big boobs & wide hips.

This is why models with Big boobs & blonde hair tend to make money more easily. NOT because blonde hair makes them look more slutty. I do resent that statement.

Happy Holidays,
Sam
While I understand what you are saying and agree to a point, guys are highly attracted to females who have large hips. Meaning they are very fertile. We may never hear this working cam, because men are not aware of what their minds are tossing at them on a higher level. Breasts, sure... to a point. Some women who have large breasts have implants, these are a huge turnoff for many men. Also small breasts are also very attractive to many men, it's the look of fertility, she's growing up and ready to breed.
Also we go lighter haired as we age to silver or grey. This is to match the changes in skin tone.
However I know what flips the boat for many guys won't rock it for others. Thank god there are so many different shapes and colors of women out there, from hair to skin. Body shape etc.
I always seen the light brown haired girls with long hair and a slight sun kissed look on the brown as young and beautiful.
Guys can't tell today by looking what is real blond or real breasts.... we have played around with this for many many years trying to be attractive to males with our bodies and hair, which is fine. But males are confused easily. Hips tell the story. I think if Norma Jean had no hips she would never had become that sex symbol. VS models are flat (many) and skinny (some too much) but they have hips. Guys love those girls!
I think it all lies in the hips. Then they get superficial about the rest.
I see guys i performers rooms who are banking daily with tiny breasts, or black hair.
This is all a matter of personal opinion and reading, watching, as well as being told.
To judge a person by hair color is absurd. People do it! They judge on feet size, but still..... Way back in the day, it was all about the hips. Not hair. Cleopatra had dark hair, but big hips, she was beautiful. I think we confuse guys at time.... probably for the better! Simple creatures they are.

~Carmen~
12-16-2013, 09:49 AM
I went back to platinum blonde about 6 months ago and I have never been busier. A lot of guys tell me "I love your white gray hair". This is probably because of my age. I used to tell them it's not gray, it's blonde. Now I just say thanks because really, who cares? The truth is, I am only about 50% gray and my natural color is medium brown. When it gets to be all white naturally I'll just let it go. It will be nice not having to color it anymore.

Great thread op!

GlamourRouge
12-16-2013, 10:26 AM
I think if Norma Jean had no hips she would never had become that sex symbol.

Slightly OT, but did you know that Norma Jean AKA Marilyn Monroe had a ton of facial plastic surgery? It is documented by her surgeon and anesthesiologist in paperwork. She had several things done. So I wouldn't be surprised if she got things done to her body too. And also, that curvy picture of Marilyn at the beach in the white swimsuit that everyone posts about her being ~*so curvy*~ - she was actually pregnant there lol. That's why she was so curvy. But she had a miscarriage later on.



Men wanting to have sex with you does NOT make you a slut. Having sex with many men makes you a slut.... But a female being shamed cause she openly enjoys sex aka slut shaming is wrong.. ... I don't live by a double standard that I have resented for years.

Sam

No one said that. But it doesn't stop men from thinking it. People don't just change their opinions because you tell them it isn't true.

And I also don't think having sex with many men makes you a slut either. Theres a way to having meaningful relationships with several men... either at the same time (poly) or one right after another. And some people prefer casual sex. I wouldn't shame others preferences TBH.

I actually don't even think ~*sluts*~ exist. Like someone isn't just going to go out and do a bunch of men some favors if they aren't getting something out of it or enjoying it. That's like shaming everyone in the world for being food addicts when... its kind of a necessary part of life and an instinct.

Camigirl
12-16-2013, 10:38 AM
^^ Yes I have read she had plastic surgery. Familiar with a picture of her at the beach. I have seen her in a few movies, she had hips to die for! The hair was ruined. Her face looked Nice, not a stunning beauty IMO, but those hips had been the talk of many men in my life. She was built, and wore corsets I read as well.

Camigirl
12-16-2013, 10:44 AM
Sluts. What a word. I laugh at it, been called it and said, fine. If I want to have sex with multiple men I will, big deal. No one is on this earth to judge anyone of us. Who the hell ever came up with all these idiotic words anyway. People who judge irl or on cam are idiots, I can't help but to never react to that word.
I like sex, sure had my share of men, many men. I don't care what people think, or say. Slut, is foreign to me.

Aurora_Sunset
12-16-2013, 11:04 AM
On the topic of hair color, I've noticed a difference in how people perceive in me IRL with different hair colors. I think the most blatant realization came in how people viewed my age/intelligence. When I was a freshman in college, I had dark brown hair, and was asked all the time if I was a graduate student. People always claimed it was because of my disposition and wisdom though - not because of how I looked. I dyed my hair platinum blonde my senior year, and people started asking me if I was a freshman... I always thought that was funny, but also kind of annoying. Just changing my hair color made me look so much younger, or maybe it made me look "dumber" in the sense that I must have looked like a "bright-eyed, ditzy, 18-year-old?" Idk. But obviously, I didn't lose my "disposition and wisdom" as I got older, so why the sudden change in how people viewed me? Hmmm

justanothercamgirl
12-16-2013, 11:06 AM
I completely agree that looks matter to draw in new custies but will only get you so far with repeats. I can say from personal experience that in MY LIFE looks have played a huge role in how much I make. I used to weigh 20 lbs more (all in the belly blah), had jet black hair, no plastic surgery, and a fun attitude. I didn't do poorly. I made about $50-$70 and hour. Now I have blonde hair, some plastic surgery and make about $200/hr. I'm not saying the black hair or the extra weight was "ugly at all. In fact I much prefer jet black hair on me to blonde. I am just pointing out the changes I've seen in my income, twitter followers/fans, ect. The part that upsets me about this is when I first started I worked my ass off but wasn't treat as well as I am now by custies. I noticed that the guys online put up with a lot more from me since I've changed my appearance. I don't know how to explain it but I hope you ladies know what Im talking about. I used to also get a lot "Are you black? Hmmm..Im not really into black girls" and now I get "Oh damn your the hottest white girl ever!" Again, please don't take this as me saying anything! I think women of all colors, shapes, and sizes are beautiful. But some of the things I noticed after my change in look were very interesting....take from it what you will.

I still believe the end all, be all is personality though. Having lots of you new customer that you can't retain doesn't mean anything in the long run. Ive seen really pretty girls do well for a week then tank and never show back up on the site because they weren't doing well.

Great thread though! I always love reading everyone responses. Thank you for starting it =)

Thank you SO much for sharing this! I have wondered a lot about the long blonde hair thing. You have given me a lot to ponder over when it comes to my own personal look.

justanothercamgirl
12-16-2013, 11:14 AM
When it comes to the 'dumb slut' issue, I figured I'd share this article because I thought you might find it interesting.

Men like to date but not marry dumb-looking women
http://www.mid-day.com/relationships/2013/apr/190413-men-like-to-date-dumb-looking-women-but-not-marry-sex-and-relationships.htm

Camigirl
12-16-2013, 03:11 PM
When it comes to the 'dumb slut' issue, I figured I'd share this article because I thought you might find it interesting.

Men like to date but not marry dumb-looking women
http://www.mid-day.com/relationships/2013/apr/190413-men-like-to-date-dumb-looking-women-but-not-marry-sex-and-relationships.htm
That has been said for years. My question is what does dumb looking look like. I have seen all walks of life that many men would consider dumb.
Truth me told, at first sight a male will see the blond hair on a woman from afar. But may not want to meet her at all. I have heard and been told that the blond hair makes some guys stay away from us due to fear of rejection! Wth? Really! Lol
hair is just color, easy to change. Many do well blond, many don't. I LOVE dark hair, but can't wear it I have light eyes and super light skin. Dark hair looks like an ink spot on my head.

JaneBurgess
12-16-2013, 03:21 PM
I have to agree. My hair is naturally a medium blonde and I don't think that makes me look more slutty. I used to lighten it to platinum blonde and I didn't have people just assume I am stupid or slutty. Frankly your actions speak louder than your hair color.



Blonde hair are seen as youth aka fertility. As female get older the hair gets darker, but for many centuries people got married at a young age of 13 to 15 because the life expectancy for a female due to no birth control & giving birth to many children along with no modern medicine was 27 yrs old. While men lived to be 42.

Big Boobs & ass is simple of signs of fertility. Men are genetically predisposed to want to mate with a female where the chances of the child being born healthy are from females with Big boobs & wide hips.

This is why models with Big boobs & blonde hair tend to make money more easily. NOT because blonde hair makes them look more slutty. I do resent that statement.

Happy Holidays,
Sam

shysara79
12-16-2013, 04:03 PM
I think to an extent looks do matter when it comes to your success. But as you all have said, personality and confidence can make you or break you. I don't consider myself a top girl(avg about 40~60 hr on sm page one 4th row ). And notice I have the kinda look that ya either love or hate! I spend about an hour in the am getting ready and don't go online till I feel hot :)

LAChloe
12-16-2013, 08:57 PM
are you talking about the model with the Austrian guy off cam talking all the time? if so i agree with u ....


I know of one "top model" who banks with her goldshows. I don't find her attractive at all in the face or body. However, she has a huge (pun intended) following for the foreign and large objects she inserts into various holes. So yes, you either bank with beauty, or bank with a niche.

Why do you girls have to hate on her? It's so ugly.

luscious sadie
12-16-2013, 09:09 PM
it is and I think that Snowy's post goes against the "outting" girls rule on the board. Posting super descriptive info about a girl is pretty much the same as posting her name imo.

LAChloe
12-16-2013, 09:16 PM
it is and I think that Snowy's post goes against the "outting" girls rule on the board. Posting super descriptive info about a girl is pretty much the same as posting her name imo.

so does kourtney's...i knew exactly who she was talking about when she wrote that. i find it funny because these are 2 girls that have in the past complained about not making money---but then they hate on a top earner. maybe they can learn something from someone who is so "unattractive".

justanothercamgirl
12-16-2013, 09:31 PM
so does kourtney's...i knew exactly who she was talking about when she wrote that. i find it funny because these are 2 girls that have in the past complained about not making money---but then they hate on a top earner. maybe they can learn something from someone who is so "unattractive".

Why do you gotta hate on people who have complained in the past about not making money?

luscious sadie
12-16-2013, 09:45 PM
it's so funny to me that you could read these posts and that's what you would take / feel the need to comment on (smh)

JaneBurgess
12-16-2013, 10:09 PM
How exactly is that hating on her? If it's who I am thinking of she breaks a shitload of rules in free chat. You have every right to hate on a performer that doesn't respect the site, the rules or other performers. If you have to break rules to make your money, then you aren't really a top performer.




so does kourtney's...i knew exactly who she was talking about when she wrote that. i find it funny because these are 2 girls that have in the past complained about not making money---but then they hate on a top earner. maybe they can learn something from someone who is so "unattractive".

CourtneyRaine
12-16-2013, 11:43 PM
Did. Not. Read. This whole thread. Nope nope nope. I saw the last few comments that are kind of sort or referring to someone and just did not want to be involved in that aspect of the discussion.

(For what it's worth, when it was mentioned that a model on SM does extreme insertions I honestly thought of TWO separate "top" (?) models and have no idea which one y'all are referring to. That's probably because I haven't cammed on SM in over a year so I don't keep tabs on Sm first page the way I do on my main site's first few rows, so to each their own, let the mods sort out this one?)

I agree that beauty plays a big part in hooking customers initially, but I will not and cannot tell you what beautiful means. On SM (my first site) I primarily see 20 something white girls in the top two rows. On my current free chat site, let me tell you, I see brown women who look to be in their 20s-30s dominating the top 20 spots. It kind of brings a tear to my eye. All I can say for sure is, the top SM girls look VERY different from the top naked girls. Those sites target different demographics. I worked both SM and naked for over a year each and the clientele (at least in terms of age and location) is completely different. Sm custies seem to have an ideal of beauty, and naked custies seem to have an ideal of beauty, and that's that.

I have had men tell me I am the most beautiful woman they have ever seen. I have had men tell me I am the ugliest woman I have ever seen. I am sure both groups have been telling me the honest to goodness truth. So first tell me, what do "beautiful looks" look like, and maybe then we can have a discussion?

Ms.Lacey
12-16-2013, 11:52 PM
I have had men tell me I am the most beautiful woman they have ever seen. I have had men tell me I am the ugliest woman I have ever seen. I am sure both groups have been telling me the honest to goodness truth. So first tell me, what do "beautiful looks" look like, and maybe then we can have a discussion?

I agree 100%

***I am in the top 20 on sm and also a BROWN girl and a chocolate one at that... Just Sayin lol we do exist on SM

Blovely
12-17-2013, 12:28 AM
(For what it's worth, when it was mentioned that a model on SM does extreme insertions I honestly thought of TWO separate "top" (?) models and have no idea which one y'all are referring to.
Same here. The one that they are talking about wasn't even the one that popped into my head. An when she did pop into my head I was like hmmm I don't think she's unattractive.


To answer the question I think attractiveness plays a major part. Almost all of the models on the 1st page and or 1-4 row (whether black, white, asian, skinny, curvy, bbw, etc) are fully-somewhat attractive IMO. I mean I see a few models who IMO aren't attractive but they have other attractive features like big tits, big ass, etc. Although I think attractiveness plays a big part I don't think any of the ladies on the 1st page and or first few rows would be their if they didn't have personality, hustle, and consistency. I mean because I see plenty of attractive women on the 2nd, 3rd, etc page but if looks were all that mattered then those ladies would be on the 1st page.

AliceFun
12-17-2013, 12:34 AM
^^^ Pls keep in mind placement on SM for example has a lot to do with equipment as well, i saw myself very beautiful girls on 3-4-5 pages that had crap cameras, bad connection (bad streams), bad lighting and everything bad except their beauty lol. You'll never see that on 1st page/ 1st rows on SM.

Blovely
12-17-2013, 12:52 AM
Yes of course equipment is a big part as well. Sorry I didn't include that. In my mind I included that lol but I guess I didn't. Like if you are on the 1st page and or in the first few rows then in my brain you automatically have good lighting, high speed internet, HD camera, etc.

Snowy0Star
12-17-2013, 12:55 AM
so does kourtney's...i knew exactly who she was talking about when she wrote that. i find it funny because these are 2 girls that have in the past complained about not making money---but then they hate on a top earner. maybe they can learn something from someone who is so "unattractive".

im pretty sure i could make a lot of money too if u wanted to ride bedposts and shove baseball bats up my ass and vag but i dont so i gotta find another niche to nuzzle up into and im ok with that but for what its worth i deleted my post

luscious sadie
12-17-2013, 12:57 AM
I think your freshest post is just as bad, if not worse...

people do what they're comfortable with and if you want to shame someone for that then it's on you but it's not a good look.

Snowy0Star
12-17-2013, 01:02 AM
I think your freshest post is just as bad, if not worse...

people do what they're comfortable with and if you want to shame someone for that then it's on you but it's not a good look.

i dont think i was shaming her thats her niche - big/odd object insertions . its not something im comfortable doing but if shes cool doing it then more power to her . its not something im cool with doing even tho i know it is something guys will pay a lot of money to see. thats all i was getting at.

loveshooks
12-17-2013, 01:43 AM
personally I don't think the posts are 'outing', in that unless someone actually knows who is being referenced, they won't know who is being referenced. for that reason I'm not gonna edit any posts that weren't already self-edited. that said, I'm not all that familiar with the site but if it's the chica I'm thinking she's hot as fuck (in my as-subjective-as-anyone-else's opinion)

beauty is a def relative term/subjective concept and besides, lighting, make-up and cam angles tend to obscure facial measurments anyways (the 'science of beauty' golden ratio ish). When I look at a chica (on cam or off) I'm looking at her total presence: her energy, style, her vibe, not whether her eyes/lips/nose conform to Fibonacci numbers

as has been written here in the forum many times in the past, I think any cam chica who simply rests on being 'pretty' is in for a big disappointment. I'd bet what all the top chicas on sm probably have in common, far more than their looks, is that they understand that

AliceFun
12-17-2013, 03:03 AM
Ahhhh i now want blond long hair & contacts!!

Seriously now, i wish a new look also for the reason that i want to make it harder to be recognized, i know i would be more active/ fearless in freechat, i always felt i could hustle alot different if there was an option to just dont look like me if u know what i mean.

I was looking up contact lenses, i wish to buy some that have a light color that will cover my dark brown big iris eyes and look light on cam, can u girls wearing contacts show me a link of what kind of contacts i need?
I mean i could wear colored lenses with diopters (i wear glasses now) or just the colored lenses and keep glasses on. (i kinda wanna get rid of glasses on cam actually). I intend to wear the contacts on cam only so i'll take them off when not working so is important to know what kind better suits me cause i seen many kinds - to wear them for 3 months every day a few hrs or to wear them a year, so on.
Then about the blond hair i really wish to experiment with this either by wearing a wig or dye my hair, i want to see the impact such change will have in my earnings.
This change is part of a plan of re-thinking my cam work future as some new events in my life occurred recently wink wink.

Snowy0Star
12-17-2013, 03:12 AM
^ i think maybe you should try doll eye aka circle lensed contacts

theres two of them i could recommend pinky paradise and eye candy

http://www.pinkyparadise.com/circle-lenses-s/1848.htm
http://www.eyecandys.com/

AliceFun
12-17-2013, 03:28 AM
This is the kind i need i think, something visible from far away :), thank u snowy, i need to find a local site that has this kind of lenses xxx!!

35788

Snowy0Star
12-17-2013, 03:30 AM
This is the kind i need i think, something visible from far away :), thank u snowy, i need to find a local site that has this kind of lenses xxx!!

they might make u get an RX tho thats why those japanese based sites are so popular good luck tho hope u find something that works for you

AliceFun
12-17-2013, 03:31 AM
wtf why cant i upload the picture? i cant see it here ahhh

what is RX snowy? sorry, i am dumby now lol

Snowy0Star
12-17-2013, 03:34 AM
wtf why cant i upload the picture? i cant see it here ahhh

what is RX snowy? sorry, i am dumby now lol

its ok an rx is the symbol for a perscription - the reason those japanese contact sites are so popular is because u dont need one to get them. if u try to go to a shop in town from a pro place that u feel comfy getting them from there may require one

AliceFun
12-17-2013, 03:46 AM
ah lol okay, thank u!! if needed i could get a prescription but i prefer without cause a doc check up will cost too. hey i saw on a site contacts that makes the eyes bigger, my eyes are big already (too big for my taste haha) but if i wear such lenses means the white in the eye will be covered more? i mean these lenses in fact make the iris bigger actually? i could do with that cause this could correct my now mild crossed eye vision too, i hardly look into the camera cause of this lol.
i need something to help me with confidence :), my eyes are my weak point beside everything else. xxx

Snowy0Star
12-17-2013, 03:51 AM
ah lol okay, thank u!! if needed i could get a prescription but i prefer without cause a doc check up will cost too. hey i saw on a site contacts that makes the eyes bigger, my eyes are big already (too big for my taste haha) but if i wear such lenses means the white in the eye will be covered more? i mean these lenses in fact make the iris bigger actually? i could do with that cause this could correct my now mild crossed eye vision too, i hardly look into the camera cause of this lol.
i need something to help me with confidence :), my eyes are my weak point beside everything else. xxx

i dont really know i dont use them i just know about them but im pretty sure what they do is the black part of ur eye is the same the contacts have a 'normal sized' hole in the center the colored ring part of the contact is bigger then a normal persons eye thats how they create that doll like look

chloemay
12-17-2013, 06:44 AM
ah lol okay, thank u!! if needed i could get a prescription but i prefer without cause a doc check up will cost too. hey i saw on a site contacts that makes the eyes bigger, my eyes are big already (too big for my taste haha) but if i wear such lenses means the white in the eye will be covered more? i mean these lenses in fact make the iris bigger actually? i could do with that cause this could correct my now mild crossed eye vision too, i hardly look into the camera cause of this lol.
i need something to help me with confidence :), my eyes are my weak point beside everything else. xxx

I was reading this thread out of interest, but now have to comment.

Please do not order contact lenses from online sites and put them in your eyes without seeing an eye doctor first. Get a prescription from an eye doctor and get the contacts the safe way.

This is your vision we are talking about!! At the very least I suggest doing a lot of research online before making a change that will be relatively small on cam but can affect your vision negatively. I've worn contact lenses since I was 13, so almost 30 years now. They need to be sized properly to your eyes.

AliceFun
12-17-2013, 07:04 AM
^^^ Right, thank u for advice, out of enthusiasm i ordered colored lenses online, the big eyes type in purple ish color lol, i want to experiment, see the impact on cam, see how they feel & look and if i like it i'll go to doc for a check up cause i prefer to wear contacts with diopters and good quality contacts if i decide to wear them on long term.
Of course i cant know how they feel/ look w.o buying some 1st, u just cant try contacts same like u try shoes in a shop, u have to buy them actually.
I'll keep u guys updated, tmrw i'll have them here, they cost $30ish with solution and case to keep them safe. xxx

chloemay
12-17-2013, 07:11 AM
^^^ Right, thank u for advice, out of enthusiasm i ordered colored lenses online, the big eyes type in purple ish color lol, i want to experiment, see the impact on cam, see how they feel & look and if i like it i'll go to doc for a check up cause i prefer to wear contacts with diopters and good quality contacts if i decide to wear them on long term.
Of course i cant know how they feel/ look w.o buying some 1st, u just cant try contacts same like u try shoes in a shop, u have to buy them actually.
I'll keep u guys updated, tmrw i'll have them here, they cost $30ish with solution and case to keep them safe. xxx

PMimg you to stop thread derail :-)

Erin89
12-17-2013, 07:45 AM
I do have a beautiful face, I know that's conceited to say. My body is not so great, I use to have an amazing body but after babies.. eh what can you do. I work out 5 days a week but still, mom body, my dudes don't mind. I agree with the other girls, your looks will get their attention but your personality/what you offer is what makes them stay. When it comes to looks, I've noticed my regulars enjoy me more when I dress/do my makeup a certain way. But I do mostly get comments on my personality, I'm funny and sarcatic and a nerd, I talk a lot about comics/games/books.

On another note, I could never EVER see myself being a blonde, I do miss being a redhead but the up keep was such a pain. I have, however, considered doing a crazy countdown to shave my head on cam just to see if guys would tip towards it >.>

Taboo_Teen
12-17-2013, 08:42 AM
Im a cam girl and I don't think its all about looks,iv been done up to the teeth and its been crap.then jump on with no make up just out the bath in a jumper and do really well.Think its more to do with giving them what they need,unless they have come on purely for the stunners :D

caramelDip
12-17-2013, 09:19 AM
I also agree that being attractive to the majority is important. Everything else is just a plus. Every guy that comes in my room says i look like Ashanti but I hear I'm a Gabrielle Union lookalike the most lol. They're both beautiful.

justanothercamgirl
12-17-2013, 11:01 AM
I haven't seen it discussed here yet, but I think the difference between cute, beautiful, and sexy is important too.

Oh, that really is a fantastic point. I am glad you brought it up!

justanothercamgirl
12-17-2013, 11:04 AM
it's so funny to me that you could read these posts and that's what you would take / feel the need to comment on (smh)

Well, I know this can't be in reference to me since you have me on ignore.

Glamourmilf
12-17-2013, 11:08 AM
Putting in my two cents:twocents:....
I believe the saying that "You're Type Is Your Type Is Your Type". Meaning- that there is something in all of our psyches, that tweeks our arousal.
I know, for me personally, I have always had a 'type' of guy, and girl that I am always attracted to. I also have looked back into my life's choices with mates, and lovers, and I understand how it goes way back, to when I was 12 years old.. Even Younger in knowing what turns me off.
I have lots of guys pop into free chat and tell me that I remind him of someone, be it a celebrity, or some hot fantasy girl who he always wanted to be with. these guys zap me into prvt.
On the other hand, I have lots of guys tell me in free chat that I'm the funniest, and most entertaining cam girl they have seen, with a great personality, blah, blah, blah, but they don't go prvt., and I never see them in chat ever again.
When I want to 'get-off. I watch a particular type of porn that does it every time. I could watch a random type of porn forever, and if the actors are not my type, I could never come, regardless of how horny I am, and how attractive he or she might be.
That's why being quiet in chat, except to say hello, works for me.
If a guy is horny, and You're his type, he's going prvt.
For the fetish guys, it's different, because they return because I deliver what they are looking for. It doesn't really matter so much on my look.
I know everybody's experiences camming is different, but I tend to attract guys under 35, and that's the way I like it. Both IRL, and on cam, these guys come from a place of the internet, and texting, so I don't believe they want to feel a 'connection' in order to go prvt. With the occasional older gentleman, I do notice that he tends to want that kind of intimate talking kind of connection, and will stay in prvt. longer, tip after the show, etc.
I wish camming was around when I was 18, because I had energy galore back then and would totally drain those old guys wallets just by being cute.:female: